He's Just NOT Into You... | 10 Signs He's Not Interested In You (Part 1)

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

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[@PopCultureKing2009]

He doesn’t even say anything he doesn’t talk

[@Magnoliasdiary]

Take mixed signals as a NO.

[@bambi4410]

😶😶😶thank you.

[@alexmartinezlinarte3332]

Best advice ever.

[@GamersNightmares]

It depends tho. Cuz i was in love with someone and i gave him mixed signals. Because wss just not readdy to commit in the relationship

[@moniamonia1009]

Yes. After a couple of months of strange connection I just came to that conclusion. Weird feeling

[@kotic007]

Definitely! If it's weird - it's weird. Even if both parties are trying - it sucks - but just move on.

[@kellyr9456]

I wish people would just be honest with each other. Save everyone's TIME and ENERGY! Simple!

[@Oceanmaster_]

Omg I sooooo really agree with you. I’m always open about how I feel exactly to avoid these things. I just met a guy that’s obviously not interested, yet sometimes he tells me that he wants to “try” with me. It’s frustrating, awful and exhausting it is even worse when you actually liked him. I hate grey areas. And it always happens to me. I’m done.

[@jessicaaguilar1608]

That doesnt sound like very much fun

[@allisond5669]

God. Richardson I wish the same but that appears to be too healthy

[@saraax2434]

Kelly Richardson fr

[@tulipsontheorgan]

Kelly Richardson then he doesn’t get laid

[@AlinaRostova]

You don’t need 10 signs, the only thing you need to know is what he says at the very beginning of the video; if he likes you; you’ll know, if he doesn’t like you; you’ll be confused. The end :)

[@acharich]

Meanwhile, ladies on here are advising guys to keep her guessing.. 💀💀💀💀💀

[@georgeannekaufman4867]

You couldn't have made that clearer. Thanks for this.

[@dianneciresi6324]

Not so sure about it that. The one I dated said he liked me during our 1st date & then as time went on & after he got to know most things about me, he lost interest, dissipated & no more connection whatsoever. I think I was a rebounder cause he may have still had ties with his previous ex gf who he prolly was separated or broke up with at that previous time.

[@melanierobson3336]

I dated a man for 3 months. Told him I didn't feel like my feelings for him were where I felt they should be at by that point and I was sorry but I didn't think it was working out. He cried. A few weeks later he messaged me and said he really liked me and asked me to give him a second chance, because he thought he could open up more. He invited me to come spend the weekend with him in Toronto. I laughed and said you just want to get into my pants. He paused and said don't get me wrong, I'm definitely not saying I wouldn't enjoy that, but I just want the chance to get to know you better, I think we could be good together. So I went. A year later I married him 🙂 ❤

[@rapidjerkytumblingmovement4340]

That's probably it

[@terrywade3696]

“When a man wants a relationship, he makes it happen! There’s no guesswork involved!”

[@justinebailey5333]

Right

[@texasgirl2.0]

True

[@rapidjerkytumblingmovement4340]

Exactly

[@Dragonfly_magictarot]

Yes

[@6maria94]

Problem is that no one makes it happen with me xD

[@Melll5]

I hate that I’m 43 and still need to watch these videos 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@jlywi7171]

I feel ya... I’m 38 and feel the same way 😒

[@miriammendoza1432]

I'm 38 and feel this way too!

[@rosewills84]

36 and I’m still learning. Don’t feel too bad honey.

[@karenobana4255]

Me as well. How am I this old and still so clueless about men? 😢

[@MarianaTraxel]

42. Still learning

[@TanzaniteHayley]

Never chase a man.

[@fargeeks]

and never chase women

[@fargeeks]

@@thykingdomcome22 i heard when youre the one doing the chase it turns a lady off to the point to now youre just being a creep

[@fargeeks]

@@thykingdomcome22 ah well fuck it This lady who wants me, flirted with me and such Well she has a boyfriend and yet tells me she has feelings for me Her man is a guy who i dont know and i hear he is a jealous type So... Its Red Flags written all over the place

[@fargeeks]

@@thykingdomcome22 yeah, plus she tells me she cant messege, snapchat, text me , anymore because her man is questioning her about me, and she is a coworker. The only way we can chat now is in person but she leaves before my shift is done or way after im done (staying back until she is finished with her shift) So we hardly see each other, or talk. Yet she tells me You dont have to be a stranger *in a upset angry way*

[@fargeeks]

@@thykingdomcome22 oh and another thing , she also has a child with him!!!

[@hormigui88]

BIGGEST TAKE OUT: keep your options open ladies. Not necessarily with more men, just keep busy. The right guy will want to waste NO TIME in stupid games.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Yes! And being busy isn't a game for those who might view it as such. It's making *you* the priority over him. It's a shift in mindset 😉

[@hs8shsubjsishejw747]

Ho yea get the right fall into you why border just weasting times move on sombody out they just same like me lam still looking

[@hs8shsubjsishejw747]

Oh yea just sutpid games why border

[@nutech1810]

Also draw caution with those that move WAY too fast. I just got love bombed by a narcissist. He did a full cycle in 2.5 weeks lol Idealization > Devaluation > Discard (by me)

[@Adam-cc9ny]

The majority of men are not interested in women who have options. Why? It means we are not valuable to her, first of all, and no value = no respect; it also means we are replaceable, thus, we also will move on to a better option. And second, we are not interested in competing for her affection with other guys in her "options" list because trophies make poor girlfriends.

[@makeupdarling6171]

If a person is interested in another, they’ll make the time, not excuses. And this goes for ALL types of relationships.

[@IMarie-xs5dg]

Makeup Darling So true! We know when someone likes us and wants to spend time with us 🙌🏾👍🏾💕

[@fargeeks]

Makeup Darling heres one excuse, my boyfriend will be home shortly (fact)

[@jm543]

Exactly

[@AlexandertheGreat99]

Including adult children. Sadly. 😢😢😢

[@acharich]

🎯🎯🎯

[@lisaboelema7235]

"If he don't love you anymore, just walk your fine ass out the door"

[@nourahnielson6204]

Lisa Boelema hahaha, true

[@sherryfews4132]

Never chase em!! Replace em!! 😂

[@skyehagenstein7883]

🤣🤣🤣

[@daisysunset2432]

I heard this somewhere

[@georgettethomas2540]

Facts

[@courtneyfleischman2338]

If a guy acts like this, don’t walk away- run away.

[@juanitasews5782]

Yes, as fast as I can

[@moubhattacharyay6891]

Truly LoL,, He's Being Cold & I'm Getting Hotness Of Running From Him😁😂🤣

[@sh3llytieu172]

Don't run step on your gas pedal

[@divyaprashanthprashant7387]

True girl

[@texasgirl2.0]

Lol

[@malikaasia4987]

I had to stop watching because it was kind of hurting my feelings 😥😭

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Oh no! It’s OK. If a guy isn’t interested for whatever reason, maybe the next one will. Honestly, it may have had nothing to do with you and it all could be about his timing. But wouldn’t it be better to know faster if people aren’t interested instead of spending months of wondering so you can save yourself time and move on to the next guy? That’s why I made this video; to empower you to identify his interest sooner, not to make you feel bad about whatever his reasons were 🙂

[@malikaasia4987]

Ryan Patrick thank you! I don’t talk to the guy anymore but I wish I would’ve seen this video sooner. It would’ve saved me a lot of time

[@hannahpayne9519]

sameee😭😭😭😂😂😂

[@lexiemaep7930]

😢

[@joannajade1824]

Same

[@queenofthorns4053]

If they are not interested keep yourself away from him move on and don't look desperate. We have to have self respect always!

[@unironicgamer]

family guy: season 5; episode 12, pause the show at 8:30 in. That's how i feel about you.

[@tumpalemaso4114]

@@unironicgamer okhy wow guys

[@w1975b]

Agree with moving on, but it really sucks that I feel the guy gets away with being a jerk (that's the nice way to put it).

[@queenofthorns4053]

@@w1975b is all on him. He or she looks bad for treating her hat person bad.

[@madamhill2121]

Dont waste people's times. Be honest and not cruel by breaking people's hearts.

[@MaryJane-zt3pn]

The worst is when they PRETEND to be interested to keep you tagging along... for their own ego boost. He tells me he’s interested in a relationship with me, that he can see us as boyfriend/girlfriend, he tells me how much he likes me, he sends morning texts, night texts, flirty texts all day saying he’s missing me. BUT, when it’s comes to making plans, he makes them to cancel them last minute or not even show up. Feeling like this may fall into the “keeping his options open” category 🙄

[@LEA-yr7bb]

I legit went through the same exact thing. Talked about a future together and everything. After 9 months I decided to just walk away. He tried and tried to get me back But I figured if he isn’t ready now he’s never going to be ready.

[@elenar7836]

Went through the exact same thing but we were just in a talking stage so we werent even together… good thing it happened now and not later on

[@hawtain4399]

Same!! He said he wants a relationship and we got pics together but apart from that he was cold and distant and I had no idea how he felt about me. It felt very causal although we would go out on the odd occasion. He would only ever spend a few hours with me here and there. I think in 8 months we only spent one morning together and 2 whole days.

[@juliechildress8905]

I had a very similar situation for a few years in my early twenties while in college. My ex would have his younger sibling tag along too. My ex claimed his sibling wasn't straight, not that it mattered. But feeling like a third wheel became quite tiresome. He was also hot and cold. He brought up the subject of marriage and children early on as well. My ex and I were in our twenties so, there wasn't a need for a damn chaperone. My grandmother and some of her neighbors thought it was strange that my ex and his sibling would come over. My ex had a problem being "a man of his word." Chivalry was pretty nonexistent.

[@LB-rb4ej]

This is called " Bread Crumbing" . Google it for more info 👌

[@ginaholley3732]

Done ...don’t even want a relationship any more ...

[@prettyloco3788]

Same, what for?

[@SmurfsVIRsuGEMmo]

Gina Holley 😢💔🌹

[@IMarie-xs5dg]

Gina Holley Don’t give up, it will come when you’re not even expecting it 💕

[@catherinefisher6188]

@@IMarie-xs5dg I've heard that for years - he still hasn't come around yet!

[@clairelouise936]

❤ I hear you girl

[@ItsLotus89]

I’m lying right next to a guy who gave 7 out of 10 signs 😂😂😂🥴 let me leave 🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[@champagne7530]

3 years with a guy who gave me 7 out of 10 of those signs. turns out he was actually really genuinely busy. was recently promoted to SVP when we met flying bicoastal twice a week when we met. I mean go with your gut instinct. not every relationship follows every rule or someone's set idea of a timeline.

[@ItsLotus89]

Champagne You gotta point!! 🧐🤔

[@nevernow7527]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@shivanisohail8347]

Run

[@This_is_super_dumb_but]

@@champagne7530 So what happened? I mean, is he still "really busy?"... Did anything change?...

[@RealColdCases]

Another thing not mentioned is he or she could be a narcissist or covert narcissist. These people will act extremely interested at first, and shower you with attention (love bombing). Then, once they've hooked you, they start acting cold and distant. You start to freak out and try to make them treat you the way they once did. You become desperate to make them like you again. Ladies (and fellas) this is called trauma bonding. You're literally a game to them. They do not have good intentions. Don't mix yourself up with these kinds of people because they do not change and they do not care about you.

[@Cuuhleerity]

Totally on point. Never thought he was a narcissist after reading your comment! My goodness! Good thing I stopped the communication before it gets worse!

[@aleighga1]

Zhara Moreira Had a guy does this same thing to me for months. Just didn’t introduce me y on his family.

[@RealColdCases]

@Zhara Moreira yes, this is what they do. My advice is to cut him off, no contact. These people literally feed off of your energy. Don't give into them!

[@robincameron9195]

Lol if only I read this earlier in the year...🤦‍♀️ oh well, lesson learned.

[@camealwallace5337]

Real thing

[@sametoyoutoo8509]

Just stay single. Life is so much more exciting and interesting. Please Women get independent not dependent.

[@Amber-ou9vz]

I’m independent and a lot of times that makes me feel too masculine 💪🏽. I’m trying to get in touch with my feminine side👸🏽

[@lucylucy1933]

Where am I

[@texasgirl2.0]

Well I’m independent but I want to be in a relationship. Can’t we have both?

[@rapidjerkytumblingmovement4340]

Yes, queen 👑

[@Amber-ou9vz]

& I’m Dependent . Really don’t know the first thinking about being Truly independent.!

[@ivegotyoucovered1647]

So glad my husband told me exactly how he felt from the very beginning. We were blatantly honest from the get go. If we didn’t like something we told each other immediately. That’s followed us into marriage and it has been a huge help.

[@chynabarnescb]

Beautiful congratulations

[@iamdee2615]

You will know if he’s not interested, don’t be dumb and stop chasing him or texting him.

[@zelalsendamazigh3590]

haha expose your rage :)

[@TalkHostShow]

The saddest thing about all this that I sense these things automatically but still try to find to find a "more reasonable and understanding" explanation for his behavior because he might have "special" circumstances to act like that.

[@niwe3631]

Im dumb like that too

[@jauharahsassy4477]

Dumb too

[@runningwithscissors1564]

I made the same mistake of giving a guy the benefit of a doubt. He just turned out to be a user.

[@NkosiCebile]

A guy kept me in this grey area for 5 years ..he kept saying he loves me but his actions were exactly the signs you just gave... I wasn't physically with him (because I stressed commitment first) but he didn't want to let me go either my gut kept telling me nothing is going to change.. finally walked away this year... still single but happier now...

[@cynthiaurugutia736]

Im in a similar situation at the moment. Been "dating" this guy for 11 months now (almost the year) and he still has not given me a girlfriend title. He keeps saying "what if I wanted something serious now" but doesn't make any moves. He says he likes me but there is something about me that feels like he is lying and continuing with him isn't correct. He is also 16 years older than me..im 26 and he is 42. Do you think its best to walk away at this point as much as it hurt me to let go? Im confused. :(

[@a.s1783]

Well done. Absolutely fantastic. And in the future. Unless you both can feel eachother. Only give a guy a total attention for 1-3months max. If after 3 months he's still not putting in. Then thank yourself that you didn't waste month 4-6 or the rest of your life. 5years is way too much. Don't beat yourself up about it as you just did not know what to do in that time. Just think thanks that you suffered for a short period than the rest of your life. Now you need to heel. So go and heel you self. Be happy. And always remember if a person knows that they are doing wrong to you and they are still doing it. Then karma is a bitch and it will 100% get him in this life time. It may not be in the way you want. But karma is energy so what every energy that he was playing then the same energy will hit him in a different scenario. Now you need to go to the gym, go on holiday, change somthing about yourself. Achually change somthing about yourself and do it well so that you feel superconfident. BTW. I'm a man. So you go for it. And welldone.

[@a.s1783]

@@cynthiaurugutia736 walk away. You are young, go and meet a guy in your age category. Go and have fun. Walk away now. Your man might pull you back in. But seriously do you want a relationship with no title. Come on. Nearly a year. What is he's seeing someone else. Just tell him it's over. And that you have met some one else. It will show him that you were not messing around and it will make him think and regret loosing you.

[@cynthiaurugutia736]

@@a.s1783 In these 11 months of "dating him" it has been him who has made the "effort" to ask to see me. He is the one that always texts me first. I have not slept with him either. He knows perfectly where I stand with regards to sleeping with him. I told him straight up that if he was expecting to get the "kitty" then he was just going to lose his time trying to get it. He got angry the third time I told him that (because throughout this entire time I have emphasized that matter and he felt like I was always assuming things about him) and he said not to contact him ever again. A week after he messages me as if nothing had happened and he told me that " we both knew we wanted each other." I decided to go on a date after that and he told me "what if I told you I wanted something serious this time around" (the reason he said that is because when we first started dating he said he didn't want anything serious like a relationship and it wasn't important to label everything that quickly). That comment left me confused thinking that maybe he does want something serious. A few weeks passed after that date and he insisted on seeing me. Finally this past Sunday I accepted to see him again. On Sunday he told me that he does like me but unfortunately Im leaving abroad (I had to make up that lie that I would be moving abroad to see if maybe he would step up the game and confess to me what he really feels or to fight for me the least). But still he doesn't make any moves not even because I have "a few months left".......I can't get him past the "I really do like you" phrase. Is it all a game to eventually get me to sleep with me before I "supposedly" leave. Why do you think he stuck along with me this long after knowing that I won't sleep with him. On Sunday he even asked me what I thought about the idea of taking a weekend trip or a getaway trip. Do you think that "trip" and question is the excuse to finally get me to sleep with him to later dispose of me. What would you suggest or recommend? Apologies for this long story of my life. Im just confused.

[@msanja70]

Cebile Fortunate Sibiya a guy can’t put you anywhere you don’t want to be! Don’t waste your time!!!

[@trishisblessed6819]

Years ago I had a man tell me he wanted to have a relationship but after things reached a certain level he told me we were friends with benefits. It broke my heart. I thought I loved him. He never spoke about me, he used me and stole from me, he taught me everything I didn’t want in a man. I would have liked it if he simply said he just wanted sex. Even tho that’s rude it’s honest. My current status is that I’m so in love with my man. He treats me like a queen and everyone knows he loves me. I love him too.i stopped looking. He was around the entire time. I’m so in love now

[@alishajamil3916]

There is hope!

[@trishisblessed6819]

Alisha Jamil absolutely!!! I hope you find someone who will love you so very much. You will know when you find it. My hearts so complete. And when the love bug hits you remember to come back so we can celebrate your happiness!!!

[@TaliaWho]

That is awesome

[@trishisblessed6819]

TaliaWho thank you. 😊

[@hadassahlazarus2299]

He said "I'm not ready yet". And I said it's wonderful knowing him. Then I was gone!

[@kgs2280]

“I love you, I’m just not IN love with you.” That’s a death knell.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

I think that line was in a Hallmark movie (that nobody saw)... 🤮(Yikes!) A guy said that to you recently?

[@Alieortwo]

The brother of the it is not you it is me guy 🤣🤣🤣

[@anitachesney7851]

I have experienced this type of behavior. I just sent him a text and said- no harm - no foul - take me off the team- then I blocked his number.

[@portia383]

Omg! I luv it.. I'm going to use it.. Your awesome 😂

[@pollyhelmut7091]

True

[@nalaa9618]

Childish

[@aimeegardner9736]

@@nalaa9618 why? she just knows her worth and wants to make clear she's not an option

[@lynnes1864]

@@nalaa9618 No, it's just direct. She didn't say anything mean.

[@Amy-gn6zw]

Know your worth, ladies. 🥰

[@invincible0911]

I feel like crying after watching this.

[@wall.daisies2952]

Crazy how I let myself get strung along in a 4 year relationship. I know exactly what I deserve now, and i'm not settling for anything less!

[@allisond5669]

I want to give you the world I am just not ready YET then goes and marries someone else.

[@Alieortwo]

Hahahah yes same old same old

[@allisond5669]

@@Alieortwo it's a thing? Oh my god.

[@Adam-cc9ny]

"I'm not ready yet" actually means "I'm not ready for you." So the moment a Man finds a woman that he's actually ready for he will definitely go for it, even if he was already halfway toward working his way with another woman. The propensity to follow the path of least resistance isn't just a law of physics. Sometimes women simply price themselves out of the market. Men will always stay with what they can afford. A plumber will never ask a doctor out, and if by some miracle he is dating a doctor he will settle with a waitress the instant she becomes available to him.

[@allisond5669]

@@Adam-cc9ny thanks for the reply. Does your analogy mean I was too good for him, he was not good enough for me? Or I still dont get it?

[@Adam-cc9ny]

@@allisond5669 It is very possible. You will not believe how clumsy men are at walking away from women especially if she is better than him. At least today I have noticed that one of the main reasons most guys turn away from girls is when they find out she is just too good for him. Other times it's because another sneakier woman of lesser value sees her chance and lures him away. For some reason women of low value target men who are with better women. I've kinda noticed this pattern since I am in a committed relationship with what they perceive as a highly educated, independent, strong career woman that is way out of my league. Suddenly all these girls who knew me in college who thought that I was beneath them are now friendlier but in a phony ass way. So in your case it's very possible that he just didn't feel good enough for you and settled for a "lesser woman" that was more in his league.

[@myong2206]

the worst is when u call him out and hes like “i’m into you so i’m going to make effort to make time in my busy schedule” and then goes and does the complete opposite. i’m tired and he’s cancelled :)

[@lucibloom5966]

I don't listen to anything most men say anymore. it's their actions that count. WOrds are cheap and so are most of them.

[@myong2206]

Luci Bloom PERIODT SIS... everything that comes out of their mouth is bullshit lmao

[@Alieortwo]

I had this by the last two. Walked away right away by the second. Waste of energy those types with mental issues. They make you insane.

[@jm543]

Exactly and that is why I cut him out of my life. He didn't have time for me, he was always busy, only wanted to see me if there is a chance for sex. The sad part is that I liked him so much but he never treated me like my ex who was a true gentleman. Also he was inconsistent in the beginning. He would only send mesaages to schedule a date and nothing more. When I wanted to talk on the phone with him so many times he would cut the conversation and tell me I can't talk right now.

[@onlymoon1]

This is happening to me rn, and I want it to work so bad, but I have no idea what to do..

[@monaebreak561]

Great advice! But damn it hurts not being wanted by the one you love... 😭

[@leila8701]

It sure does 😫😭

[@christinehope6317]

My soon to be x checked every box it breaks my heart but I am worth more than this

[@tumpalemaso4114]

i know right.. it surely does but hey there is nothing you can do about it, it has to be reciprocal

[@martinabergvall190]

You dosent want someone who dosent is capable of see your value. Use you in their stupid game

[@xmotivational603]

True !😢

[@christinethevirgo]

I've been single for 2 years, I'm working on myself, I want to attract a higher caliber person, past experiences have taught me a lot, thanks for the videos!!!

[@daniellemartin9276]

My ex was all 10 things you just said. Happily married now to a wonderful man who loves me dearly and wants to grow with me. Don't ever settle ladies!

[@keturahlynn4205]

Met a guy... he seemed genuinely interested. We talked over several weeks. I slept with him. Didn’t hear from him for 6 weeks. He called wanting to hook up. I noped out of that.

[@cylou2]

@Keturah Carraher When you said "we talked over several weeks" were you just talking over the phone or in person whe you both happened to see each other or was he asking you on dates and taking you out?

[@JenX422]

Don't sleep with these clowns until they have put forth effort- many of these men are treating women like escorts (getting the sex with no strings/no commitments) yet don't have to pay. They buy a happy hour drink or two for a woman and sleep with her- they just got sex for under $20. Make these men pay for an escort at $600 a session if they want commitment free sex.

[@Smokillo]

Jen X yes thank you

[@margaritam.9118]

@@JenX422 This is so true! I have more respect towards sex workers than to myself two years ago when I let guys lead me on and use me for sex and emotional support. At least sex workers get paid 😂

[@senseijen8963]

We need to learn the art😏

[@lameduck1753]

Please question why you’re interested in emotionally unavailable men

[@nidaeshaque5912]

So freaking true

[@fargeeks]

more please question why a taken woman is interested in another man?

[@lameduck1753]

@@fargeeks both to be honest but this video is about single women

[@annamarie3288]

Question why you attract * them

[@MJBrabantNZL]

Because of people pleasing attachment style and codependency. Narcs love that.

[@leopardlily3398]

“Don’t be afraid to move on from these guys if they’re giving you that grey area that isn’t the way relationships are supposed to be”

[@Nina-923]

I have been having an on line relationship with this man. We live 1000 miles apart. yet the past 3 months he says he coming down to meet face to face. Hasn't shown up. Listening to you tonight, has finally sunk into my. brain, that he is not interested in me at all. Im worth a lot more . So thank you.

[@nadiapeche2240]

Hugs dear I have been into this situation early this year I thank Almighty Father I overcome whatever i was going throug

[@lunatigress]

Truth!!! I met a guy at my friend's wedding and we hit it off right away. We were texting non-stop, but lived in different cities. Finally he was going to drive into town to take me on a date...or so I thought, he called me beforehand and confirmed it wasn't a real date because he wasn't ready for a relationship. I was young and naive and didn't know that I should have taken that at face value and not read into every mixed signal he gave. 9 months later I ended it...heartbroken. Save yourself for someone who treats you like his number #1 person ladies.

[@clarebennett]

If the first three months are the 'best' in your relationship.... You're doing it wrong!

[@sharnahorn8642]

Preach been with my bf almost a year we rarely ever fight we are happy whenever we are together

[@mell6398]

A lot of things on this list could even apply to friendships lol.

[@julielovesmcr]

True!

[@Fordriasdance]

Facts!

[@asryn96]

Absolutely!!!

[@namratak9232]

Yes!

[@butterflysugarbby]

I wish I would’ve seen this in my early 20s....

[@3DPrintWorldx1c]

butterflysugarbby same

[@shutit4024]

butterflysugarbby I wish I would of seen this in my teens

[@ditshebothobejane94]

I wish I would have seen this last year 😥

[@catfleas7923]

I'm in my early 20s and I don't care about a relationship right now

[@acharich]

😅😅😅

[@NCYcoffeeconisseur]

When I watched this a week ago it really made perfect sense. So what I did was to completely ignore this person and saved myself from further embarrassment and useless efforts. Suddenly now he really changed. Listening and applying this video is so worth it. And it's true if they're interested they will be the one to find a way to get the conversation going. Even when you end it. They will continue it if they're interested. No more efforts just observing. This video is like a very straight forward guide I love it!!!!

[@lesleymiller8446]

Its all smiles at the start but i listen to my gut feeling...

[@crystalanamericaninsicily]

Here's one sign. Never ever CALLS. Texts everyday...probably while sitting on Toilet.

[@meydiaengka]

One of the most obvious sign he's not interested in you: you actually searched for this video. You're welcome :p

[@hypeszskii7516]

free thinking humanist it came on my recommended

[@acharich]

💀💀💀💀💀

[@katierojas8066]

Lmfbo!

[@Gomba13]

Some of us also look up "signs he’s into you," and only end up here because there is a single box that is left unchecked. In other words, some of us are just catastrophizing over a guy who is genuinely into us because their score is only close to perfect and not utterly perfect. So calm your tits.

[@vivianmicheau3125]

Really good advice. Guys can be confusing because they can show some interest even if they are not really very interested, and it is because, like you said, they like having options. I think this is where a lot of women go wrong and stick around for much longer than they should.

[@lisasinclair2748]

I grew up surrounded by alot of boys, so I have in many ways I have a 'boy brain'. You're the first and only online dating coach that makes any sense to me. Love your straightforward approach and honesty. You've not said anything I don't 100% agree with yet. Keep up the great work and good on you for trying to lift women's self esteem and stop them tagging around like puppy dogs (cute enough, but you don't want to sleep with a puppy or marry one). Also my mum taught me the most powerful thing a women need know and it's very simple "If a man is interested in you, you will know". That's it! No need to ever chase a man. That's their job so let them DO IT!

[@msenekra6702]

RUN!!! No time for games and grown boys who can’t man up. Next!

[@cheryl8466]

You know.. I wish I had this when I was younger. I was Just talking to my husband about this the other weekend. I Always felt like I wasted a bunch of my time when I was younger. By the time I started dating my husband, besides just being friendly. I had lost hope and I wasn't into dating. My husband was SO different though. Like, Seriously different. AND I actually noticed it immediately.

[@whiterobin01]

A lot of people (who are replying to this video) do not realize something. Women who date guys who are not into them 99% of the time came from families who also did not treat them well, either dysfunctional, alcoholic, co-dependent families and it IS NOT because they are stupid. The trick here is to get help to realize you are perfectly fine without a guy and a guy can never validate your self worth. Much easier said than done when your model of love is based on being loved at any cost due to this family dynamic. So take heart, it's not you, it's your upbringing that's formed this unfortunate situation. Sending you all love and kindness.

[@elliec1345]

Sooo true Robin. And if you haven't observed your parents in a loving relationship than how can you know yourself what to look for. Further if your father or mother hasn't treated you with respect than that is what you have become used to and therefore don't demand it from a future partner. It is literally something unknown to you. Your self worth has been damaged. It takes a lot of learning and observance to break free of these beliefs because they are insidious - you've learnt these lessons at such a young age, they become part of your emotional makeup.

[@fargeeks]

Robin White huh... so thats why women with boyfriends try to pursue other people for happiness and validation but thw fact remains: they have a boyfriend!

[@meche313]

Robin White amen

[@cl6116]

Wow! I loved reading this “truth bomb”

[@jbeim777]

Thank you for this :)

[@Natashea]

Also if he isn’t sure what he wants with you, RUN... if you are sure why wait on someone who isn’t sure???

[@Thistlewand]

Natashea 🙌🏻

[@chasitylarson218]

I had a guy that I developed a crush on...he was showing a lot of positive signs that he was interested and flirted some. But he never took the initiative to ask me out...so I have a stop loss policy. After about 5 months I decided I no longer wanted to have a crush on him and focused on the fact that I wanted a partner that I didn't have to lead into the next step. My crush on him went away. I disappeared from his social circle for a few months and when I appeared again he seemed to try harder. He even invited me out to a group social...but that's not what I'm looking for...so he is friend zoned and I'm good with that lol.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Nice Chasity! I like this "Stop/Loss" policy a lot! Maybe on the next one if you get muddled signs again from a guy, you cut it down from 5 months to like 3 weeks, honestly. Your time is precious... NEXT! 😉

[@princessmayaharriete.omowe1656]

So im i sis

[@hellothere6592]

Bruh....

[@lescontessa8040]

Id been doing this stop/loss to this guy who friendzoned me after I started liking him. I moved on and started dating again. Now he drops me messages just to check on me and I already lost interest on him. I deserve better. His loss. Not mine

[@hellothere6592]

@@lescontessa8040 you go girl...

[@IMarie-xs5dg]

If you have to guess or wonder, and you’re not getting girlfriend perks, He’s not into you. Facts ✌🏽💕💕

[@kandelika2902]

Hi girls, Do you really want a relationship with a guy that treats you that cold way from the start? Do not be silly, do not give him sex at all and please, GO AWAY. He is NOT into you.

[@attheranch873]

Girls? 😖

[@marie-ange3965]

Thank you for this. I've been dating a guy for 8 months and he has every sign you mentioned. I ended the dating relationship after I found out he took a "friend "to the movies and well, he's never taken me to a movie. I'm glad he had a good time with her at the movies. I'm moving on.

[@lucymankonko4860]

My ex of two years just left me and he was displaying all of these signs 😩 But I will get through this. I know guys will continue to try and show you they love you no matter how long!

[@stellawil]

@Lucy Mankonko he did you a favor. You deserve better ❤❤

[@cristinaalem7214]

We’ve to be grateful when a guy shows the signs. Bye...there’s someone out there waiting for us. We deserve better and not wasting time 🙂

[@w1975b]

Better than the signs is verbal communication that's very straightforward "you're just an option for me if there's nothing else", instead of them hoping you'll recognize the hints.

[@Emmastayofftheinternet]

This just sounds like erevy single man I have ever met ever.

[@therealqueenofeverything]

Same! I can see the appeal of becoming a cat lady!!

[@c.d.c.926]

"Don't be afraid to move on from these guys, if they're giving you that grey area. That's not the way relationships are meant to be." I like these lines... Thank ya!

[@susane.9273]

Really makes sense but you point this out to a friend who's desperate for a man, she will not get this.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Very true, Susie. She's got tunnel vision, usually. Guys too in the situation.

[@kelligreen4938]

You are so totally right!!!

[@cindyritmeester]

Great video. I used to date a guy like this. It is all about loving yourself and letting go of men like this.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Thanks Cindy!

[@simply-living8523]

Cindy Ritmeester boys*

[@ameliaetienne8521]

“Who are you?” Means “which one are you?” Terrible!

[@marysmith861]

Then you say... Oh, I'm so sorry I thought this was Brian. Oops, lol.

[@TheTropics4]

I met this man at a singles Christmas party. We hit it off and the 1st sign later that night at a dance club that he wasn't that interested was when he didn't offer to buy me a drink! Then later over the next couple of weeks, he would text me daily asking how my day was, but he would not ask me out on a date! So I told him to stop texting and why! I felt very empowered! 😊

[@Cruella_DG]

I’ve never felt that special connection with anyone. I’m always just one of the boys. I don’t see it changing.

[@aybikea9177]

I dated a covert narcissist for two years, I sent him this video, oh - it touched a nerve. Thank you for helping me pin him down. 🤗

[@prettyloco3788]

When I feel like a guy isn't interested I simply stop talking to him and block his number. If I bump into him in public I pretend he doesn't exist. Lol

[@jonginbabo]

I wish I have the strength to do this, but feelings complicate making a decision and sticking to it. This is what I'm going thrkugh right now. Seems like either way I'm torturing myself.😔

[@angelacooper8973]

Like who are you again?

[@njhawksworth1588]

"If I feel" - so, you could be reading a situation wrong and making assumptions, but you're willing to act on them instead of just asking how he feels like an adult? It makes you come across as bitchy and immature. Just ask him how he feels and point out what he isn't doing that you would like him to do. Why all the silly games?

[@adday.]

@@njhawksworth1588 Not the one you're asking but you have no idea how vulnerable women become and how we do not have a filter. So showing your hand to a man could break and have him reject us would wound us for a long time. When a man show his hand to a woman I feel he still has a filter and is not vulnerable in doing it quite as much as women. Women attach so easily and therefor take rejection harder. I am 40 and this is what I've seen and know. Yes, I could say "hey mister, do you want me or not?" to the man I crush on now, but if he rejects me, I am wounded like a 14 year old girl. We are emotional in a way men can't grasp.

[@justinebailey5333]

Yassssss

[@teashe]

Well i realized these are signs i give to guys that im not interested

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Yup, the opposite is true with girl to guys, for sure!

[@1rewd133]

Me too. Oh, wait ...

[@stephanie7572]

Right. If I say to a man "Let's take a break" whether it's about texting or seeing each other, I want out! A woman doesn't ask for a break unless you're on her last nerve and she wants to find someone else (or is already seeing someone).

[@kylarae3254]

Yeah this is how I treat guys I dont really like too. I didn't even realize it. 😅

[@AngelaPaulina1989]

My boyfriend ticks off everything on your list. Don’t even know why he asked me to his gf. It’s heartbreaking to me. I love him so much and he cares about everyone around him but me

[@bernadettesmith4996]

Ryan, I came across this video this morning. Just wanted to let you know I loved it. It’s sometimes hard to hear what you already know deep down, however the beauty in knowing your own or my own self worth and value is far greater. It’s has made me who I am today. If is important, you will find a way...if it’s not important then your find and excuses. If someone (personal or professional) relationship does not show me the same level of interest or engagement then I walk away. My time and efforts are valuable.

[@candidwithcandace3708]

Ohh man I was totally paying too much attention to a guy like this for a SOLID YEAR. SOLID YEAR. I’m very happy I made it out! 😂

[@BusyBrainyBody]

A year?! Why?!

[@helenamoniqueclarke8135]

I get the feeling I'm not missing out on much here...🤣

[@hs8shsubjsishejw747]

Me too

[@hs8shsubjsishejw747]

Iam in lonely side with nobody

[@iknowwhatsup2880]

How about you ask are you really interested in him...

[@hydeperv]

THIS.

[@imthatgirl107]

Right to the point

[@Beanieboom]

move on lol

[@tetflaminiano1674]

except if the dude is a narc or a fuckboy

[@raychelsmith813]

And they will lie

[@shambhaviakhouri5447]

If someone likes you, they would invest time and energy in you, no matter what! As simple.

[@kelligreen4938]

ANY of these signs and I am like “peace out!”✌🏼

[@tiffanymay1372]

Just ditch him.

[@tiffanymay1372]

Siobhan Fogarty Nobody want to have somebody behaves like a jerks. Respect ourselves is the most important thing.

[@HARolette28]

Same goes for if SHE is not interested in you

[@craftressc3701]

Had a guy who was like that, told him to take a hike and leave me alone. He try to contact me after 3 or 4 years later and told me he was sorry and I was the best thing that happen to him. I think he dated everyone in NYC to realize that. By that time I was married and pregnant. Lesson learn ladies, never wait on a guy, if they need you they will make sure they keep you no matter what. Who in their right mind would hesitant in picking up a $20 or even $1 bill off the floor. If they value you, they pick you up from day 1.

[@judys6458]

Thank you this ...its very clear and informative.

[@Scorp93]

If he doesn’t make time with you on a Saturday... he’s just not into you. That’s a rule of thumb I always take into account. This could be applied to friendship too.

[@namratak9232]

True! The prime time rule applies to friendships as well.

[@rebeccajones8628]

I get angry just hearing these points. Arghh

[@shutit4024]

Rebecca Jones me too I’m getting revenge though

[@blessingncube2935]

me too but im glad n not the only one feeling this way

[@zelalsendamazigh3590]

@@shutit4024 wtf getting revenge just bcz he's not interested ??? WTF

[@shutit4024]

@@zelalsendamazigh3590 i was just saying that cause I was mad at the moment I didn’t actually do it 🙄 and it has nothing to do with him not being interested

[@zelalsendamazigh3590]

@@shutit4024 actually, it's also a way to forget him/her to avoid pain

[@christyjoy4793]

Ya this is so real thank you! This helps to know I’m not crazy when their actions and words don’t match!

[@전미래-t1w]

I already knew he wasn't into me. But I wasn't into him, either. I rather be single.

[@ariessun7595]

Thank you for keeping it under 10 minutes

[@TheLmt68]

After being married for 15 years : Please never settle. Just move on if you want an intimate relationship.

[@Jan_YTview]

If a guy put me in the 'grey zone' there is *no* follow up date. 😉

[@angelicaangel2624]

Great video ☺. Sometimes I see men introducing girls to their circle of friends but never introducing her to his immediate family. For me that would be a huge red flag. If I'm not important enough to meet his parents after 3 months of exclusive dating I would probably bail 😮.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Hey Angelica! Nice to see you again! I totally see where you're coming from. The only thing I would throw out there is that not everyone has the best relationship with their parents, so them not introducing you to them wouldn't be a priority anyway. And sure, that might be a whole other separate thing one could take issue with if a bad relationship with his parents is a red flag. But, if you're getting the introduction to friends at 3 months, that's a pretty solid progression I'd say 🙂

[@jn2898]

Omg everything this guy says is soooo true. If you get any of these signals from a guy..... DUMP HIM. Realize that your time is valuable and don't spend it with someone who does not like you. Move on

[@aylacorr4617]

Me, in a committed relationship, watching this JUST to make sure he actually like likes me

[@melodytesorero8697]

i don't know but it hurts hearing from you.. I'm dating a guy now and all signs are there. ;(

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

It's OK, Melody! You're not going to hit it off with every guy. It would be exhausting if we did, right! Just take these signs with you into the future and use them to sort through guys faster. It's simply a tool to help you find him faster 🙂

[@jm543]

It happened to me too. I was single for two years and entered in a relationship in february this year. I liked him the moment I saw him and we had so much interests in common but I was never a priority. He was busy, tired and was making excuses why we can't see each other even for 2-3 hours. Avoided to see me if there is no chance for sex or anything sexual.

[@marbakorkharnaior4722]

Mine too

[@marioara.cojocaru]

He asked me if we are together or not yet... I said let's wait a little bit to see if this goes good as it was going... He said "right but stop dating other guys bc I care about you" after that date he consistently called me for a month then slowly pulled away... Called back and said sorry for his absence and I closed it. Idk what was going through his head, I really liked him but let him go bc his behavior made me insecure and feel crap..

[@Sapphires1985]

Damm man...this guy just opened my eyes...sad sad world..

[@lynettechang9350]

Alll true, I walked away, no explanations was needed 😊

[@lali3981]

When they don't text back and dissaperar and appear they ghost me. I blocked them and continue with my life

[@jm543]

That is wise

[@lynnes1864]

Ghosting is bad enough but I hate it when they come back from the dead.

[@rainamber1]

Dead on. This guy was amazing in person, texted often but I felt like something was off, a lot of these signs were there. I cut it off and was actually questioning if I made a mistake but now I know I didn’t!! Thank you!

[@aly6192]

Same happened to me! Texted me everyday, every hour! Was pretty nice in person, always hugging me, kissing me, ... But all the signs where there. The one talking about dates was always me, didn't introduce me to his friend, didn't talk about our "relationship", my intuition that he only wants sex, never actually manifested interest on knowing me better, mixed signs... Week ago, finally asked him what we are to each other. He said he only see me as a friend 😂😂 after all... I hate boys.

[@Jkl306]

Yup I literally just fade out cuz sometimes even if they don’t like you they want you to like them.. n it’s not worth it vibes are everything I’m good :/

[@IvySweetVenom]

Aka: the time waster

[@jm543]

Exactly

[@spreadthegospel6667]

Awesome video! Wish I would of seen it sooner! Deep down I knew he was a player… he loved all the attention, admiration and gifts! So selfish! Can’t wait to ignore him! DONE!

[@mounabenthameur4998]

It's easy u can know how much u mean to him so easily , he texts you , want to hear your voice every day, cares about you in many ways , when you are around he would be close to you also he would be so happy seeing you , he looks for you , tries to make you happy, never ever ignore you or use kind of harmful words never hurt your feelings , if u need help he would help you or let's say whenever you need help you find him beside you , appreciate every moment when you are around he wants you to stay in his life so he would do everything to keep you in .

[@SquishyGrayMatter]

This would be a dream guy for sure.