Joel Gives Romance Another Shot | First Dates New Zealand

[@dnewman3402]

Asking a woman when you first meet her on a date if she is a good kisser is not the right question to ask her.

[@jenmorricone4014]

Cringe factor of 97.9😢 Bar trick with straw, high fiving at table and getting injured by dumb bull run.... immaturity red flags.

[@marrydruli]

​@@jenmorricone4014100%

[@ENFPerspectives]

They matched him for her type. Lol

[@donnaanddavid1]

He wasn’t as cringey on his first date.

[@Pogouldangeliwitz]

He's like a serial killer. Getting a bit bolder every time...

[@LoloO42]

There is something really off about him. His contrived games and tricks and questions all seem designed to make his date look foolish. Or uncomfortable. I think his self confidence is a facade.

[@teneshalulu2482]

Absolutely. The comments on here are ridiculous too.

[@Ali-Bea]

Spot on.

[@nineteenfortyeight]

Exactly. If he assigned me a puzzle seconds after meeting me I'd be like "No thanks".

[@ppumpkin3282]

Looks find to me, and he got two thumbs up from the girl. Definitely not for you.

[@ThomasMitchell-uu6id]

i think hes just really proud of himself, i found him quite pleasant

[@subtitlesonplease]

Him on Google: “What to say on a first date to secure a lady😈”

[@fbgin]

Xray vision, cake on her face- little boy energy

[@ppumpkin3282]

Apparently what she wanted.

[@ThomasMitchell-uu6id]

she liked it..?

[@Skeezer66]

This was strange. I felt 0 chemistry between them, but they have 70+ friends on FB in common already, so they have connections.

[@Oregonthistle]

I’ve noticed whenever the woman thinks they intimidate men it’s because somehow success and good looks are so over powering that men can’t handle them. It usually plays out that the woman is a nightmare to be with. 🤦‍♀️

[@sigma8995]

There’s definitely merit to what you said.

[@joeyhomewood]

Agreed. You see the way the date went - he carried the conversation, he was the interesting one, he paid, he was inquisitive, he made her laugh.. if she wasn’t good looking, one might wonder what value does she bring to the relationship? Why have a second date? Women immediately think they aren’t pursued bc they are *intimidating*, but it’s simply they’re just not interesting. Most men want someone who can meet them halfway, bring more to the table.

[@AdamFrancisco]

It’s because she tends to have masculine energy

[@gillowens24]

Are you a men women came be drama sometimes

[@MaverickLee11]

yeah lol, thats how they rationalize it

[@spiritedaway99]

i was choked when she said yes, if someone asked me whether im a good kisser then says picks the vision see thro I would be like:🚩🚩🚩🚩run

[@awestruck9075]

If I was asked which superpower I'd like to have, I'd reply Cold War Russia. 😁

[@amielterence]

@@awestruck9075Chris Turner!!

[@ThomasMitchell-uu6id]

its just being flirty..

[@TMPreRaff]

He actually asked his date to rate herself as a kisser from 1 - 10? No class. First red flag: magic tricks.

[@savedfaves]

Magic tricks are a red flag? Give me a break.

[@elizabethmenegon8057]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sarahcaitlyn88]

Please you'd want Niel Patrick Harris if he was straight! 😅

[@AmmaLove24]

Magic tricks aren't a red flag, they are just super nerdy.

[@CorporateQueen]

Anyone who asks if you're a good kisser, usually isn't one themselves, lve found. She doesn't intimidate, people are intimidated. That's a different thing. Hes a bit full on and she's fabulous. Her singleness is because she's a busy professional. He's not on her level.

[@sigma8995]

No.

[@flynnbower8967]

Yeah terrible analysis. She couldn't even look him in the eye at the end & he kept his pose the whole date.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

Oh man, you'd be the type who keeps her single "it's not your fault, the last 40 guys you met were just all assholes. Keep holding out for Mr Perfect"

[@sigma8995]

@@Aaron-kj8dv There's a few female commenters on here that's like that. They just defending toxic female behaviors and put all the blame and shame on the guys, refuse to promote accountability and responsibility. And in the end, they chalk it up to the man not being manly enough, not stepping it up, and is intimidated because of the woman's success. What exactly are we asked to step up to?

[@Forgettable69691]

Its only a question, like who cares. Its good to be daring

[@reikkasimula26]

He helped himself to her straw to stick into the bottle, blew in it, and put it back in her glass. Gross. Horrible manners. 😮

[@elizabethmenegon8057]

If just didn't take his magic tricks so seriously 🤣🤣🤣

[@awestruck9075]

Intimidating and high maintenance are buzz words to cast blame on someone else. Maybe it "is" you. Men aren't intimidated, we just don't want the drama, so avoid drama by not confronting you. Why waste breath on someone closed off to self improvement.

[@judithrandall4690]

Do you think the fact that the majority of these people are goofy narcissists keeps them single? The guy with the bottle trick was truly odious and made me feel bad for the woman, and I didn't think that was possible.

[@suewilson3553]

Mr magician needs to make himself disappear!!

[@VanessaGelaCapistrano]

What year was this filmed?

[@Jenny-rm7iz]

Way better than his 1st date...that girl scared me...😂

[@lexa6154]

Yeah, I also found her quite odd (no offence to her).

[@AC-LING666]

Both extremely strange and over cringe

[@MelliaBoomBot]

Think he was mean to her..😢

[@mvnorsel6354]

Would never ask the kissing question, not a good move😅. But I'm single, what do I know?

[@AB-by8xu]

no one is a " good kisser " it takes two people to create the good kiss

[@follow_the_fox9432]

She is gorgeous and has the most beautiful smile

[@nineteenfortyeight]

So?

[@Leticia-rg8dw]

I don't see it, but to each it's own

[@cbeautifulworld11]

Running of the bulls is cruel. I love her for standing up for them in their defense.

[@avo6198]

Oh lord, virtue signaling

[@cbeautifulworld11]

@@avo6198 🙄You are such a lovely person, a gem. I'm sure everyone always wants to be around you😂

[@awestruck9075]

I hope you keep up the intensity towards lions, tigers, gorillas, bird of prey, snakes, bears, wolves, etc. People forget, the world is not so sanitary.

[@cbeautifulworld11]

@@awestruck9075 yep! I absolutely do

[@cbeautifulworld11]

@@awestruck9075 we coexist. It has nothing to do with being sanitary.

[@jamesk4958]

I mean you’ve got to give it him he’s definitely been internet searching ‘the perfect first date’ 💀

[@hegenoxmaar704]

Seriously? Does internet give tips to make weird magic tricks and ask woman about how good kisser is she on the first date?

[@savedfaves]

@@hegenoxmaar704 It's a cheeky thing to say and could backfire but it worked this time.

[@kristiestjohn-v7x]

Don't think much of him. He's abit controlling

[@waraabebidaarleh3165]

She owns a business! I am so intimidated that I couldn't finish watching this video.

[@ppumpkin3282]

That's the go to explanation when a someone with an inflated ego doesn't get a second date.

[@tizzlekizzle]

Omg....I bet she pays her own water bill.

[@tinaroberts5858]

😂😂😂😂

[@mjblue84]

This guy was a huge TURN OFF.

[@thealchemist41499]

The see through dress comment was absolutely creepy. I would've ghosted him if he'd said that to me.

[@nzrockboi]

When someone is telling a fun story but I know it ends in animal cruelty I get a sinking feeling in my stomach and like her can't really engage anymore in the story

[@joeyhomewood]

But then she goes on to order the salmon.. so where do you two draw the line when & where it is okay for an animal to be killed?

[@mohammadangginugrohomcjogja]

​@@joeyhomewoodI mean I eat animals. But the Spain Matador event draws many criticisms because the bulls are stabbed for a period of time prior to being killed. I don't know.

[@Forgettable69691]

I agree

[@sparra3819]

ok so the bottle trick was a bit uncomfortable

[@lauraperdomo9095]

I found him abs annoying! 🙄

[@cb4017]

I would have left

[@ppumpkin3282]

She like him.

[@bitiboy786]

Good think u wasnt on the date with him

[@kallivino8346]

Any guy who wants to show me his magic tricks makes me feel sick!

[@ITzzDecort]

he tries too hard

[@tiagoagm]

Crazy dude

[@tea2125]

That guy is a tool, and someone lied to her that she is special and gorgeous.

[@darryljones8369]

Hard to watch

[@cloramurphy3838]

Run Run Run

[@tinaroberts5858]

So he doesn't like smokers, but he's okay with the running of the bulls? Hypocrite.

[@TomNook.]

Women who say "they're intimidated by my career / personality" are just hiding from the truth

[@sparra3819]

ok I don't get the punchline

[@jiujuntang]

What's the truth?

[@Pascua_bunch]

@@jiujuntang prolly just ignoring her own faults "red flags".

[@Brandon-m2b7h]

They are to masculine is the truth

[@DJAndrewMoore]

The bull thing would have put me off as well! Flying all the way tp Spain for that twice and he got injured...

[@AB-by8xu]

he took her straw , put it in his mouth and stuffed it back in her drink ? lol

[@mogly573]

Weird guy

[@qp4367]

the high five is never attractive in the females eyes, is that correct?

[@AndyUK-Corrival]

Not seeing her beauty and he is weird…

[@TheWeardale1]

he's a bit of an oddball..

[@jovantaylor8878]

It ain’t easy to be cheesy

[@nineteenfortyeight]

They're both horrible. But both shallow, so it could "work".

[@fatcatontario]

Some of the comments on here...saying "men are intimidated" is a polite way of saying they don't measure up/not on her level.

[@avo6198]

good joke good joke

[@teneshalulu2482]

Yeah, total dusty men. Their dust is suffocating me.

[@Robin-op8op]

I don't like this couple. They are very into themselves. 🤮

[@woodies2009]

They left a smile on my face.

[@khchoi25]

She’s pretty fixated that her looks are “too intimidating for men” lol

[@Ali-Bea]

Has he been reading Incel PIA twaddle? Why’s he so gauche?

[@PROVOCATEURSK]

Why do women think men are intimidated? They are not bears.

[@sigma8995]

Usually, when they say that, it's done as a defensive mechanism. It's a way to protect their ego and self esteem. Just blame men for their mishaps instead of looking deep within themselves, ask questions, and say, "maybe I am the problem." The latter is really hard to do for people in general.

[@gillowens24]

Lads don’t actor age sometimes

[@sparra3819]

I think it's the general assumption that men 'historically' took the bread winner role, so to have the woman earning the power salary would be the intimidation factor.

[@sigma8995]

@@sparra3819 I think the word "intimidated" is misused often in this case. It's not that men are "intimidated," it's more because men realize the potential problems that come with dating women who makes a lot of money and or in a power position. Take this analogy for example: suppose there are two roads, road A and road B. Road A is a smooth concrete, well maintained road. Road B is filled with large sharp rocks, pot holes, random debris. Most normal people will choose to drive on road A. Are they intimidated to drive on B? You can technically say that, but it's more accurate to say, they are prudent not to. They choose to avoid road B because it has potential serious consequences. It's a matter of being wise more than being intimidated. Want more people driving on road B? Improve the road conditions. Blaming the drivers does not help.

[@Ali-Bea]

They know from experience. If you’re clever, good-looking with a successful career, men can be quite intimidated.

[@hazar2354]

Shes too good for him

[@avo6198]

Lol u serious? She is average at best. And self claimed high maintenance???

[@hazar2354]

@@avo6198 She's charming and calm. She's a lady. He's whatever. It's not all about looks.

[@avo6198]

@@hazar2354 lolss.... he's charming, he's calm, and he's a man. you bias for woman i see that!

[@JB-hb7fd]

Major ICK dude .....ICK!!!

[@joeyhomewood]

You see the way the date went - he carried the conversation, he was the interesting one, he paid, he was inquisitive, he made her laugh.. if she wasn’t good looking, one might wonder what value does she bring to the relationship? Why have a second date? Women immediately think they aren’t pursued bc they are *intimidating*, but it’s simply they’re just not interesting. Most men want someone who can meet them halfway, bring more to the table.

[@joeyhomewood]

I should point out that we only saw a few minutes of an hour-long date and don’t know either person, so I’m only using this as an example of the flawed thinking women may carry with them that there are alternate reasons why they’re not successful in dating, such as believing they are intimidating.

[@sigma8995]

I'd be interested to see how she is once she's comfortable with him. That's when the good stuff comes out. On first dates, most sensible people are on their best behaviors, so it's hard to say just from this clip.

[@sigma8995]

It’s good to see that Joel is back. He seems to be a great guy. As for the girl, it’s almost never a good thing to hear when she said “I am single because I intimidate guys.” Strong, quality men aren’t intimidated by a woman’s career or even personality. It’s something off putting about the women that makes men avoid them. Usually, women who are in high power positions tend to be competitive, dominant, aggressive. Great to be so if you want money and power, but those are terrible qualities in a female as a romantic partner.

[@RapidBlindfolds]

Why are those bad qualities in a romantic partner? The world is changing. You would be really surprised about how many men do like that in women now

[@sigma8995]

@@RapidBlindfolds Change is a neutral concept. It could be for the better, or it could be for the worse. There are men these days who truly believe there is no biological difference between a man and a woman. They have been brainwashed and indoctrinated by our educational system and society to follow these destructive ideology. Should a woman be proud to be desired by such a man?

[@jvnonu54njl]

@@RapidBlindfolds The world is changing for the worst. Good men don't like dominant women.

[@nineteenfortyeight]

3:26 USING HIS HANDS

[@sarahodonnell6957]

So cute ❤️💙💜

[@tsambikatsa926]

Bull fighting is horrible and should be banned shame on spain

[@cbeautifulworld11]

Agreed. Same with running of the bulls. It's obvious to most yet if you dare mention it one person here is absurdly offended by such comments and likes to make ridiculously vapid accusations.

[@bari2883]

What’s with the aggressive hand shake?

[@pleun315]

Women who say they are intimidating....are insecure a f ! Every doctor knows that😂😂

[@vambo13257]

She is not "all that"

[@ThomasMitchell-uu6id]

he handled that very well

[@thyslop1737]

Guy is akward socially.

[@ducedevlstear2471]

If he got 2nd date with her then i have chance with anyone really. He really needs sone good tips what to do and what not to do.

[@NewYorkerPEACE]

they were both annoying to it's a MATCH! That host always such a dud. Get someone new, he has zero vibe.

[@daniellerichard1385]

Typically people who say they are "intimidating" and"high maintenance" are narcissistic pains in the proverbial. He seems utterly lovely.

[@sigma8995]

I am glad to see another person with a psychology background. Definitely agree with your statement there. I have also seen a strong correlation for those traits with borderline and/or sociopathy. Not to say that the girl in this video is absolutely one. But it's not a good thing to hear how she described herself.

[@zipinha]

He asked how good of a kisser she was and shoved food in her nose. He's so immature😢

[@sigma8995]

@@zipinha You don't see what Danielle is talking about? At all? Why we focusing on the guy when it's the girl who is the topic.

[@zipinha]

@@sigma8995 the lady said he seems lovely and I gave my opinion. He doesn't seem lovely at all ...

[@sigma8995]

@@zipinha It's your opinion. If it means anything, wonder why your opinion vastly differ from others. I would ask myself that question.

[@tivvy9708]

The bar in this pub is way too high, it looks uncomfortable and it's height makes the contestants look smaller than they are. Apart from that I enjoy the show.

[@brybach5479]

8:17-8:19 what is that? a pad?

[@tracyleekley1353]

This young brunette couple playing w/ a beer cap & bottle is adorable!!

[@robertgelblum5154]

The guy is very confident, a lot of fun, full of entertaining party tricks, and quite good-looking (but I should caution that as a straight male, I'm not into men, and I have to guess what women find attractive in a man - often getting it wrong, according to a number of women!). His asking her to say how good a kisser she is, on a scale from 1 to 10, was a bold move on his part. It could have easily backfired and seemed too aggressive, but she took it in her stride. As for the woman, she seemed very attractive to me (and again I should state that this is my personal taste, which many viewers don't agree with, apparently). To me she seemed very nice, fun to be with and talk to, and seems to be in a good place professionally (owning her own modelling business and being a model herself). I could tell he was attracted to her, and her smiling a lot and getting a bit "shy" showed me that she was quite taken by him as well. Finally, just to address her being asked why she's still single, and her replying that maybe she intimidates men. Firstly, it's difficult for anyone to answer why they've been single for a while. It puts you on the defensive, and you start wondering if there's something wrong with yourself. And secondly, beautiful and attractive women can intimidate many men, who may fear that they don't measure up and/or a woman who looks that good must have a boyfriend/husband already. Sure, there are some men who aren't intimidated by any women, but I think they are the exception rather than the rule.

[@cbeautifulworld11]

Your generous, expansive evaluations of the people involved, intelligent insights and the admirable humility to express that these are your opinions rather than assume your word is law make you an instantly attractive man. Women adore men like you. You should know that.

[@espeon753]

It's not often for a straight guy to say other man is good looking, most straight guy are scared to say something like that. In my experience only most self secure guy are confident to do that. It's always refreshing to meet someone like that.

[@sparra3819]

@@cbeautifulworld11 that was sweet of you and truth be told!

[@PROVOCATEURSK]

7:08 the neck reveal was a sign she is into him. Watch the signs, guys.

[@sigma8995]

Good pick up there. Indeed.

[@sparra3819]

nope, too modest, she was just neatening her hair... a neck reveal needs a tilt of the head

[@sigma8995]

@@sparra3819 It was pretty exaggerated how she threw her hair back, and add that with the smile, looking down submissively, I'd say that's a positive sign. It's apparent that she's into him, and I'm not basing of this one interaction.

[@sparra3819]

@@sigma8995 Oh I do agree, as the date progressed she became quite comfortable and was enjoying his company and indeed showed she was attracted to him. I see it more from 7:20 on, really. Her hand play with the hair at the nape of her neck is a sign of security and attraction.... and then just the fun interplay and all... (heck from 5:47 even) Sweet date : ).. I do have to wonder how they enjoy all the analyses in the comments lol.

[@sigma8995]

​@@sparra3819 That's too funny about the comment on how these folks enjoy the analyses! I bet some of them do go on here to read and or have their friends check. There were lots of little hints, clues, and signs that she gives out during the date. You pointed to several good ones too. Always fun to do these free "analysis" with other spectators.

[@davidalfonso3042]

I m single man 37 year looking for true love

[@visiteurvisiteur7301]

Clown

[@AN-cy7xm]

She's cute. I'm cute. We're a match!

[@pookiroo]

He's super annoying.

[@Mongo-ui1ll]

Oh my goodness she is full of herself.... he is a darling man.

[@tsambikatsa926]

Strange most don't want to pay ! Shameful ! Why can't they pay for their own MEAL Sad world we live in .

[@sigma8995]

Good point. Though I don't mind to pay if the woman is truly a traditional women. However, the problem arise when the woman behaves like a modern woman, a feminist, and expect the man to pay. They can't have the best of both words. Yet there are decent amount of dysfunctional women, some on these comments defending this behavior. They think that the guy can't "measure up" to the woman. That's some major entitlement, narcissistic issue they got there.

[@tsambikatsa926]

@@sigma8995 yes agree but as a female I'd rather pay for mine important for women to be considerate at all times

[@sigma8995]

@@tsambikatsa926 Definitely. Being considerate is a good virtue to live by. It's the entitlement behavior that's driving men crazy these days.

[@tsambikatsa926]

@@sigma8995 yes no one should entitled men or women, considering another is paramount obviously few have been taught this

[@leigh7507]

How perfect are her teeth?!

[@mtbiker4life918]

Why didn't she pay her half? She's a " business owner "...so shouldn't she pay half? She also got free compliments, a free meal, and a he just got a peck on the cheek. He looked extremely thirsty.

[@pedro380085]

Men apparently can only be charming with their voice, and magic tricks are not allowed?

[@cloramurphy3838]

Pinocchio 🤥