Hatred Has a Purpose

[@eheheh3263]

I remember feeling hate towards my abusive stepfather… but he was violent towards me first so I hated his guts… you mentioned putting people in concentration camps and dehumanizing them… but people who were put in concentration camps didn’t do anything to the people who hated them… they were dehumanized and put in concentration camps for simply just being themselves… they didn’t do anything to be treated how they were treated… am I not understanding something? What am I missing?

[@EmotionDynamics]

Dehumanization is a form of hatred, and contempt. So when people are put into camps or categories of "less than human," that's hatred being enacted on a large scale. Actually, it's poorly understood and tragically acted out hatred being wielded by people who don't understand shadow work. Without the understanding of the shadow, hatred can be very dangerous, as we've all experienced to our horror. But with shadow work, people can mature and evolve. With shadow work, hatred can tell us exactly where we're broken and incomplete. Without it, we're dangerous to ourselves and others.

[@BeRightBack131]

How are you supposed to "square" hatred when what you hate deserves your hatred, for example, pedophiles, serial killers, child murderers?

[@EmotionDynamics]

I get this question a lot in workshops on hatred and the shadow. The first thing to ask is" Is it hatred, or is it an understandable abhorrence of what occurred?" I did studies on violence, murder, crime, etc., to see what I could find, and I also taught in maximum security prisons, often to the very people we've been taught to see as monsters. I didn't find monsters. I found people whose ability to function was severely compromised, and whose decisions were too. I didn't find that hatred was necessary. For people who bring up someone everyone gates, such as Hitler (though he's admired by many), I ask them to write down specifically what they hate about him. This spotlight always relates to something disallowed in them. Who and what we hate speaks to things in us, even if the hate target is shared by others. What I've found is that even when everyone in a workshop hates Hitler (or child molesters, etc.), their reasons for hating are unique -- and instructive as to the shadow material they can work with.

[@daumantsbrunins]

Most of my life i thought that i am angry but actually I was hateful. Realized it about two months ago. It was a bit of a surprise but also a relief. I have seen a lot of spiritual leaders talking about shadow work but they never explained more that "it's your shadow". Thank you for you wisdom. ❤❤❤

[@EmotionDynamics]

Hatred is so powerful, and shadow work is like full evolution in an afternoon! Shadow work is just amazing. There's a really good book on the shadow where a whole bunch of people explore shadow work from many different viewpoints. It's called Meeting the Shadow by Connie Zweig and Jeremiah Abrams. So good!

[@daumantsbrunins]

@@EmotionDynamics Thank you. I will looked but there are several books starting with the same title. Do i need to stick to the authors? I already ordered A little book on the Human Shadow by Robert Bly. Is the one you mentioned even better? 💚

[@EmotionDynamics]

Robert's book s fabulous, and he's excerpted in Connie and Jeremiah's book. For me, Meeting the Shadow is wonderful because it includes small essays from dozens of people who have been doing their shadow work. It sort of connects you to an entire community and an entire tradition.

[@midnightcat6116]

just recently found your yt channel. I am recently coming out of a traumatic experience & continue to face it daily. Im glad to have found this as it’s helping me to heal through the rage and sadness. Thank you 🙏

[@seanlordlight]

Thank you so much Karla. Your books “Language of emotions” & “the art of empathy” have been and still are irreplaceable tools in my life. The tools you’ve shared on interacting with the spectrum of emotions have been of immeasurable support to me and the people in my life. Your chapter on Hatred has helped me so deeply and I’m no longer a victim to it and instead I’m an empowered courageous man of truth. I can only say such a thing from truly looking at myself and facing hatred along with the accompanying emotions. Thank you for your guidance Karla. It is helping tremendously and my gratitude to you and your work is overflowing. Thank you Karla🦋☀️🌊

[@EmotionDynamics]

Thank you Sean!

[@IsaiahLocsin]

Just saw this. Thank you! I can feel your truth setting something free

[@inspiredlife8123]

Hatred is such a powerful emotion and can quickly draw us into its spell. Thanks for sharing your insights. I am sure it helps people to be less susceptible to hate. 👍

[@galina-healing]

In healing my relationship with my mother, I came through a long period of rage and grief which moved into the most intense hatred possible with a non-stop death wish (we both hated each other). Ohhhhh it was difficult to really dive deep inside the hatred -- both so cold and so hot -- and find there myself and my most and her most vulnerable parts. Touching. Do the hatred work.

[@kieransimpson4965]

How did things work for you. I have been in hatred mode generally.

[@soup2634]

Purchased your book The Language of Emotions recently. It is great! If my emotional intelligence was in basic maths territory before starting, I feel it is now moving towards geometry and algebra :) Spreading your ideas to my family as well. Thank you.

[@EmotionDynamics]

Thanks Logan. I often talk about the calculus of emotions, so you're on the right track!!

[@soup2634]

Well, there ya go :)

[@LakshmiBaker]

OhmyGod Karla... this made me realize stuff that I PROBABLY never could have known in any amount of therapy sessions. You are AMAZING. The whole world should watch this. I want to learn under you now!!!

[@EmotionDynamics]

Thank you Lakshmi! We have a year long training starting every year at EmpathyAcademy.org.

[@LakshmiBaker]

I must look into this! I have limited time for study and was going to sign up for a Counselling Level 2 Course but i'm thinking this may help my career path more specifically - Food & Wellbeing Mentor

[@rodrigotejada1740]

My mum always said that hatred was such a bad thing and I always thought it was ridiculous. Now that I'm doing a personal research about hatred I found your video and let me say that it has just shocked me. I kinda felt angry and surprised at the same time, I kinda hated that you were right hahaha, I need to do a lot of shadow work bc I do hate a lot, but I have just understood that it doesn't make me stronger or better (as I thought). Thank you so much, Karla!

[@abc6716]

Hi Karla, I just found yesterday the essay you wrote for the skeptic community a couple of years ago, I have been reading you blog, I used to be in the new age community and I can totally agree with you on some points, I feel a great amount of pain for leaving those beliefs, I have been using my anger to read and inform myself about everything, I did not know there were so many information, I am experiencing a lot of fear, because I am using my "human intellect" I guess you can understand what I mean, you get used not to ask, not to think and most important to trust god and the guru or in my case the " ascended masters". I think it is really hard to leave, to let go of those beautiful but naive ideas about reality, but it seems to me that the other side (skeptics and free thinkers ) are interested in fighting and fighting... I was fighting for so long against "demons, entities and bad energies" that I no longer want to continue putting myself here or there, us vs them, and this is the part where I find your blog really inspiring, I can totally imagine how hard it was for you to follow reason and let behind so many beliefs. I hope the hate I feel right now for religiosity and everything related with this topic is going to serve a purpose in my life. I just wanna thank you, it is good to feel I am not along with this.

[@EmotionDynamics]

Hello anme, and yes the hatred has a purpose, which is to make a very clear and hard separation between yourself and the ideas that were once a crucial part of your self-concept. It will fade, but it sort of needs to be present right now to help you protect yourself and build a new life without those influences. Yes, the skeptics and free thinkers as a whole aren't the people to go to when you're working with the depth of loss and rage; the problems I saw back in 2003 when I wrote that essay are still a unifying aspect of the culture; it's really not something that they want to change. I left, and haven't looked back. However, there are some awesome individual skeptics like Daniel Loxton, Jim Lippard, and Blake Smith, who know how to be mensches. It's hard to make such a sea change, and your emotions will need to help you, sometimes by being intense. Remember that this too shall pass.

[@stamigna1209]

This is so helpful to me. Thank you!

[@EmotionDynamics]

Thank you!

[@TheGranti7a]

Yep! This is my work, now! Thank-you!!!

[@jonashjerpe7421]

This was unusually good! I have found out that I have repressed hate and the associated rage. I have made the discovery several times over the years. And the rage that comes up is invariably about people, that didn't cause the raging wound that gave rise to it. Thanks!

[@lacasadelamariposa]

I love you Karla. Thank you...thank you...thank you...

[@felipesalazar9491]

This is just what I need to hear

[@thewitchskitchen]

great, thanks

[@Letters_To_Myself.]

Thank you

[@emilyganguly277]

I was ready to lash out then I came here.

[@ladybirdstarshine4692]

Thank you 😥🙏

[@EmotionDynamics]

You're welcome 😊

[@lawrencesimmons3647]

I love you for this💗

[@sophiakh9590]

Very clear and easy to listen to.

[@felipesalazar9491]

Wow

[@Oakey888]

Love you