Have THIS Talk Before Making Her Your Girlfriend!

[@EntrepreneursInCars]

JOIN THE SCHOOL OF UNPLUGGING: www.skool.com/the-school-of-unplugging GET MY BOOK - "The Unplugged Alpha, The No Bullshit Guide To Winning With Women & Life:" amzn.to/3fIVW3J SUPPLEMENTS FOR MEN: theunpluggedalpha.com/collections/all-products VISIT MY WEBSITE: www.richcooper.ca/ AMAZON BOOKS & PRODUCTS I ENDORSE FOR MEN: www.amazon.com/shop/influencer-a03634c5 JOIN MY PRIVATE COMMUNITY: You get exclusive premium videos, my private Facebook community & MUCH more, start here: www.entrepreneursincars.com/community REQUEST A VIDEO TOPIC: entrepreneursincars.com/request GET ON MY EMAIL LIST & RECEIVE A FREE CHAPTER FROM MY BOOK ON 20 RED FLAGS TO AVOID WITH WOMEN: entrepreneursincars.com/red-flags/

[@mikey92362]

Here's my 2 part test ... Part 1) When they step over a boundary and do something hurtful or disrespectful, call them out on it and see how they react. If they shift the blame to you or to anything else, she's gone. Of she makes excuses. She's gone. But if she takes accountability, admits to the mistake, genuinely understands why it's a boundary for you and doesn't diminish its importance, and if she vocalizes the specific steps she'll take to keep it from happening again, then you probably have a keeper. Part 2) No fatties. :)

[@gmmakesmehurl]

Lol you don't have the equipment to handle the fatties, bro.

[@omarrahman88]

@@mikey92362 explain part 2 a bit more…

[@bolotabr12]

@@mikey92362 Mind games

[@honor9lite1337]

Really? Accountability? on women?!!

[@mikey92362]

@@honor9lite1337 Well I will admit that none have passed the test so far. I guess the part 2 of my system isn't really needed. LOL

[@robertd1500]

"No body bangs more wives and girlfriends than 'he's just a friend'" -Rich Cooper

[@retroloungemusic]

lol, if a woman says she has guy friends that she sees, I tell her I have girl friends that I see. I just do the same thing she does.

[@johnqlunchbucket]

I was a professional friend, and he's absolutely right. It was my best angle for more tail than I could handle.

[@whocarescrapsa]

Agreed. #2. I won't touch anyone who posts provocative photos on social media to start with. Not sure you can change someone who needs constant external validation. Save yourself the "I was this way when you met me" arguments.

[@eskanda3434]

yup its w red flag from the start

[@james6846]

The classic, on vacation in a bikini, ass and tits exposed photo.

[@visaman]

Not even when you paid them? 😂

[@james6846]

@@visaman do you try to have relationships with the girls you pay for?

[@visaman]

@@james6846 I'm not complaining.

[@automan1223]

Out of all the things that Rich has said #1 thing is genuine burning desire. Hands down the most important thing .

[@michaellennon1929]

Just today I ended the relationship with my “girlfriend” after four months because she refused to give up her “friendship” with her ex-boyfriend.

[@sali32123]

@@michaellennon1929 whe wasn't yours. It was just your turn. Feel sorry for you. Hope you will find some good girl. And about her ex, well... I would not be happy if I would be him.

[@mcbraveheart13]

@michaellennon1929 wise move bro! Get get another one- but they're all fupped up!!

[@castanedaalfredo9217]

Now you can be her "friend" too

[@rebaonemokone1334]

Good job bro. You can't be friends with your ex while in a relationship. She just showed that she values her friendship with her ex over a relationship with you. That says it all.

[@Pollacek40]

Bravo

[@Sergio_Loureiro]

I wish I had this advice 20 years ago.

[@aeggeska1]

share it with your nephews, and other young men you know

[@epicepicenter715]

@@Sergio_Loureiro it's not too late to get revenge

[@visaman]

​@@epicepicenter715revenge? 😂

[@Steve_Gambley]

we, men, age like wine. we can still hook sum chicks dw abt it.

[@TomilloT]

@@Sergio_Loureiro I’m in the same situation, I wish I would have known this 20 years ago

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*Having an open, honest conversation about expectations, boundaries, and future goals is crucial before committing to a relationship.*

[@scu2r]

When women constantly keep bringing up their Ex's in conversation....major red flag.

[@RevealedFilms]

Not really. Tells me he’s still seeing her, in which case I don’t take her seriously.

[@FreedomRider-id6yv]

It’s not a matter of “don’t let her” go on a girls trip…..you don’t own her like a car….it’s a matter of “go ahead, have a good time….I won’t be here when you get back”.

[@DoritoWorldOrder]

Yes, boundaries are not about controlling other people; it's about knowing in advance what you intend to do *yourself* in response to certain behavior that you find unacceptable and living with integrity to your own standards.

[@PaulB-q3d]

Orrrrrrrrr as said here, establish it at the beginning when the perfect opportunity arises

[@moneylineparlay105]

Genuine burning desire is a major cope, 95 percent of men will NEVER experience that even after self improvement

[@panos7256]

That's not true. I have experienced it many times, the problem is that it is fleeting unless you have been her best option in her life and you hold frame like a spartan. It is a journey, learn and apply, don't give up.

[@DoritoWorldOrder]

I think what he means is that they'll never experience it from any woman they'd be truly interested in committing to. An average guy who builds himself up, takes care of his physique, and achieves even middling success can definitely find genuine burning desire if they're willing to scrape the bottom of the barrel and date way downwards in terms of attractiveness / weight / intellect / social class. In fact this is exactly what a great many men do in order to achieve lasting marriages and stable family structures - they give up on chasing women who elevate their status while walking into a room together or fulfill their porn fantasies in the bedroom, and settle for someone who's less impressive albeit loyal and appreciative because they have enough self awareness to recognize how limited their own options are and feel a sense of dread at losing their boyfriend/husband. If you talk to a great many older men with successful marriages, the cottage wisdom is that you'll be well served by choosing a humble and homely wife who actually enjoys being a wife and mother and working in the home, and appreciates the man who enables her to do that as a provider for the family. The genuine burning desire will fade given time even with women like these as you both age, have children, and grow accustomed to decades of routine home life, but at least it will have been genuine rather than a manipulative performance aimed at extracting more than she ever intended to give in return. Don't be Icarus. Marriages and families are not about maximizing your own gratification as one of the parents, they're about bringing kids into the world and giving them a stable environment to develop and thrive within so they become strong and mentally healthy adults who are capable of keeping society going and pursuing their own healthy relationships when they become adults. Healing is a multigenerational process and the world is very sick.

[@neckutter]

@@moneylineparlay105 so I should feel really special that my ex wife(14 years together), baby momma(6 years together) and my ExGf (2 years) were all obsessed with me sexually and emotionally?

[@jamesg1974a]

Strippers, bouncers, anyone else in the club scene can tell you the same story whether it’s cheating all the way, grinding on some guy on the Dancefloor, flirting with guys for drinks… The story is always the same. Women will tell you they’re different but they’re not. There’s too many stories of how they’re the same to overlook.

[@dunbustin]

Being a bouncer must be a more interesting job than I realised!

[@TheSouth-j7f]

@@dunbustin They see a lot of stuff that goes on.

[@LadiboiJoy]

@@jamesg1974a words are tools to scam men...words are weaponized by women and politicians

[@ChrisTurnbull-p3f]

@@jamesg1974a I’ve worked as a bouncer for 35 years, DO NOT let a woman you’re invested in go on girls holidays, holidays on her own, girls nights out, stripper nights etc. DON’T TOLERATE IT.

[@rene-rv6pp]

Girls are all party girls. Some way or another. They take a time to show themselves

[@Reve14twelve]

A marriage counseling couple told me that you cannot have a solid relationship when social media is involved

[@Jondsmusic]

Great talk as usual good sir! One of the things I’ve learned over the years when it comes to women: 1.) when they approach you talking about random stuff, it’s a lead in to talk to you because they’re interested and are hiding under the guise of random talk. 2.) beautiful things don’t ask for attention!

[@matthewhernandez8342]

Solid advice Rich

[@stevestruthers6180]

One thing that protects me from all of this bullshit is that I am pretty ugly and can't really attract anyone.

[@blackpillcommando4927]

you look quite good actually if that's your pic. friendly face

[@KnightEnterprises]

Beauty and the beast is most girls’ favorite movie.

[@map3384]

I’m 58. When I was young girls in middle school were sleeping with high school guys. High school girls were sleep with guys in their 20s. I’m pretty sure nothing has changed. Maybe it’s even more prevalent today. My wife’s high school friend bragged to us when we were out drinking one night at a bar that at 16 she wanted to prove she could get a hot married guy to sleep with her and she did. It was to build her confidence and it did. She was no different than any other girl. So that being said how are any of today’s girls worth dating? They’ve all collected at least 5-10 bodies by the time she’s 18. Then add on college years.

[@retroloungemusic]

.....and guys wonder why the divorce rate is so high. They are all marrying 304s.

[@keysersoze5646]

If it is only 5-10 by the age of 18....that is good...but real numbers are way higher.

[@neckutter]

College years is minimum 1 body per month for a woman

[@larahuffmaster5857]

Sad

[@mcbraveheart13]

Posting on social media = a HUGE red flag. By definition, she's caught up in teasing guys. Morality aside- she's got a problem.

[@visaman]

Social media has been around for 25 years, even Grandma's are on Facebook.

[@james6846]

@@visaman the difference is grandma is posting pictures of her grandkids and recepies. The girl with the red flags is posting bikini pics of herself. HUGE difference

[@Gumshoe88]

if she’s posting on social media, she’s seeking or needing the attention that you will NEVER be able to match or give her. walk away.

[@andre3k658]

@@james6846 yea I had to break up with my girl when she decided to post a bikini pic showin off her cheeks. She cried apologizing and took it down after realizing it upset me but she knew my boundary and still posted it. It’s the principle 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@retroloungemusic]

oh yeah. You can take that one to the bank.

[@Armored_Saint]

All I've got is a Photograph. ~ Def Leppard (1983)

[@tomlambert915]

It's called courting, and it's still in fashion for people with self respect.

[@jdek88]

I look very deep into who she hangs around with and what they're like. They always expose themselves. If she's with wild/crazy friends or friends that have major red flags, it's only a matter of time they're going to bring your girl down with them. Also if she brings up the "where do we stand" talk, I ask her why she wants a serious relationship and what it means to her. More specifically, what role she expects to play, why she wants me, what she expects of me, why she thinks I like her, etc. All this stuff is worth getting out sooner rather than later. It seems a little over the top, but then we have a very clear reference point of at least a baseline of expectations for the relationship.

[@retroloungemusic]

Birds of a feather.

[@kevinkurgansky4479]

Nicely said. I like this. I’m going to adopt this. Thank you for sharing. Is there anything else? It’s always difficult for me to figure out if women genuinely want me or if they just want a relationship. I purposely do not give them a relationship to see if they use that as a means of ending the relationship. If so, I know she was after the thing that would make her feel like the lead female star in her own romantic comedy casting for whatever male lead role would turn her into a Disney princess that was worth being chosen by somebody. Most females say they want a relationship. I’m convinced they want the relationship more than they want the guy. I ask them questions when they get upset I’m not giving it to them and have them reflect on whether or not THEY themselves even know if I’m truly even the right option for them based on what they want in a partner. Usually it has more to do with them wanting to feel like the that the relationship has the potential of going somewhere and that they are worthy of being chosen as opposed to them actually knowing and/or believing that I am even the right option for them. It’s always a hilarious eureka moment to see them wake up. Telling them I don’t want kids is a great way to get them to stop wanting more from me. But some will say they’re not sure they want them either. But then when someone comes along and runs the marriage and kids script on em, sometimes they will leave to explore that potentiality. Sometimes it’s permanent and they get married. Often times they just feel dumb for falling for another one of those romantic carousels and leaving a guy who they liked more just because the other guy presented an offer that their ego wanted more. As men, we should have ways of testing women to figure out what their real motive and agenda is. And it’s not what they say. How do you weed through their answers to those questions and determine what you do next? Obviously getting those questions answered is helpful. But what do you say next? Esp if they’re trying to figure out “what you are”?

[@jdek88]

@@kevinkurgansky4479 I definitely agree that you take their words with a grain of salt, until she has really proven to you her words mean something to here. Think of all the “words” woman have said through wedding vows in front of all their friends and family, just for them to leave because they’re “not happy”. So yes, it’s all about actions. To answer your question on what you say after she answers those questions… I usually share my baseline expectations, how I do things, etc. Lay the ground rules essentially… but not in a weird way. So I don’t say “I don’t allow you to do this”, but I do say “I don’t think woman seriously who do this”. Frame it all as standards/expectations, not rules. And then ultimately you’ll have to make a decision if you want to be in a relationship with her. There’s always a level of risk of course. But always watch her actions and if she appears to be slipping in her role, say something sooner rather than later

[@larahuffmaster5857]

​@@kevinkurgansky4479sounds like you're just going to keep going through women.

[@Lynn-dx9gj]

Agreed on these points - but it goes both ways with point #2: Girl doesn't post provocative photos on social media, and guy doesn't seek OUT provocative photos on social media (or wherever), if ya know what I mean! No room for that (intensely hurtful, all-around harmful behaviour) in a "committed relationship".

[@GT-ww]

Rich have you released any videos on physical abuse from women….most men remain in silence about this topic. Whether this will reach people, it’s a real thing.

[@samuraisaint2360]

I have told past gf”s who wanted to goto the night club for a girls night out , No” why would i let my gf back her sweaty ass up on some random drunk dude on a dance floor

[@snapkrr]

@@samuraisaint2360 why you dating a girl who wants to do that

[@ZOMBiEmovieHD]

If you have to tell her 'no,' it's a red flag. A woman who's into you wouldn't want to put herself in that kind of environment to get tempted, let alone risk being seen as low value in her man's eyes through her actions.

[@edhog]

Master mode is your girl knowing that you wouldn’t approve and she doesn’t entertain the idea of going and you don’t even have to have to conversation

[@samuraisaint2360]

@@edhog definitely easier to do with a mid girl then a 9

[@edhog]

@@samuraisaint2360 got a 8.5 on a bad day for an LTR, demure, kind, feminine, does everything and more. Recently told me she feels like she’s walking on egg shells.. my voice “baby, you’re doing all the things, what we have is amazing ect” my inner monologue “you are walking on egg shells”. If she suggested that she’d even entertain the idea of acting like a 3o4 she’d be gone so fast she wouldn’t know what happened. I’m a 35 year old body builder that owes several companies, in sales, have great network, beautiful home friends and family. She wants these things so she does what’s right for the relationship. I have options, she knows it, keeps everyone moving in the correct direction - It’s easy math.

[@ShadeTreeKennyT]

Great video Rich, hundred percent agree. I have to add lies to this list. If you've caught her lying, it's a no go.

[@erichanselman8970]

Well. I actually implemented these with my gf of 4 years. And still I wasn't vigilant enough. She somehow 'fell in love' with a coworker she just met in the last 6 months. We were 'happy' and 2 weeks later she's moved out and now dating/living with this guy at her new apartment. Guys...I knew something was up. She kept telling me things were fine. She was always, always, always on her phone. I thought watching cat videos. I now know.....that was wrong.

[@charlesdavid-p1y]

This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here.

[@DianaJovita]

The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 8-year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.

[@charlesdavid-p1y]

Incredible! Where did you find a spiritual counselor.

[@DianaJovita]

Suzanne Ann Walters is the name of an exceptional spiritual counselor renowned for her ability to reunite you with your former partner.

[@charlesdavid-p1y]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@retrogamer82]

Stop spamming bot

[@phph2261]

American life style is pretty family degrading

[@dunbustin]

That is just the outside perspective. It is in fact very family oriented.

[@starguy2718]

@@dunbustin Divorce statistics point in a different direction.

[@Insight-music]

@@dunbustin bro wym family values been declining over 50yrs

[@DamazViccar]

Same in Europe. It’s just feminism ruining everything, really.

[@retroloungemusic]

lol, yes it is. I see mom's with children walking around in skin tight workout pants that show more than working girls used to, just a couple of decades ago. Mom's on their phones all day. Who are they DM'ing? Probably all the guys I know sleeping with married women. We have crashed morally. You have to be insane to get married in the US today.

[@softenerguy]

My last relationship I used this strategy and she did ask the big question where do we stand. She was the type who liked her alcohol and dance floor flirting so I simply said I wasn't going to tolerate that and it was her choice. She did oblige but then the fun ran out after 8 months and we both moved along. It was a fun time so I can't say don't date but watch yourselves fellas, Rich is the best advice you'll ever find.

[@DEBTFREEMIKE769]

In all of my relationships, I’ve never had one ask me where we stand. Maybe, I need to wait until next time before I ask.

[@DamazViccar]

If you are chill and do not make them feel insecure, they don’t. Their sense of security comes from the expectation of being able to swing to a higher branch than yours.

[@liverfailure1597]

Same. They all just...evolved

[@drvee1983]

I think I'm paraphrasing this but here goes... " Being in love is a temporary case of mutual insanity." Kurt Vonnegut " Don't confuse great sex with love." Me

[@howdythere3121]

If you really want find a woman who will be devoted and trustworthy go to church and find a true Christian lady. Modesty, humility, kindness and faithfulness is what every honorable man deserves. Blessings to you all!

[@milesharris1893]

Better yet just don't make her your girlfriend. Just dont

[@Redpill_to_MGTOW]

The best...and ONLY... answer worth anything here!!

[@bolotabr12]

Yeah just use her… like men have done that for centuries 😅

[@petertosh4748]

@bolotabr12 They are strictly for entertainment only. I love the where are we talk, usually happens at about 3 months..

[@suebotchie4167]

@petertosh4748 enjoy the hot recreation while you can (hell is hot, and never ends).

[@CaptainAhab-im3kd]

@@petertosh4748 Ask her right then does she expect to be able to do the same things while being your girlfriend as she does when she is not your girlfriend? If she says no, then ask her what it is that she does now that she will no longer do. If she says she can't think of anything, tell her that is not the right answer and because of this, she cannot be your girlfriend.

[@wojak101]

Thank you my brother from another mother

[@tetedur377]

Since the typical relationship only lasts 8 years, why even bother? Protect yourself at all times; stay single.

[@tynubernard]

You can have them and in beautiful packed but just use them like they are , invest in you and attract them , don’t marry them , cut your losses at the beginning, as a man you will pay for sex no matter what, it don’t mean you must loose your house 😂

[@SnoopyReads]

Because the whole point of being a man is to pass along your DNA, that's your legacy, don't let fear stop you from fulfilling your destiny

[@sebastienseb919]

@@SnoopyReads it's not fear, it's peace.

[@SnoopyReads]

@@sebastienseb919 that's cope, it's fear of rejection, loss and failure. I know these from experience, I have 3 kids and I wouldn't trade them for all the peace in the world. You can't protect yourself from struggle in life, best to embrace it

[@alex_rpm]

@@tetedur377 single is avoiding attachment bro

[@dermotosullivan3065]

You shouldn't be dating her in the first place if she is posting sexy photos of herself online - even if she promises to stop.

[@visaman]

What if that's how she makes a living?

[@andre3k658]

Yea she’ll just hide it better

[@retroloungemusic]

lol. Absolutely.

[@retroloungemusic]

@@visaman Shouldn't be dating her. Just be hitting it, like everybody else.

[@ianlinares333]

I would add on the importance to keep the bedroom alive...too often they consider this is not needed anymore after they get the commitment

[@edhog]

@@ianlinares333 making the request doesn’t work. You need to keep yourself shape and killing it you’ll get as much as you want. I had a buddy recently that came to his gf saying “we aren’t doing it enough” ended up with even less action. The reason being is the relationship isn’t in his frame anymore. If you hold frame and you’re the best option you’ll be serviced, pretty simple. Anything less you’re the spreadsheet dude.

[@LadyJane222]

Lol…Men are like that too! I’ve been in relationships where the guy is less interested in bedroom activities than myself after being together for a few years.🤷‍♀️

[@edhog]

@@LadyJane222 Ive experienced this before. The woman I with now has as high as SD as me. She’s constantly surprising me with fancy outfits, random acts in the house and sometimes in public, think parking garage or side of the highway. She’s a smoke show and so it’s always very welcome. Also absolutely nothing is off limits. May I ask if there was limiting factors that might have caused the men you were with to loose interest?

[@Maynardd]

This is number one in my book.

[@mcbraveheart13]

Girl trips- EXACTLY 💯 %. GIRLS are working on improving their notch count. Huge red flag!

[@JohnnysWorld777]

Social media is such a waste. It dumbs you down. I don't even bother with Facebook/Meta.

[@Momoney1G]

❤you dawg keep going 💪🏾

[@Kenny-d7u]

Out of all red pill content Rich Cooper setting frame before you give her gf status might be the most important piece to the puzzle. If you don't have a strong foundation you might have a deck of cards.

[@roccocarlino067]

Guys, just forget the whole woman thing and become a self-sovereign. You may find a good woman, however, she will ALWAYS change in time....

[@Elephantintheroom-t9i]

It’s so true I’ve been there… they’ll tell you everything Rich is proposing.. like an Academy award actress …and then as soon as you put that ring on their finger, things will begin to CHANGE.… it’ll start with little things here and there- I call it; the banana peel tactic- one layer at a time. _”Why are you doing that? Why do you have to do it that way can’t you do it this way? I’m tired of going there. Can’t we go here? I need you to blah blah blah. No I wanna talk about it now. I just don’t like the way you moved your head. I didn’t like the way your nose twitched. I don’t like the way your eyebrow went up. I saw you speaking to her, I saw the way you looked at her, I don’t like blah blah, blah blah blah”._ I don’t give a darn if _🎵she’s the sweetest prettiest apple pie, that grew up with two wonderful parents!🎶_ (from whatever culture) Once that ring goes on her finger, things WILL start to CHANGE --just as day turns in to night. And Rich KNOWS that…

[@samrapheal1828]

@@Elephantintheroom-t9i Correctamondo maximus (*.^)

[@lesgibson969]

That's interesting. The dude says it is okay for her to post provocative photos before you. But as a Turkish guy, I'd never take a girl seriously if she has ever posted a provocative photo on social media where she shows lots of skin.

[@mcbraveheart13]

Rich- you hit it out of the park! Again!!

[@sloanmagnum5009]

And yet the unfortunate irony is that most men, no matter how schooled they are on bad women, will absolutely disregard everything he's learned in favor of a "hot chick" showing him attention. He will then suffer and complain and come running back to these red pill channels wondering where it all went wrong. On the off chance, he does cut it off with a woman considered bad or toxic and she's attractive to him, he will most likely think of her often, even possibly sacrificing any good relationship he has with a decent woman in order to keep up with what the attractive woman is doing that he let go. I've seen this countless times.

[@ndhtyu]

bullshit and you know it; once seen it can't be unseen

[@hpaulbryant729]

Applying the three questions to my very long distance relationship. (1) The important men in her life are family. (2) She hired a guy to drive us around when I was in town. This is normal for us. While he did not do anything improper, he would have if he could have. After several visits, I mentioned he was not providing good service for the price. She agreed. He was gone. I do not worry about her wanting to keep a male friend who is ready to step into my shoes. (3) She dresses conservatively, values her privacy and does not post any photos on social media. Yes. I had to travel ouside the U.S. to find the best woman for me. It's been three years, there are no red flags and I we are generally happy and laughing when we spend time together.

[@Icarianbrother]

Thinking about a woman having "genuine burning desire" as if it were a permanent condition makes no sense. it is a temporary condition. A man may have some influence over the length of that temporary condition, but it still remains a temporary condition. People that say otherwise either lack life experience or they are deliberately misleading men.

[@tylerc4541]

@@Icarianbrother rich addresses this in another video and says to live apart permanently to keep the desire going. Even after kids

[@bobhill4364]

​@@tylerc4541lol that's wild

[@Insight-music]

If y’all spend too much time together being attached and codependent in the beginning it will drain out all the genuine desire. Yal gotta live your own separate lives and then bond together with more longing to see each other. I can’t stand when guys are ALWAYS with their gfs. Like dudes forget who they are, can’t even make time for nights with just the bros only

[@kingsnorkie]

Exactly and it works both ways, you're not guna fuck your woman after year five as you did in year one.

[@MikeG82]

@@tylerc4541 no woman would ever agree to that, if she has true burning desire she will constantly talk marriage also true burning desire is not realistic for most men because you need to be tall, handsome, well endowed and probably wealthy too, most guys lack at least one or all of these qualities

[@dynamicsoulslayer]

When you wait for the gal to ask "where she stands" it could mean you have the leverage or she may be monkey branching. Just have whatever personal boundaries that make you feel secure in a LTR prepared for this event and clearly understood by her when it happens. She will either become masculine and disrespect with abundance or feminine and submit for fear of missing out. There will still be bs that happens and with the new bs comes new boundaries and new found respect. But with great masculinity and leadership that FOMO will always be with her and the relationship gets more secure as time passes and the boundaries will be respected unconditionally.

[@mdhazeldine]

Not to be controversial, but this is bad advice. You shouldn't even be getting this far with women who do these kinds of things. If you want to sleep around with women like this, then that's up to you, but don't go thinking you can convert someone who does these things into a long term life partner by just telling them they need to stop doing these things for you. Trying to change someone never works. These things should be on your red flags list (if they're not already) and you should just avoid women like this full stop.

[@Adrian-zu6tm]

sorry pal but it's actually great advice unless you're a boomer. millennial and gen z men needs this advice as 99% of the the women we deal with have a presence in social media in one way or another

[@mdhazeldine]

@@Adrian-zu6tm there's a vast difference between having "some presence" on social media and posting photos of your arse and tits. Use some common sense.

[@scrocrates6380]

Having social media and posting thirst traps are different. I agree with your point. You can't change who she is.

[@visaman]

So, do you only date nuns?

[@mdhazeldine]

@@visaman lol. You're so hilarious. I don't mind a woman who has an IG account with a few hundred or maybe up to a couple of thousand followers, but if there are multiple photos of her wearing revealing outfits or bikinis, it would be a red flag for me and I probably just wouldn't go on a date with them because I know it would become a point of contention down the road. A woman who does that is an attention seeker and probably promiscuous. Not for me thanks. There are plenty of better options out there.

[@BM-qc6ds]

1989 Biz Markie told us all about how "she says he's just a friend"! LOL

[@a.booyaah8498]

Oh snap! Guess what I saw?

[@BM-qc6ds]

@@a.booyaah8498 🤣🤣🤣

[@retroloungemusic]

I stopped going for that line decades ago. That is the biggest lie in the world. It's also the cockiest.

[@ogbg7128]

This info is solid gold

[@MuhGlassRibs]

I never mind girls trips. I've learned over the years, you can be with a woman for 23 hours and 59 minutes in a day, but if she has a desire to cheat, she will use that minute to do so. Don't pollute your mind wondering is a woman is cheating on you. work on yourself consistently.

[@RobertAlexanderParraCiro]

@@MuhGlassRibs No my man, not all the women are like that perhaps you choose the same type of toxic woman with that kind of nasty and disloyal behaviour, there are wonderful women truly committed and loyal with their men but maybe that kind of women are boring for you. During all my life I’ve meet a lot of women and I never took seriously for a relationship those who likes party a lot , has a lot male friends and show constant themselves on social media yheeap they are hot but not for a relationship, I’m currently in a long relationship with a Belarus woman, what a difference!!! totally opposite of those toxic women and she is super pretty.

[@MuhGlassRibs]

@RobertAlexanderParraCiro bro I never said I'm into toxic women. all I said that if a woman has an intention to cheat, she will. if you work on yourself and continue to be the strong man that she fell in love with, she may not wander. do you understand?

[@DamazViccar]

@@MuhGlassRibs “May” not wander. Work on yourself is precursor to serotonin; her brain is hooked on dopamine.

[@seannews]

@@MuhGlassRibs I agree with you

[@HenrySomeone]

Better yet - avoid all and any long term relationships entirely! I know channels like this wouldn't be able to create much more content if they placed this ultimate truth at the top spot, but that is exactly what it is - by far the best way to conduct life as a man in the modern world, whether you like it or not.

[@reaperjesse1210]

I agree with the 3 points. My question is.. does this go the other way too? I ask because I do have female friends who I know that I would never go past the friendship stage with.

[@janespitfire9884]

Thank you.... giving this good data to my son!

[@iggs67]

I'd say if she is doing all those things while being in relationship with you and even willing to stop if you commit, dump her. Once she gets your commitment, she'll start doing it again in secret.

[@GBU61]

If she would come to me with that question my first response would be to ask why? If things are going well why mess it up? I would tell her we can see where it goes but I would never allow the state to get involved in my romantic life. I would further emphasize that marriage is not and never will be an option. If she truly cares about me then she will agree. There is no way I will ever allow the state to destroy me when a few years down the road, she decides “she is not happy.” I would agree to a cohabitation agreement and if she stays with me for years I will make sure she will be financially rewarded because she will have earned it. It is the 21st century, men have to get up to speed on what modern relationships are now.

[@kevinkurgansky4479]

can you help me understand what the purpose of a cohabitation agreement is or what it would cover as well as what you mean by if she stays with you shes rewarded? like almost earned equity over time and shes paid but only if she stays? not for in the event of a separation? how much would you recommend setting for something like this? (as a range), i know it will vary. and is this an alternative when having teh marriage convo so that it gives her something (ie: an offer) vs no marriage and no offer. if so, thats smart. is it a lump sum at the end? or paid along the way? and what kind of timeline would you put on it? 5 years? 10 years? 10-20? 20+? first time hearing this. but find it super fascinating. agree with all your prior points stoo but never found a good solution for it.

[@paulwerdak5888]

Great video of info Rich Cooper.

[@oq17]

Rich - it might be best to Not even pursue a women who is in the habit of posting provocative photos rather then asking them to stop . If they are of this nature , I don’t think they can be “untrained “ Best to find a good woman from the start and not bank on them giving up old habits

[@landojr2383]

Women dont respect most guys enough to even adhere to these 3 requirements some guys can pull this off im sure but most women would either get offended and leave you alone or ghost you

[@giovannipantorno884]

I had a women ask where we stand. I found she was still in contact with an ex bf. I said cut him off and less than 2 weeks later she moved on from me. So please it don't always worth having these conversations. 10 months seeing her spent down the drain.

[@LarryKippings]

Sounds like a nasty disrespect woman you were dating there. Bullet dodged.

[@TC-yx1qt]

She proved her ex bf was more important than you, why you mad bro lol? She saved you...

[@matthewdimarcantonio4627]

Great wisdom has been shared

[@fruitloops3718]

Great analogy on the beautiful car in the garage

[@countzacula0121]

Men are better off going monk mode. As a natural loner; I live a drama free life of lifting weights, martial arts, going on long 🚴 rides, drawing, painting, skateboarding. Too many disloyal/untrustworthy folks out there. I’m good though lol, just stay outta my way.

[@bfestudios6677]

I agree bro. Monk mode is a blessing. Stress free living. Improve yourself by working out, proper dieting, get your finances in order and meditation. Calm your mind 🧘🏾‍♂️

[@Insight-music]

Even if I do end up married with kids. Monk mode is the final result of my life. I’ll take a vow of permanent celibacy once I feel I’ve accomplished the family thing, and spend the remaining few decades in deep meditation and inner peace

[@DavidW-ux2gc]

I made a horrendous error in asking a plate/oneitis to be my gf back in July. I learned a lot from the experience as she lost a lot of attraction after that.

[@costafilh0]

I agree with all the points, but I completely disagree that this is a conversation you need to have. This attitude and way of living has to be part of her character from the beginning, even before she met you. Trying to force her is useless in the long run and will only work in your head and for appearances if you are trying to extend a failed relationship for the benefits it brings. For me, a serious relationship with someone like this is just a waste of time, time that you could be spending on yourself and with someone better.

[@pioneeratheart6496]

I agree with all points here. In this day and age it's best to be smart about it. If she asks "What are we" she will comply and she will make it her idea if she's given the space to do so. No need to get bossy. Let it be her idea, she'll come through.

[@kurt6410]

I kinda disagree with you, Rich. A woman who has GBD for you is going to do these things without you having to ask. If you have to ask her not to have guy friends, to stop posting spicy pics, and to stop taking girls' trips, then I doubt she has GBD for you

[@TC-yx1qt]

This is true. That's when she gives you the talk, you ask her what she feels is the right way to move in a relationship as a female, and she'll tell you everything you need to know

[@tyronejoihnson7046]

CN she get down and serve. No talk needed!

[@TheAdditionalPylons]

Unfortunately lots of women will hear these terms, say "ok" and just proceed as normal while attempting to hide it better. If a girl has bikini pics on Insta, has 27 exes/orbiters, and goes to cancun every year, and then says "So, what are we??" my answer is going to be a "Fuck Buddies". Ain't no damn way I'm going to take her seriously. She can agree to whatever terms I lay out or not, she's not GF material.

[@softenerguy]

Guys if you remember anything from Rich, this is gold.

[@derek7959]

It doesnt matter what it is, looks, money, lifestyle, security, once a women has locked down a guy with any quality he provides she resets her standards. What ever the guy is providing becomes her new norm and a minimum standard. She might have burning desire coz of his looks or frame but five minutes later she is looking for someone better. This is Hypergamy. It never stops. "She's not yours its just your turn!"

[@mikaeltsimbidakis6980]

LOL

[@mikaeltsimbidakis6980]

LOL

[@retrogamer82]

“Just a friend” by Biz Markie explains everything

[@michaeloconner9677]

Hey Rich, just recently discovered your channel and have already learned a lot about women and masculinity, so thanks for the content. I''ve gone back and watched some of your earlier videos and I noticed that you wear this green denim jacket quite a bit. That jacket is masculine A.F. and I want one! Where did you get that?

[@coreykleinman7902]

You should know by now that Rich doesn't respond to comments. If you want access to him, you need to join his mens community

[@Adakataba]

Very cool video A month ago, I ended a five-year relationship. My soulmate made the decision to walk away from me, and even though I've done everything in my power to get him back, I can't help but feel disappointed because I can't see my life with anyone else. I want to say that I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I simply can't. I miss him so much and I don't know why I'm saying this here.

[@Mia1827]

I learnt the hard way that saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult when a 12-year relationship ends. But I was unable to let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counsellor, and he was able to assist me in getting him back.

[@Adakataba]

Interesting-sounding! How can I most efficiently get in contact with a spiritual counsellor that you recommended?

[@Mia1827]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Mia1827]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@Adakataba]

I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤

[@agoogleuseranonymous2658]

He has a point. A high quality woman who is looking for something serious won't just keep random dudes hanging around ...

[@skatedd2451]

I would rather choose to walk away much safer deal..... I have much more important thing to do that will make me happy

[@cintroberts6614]

The first thing I say is if cheat on me we are done..And then if they do that I follow through by ending the relationship, if you take her back she will lose respect for you.

[@samstan4462]

Having dealt with the "ex" issue twice in the past few years i now address it quickly when starting out with a chick who i like...unless of course i just see her as a short term fling.

[@timr7067]

I agree with 99% of what you say. The “you can’t have any male friends” part is a bit strange. To be dating someone for 2 months and then to tell them to cut ties with someone they have known for 20 years.. I would never expect someone to do that and would respect her less if she did

[@LK-qz7eh]

And men always have exes/ female friends lingering too. Most women won’t cut off their male friends so good luck with that one. If you want a woman that’s going to do all those things that Rich is suggesting you won’t find it in US. Better to find this type of submissive women in another country. It’s also pretty pathetic for a woman to ask “where do we stand?” If a woman is a catch she will never ask that. Men are territorial especially if he’s sleeping with her and men don’t want to share. They will be asking that “where do we stand” question long before the woman does.

[@lynnflynn5591]

As a woman, I'd struggle with the no girl's trips. My female friends and I go on co-ed religious retreats and pilgrimages with church groups. We ladies take out of state road trips to quaint towns for antique shopping. Prohibiting girls' trips is going too far.

[@brianwhite6718]

You haven't talked about PRENUP ! How and when to say? (My ex left me pregnant, because I asked her to sign a prenup).

[@jonc8179]

I'm 63 now and I've been a "friend" to more than I can remember. It's just how it is; I discovered the reality by accident when I was 16. There has been a lot of Karma to work through but a couple years ago I started making it clear I'm no longer interested in being that kind of friend. Most modern women are nuts and if you listen carefully they will tell you just how unhinged they truly are!

[@HenrySomeone]

You were lucky to have discovered it so soon on your own! I never would have, but was fortunately warned by my father (not to the whole extent, because I now realize, he was afraid of alienating me). Of course I didn't entirely, but just enough to be careful to the point of avoiding the worst stuff, then in a couple years I discovered it was all true (and worse!)

[@retroloungemusic]

Oh yeah, I've been "friends" with many women. I know exactly how they play it with their husband or boyfriend. It's not good. It's not a red flag.....it's a straight out trap. Never believe that line.

[@flemingg11]

What about us men keeping women around from our past?

[@brianscott3503]

Not just girls trips also night clubs

[@charleskarnes5457]

Again, Bro, You Hit while the iron is Hot! Excellent News. To add in, a BIG 2.5 Red Flags is: "Oh, He's just like a Brother", and "They are Both just like Brothers". No No No. That is a ticking time bomb. You know. Nice Car. Great Show!

[@mikokun7714]

It’s insane in todays world you have to make 10 min videos because women just can’t commit one word. ‘Respect’

[@periclescimon9954]

Good reminders

[@Bluesmoke4200]

I'm a woman and I can't understand why any guy would seriously date a woman who had heretofore been posting provocative photos. Wtf? F deleting them. Decent women don't need to be told not to post that crap in the first place. I don't post half naked pics online because I i don't want to embarrass my parents, have bosses and coworkers see me, leave up stuff that may be found by my future kids etc. I dont need a boyfriend to tell me not to do it lol.

[@JC-gw3yo]

You missed one of her reds flags.. Her X husband, who she did and still may be connected to

[@samrapheal1828]

Exactamundo.

[@softenerguy]

This is excellent advise. Practice his exact wording if you ever get in this situation. If she has these beta orbiter types then she is quite possibly the female version of one. Or simply stay single and happy.

[@Kitiwake]

"I'm not supporting anyone else's children".

[@samrapheal1828]

Rules of engagement (not related to marriage): 1) No Tats 2)No Piercings (ie ANY "metalwork.") 3)No Rehab (or criminal background...hire a competent PI for BG check) 4)No Therapy or Social Medial addicts 6)No Fats 7)No Debt 8)No Brats (ie Single Moms) Above all else, family of origin has strong father/feminine mother. Well...that eliminated 99.8% of "modern western 304's". Note: I'm NOT a theologian, but Proverbs 3:15 & 31:10 got it right thousands of years ago. Good luck Gentlemen. The odds are really AGAINST any man today.

[@WannAlana]

Totally agree with everything

[@healthyandwealthy5844]

have this talk the first month

[@genelewis2481]

My wife of 21 years left me for “just a friend”…

[@christianbenedict5136]

Great advice

[@overlordsshadow]

Spot on.

[@talos1253]

What if she asks you not to go on guys trips as well? Does that work vice versa too? I dont think its that good idea to stop any guys trip for the rest of your life

[@sdtind1897]

Hey Rich, which wireless headphones do you use during your home-studio videos?

[@panos7256]

Actually Rich you are correct in theory, wrong in the implementation. A woman that has a genuine desire for you, will not need to have the talk. Will not participate in girls nights out and if she posts on social media it would be showing you off. If you need to have the talk to her it is already a lost cause. Watch what she does and if she still advertisea herself you know what you are dealing with. Fun only category and when she wants to have the talk tell her goodbye.

[@mcbraveheart13]

Past, her ex drives her car and she pays insurance. They share daughter 50/50.

[@dunbustin]

Sounds like someone has knowledge!