Having A Roommate Taught Me Self-Love || Mayim Bialik

[@ScifiJoe01]

Mayim Bialik is awesome. She is highly intelligent and successful but is down to earth. She is not afraid to talk about the thing she struggles with, that a lot of people struggle with.

[@Dave-tx1um]

"Down to earth" ? No. She's an actor. She's acting like she's "down to earth" but clearly you have not met her in real life. She's an arrogant, self-obsessed, greedy snob.

[@GOLEG11]

Just_Joe and why is she single? ‏מים

[@MrNewyork1975]

@@Dave-tx1um Oh ok so you must know her then? How ironic your statement is!! Bellend.

[@Dave-tx1um]

@@MrNewyork1975 I've met her. What a crab!

[@d.m.173]

@@Dave-tx1um I don't believe you and nothing wrong with cheap!

[@garycurry4600]

Just remember...never go shopping when hungry, and never date when lonely. May you find that special someone as you continue on this voyage of self discovery, and thanks for sharing such personal feelings and experiences with everyone 💜

[@msseadreamers]

You can date when you're lonely, you just can't seem to be in a hurry to fill a lonely spot with just anyone.

[@TabMUA]

It’s amazing that even after being so educated, and having experienced so much in life, you’re still able to learn more about yourself. Beautiful conversation!

[@d.m.173]

@Miss_USS_Liberty what "help" are you talking about? If you are trying to downplay or invalidate someones growth that is just itchy with a capital B. You aren't any less amazing because you have help. No matter your station in life. Being someone who continues to grow and learn with the time they have is an awesome trait no matter how much education you have or money. People still can choose not to grow and learn if they have money. People can choose to grow and learn if they are poor. If that is what you are saying.. you should learn to grow and learn as a person and choose not to tear others down for their accomplishments.

[@jeansmith4807]

Dawn Moore 67

[@Nayanexx]

I believe it's really brave, for a public figure like you to share your fears and insecurities. Thanks for sharing, we are all imperfect, but that's okay.

[@darak4187]

You are my type of people Mayim! Keep being you, many of us get it and have similar traits. It’s nice to know others are out there. And some even thriving!

[@warmchapters]

I love the way Mayim talks about the things she struggles with and also brings up science evidence to explain them better. I relate to her in some insecurities and it’s nice to realize I’m not alone

[@jenniferpogue5464]

OMG me too! Didn’t know it was a thing for others. I did find a quote that helps me, “you will be too much for some people, they are not your people.”

[@nursesida]

At 43, I always thought nothing would be a bigger failure than have a roommate, but it has been a real blessing. I have a person to say hey to and chat with in the kitchen, but we have respect for each other boundaries.

[@jasonmw2112]

It's tough being introverted, receiving dirty looks from people all the time and being insecure about ones self. I get judged and I judge my own self. Worst of all I don't always have a trusted friend to talk to. I can relate to what you're saying. Thank you for sharing.

[@staciewilson5497]

I've struggled with codependency as a result of childhood trauma and have been going through this process of learning to love myself. Everything you said in this video made me smile because it made me feel like I'm not alone in my struggles, (I know you didn't share that you're codependent and I don't assume you are, I'm just struggling with those same mental and emotional patterns). Thank you for speaking on your emotions in such a human level, I appreciate that about you. I'm a sensitive empath and I crave deep relationships with people and don't always seem to line up with like-minded individuals, so I can often feel like I'm "too much" for people. I'm rambling, anyway, thank you!!

[@marydevling8390]

Wow. I listened to this twice and, at 64, I learned something. Thank you!

[@ale8oneboy]

Mayim, great video! Nice to know other people have these feelings too. Let's keep remembering that we're not "too much!"

[@karenmarshall6893]

Mayim, I love that you are cerebral and want deep conversations and are interested in people’s inner workings. I can relate to all of that. I find you fun and interesting and complex- all great things! I enjoy your videos! Keep being you, rejoice in your uniqueness and please know that you are contributing sooo much wonderfulness 😁👍🏻 to the world!

[@karinfingerkrause6229]

I can totally understand this feeling of being annoying. But I also know that friends can help us learn a lot about ourselves!

[@matrix0027]

I love how well you articulate your thoughts and feelings. It's so awesome how you find humor in the little nuances of everyday life. Thank you so much for making these videos!

[@BeaOsapai]

Wow! I have struggled with this all my life. I was near tears listening to you! I feel so validated right now and see that there is nothing ‘wrong’ with me. Thank you for your realness, honesty and presence Mayim!

[@lookwhatyoumademedo1998]

I think I can speak for myself and maybe for others as well if I say that you also taught me self-love And by the way I couldn't be more grateful for the content you are posting, hilarious and yet profound! Thank you so much! Please do keep up the great work, it's highly appreciated All the love✨

[@doloreserin]

Gina 123 I love this content too. I have always thought I was too intense and just too much. Nice to know I'm not alone. I have a degree in social work and a BS in psychology, the education helps somewhat in figuring things out but not entirely. Just love this content. ,

[@lookwhatyoumademedo1998]

Allison Manzino That's lovely! And yes we aren't alone👏🏼💪🏼 Wishing you all the best!

[@slick2478]

I love these vlogs because it shows everyone that your a real person like all of us. You’re not only smart, beautiful, and funny, you’re also down to earth and you don’t think you’re above anyone else because you’re famous. You’re real, open, and honest and I think that’s what draws people towards you. I have a female friend that I call “my sister” because of our close plutonic bond. Growing up an only child, it’s sometimes difficult to understand boundaries and the neediness I have. Thanks again for just being you. You rock!!!!

[@shannongrace6615]

Who knew... Mayim Bialik is my spirit animal. 🖤

[@charlesrobinson7574]

Thank you so much for supporting the USO tour. It means a lot to our troops. I’m a veteran and speak from experience. I’ve seen grown men cry.

[@SamaraSant]

I am definitely in your tribe! I always say that I wish I had the skill that others have, where they can just be topical and have zero depth.

[@LadyEllieLouise]

I think it’s refreshing how open and honest you are. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings on your situations.

[@krystalh5235]

I found this video at the exact moment I needed it. Thank you, Mayim!

[@Lostcause1974]

First, the things you described as annoying are actually quite endearing. I think we all love you for what you believe is 'annoying'. I am glad that having a roommate has helped you have a corrective experience! Hearing you describe your relationship with your brother and how you are still a sensitive little girl who wants to be included in her big brother's life, so adorable! You are a highly educated, highly intelligent, extremely considerate and caring person. if anyone finds that annoying, they need to do some soul searching for what truly matters in life.

[@jodywoodruff6473]

For some reason this video hit home with me. I even cried a bit. Thank you for this video. I needed to hear this. ❤️

[@roopamadhukar6753]

I really like Mayim for the person she is. Very clear about her thoughts ,Strong character, Outspoken n above all simplicity . Feel i can relate to her thoughts. Way to go ....

[@pattir820]

I love you just the way you are. You have a great personality! I am I my seventies and look forward to your videos.

[@MamaAbriana]

I've watched the video of you becoming a stay at home mom again and then this one. And I swear the last time I had a phone and watched your videos....sorry kinda in my head. You seem like you're speaking right out of my head! You are so strong! I cry the tears I can see you hold back as I listen. It's feels good to know I'm not crazy and that I am normal. This way I feel about life and in all the ways that I am is ok! I've literally said everything that you said about yourself in your video...hopefully I can see myself the way you do now.. I love you girl! Keep being the strong woman you are!

[@stephanieleon5970]

I have felt all these feelings. Thank you so much for sharing how this experience has changed you! ♥️

[@maichka15]

I love how open these videos are and yet no matter how deep or personal the subject is, it's never overbearing to watch and like never feel's like too much and somehow always end's with a positive note. Good for you Mayim, your great!

[@Wh3atley]

Coitus, the name is coitus! No in all honesty thank you for opening up so much, that's not the easiest thing to do in our world, so your insight is much appreciated

[@antonellabassi3466]

I totally get you and Jeff. As an extroverted introvert, I love people and meeting and socializing but in small doses. I crave alone time, silence (I don't even listen too much music, unless I want to specifically wake myself or hype me up to go 'outside'), peace to organize my thoughts. Also if I mingle, I want depth, meaning, intimacy (I don't care for chatter, gossip etc I want to know what makes you passionate or mad...) I'm glad you are healing and discovering that you can be you and alone time does not mean you are set aside. Thanks for sharing this.

[@in_lovewith_the_universe9965]

Thank you Mayim for sharing something so personal and so helpful to so many of us who also still feel like a little person who just wants to be included. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@racquelrobinson3030]

Ms. Bialik'd KZbin channel is something never knew I needed but I definitely needed.

[@dustinp120]

Having a roommate prepped me to follow a toddler cleaning all day.

[@robinbrl]

LOL. Sorry Dustin.

[@KK-jl8em]

Dustin P my roommates literally had a toddler lol

[@Gawain-l7r]

😂😭

[@david486038]

Sorry that I've only just come across this video. The things that you stated in the start of this video, make you who you are. Being outspoken and 'Too caring' makes you, who you are. I tried to fit in when I was younger to the fashion, trying not to get bullied. Life has taught me that being the geek I am, is awesome and now 'being an adult' I'm not going to get bullied anymore. TBBT showed the world that 'WE' rock. Be who you are, because you're awesome that way!

[@vidyamenon5838]

Oh my God!!... I can understanding sooo much like you..!! Also is than an Amy doll in the back??? So cute!!! .

[@kellieevetts2637]

It is! Crafty is Cool made it!

[@amyschneidhorst1384]

Mayim thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences that are rooted in insecurities, your reflections are reassuring and helped me to connect with some of the same organizational beliefs I have about myself. I have found myself trying to take up less space/ be all kinds of less with my neighbors and as you point it, that kind of behavior prevents others from getting to know us and prevents us from having those organizational beilefs challenged by people who really do care and want to connect with us. Thank you!

[@mancmcr8172]

Love this. I'm the most socially awkward person I know and I try too much as a result so can relate to this a great deal. Great vlog!

[@Woodlynx]

I've never felt as alike and connected to a person I don't even know as I do when watching your videos. You always cheer me up and make me think "well, maybe you aren't alone with this stuff and you'll manage". Thank you for the warmth, openness and wit you adress all those complicated topics with :)

[@bumblebee4325]

You sound Like A Wonderful Person and a Good Friend!!!!! Everyone should have friends like you!!!! 😊😊😊

[@mrs.carrasco7898]

Right! I would love to be her friend.

[@debdo1960]

I'm adoptable

[@555pghbob]

Jeff is a lucky man to have such a sensitive and introspective friend who cares about how she is perceived as a friend. I really like you, Mayim. You are smart and unassuming.

[@nadiaweiss35]

Mayim, absolutely brilliant! You’ll always be my AMY!

[@janetmoore1124]

One of the most often ignored or forgotten parts of a "relationship" is actually relating to the other person. Without the sex, etc. As a society, we seem to be trained to think that actually conversation, sharing of thoughts, ideas, etc. is not part of the process. Congratulations on your discoveries, your evolution and, :), your room mate. Thanks for sharing your journey.

[@ambercherise2391]

Hey, Mayim! Yeeeeeah. I’m there with you. My brother told me the same thing...and I worshiped my brother...who still thinks I’m an idiot...and has no problem whatsoever telling me so (he prefers the phrase “emotionally unintelligent”, actually 😂). Also, as I have moved in with new roommates about three weeks ago, it’s kind of cool to see that many of the things I thought were irksome are kind of cool. I also vocalized that I was a tad melancholic that I felt like my roommates and I were “like ships passing in the night.” It’s been a bit nuts, but I will say that I am happy for this new phase in my life, and hearing you break it down so eloquently, Mayim, is pretty darn reassuring. So thanks. ☺️ Gotta love keen intellect. 😂 (Also, has that Dr. Amy Farah Fowler doll always been there? Looove it; want one lol. 😂)

[@MsMOLLYKINS]

You my dear are more average then most actors/actors. I don't know any but you actually out lay your fears in a way most actors do not. It's brave and delightful and that is why all of the worlds adores you . Much love from Sydney Australia . You are so endearing ,thank you xox

[@SassyBashir]

Your blessed to have such a friend..

[@andreagray6111]

You are not too much!!!! You are what the world needs and I love what you talk about.

[@shirleyss]

I'm very intense myself, I absolutely love your honest videos, thanks Mayim 😘😘😘

[@20karisan]

I have a horrible time yesterday and your video was refreshing, nice, honest and I truly appreciate that you share this with people. Everything has a beginning has an end. Sometimes things end and there is nothing you can do.

[@michaelsegal3558]

I’ve actually been living on my own without a roommate for about 9 years now and even though it can be lonely at times especially now with this whole self isolating thing going on but on the other hand I like having my own unshared space

[@bowlmaned]

Wow!!!! I'm going to be 60 years old in December and this video just helped me to be a little more comfortable in my own skin...THANK YOU!!!

[@____4bon4____]

Mayim is my spirit animal - in the BEST possible way 🦉 💕 😊

[@icampana]

Mayim you rock! I had to go through my own process of acceptance and knowing myself (being almost 40) and it was like finding out I was punishing myself without reason, because I also thought I’m too much, I have to “turn it down” for people to accept me, etc... now I can’t say I’m a 100% there, but waaay happier with myself, keep on doing this kind of videos, there’s always someone who might be needing to hear exactly this... Biiig Hugs from ECUADOR :)

[@cosodesign8953]

All those “too”s you listed are things I think about myself. But I like you so that must mean I can like myself too.

[@christineminer2117]

Great message! We all need the reminder to be who we are and surround ourself with people who appreciate our "stuff". Thanks

[@GallaOs]

You're so great Mayim! I could listen to you 7/24!

[@kookienutquacker8692]

Being a good friend and a good roommate is a big responsibility. But, the support you give and receive is priceless. I know.

[@joec783]

GOD bless the Jeff's of this world!😘😗

[@hemlybarsch8607]

Unbelievable, she is so human. Its amazing.

[@riyaarora4575]

Who didn't need to google rock polisher because of Ross😂😂😂(Friends character)😂😂.I can still hear him saying "ooooo my rock polisher"🤣🤣

[@neurospicyrainbow]

Riya Arora lol yep I thought about that too!

[@colleennikstenas4921]

Riya Arora I wanted one as a kid.

[@ameerahalgohary]

Yeah 😂

[@xzonia1]

Lol. I knew what a rock polisher was before I saw Ross with one, but having one was just another reason I loved that character so much. :D

[@riyaarora4575]

@@colleennikstenas4921 we all wanted it🤣

[@andyostertag]

Thanks for sharing. Introduced to your former show by my son's following, I did follow the last seasons. With my interest toward your show and articles this video popped up in my feed. Great video and help toward people with like scenerios achieve self awareness of themselves. More people have these insecurities than you would guess in today's society and yes, a neutral room mate teaches you about yourself because there is less tippy toeing around. Be well and safe. Thanks again

[@Glayceb]

Love your vídeos, I always feel like listening to a friend, I smile every time. :)

[@georganna.2371]

Your definitely not "too much". I have known people who are and your not even close. You have a wonderful exuberant outlook on many subjects. We all have a need for acceptance and to be valued. I think anyone who can call you friend is fortunate. I am happy to be getting to know you through these videos.

[@sixqueens3428]

I always love all of your videos. God bless, Ms. Mayim. -Your fan from Philippines. ❤

[@mariansmith7694]

I'm glad you have a friend in Jeff. It is a blessing.

[@shanice5128]

I wish I had a friend like your friend. :( He assured you that everything's going to be fine.

[@SynthApprentice]

Shanice, everything is going to be okay. Maybe not right away, and certainly not all the time, but still. Everything is going to be okay.

[@SynthApprentice]

@JefferyStarsBrokenWalletClub Fuck off with your racism.

[@Willow76ny]

Your situation with having a roommate sounds like the physical manifestation of my desire to see myself the way other people see me. How can we change what we think is wrong with us without knowing what it is about us that bothers other people? Thank you for making, and sharing, this video. ❤️

[@katiejoharris]

You're awesome and I think you'd be so fun to hang out with! Not annoying! I also have the same insecurity though! And I process events the same way! "I must have messed it up."

[@tristejeunefille]

I totally found myself in your words about yourself. Might be attachment to my older brother and him just keeping his space that I feel like I bother someone when I am with them. thank u a mil. u r the gift from heavens

[@CongaFool]

~When you have "The Sex"...~ This made me laugh :-) You are GREAT!

[@d.m.173]

@Miss_USS_Liberty So she is a bad person because she made money? Everyone has struggles, even if they have money. You sound bitter that you pissed your life away and are taking it out on people who didn't. You should change the hate and resentment in your heart into energy to make your own life better.

[@JustNeedaBeerandPark]

@Miss_USS_Liberty Wow....thought I was the only person that knew this info.

[@jdion5641]

My daughter auditioned with your opening dance to blossom at a young age. People do not realize how far they reach and impact others. U go girl !

[@bposytyv6282]

You are so authentic!!!! I love watching your videos and hearing exactly what you think!

[@Bellavanacoffee]

teared up at 4:40. We adore you Mayim. Becoming a work from home mom this year has taught me how strong our human need for connection is. Thank you for making videos!

[@sinderellaattheball9998]

Your brother had a 'rock polisher' & you're too much???! 😂

[@Trishpage312]

Your hair grew fast! I always prepare myself for being dismissed. For people to treat me like I’m not a real person. Men mostly. I get treated like a stalker psycho without doing anything. So fun! I am sane and safe. I am a good friend, I can be trusted. If something bad happens it’s not because of me! That is something that I cherish. Real or not I’m used to it now amp I have learn to work through it and keep moving. Even if those feelings are real there’s nothing I can do about it. I can only control ams how I live and behave. Thanks for the video! Happy 4th!

[@ttismyname]

If someone really loves you he/she won't think you're annoying❤ OK, your brother is an exception, because you know...it's natural between siblings. I think you're just simply smart😉 P.S. to Jeff: I don't know who are you, but you're soooo lucky😊

[@avidfan47]

Love your sense of humor. Most folks don't seem to get sarcasm, and some may perceive your intentions wrongly. I'm glad your roommate helped you w your insecurities...we all need a Jeff.

[@lynntouchette4520]

Well, there it is: more proof that I'm the married-rural-Christian Mayim Bialik! ❤😂

[@doctorelle8178]

Wow this was perfect. It’s like all the things I worry about myself you decide to put in a video and give me a bit of peace. Thank you for saying what I was feeling and thinking and putting it into perspective.

[@Quietshepherd]

I even annoy myself sometimes! July the 4th be with you.

[@kimsumlin4397]

Love you, Mayim! "I have a need to be understood. I have a need to be connected. I have a need to constantly evolve. "

[@klarientje]

I just couldn’t stop crying after watching this video! I too have always felt too much! Always had people telling me that I talke too much and too loud, was too enthusiastic etc. I have been insecure for my entire life and the talking was just a mask to hide that. The part where you tell about your friend helping you made me tear up! I had my person who made me feel better about myself since I ended up in her class at secondary school when I was 14! My best friend and soulmate Jess! I’ve been bullied a lot and she has always been my rock and greatest supporter in everything I did and wanted to do. She died of cervical cancer 22 September last year after 7 months of being extremely ill. 😢 Almost a year ago now and it still hurts so bad! She was my one person to go to, she understood me without words. We were so alike, never had a fight in the 17+ years of friendship that we had. It is hard trying to believe in myself without her rooting for me. I know she wants the best for me and am really trying to make the best of my life without her. Me seeing this video now is perfect timing! Seeing you opening up and me recognising the feeling you have/had about yourself makes me aware that I have to be nicer to myself and not let the negative thoughts take over! So thank you for putting it up here! ❤️😘

[@StephRosebud]

This really resonated with me! I got a roommate for the first time a year ago… A very close friend who I’ve known for several decades. Before she moved in, I found myself crying as I admitting to her that I feared living together would expose all of my flaws - it was actually a beautiful and cathartic conversation. We’re closer than ever 😊⭐️👍🏻

[@DrewAveraMusic]

Amy Farrah Fowler knew self love and it was an electric toothbrush named Gerard...

[@katie18976]

😄😅😂

[@naspsizivot6455]

woow, this made me laugh🤣

[@nurelissa3012]

Can totally relate! I do feel annoying when Im with my friends sometimes. I’ve started distancing myself from my friends simply because I didn’t want to be too much. Please post more videos. Huge respect to you for being so vulnerable and open to this topic. :) You’re amazing! ✨

[@VelvetJazz]

Wow, this is me. THANK YOU for the freeing validation. 🤗💕 Hey, is Jeff looking for a girlfriend? Jk, lol.

[@JustNeedaBeerandPark]

Jeff is a FWB......that's why.

[@BrianJohnson-lh2ek]

My comment is way late do to the fact that I am just now seeing it, but I'll post anyways. What a great topic. Makes me start to think why I'm alone 27 out of 30 days and might not even get a phone call from anyone for even longer. It has to be me. Has to be something I'm doing or something I did in the past for either me or others to seem to forget me. I do see and understand what your saying. Your videos and the messages within have been awesome also powerful. I find watching & listening to you is comforting and relaxing.

[@ronaldnorman1148]

Sounds like me,we're not realated are we,haha no we just think alike . love you. Your a great person

[@puzzleperson2007]

I bet this post resonated deep with so many :) We are always just our tiny young selves wrapped up in layers of being adults. From one “annoying” person to another...nicely done.

[@lifesabeach2597]

Having a roommate taught me that I never, ever want another roommate

[@SamaraTaisMusic]

"I have a need to be understood, I have a need to be connected, I have a need to constantly evolve as a person." So me!!!

[@VictorVonGrooove]

Okay! I'm SO glad this video wasn't about masturbation. "Self love" hehe.. I'm a man-child.

[@katewarburton8024]

I like this about the organising principle. Whenever I have a negative thought about myself, life, the universe or whatever, I'm going to start saying "it's just my organising principle". I think it will help a lot! 💖

[@liveout077]

“The Sex”.......dope.

[@asianpirate4061]

There are many of us who would be very lucky to have Mayim as a friend or lover. I am glad you are facing your self doubts with such strength and charactwr

[@traceyidzes8781]

The only thing I learnt from my first housemate was that I suddenly due to their sloppiness became an overnight obsessive compulsive cleaner 😂

[@janesmith7615]

Tracey Idzes sorry to be that person but please don’t through around the term ocd

[@traceyidzes8781]

Jane Smith sorry if I upset you I truly am. The diagnosis I got surprised the heck out of me. Now I understand why I clean my floors so repeatedly for hours on end. I wasn't meaning to make light of it as you said. I'm just trying to figure out how not to cry about it. Humour is my go to in times of doubt and truly I'm very very sorry if I've upset you

[@racheltaylor2549]

A lovely honest video about feelings and insecurities. Something we all feel but don't always share. Thanks Mayim ♥️

[@lazyperfectionist1]

"Hi. I think I'm annoying to people." Well now, Mayim, to be completely honest, we _all_ have moments like that.

[@mikitea68]

Everything you described is totally me. My brother too is four years older than me and when I was a kid I followed him around everywhere. I often think I'm more annoying than a duck in a tree. I tend to care deeply for people and that tends to make me take on their problems as my own. God has shown me a lot of ways to cope, but even still I get clingy and pray about my anxieties. But everything you were talking about is so true.