Harvard Psychologist Reveals How THEY Keep You BROKE, Miserable, And Lazy | Dr. John Delony

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[@rickthomas422]

Dr. Delony is the best thing going on at the Ramsey network right now.

[@1_benjy_1]

He’s so good

[@dana102083]

It was interesti g hearing about him having adhd and is a slobby mess from his wife lol i like him too. Good hearted human.​@1_benjy_1

[@klamance]

😂😂Graham’s face when John said all your money means nothing if the shtf. Watching The Iced Coffee Hou go prepper in real time 😂

[@TH0KH]

This episode was a personal attack on Graham lol

[@rustyshackleford6637]

Graham obtains ass at such a high rate of efficiency

[@aliciaz4682]

I came for 5 minutes, stayed for the whole thing. Phenomenal, genuine conversation. And John is right. Even fantastic marriages are work and have absolutely hard moments. But it’s so so worth the intimacy that those tough times form.

[@JoshC-End-Abortion-Fear-God]

True

[@elpatron7916]

Not anymore women are taught to hate men now 😢🎉

[@montezuma6962]

I was expecting to stay for the whole thing but left after hearing 5 minutes of the guest tell us how highly he thought of himself😕

[@anonymous36247]

I came for 5 minutes and left after 2

[@TH-eb5ro]

@@montezuma6962 It is the situation and setting. The job he had is needed in time of crisis. Look up his videos, worth watching the way to deal with financial issues and life issues.

[@likes-yv3lj]

Man was this title clickbait… but I’m not going to lie one of the only ice coffees I finished! I liked everything this guest said

[@LadyMatriarch.]

Dr John Delaney is AMAZING! His podcast is eye opening!

[@Dylan-ol2uf]

His show is great!

[@rebeccashields9626]

Yeah it’s a disservice with the title because he is still very good to listen to, no need to embellish.

[@d20a55]

I love Dr. Delony! I also started focusing more on how I feel when I consistently workout vs. how I look. This has shifted my mindset and made it easier to return to the gym after missing a week … or 3 weeks. And when I’m feeling really crappy, I now make sure I go to the gym instead of falling back into my old habit of drinking or impulse shopping. I’m starting to see improvement in my physique, which is a plus.

[@lukescapee1234]

My wife is obsessed with Dr. John!! This is the first Ice Coffee Hour I convinced her to watch with me 🤣 thanks guys!

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Awesome! Enjoy!

[@jacobrodriguez7771]

Yeah of course women love him because he’s always on their side!

[@rnt45t1]

your wife is probably cheating on you, and you probably like watching

[@booksindemand]

yep he said he would "pursue removing me from school" because I called an ex-gf a bitch on facebook

[@CraigSmith-qq3sr]

John is the man! He is always on point with realistic expectations 😊

[@mayfair10]

The best!! Thanks so much to all of you! John's discussion with Graham about how "scarcity" feeds a numbing out on reality and G's explanation of today's numbers that would make him feel safe - priceless. Subtle message but when it sinks in -- SO POWERFUL! I hope to see all of you do this again -- maybe an annual check-in? Thank you all for your inspiring, truthtelling guidance. ✨🙏

[@reddrhino63]

It’s amazing how every question can lead to a million more with this guy! Such a fascinating life! Good one guys!

[@billeo2002]

This was amazing. Thanks to Dr. John for putting himself out there. Really profound interview.

[@116stuart]

I watch Dr Delony so much & this was a great episode, the last exchange with Graham was eye opening for married couples

[@R.M.xe10]

Graham needing 50 million to feel secure and I’m over hear thinking I’ll be fine once I start making 6 figures ☠️

[@crypticutopia7228]

I know right! I just started earning just under 6 figures and I'm doing great! I'm so happy with where I am now

[@bedtimestories1065]

​@crypticutopia7228 Honestly one of the best spots to be. Great stuff man

[@Joe10e84]

I made six figures for the first time last year. Lol, and what do you know? I'm trying to figure out how to double it. Ah, human nature. It's good to be ambitious and be content at the same time.

[@04heinm]

Generosity is the ultimate prepper tool. ... at about 50-min mark Dr. Delony does such a god job of explaining how the greatest way to prepare for the worst situation is to develop a tribe of people you can count on when things get hard. ... Make yourself useful, build a strong family, integrate into a positive supporting community.

[@elnegritolamar4689]

I think he was emphasizing that being a part of strong community will benefit more than have 50 mil in the bank if ish hits the fan. His main point was the best way to prepare for the worst is to not worry about it. He used the example of his banker friend who said "he will worry about it when it happens." I agree though being a part of a strong community you can trust is worth it's weight in gold.

[@augustek5382]

yeah, Graham doesn't get it. 😄

[@WheresWaldoProd]

"Why'd you do your hair like that?" *Zoom in* Lol

[@picklesgonemad4814]

I loved this podcast so much. This was my first exposure to John and he is awesome. Love his perspectives. Thanks

[@elizabethwilliamson6572]

Two of my favorite KZbin podcasts - The Iced Coffee Hour and the Dr. John Delony show. Great episode!

[@chrishallnyc]

No need to lie with the title. Makes you and John both look bad when both of y'all are doing great work.

[@ArtKrishnamurti]

Especially following a guest who was an actual Harvard Psychologist

[@danielsimonson3484]

Click bait images and Titles has always been Grahams thing.

[@saulgoodman2018]

@@ArtKrishnamurtiYEP.

[@saulgoodman2018]

@@danielsimonson3484 I'm watching less and less of his videos. Because of all the click baiting and lying.

[@Dendrite20]

Glad someone is pointing this out

[@leecaldwell1029]

Dr. John Delony is truly an exceptional individual. His latest book has captivated me, offering a profound insight into the intricate connection between emotions and finances. It serves as a powerful reminder of the immense healing required for personal growth and success. Moreover, Dr. Delony's emphasis on extending constant grace to others as a way of life is truly remarkable. His wisdom and guidance are invaluable, making him an extraordinary figure in the field.

[@JoshC-End-Abortion-Fear-God]

True

[@ldhroks]

John spits straight truth about marriage and banking and Graham isn't having it lmaooooo

[@Angela-ne9cy]

Because Graham is just a dollar sign guy. This level of depth is above his head.

[@suzanneemerson2625]

No. I think John’s wrong here. We use Susie Orman’s model. One joint account for shared expenses, and a personal account for each partner. It sucks to have to ask for permission to spend on every little thing you want. It’s worked well for decades.

[@Daveyjonesvi]

@@suzanneemerson2625different systems for different people. There is no one way to do finances with a partner or yourself

[@Rosecransadventures]

Great wisdom from John! Very glad you all did this podcast! Great way to start a Monday!

[@dennygomes3712]

Probably the best talk I have heard in recent memory. I’m already journaling the wisdom share by Dr. Delony. I need to mediate on it later. 100% down to earth talk.

[@dana102083]

Do younwatch the hubberman podcast? High intensity health is also very good.

[@richhands5269]

My three favorite channels: The Iced Coffee Hour, Stock Brotha, & How Money Works. Make my week complete! 🔥 🔥 🔥

[@LaidleyM]

I saw you say this on another video and you had "The Money Guy Show" in place of The Iced Coffee Hour. So you're advertising one of the latter two haha.

[@NextGenEvs]

Dr. John is awesome! Great to hear his story!

[@Robert74450]

I personally think it is all about connecting the grandma who has lost everyone and sits alone needs to be connected with the single mom etc

[@lgrantnelson2863]

Great conversation. One reason I didn't go to the gym was being pressured into being a muscle man and taking all the supplements. Now I'm going to a gym where I'm allowed to exercise to feel better. I remember times when my parents would have problems. My mother finally learned to drive. My father would say they didn't have the money to do something they needed to do and then she would show him the budget, then things were ok. Working through the misunderstandings and helping my mother develop as a partner. We were a one car family. Seeing my parents interactions has developed me into being an encourager.

[@codybennett8247]

Excellent video. Please do another one with Dr. John Delony. He is so cool. Graham Stephan, thank you for being an awesome KZbinr. I am so inspired by both of you. Financial and mental health are extremely critical to building a vibrant life.

[@ericavene]

huge fan of Dr. John!!! so glad yall did this

[@anAZboyboy]

One of my favorite Delony interviews! Great episode!

[@uizking4282]

23:25 He was so quick to defend Jack. wow, i loved that.

[@nathaliebasile6168]

I am already a fan of dr John Delony who has the guts to do what he does, receiving people in their pain. And I have to say that your interviews are so amazing !!! Reflects on your awesomeness ❤

[@JamesBrown-hs9yz]

Phenomenal conversation. Thanks for posting this.

[@CMGutier74]

This is what I find interesting about Dr. John Delony. His voice. When he speaks, at times, you can hear his nice natural voice that sounds sincere and real. Then, he slips into this weird gravelly dude-bro voice that makes me scratch my head and think "why do that".

[@shiner8375]

You wondering about a simple show of expression vice the content makes me scratch my head.

[@arthrodea]

I don’t see Harvard degree anywhere on this resume?? Dr. John Delony earned his Bachelor of Arts in humanities and psychology at Lubbock Christian University and his Masters of Education in higher education administration from Texas Tech University. He went on to earn two PhDs from Texas Tech University-one in counselor education and supervision, and the other in higher education administration.

[@Isaacr90]

Exactly, he only has a certificate in Education Management from Harvard. I don't blame him at all for the clickbait/misleading title to this video, this is completely Graham/Jack and Iced Coffee Hour team's fault

[@DevHazy]

Correct . And I went to Harvard as a teen for a summer. So in 4 years when I get my grad degree from oklahoma I’m a “Harvard psychologist” LOL. What is wrong with clickbaiters 😢😢

[@saulgoodman2018]

It's just a Harvard certification, in education management.

[@bobberry1463]

@@DevHazy to he fair the program he went to is very impressive and not anyone can go it more impressive then graduating from Harvard so I get why he put it

[@chloelewis3113]

Love, love,love Dr Delony. Learn so much from his podcast. Wish I knew of him earlier

[@BrianCooksey8]

Great conversation, important topics... and fantastic dialogue in areas where you see things differently!

[@jayconvo]

Another good conversation and another good role model to follow.

[@hubruh]

Omg HUGE guest guys!!! Definitely watching the whole episode!

[@tBOGGgle]

John is great man I love hearing what he has to say

[@georgevujadinovic]

After each episode I am blown away and I always think to myself, this was the best episode of this podcast ever. However they keep bringing good guests that provide value and keep it entertaining. Great job!

[@louisianabeast]

Still liking!

[@KeenFocus]

Great podcast need great listener

[@j...4240]

This is a phenomenal interview. Both Jack and Graham asked excellent questions. Jack is so skilled in circling back to ask the unanswered questions. Like at 37:45 where Jack asked John what happened to kickstart him dating his wife. And then Graham's pro follow up about the brother's reaction. I have heard many other interviews and have come to respect both Jack's and Graham's well-grounded input, perspective, and insight. Thank you.

[@handleking1]

My guy took educational management at Harvard. NOT a Harvard psychologist. Misleading.

[@erin9868]

To add to that, he received a certification from a Harvard course. None of his actual degrees are from Harvard. He's also not a psychologist.

[@tombkk1322]

I was wondering the same thing. The title said Harvard Psychologist.

[@freeagentgirl23]

Who cares? Yah, misleading but I love Dr. John Delony!

[@benchoflemons398]

@@erin9868are you serious?

[@LookingAway359]

​@@freeagentgirl23 Anyone that cares about integrity. That's who cares.

[@Yo_soy_Annna]

Dr. John D. did amazing. Thanks for having him on!!!

[@abvideos2197]

What an incredible conversation! You guys are awesome! Thank you.

[@r.j.h.l2031]

This is absolutely fantastic content. Thank you all!

[@Monica-ho4np]

I LOVE Dr Delony! Pls do more with him!!!

[@martinsmith757]

Wow doctor John Deloney! I’m so glad you teamed up with the Ramsey team!

[@alexwilliams6779]

I love how Graham is inviting guests who tell him how most Americans live. It's honestly shocking to me how many people don't know that this guy is super average American.

[@ambermik2940]

This was an awesome podcast and discussion. Thanks so much guys

[@l0vexmonica]

collab I never expected, love Dr. John

[@Andrew-Paulo]

In marriage you should start by combining 10-20% of your incomes in a joint account. You will need this for bills , etc anyway. Then as the years go by, increase that slowly, and stop at whatever number you both feel comfortable with. Overtime, as you deepen the trust in your marriage, I think you’ll find both people start to feel more comfortable with the option they didn’t like at first. You may end up sharing everything or you may end up sharing only 25%. But I think it helps you organically get to your best place as you build trust over time. This is what my wife and I do .

[@normabrammer39]

Love Dr. John and enjoyed seeing him "on the other side." Great interview!

[@fry713]

I'm loving the partnership and deep dive with the Ramsey personalities. Hopefully we get a couple more episodes with Rachel, Jade, and Ken too!

[@chillie000]

Who are the Ramsey personalities? (Or the ‘Ramsey team’ they referred to)

[@sylviaritola1783]

@@chillie000 Ramsey Solutions, started with Dave Ramsey 30 years ago teaching ppl about money now they have many different ppl on the platform talking about careers, mental health and money

[@chillie000]

@@sylviaritola1783 thanks !

[@kirabolt6554]

I am watching the intro and it already sounds great. But I almost cries. Prepping to watch the rest. Intro already has my attention.

[@cfrend]

All my 1984 born buddies recently had a campfire together and the conversations were deep and generally despairing along with hopefully-determined. The body's scoreboard comes for us all. Sometimes around 40 years old.

[@addisonroeschley5692]

One of my favorite episodes so far and I’m only 25 minutes in. Well done!

[@cmsa3]

Thank you! I just journaled this morning that my value is not how much money I make. Thank you

[@EmilioMendiolaJr]

Excited for this one! John Delony is soooo good

[@bobschnittman2856]

this is so good. Really good questions and very thoughtful.

[@DavidNipps]

John is amazing! Great episode.

[@freedomworks3976]

Dr. D brought up existentialism therapy in psychology. Studying existentialism is a real life changer for me. If your not religious it will fill that hole that religious people say fills that hole. ❤

[@chillie000]

How so? I’m intrigued…!

[@thesprinklebox4841]

Dr. Delony is blowing up. Loved his episode with Lila Rose, too! Super good.

[@Mazyrose44]

Awesome episode ! Could’ve watched another hour easily

[@ColombianLNP]

I really enioy having these different guests! Cheers amigos from your biggest fan from Colombia

[@buscochamba]

Guys havent been in this podcast for a while, you are so more mature. Great content. Top notch!!

[@chrlskrkl]

Says he has a certification in education management from Harvard and the phds are from Texas tech, so not sure why days Harvard psychologist I really like John but I just wanted to clear this up

[@Isaacr90]

totally agree, just clickbait, these guys should revise the title

[@CheyenneBrady-lb4ht]

I feel like Graham really needed to hear this

[@lola.angelina]

Love Dr. John!! This was fantastic 💯

[@sethbender2863]

John’s show is fantastic. I have found it so beneficial

[@lisafeck1537]

Found you, only bc I already know of Delaney. Subscribed bc the conversation, your questions, allowing Delaney to talk... well done gentlemen.

[@groundedapproach]

You can tell John isn’t a guy who got a degree and started a business. He is constantly growing and learning and becoming better which is why his advice is so good!

[@drama-addictic6462]

Dr John Delony. The man himself. Love this guy

[@mitchmangoba]

I'M SO HAPPY THIS COLLAB HAPPENED! Thank you Graham & Jack.

[@StandleyHandcrafted]

Love the podcast and I've been listening for a long time. Just a heads up, I usually listen on Apple Podcasts and I don't know if you've listened but the audio mix on Apple is horrible. It's so unbelievably quit that I have to blast my volume in order to hear it. Every other podcast is set to like 10 in my car and yours has to be cranked to like 40 to hear it.

[@WholesomeHenri]

A great example of how age influences maturity

[@southfloridadabbler9589]

Excellent conversation!

[@Wonderlaust]

What a brilliant guy, excellent interview.

[@Areku06]

What a fruitful interview, thank you guys. Dr John is a legend.

[@PhotoDaveJax]

Hope that Graham finds a place for leisure in life. Not lazy, just balance. Mr Miyagi told me that last part. 😆👍⚖️

[@GlennWD]

Dr John is absolutely amazing. 👌

[@blunterwun]

well lit set good job production

[@openmind1012]

Would you be willing to explain why you have written "Harvard psychiatrist / Harvard psychologist" in two recent podcasts, please?

[@Isaacr90]

at least the last guy was actually a Harvard Psychiatrist, this guy is not a Harvard Psychologist

[@saulgoodman2018]

Graham is starting to lose some credibility.

[@arthrodea]

And to be fair, I dont think John Deloney has ever billed himself as a Harvard Psychologist - this is poor research on the part of the Iced Coffee Hour show.

[@rebeccashields9626]

Yeah it’s clickbait but it’s annoying because Dr D is great to listen to and has a fine pedigree, there’s no reason to exaggerate or be disingenuous.

[@saulgoodman2018]

@@rebeccashields9626 I've been watching less of Graham's video over the last couple months. Because of all the clickbaiting.

[@DonesdeMotivacion]

This is my story! Graduated with Masters in Psychology counseling, dreaded my whole life listening to people’s problems, people who knew what was wrong and what they were doing wrong and despite knowing the answer kept submerged on the same cesspool. Discover my passion for personal finance at a later 20’s and into my 30’s, owning stock portfolio and rental houses in my late 30’s. Never back to deal with people for such a low wage

[@chriso6042]

I like John alot, always feel like I gain some wisdom when listening to him.

[@Weifuknigt]

Great episode , one of the best !

[@Will-jg2zs]

Dr. John is an absolute goat

[@BreadByHope]

This was sooo good!!! Thank you for doing this.

[@wheresheidy]

Dr. Delonyyyyy so happy you brought him on!

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Yeah!!

[@Isaacr90]

@@TheIcedCoffeeHour he's not a Harvard psychologist, extreme clickbait and misleading

[@dk1828]

Dr. D is THE BEST!

[@christiaanbotha6247]

Graham was not convinced. Hopefully he comes around and realize there is no security in money and life is too short and there are better things to fight for.

[@MagicalFishy]

I hope he sees as well! Money is important, but a man-made thing can’t be everything.. let alone the most important thing in someone’s life.

[@augustek5382]

he is greedy and money hungry. I see him living a very sad and unfulfilled life.

[@christiaanbotha6247]

@@augustek5382I don't think so; he looks pretty happy and fullfilled.

[@augustek5382]

@@christiaanbotha6247 I am under the impression that he is only fulfilled when he is talking about money. He can no longer relate to his guests if the podcast topic is not money related. And I don't see him being happy either.

[@angierice7154]

@@christiaanbotha6247 Rewatch this and listen to Graham's language. He doesn't get it. Wants to think people are ALL choosing to make bad decisions, end up in bad circumstances. It's all black and white, good and bad, extremes... and because of that, he'll expect perfection before he can really connect. He's not going to be capable of living a fulfilled, happy life walking around with those assumptions because humans will fail SOME time. Delony was amazing, and so different of a conversation for Graham. I really hope he keeps coming back for all of us AND Graham.

[@madmike18]

That was an amazing podcast!

[@elanagoldstein3366]

Wow, this guest is so insightful! Took away many powerful messages

[@christinemaio]

Love the camera editing of the extreme close-ups of Jack's hair every time it gets mentioned 😂

[@mdfalse]

"How do you get over that?" (scarcity mindset). A lot of people who grew up middle/lower income saw and felt the fear but never really experienced rock bottom. They only grew up on the fear and scent of a financial predator over the hill. Rock bottom (in USA) is utilities cut, begging for food cash, bouncing checks, eviction, etc and this rock bottom is not experienced by most middle/lower, "we were sooooo poor when I grew up" types like John describes the groceries. So how does the middle/lower man get over the fear - he needs to realize that at my definition of rock bottom you still live and life still goes on and opportunities still exist. The financial bro epidemic and scarcity/anxiety masses came from middle/lower people who caught scent of rock bottom but never actually experienced it. If they did they wouldn't be so cowardly with their money and so boring to be around.

[@frankom1528]

the very rare and very expensive Indian Rosewood desk didnt get unnoticed ! usually you see it tho in a lil darker finish so the gray on yours is much darker

[@gibboj81]

Wow really insightful guy. Great podcast and got a lot from it. Dave Ramsey knows who to pick.

[@elanafelberg1733]

OMG OMG!!! Finally!! I've been waiting for this!!

[@big123lak]

I feel like I was built for this environment , I feel like people are in bad situations cuz they were raised with no guidance , if it wasn't bad guidance , I feel like we should step in before it gets really bad cuz thats a issue that continues to spread , most of my success is because of me, but id be silly to say without my grandpa and a few older guys I would be the same person no Id be a nobody broke sad and lonely without their guidance, they put me on the path

[@DenisChenard]

That was awesome. Thank you.

[@Louisadamson]

ThIs whole interview, and what a current state of plummeting birth, and marriage rates, gender division, single parent families, and rates of loneliness, there were some proper wisdom in the last half an hour. Dr. Delony definitely got some new fans. That Nicolas Cage, Téa Leoni movie FAMILY MAN kept popping into my head. But instead of Don Cheadle’s character, it was this guy.

[@shagg993]

Definitely hard to ignore all the negative our there, but I agree it was a great interview and one of Delony's better interviews.

[@43rdcheruub]

Great interview, idk why they lied about his Harvard credentials. Mixed feelings on this one

[@saulgoodman2018]

But he's blind to his own marriage falling apart.

[@ericdevall2397]

This was a great show!