I'm Afraid To Wear Hijab - Ask Melanie

Salam everyone!
Welcome to the second installment of 'Ask Melanie,' an extension of our blog standard Ask Haute Hijab (You can take a look at all my answers to various questions on the blog here: www.hautehijab.com/blogs/hijab...)
In today's video I addressed the question, "I'm afraid to wear hijab." I hope my answer was beneficial to you and if you have any other questions you'd like me to answer, leave them below!
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[@descriptionary]

I am not Muslim, but I love, love, love this message. It can be applied to so many groups and situations. Thank you.

[@hautehijab]

❤️❤️❤️ thanks so much for you kind words

[@lampsaltlight]

Same here! I am a non-muslim colored skinned woman of faith, and this message speaks right to my heart. I headcover only when I pray. But I’ve recently considered doing it permanently. At the end of the day, the commandment of God is all that matters. Thank you, thank you 🙏 ❤️

[@AliceDiableaux]

Holy shit, I'm an atheist and now I want to wear Hijab because of this video. I like covering up a lot in general and often wear hats or hoodies because it makes me feel safe. I'm also a pretty hardcore feminist and can relate so much to how you feel about Hijab. It just makes is so well known to the entire world that you are a woman not to be objectified but to be taken seriously as an independent person.

[@zimrah4837]

I am not Muslim but Christian. I head cover and get the same problems. I love your talk. This is so encouraging. I have lost friends for following God in this. Its sad because it is our heritage. There is power in the head covering 1Cor 11. God bless you as you encourage women to stand for their faith. Praying that the Muslim and Christians can get along and live in ture peace. It can be done.

[@charismachichester1150]

Well said, I am Muslim and I understand how u feel but we have to prevail over all as strong good human beings

[@ilovepollinators7635]

As a non Muslim, when I see women in their hijab, I admire them. Courage and strength. To me you're very brave, considering the current political climate. Being of color, (copper colored) Hebrew Israelite, and having your hair covered in a scarf, sometimes people will mistake for being a Muslim, i.e. stares, jeers, or just curious questions. They don't get nervous til the see the draping (scarf around head) seems like.Thankfully, Western society has gotten use to women of color, wearing African type head wraps. I enjoy seeing multitudes of cultures, women wearing beautiful headwraps, just so stylish, yet reverent. I must admit however, the full burka situation is a little..scary. Nevertheless, I am respectful if I happen to see. But I love the hijab, and other headwraps. Stand strong. I try to smile at a Muslim women when I see them. Solidarity to you my sisters.

[@LeyahJo]

Wearing hijab definitely makes me feel scrutinized in public - but I think that's a good thing! I should be trying daily to elevate my character and show good manners. I work in mental health and I get questions from both kids and adults about why I wear "that thing on my head." I simply say "It helps me stop and think so I can make good choices." Everyone has just been like "Oh, ok. Cool." Thank you for all the work you do. Your videos and IG have helped me see that I can dress modestly with hijab and still look professional and polished. It's made being a new Muslim easier. Jazakallah khair

[@hautehijab]

I love that! What an amazing answer and so true! May Allah (S) make it easy on you and always give you confidence and conviction

[@charismachichester1150]

It's so true, I've gotten the same remark "that thing on your head" more than once it does bother me sometimes but I just feel sorry for some ppl at the end of the day because they are so criticizing

[@auriwashere1624]

I’m a budhist and would love to wear a hijab

[@layela4484]

but some women are killed because of wearing hijab. Yeah, we're scared

[@theronnileigh225]

I'm Catholic an i want to wear a headscarf or a.hijab but I'm scared bc of the place i live in, here in America

[@Twisted_textures_studio]

very very well said melaine. It really affected me in a positive way. 😊

[@hautehijab]

Hamdulilah! So happy to hear that

[@AmalMehic]

I mean, women in the time of the Prophet (peace be upon him) weren't exactly living in a utopian society where everything was perfect and everyone loved Muslims. There were so many haters, so many people who wanted to harm any and all Muslims. Hijab was required by Allah (subhanahu wa ta3alah) during that time. Allah knows what's best for us despite what we think.

[@hautehijab]

What a great point :) May Allah (S) make us of the saliheen like the companions of the Rasool (S)

[@loobylou5457]

Haute Hijab Ameen

[@sophie3howl]

Masha Allah sister, this is so true. I never thought about it this way, Subhanallah! There were and there will never be a time when it is an ideal utopia where Muslims and hijab are accepted by every single person. The early Muslims had it much worse yet they still wrap their hijabs when Allah commanded them to do so, knowing fully that by doing so they will be easy to identify as women of faith.

[@earthgreatspirt6633]

I’m becoming Muslim and I’m nervous what is the school going to say to me, I’m wearing my hijab tomorrow and I’m scared about the kids I’m 15 but the kids at my school are mean! Please pray for me ❤️Salam❤️🌺🌺

[@VixieShadowX_sngbrd_X]

Since this is three years ago im hoping u started wearing it :D But whatever the kids say or do they dont have any power to take you to jannah or the other place. all they can do is act well or not. if they act improperly that is their problem. they dont have manners or respect- u shouldnt bother around them. allah however the all powerful is smilng at u. remember that my dear

[@aluvsyou1]

@@VixieShadowX_sngbrd_X i'm 13 and i also have this problem about school... soo your comment is good and for me 😆💜

[@VixieShadowX_sngbrd_X]

@@aluvsyou1 aww, im 13 too and a niqabi :} ! Im realllly happy to help out a fellow muslimah! if u need anymore inspiration u can pour ur heart out!

[@aluvsyou1]

@@VixieShadowX_sngbrd_X thank you sister❤may Allah give you what is the best for you 🥰

[@VixieShadowX_sngbrd_X]

@@aluvsyou1 Aww jzk! :D

[@Dualesinthecity]

This was so helpfull because im kind of lost at this moment. Your such a strong woman! Thanks for being here for us!

[@hautehijab]

I pray that you become stronger in your beliefs! Watch my Crisis of Faith Video - we all have those moments :) kzbin.info/www/bejne/oYe2aKeFnNCJha8

[@rosiestar9897]

This video was beautiful and beyond inspiring. Thank-you so much.

[@kulsoomahmad8791]

I just want to add for the sisters who are struggling with feeling judgement or isolation that they shouldn't feel like these impulses are only unique to them. Sometimes it feels like nobody else understands where you're coming from and it can be hard especially if you are still striving for self actualization and confidence when people around you seem to have it all together. Know that we all deal with days when we don't have it all together and might feel insecure in our commitment but we have to take strength in the fact that we are part of a sisterhood. It's important to reach out and confide in others - never feel like you'll be judged for your struggle. Mel your message is so important: use this clip as a way to build up your feelings of self esteem and power. Sister you are loved and you are part of a group of amazing women the world over who contribute to their societies and are valued regardless of their faith. Never worry about embarrassing your children- you are the source of their strength and their best example. Meet that ignorance and hate with love and a smile- explain to them that people are afraid and misinformed and it's their job to be the best example for others as well. Being representatives of our Ummah is a big responsibility but know that your sacrifice is a beautiful example for your kids and will mould their mentality. Last night the President stood in front of the world and presented a message of respect and commitment to our mutual values and proclaimed a woman to be the most qualified person to take this vision forward. He was speaking to and about the women of our Ummah as well MashaAllah.

[@shireenkaakarli1817]

This. I needed this. Thank you, Mel.

[@charismachichester1150]

Same

[@real.rearea7777]

I really want to wear a hijab to spread awareness, and to let muslim women who wear hijabs know that they shouldn’t be afraid to wear a hijab.

[@ChristenRobinson]

reagan.nnicely me too. As a black woman and Christian we wear head wraps, I’ve recently started wearing different scarves as hijabs to stand with my Muslim sisters. Enough is enough.

[@cookie4uc]

This video covers everything for everyone. Thank you. Subscribed!

[@NYC0808]

Sister you said it soo well! I thank Allah swt for giving me and maintaining my conviction! I pray for my brothers and sisters during these times!

[@barbarasunday3514]

I am a Christian , novice head coverer and student of religious and cultural diversity. I am genuinely saddened by alleged followers of Christ who participate in stereotype's and hate. Your devotion to your faith is to be greatly admired , and so is the wearing of hijab.

[@faryaarshad9846]

Thank you so much!

[@maryamtayeh4871]

So empowering and beautiful !

[@izzyb5093]

Thank you, ❤️love your videos & your topics so helpful for myself & people that may need this!! Keep up the amazing work may Allah continue to bless your path 🙏

[@hautehijab]

Ameen thank you! And may Allah (S) make things easy on you and give you the best of this dunya and akhira! Keep me in your du'as

[@loobylou5457]

JazakAllahkheir for this consolation. ❤

[@wafa3449]

Jazaki Allah for a great video and also for linking references, I truly appreciate it! Also, love HH products!

[@hautehijab]

Yay! Hope it was helpful and I'm glad you're part of the HH fam ;)

[@kathleenphillips2933]

Wow... this was amazing!! Suggestions... •transcribe this entire speech and print it on beautiful thick paper to sell on your site. •and/or put your main points on card stock to sell on your site. Perhaps even card stock with a picture frame backing so it will stand up in its own.

[@noraali7891]

Very well said .. Jazaki Allah kheir ... Much love from Canada ❤❤

[@hautehijab]

Aww, thank you so much Nora! ❤️

[@tracy7880]

People rly need to respect all religions. I'm Christian and I have been belittled also. Some Christian women wear coverings. Everything in moderation is good. When it becomes extreme is when there's a problem. God bless and prayers for peace for all.

[@narjesaldiwan76]

As a Muslim women who lives in Texas I’m actually really scared to wear my hijab to the point where I avoid going out , because I don’t want anyone to attack me or give me looks , plus my little sister gets bullied at school for it so me as an adult can’t take it I wonder how she feels , I honestly never plan on taking it off but lately it’s been a crossing thought but I just can’t imagine myself without that part of me my hijab is a big part of me and I love it but it’s just been a little bit scary lately and I don’t think I will ever take it off

[@labaccident2010]

I live in Houston and I’m going to revert soon and I’m scared to start wearing it at work. I know specifically some customers at my job who are very islamophobic and dealing with that scares me.

[@VixieShadowX_sngbrd_X]

the harder it is to wear your hijab the more ajr in endless jannah- this world feels long, but it isnt endless

[@LunarSystemJ]

I am a christian Hijabi, I wear it off and on interchangably between a triangle veil and the Hijab. I work in a customer service job for a grocery store and something I have noticed is that when I wear my Hijab to work I do get customers who will deliberately move from my line and go to another coworkers line only after they see the headscarf. I have also gotten Muslim men who would say a greeting to me in a language I did not recognize and then I had to awkwardly explain I am Christian and not Muslim and apologize for the awkwardness/confusion. A non-Muslim woman wearing the Hijab isn't as well known or accepted as it needs to be. Its also upsetting how Hijabis get very discriminated against due to peoples ignorance. Its really sad.

[@marcellocolona4980]

Learn a few Islamic greetings in Arabic so you understand and respond, this way you don’t have to offer any explanations, go with the flow.

[@mala9880]

A very beautiful, beneficial message its really fortify our faith and make us stand taller. Allah bless you and all of us with wisdom, discernment to become victorious to succeed everyday of our lives.

[@HaDealio]

Subhanaallah watching this in 2022 and many things are still true to this day.

[@prettymary85]

Beautiful. Well said.

[@SaraKhan-yn8xt]

wise words. I wish I had seen this before I started to wear hijab! it's helpful even now though, definitely. thanks melanie

[@bornonmoon4222]

I try reminding myself all what you said in this video because it's simply what anyone ( regardless where they're from) must do when they're constantly dealing with "bullying".

[@LeanOnPlants]

Gosh this resonates 🥺 I don’t wear the headscarf but so badly want do, but I’m scared

[@aceilshiha4854]

You are such an inspiration for every Muslim girl 👏 love you Mel ❤️

[@hautehijab]

So sweet of you, please keep me in your du'as!!

[@YourGirlsMusic]

Very, very beautifully and well said! I hope this encourages more sisters to wear hijab. May Allah swt reward you for this video

[@hautehijab]

Jazak Allahu khair

[@YourGirlsMusic]

Wa antum fajazak Allahu khayran ukthi

[@Afinemystery]

Mashallah Melanie. Thank you for this video.

[@selfishschism83]

Thank you!

[@rachelholloway3414]

Jazakallahier for sharing this and discussing this topic. I actually may be going to a job interview at the end of August and I was worried about my hijab. Insha'Allah I will never take it off but I was worried because being a convert, having a "white name" people have an image of me in their head, then when I show up in hijab I know its always awkward because I'm not what they were expecting. Thank you for giving me that confidence again :)

[@hautehijab]

It's my pleasure - how did the interview go??

[@bequietjungkook6214]

I am not Islam but I would like to wear a hijab I’m just not sure if my parents would allow it

[@ily8760]

I wish i could wear a hijab. Ive tried it before because of a friend but I'm non Muslim. I felt safe when I tried it and I feel it would be hugely disrespectful to wear one and not be muslim. Because for my people (native) our outfits (regalias) are often put on as costumes and our songs used to mock us and I would never want to be disrespectful

[@katzkmi]

Dear Melanie your words makes me feel stronger. I'm a young muslim woman that live in a country with big majority of christian people. In my city are only 6 muslim women. I want use hijab with all my soul but im very worried because is so difficult take a job wearing a hijab (and really need a job). Sometimes i feel alone, scared, weak, strange in a culture that don't understand our beliefs. (Fortunately here the people arent agressive yet) Now im so hopeful because i needed word like yours, the courage like yours. Now i'm not feel alone anymore. Thanks you a lot, really. May Allah rewards you.

[@LovelyHer774]

I'm Christian, and sometimes I feel out of place wearing my covering. I find more support in just this video. Thank you so much. 📖⚘

[@hautehijab]

Aw, I'm so happy to hear that. Thank you for watching ❤

[@LovelyHer774]

@@hautehijab You're absolutely welcome. ⚘

[@cynthiadorr4506]

Thank you so much for this beautiful video. It helped so much. Do you have any suggestions for looking for work? I live in California. Just took my Shahada a couple of weeks ago. I may be older but I'm not exactly used to this just yet. All this is new to me.

[@renrukachan]

As a Catholic. I see Islamic women, and my first thought is how strong and beautiful they are ... personally, I want to cover myself, want the world to see me as a follower of God, pious, respectful, but empowered. As my family is Italian, they were also discriminated against from the time they came here in the 1910's, all the way until the 80s, so loads of us from different races, cultures, colors, faiths, understand what its like to not be wanted. But you know, I'd rather be shunned or laughed covered up, then gaucked at and disrespected for wearing what seems to be the norm nowadays. So, my sisters in all faiths, all walks of life, be proud of who you are! And, if I see a sister being bullied.... well, this 6'0 woman has your back!!! ❤

[@otter_nerd4419]

I'm not a Muslim, heck I'm the bare minimal Christian if I had to label my faith. I'm scared to wear the head covering though, because I live with xenophobic people. I'm not afraid of people, literal strangers, staring at me because they already do for other reasons. I'm scared of the people I live with, because they are very all or nothing, and often insult me for the things I like or do. They often say that I am strange or weird and one of them goes out of his way to make me feel inferior and less than a person. He even goes as far as to use the word "woman" as an insult and likes going after my gender identity. I want to wear the hijab for modesty and security, not because of my faith, but I don't want to give this horrid man another reason to belittle me

[@TooBrokeToAffordCoffee]

I am new to Islam and am afraid to wear hijab because my family is quite a bit islamophobic. This video really helps, thank you so much!

[@AH-zd9iw]

I am a muslim and i live in England. I am only fourteen years old and live alone with my siblings who are also quite young and busy. As a result I've to go out alone. As you all know about the circumstances here i want to but I'm too scared to wear the hijab. Someone please give me an advice on what I should do. May Allah(SWT) bless us all.

[@khushbooJahanRiaz]

my hubby won't let me. , please help me I am a software engineer I love hijab so much, ......I started wearing....but he feels ....if wear hijab they shouldn't go out and can't engage socially, .....but wen I wore during my masters I felt so confident, hijab gives me.....focus even at home while studying if I wear hijab ND study I cab focus 100$...Allah o akbar.......tomorrow interview.......is der....I will wear hijab, ...pray for me, to present our Islam, I am software full stack Java developer staying in Fairfax Virginia, .........plz one more, where can I buy office muslimaah office wear, ND for my daily wear, like hijaabi classy, I am a software engineer, I want to represent my Islam to the best...I am proud to be Muslim, please help, where to shop, would really appreciate, ..........stylist....decent.........plz sister....Jazaakallaah khair again...😊😊😊😊😊 .....Your explanation is outstanding...Allah bless you so much....😃😃😃😃

[@glamrockchica7692]

I’m scared to wear a hijab is cause I don’t want to be disrespectful cause there a lot of rules like wearing long sleeves and long pants I don’t really have that much and I don’t know if that for mulism girls or full every one who wears hijab

[@hautehijab]

Salam! Thank you so much for reaching out! We just recently released a blog post about this! Hopefully its helpful to you! :) blog.hautehijab.com/post/ask-haute-hijab-is-it-okay-to-ease-into-wearing-hijab

[@Maryam-eb9ml]

I genuinely want to wear it but I feel pressure by my friend i know she means it in the best way and I have told her I need to take it slowly because I can’t just jump into wearing it. Makes me feel guilty and I do know I shouldn’t be questioning wether I should wear it or not, but there’s just something holding me back. I don’t know if it’s the fact that I might get judged which I shouldn’t care about but tbh I’m just confused.

[@HassanSaddouk-ls1pu]

Beautiful islam hijab my sister ❤❤❤❤

[@thf_]

Salam aleykom Melanie, Can i use this video with Spanish subtitles? Thank u. Ramadan Mubarak ☪️❣️

[@razazeltom9742]

I hope our roads cross and meet you one day..

[@misslaclaire4675]

salam, when will you be restocking the viscose woven wraps?

[@hautehijab]

They're in production right now! Hope to have them up on the website in the next 3-4 weeks :)

[@misslaclaire4675]

omg I'm so happy haha ive been checking the website everyday to see if you have them yet! I'm so getting every colour!!!! yay jazakallah khair :)

[@luthfisaleh3376]

Salam from indonesia

[@driouchben2846]

👍👍👍😍

[@mykiadozier2217]

I need help

[@ankra12]

Why do you wear hijab?

[@ttrdf]

Look, nowadays, the truth is bent, and that's not new. Hijab is right, do not lose perspective of that. That's what is right. Look what Allah (Sobhanahu wa taala) told us in the Qur'an 5:100.

[@newtunisia8512]

أختي الكريمة، إسمحيلي أن أنبّهك بأنّ الخمار يجب أن يُغطّي صدر المرأة أيضا وليس الرّأس فقط، وأنت خمارك يغطّي رأسك فقط ولا ينزل على صدرك ليغطّيه، حتى وإن كان صدرك ليس عاريا قال تعالى : ” وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَىٰ جُيُوبِهِنَّ“، (سورة النور - آية 31). يعني وليشددن على النحر والصّدر، فلا يُرى منهما شيئا، أي يجب أن يغطّي الخمار صدر المرأة أيضا علاوة على تغطية الرّأس والصّدغين والعنق، حتى في صورة ما إذا كان صدر المرأة مستورا بثوب ما وليس عاريا، فيجب إسدال الخمار على الصدر من فوق ذلك الثوب الذي في أغلب الأوقات لا يُخفي تماما مفاتن صدر المرأة من حيث الشكل والمظهر، سواء بسبب ضيقه أو شفافيّته باختصار شديد، يجب على المرأة المسلمة أن تغطي كامل جسمها، ما عدى وجهها ويديها الذان لم يفرض الله تغطيتهما. مع عدم ارتداء المرأة المسلمة اللباس الضيّق أو الشفاف مدّعية أنّها مستورة. هذا هو ما يُسمّى بارتداء الحجاب بالنسبة للمرأة المسلمة يجب على كلّ مسلمة تريد إسداء النصائح لغيرها من النّساء والفتياة أن تُعطي المثل الصّحيح عمّا يجب أن تكون عليه المرأة المسلمة، سواء من حيث اللّباس أو غيره، لكي لا تقتاد بها أخواتها بطريقة خاطئة وأستغفر الله لي ولك ولجميع المسلمين

[@Bee-we7nz]

هل فعلا لم يفرض الله تغطية الوجه :)) ما هو دليلك أخي الكريم؟