You had me in the first 10 seconds! You are iron sugar. The sweetness that projects through your stories shows perseverance.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much!
@Tass19193 жыл бұрын
Gosh she had me in the first 10 secs also. Thanks Crapy childhood fairy 🧚♀️
@joeljoy41443 жыл бұрын
Years ago, out of desperation, I wrote and published a novel. I was living in a dinky place with no furniture and no pictures on the wall. It felt and looked like a prison. A year later, I was living in a $600,000 home overlooking the Pacific Ocean in Ventura, California. I wrote about what I knew: religion, cults, false and true teachers, and trauma and abuse. However, my gift is healing. I get near people, especially tormented, abused people, and they get free. It isn't any power within me; I'm just a vehicle of that power. God gets all the glory! Find your God-given gift. In fact, ask for it, like a child asks a parent for something. Then watch your trauma and heartaches, from your past, be a springboard to do good and not evil.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
These "desperation stories" have been fabulous, so glad others are sharing them!
@bunnykatsoracle32752 жыл бұрын
I would love to read that book! Did you end up publishing it? You sound like you would be a great friend too. 🙂
@EveningTV5 ай бұрын
I'm a little unclear about the path. Did the book take off and connect with people? Is that how you ended up creating a new life?
@jimparker77783 жыл бұрын
Such a great response to the artist. I've been a singer/musician for 50+ years and never made a dollar doing it. I would choose no other path regardless of the payday, or lack of. My singing and playing have introduced me to wonderful people and places I'd have been unlikely to see otherwise. Mom bought me my first guitar sixty years ago---Thanks Mom!
@thedrunkentarot58393 жыл бұрын
“Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.” Learned that a bit late! 🙏🏻❤️
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Glad you're here now!
@TrustInTheUniverse3 жыл бұрын
The hardest part is trying to find work I'm meant for when still living with my abusers. So many times I have settled for mediocre jobs because I wanted to get away from my parents or just didn't think I could handle a "regular" work place. I know I have so many talents and gifts I just don't see myself using them to make money until I can move out and become independent.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Healing trauma first - or making a start at it- is important before trying to sort out the rest. You can start with this free mini course bit.ly/3608opl -Cara@TeamFairy
@TrustInTheUniverse3 жыл бұрын
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you, I will check that out
@TrustInTheUniverse2 жыл бұрын
@angellightrose Ive been having success with doordash and ubereats. Its far from perfect, but I get out of the house whenever I want to, I make my own schedule and I get to listen to music all day :) I should be able to get my own place soon.
@sia43309 ай бұрын
@@TrustInTheUniversealways good to hear the progress. Thnx for replying here
@stephanieemmett63743 жыл бұрын
Tic Tok is a HUGE way to show off your work. I’ve watched people blow up on there for their art.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
:)
@stephanieo73733 жыл бұрын
Having a tough time processing this. I know what you're saying and teaching is the key to healing from CPSTD. Your information has been so helpful to me, but I am 60 years old and can't help feeling enormous regret and as if there really is such a thing as "too late'. I can't imagine getting over the sadness and regret. Thank you, Ms. Fairy, there are so many people who are benefiting from your gifts.
@garimaheath3 жыл бұрын
It’s not too late Stephanie. I am starting over at 56.
@laurawagner48393 жыл бұрын
57 starting over again....
@katiekane52473 жыл бұрын
63 & disabled from decades of stress & working too hard just to keep from being homeless. Sad that I never had the time to heal, no telling what I could have accomplished. Now I'm finding my gifts are important even though they don't provide income. Earning money isn't something I can do enough of to provide for myself & I risk losing the benefits I have. Being an older, single female is tough, I would bet the whole demographic is financially insecure. Responses welcome!!!!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Getting some personal healing first, before working out our gifts, is really the idea. It is definitely NOT too late to find some peace and get rid of those regrets. The 'Healing Childhood PTSD' is a wonderful course for getting going! bit.ly/39NxUBo -Cara@TeamFairy
@Chahlie3 жыл бұрын
I'm almost 58, haven't a clue what I want to be when I grow up :( I spent so long trying to please my dad, while being afraid of femininity (he was 'friendly'), then I went into housekeeping and gardening (people pleaser). Right now just learning how to socialise with other women. I will honest to God kill anybody I see destroying a young woman's potential. Every 'job' I think of has a people pleasing element, it's hard to get away from.
@lorraineortega10313 жыл бұрын
YES! I've made a living for 35 years, but my real gift is reaching lonely and scared kids. On my journey...
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
That's great!
@sarag11583 жыл бұрын
Love it!!!
@clancularius.t3 жыл бұрын
This channel is one of the best "real-world" resources on dealing with and overcoming CPTSD/developmental trauma. Bar none.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much!
@never-far-from-paint3 жыл бұрын
I've been struggling my whole life figuring out if I should put my time and energy into art, music, or healing with horses. Now I am studying to be an Art Therapist with a focus on equine therapy. I think I finally figured it out, but it has been so hard to decide. Thank you for addressing this. It is not always a clear path as to which way to go.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
No, the path doesn't tend to light up all at once. You have to just start walking it.
@Eyes2theSkies3 жыл бұрын
Horse therapy hands down! Then the music and art will flow from that! Cheers! 🥂Go get it!🙆♀️🤣
@ComplexPtsdRecovery3 жыл бұрын
Equine therapy is vital for so many. I’m in awe of what you’re doing. 🌸🦋
@LindsayElizabeth16 Жыл бұрын
@H. Love Wow I think I was meant to read your comment today as I am in the same boat, can’t make a decision, but always coming back around to the idea of art therapy in some form but don’t know where to start at all… what types of training are you pursuing or have you pursued?!
@Expose_bankers_and_auctioneers2 жыл бұрын
I don't have any friends right now but watching your kind manner and listening to your very relatable stories feels like having a wonderful friend . It really is your gift x
@CrappyChildhoodFairy2 жыл бұрын
So happy you're here Nina! - Ashley, Team Fairy
@sarzanahasinzafar Жыл бұрын
Ninaaaa I’ll be your friend!
@mariachristoff Жыл бұрын
This is my most pressing and painful problem! Thank you!
@caroljames12123 жыл бұрын
I live in Australia.I take in dogs for day care or holiday care.I also volunteer at my churches op shop.Ive started choosing glass pieces and turning them into bird feeders or towers that have bird baths on the top.Whatever comes my way I try to t u rn it into art.Baskets get filled with potting soil and planted with cheerful flowering plants ,beads become decorations or single dangle from the sides.Wont make me a millionaire but I get a real sense of pride when I finish some project.I love working in my garden also.Dont have time to sit around depressed anymore,I'm too busy.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
That's so great!
@ChaiTogether Жыл бұрын
“You free, and you get to invent ways to sell it… “ man ❤❤❤❤
@johannahandersen85173 жыл бұрын
I definitely feel stuck in my poverty and illness from CPTSD, keep telling myself one more debt or until I find secure housing, but it's been years and it seems like there's no where to start but to heal.
@jennytaylor33243 жыл бұрын
I know what you mean. One of the most unfair side-effects of being out of the game is living in comparative penury. It makes you bitter.
@stoicepictetus8333 жыл бұрын
This is me too, and I so feel for you. At the same time, it's such a relief to feel that there are others out there who experience the same lifestyle issues, and finally it can be related to Childhood PTSD and what I need to do to get my life on track.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
@Johannah_Anderson I'm putting up a link to a free course Anna teaches that might help jump start you out of the rut bit.ly/3608opl -Cara@TeamFairy
@palmamingozzi57363 жыл бұрын
Art is about empowering the self and others. It is about self expression. You can do so much with your talent. It is a gift you give away. The most beautiful place to be in art is connecting with others. Let your gift take you to beautiful places. Art liberates. Art is about self discovery and the capacity to touch someone’s soul. Art is priceless. You may never make a dime from it but it is the only thing that is yours alone. A world all your own, who else can vouch for that. Enjoy it, it is a tool for healing for life.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Awesome sentiment :) -Cara@TeamFairy
@icedcocoa221 Жыл бұрын
This comment is beautiful 🎨
@sonja7halcyon3 жыл бұрын
This is so true. I’m currently working with a trauma therapist and uncovering the artist within me that never felt allowed to find expression. I never thought I could get to a place to heal enough shame to give myself permission to enjoy creating art. Everything else I tried to do never satisfied me but the one thing I always wanted to do but always avoided and never dared engage with it was art. There definitely is the pressure to make money and sustain yourself with your art. The time and energy you need to put into it demands a full time commitment but realistically it rarely sustains artists financially. I wish I didn’t have to look after myself because I really want to just give it to the world. In relation to the ladies story, I wonder if that’s part of her trauma loop? Was she constantly told as a child by one or both parents that she was so talented in a specific area and really pushed into it and now she’s still playing out that seeking of approval from her parents. Maybe it’s not actually what she really wants to do at all. Everything I’ve done where I’ve convinced myself it was my “calling, my purpose, my responsibility, my talent or whatever I’m supposed to be doing’” I resented underneath and was still searching for parental and societal approval underneath. Trauma therapy definitely shows you who you really are and where your joy is.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Great points!
@spiritosa01233 жыл бұрын
Lots of job rejection hurt!! (I just got two job rejections... to clarity, not artist rejections. Been looking for work since COVID killed most of my income). But I cannot tell anyone without them bright-siding me ("at least you got two interviews" etc. ) Sure that is great but it hurts and ageism hurts (60 Yrs young). I decided after watching this to re-frame how I think of myself OUTSIDE of the world of working. Watching this made me remember I am an artist and I will make my own business somehow someway someDAY. But damn rejection hurts too. Cold calls (for work) are a good idea!
@Jayee99993 жыл бұрын
My undergraduate degree was in Art. I taught art for awhile at the K-12 level. Did you see my comment for Jane?
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
@spiritosa1021 Natalie Johnson had some great suggestions!
@spiritosa01233 жыл бұрын
@@Jayee9999 Thank you. My art has been on hold, largely due to lack of facilities and studio space to do ceramics (very intensive equipment-wise) but my plan is to jump back in when I have money. Job hunting while also putting together any hours I can get from three P/t jobs is zapping me. I just wanted to reframe my rejection from companies. (office work) so I could try to feel better about it. That's all.
@Jayee99993 жыл бұрын
What if Jane did an online “gallery”-a website-where she sells prints of her work in various sizes as her “bread and butter” items? What if she got a job teaching art at the K-12 level for a decent paycheck with benefits or at a community college level? What if Jane did both and also had a KZbin channel where she had workshops that she charges for?
@ComplexPtsdRecovery3 жыл бұрын
Brilliantly said! Jane gets to win all around! Winning!
@graceypants3 жыл бұрын
Great ideas!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
@Natalie_Johnson what an awesome & supportive community :)
@Jayee99993 жыл бұрын
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Lol’ hindsight is 2020! Although I don’t have a job that uses my art skills, I do use my natural “gift of gab“ in my job for a major company in their retention department. I find great satisfaction in being creative when I remake furniture pieces and other decorative items for my own use and enjoyment or is gifts for others. As you mentioned, we usually have more than one gift and talent that we can use to serve others 😊!
@merbaumshador75683 жыл бұрын
Yes! May i add she can also build a 'brand' for herself. Post work on instagram, twitter, flickr, etc with the right tags and liking the work of others slowly growing the channels to get a name.
@DANStickerman3 жыл бұрын
As though my heart is being hugged. Just like every video. You bring me to tears and yet, I'm empowered. Thanks so much for the Hugs!!!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@catherinewholey36303 жыл бұрын
I am just finding out what my "gifts" are and its kind of what Ive known all along but was too afraid to try. Of course my career was chosen for me but I always interested in working with animals but was told that wasnt "suitable" and I was to do something else-the chosen career. I am now doing an online animal care course with a view to training to be a vet nurse. I have been involved with a small animal charity for years now (despite opposition) and this is a natural progression. Its all slotting into place. I may divert into another aspect of working with animals but the brilliant thing is it is my choice and I am free to take the path I want to take
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Happy for you!
@ED-ie3et3 жыл бұрын
Def would like to learn how to discipline my cat that's another avenue to go down as people start to return to work
@katiekane52473 жыл бұрын
So glad for you! I too was told that veterinary work wasn't what "smart, nice" girls did when I graduated HS in 1976. I went to nursing school, at great expense. Long story short, I ended up back in vet work, much to my familes dismay! I'm sure I made less money but human nursing was SO toxic for me, riches would have meant little long term. I'm excited for you! The very best of luck!
@catherinewholey36303 жыл бұрын
@@katiekane5247 Thats wonderful. Your story is so similar! I also learned that "nice girls dont work with animals...horrible dirty things etc etc" So glad you got back into it and are happy! You have inspired me. Thank you!
@catherinewholey36303 жыл бұрын
@@ED-ie3et You can try a cat behaviourist, Rather than disciplining, cats can have their behaviour modified with techniques which are easy to do. A friend of mine is a cat behaviourist. There are common negative behaviours which can be changed for the better
@Summer-tk8yk2 жыл бұрын
You are such a warm person. I could listen to your videos for the whole day without feeling tired. ❤️
@larondabourn8583 жыл бұрын
1. I absolutely LOVE Excel spreadsheets, too! 2. “Blundering” is how I’ve discovered some of my most interesting and surprising talents. (Because there was no way I’d tell someone I couldn’t or was afraid to - one of the skill sets learned during my trauma, actually!) I was terrified of public speaking in MS. Two years later, I placed in the top three at every tournament, went to State 3 years in 4 events, and will gladly speak in public any time! 😉 3. I believe my (and everyone else’s) bottom line gift is simply helping others - whether it’s handing someone their bag of fast food with a smile they’ll remember the rest of the day or designing the next technology that will transform the lives of millions of people - we just plain help. If we’re lucky, we’ll be able to use our talents to help in a way that no other individual can do as uniquely as we do. Second best, we do it anyway and maybe learn that we have an undiscovered talent. Unfortunately, I feel drawn to combine two of my talents - encouragement and writing - to help others, but after a good stretch I can’t because I feel like I’m encouraging others to believe things I can’t believe for myself. Very nice video! Thanks!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience as well :)
@davidstone82173 жыл бұрын
You always know how to make me feel better 💐
@amierising21883 жыл бұрын
Hi, thanks so much for you're content. I'm 40 and I have spent the last 10 years with chronic illness, I'm now finally realising that everything that's gone wrong including my health is because of childhood CPTSD, which lead to constant retraumatising situations as an adult. Now I feel completely gutted that I am only understanding this at 40, I'm loosing my looks and I haven't been able to keep a stable relationship, I feel like I'm doomed to be alone and I can't get over this feeling, I feel like giving up, I've lost my life to this, I've had 10 years of illness so I've lost my career and I'm stuck on welfare in the UK and I don't know how to get back into work or skills or relationships. I'm absolutely gutted 😢
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
You can absolutely come back from this. Start with this free mini course bit.ly/3608opl -Cara@TeamFairy
@amierising21883 жыл бұрын
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Hey! I downloaded the free course and started the daily practice this morning, it really helps! Thank you so much ❤
@henrysilkysmooth Жыл бұрын
Hey, I am in the same situation. I hope you can turn it around. I am gutted.
@misstreelove3 жыл бұрын
You are an incredible speaker. Thank you
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thank you too!
@tortimeese3 жыл бұрын
Bullseye! Thank you for this video. I am 62 and still trying to find the work that I'm meant for (I have no idea). This video validated that my struggle is not my own and that there are others struggling with this work/life's meaning. Recently, I think my gifts might be more realized fully once I retire. Thank you very much,
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome!
@lynneivison57733 жыл бұрын
Hi Jane, It sounds as though you have put your goals too high. I am a painter and many years ago realised that trying to get into galleries was a thankless task - so I just put it into an interest and started teaching English part time. I do not paint all the time and play the tortured artist thing - I do it just in the summer when the light is better. I was accepted into a gallery in Paris but did not have the money to put the exhibition together. I like writing but trying to get published is also a bar too high. So I started writing about better poetry than I could ever write which is good for my humility and connects me with the local university. Trouble with visual arts is that it is not like music where there is pop music, jazz and classical . It is all jumbled together. The gallery world is ghastly and I decided after one exhibition that I wanted nothing to do with it - very superficial and money orientated. I am so in awe of you Americans without the benefits culture of Europe where you have to work to pay your mortgage wow that sounds so hard and demanding. In England and France we can live if we cannot find work, or in my case, could not work. I am lucky that my professor likes my art work and wants me to put it into my writing my thesis. So by lowering my bar I got to be what I really set out to be an illustrator or a greater artist than I am. All by lowering my sights.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
So appreciate you sharing your personal experience with Jane and with us!
@joebarcelona3 жыл бұрын
I have denied myself the things that I most enjoy, and shorted myself by doing things in compromise, that haven't worked out ultimately. Life events also impact options, as does financial sustainability, doesn't it? Your conversation and methods are truly useful, but I set my Crappy Childhood Fairy aside, though I can't resist watching the videos, and I often think about the topics you cover. Working on adapting the writing to my to do list, and I am finally moving on projects, though I have too many to complete in one lifetime. Your advice on overcoming procrastination is brilliant. You are such an effective communicator. I really have not wanted to revisit the past, or acknowledge the sense of emptiness in the present, or the fact that I am not where I want to be, yet, much less dwell on it, because I don't want it to be the focus of my time. However, I think applying your framework, writing, for clarification, and focus, is a great idea. I've spent some time thinking how I might structure the writing time, on an as-needed basis. I think you mentioned focusing on feelings now, in the present, which is really helpful. I didn't talk to my dad for 28 years because of circumstances in the past. I visited him in 2012, and then briefly in 2018, months before he passed away, and I have not experienced all those memories and feelings for a quarter of a century, and rightfully so, until recently. I had been digging out of the last catastrophe, he left me with, literally, for the past two years. Having traveled and lived overseas for more than a decade, I can really attest how freeing that is, to change your environment. I love foreign languages, culture, travel, and art, and work, anything to focus on or engage with, that distracts from the inexplicable, unsolvable, infuriating, hopeless disappointments of the past. You're conversations are really really relevant, and very helpful, because of the positivity, affirmation, hopefulness, and remedies that you present. Thank you.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
There is a very organized way to go through developing a daily practice, seeing where you are and where you'd rather be and how to get rid of the fears blocking us which is laid out in the 'Healing Childhood PTSD' course bit.ly/39NxUBo -Cara@TeamFairy
@My_House_3 жыл бұрын
I have a job but last few year's I think it's the "silent codependent code" that made me doing this one. "Professional caretaker" in a hectic place so you feel alive or something. And I can do this well because of the bending and fawning and totally forget or not say what you want. Just being a part of it, validation from the outside but do I really want it?. Makes me exhausted at some times but hey, the other side is sitting home alone 😐 Dr Mate also talks about this , caretakers that are taking care while deep inside they don't want to 🤔 it's hard to separate what you really want and are and emotions from the past talking.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Healing trauma gives us different perspectives! -Cara@TeamFairy
@marylind1144 Жыл бұрын
I wandered into this video today when I needed it most. Your channel has helped me so much, it really has changed my life for the better. Thank you for all you do.
@dawnleland87953 жыл бұрын
Anna, you gave me my so needed answer at the age of 64🥰 I had done the work mostly over the years but never had a clue that my brain had broken. that's why it was so hard, but I knew important to know me and my bodily sensation. I now can put so many things together ... I can put it all together 🙂 I am now me...and I'm free and I can now see👀 myself...I'm beautiful Thanks for coming into my life Dawn
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
What a beautiful comment, thank you! Made my day!
@graceypants3 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this. Recently I have been pondering what the heck my gift is? I am trying to think of what feedback I've received. People have told me I'm a good listener, that I'm funny, that I'm a caring friend etc. I once posted publicly about challenging my anxiety and I got a lot of feedback from that and people told me I was helping them and inspiring them. I feel a little funny pursuing a gift that revolves around my struggles though like I am making it part of my identity. I also enjoy art like Jane, but I feel like it's more of a hobby for me than something that I feel really at my best with.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
If you don't already, I recommend the Daily Practice, a free course that Anna created. This practice - when done daily- wakes us up more to our gifts and purpose bit.ly/3608opl -Cara@TeamFairy
@80islandia3 жыл бұрын
Wow! The deep dive into gifts versus talents was extremely helpful and gave me a lot to think about. Appreciate your generosity in sharing your work-related stories - this is a timely topic that I'm sure will benefit many. Thanks Anna :)
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@masterpeacetherapy2213 жыл бұрын
I recently painfully discovered “betrayal trauma” the hard way...does. It. Ever. Stop. ?? I know I am straddling healing and pain. I know my gifts and am operating in them thank God. It’s helpful. But I still feel held back by all that’s happened 😭😭🤕🤕
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
It can stop. You can heal. That's what I teach.
@roorooadventures47713 жыл бұрын
These gift are worth working on. Thanks Ann. Good video of hope. The healing journey!😺🌞👍😀
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
:)
@Chahlie3 жыл бұрын
My working life went from doing completely male-oriented jobs trying to be good enough for my dad, then onto people pleasing (service industry). I don't even know who I really am. So now I haven't worked for a year at a job, just doing well off my investments, and doing volunteer things. But I have another 10 years of potential work life. It's so hard to know but I want so much to be who I could have been! When I was little I was so girly :(
@jehannehardwick63113 жыл бұрын
Hi Heather, Could you teach people how to invest? If you can live off your investments , then that is a real skill that alot of people would love to learn.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
@heather we want to heal trauma first, so that we can find the work that suits us. Otherwise, it's cart before horse. -Cara@TeamFairy
@MsGlamourcat3 жыл бұрын
It's probably never been easier to showcase your artwork Jane with platforms such as Instagram, Tik Tok, KZbin, etc. Even making short videos showing the art creation process and the final result would get views... I mean, people watch videos of other people eating.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
:)
@Onthesummit3 жыл бұрын
You are totally awesome!!! What a great success story. I love you and your channel so much. ✨💞💫
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!
@thatosegopolo9072 Жыл бұрын
Wow!! Great job Crappy childhood fairy truly you are great in front of the camera you just have it and your work is healing.
@lorimiller43013 жыл бұрын
What an inspiring video. 👏 thanks, such great timing, feels like it's for me. I need to spend some time figuring out my talent or gift. I don't think I have one, I can do a few things but nothing single stands out. I'll have to listen again ! There's a goldmine here for me if I can just figure it out. 🤞🙂❤
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Less fear and resentment, more clarity about our gifts! -Cara@TeamFairy
@sagebay28033 жыл бұрын
OOOOOHHHH, this video was sooo helpful. I appreciate that you are just so real. Thank you for being you!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@stoicepictetus8333 жыл бұрын
This has helped me consider what my gifts are and what I need to do to progress it to show it to the public via video. I'm in a similar position and have a similar attitude in waiting for approval and recognition. Making videos and cold calling (although I sent emails and now have a position in a good amateur / semi-pro orchestra) are a great way forward. The gift I have does have something to offer and that is the emotional connection it brings to a person, whereas I tend to think of technical ability, it has taken away the 'love' of playing and being able to express. I believe this video has put me back on track, this time in the right direction. Thanks again Anna for your wonderful words of wisdom.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
So appreciate you sharing!
@jennytaylor33243 жыл бұрын
Well Jane, we can't judge as we haven't seen your work, but I sometimes find it helps if you can do something and let go of the outcome. If you aren't attached to the outcome and you're just doing something for the hell of it, it might go better for you. Can you teach what you know to deprived kids or prisoners or suchlike, perhaps? That might be fun, and it would pay $. Gifts are funny. I am a talented guitarist, but i now hate playing it, so I don't - to everyone's dismay - but it doesn't feel good. Maybe I'll rediscover it one day. Good luck, in whatever you set your mind to.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Appreciate you sharing your expericneces :)
@bronsonmcdonald54733 жыл бұрын
I had never heard this before...a talent compared to a gift, and that my true gift brings others joy. Thanks Anna 🤗 It makes sense also because if I am using my 'gift', I will also feel fulfilled and that will beam out of me and hopefully make others enjoy me being around them ( not that they don't at all now, lol) Regarding Jane's art, could she sell on Etsy? So many online opportunities these days to promote and share our talents and gifts...and the potential buyers... the whole world!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
So many people have been very supportive and forthcoming with ideas for Jane!
@katiekane52473 жыл бұрын
Our family recently commissioned an oil portrait from a picture of my grandson as a young 'un & a beloved dog that's passed, sweet Lola. The artist has developed a business model to support herself through art through teaching & paintings for pay, on-line & locally. We're SO happy with our art investment, a signed & numbered oil for no more than folks spend on TVs & fancy shoes! Jane, you can make people as happy as Mariah Hope made us!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
That's so kind, thanks for sharing!
@pebblebrookbooks48523 жыл бұрын
No one's gift is narcissistic supply, is it?
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Definitely not what we mean by "gift"! -Cara@TeamFairy
@jennyfox66673 жыл бұрын
i wanted to do a hahahhaha on this bc so clever but 😪 gosh that sure does feel like my truth 😞 being a professional codependent - with the illusion that i have some measure of self-possession - prob i just continue to lie to myself that i have some kind of control ..
@mariachristoff Жыл бұрын
You are the best KZbinR!
@LisaSmith-yb2uz3 жыл бұрын
This is very encouraging rn 🙏 thank you! (I’m nearly finding.. something!) 🤷🏻♀️ 😉😁👌
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
You got this!
@matrig63 жыл бұрын
I don't have any gifts, but I'd love to find remunerative work that is both tolerable and meaningful. Thanks for the thought-provoking video and for sharing your experiences.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@peepsicle2 жыл бұрын
Amazing advice and just what I needed to hear also. I started to write a whole thing about how I gave up painting in the 90s, because I learned that nobody makes a living as a painter from my art teachers in college back then, before listening to the entire thing - but you actually gave me hope to get back into painting by the end. Thank you lol
@YogawithAshleyGee3 жыл бұрын
I really love that you've made this channel and put out such helpful content on Trauma! I've been visiting my past trauma in the last couple of years, and your videos have been very helpful to me. Thank you so much!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Glad I could help!
@marshallsmountain3 жыл бұрын
Gifts and talents are extremely interesting. I'm a musician, songwriter and media artist. This video is right on target!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Your talents sound so cool! -Cara@TeamFairy
@gailrobey43169 ай бұрын
Hi Anna, I just have to say....wow. this is EXACTLY what I have needed. I feel like I was just hit by lightning or something. I've been stuck in that horrible dark "struggling unhappy starving artist" place for so many years. I could have written that letter. It's awful! Feeling misunderstood and sort of doomed, not seeing my art as something good. Your comments were so helpful and thoughtful. Your videos on You Tube have helped me so much. I hope I'm not fawning. But I'm genuinely blown away right now by your words and your gifts, and how much you have helped me. Thanks Anna!! ❤
@CrappyChildhoodFairy9 ай бұрын
Wow, thank you for sharing! We're so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@sws30133 жыл бұрын
I guess my talent is writing because that’s what I’m always complimented on. It’s a big part of my work so that’s cool. What I love to do is dance!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Love that!
@emmabrown57873 жыл бұрын
This video is right on time for me as well. Thank you Anna! You are a light in this world.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome.
@theintangiblealchemist30573 жыл бұрын
I swear you’re able to know exactly what I’m going through lately just as I’m thinking through it. Haha thank you so much for this!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad!
@babydumpling28803 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU ! Such a great talk. Really sound advice 👍🏼💜 gives me hope at a time when I thought all was lost 🙏
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
So glad!
@joeljoy41443 жыл бұрын
Oh, to you young women. When you are young, you dream about the "Knight in Shining Armour". However, look for the knight that has a few dings and scratches in his armour. Shows he's been tested in battle. The one with shining armor has never been put to the test. The dings and scratches may be some gray hair and a few lines in the face. That's okay! He's been tested in battle.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
:)
@kimberlysmith73113 жыл бұрын
I'm positive that my true work is working with others around energy healing ( Reiki, Shamanism..and the like) . I just feel like I need to do more work on me first.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
It's often possible @Kimberly_Smith that you can work on both goals at the same time. They just might amplify each other -- your vocation and your personal healing.
@tinafabulous50 Жыл бұрын
My cousin is an artist and she sells her art at local markets, stores and her website. She has an awesome social media presence and she's always coming up with new things to do. If there is a surface she will paint it and make money. 😂
@iveneverseenahealthyvegan.98853 жыл бұрын
You are Welcome to come for Dinner if you are ever in Britain.🇬🇧 Well Done, you have all the answers..X
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
I'll hopefully be in Europe this summer :)
@ramashkolnik97133 жыл бұрын
Dear Anne I listen to you almost every day, It is so right,and deep, now for example,I am a woman with no gift,or a talent, can't stand my job anymore,it is boring,i am there 20 years! I am 63, dealing with my ptsd, with therapy,and with you (not managing to take down your free daily course).. haiteng my self for falling again to the hole of the victims Thank you for being here.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Glad you are here too @Rama_shkolnik -Cara@TeamFairy
@POLYLIVING3 жыл бұрын
Yes exactly!! Choose to expand explore n embrace all avenues of opportunities. Those paths lead to so many unexpected pleasures
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
:)
@moonbysa2 жыл бұрын
You are my enlightenment gift this week. Thank you 💛
@newlife86103 жыл бұрын
I really get inspired by your videos. Thank you for sharing your thoughts!😃😃👍🏻👍🏻🌺🌺
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad!
@stephenfermoyle45783 жыл бұрын
YOU DESERVE THE SUCCESS YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO REALLY GETS IT THANK YOU
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
If you get Anna, you get it too :) -Cara@TeamFairy
@melijay22 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, thank you, thank you, Anna. I can relate to Jane’s dilemma. In the area I so have passion for, my trauma has had me waiting for someone to rescue & guide me. And it’s so close to my heart, that I don’t trust anyone. And connecting was made difficult by my mannerisms that came from that old trauma (that I was not aware I was doing). If any video thus far has spoken directly to me, this is the one!! 🙏🏼💕 The point also worth mentioning is about doing a thing little by little (and not focused on a specific outcome). I needed to hear that. Wish me grace on my music writing and performing, it seems my perspective is budging into alignment at last! 😇
@flamingrobin59573 жыл бұрын
i dont think its possible to find our calling without community. we blosom when we are filled with love.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for being here!
@noreenoshea28833 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the good advice.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@Gabriel-is5xq3 жыл бұрын
I think you're wonderful, thank you
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thank you too!
@reneeacosta44202 жыл бұрын
I feel like you're an emotional Dr. That is defibrillating my soul🙌 thank you for your authenticity 💞
@MataH13 жыл бұрын
Such good answers.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much!
@foxinfj34723 жыл бұрын
Fantastic!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Many thanks!
@tomjames77132 жыл бұрын
this is a smart, {masters degree} woman. but not just book smart. she has good sound practical life advice. i used to be in business and i know business sense, yeah she gots that too. but as if all that werent enough she came from and out of a hard childhood upbringing and life. at one point she didnt think her life worth living! i do thank god for her and for turning her around. my my what a different course her life could have went in? she would have been just another casualty of cptsd abuse and neglect. this is a good story in life and it shows life is good and can be turned around for the one who wants it. thank you miss anna, you are a motivating force and an encouragement to be appreciated! we love you!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy2 жыл бұрын
Aw, thank you for "getting it." Thank your for your love!
@melissaguevara7242 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for these videos! I am learning how to heal. I am learning different coping techniques that you teach that are really making a difference in my life. These videos are life changing!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching! -Cara@TeamFairy
@mahlina12203 жыл бұрын
You’re really GREAT. You _truly_ ‘get it.’ ❤️
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you! I really strive to create a message that resonates!
@annemarie99803 жыл бұрын
I love your channel Anna thank you 💖
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@hybridviol3 жыл бұрын
great advice as always. Am missing a word about artists im time limited art forms ( such as dancing, mastery of an instrument) who MISSED the boat, but whose fire is still burning. Now it’s burning with grief and resentment because of past restraints, and because the inner artist can’t function without living its art . It’s like telling a penguin to start climbing trees for some benefit... thanks for putting extra thought into this
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@paulafrance04042 жыл бұрын
OMG I think you made this video for me because this is exactly where I am in my life and I'm not happy about. Thank you so much Anna I've been listening to you for awhile and you are helping me I have a ways to go.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy2 жыл бұрын
I'm so glad!
@teiwaz33703 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video :)
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@Nadiouchkaaa92 жыл бұрын
Gratitude Anna!
@einsteindarwin87563 жыл бұрын
This is so informative thank you!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@nensi19723 жыл бұрын
🌹❤️ thank you dear Anna...
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thank you too!
@joeljoy41443 жыл бұрын
Great topic, today. Recovering from my second Covid shot. Ouch! My arm feels like it will fall off. Did you see our service this past Sunday on KZbin? Discovery Church, Boise. We are a small, fledgling, community of Believers, led by lay leaders. We are real. No pretension. No facades. The title of Matt's sermon was, "Formed by the Promise, Not Conformed by the Past". That's right up your alley, Anna, and all of us with C-PTSD. I used your quote about moving through "sandy honey" in the discussion. Great word picture! Our singers, bless their hearts, give it all they got. However, it is a little hard to listen to. We need your singing voice! LOL.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
What a sweet thought :)
@antoniopizzolatotroia87543 жыл бұрын
Thank you a lot for this particular topic ! Thank you So Much for it !
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Most welcome 😊
@KathrynJean053 жыл бұрын
I so wish I could have a personal conversation with you!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
There is coaching available with Anna on website. Also, when you sign up for a course you will get invites to group zoom calls with Anna :) -Cara@TeamFairy
@KathrynJean053 жыл бұрын
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy I will definitely look into that!! Thank you!! 😊
@gavrinmahaffey36563 жыл бұрын
This is very encouraging and true 🌺
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@flamingrobin59573 жыл бұрын
Our trauma is transformed when we realize, its not all about us. Someone needs your wisdom learned from hard times. The narcissist tried to ruin your ability to give and receive love, but you can win the battle by lowering your defense mechanism to trust the grace of other safe people who wont judge you by your brokeness. When we let grace and compassion in we find that we have it to give more so than those who have never suffered or failed. "confess your faults to one another so that you can be healed". Vulnerability is the key to receiving grace. we must trust again that someone will accept the real me and not shame, blame, control and manipulate, triangulate and marginalize us. you find safe people when you learn to discern who is safe enough for me to be me without a mask.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for adding to the conversation!
@paulafrance04042 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Anna I appreciate you so very much
@CrappyChildhoodFairy2 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome
@rickroberts10673 жыл бұрын
Another great and very inspiring video, Anna! Btw, not sure if apropos, but a quote I read from psychiatrist Gerald May many years ago came to mind, paraphrasing: "Addictions arise when our inner compulsions [talents?] do not align with our true nature [Gifts?]". IDK, I am/was a pretty good software dev but there's something about it that kinda bugs me, and I smoke. :)
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
I've not heard that. I tend more to think addictions arise out of trauma.
@rickroberts10673 жыл бұрын
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Yes, I read that quote some 25 years ago. Maybe it's the case that addictions can have more than one cause. :)
@kathleenbrady99162 жыл бұрын
I've said it before but you are changing my life... thanks so much for your videos and may you make many more 🧡🙏
@CrappyChildhoodFairy2 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome
@iamenough69583 жыл бұрын
Thanks for clarification on Gifts and Talents
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Interesting distinctions right? -Cara@TeamFairy
@stephenfermoyle45783 жыл бұрын
very good as always
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for the visit!
@rebeccajones97572 жыл бұрын
This is so helpful. I would love to see more videos about work. I have bad work relationships and I have trouble setting boundaries and asking for help.
@arnieb39473 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. Your opening comments described me. I have no idea what my gifts are. I was reorg’d out of my last job three years ago and am currently doing consulting in the same field while still trying to find a job (to no avail). I feel like I’m moving in slow motion, or trying to run a marathon in a swamp with a full pack on my back. I am good at what I do, but there is no flow to it and certainly no joy. Earlier in my career I was employed and moving up and busy, so I didn’t have time to think about this stuff. These last few years have been a very frustrating experience, and all of my introspection and efforts to understand have left me feeling like I am spinning in circles in an eddy. I hope to make sense of this at some point.
@barry13693 жыл бұрын
I always get dysregulated when I have to do something for someone. I had a trial shift somewhere and was dysregulated the entire shift and ended up not getting the job
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Try the writing and meditation practice beforehand :) -Cara@TeamFairy
@thedrunkentarot58393 жыл бұрын
My psychic and mediumship gifts have been thrust upon me the past couple months in a big way, what would all the people who “know” me think! Ha! I’m working thru the being “seen” I think I need to get on YT and be done with that issue! Glad to have found your channel! 🙏🏻 yes waiting for permission! Nailed it, wow, I’m also close to actually feeling like a grown beautiful woman instead of a kid for 51 years! 😱
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much for sharing!
@nysunra Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@seth69533 жыл бұрын
What if you're not born with any gifts? I sit down and ask myself what am I good at that can be of service to others but I'm not especially good at anything. I used to think it was art but I could never push myself as far as I would like to and I never really shared my art because I could never convince myself it was good enough. Now I'm just stumped at what I should do because I don't have anything that inspires me or gets me out of bed anymore.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy3 жыл бұрын
We need to work on healing our CPTSD to get in touch with our gifts, at least most of us do. -Cara@TeamFairy
@emmabrown57873 жыл бұрын
Your gifts may be something that don't feel like a "big deal" to you. They're probably something you can do almost effortlessly, or without realizing the effect they have.
@beth19793 жыл бұрын
Maybe you are depressed at the moment? I have had depression and that flat, can't get out of bed feeling can be depression. If you want to, have a look into it and see if it fits how you are feeling currently.