He'll NEVER Choose You Or Commit If You're Doing These 5 Things + 5 Things You Need To Do Instead

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Get your personal dating and relationship questions answered here: helenahart--mcoast.thrivecart.com/feminine/ Listen to my “Master Your Magnetism” podcast on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/show/2sQpQcwuijinXm5y8G06O3 …or on Apple Podcasts here (feel free to leave me a review!): podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214 If you'd like to attend my podcast recordings LIVE and get your personal questions answered, download the Bullhorn podcast app from the App Store or Google Play here (it's 100% FREE!): onelink.to/gw2bn8 Once you've downloaded the Bullhorn podcast app, search for and FOLLOW my "Master Your Magnetism" podcast to get notified when I go live. Looking forward to connecting with you and talking to you personally! 💞 Here are the biggest Connection Barriers that push a man away (PLUS how to make him come back and want to stay forever): forever1234.com/

[@outlinehappiness]

Point 3/4 on tolerating bad behaviour/making excuses..… It’s amazing how quickly we make excuses for certain peoples behaviour. I started to think to myself “if my best friend was sitting here telling me about this guy treating HER this way, what would I say?” We really need to start being a better friend to ourselves.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here - I agree! We talk more about that in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lZfMhYijlKl2d9k

[@christineribone9351]

i had a huy following me round in the gym and chatting. He was interested in recruiting me into his department. I was interested in him, but he never made a move. I got frustrated and anxious and shut him down. At that point he got jealous of my talking to someone else and he started flirting. I was very confused from the mixed signals.

[@brokenwideopen]

Oh man did I need to hear this right now-and to be honest, 5x a day. It’s really made me realize how much I need to work on healing my childhood wounds. It’s heartbreaking that I’m so enamored with/giving so much energy to someone who gives me so little because I should be doing better for ME.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many people can relate. ❤️ These episodes should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qn26kJ2crZZ7arc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/rarOhY2CZtSCnZY, kzbin.info/www/bejne/emrRonWlZ8mHesk and kzbin.info/www/bejne/hH_Ne3aDaqutZtU.

[@sssparkle]

Plus not giving/doing so much allows them to be the Pursuer. Otherwise they step back

[@hirschiegirl]

Thank you Helena & Tom! 🤗 I’ve listened to this podcast episode a couple times on Bullhorn, and I clicked on it again here because your message is so valuable! I was manipulated by a greater narcissist who convinced me that at our foundation we were “great friends.” So, as a result, I trusted him with my heart and my body, and I fell into every unhealthy behavior you describe. After he destroyed my self-esteem, I finally cut him out of my life. It’s been three years since I cut ties, and he’s popped up again (several times in the past five months) full of apologies and begging to reconnect, but I’m past it. I love myself too much to fall prey to his lies, manipulations, false friendship, charms, etc. Like you say, “past behavior is the best indicator of future behavior,” and I am never going back to that dark place. Thank you both!! 🤗

[@sourgummiez]

He only wants the benefits you offered him. He has nothing to offer you, only wants what you have to offer. I’m so sick of men like that!! It’s the old phrase why buy the cow when they can get the milk for free

[@hirschiegirl]

@@sourgummiez so true! Thank you for the validation and support.

[@sourgummiez]

@@hirschiegirl ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Thanks for sharing your experience here, I’m glad you were able to move on. ❤️

[@hirschiegirl]

@@HelenaHartCoaching me too! Your videos and podcasts have been a huge help in my healing journey. Thank you for bringing your invaluable wisdom to us🤗

[@Mandycapetown]

I’m guilty of all 5 points. I’ve blocked two men on everything last night. No more broken conciseness. I have change. Immediately

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! This video might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvcm4CihKlmpcU

[@Mandycapetown]

@@HelenaHartCoaching I just watched it, I need to watch it everyday for a week. Thank you

[@thevixenxiii]

Good job 👏🏼

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Amanda! I’m glad it was helpful. ❤️

[@Mandycapetown]

@@HelenaHartCoaching had a good day Helene, I watched a lot of your videos yesterday. I needed a lot of help after those air Jordan sneakers, his not messaged me or made effort since I said no. So that’s that then. I feel heartbroken but I did set a boundary and I stood by it and I’ve made space for someone better, well I’m trying to. I’m actually so damn hurt tbh 😢

[@missramona928]

I made excuses because of his low self esteem and anxiety and so I tolerated alot and he gave me rides so i paid for gas, cooked for him or paid for food so he wasn't feeling like i was taking advantage. Just like i said once you are dating me ( he didnt have alot of luck with women and he was my best friend- i felt bad they were treating him bad), women will show interest. A singer that works with him kept getting more and more touchy feely, asking to ride with him to out of town gigs, and interrupted us praying over our food on our 9month anniversary to ask him what time he made it home that morning from their out of town gig. I asked him for over a month to establish boundaries. We are both singers. She ran to his boss when a mutual friend privately told her she was causing issues. The boss yelled at him for telling me and told him to break up with me and he did.

[@TravelBug189]

I cried during the 1st point because this is exactly where I’m at. After almost 5 years of being single, working on myself and healing from prior relationships this man from my past came along and I fell in love with him. I don’t have feelings for many guys (I’m either indifferent or all in) so when he reappeared my heart just flooded with all of these emotions. I started to feel things I haven’t felt in many years. But he recently got out of a toxic relationship and I wasn’t a priority to him so I had to let him go. I didn’t want to spend my life chasing and pleasing him. It really hurts and after 3 months I still think about him everyday. I still idolize him, I still think he’s a prize and I still put him on a pedestal. I’m hoping to get over him soon but it’s been extremely difficult. Some days I just lay in bed and cry. I don’t know if/when I’ll meet someone special again. It’s a sad hopeless feeling

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Sorry to hear you’re going through this right now. ❤️ We talked about the “man from the past” in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rmncfJSNg8mkbck

[@linghe1298]

so sorry to see that you go through all these, I feel you! I really hope you will get better soon and please do believe you will meet someone special again!!!

[@brokenwideopen]

I know this is 6 mos old but I hope you’re doing better now Marcelina. I’m going through it right now. I wish I had watched this before my man from the past came back this week. I accepted crumbs and letting this man live rent free in my head when he so isn’t worthy and has shown me he doesn’t prioritize me. He said a lot of things that made me feel wanted and desired but it’s been silent since I saw him and it hurts. Wish I could tattoo some of Helena’s points on the inside my eyelids.

[@madawageises2468]

I believe this came at the right time.. I'm in a situation whereby I feel he is withdrawing. He says I hardly call or text him and he'd be happier if I did that too. Hmm... I'd like to just be in the moment and let things unfold naturally. I have a HARD TIME remaining in my feminine energy as well.. 😭 Thank you for the upload💖

[@sourgummiez]

I think it’s easier to Stay in your feminine energy when not dealing with guys who are little bitches. They bring out our masculine, but when he’s a good guy in his masculine, we naturally stay in our feminine with them more. That’s a red flag in my opinion

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Madawa! 💕

[@Neongoddess76]

Thank you so much for this video. Just exactly what I needed to re assess my situation. Just because this person isn't the right one, doesn't mean the next one isn't. Onwards and upwards as I am so much worth alot more. Next! 😊💖

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Cath! I love what you said here and I’m glad this was helpful. 💕

[@juliafisher5844]

Thank you Helena and Tom for this great video ..it seems to be all about how we regard ourselves ultimately and sticking to our guns in what we seek in a life partner. It's very easy to waver with your boundaries and make excuses for a guy who eventually doesn't match what you need as this typically comes to light much further down the line where you've opened your heart to them and trust them to have your best interests at heart. Over time they show you are who they are and you have to deal with the hard facts that they're not going to change and stop believing what they tell you as much as you hope for progress it doesn't happen so you can't trust their word. It's really hard emotions are involved. It's where I'm at now but I have to put myself first and move on. I must have faith that there are lots of good men out there and to learn to be very specific and directly communicate from the start as to what I'm looking for and move on quickly if that's not happening.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Julia! ❤️ Thanks for sharing your experience and insights here! This video might be helpful in terms of communicating what you’re looking for to a man: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pJ23fXWwpqySisk

[@juliafisher5844]

@@HelenaHartCoaching please please would you do a video on how to recognise when things aren't going to change, how to remain firm and consistent and not be talked around again. I believe most of us are so conscious of causing the guy suffering when we end a relationship ( even though we've been the ones suffering all along ) Difficult when you're nature is soft.. also how to say no to " let's just be friends then we can still get together " as I don't see how that helps finish things.

[@juliafisher5844]

Thank you ❤

[@ljroberts3739]

You 3 are the absolute BEST!! The positivity and thoughtfulness is contagious.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! I’m happy to hear that. 💗

[@sharong7973]

I needed to hear this today. Thank you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Sharon! 💜

[@christineribone9351]

your son is adorable!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! He’s 17 months old now. 🩵

[@sourgummiez]

Thank you so much Helena and Tom!!! You both offer such incredible perspective together, like two peas in a pod. You’re helping me so much in my life ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I’m happy to hear that. 💗

[@yiqingzhao3692]

I've been enjoying your videos so much, and find them very helpful, Helena! It'd be even better if you can add video chapters:)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I’m happy to hear that! ❤️ Yes, I’ve been doing that for my newer episodes once that feature became available. Here’s a link to the latest episode my husband and I recorded together if anyone would like to check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eHvFaoGqaKp_prcsi=burJ25ZejbClfyHk

[@lorrainemorris6242]

There is a old saying my auntie used to say. There is women you practice on and there are women you take back to his mother. There is a lot of women out there that make it to easy put it bluntly they are putting it on a plate.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Lorraine! 💞

[@oia5882]

Love to learn from both Helena & Tom! Wisdom & insights are doubled.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! I’m happy to hear that. 💞

[@juliefrecker3811]

These videos are great every women needs to know this

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I’m glad you’ve been enjoying them! These videos might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvcm4CihKlmpcU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/nJqnaZKrppubhsU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/ol6bmJaCrtWbpdk, kzbin.info/www/bejne/eaGQd4CtmNx8j6c, kzbin.info/www/bejne/iamXpad7gLp_has, kzbin.info/www/bejne/qaK1eH-Pm9GZmsU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/mmG4nmaNrtN_qMU and kzbin.info/www/bejne/lZfMhYijlKl2d9k.

[@amandast828]

Hard truths but thank you for the wake up call👏🏼

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💗 These videos might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nJqnaZKrppubhsU and kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvcm4CihKlmpcU.

[@TequilaTurner]

This is so good and very helpful to change my posture. It’s subtle but this episode brought it right to the front

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I’m happy to hear that! This video might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvcm4CihKlmpcU

[@kellyburkin500]

So helpful Helena and Tom. Thank you. By the way I like your photo. Especially your cat, he or she is so cute.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Kelly! I’m glad this was helpful. 💕

[@jamiehughes6755]

You guys are so great. Your advice is saving my life, thank you 💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re very welcome, Jamie! ❤️ Here are a couple of our recent episodes if anyone would like to check them out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lXWWaHSGfLSsbrs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/q6HOpqmtp9GcbaM.

[@phemery1182]

Thank you! Exactly what I needed to hear & take in today in clear format. So true & accurate.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 This video might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvcm4CihKlmpcU

[@becca1384]

Ohhhhh, I needed this today.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad it helped! 💗 I’d also recommend checking out this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvcm4CihKlmpcU

[@LisaSoulLevelHealing]

Such good reminders to always expect the best!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Lisa! 💕

[@KarolinaS-w2r]

That was very helpful!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad it helped! 💗 Here’s a link to our latest episode if anyone would like to check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/eHvFaoGqaKp_prcsi=burJ25ZejbClfyHk

[@urmomia69]

Thank you Helena and Tom

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@sandradaeschler6620]

Thank you sweetheart! Im still working on myself and just letting things happen be that they may!! 🙂

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Sandra! 💕

[@kimforward7268]

Yep I 👍 agree, I have never tried to convince any man to be with me

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Kim! I’m happy to hear that. 💜

[@nazasha5584]

Guilty as charged Madam and Sir......let me tell you did all everything wrong. I needed to hear this.I know the action to take now for good. Love and light East Africa

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 🧡 This video might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvcm4CihKlmpcU

[@CH-kq2dg]

Thank you sooo very much for all of the videos you shared with me to help my situation!! They all are amazing ! Just like you 🤗

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re very welcome! I’m glad they’ve been helpful. ❤️

[@tigerlily9234]

What if he is depressed, and overwhelmed? Is there ever a time where he’s TRULY struggling? Even his friends are mad at him, and are shutting him out, because he’s stressed himself out so much over extreme stress and childhood traumas resurfacing. I don’t expect him to change, but how can we show compassion without mothering?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

It depends on the details of your relationship, but these videos should be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZqPQpqagoK1gopI and kzbin.info/www/bejne/mJyzgHywh9GgoK8.

[@tigerlily9234]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you!!!

[@lauramata3740]

This is good! Wasn't expecting that.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜 This video might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvcm4CihKlmpcU

[@tanyapacini5543]

Resonates 100%!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this resonated with you! 💞

[@daniellegalure]

Wow this was incredible 👏🏾

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜 These videos we recorded together might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lXWWaHSGfLSsbrs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/q6HOpqmtp9GcbaM, kzbin.info/www/bejne/eaGQd4CtmNx8j6c, kzbin.info/www/bejne/mmG4nmaNrtN_qMU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/ol6bmJaCrtWbpdk and kzbin.info/www/bejne/lZfMhYijlKl2d9k.

[@joannedomingo2398]

Helena this is happening to me. I leave him but he keeps coming back to my door. Yes I think it’s friends with benefits

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💜 These videos might be helpful for your situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mn3NZJKqptl2o9E, kzbin.info/www/bejne/lXWWaHSGfLSsbrs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/iIvHfZJjlNZlnJY, kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvcm4CihKlmpcU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYi1fZuQf7CpsLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/iamXpad7gLp_has, kzbin.info/www/bejne/q6HOpqmtp9GcbaM, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/p33Elaybnq12kMk.

[@missnay8385]

Love this message ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💕

[@juliefrecker3811]

Just saw your cat in picture. My cat is just like him lol

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Love it, Julie! 🐱

[@teenafrench7236]

This is so great...I drink in every word you say! Helena, you MUST (please) do a podcast on how to "not get swept away" in the 'awesomeness' of your partner; once you think you have met them or are starting a new relationship. I know you know what to do... because you have the painful job of not being absolutely obsessed with Tom on a daily basis! (Yikes, what a man!). I suffer from 'turning myself over' to others, especially when things are new. Come on Helena, spill the beans please Sis😁🙏💜

[@McJenn2016]

They/she has many videos, but in your situation, try and just focus on your hobbies and interest, keep your own life separate from the relationship as your both individuals

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Love it, Teena - thanks for the great suggestion! I’ll keep that in mind for future podcast episodes. ❤️

[@AD-hh6dd]

How do you let them fade out when they’re still initiating contact most of the time? He’s not wanting to commit and he’s sporadic with making plans to see me (he does see me but again it’s not frequently consistent) but is consistent in FaceTiming and calling. How do I let that drop off if he still initiates? I rarely make things happen. It’s mostly him. It’s just not 100% effort

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

If he’s sporadic with making plans and not wanting to commit, the outcome is going to be the same no matter what you do - so I would follow your intuition there. You can always be straightforward and let him know that it feels as though you’re looking for different things or not on the same page, so you’re going to be moving on. 💕

[@Winnie99988]

When he consistently sends picture greetings daily without any words, I appear cold if I do not respond, how should I handle this in a warm feminine way to express I'm not satisfied.

[@McJenn2016]

It’s difficult him seeing me as I only work closing shifts and on weekends (odd time a Saturday off) while he works mornings to 4-6 evenings and now he works Saturdays now as the coworker quit (about two months ago). I once told him all I wanted was a full day with him (which he tries to visit me after 8pm or 10pm when I am off shift for couple of hours) and the night before I spend time with him, he worked till 11:30pm so that he can have the full day with me going for a cruise around the Okanagon (British Columbia) were we live. He tries and it’s hard because of our work schedule is mainly opposite.

[@colleenmariebeautiful1897]

Great Content from you Both~💖 Thank You...🙏

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 This video might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvcm4CihKlmpcU

[@SarahHyde]

LOVE THIS SO MUCH!!!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜 These videos might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nKvcm4CihKlmpcU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/nJqnaZKrppubhsU and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qIPJmGWwr9Cch8U.

[@gemi9i1]

We’ve been living together for 7 mos & together almost a year. Suddenly after bliss he’s not sure if he knows how to be happy & that he needs to Live alone for awhile. He’s jumped from relationship to relationship since high school … nothing I’ve done changed his love. It’s him. He’s having a mid life crisis & I’m the collateral damage. We were each other’s priority & now this out of nowhere. I’m giving him what he Needs but am so 💔. We never fight or argue. It was almost perfect. I don’t know why we can’t just take a break… We had plans to travel, met each other’s families, been through deaths together. It’s so difficult to work on myself or have anything to look forward to with all these Emotions while still living together, sleeping together & not having a reason to dislike each other. Will this ever work after he figures out who he is at 44? Thank you for falling into my day today. I wish I could stop loving him when clearly this is showing that he’s not the One for me. But there’s no way I could have seen this coming … I’m not sure what to do.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

So sorry to hear you’re going through this right now. ❤️ In my opinion and experience, the right man will KNOW what he wants and won’t jeopardize his opportunity to be with you. I talk more about that in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/b524amp5qM97aLc

[@Avoid_Low_Frequency]

Thank you very much for referring me to this cast. Both you and your hubby mentioned online dating profiles. Would you refer me to one of your videos or consider doing a video for those of us that are considering a profile.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 I have several episodes about that on my podcast, you can listen to the latest one on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/1hw4X7UlkPYYrMwrZE5RNi?si=vTr2xXECRW-jJu_5pA0GAg …or on Apple Podcasts here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000571404796

[@joudisall6474]

i Really love your podcast 💕🤗

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! I’m happy to hear that. ❤️

[@demitriwelling1348]

Great advise

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Demitri! 💕

[@Jess-wk5jo]

I have question for you over affairs and cheating. I Am girl who like to holding hands and kiss and hug and text and meet up and watching without no no no no no sex. What type of affair would had be. 1 emotional affair 2 emotional and physical affair without having no sex. 3 romantic friendship 4 friendship?

[@Lydia-vv1kv]

Your cat is cute and hilarious

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Lydia! 🐱

[@ashleyoverholt449]

I have been getting tested by my boyfriend, because he just want, to get my reactions.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

While I don’t know the details of your situation, that sounds like a red flag to me. 💜

[@aminabangoura2298]

Is he a Scorpio man?

[@luccianalewis9473]

That s not bad your suggestion to make a video about our subconscious mind hooked up feelings of chemistry and attraction into someone who feels familiar us

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These videos would be a good place to start: kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJ27nmeHrtOjfK8 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/rarOhY2CZtSCnZY.

[@Mandycapetown]

Hi Helene

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Amanda, thanks for listening! 💕

[@Jess-wk5jo]

I have question for you over affairs,. if someone an affair without having no no sex, is that really affair and cheating?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, cheating doesn’t necessarily have to involve sex.

[@Nicana68]

I guess some of this advice applies to people over the age of 55, but it's all too late. If you have youth, hope and time on your side it must be lovely to have time to walk away from less than perfect relationships.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

100% of my current clients are in their 60s, and they’re all meeting phenomenal men who treat them like GOLD. It’s never too late to stop tolerating bad behavior and take a stand for what you truly want and deserve, in my opinion. 💜

[@cup_o_TMarie]

Wow hun I know that’s what some of society can tell us, but gosh we’re also living longer than ever into our 90’s & people can live vital wonderful lives until they die! I’m 54 & feel fantastic & I’m not perfect in any way. I would examine this faulty belief system that life is over at 55. Do a google search on people who find love again over 50 because it’s out there! Dont listen to anything or anyone saying that life is over at 50! What we believe will happen deep down inside is often what we limit ourselves to! Love IS out there for you 🤍

[@BeeBeeisDaTruCupcakeFace]

These folks are talkin that JESUS talk! Hunnay😩