Has Lizzie Taken her Inappropriate Jokes Too Far? | First Dates New Zealand

First through the door, is 26 year old Lizzie who is hoping tonight will mark the end of her life long man-drought. Meeting Lizzy tonight is Banker Ben from Pukekohe, Ben's found dating within his community to be a bit like a high school reunion, and he's hoping tonight he'll find a fresh face.
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[@genebigs1749]

Pretty girl, but her personality is what shined the most. She seems like a lot of fun to be around.

[@ianlaccohee7180]

I’m a huge fan of inappropriate humour. Her humour is a rare gift to me. She’s very pretty too.

[@vintagesupermarkets5210]

I second that. My answer to the question of a second date would have been “HELL YES!”. I couldn’t stop smiling both listening to and looking at her. She’s beautiful.

[@marykelly9327]

Agreed. I thought she was beautiful and funny.

[@happyclappyslappy]

😂🙄 oh God.

[@TheDecider2024]

Am I the only one who finds dating exhausting

[@Ljounieh]

Noope it really is

[@nisnga147]

why? just chill and enjoy it...lose expectations and just embrace getting to meet someone new - you never know what will come out of it. If they are whack then its over in a couple of hours, who cares.

[@guitarswiftable]

Yeah for men it often feels like an interview

[@florencelovme]

I totally agree Who cares If they mess thing up Just Laugh and move on I think it's Fun when you don't expect anythIng from them🎉​@@nisnga147

[@moscowguitarman]

I think her dodgy jokes are probably a sign of nervousness and insecurity, but nonetheless she is so lovely and charming, and if I'd been in his place, I'd have been sold on a second date within two minutes.

[@moscowguitarman]

@@evalilith6703 but you just read into things 😂 We can agree to disagree. But I'm right.

[@akashgill870]

Not sure about the date guy but that reception guy was definitely into her lol

[@roxannee8316]

Yesss! They looked kind of similar too. I feel he made that comment about her knowing she would of watched it back. I wonder if they ever got in contact 🤞🤞

[@jermainep5314]

I love her Honesty and her sense of humor! She's rare, and I believe a catch.

[@80for80]

Lol

[@KrisDJFRAY]

I wouldn’t be able to stop laughing with her. Awesome character, sense of humour and confidence!

[@daniellerichard1385]

Wow - she is absolutely beautiful!!

[@DrDudelidge]

She’s got a Margot Robbie thing going on

[@karissakline6765]

It’s the teeth.

[@amoureternally]

Came here to say the same.

[@pcharm3711]

Yes the brunette version

[@angelicdragond1954]

I think she just liked him too much, too easily. Normally on a first date you are convincing someone to like you, but he basically said nothing while she was putting it on pretty heavy, not talking about anything personal. He just seemed more introspective maybe.

[@sigma8995]

Attraction is a strange thing. Once we feel it strongly, a lot of our logic and self control go out the window.

[@karenstieglitz3443]

I agree, I think he was introspective and sensitive. I think he sensed she was covering awkwardness with humor, and he didn't want to hurt her feelings by not accepting a second date on camera. With time, she'll feel less awkward... What a beauty!

[@MyToasterIsBroken]

Oh man, ya gotta fill your own cup up first and get some hobbies. Connect with what you love, pour that energy and time into yourself and you’ll attract people who vibe with that energy. When you make another person the centre of your world because you’ve got nothing else going on, you can feel that energy come out full on and you end up projecting that onto the other person. Enjoy the journey 🙌 From a fellow Kiwi woman 😊

[@jasminaj3682]

I love this advice!!!!

[@JamesCraigWhoop]

I may be alone on this but her face kind of reminded me of Margot Robbie. She missed out on her Ben I guess.

[@right..5651]

Yeah it did cross my mind tbh

[@right..5651]

A little bit

[@szsz220]

I just said to myself she's the brunette Margot Robbie :D

[@karissakline6765]

It’s the teeth.

[@mizhomesiq]

She makes a lovely friend to hang out with. But being too friendly can make her get friend zoned a little more. She reminds me of a friend just like her. Full of humor and I esp love her tinkling laugh. She was in her 40s when she finally found her love. I miss her.

[@K_12389]

I don't think she pretended to be someone else, she even said she has an awakward personality- she was fully herself! I think it was endearing. She is so gorgeous (looks and personality). So is he! So is Louis! Had the privilege of spending a year in NZ and i do recall how gorgeous kiwis were❤

[@superlasse2468]

"Can I get a name?" "Bean" God I love the Australian accent 😂

[@silverdale3207]

They're Kiwi's.

[@ferraroannie4058]

And the New Zealand one too! 😁

[@awestruck9075]

Stationary sales? That'd be hard, they won't move themselves.

[@Real-comment-unreal-name]

I was going to correct you, but then got the joke 😅

[@MelliaBoomBot]

Oh my, she's just nervous..she reminds me of myself at that age..just wanting someone to see passed the insecurity..He just wasn;t the right guy..good luck to her!

[@Leoviliti1]

When she laughed over her own nervously created banter.. I got the Bridget Jones vibe about her. 💐😊

[@kayo3847]

They're actually so cute ❤

[@gillowens24]

She doesn’t have a slushy face at all very pretty

[@leezlvontrapp]

This type of humour is just too simple and a little crass for a dinner conversation. I’m all up for a good laugh and some nice puns, not buns, are far more clever and sharp IMHO. It’s not a surprise that he didn’t end up seeing her again!

[@_DeadlyNightshade_]

The ending sentence is sad but I did notice that guys don't see funny girls as more than friends. He seemed like a serious guy anyway. Also she did not ask him a single question about himself, guys like talk about themselves and he didn't get that chance.

[@jennifergirling6850]

That's a lot of bullcrap that guys see funny girls as just friends.

[@MichaelDothoso]

He was a banker, decent looking, and fit. She was decent looking, not fit, but funny in an inappropriate way. I'd like her, if I was that age, but a guy like him can do much better.

[@guitarswiftable]

He liked her funny personality. He just was clearly not attracted to her because she's not as fit as him

[@debaratichaudhuri7202]

She looks like a brunette Margot Robbie.

[@Prince_ee]

“But Ben found someone else instead” Clearly! 🙂

[@morganaluthor]

she is such a fun friend i would love to have

[@annaspanna97]

She is stunning

[@Skeezer66]

The only problem I see was she was a lot more high energy than he was. It can work (I've seen many couples like this), too bad it didn't this time. She's FINE in all meanings of the word!

[@sigma8995]

This girl has a bit of awkwardness to her, but not necessarily in a bad way. I sense a bit of neediness and lack self confidence, just a tad bit. This can be quite endearing to some men. They seem to have a good chance. I wish them well.

[@Account-br9kc]

that's not lack, that's beautiful

[@leigh7507]

Honestly guys, if you stop inviting people on dinner first dates, you dont have to pay for dinner. Most people are happy to go on dates no revolving around eating. And most women arent dating for a free meal (though I'm sure it happens)

[@sigma8995]

Dinner dates are old school, and quite frankly just lame. Take her for a stroll in the public park, perhaps a museum, botanical or Japanese garden, catch sunset, coast along the beach. The possibilities are almost endless. Whatever the choice a guy makes, just make sure she feels safe and the environment provide opportunities to talk and get to know one another..

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

Actually a woman turning down a coffee date or demanding a meal is a nice way to filter out the undesirables. Some women do date only for free food but man that's a huge red flag. Who wants a new meal partner everytime they eat? That sounds exhausting. I always prefer coffee dates because it's no pressure, easy going, and I don't mind paying $4 for someone's coffee.

[@sigma8995]

@@Aaron-kj8dv We say those women are looking for a free meal ticket. I have had a few experiences like that before. it was hilarious when this one woman said to me, "I am a woman of value okay? And I do not accept cheap coffee date. A man needs to show me he's serious by taking me out to a nice dinner." My cheek and tongue reply was, "I am a man of extremely high value. And I do not jump through hoops just for a woman, especially one who demands free dinner from me, a person they don't quite know yet. I wish you the best, miss."

[@tankiebot704]

Or womwn can pay for their own food.

[@ENFPerspectives]

It is weird to hear men complain about paying for a meal, even if it doesnt work out in the end. Did you have a nice time getting to know someone? or were you expecting more than food and conversation? Dining out once a week isn't terribly expensive, and it is simply a pleasant way to meet people. Imo, if one cannot afford to pay for a dinner date, and only coffee, stay home. Coffee dates deserve jogging pants, make up, and a messy bun. Lazy date planning gets lazy company.

[@Bless-cs9ct]

Lizzies gorgeous. I think she'd be 10x hotter if she told less jokes though

[@hcklberypinkbrownies5170]

On any 1st date, you're meeting that person's representarive!! 💚 O+

[@maryblencowe]

He had a lucky escape!

[@RachelSings21]

Why??

[@spiritedaway99]

how's having a cat is funny :p !! she's trying so hard lol

[@magnoliacrawford4065]

I think it's a girl cat called Simon is the funny part

[@chimakalu41]

7:40 this should be a match. She literally never left the table.

[@TradingTheBias]

Any chance of posting full shows?

[@Kendalljackson-15]

People should not say inappropriate things on a first date or be inappropriate on a first date either I have a bad feeling he might be uncomfortable he just afraid to say anything

[@FrankskinOrweed-ep4ij]

Bet you’re fun at parties

[@judgemaximus3497]

Damn all these comments about how bad and how inappropriate she was, but still got a yes for a second date. 😂😂😂 Also, it was refreshing to to see something different. Sure she was awkward but guys are usually the awkward and less confident in a date. So for her to be like, “So here is my personality, I’m not asking you to accept it but enjoy yourself was quite nice.

[@heartpursuer]

Apparently there was no second date 09:33.

[@TurquoiseTerrorizer]

She’s lovely

[@m.m.6336]

The back pat hug at the end was the tell tale sign that it wasn't going to go anywhere

[@vintagesupermarkets5210]

She is really pretty.

[@michellewei7349]

Can't say Lizzie is wrong about cat vs dog. That's EXACTLY my thought!

[@julesnorton2138]

she was so much fun....i see alot of me in her...but shes alot prettier. hopeshe finds her prince 💜

[@glosske]

This guy is so perfect :D

[@Account-br9kc]

wow, to me he is so lame

[@dswLIVE]

The WHOLE Package❤

[@ENFPerspectives]

She looks like Kirsty Allie from the Cheers TV Comedy. Pretty girl.

[@labbie1148]

shes a cutie

[@teneshalulu2482]

Poor girl. She did it all wrong, she forgot that she was the prize and she made him the prize. He should be impressing her but she didn’t even give him the chance. How sad.

[@leigh7507]

why is she the prize? They are both young and good looking. They look like equals.

[@sigma8995]

Women are NEVER the prize in a relationship. Why? Cause no women wants a man who is less valuable than them. If a woman is in a relationship, she think he's a catch, one way or another.

[@tankiebot704]

She aint no prize.

[@autumnwinter1462]

Not everyone has a primal nature. We’re not apes.

[@sigma8995]

@@autumnwinter1462 And where do you think we evolved from?

[@ferraroannie4058]

This felt so awkward; especially all the parts where she tried to be Bridget Jones. And failed miserably...

[@Account-br9kc]

she is full package, amazing

[@sandrudaniel19]

First and fatal mistake in a date: she tried to be someone else, tried to be funny with terrible jokes. Be you and the date will go well. Do t be pushy or you will exhaust the other person in first minutes, no wonder no other date on the horizon.

[@AndreyUrman]

I think you're wrong, it really seems like inapporopriate jokes and awkwardness are part of her personality, but she needs someone who can absorb it and even mirror it for some fun banter, personally i'd love to go on a date with her.

[@syedrahel7415]

The doorman ... 💘💔

[@imagegotbeats]

He just seems a lil awkward to me… I didn’t see no charm, charisma, or he didn’t build sexual tension with her! He kept this date at the flat surface!!

[@Moneycantbuylife]

I don't thinks she's funny or maybe I'm missing something.. I find her jokes don't land ..too bad she is cute though good luck girl

[@LoloO42]

Yeah. That cat poop joke was SO racy. 🙄

[@marrydruli]

I don't get it, what's racy about it? She said I don't wanna go around the yard picking out poo. Is there something I'm missing here? 😬

[@karissakline6765]

For real, if this is considered racy I’m a maniac. My husband and I were in ‘inappropriate’ from day one to get each other to laugh…still are 12 years later.

[@MaverickLee11]

that receptionist is always creepy af the way he looks at his guests arriving LMAO, its like the start of a horror movie plot

[@avo6198]

Did you all know that this FirstDate channel used to have many active viewers and commentors?

[@mattneillninasmom]

Lizzie is just a tad too quirky. Ben seems like a real catch for someone who' serious and not out to waste his time.

[@Account-br9kc]

she is amazing

[@FrankskinOrweed-ep4ij]

He seemed to have a laugh tho?

[@patrickwilson183]

Not gonna lie, the 'stop it' reponse she kept saying is off putting haha and yes I get what it means. Its just not a great response to compliments

[@junelee5975]

she wants to keep making jokes and banter because she has no hobby and no substance, and it was exhausting having to respond to her jokes and keep forcing to laugh on that guy's part. I could see he got very tired at the end

[@spentlife]

What are pins ?

[@pleun315]

She is a darling 😍😋😋

[@Mokkel73]

4:07 The lighting on the Australian First Dates is really terrible. Imagine sitting under these lamps and trying to relax.

[@combrogi]

She was perfect ❤️

[@Account-br9kc]

I agree, and he is not the vibe

[@zweij]

But no hobbies......? nooo..

[@abigaileg7345]

I really liked their chemistry❤

[@qp4367]

he's not sure she's on the level

[@gbaca07]

She's too much. I can see why she has a hard time dating 😅

[@Account-br9kc]

no, she is great

[@folksbiz3303]

I’m laughing sooooo hard because of this women. And the guy so cute too and opposite to her humor. Hope they stay together . Hehehe

[@_DeadlyNightshade_]

The text at the end said He found someone else 😭

[@richardgranholm1561]

They make a good couple

[@chimakalu41]

8:46 The lady should not even try pretending we can see she likes the guy

[@Teckno72]

Great couple!

[@spot723]

Beautiful Lizzy, learn to listen. The banter was forgettable. At the end of the date, it appears you knew about him and for all the blathering, he knows nothing about you. Sad. I thought you were cute together.

[@masimmomasimmo]

I hope they got together ❤

[@hala0coco]

No they didn’t, the text at the end said he found someone else

[@BocaGrandeTarpon]

Either side please don’t talk about marriage even as a joke this is what happens 😅

[@rampar77]

That was something about her that trued me off, maybe physical, perhaps he felt the same way.

[@7somekindofsomething]

Painful.

[@ShizukaRose]

I think she was trying too hard.

[@red2lucas]

She wasn’t funny but she thought she was.

[@danielaiovine6631]

Yikes! She’s so off putting. Which is a shame because she’s so attractive and behind it all nice. However, it’s like a lesson on how not to behave

[@frf1670]

Insecurity is strong in her lol. Girl needs to get out and develops some hobbies

[@yaasikasa17]

Butts

[@SongBillong]

She's rather annoying

[@hala0coco]

OMG i really liked her , sad he wasn’t into her

[@parallelpost]

Annoying, she swallows her words as she speaks.

[@MamawithAtude-ib4em]

Guess I'm too American but I can't understand her accent at all. Also, weird to call anyone while on a date. Weird. She's trying too hard. When we try so damn hard to be clever & witty, we are not giving our partner chance to express themselves.

[@vamp8903]

Shes too pretty for him ...he looks old

[@rogdawg123]

lizzie is jaw dropping beautiful 😍🔥👌

[@feingetarntesfischfilet4841]

The appropriate Gentleman-resonse to: "Spread the buns apart" would have been: "Don't be CHEEKy".. or is it just a German 🇩🇪 thing that "Backen" goes both for the " buns" and the cheeks❓🙄🤔

[@robertgelblum5154]

She has a very striking and in-your-face personality, with her often inappropriate humour. Her off-colour jokes are like a double-edged sword: they can cut in two different ways, either repelling or attracting strongly. I felt the guy found her interesting company, but perhaps a bit too quirky or unorthodox. It seemed to me that she was more into him than the other way round. Yet they both agreed to meet again, but the note at the end indicated that he had found another woman in the interim - which didn't surprise me too much. Regarding their physical appearance (keep in mind that I'm a Canadian living in Canada, which may affect my judgment): he seemed to be a classically handsome guy that many women would be attracted to; And she (imho) had an "interesting" look, attractive in her own way, but I wouldn't call her beautiful.

[@Kitofthearts]

Yes I agree, although for her to really develop her character & love language, spending time in Italy 🇮🇹 or France 🇫🇷 could help her be more comfortable & seductive

[@HS-hi6wc]

What is considered classically attractive in Canada for women, would it be thr equivalent of what you mentioned for the man here?

[@robertgelblum5154]

Hi there! You ask an interesting but difficult question. I actually had to rewatch this video, since I hadn't seen it for a few weeks. The guy who I called classically attractive reminds me of Prince William: clean-cut, well put together, nicely but a bit conservatively dressed, in good shape. Everything is in good taste: he is trying to make a natural, good, but conventional impression. He's not trying to shock anyone. What would be the female equivalent of him in Canada? Difficult for me to describe precisely in words, but see my above description of him. Maybe something like Kate Middleton? I'd be better at recognizing the classical look when I see it, rather than telling you exactly what goes into it. Also, I am Canadian but I don't speak for all Canadians - maybe only for myself! Let me end by saying that there are attractive women (and men too, I guess) in all countries: New Zealand, Canada and elsewhere. And judging who one finds attractive is an extremely subjective matter - of course. Hope this helps! @@HS-hi6wc

[@vintagesupermarkets5210]

I’m also Canadian. I think she’s really pretty and I’m attracted to her personality. I have been to NZ, and I find we’re a lot like them…within the English parts of Canada. I’m from Ottawa, so I get the best of both English and French.

[@robertgelblum5154]

Hey neighbour! I also live in Ottawa. I recently rewatched this video. The girl is starting to grow on me, and I did find her personally attractive, both physically and also her slightly "crazy" personality. A girl like that would be a lot of fun but very unpredictable - which is a good thing, I think. @@vintagesupermarkets5210

[@electrikoptik]

Imagine if they guy said this. He would be roasted and called a pig.

[@MaverickLee11]

They just met and she treated him like a mate, no wonder he wanted to find somebody else.

[@jennifergirling6850]

Who'd you call well none of his business

[@elizabethmenegon8057]

He friendzoned her at the first joke. Then faked smart enough to cope 😉 for her: no need to go full blow constantly funny from the start. Relax 🙂 and see what happens.

[@guitarswiftable]

It had nothing to do with the jokes, he had fun with that. It's that she's not as fit as him. He was not attracted to her

[@wasimkhan3656]

What's her social media???

[@gillowens24]

He very nice she sounds weird

[@ferraroannie4058]

She IS weird, lol. I so agree!

[@stickyfinger100]

If her humour was reversed would " He" Get away with it ??? just asking!!!! and ...Why are these rude women always on there mobile ????

[@courtneyking6810]

She's great!! he's a bore!!!

[@SL-lb6lz]

Making jokes like a 12 year old boy is not 'great'.

[@wheeliebin18]

"How's your semen?" Wait what.... oh salmon.... gotcha.

[@AKiki-ct1ro]

I love thighs that also the only reason I watch rugby

[@1ironmikeoc]

Super hot and very funny

[@speedythings7396]

Women initiate break ups the most. Men should stop investing emotionally or financially too much

[@junelee5975]

she should stop weird banters, and quit trying to be too funny