He's too old and too married for hot chicks & hugging dudes

Q&A with the coach

[@sclg560]

Ramsey. I’m glad u have adopted the “I know how to wrestle” beard.

[@BWater-yq3jx]

Khabib approved. 😎👍

[@kingbyrd.1512]

Ramsey Dewey actually came from Dagestan. Its his secret backstory.

[@ashtraydekay6624]

I have had that beard for like 20 years, people used to say it was an Amish beard before.....the truth to me is, the mustache area gets too itchy......that's why I shave it, lol

[@guyspicks5308]

Ramsabib Deweymov

[@Yadid1]

Coach, your boxing man-hug tangent killed me. I died laughing, so now please call the cops on yourself.

[@scottmacgregor3444]

And then call the ghost busters, cause we have a dead man postin.

[@leoprzytuac3660]

You stating the importance of the word "No" reminded me of a work place anecdote. You see, I work at a school, and there was this little 3yo girl running around in a hallway where there's furniture with glass doors. So I tell her: "You're not allowed to run here." The girl starts crying and calling for her mom. That's alright, it's normal for children of that age to be shocked when confronted with boundaries, and it's part of my job to also be patient in that regard. However, the mom comes to me and explains: "At home, we never say the word "no" to her. We instead try to find some other thing she can do and point her in that direction." Even though I have no right to tell anybody how to rise their children, and I didn't, I was internally flabbergasted at this woman's thought process. They're not only making it harder for that child to process the word "No", but they're also not teaching her that she has the power to say "No".

[@piotrd7355]

In my country there is such a joke / saying: "- How do you know if someone studies law? - He will tell you about it himself." A law student doing crossfit would be really scary.

[@theritchie2173]

Just imagine if they were also a vegan.

[@Yadid1]

@@theritchie2173 And atheist.

[@mikeCD62]

The thing that stood out to me about op's question is that he thinks touch is automatically sexual, and thats a mindset that i think leads to a lot of men being lonely and depressed. I think bjj would break down that barrier for op and could do him a lot of good.

[@batner]

I was on the floor, huffing and puffing. He dropped on top of me while my feet flew up and locked behind his back. I grabbed his left hairy wrist in my right hand, adjusted my pelvis to the left, while he said "relax, you will be fine". I brought my left arm up, grabbed his bicep and threw him to the floor. My thought "Submission".... Nothing sexual, Just BJJ. Seriously, the whole comment was mostly a joke about me.

[@HelmutDoork]

Take up swimming. Great exercise, no hugging, and no sweating.

[@bemusedalligator]

lots of sweating, it just gets diluted...

[@ChrisCapoccia]

Lol it's not weird unless you make it weird. The funny part is that this guy went to a grappling class without thinking about how close he was going to have to get with strangers

[@batner]

Actually I had a warning about it from a krav-maga guy at work, but I decided to ignore him.

[@RexWu]

The phrase "sweating like a pig" is often used to describe someone who is perspiring heavily. Interestingly, pigs don't actually sweat much at all; they lack sweat glands. The phrase likely originated from the iron smelting industry. When pig iron (an intermediate form of iron) was being cast into molds, the process required extremely high temperatures. As the iron cooled and solidified, it would sometimes create a sound resembling the hissing or sizzling of water on a hot surface. This led workers to compare the sound to the sizzling of sweating, hence the phrase "sweating like a pig." Over time, this phrase evolved to describe someone sweating profusely, even though it's not based on the biological sweating behavior of pigs.

[@MonkeyDToniProductions]

The titles are getting more out of hand and I love it 😂

[@DagwoodDogwoggle]

The Martial Arts Sex Cult - that was a thing when I studied Kung-Fu. Not at my club - it was a University Club run by a professor, so that stuff didn't happen. BUT, a friend of mine starting studying the same Kung-Fu system as myself at a different school, and eventually I was a guest student. Met his instructor, met the class, and soon his instructor wanted to train w my instructor. The two instructors met one time. Afterward my instructor came to me and asked, "Did you notice anything unusual at his club? Is this a man I want to let in to my life?" I thought about it and said, "Well, I know their are a lot of strippers in his class." My instructor was like, "Okay - he's out. This happens all the time in martial arts. I was a part of a school like that once and it almost disqualified me from studying anywhere else after I quit." Soon after that, I talked to my friend who admitted that pretty much everyone paired up for a few weeks then rotated sex partners while the instructor got with ALL the women in the class. So I'm not surprised to hear the same thing goes on with jiujitsu.

[@valmendez84]

Well... if they were consistent with their training, maybe it was the starting motivation that enabled their discipline?

[@hypnoticskull6342]

I'm in the same boat as the commenter. I don't wanna grapple with women either. The thing is that I'm not old and married, I'm young and full of hormones. I don't wanna look like a creep to girls who just wanna train

[@GuitarsRockForever]

Age is irrelevant. You could be sued and be charged (and God help you if you live somewhere that lock up men straight away as sex offender), if the person wants to ruin your life.

[@sideofhashbrowns660]

@@GuitarsRockForever your not going to get sued for grapling women at a martial arts gym, thats crazy. This guy just dosnt want to make people uncomfortable which may be noble.

[@GuitarsRockForever]

@@sideofhashbrowns660 In today's world, I'm not sure. Here (Australia), we have cases that you definitely wouldn't believe.

[@daniel-zh9nj6yn6y]

If Judo still had double leg and single leg takedowns, it would be the perfect grappling style (for me).

[@BMO_Creative]

The way you do pullups, you also work your core! Good on you bro!

[@JR-sz7dw]

Ramsey has embraced the fact Q@A rarely has any real questions. He’s low key just having fun passive aggressively ripping these people.

[@Yadid1]

I think this is a very real question though. I've seen a lot of people around my martial arts circles with this kind of odd thinking, preventing them from actually benefitting from training.

[@Maddie-ps1jy]

I like to roll with guys even though it's hard because if it ever comes down to self defense it's probably not going to be against a woman.

[@sideofhashbrowns660]

I'm not a woman but I also preffer to roll with bigger guys because I feel the added challenge helps me improve faster

[@theritchie2173]

If you're rolling with guys and it's hard... ok sorry, that was completely uncalled for. I think the Coach's wider point was that if you're sexualising the exercise - in whatever permutation of men / women / other - you're doing it wrong, and for the wrong reasons.

[@Maddie-ps1jy]

@@sideofhashbrowns660 yes exactly!

[@Maddie-ps1jy]

@@theritchie2173 yeah only someone that's never done jujitsu would think a grappling death match was romantic lol

[@NBTKDA]

I could be misremembering but didn’t Firas say that men who “allow” their girlfriend/wife to roll with other men are cowards? I respect his expertise on martial arts. I respect his right to his religion and values. I respect his right to hold and share his opinions. This is not an opinion that I can respect.

[@scottmacgregor3444]

Wait. What's wrong with a dude hugging another dude?

[@OntarioBearHunter]

Nothing but it's like the 5 second rule if something falls on the floor..

[@scottmacgregor3444]

@OntarioBearHunter oh man. In BJJ you spend way more than 5 seconds hugging on the floor. No wonder the guy hates it.

[@piotrd7355]

This video is full of hilarious and apt analogies.

[@nappyheaded]

I think this is the funniest video Ramsey has ever made! Even funnier than the Elder Scroll videos. I'm serious.

[@pedroalexandredillemburg3751]

As arm chair violence once said: "intimate stuff doesn't stop being intimate if they are done with people from the same gender, they become gay intimate stuff."

[@daniel-zh9nj6yn6y]

I was watching UFC, and paused during grappling. My sister saw it and laughed, because it looked like something else.

[@the_fake_fool2081]

Hey ramsey just letting you know they them pronouns are referred to as neutral not as multiple people though it is often said in that way, keep up the good content

[@echacuervos3747]

i think people is doing more BJJ or martial arts in gral is because of modernity, what i mean is that the depression and histerya that creates the modern world has increased and with that, the people that need BJJ, not just to become a fighter but to improve their character and mental health

[@Maddie-ps1jy]

That's the main reason I do it!

[@K.R_Mony]

No, go hit the shower, buddy 🤣 got me

[@grindordie3336]

Great content. Learning when to say no is a very important life lesson! Rolling with 30 strangers is too close to a dirty orgy... Even drilling with one person requires a defense soap shower and training gear quarantine. lol

[@bradleysamson7325]

You are so awesome! I don't always catch your videos but am always always glad when I do.

[@SirAtos]

I discussed the same thing with my "street smart" friends. I started Jiu-jitsu because my older, 100kg, blue belt friend could hug and lift me up and there's nothing I could do about it despite of my brown belt in Kyokushin. A grappler survives to being grappled by, despite of you liking it or not. I don't know why all that insecurity about hugging guys.

[@SirAtos]

Also, about the chicks, if you aren't worried about the purple belt chick trying to leg lock you to death while trying to pass her guard... Well, you are doing it wrong 😅

[@xiaohuli27]

Hugging during boxing is used tactically to make the opponent fall for you, so you can catch em off guard

[@Maddie-ps1jy]

That's like saying the Boston strangler was the Boston hugger 😂

[@MissingTheMark]

"Suck it up, buttercup, don't break my heaaaaart..."

[@Xzontyr]

Great lesson. I do intermittent calisthenics all of the time. Even at work I'll drop and do some pushups or throw down the foam mat and hit out some abs. Don't let anyone tell you that they're not worth anything, or say that your weird. Maybe I am, but nothing should ever be considered weird if it's good for you, and it's ironic they will say that while ingesting something that has enough caffeine in it to end a small dog, while also taking a hit from the mysterious vaping machine thing, which I'm certain isn't as good for you as a pushup. Its good to have a wise boss, that is inspired by your weirdness more than anything since he doesn't want to be cut off from red meat again at home. Maybe too much info. Nothing weird about being healthy and happy.

[@adoublelastname9229]

This video has some very funny parts. It cracked me up. I could be wrong, but it seems like the questioner is mainly interested in getting in shape without doing some fitness class that he might find boring. This is why he is trying both BJJ and boxing. He doesn't have a particular martial-arts goal; he's looking for an interesting way to get in shape. If I'm correct that fitness is the goal, then boxing is probably better for him. A lot of boxing training is about building physical fitness--and there is less "hugging" and fewer "hot chicks"--if it is a real boxing gym.

[@Sbv-25]

How do you train legs with a crippled knee, coach? Seeing you drop from that pull up bar got me thinkin’ how you can power through martial arts and don’t appear to exhibit pain reactions

[@RamseyDewey]

How do I train legs? Lots of painful rehab exercises regularly. Drop from the pull-up bar? My feet are on the floor when I grip it. Also I have a very high tolerance for pain.

[@MissingTheMark]

So to pretend this is on topic... instead of doing jiu jitsu, in April I'll be doing my first powerlifting meet. :)

[@scottmacgregor3444]

Light weight brother! Please don't hurt yourself.

[@MissingTheMark]

@@scottmacgregor3444 The trick is to do weights one has slowly become accustomed to, so it's within what one's body is used to and (now) built for. :)

[@batner]

Hey coach! Thanks for the lesson, as unexpected, surprising and inspiring as it was. I'm giving BJJ a fair try, 10 lessons. Now I'll be ironing my new GI and washing my feet for the next lesson of violent hugging of dudes and hot young women. Cheers! 😂

[@southpawmoose]

Looking jacked my guy! Keep training

[@harlemdeni]

Hey there, coach. What do you do for strength and conditioning nowadays? You have a great video on this, but it's nine years old and since I'm new to bjj I want to dedicate two days of the week to this with your current knowledge! What is your program, what would you recommend? Hope you can make a video about this and cheers from Macedonia!

[@mrunknwn3644]

hey coach i always preach people to combine techniques from different martial arts while using weapons for example : using elbows and front kicks when practicing the staff or any other object . what do u think about this ? and are traditional weapons like staff and nunchucks combined with modern martial arts effective against multiple opponents or trained people ? what is ur take on this? ex: using front kicks after big swings or learning how to knee and elbow if the opponent gabbed ur weapon . or throwing the weapon as a distraction at the opponent before rushing in i might be wrong but i believe in mastering all aspects of combat from hand to hand to weapons

[@doobb7588]

Your "No" rant reminds me of what I tell friends who want to try martials arts.... The number one rule is "Defend Yourself At All Times" don't just trust the gym your at is going to keep you safe, not being comfortable is reason enough to say no to many situations.

[@CarlySB]

Inspired by a few of my favourite exercise video makers, and primarily by you, I am going to have a go at making videos intended to give ideas to older people, for exercising at home. Your story of making videos to overcome your dislike of speaking is what made me think it may help me to do the same thing. Today, I found out that not having a lavalier microphone is a bad thing. Could you please tell me what kind you use? Thank you. 😀

[@RamseyDewey]

The microphone I’m using in this video is a Chinese brand. If you’re in China, you can buy it on taobao. If you live outside of China, I don’t know where you can kind one like this.

[@CarlySB]

@@RamseyDewey Shhhh. Never mention the C word because it makes KZbin do strange things. ;) I saw that the British medieval weapons expert, Scholargladiatoria uses a Moman C1, and thought that would do as well as any. :)

[@dummyfunny5098]

Ramsey , where can I find the video on avoiding clinching in boxing / kickboxing ?

[@RamseyDewey]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/nXLCmaKOprOFibssi=rbfY-rUr3Upt6qqR kzbin.info/www/bejne/q6TIo2x5pbWBbKMsi=31Tcak3hCks4Ghqh Here’s two

[@ashtraydekay6624]

This was great!

[@socialgelo7719]

I didn't know there was such a thing as too married 😂

[@jeffmaesar]

the hugging guy felt strange, moving into a dominant possition... i have the same problem when i m invited in bear party.

[@АлтайскийКазак]

That beard makes you look like a bald Abraham Lincoln (who as you may know went 12 years undefeated with a 299-1 record in wrestling).

[@SteveJuszczak-dx3gz]

This person needs to understand that it is a martial artsclass

[@sideofhashbrowns660]

I honestly was worried abouth the nonbinary tangent. The they/them as multiple people thing is a common potentially harmful misunderstanding, and "they" and "them" have been used to refer to individuals for centuries. However I was pleasantly surprised when you came to the right conclusion regardless of the missunderstanting "they don't want to be catagorized" thats exactly it, nonbinary just means outside of the binary they dont want to be seen as a single third thing but rather as a collection of things incongrous with the present gender binary. Great video as always coach hope you injuries are healing well, will we ever see you compete in an mma competion of any sort again?

[@BMO_Creative]

Man + Hugs = Mugs? LOL

[@M_K-Bomb]

I'm like I got to watch that video Ramsey Dewey made on defending a hug in boxing. I don't want to be punching a guy and have him try to hug me half way through, LOL. (But, also I'm curious about the video)

[@RamseyDewey]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/nXLCmaKOprOFibssi=6kbRuvjxgv1gXvpQ

[@M_K-Bomb]

@@RamseyDewey Thanks Dewey I wasn't able to find it. 😅

[@bradlwykfulbright]

NINE! Duetche 😅 for no. Best coaching on life vid, yet! Huggi. Dudes, 😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤❤ can we box? Need a hug😊

[@sWrd_Master]

You sound like a pro wrestler here. Like Randy Savage.

[@RamseyDewey]

Hahahaha!

[@rodrigoprietoperuyera4367]

Hi ramsey, i watched a video of firas saying man who let their women do jiu jitsu are cowards expecting their women to defend them ( or something along the lines). I really believe people should have freedom to do with their lives whatever they want if they dont harm anyone, and any woman could train jiujitsu if they want, indepently of what ther husband or whoever thinks. Also i think man sholdnt roll with women or whoeever if they dont wanted to. But that lead me to a question and wanted to ask you what would you do if someone where to your clases and said he wouldnt roll with black people, or with chinese people or gipsys or homoseaxual people, or left winged people or maybe he just rolled with nazi people or said he wouldnt roll with somebody because he consider them a nazi or a comunist or that he want roll with minors becuase he is a pedophile ( not a pederast, sorry if this example is too extreme, this is just to explain my point). I think what i mean if you wild find every reason aceptable to not roll with somebody or by contrary there are some limits on training partner discrimination. Hope to hear your opinion on that and also wanted to tell you i love your videos and i find them very funny, interesting and sometimes relaxing (i use some of them to sleep but not because they are boring jejeje). Salutes from Spain

[@RamseyDewey]

That’s not what Firas said. He said men who let their wives roll with other men are cowards. Not men who let their wives do Jiu-Jitsu. Here’s a question for you: do you really want to roll with these kinds of horribly bigoted people you described who hate you and don’t want to roll with you? Do you want the coach to force those guys to roll with you?

[@rodrigoprietoperuyera4367]

@@RamseyDewey Probably not, probably it would be a very violent situation, that the coach, those person and me would prefer to avoid. Thank you for the answer and sorry if it the examples where too explicit, didnt pretend to offend anyone.

[@PheseantNetsuke]

This shit is hilarious but this guy is more moral than some guys on my gym who totally enjoy the young hot chicks despite being married with kid😂s😂😂

[@cahallo5964]

you know, I think the man is exagerating a bit, but I also don't like training with women tbh, a lot of people don't see that just not tempting yourself is much easier than resisting temptation, not like we are cavemen that can't control ourselves, but if I had issues with alcohol in the past I won't go to a bar, you know?

[@Danetto]

cool shirt

[@finalfantasylegend93]

I went to one mma class 15 minutes in dislocated my knee Have been too nervous to go back ever since

[@RamseyDewey]

How did that happen?

[@finalfantasylegend93]

@@RamseyDewey i was doing lunges and my pittella popped out. my own fault really, hadn't trained in about 10 years and tried keeping up with the athletic lads there.

[@prehistoricwatergun0136]

Ramsey Looks Dagestani in the thumbnail lol

[@HarryTzianakisTheGodOfSpeed]

Oxi , No in Greek 😐🤌

[@RamseyDewey]

Now I know!

[@RamseyDewey]

Now I know!

[@HarryTzianakisTheGodOfSpeed]

@@RamseyDewey 👊😂🤣😆

[@dapplegonger5256]

I always appreciate your martial arts content, but for someone who is so obsessed about what words are supposed to mean it's genuinely frustrating to see you claim that 'they' is explicitly and exclusively plural when it has been used as a singular for forever, specifically in the context where someone's gender is unknown or irrelevant. "I had a new student at the gym today and they were super excited to take class." Is 'they' in that context plural or singular? And if it's singular, why is it any different for someone to adopt that word for themselves if they feel 'him' or 'her' doesn't fit them in some way? It's such a normal way to use the word, yet for whatever reason as soon as it's used by nonbinary people it's treated as this crazy notion.

[@RamseyDewey]

People using words wrong doesn’t make it right. Bad argument.

[@kapilthevkanapathipillai6424]

Hot chicks to hug? Yo, drop us the name of your gym 😅

[@matheuscirilo3596]

How do i send questions? I forgot

[@RamseyDewey]

You just sent me a question.

[@RamseyDewey]

Write all questions here in the comments section.

[@bemusedalligator]

they/them is just the best out of a bunch of bad options. English doesn't' have good preexisting words so it's just the closest you can get to a nongendered pronoun without making up new words, because it CAN be used as a singular, even if that isn't its intended primary use. and yes, we don't like to be defined.

[@sideofhashbrowns660]

Glad to see someone else posting this

[@joshhansen4820]

“It” seems more appropriate logically. But you could just use their name to be honest and avoid all of it

[@bemusedalligator]

@@joshhansen4820 "it" has depersonalizing secondary meanings; it's actually probably the worst choice. Remember that word selection has secondary meanings, you're always saying more than just the primary definition of a word. Just like the differences between happy, cheery, merry, and jolly are subtle but important, "it" has a lot of problematic subtext that "they" lacks.

[@joshhansen4820]

@@bemusedalligator and removing an essential part of your born identity isn’t depersonalizing at all. Becoming an ambiguous they with no fixed identity

[@nickolasdesouza3610]

1:02 1:03 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@jonashermes]

He should drop martial arts for now and go to therapy to work on those issues.

[@craiganbrooks1485]

Jehovah's witnesses are not a occult. I take offense to that.

[@craiganbrooks1485]

Jehovah's witnesses simply do what Jesus told his disciples to do even after his death. IT is all in the Bible, if you believe the Bible which I pray that you do.💯

[@sideofhashbrowns660]

He corrected himself

[@theritchie2173]

Why are you taking offense at nothing, I thought you people believed in turning the other cheek?

[@craiganbrooks1485]

@@theritchie2173 Letting it be known that, that was offensive has nothing to do with not turning the other cheek. Also you said “you people" so what quote on quote people are you?

[@wakeupwitnesses1954]

I was a Jehovah’s Witness. It is a cult.

[@Gldldp]

Based. I see why you moved to china lol