He'll Never Choose You Or Commit If You're Doing These 7 Things + 2 Things You NEED To Do Instead

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

If you want to learn the secrets to attracting a high-quality man and inspiring his love, devotion and commitment, get my FREE "3 Keys To Attract The Man You Want" report and audio training here: helenahartcoaching.com/ Get your personal dating and relationship questions answered here: helenahart--mcoast.thrivecart.com/feminine/ Here's the video I recommended in this one called, "Never Wait For Him. Do THIS Instead": kzbin.info/www/bejne/iamXpad7gLp_has Follow my “Master Your Magnetism” podcast on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/show/2sQpQcwuijinXm5y8G06O3 …or on Apple Podcasts here (feel free to leave me a review!): podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214

[@RC-gc8yo]

30 years ago, I chased a man, did all the wrong things. We finally married, had two children. We had an on and off marriage. I divorced him years ago. Now I’m 60 and alone. I wish I had had this information when I was young.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many people can relate. ❤️

[@SK-no2pp]

You did have this information. You just didn’t want to look inwards or do introspection. What you permit, you promote

[@RC-gc8yo]

@@SK-no2pp I was young and grew up in a trauma based home. I did not have the tools I needed. You speak as though I made an emotionally intelligent decision. Thank you.

[@SK-no2pp]

@@RC-gc8yo you’re not alone. You have yourself, your spirit, integrity, and soul. You are healing ❤️‍🩹

[@kurtika56]

@R C Thank you so much for sharing this ♥️ You don’t have to justify anyone regarding your story. We all go through phases and sometimes we are not aware of things. That’s the beauty of life, it’s not how perfect you live but rather embracing and moving ahead with grace and love 💕

[@jacquelinenoel2992]

It’s important to get over the feeling of scarcity. “He’s the only one that I can get.” It will keep your mindset in a desperate state, thus pushing him further away. Start looking at available men you are not attracted to. Go out with them. They may seem too nice, but give them a chance. Those are typically the men one ends up marrying. Their unsurpassed love grows on you, and you fall in true love with a man that you truly deserve. Trust me on this one. 🌹

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here, Jackie! 💜 I agree that the belief of scarcity often keeps women “stuck” on men who aren’t stepping up - I talk more about that in this article I wrote: helenahartcoaching.com/is-the-belief-of-scarcity-preventing-you-from-finding-love/

[@julieb8445]

Funny my 15 year old daughter said the same to me about dating other types essentially as you said..lol. She’s smart 😉

[@catladyjai1113]

True, that's how I met my amazing husband

[@1corinthians139]

Amen so true, I pray God gives the wisdom and strength to do this, in Jesus’ name. Amen

[@nannaed7833]

Wanted to share the perspective that love coming from someone we don’t find attractive does not always touch our hearts in the way we would like for it to. Dating men you don’t find attractive therefore isn’t a great solution as we may always find ourselves looking elsewhere rather than reciprocating the genuine love by the man you don’t find attractive.

[@ultravioletspirit]

Don't take crumbs , don't make excuses for men, men making excuses, change yourself and not being authentic or suppressing parts of yourself, the right one el love you and accept you for who you are, be 100% authentic, don't wait around for someone who doesn't show up consistently or make commitments, don't wait around for anyone to step up, don't focus on men focus on your own needs and desires. Choose yourself so a high quality man chooses you. Is a blessing when the guy who doesn't choose you or commit to you fades away.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights and takeaways here! 💜

[@Deb.L.]

Notes I took as reminder to self: "What you tolerate in a relationship is a measure of what you think you deserve in a deep level". True. "What would a high value person do?", "What would a person with self respect and self love do?" are useful questions to ask to guide our actions - no waiting on, no hanging on, continue to invest in crafting the life we want. "The person who love you will accept you as you are" and also he will step up to pursue - isn't that so true, if he doesn't, it is a sign to move on, gotta make room for someone who does! Finally, never ignore our needs, feelings, desires, and what feels good to us.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights and takeaways here! These videos should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/p3KZc5p9Z5lpmLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/b524amp5qM97aLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2K1qYNuba-nq5o, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYfRm5ppiquMmrs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5yphYConsego5Y.

[@kaylahoffman9596]

I've done all these and lost him. It's been 2 weeks of no contact. Ghosting really. I'm coming to terms even if he may come back around. I'm persevering forward. He still has this greatness in my mind and heart. But if he finds happiness great even without me. Even if he does come back around hopefully not for awhile I can work on some things and acheive greater results. If he isn't the man for me there is alot of people out there and a great life yet to live

[@reneecrotty6910]

Nah you deserve better. Let that bastard go. Trust me there is better out there. xx

[@giovannagiustino5139]

sometimes a guy has deep unresolved issues... i got ghosted by the man i Loved too... i think mine really needs to grow up... not sure if he will though

[@kaylahoffman9596]

@@giovannagiustino5139 he does have unresolved issues with past women and what they have done. I'm just hoping God is hearing my cries and prayers to help him. I'm only accessible if and when but I can't fix him. Have no desire bc I'm working on myself and that's a full time gig. So we shall see

[@giovannagiustino5139]

@@kaylahoffman9596 i understand... I've been praying so hard for my guy too... and been watching just about every relationship coach on KZbin

[@HelplessHawk]

It’s hard to let go. I feel for you. I’m in a situation where he msgs me every day but won’t meet me. He’s single I know as I’ve done homework plus he lives 5 mins from me. It’s been 6 weeks..... the fact I’ve quite fancied him for years makes it hard to just block him and move on as I do deserve someone who wants me not a virtual relationship x

[@breanascheckwitz4549]

At my friend’s wedding last week (she is nearing 40 and it is her first/only marriage) she used two words that stuck out to me “reliable” and “protector.” I now am going to gauge each new dating opportunity on those two words. Is he being reliable? Is he acting as my protector? I realized that a man who leaves you then comes back etc. is not reliable and is not protecting you. He wasn’t protecting me when he chose to be cold and distant so therefore he is not my person.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Breana! This video should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iamXpad7gLp_has

[@reneehaynes8289]

Good luck finding that 😂

[@rish108]

Absolutely ! No time for occasional partners ! Love is the essence of life . We must protect our heart before falling for such low , insensitive, impure and badly brought up people ! They don't deserve us !!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! These videos should be helpful for anyone who’s questioning whether or not it’s time to walk away: kzbin.info/www/bejne/l3mneZyFf6Z_oMU and kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs.

[@LisaGemini]

I'm disgusted with online dating so I'm taking a big, long break. I no longer obsess about how to entice a man. And it feels really good, concentrating on my own life for a change. Good video as usual, Helena! God bless you and Tom.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💛

[@krissyaguilar1814]

I ain’t putting no one on a pedestal and I’m certainly not going to prove myself to a man , I know I’m good enough and that’s my story and I’m sticking to it 😤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that!

[@meganwildhood3893]

I am doing this right now - letting go of a man who I have been begging for crumbs from and who has been triggering all my ex-husband stuff. I. am doing it. I am choosing myself and putting my own heart first. I am no longer clinging to crumbs or holding onto this guy "until my man shows up."

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m happy to hear that, Megan! These videos should help confirm that you’re making the right decision: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pXfZl4GjjLKom6c and kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs.

[@meganwildhood3893]

@@HelenaHartCoaching Yes! Thank you! I have already experienced new men entering my sphere! No one has grabbed my attention yet but I've never had the attention of multiple men before, so that's a new experience.. I'm taking that as an encouragement from the universe that the hard work of letting go was the right choice!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@SK-no2pp]

codependent people learn to put the needs of others ahead of their own and will sacrifice their needs and principles in order to maintain relationships. People who are codependent feel a strong pull toward validation and self-worth from others. When they don’t receive it, they become anxious. One can unlearn these patterns. It starts with building your self-concept outside of and apart from others. To be able to have healthy, mutually loving relationships, we need to be able to put the parts of our brain seeking safety at ease by cultivating that security within ourselves, rather than externally. IF you put his needs/wants above your own, then it would self abandonment.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! I talk a little more about that in these videos if anyone would like to check them out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/emrRonWlZ8mHesk and kzbin.info/www/bejne/hH_Ne3aDaqutZtU.

[@tanikae966]

So well said

[@serenity8295]

I did all of this for 6 yrs I was lost and co dependent.. He left me for married troll who harassed me. God,Your vids and couple others lead me on amazing journey of self discovery and how to value myself. Ex now blocked after months of crumbs. Don't allow potential guys to treat me like this now. Learned this at 43 feels amazing and was teaching my daughter this last nite. Just walk out if player value yourself . ty Helena!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Serenity! Thanks for sharing your experience here - this short video might also be helpful for future reference, too: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs

[@lovepositivity2632]

I never knew any of these relationship dynamics at all recently I got to know all these and I've always made all the "do nots" in every relationship I've been so far I gotta change myself completely!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’d love to hear how this goes for you! 💗

[@alcudiababe1]

I watch a lot of TV and I've taken snippets of advice from the shows I watch, so, I always remember this episode of Friends where Ross says to Rachel after she's broken up with Pavlo that he's never liked him, that he's a jerk, and how she deserves to be with someone who makes her feel special and that's how a guy should treat her, how he should wake up every morning and say to himself oh my God I'm with Rachel, I'm with Rachel. That's what a guy should do if he's in love and that's always stuck with me of how a guy SHOULD be treating me

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Love it, thanks for sharing! 💞

[@Mrs.T305]

I'm getting on married December 9th. Thank you and Matthew for all your advice. Hopefully after the wedding I can share my experience as a guests or on your FB page.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so happy to hear that, Natalie! I’d absolutely LOVE to hear your story - definitely keep me posted. Congratulations!! ❤️

[@ausrinesakalauskaite]

Congratulations!

[@Beachbby850]

The issue I’m having is getting him to stop bread crumbing marriage and living arrangements… it’s been 3 years and he’s back and forth about when we should live together, engagement … all of it

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here. Three years is MORE than enough time for a man to know what he wants to do, in my opinion. 💜

[@alcudiababe1]

I watched this one video this once sometime ago and I can't remember who it was off the top of my head now but the guy speaking explained it like this. There were three women at a bar and a guy comes up to the first woman asks to buy her a drink but also says something insulting. This woman is so enraged she tips her drink over him and storms off. He goes up to the seccond woman asks to buy a drink, says something about her that's insulting, she gives him the eye but not the push off, he continued to be a jerk and then she walked away from him. The third woman who he offers to buy a drink for he makes some comment about her necklace saying it looked tacky and not very nice and she turns around with a smile saying I know, and then makes an excuse by saying she knows it's not very nice - we'll, he's just insulted her to her face and even though he's being a jerk a little more she's tolerating being in his company because the other two women didn't want to hang with him because they had an idea of they want to be treated and it wasn't by being insulted. So, I agree, the more you hang with people who say certain stuff to you and you don't walk away you tolerate the abuse and that's by a verbally abusive guy.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Absolutely, thanks for sharing! 💕

[@pronobiska]

Dear Helena, this is amazing, I just wanted to let you know how much I love and appreciate your work. I.listen to your podcasts on Spotify, they are so great, and your newsletters too! I also bought several of your programs. I started to feel hopeful again that I can actually.find love after some horrible experiences and 5 years of being single, and it all started with you. I am learning to let go of the negative programming of my family of origin, it felt impossible to think differently and I am slowly changing my perception. I had done lots of work on myself, also therapy, and it never moved me forward the way finding your work is doing. May all the gods and goddesses of the whole universe bless you and send love and light your way!!! Greetings from Belgium

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so happy to hear that, thanks for sharing your experience here! I’d love to hear how things continue to go for you - definitely keep me posted! ❤️

[@pronobiska]

@@HelenaHartCoaching dear Helena, of course I will, it's so kind of you, thank you and love to you!

[@tinaffernandes3128]

Thank you Helena for all of your practical and extremely informative content! 👏 💓 I am so grateful to hear these tips again now more than 2 years later after I started to follow you. I have applied them over time attracting the best boyfriend I have ever had the joy of loving in my life the past 5 months!! Our relationship is progressing naturally and we are able to be vulnerable with eachother and I finally feel supported as myself at 42 years old and he's a few years younger than me 😉! I listened to this video and recognize how far I have come and it has confirmed that I no longer display those lower value behaviors, (which were learned habits from childhood) self compassion and doing the self reflective work helped tremendously while I continue on a healing journey and value myself and practiced my boundaries, while standing up for myself in a balanced feminine way. The guys who weren't right for me I was able to easily let go of and made room for my wonderful boyfriend now! Thank you and many blessings to you and your husband! 💞🙏🎊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Tina! I’m so happy to hear that, thanks for sharing your experience here - that’s exactly how it works! I’d love to hear how things continue to go for you. ❤️

[@womenwhodate7643]

I never regret watching a video from you 🥰 What you're saying in this video is hard to accept but it's true. All the best ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💗

[@samboriboun2213]

If he was the right man we wouldnt be watching this,amazing info..i was wrong i apologised now i live my life if hes not there well at least i know there is room for a new man

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These videos should also be helpful for anyone who’s questioning whether or not it’s time to walk away: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/l3mneZyFf6Z_oMU and kzbin.info/www/bejne/p33Elaybnq12kMk.

[@ekaterinasaturn6853]

The flowers are so beautiful! And you are always elegant, sweet and exquisite! And your message is powerful!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much! ❤️

[@susierodriuez3087]

Be Stronger Ladies 2022 Nomore Taking the leftovers 😇🥰Selfcare My Queens&Princesses

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Love it, Susie - thanks for sharing! These videos should also be helpful for anyone who’s looking to do that: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p3KZc5p9Z5lpmLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYfRm5ppiquMmrs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/baPCk5RqoLeYl7M and kzbin.info/www/bejne/l3mneZyFf6Z_oMU.

[@songsforsale427]

Don't make ltr the goal, Don't accept crumbs, don't accept bad behavior, don't accept excuses and don't change yourself to pls him

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! 💜

[@KarenRivera-tx5xd]

WOW!!! This is so spot on & concise!!! I love videos that get to the point like this & tend to gravitate more towards these types of to the point influencers in general 💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed this, Karen! This short video should also be helpful for anyone who’s questioning whether or not it’s time to walk away and move on from a man: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs

[@KarenRivera-tx5xd]

@@HelenaHartCoaching oh thanks that's a good one to view! I missed that one!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💝

[@celestenova338]

Ahhhh I’ve been doing all of these 🤦🏻‍♀️ and it’s been eating at me. I feel like I’m about to lose him and I wouldn’t blame him. I’m not an attractive person atm. It’s time to get back to ME! Starting today 💘 Update: I pushed him away and broke up with me a little over 3 weeks ago 💔 I could see it happening, I could see all the things I was doing wrong yet my anxiety increased more and more. I do have generalized anxiety that’s been diagnosed, but that didn’t matter. He’s gone now and I miss him dearly 💔

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Celeste! I know many people can relate (we’ve all been there!). These videos might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p3KZc5p9Z5lpmLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/baPCk5RqoLeYl7M, kzbin.info/www/bejne/d2K1qYNuba-nq5o, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fYfRm5ppiquMmrs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5yphYConsego5Y.

[@aylinarkan199]

same here!!! i support you girl!!

[@mariansue4107]

He’s not the right man for me. Here i am waking up early in the morning to wait a sign that never came. Signs that never came even before he wants to court me.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many people can relate. This short video should be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs

[@kstepk5003]

Omg first 3 minutes and I’m blown away

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this resonated with you! This video might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs

[@teenafrench7236]

I know this is totally unrelated, but your flower arrangements behind you are always soooo beautiful and stylish🌺🌹💐🌻🌷

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Teena! 💐

[@eternity4999]

Amazing thoughts and just spot on!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💜 This episode I recorded with my husband should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gH7JYZSBm9Z2eNU

[@soniar7754]

I've been seeing a guy that was showing up consistently and has been planning dates on his own for us. It's been great he makes me feel important and special. He had to go out of town for 2 weeks because his dad was ill and he came back a bit off. We spent the day together the day after he came back and it was great! After that he's been a bit distant and I'm feeling confused by that. What could have changed out of the blue from one day to the next? I'm sure I should lean back but it's truly bothering me 😔

[@wxj8658]

Pull away, he will come back, trust me.

[@SK-no2pp]

Keep the focus on how amazing you are, and why wouldn’t he want to be in a relationship with you?

[@lottienielsen5060]

Thank you so much for your authentic advice and guidance Helena. I really appreciated

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Lottie! ❤️

[@shirleychester9922]

So glad I’m able to watch this. I’m in this situation and this opened my eyes. Thank you Helena ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Shirley! This video might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs

[@AAriesMoon]

Thank you Helena! I'm currently going through this with my child's father. I just really want to move past these feelings of longing and get to a place where I am content with or without him. Apart of me feels like I'm pushing him away, and the other part feels like I'm being taken for granted. Not sure how to navigate this situation with a child involved 😕

[@christina4018]

Hi, from another coach I watch who’s more about self improvement and less about dating, and because I’ve been in your situation. Be an awesome parent and enjoy the time with your child best you can, socialise and be happy with the opportunities that present themselves from that. They grow up and move on faster than you think and it’s important to support their development best you can. Men come and go but you only get one shot at being a parent. As your confidence and self esteem grow from that you’ll attract better things into your life. Child’s father might come around and might not, but other men are going to be impressed with the job you’re doing as a parent over time and more choices will present themselves if you look after your health and keep your self esteem high. Maybe not the solution you’ve hoping to hear but it works.

[@AAriesMoon]

@@christina4018 This was amazing advice! I really appreciate it! ❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Yes, that’s great advice from Christina! 💗

[@tlc6756]

@@christina4018 excellent advice 👍.

[@kayebrunton1238]

Hi Helena I'm currently in a situation you describe,only receiving crumbs,hot and cold. Sometimes even when he speaks to me he is so formal,like I'm just a friend. He only suggests we meet up on his terms only.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Kaye. These are the videos I’d recommend for your situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/lZfMhYijlKl2d9k, kzbin.info/www/bejne/onPCfWqwhaedqrc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/eaGQd4CtmNx8j6c, kzbin.info/www/bejne/houTi3qpadaZpK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJ27nmeHrtOjfK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/aoSlqYh9h6d5nKs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/n6WWnKlpfpyVebc.

[@Avoid_Low_Frequency]

Amazing advice!!!! Thank you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️ This episode might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gH7JYZSBm9Z2eNU

[@janetlis2613]

Well I’m ready to fade him away because he’s not yet available

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Janet, these videos might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/iamXpad7gLp_has, kzbin.info/www/bejne/r6utgHiHr8SlorM and kzbin.info/www/bejne/ol6bmJaCrtWbpdk.

[@mellead8727]

Love you, sister Helena 💕 thanks for all you do!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re very welcome! ❤️

[@TheRalphie2020]

❤❤❤

[@ashleyoverholt449]

I would love to here more about what you have say, about bread crumbing. And how women, can stand up for them self when men are bread crumbing them. Because I feel that this has happen to me, in my relationship's that I try to make with each guy that comes my way.

[@Jannikorn]

I think she would say that if you recognize his behavior as breadcrumbing to walk away from him. She and Tom have a video together where they both agree that a man who’s not coming toward you is not interested in you. Let him fall away from your life and this creates space for the guy(s) who want to be with you to show up. Let those breadcrumbers fall out of your life!😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I agree with Lucy - it’s not about “trying to make a relationship happen” with a man. If a man is breadcrumbing you, the best thing you can do is recognize that and walk away to create the space for the RIGHT man to show up in your life and come towards you. 💞 This video should be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs

[@77SunnyDazeInDecember]

🙏 Thankyou, Helena ❣️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💗

[@ladymarebear]

This is SO good. Thank you. I’m going to watch this several times now that I’m single after a major heartbreak. I’m now aware that he never deserved me- but it was a painful lesson.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I’m glad it was helpful for you. ❤️

[@laurelking6260]

I did act needy and clingy when he pulled away, ,so sent him this: i am feeling some confusion from you, which is totally fine but i'm going to take some space Because I don't want to get closer to someone who's not sure what they want. Did this push him away for good?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

One text isn’t going to push the right man away for good - what matters more is the overarching DYNAMIC between the two of you. For example, if his energy isn’t coming towards you consistently and you’re always feeling a sense of longing or “pining” for him, that’s never going to work. 💜

[@laurajeanrivera1552]

Wow!!! Time to refocus lol 😆 I didn't know this

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad this gave you a new perspective! 💕

[@realtalktina]

Needed this today

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad it helped! 💗

[@charscanland752]

Thank you needed to hear this my on again off again husband ( love of my life) separated so many times bc of his need for a “ break?” I’ve been allowing this for far too long

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Char! 💜

[@Minervalady]

Hahaha you just literally describe my whole situation I gave too much to this guy who just after all ghosted me

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Patricia - I’m glad this resonated with you! 💜

[@nevermind3659]

What do I do ? He is young and his family wants him to complete his studies before marrying me :( Should I wait for two years ?

[@breakergirl47]

All the single ladies 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽 if you want to wait please put a ring 💍 on it , oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh oh.

[@GoldenAngel-]

How old are you both and definitely talk to your family about this , get to know this person well before marriage

[@ginaalesha2]

I’m in well over a year with a man who lives and works away, he tells me he loves me and I love him too, but he’s just not here much, we text and talk daily, but it’s not enough bc I’m always wondering when we’ll be together again

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Gina! These videos might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/l3mneZyFf6Z_oMU and kzbin.info/www/bejne/p33Elaybnq12kMk.

[@patpfaller4797]

What if the man is unhappily married?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

If he’s married to someone else, I would definitely move on. 💙

[@tess7798]

Excellent video, thanks.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Tess! 💕

[@colleenmariebeautiful1897]

Helena this was Amazing Content and very Helpful... Thank You So Much~💗

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I’m glad it was helpful. ❤️

[@ginaalesha2]

2nd time watching this! Love it!❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed it, Gina! 💗

[@sarahnelson2600]

Amazing videos! So glad I found your channel!! 🥰

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Sarah - happy to have you here! ❤️

[@Rwissam1987]

Thank you for the video! Can you explain or make a video about the difference between bread crumbs, pull aways and ghosting. How to know which one is which. How and when to express our boundaries without coming across as needy. When is it the right time to leave. I broke up with my boyfriend because he wasn't consistent and I feel terrible now. I usually meet someone I like only once a year and I'm 34. I keep thinking that maybe I could have explained my feelings about the situation in a feminine way instead of taking that decision on my own because I was emotionally in pain from him not stepping up. Also is it ever ok, to text first? I feel like most of guys take you for granted and loose respect as soon as I text regardless of the 80/20 rule. I advice the ladies to think twice before leaving. The reason we have so many issues is that we don't have that many genuine connections. That's why we hesitate so much even if we are not getting the treatment we want. There's of course many guys but most of them just want sex or being entertained....

[@RC-gc8yo]

You will know ghosting when it happens! Great dates, texts, sex, you’ve basically shared your life story with them… then they disappear…. NO communication… oh well… his loss…….. hey… the sex was great…. At 60.. I still got it.

[@Rwissam1987]

@@RC-gc8yo That could be also just him pulling away, that's why I'm asking...

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Rather than trying to categorize a man - which just keeps you in your masculine energy and your focus on HIM - I’d pay attention to how what he’s doing (or not doing) feels to YOU. I’d also work on turning around the story that most men just want sex or to be entertained, since having a belief that there’s nothing better out there will keep you “stuck” on a man who’s not stepping up or making you feel safe and secure in the relationship. These videos might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/eGaUeZxriKebl6c, kzbin.info/www/bejne/rZLLpY2On8l5m6M, kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZi3i3SAj9NkhKs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/onPCfWqwhaedqrc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJ27nmeHrtOjfK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/n6WWnKlpfpyVebc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/aoSlqYh9h6d5nKs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/f3KnlGlqps2ggNU.

[@bellefairydust]

How do I stop having the anxiety of when I like someone that they won’t like me back! I don’t seem to like the guys interested in me. The guys I like don’t seem interested in me 😩

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These videos might be helpful for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/rGOxnHiGjruirKM, kzbin.info/www/bejne/emrRonWlZ8mHesk, kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y5fQkoVunMeNpMk, kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZu7ipeDbpWVibc and kzbin.info/www/bejne/iZ7VkHV3ia9raZI.

[@samanthajane11.11]

Unfortunately I have to wait for my man a bit longer because of border closure here. However we now have an date when we can finally meet! We have talked everyday on facetime for 7 months and just have another 5 months till we can meet in Bali in April. Wish us luck guys! We have come this far it wasn't easy but we still want to be together just as much as the beginning. Despite all everything that is against our union we are still trying💖

[@annefelice4791]

Best wishes!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! 💞

[@mb-dh9ic]

Hey Helena! Thank you for all you wonderful and helpful Content. :) I was wondering if you could make a video or a podcast on how to disconnect from the outcome/ non-attachment to the result when interested in a particular someone. I’m having troubles letting go and surrendering to the out come! If you had done Techniques to make this an easier process that would be so helpful 🙏🏼 or if you have a video you could suggest for now 💕 thank you! And have a great weekend 😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️ I’ll keep that in mind for future topics, thanks for the great suggestion! In the meantime, these videos might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hmqun5aNjc-qras, kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZnvMcp97iLWgjNU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/fqrQZaVthNOmmdE and kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZqWWqZiHoZeqpdE …I also have a podcast episode on tapping into your intuition, trusting and surrendering that should also be helpful.

[@serafinclaudia317]

We were married 5 years but was too hard and he wasnt happy and other issues

[@TheKruelka]

In my relationship there is almost 100% focus on the man cause he has depression and aches, what to do in this case?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These videos might be helpful for your situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZqPQpqagoK1gopI and kzbin.info/www/bejne/mJyzgHywh9GgoK8.

[@andreeagorcsa1812]

Thank you, Helena!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Andreea! 💕

[@chocomi9656]

This helped me so much

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad it helped! 💗 This short video should also be helpful for anyone who’s questioning whether or not it’s time to walk away and move on from a man: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs

[@planetwalker798]

please give specific examples - such as bread crumbs?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These videos should help give you some clarity: kzbin.info/www/bejne/houTi3qpadaZpK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJ27nmeHrtOjfK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/onPCfWqwhaedqrc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/f3KnlGlqps2ggNU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/m4a7eouMprSnY6c and kzbin.info/www/bejne/n6WWnKlpfpyVebc.

[@musokiemily336]

I did all these. Thanks

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! This video might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs

[@musokiemily336]

@@HelenaHartCoaching ooh thanks. Helena.

[@ultravioletspirit]

What would you consider crumbs?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

That concept is explained more in these videos: kzbin.info/www/bejne/houTi3qpadaZpK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJ27nmeHrtOjfK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/f3KnlGlqps2ggNU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/n6WWnKlpfpyVebc and kzbin.info/www/bejne/onPCfWqwhaedqrc.

[@Jannikorn]

I have trouble with believing I’ll ever not fall for the breadcrumb man again. I kind of have a romanticized idea that someone who treated me this way from the past will “realize the error of his ways” and apologize and I’ll give him a do-over. It actually scares me to think this. 😖

[@elefoundation3703]

Work on ur self esteem that's fine problem with you all

[@Jannikorn]

@@elefoundation3703 I am

[@mmassie597]

You HAVE to heal from that energy sis 🙏🙏 it's causing you to be bleeding prey in a world full of hungry predators. Seal your leaks or you'll forever be food for someone else without ever receiving reciprocity. 💜

[@Jannikorn]

@@mmassie597 I understand what you mean crystal clear! I am healing the wounds of putting my dysfunctional family on a pedastal. The men I chose or attracted were all representations of them. Thank you for the positivity😌

[@mmassie597]

@@Jannikorn I'm working through the same sis 💜💜💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💫💫💫 it ain't easy, which means the reward will be great 😎💐💐

[@TheCakediva08]

Thanks and God bless you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Rasheeda! ❤️

[@biba350]

Can I ask when my partner doesn't like something I do or say he won't talk to me he pulls away any advice thanks

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

While I don’t know the details of your situation, this video might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/gqKpYYSwlNOHibc

[@kristenmoonrise]

🙌🏽 thank you Helena

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Kristen! ❤️

[@imo.124]

Thank you!!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️

[@queenjee8570]

What about waiting on a long distance guy that has plans on living in the same state

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’d say it really depends on the situation and how concrete his plans are. These videos might be helpful if you’re long distance right now: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mGfchpqHeNmlsKc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/hmG2oqKcl955gZo, kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYPQZJWfZqmBipo and kzbin.info/www/bejne/jYjRhp-Gja2iY9U.

[@Watermelonbaby37]

You have amazing videos and I look forward to see more of them soon!! BIG LIKE & new friend here 👍👍😍

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much - happy to have you here! ❤️

[@krisp1969]

I saw a video that you did and can not find it. It was with a friend of yours and talked about if a man is “ripe” and women should not settle if he’s not “r I p e “. Please help me, I want to send it to my daughter.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Was it this one? kzbin.info/www/bejne/bYO4Z6eafZ2Eb8k

[@krisp1969]

I believe that is the one. Thank you very much!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜

[@sandrameyer6310]

I have a question. What if he was completely committed to me and then I was too needy and had too much expectations on him and pulled him away. And now he tries to come back but it doesn’t work like he wanted it to. He is hot and cold, gives me breadcrumbs and knows I’m waiting for him because it was my fault he pulls away. But he can’t go back to the feelings he had and he doesn’t know if he ever will. He hopes, but he doesn’t know it. What can I do? My feelings are so hurt and I want him so badly. He was so wonderful to me. And I messed it up and know I get no chance to do better.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Sandra, these videos might be helpful for your situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/sKu4mKmpgaapg68, kzbin.info/www/bejne/b6vUgIl5eZytqq8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/pJXPe3iMibSgasU, kzbin.info/www/bejne/baPCk5RqoLeYl7M and kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE.

[@mariaowens3399]

Thanks 🙏🏽

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@valariecrebbs4751]

I send your videos to my sister, to let her know things not to do

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Awesome, thanks for sharing! 💞

[@alisoncanty1894]

I have had men who have chosen me to the point of marriage….but I didn’t want them. This has been a pattern in my life and I don’t know why. Could you do a video on this topic? I know this is off-topic but I wanted to mention it anyway.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’ll keep that in mind for future video topics, thanks for the suggestion! In the meantime, this podcast episode should be helpful - you can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/0D0ALvaBmRwQ1P6iO7P2vV?si=6UfF1OnNSqiwlBF1UO7Waw …or on Apple Podcasts here (feel free to leave me a review!): podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000542777981

[@alisoncanty1894]

@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you very much.

[@suzetteshares]

You look so beautiful in this video. 💌

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Suzette! 💖

[@victoriastaunches4470]

How do I tell him I need to let go after promising to wait for him. It's complicated on his end and I'm afraid to say that I've been holding on for a long time. I'm not sure I can wait anymore, I feel like my time for a relationship is wasting away.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

“Waiting” for a man it is not a good idea, in my opinion. This podcast episode might help give you some ideas on what to say - you can listen to it on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/episode/4X0QHejFTKLJAiXhPR9OdY?si=_oBUWmueTjCZdixIOSle3Q …or on Apple Podcasts here (feel free to leave me a review!): podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214?i=1000535607362

[@victoriastaunches4470]

@@HelenaHartCoaching I've followed you and love your advice. Unfortunately, I knew exactly what you were going to tell me😥. It's just so hard, he continues to come in and out of my life. I know I deserve better, thank you and I will definitely watch.♡ you're awesome.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Yes, “in an out” is always a red flag in my opinion. These videos might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lZfMhYijlKl2d9k, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJTNd6Sqlqydabs, kzbin.info/www/bejne/eaGQd4CtmNx8j6c, kzbin.info/www/bejne/iamXpad7gLp_has, kzbin.info/www/bejne/ol6bmJaCrtWbpdk, kzbin.info/www/bejne/r6utgHiHr8SlorM and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qaK1eH-Pm9GZmsU.

[@awatson8832]

Let him go. You don't have to answer to him of your intentions or actions. Who said you had to wait for him? Get on with your life and do your thing. Don't waste your time waiting. Make a bow turn and move away from him. He doesn't deserve your heart, mind or energies.

[@victoriastaunches4470]

@@awatson8832 I really wanted to wait, just as time goes on I heard less and less from him with me making most of the contact. I wish things were different but now I understand they won't be. I'm sure I won't hear the last from him. It's difficult to just cut my losses, whatever it was I felt for him it was strong and it hurts.

[@cc1383]

I really like your blouse

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💖

[@lisagutierrez8651]

What do you do when you been in a relationship for a year living together and they do things that are disrespectful ..by not valid ur feelings and not emotional available plus has several females fb page

[@jocelynnicole663]

You move out?

[@SK-no2pp]

You figure out whether this is something that is OK with you, and that you want to live with. How can someone emotionally unavailable be meeting your needs ?

[@jessicarandolph6504]

Thank you for this idk how I stumbled on this video. Needless to say I’m literally guilty of every single one of these. Question though I’m committed and have an extreme amount of kids with “this man” what suggestions might you have for someone in my situation.

[@SK-no2pp]

What exactly is your situation

[@rebeccajones8628]

No CRUMBS....Ever...or bad behavior....Chemistry is over rated... If they want you they will pursue you....

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here, Rebecca! 💜

[@serafinclaudia317]

I definitely want a man to build life with and marry in time .

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing - it’s definitely possible! These videos might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mH-Um62IhcSmh5o, kzbin.info/www/bejne/nnOlZJWudsRpeac, kzbin.info/www/bejne/pqO1pXmsocifmqc and kzbin.info/www/bejne/nmK2epulqqZ8fpI.

[@Shreya-p7z]

Hey!! Please tell me if it’s okay to block my sp on social media while manifesting him? Does it effects manifesting? Does it shows lack? Because i stalks him all day plz answer

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Stalking him all day definitely won’t help anything, and in my opinion you won’t have to apply manifestation techniques to “make” the right man step up or contact you. A man who’s truly interested will do that all on his own. I share my perspective in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bJesi52Lj8RmjsU

[@abenaasantewaa6940]

Thank you coach helena, I am facing Same situation please help me

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! I don’t do private coaching anymore, but you can get your personal questions answered by my top coaches here if you need some extra support: feminineenchantment.com

[@serafinclaudia317]

He said it's over. After 5 years did marry

[@laurawest3059]

Are there resources or tips for those of us who have been married for decades?

[@genabyrd8435]

@@sebnemnisanci I suppose, if marriage was your goal. But if your goal is a fulfilling relationship, you have to keep working at it, to still choose each other every day.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Laura, absolutely - while I don’t know the details of your situation, these videos would be a good place to start: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hYrTnJiwfbpqpZo, kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmPVmaaDg7atgbc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/enKohmZ7aLStf80, kzbin.info/www/bejne/mJyzgHywh9GgoK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/gqKpYYSwlNOHibc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5vCdqRqhbhqitE, kzbin.info/www/bejne/bYqoY4eDeZiEZ6s, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJSxhoqHh7R3la8 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXaZfalvrLNjeK8.

[@serafinclaudia317]

But left found someone else it's easy and fun

[@lotusflower3154]

if someone doesn’t want to be with you it doesn’t make them a bad person . They just don’t want you and it’s alright. so many times we try to say a person is losing out because they didn’t pick you . no you would be losing out it they did choose you and really didn’t want you . they chose you because the person they really wanted didn’t want them so 🤷🏾‍♀️ yeah let them choose you For the woman that says call her and tell her you’re not gonna see her anymore Stop and see what he does without your influence on his decision Being the wife doesn’t always make you the winner I was the wife and behind close doors I was loser In theory

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience and insights here! 💜

[@DatingstoriesRea]

Absolutely

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Rea! 💕

[@cami7961]

Where do these better men live? 😄

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

They live in the exact same places as all the other men! 💜 This video might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZpykmK1nhpKraJI

[@whateverrr3893]

I chose to never commit and been avoiding men for 40 years. Lmao

[@prettylittlehummingbird1212]

This is the best way to go!!!

[@maysaraali5772]

The k you Helena 💗

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️

[@AmyElizabethBehnke]

❤😇❤ Helena, I found myself wishing you wouldn't use the term breadcrumbing. Maybe just because I need to know what it is exactly. Idk, just wanted to share my thought. I'm very grateful for you!!😇❤😇

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Amy, these videos should help give you some clarity: kzbin.info/www/bejne/onPCfWqwhaedqrc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJ27nmeHrtOjfK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/houTi3qpadaZpK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/n6WWnKlpfpyVebc and kzbin.info/www/bejne/f3KnlGlqps2ggNU.

[@AmyElizabethBehnke]

Awww, how sweet! Thank you so much,@@HelenaHartCoaching!! 🤗💖😇

[@aleksandrakettner905]

💌

[@lascaux4497]

😢😢😢