HEALING DIARIES | living with my parents in my 20s is hard

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[@SelenaTrevino]

where are my girlies who also live at home with their parents ✨🤍🌱☁ (whether temporarily or not) I'm encouraging you to be brave and share your experience down below!

[@lomiju]

I'm 32 yrs old and I had to move back in with my mom bcus my contract ended some months now and I haven't gotten back a job as yet. I've been applying but no luck, and I really want to move back on my own bcus it has been a nightmare living here😅

[@SelenaTrevino]

@@lomiju i feel you!! And also a reminder that having a place to move back to when we’re at our lowest is also SUCH a blessing!! I’m rooting for you! I hope you’re able to find employment sooner than later 💗

[@lomiju]

Thank you Sel❤ and yes I am very grateful to have somewhere to go😊 Crossing fingers I get a job soon. I love my mom but we quarrel to much, we have different views on EVERYTHING 😂

[@SelenaTrevino]

@@lomiju you’re so welcome 💗 oh I feel that!! Bc same here, but with my dad 🫠

[@LaciiLace22]

Here! I'm in the journey to getting my 1st apartment at 31. I was so hard on myself for not doing it earlier but as a woman in her 30s with a child I need my own space, for my mental sake. I wish I could buy a house now but in the DMV housing prices are wild. So I am starting where I can. I TOTALLY understand 💯 percent what you are speaking about.

[@vanessa-sz3ek]

I live with my parents and I'm very fortunate that it's not an unhealthy or toxic environment. It is still hard though, especially with Latino parents (iykyk). But earlier this year it hit me that my parents are getting older and one day they won't be here. That has changed my perspective so much and I see it as extra time I'm getting to have with them.

[@AlieshiaTV]

Same

[@beenspired]

Listen! I’m 42. I moved back in my parents’ home again during the pandemic. I sold my home and it was better to have my son there and to have the community of family. Once the pandemic was over, we left and got settled on our own again. You have to still have boundaries and it is hard. Set time to go out, go on staycations, read your plan in the morning. As long as you have your plan, and you’re working it, that’s all that matters. Sometimes you have to readjust (not move backwards) to figure out your new plan. You are blessed and you’re doing good. Your feelings are valid but you’ll be back out soon.❤

[@aaliyahlunan876]

I’m in my 20s and I still live with my parents. The environment isn’t great & I feel horrible about myself but I’m working towards getting my own place. To all the girlies, hang in there. Hope we all heal and move on to greener pastures 🫶🏾

[@SelenaTrevino]

Please don’t feel horrible about yourself💗 if you can, try to see it as a positive! A time to self reflect, to learn about your relationship with your family as an adult and how you can work on certain aspects or set boundaries! Also, remember that this phase isn’t forever and you can and will move out at some point once you’re ready 🫶🏽

[@CrisOnTheInternet]

Greener pastures, I didn't hear that expression before, I love when I learn new language things by accident. Hope your situation improves soon.

[@schaeannsalmon]

Same ; struggling but having hope is what helps

[@dgeddis24]

I'm 28 And I Still Live At Home With My Parents Whlie I Am Trying To Figure Out My Next steps

[@schaeannsalmon]

@@dgeddis24 same 😭. It’s so frustrating

[@esmeraldarodriguez6709]

Girl! I'm in my 30s and we just moved out of my inlaws so we could get our dream home. We all make sacrifices

[@SelenaTrevino]

Yes I love that for you!! Honestly if fam let you live with them tk save up $$ that is SUCH a blessing! And in hindsight, a small sacrifice to get closer to your goal! Congrats on getting your dream house!!💗

[@esmeraldarodriguez6709]

@SelenaTrevino we lived there for 4 years....hubby,myself and our 2 kids who are now 15 and 11. Definitely worth the sacrifice!!! THANKS!

[@primrosed2338]

I actually just moved out in the last year and a half after moving in with my parents during the pandemic. It was a blessing in disguise to be with them during that time. Yes, let's destigmatize all of this. Girl I know our immigrant parents can have clutter and hoarder tendencies, its their trauma response.

[@edithloise]

Oh my gosh I can relate to this so much! My husband and I moved in with my parents after living on our own, we also have two toddlers. It’s been so difficult to adjust and some days I’m like “what are we doing?” It’s been a lot of work, working through my triggers and so much emotional work. We moved here to be close to them and to have our sons grow up close to their grandparents, but it’s been sooo hard. Thank you for talking honestly about this 🤍

[@Silviluv]

moved back in with my parents after separating from my husband, really appreciating my healing journey.

[@jenny16121]

I am 27 and i currently live with my parents. As much as I love and really appreciate them letting me live with them rent free, I’m at a point in my life where I want to live on my own, have my own space, grow as a person, move in with my partner and start MY life. I cannot afford to live on my own just yet (we’ll I can but not the life I want to live where I’ll be penny pinching everything) but I’ve decided it’s perfectly OKAY for me to stay at home until I pay off all my debts and save money. It’s the smarter move for me financially and although it may cause emotional and mental stress (Mexican parents are toxic af or at least my whole fam is lol but I still love them!) I think it’s worth the sacrifice. Growing up poor, I never want to put myself in that position again if I can avoid it. I definitely battle with some of the same emotions and thoughts you’ve shared in this video but when they creep in I always tell myself to be grateful for the little things. Some people don’t have parents who would welcome them in, some people have no family at all, etc. the smaller the thing i am expressing gratitude for the more (like a waking up this morning, be able to breathe with my own healthy lungs) I start to laugh about my worries because it just becomes so insignificant to the bigger picture. It’s just a phase and I’m striving for more so I just need to practice some patience 💕

[@stephienatalie7305]

Thanks for sharing and for also pointing out that not everyone has the option to just move back home with their parents. I’m one of those people. I grew up with my Grandparents, so my parents and I were never really close. My Dad passed in 2012 and a month ago, my Mom passed as well. She haven’t spoken to me since 2013, so even if I had no where to go, I was never welcomed back home. I’m sure it is hard living under someone else’s roof, but for those of you who who can still go back home, be grateful for it. Take it as it is and try not to let the things you can’t control get to you. Nothing lasts forever. Soon you will be living on your own again. Good luck in finding a house, Selena!! I kinda think you already did because you were wondering if the rug would fit! 🤭🤭 thanks for sharing your life with us!! 💜

[@ashleymathis]

I love that you do the healing diaries. This year I turned 30 and have been claiming 2023 as my year of exponential growth and healing. Your channel makes me feel like we are talking on FaceTime together. I appreciate your vulnerability and openness❤️

[@hannafromatlanta]

Been living at home since the pandemic and I get you! This is the first year where things feel balanced and boundaries are respected, but it took time; sending good vibes your way 💖

[@daisybarajas4011]

I love hearing you speak in Spanish and seeing you with your mami. I've always wanted to see a KZbinr that looks/sounds like me so thank you for being that representation on this platform. AND don't be shy about filming in your parent's kitchen like you mentioned because we need more realistic kitchens like that in the content we consume!

[@Vida_Milo]

I lived with my parents until I married at 27, and we lived with my parents for a year to save up for a house. In my culture it’s common to live with your parents for a longer time, thankfully we have a great relationship, so it was an easy and great experience. I know it’s not for everyone, but I’m glad and proud to have lived at home and been able to spend more time with them.

[@Itsleslyjo]

I’ve had to start over and move in with my parents 3 times. It happens! Now I’m married and live in a house we own. Everything works out. ❤

[@ladycastro1016]

Hi Selena! In Peru is so common to live with parents until marriage, we ussually live with our family until 30, even 40....also is so common to build a second or third floor in our parent's house and live there. But listening to you made me realize how much freedom I don't have, soon I will move. Hope things get better for you, I love your videos ❤

[@SamanthaRaquel]

I could not relate more to you in this season of life. I’m also in my early 20s, working from home 8-5, and moved back home after having an apartment on my own. In ways I’ve been loving it and have never been closer to my mom. There has been arguments and reminders that I have no say/not my home but overall I’m happy I did, I feel like Ive used this time to save money, find friends and build community, and learn more about myself. I’m also currently looking to buy my first home and it has already been so overwhelming. I cant wait to see more of your journey and go through it with someone 🫶

[@AlgebraNerd06]

Really enjoyed the conversation in this episode!❤

[@SelenaTrevino]

Loved chatting with you on premiere, thank you for sharing your own story!! It’s so relatable and reminds me how connected we all really are 🥹💗

[@TheTexasgirl1996]

I moved back home right after undergrad and it was a struggle at first, but now I think I’m too comfortable at home. I need to start really working harder on my goal of moving out 💙😊

[@micaelafamilant2128]

Every moment you opened up and shared yourself with us, I felt that. I’m in a similar season right now and I can relate to a lot of what you said. It was comforting to hear your plan of action and optimism too. Thank you for being so honest

[@lynsey.alexandra]

Thank you so much for sharing! I have been living at home for the past 2 1/2 years, ever since I graduated from college. I love spending time with my family and friends and saving money, but sometimes I wish I had my own space sometimes. Now that I’m finally ready to move out, I could not be more excited. I feel like I’m a late bloomer in terms of moving out so I have to continue navigating those feelings. Yet, I know that I’m not alone. I don’t have any regrets. I’m lucky that I could even move back home in the first place. I hope other people know that’s it’s totally normal and there is nothing wrong with living at home. ❤

[@KWilliams22]

Love how open you are about your feelings. I had a couple of short spells in my 20s where i had to move back home. And after living away for a few years it was awful 😂 but we survive these times, and its all for the greater good ❤

[@sarahssiteplans]

i'm almost 37 and a few years ago, i had to move back to my parents home, for personals reasons, thanks to that i saved many money, i learn to spend time with myself, i stablished. really healthy routine to myself and yes, sometimes is awful, but i'm very thankful to have a place to stay if it's something wrong...i want to move to an apartment or a house...but it take time...i just write all of this to tell you, i understand everything that you have shared in this video. Have a nice weekend, love! (i'm from spain, and my english is not so good, but i hope you understand what i've tried to say)😘😘

[@TeasiaBattle]

I love this vulnerable conversation ❤. My wife and I recently discussed moving back in with my in laws to save money since I'll be hopefully going back to school but ultimately decided yes the rent was free but we'd pay for it in our mental health.

[@gemcockrell]

3:33 i relate soooo hard. Certain areas of our house are so messy and cluttered but I can’t tidy it because it’s not my house. But when I lived away, I really prioritised having a very minimalistic, tidy living space. Letting go of control is definitely something I need to work on (and am working on) but I’m struggling because living somewhere so cluttered and chaotic is really stressing me out, I feel like I can’t even go in certain rooms because they make me anxious

[@howieg2019]

i respect your honesty, because it seems like too many women point fingers at men for struggling and choose to not be honest with themselves going through the same.

[@SelenaTrevino]

Thanks for your feedback!

[@lulusplannerlifegmz1202]

Girl I moved out of my parents at 18 also; with gods grace thankfully I'd never had too move back. I love my parents and I live in same town as them 8 miles away. So is all good visit as much as I can. God will give you the serenity to let go of the things you cannot control. Living one day at time, enjoying one moment at time. Accepting hardships as a pathway to peace. Embrace the journey Selena. God, always puts you in the right place in the right moment. Live, Laugh and Love. Thanks for sharing ...

[@AntiqueAlmond]

Selena, thank you❤literally for just being you, for willingly being vulnerable and relatable on here. I feel so safe and heard here, we appreciate your feelings, and a lot of us are in the same boat😅 Love you🤗

[@zacharyowens_1]

You sharing your journey, not just visually with the camera but also auditory by speaking directly to us, helps in more ways than you know! Thank you!! ❤

[@Bravenatured]

Gosh I can completely empathize with how you are feeling. My husband and I (boyfriend at the time) moved in with mom mom and brother for 6 months while we waited for the house I was purchasing to be built. We got a lot of snarking comments like “why are you complaining at least you can get a house.” I worked darn hard to make that happen and that didn’t make living with family any easier. Sending you so much love! It’s great to see you reconnecting with family and btw your mom is gorgeous! Can see where your beauty comes from. ❤

[@wintry_enchantress7279]

It's very motivating to see you grow and overcome challenges! I did not have that kind of support from my parents but I am super glad you can benefit from that ❤ It's never an easy decision to make but the most important is to take care of yourself and ask for support if you feel you need it. Take care, Selena!

[@estherestelle7920]

I wish I had the type of relationship with my parents that would allow for a successful live in situation, it would certainly make my life easier since I take my mom to so many of her appointments and help her with so many tasks but it's not possible. My parents have been separated for years. But I do understand that being in flux is going to be uncomfortable no matter how well you get along, it's two different households functioning under one roof and that is hard. There's no perfect life, every decision you make comes with pros and cons.

[@GlamGoddes101]

What’s great is that you have a plan! You know where you’re going after so even if this situation isn’t ideal, your next one will be

[@amykflower]

I feel this!!! I moved back home to the Seattle area from the DC area in July 2022 and moved back in with my parents. It’s been so nice to be back near family (especially my grandparents who are now in their 80s that I barely got to see in the past five years while living across the country) but at the same time, it was really hard to give up the independence I had in DC (I also didn’t have a car and there’s absolutely dismal public transportation in our town so I had to borrow my parents car whenever I wanted to go somewhere) and adjust my life to fit in with theirs. For a while I really struggled with feeling like an adult because even though I have a full time grown up job, it felt like I was back in high school again with the same rules and issues my family dealt with when I was growing up. I bought a car in February and moved into my new place in May, about 10 months after moving back home and it feel so good to have my own space again and be able to interact with my parents on my own terms! Anyway, just wanted to say I feel you, it’s hard, but you’re doing amazing and thanks for sharing your journey with us! Can’t wait to see more about your new house!

[@Novemberbabyyy_]

My school of thought is, it’s so freaking expensive to live on our own in 2023 and I’m single in my 30s! I moved back home as well to save and pay off debt. If you have the option, suck it up and move back, but don’t lose sight of your goals! Sometimes you gotta take a step back to take a few steps forward. Family is a sufficient enough reason, especially when their proximity is a positive addition to your life! I pay bills in my parent’s house and contribute to cleaning though. I’m no mooch! Whatever my parents need bill wise, I’ll pay it because I’d be paying it in my own household anyway. Oh and your mom is beautiful!

[@Leslie.G]

Selena, thank you for creating a safe space for all of us here. For so long I’ve felt so alone in this era in my life and it’s truly eye opening when I see so many others going through something similar as me. Rooting for all of us to get the life and independence we desire. ❤❤❤

[@minnicola]

Sometimes in life we need to take a few steps back to move forward in life. I moved back with my parents in 2020 for 6 months while waiting on my mortgage with my 2 daughters. I was 31 at the time. We had to share a room cause my parents third bedroom is an office. Had to share a double bed with my then 3 and 8 year old. It was not fun 😂 but it’s worth it now. That’s me & the girls in our home for almost 3 years now 🥰 in no time ul be in ur place and all these feelings will evaporate and ul feel truly proud of what u have achieved alone at a young age 😃

[@espressothrift1821]

I understand what you mean when you say you feel like you’re taking a step back (as you said, you’re not at all ❤️). I’m living with a roommate right now because houses and apartments are just too dang expensive in my area. It feels hard at times, but once you have your house, you’ll be happy you made these decisions ◡̈ P.S. There is nothing like a cold Starbies to lift the spirits ❤ Cheers to your journey and finding your home 🥂

[@christinadavis7000]

It’s great to have a place to return to when your life is in transition. I could never move back in with my parents. Too many adults under their roof would be stressful.

[@CynthiaIvers]

Look at it as a period of time to re-connect with your parents. They won't always be here, and you will look back and really cherish the time you spent with them during this period. Trust me - you will - not right now, but later on in your life when you miss them after they're gone and remember the times you had with them. Sometimes in life we move "laterally" in order to move forward. Life isn't just one upward trajectory.

[@KKaur1996]

This was beautiful, like you, Selena 💕💕 You are such an inspiration, aspiration, and motivation to us all, genuinely 🫶 I cannot begin to stress just how relatable your situation is to my own currently - everything you have described feeling, is so SO similar to how I have been feeling in life too/what experiences in life I have also recently been going through. It is such a comfort to know that such a lot of us are in very similar circumstances, and that we are not alone ❤❤ Thank you always for your 100% authenticity, rawness, realness. It helps an awful lot of people, I don’t think you even realise what an incredible impact you truly have❤❤ Things will all fall perfectly into place for you, when the timing of your life is right. Keep trusting your journey - you are exactly where you are meant to be in this very moment xx

[@jennifergraham9679]

hang in there, its not forever, you are working towards your goal of home ownership, I think you have done very well and you should be proud of you.

[@giosi]

I moved back in with with my mom at 28 to help with finances while I complete grad school and also try to save money for a house. Though it does have its frustrations, I’ve been learning to love it! It’s been 10 years since I’ve been home with family and I love the chance to eat dinner, watch movies, have conversation, etc. because we truly don’t know how much more time we have with our loved ones (not trying to be dark - I just work in oncology so its my constant reminder to be more mindful of the moments we have together). It’s great to take the opportunity to be together and to save money for your next home. I feel like western culture puts a lot of pressure to be independent in everything. But in reality, family and community is vital in helping each other reach our successes. ❤️ it’s definitely an adjustment! But you’re not behind and you’re making smart decisions about your future. Cherish the good moments, learn and grow from the tough ones…. Y nunca digas que no a las parrillas!! 🙌🏽 😜

[@PerversaBeleza]

Your room is looking great and super confortable! Soon you and bae will move to your new home and everyting will be easier! Of course, living in the same city as your whole family will be super rough sometimes, specially with boundaries and things like that! But your new city looks super beautiful and fun!

[@BUItifulAdventures]

thank you for keepin' it real with us and sharing your emotions, selena! i know it's not easy, but hang in there love! ❤ i totally feel ya too - i lived with my parents even after graduating college (pretty much up until i got married at 28), and one of my older sisters was in your same position (moved away from home out of state, but ended up moving back home), and for the both of us it was definitely such an emotional roller coaster every. single. day! our house was already small (a one-level in SE Portland - 3 bedroom 1 bathroom, AKA we all shared a bathroom), and we constantly felt like we had no privacy or freedom to do anything. i also constantly felt like i was "behind" in life while everyone else around me seemed like they were moving forward. one thing though that helped me was something my mom told me previously, that everything in life is temporary, so whatever troubles and obstacles i may be facing at the moment, they will one day pass 🙏🏻 just know this season of your life is just that beautiful - a season, that'll eventually fade to let the next chapter in your life shine! blessings to you always girl!

[@caprispillingtheteaLST]

Don’t feel bad for moving back home in your 20’s ❤I moved back home in my 30’s with kids and a husband 😅ow a dog too 😅but the Goal was to purchase our home and be more stable and we did that. We have been homeowners for five years now 🎉do what you have to do to reach your goal ❤

[@ccheavena]

Also in my 20s living at home with my parents! And I agree that letting go of control is the hardest. I think another thing is the increasing cost of living which makes finding a place to live nearly impossible. Manifesting the place of my dreams tho!

[@marydanessa]

Def living at home can have triggers. And the overwhelming sense of non control and anxiety. I lived with my father until he passed away and he had a lot of mental & health struggles. So I didn’t mind taking care of him but I would worry over him a lot if I had to go to work or run errands.

[@rosamondhazell2149]

Selena thank you so much for your perspective about moving back home. My daughter is in the military and her contact is up next year, and while she figures out to re in list or come back home and look for a job, she would have to stay with me until she gets a job and a move out. ❤️

[@nayjavu]

And that's normal and your daughter will probably be grateful. This woman chose to move back while she looks for a house. There are worse reasons to have to move home and she's tone deaf to that.

[@elenatrix1]

I am grown and married and now my mom is ailing and i had to have her move in with me and its been tough. It is hard to deal with these things, i never thought i would be in this situation but with my dad gone and her being alone and so far away, i had to finally make the choice to just stay with us. Keep your focus on your goals and be gentle on your self. Also try to get to know your parents as an adult. Ask them about their lives and check in with them. I just went to a movie with my mom and we did a little shopping. It will all work out.

[@TheRosigirl]

Thanks for sharing your journey. Heard you saying that you feel more dependent asking for a car or family help. I see this as your support network, when we leave alone we do everything by ourselves and forget how it is to have other people around that we can count on ❤

[@leannemeng228]

Hi!! First time watching your videos. Thank you for being vulnerable. I’m making my videos but haven’t opened up on my videos on KZbin. Im 26, also from Oregon. But I’m living in Idaho. Living on my own has been a fear of mine. I lived at home till I was 24-25… living at home dealing with my mental health. It was hard. I wasn’t happy. Im still not happy. But im currently living in at a transition program. It’s hard living here too. I can relate to a lot … I wish I was more dependent. Independence is so scary for me.

[@edwardleecaliforniausa]

Hi Selena happy Thursday afternoon and I hope you having amazing day today and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you edward, happy thursday, appreciate you!!

[@edwardleecaliforniausa]

@SelenaTrevino good morning happy Friday morning and your welcome sending you hugs ❤️ 🤗

[@mieldemoi5702]

Nice video Selena. Thank you for sharing. You are a smart young women. You have a goals and your working on them. In top of that you got your parents to back up up while saving for your house girl it is a blessing. Keep focus on the positive next by this time it will be a different story. Love keep it up.

[@ingridperez238]

Hope you feel better soon 🙂. I live with my parents in a 2 family home so we are not in the exact same space but when it comes to major decisions I'm basically a tenant. I know this isn't my forever home for myself, my husband and my 2 little boys. But I am grateful to have my parents close they are an amazing support and help us raise our boys and I love that they are a big part of our boys lives. I too come from a Latin household and my parents are very traditional but they do give me space and respect and I do love that we can keep an eye out on each other. We all have different paths and or reasons why we chose things. I wish you and your hubby luck in finding your next home. In the meantime hope you find your peace soon. (Also, I really like the changes you've made in your parent's home). Take care! ❤

[@loveteaching9040]

This makes me think of my life as an Iranian who lives now in the US. I can never go back to my family home in Iran since I have been publicly against the Iranian regime so it is dangerous for me to ever go back to Iran. At the same time, my parents cannot come here since they are old and also getting visa for them is extremely difficult, of course there is not even an American embassy in Iran. So, probably they both will die as they are getting older and older and I will never see them again nor their graves, and my childhood home will forever be just a memory. I know people can be upset no matter what, I'm just saying this to put things in perspective. It's great to be able to live with parents, see them, have their support, and of course they can be annoying but that is true for anyone who knows you literally since you were born. Just enjoy having them around as long as they are there for you and you will do great, soon will be independent and have a wonderful life close to your family, and that is ENOUGH of a reason to move back home.

[@Novemberbabyyy_]

This is heartbreaking and I hate that this still happens to families in this day and age.

[@kayleehenderson9059]

selena, this is so real! i grew up in a small town that all of my immediate and extended family have lived in my whole life. i moved across my state after college for a job and ended up moving back to my hometown last year to prioritize spending time with my family. living without that support network that i was so used to was surprisingly difficult but it actually took me a long time to be okay with moving back (and seeing people from high school lol) after having "made it" and living in a bigger city. i so feel for you but am looking forward to this new period of growth for you!! 🤍

[@mansoor3159]

Hey! Selena your vlogs are too too too realistic and I really really never missed any one of your vlogs you are my inspiration and I wish you have a best week ahead💗🙂💫

[@SelenaTrevino]

thank you Mansoor! always appreciate your support

[@jazzminswinson2116]

Hey I live at home but not for much longer! It’s been hard because I went from moving out my apartment to home to buy a house to the market being crazy and deciding no to buy and now waiting for a new apartment. I’m excited for the freedom!

[@dalleshaful]

All those feeling are totally normal. You seem to have a handle on it. Wishing you all the best😊💗🎉

[@nayjavu]

No...its not. She lives alone 1 year. Lol this shouldn't be that big of a deal considering she chose to move home so she can look for a house. She's no their because she.cant afford to get a place. 😅

[@amberstylist934]

I moved out 5 months ago (again). It was rough living with them after 6 years of not living with them 😅 But, it was also nice to live with them because they were helping me heal from a terrible breakup💜🥺 so in a way, I’m glad I lived with them again for a year and a few months, it helped me heal💜

[@simplyellenxo95]

Yay, new types of content!

[@SelenaTrevino]

I FEEL THAT!! definitely gonna continue sharing my healing diaries and new home content! I will still share 9-5 life but not as much since I feel like I need a change in content, too

[@GIRLyoulivelikethis]

Selena, I greatly thank you for making this video 🥹🤍 thank you for sharing with us and being so vulnerable. I just moved in with my partners parents and them after living on my own. I feel like hearing you helps me make me feel like it’s normal to feel this way. I have been struggling to feel comfortable and build a routine 🙃 or even have motivation. I feel you Selena, we’re here for you and we’re always rooting for you. You got this, we got this 🤍

[@elisag4664]

Congratulations on your honesty and for sharing your truth Selena! I love that you are able to spend time with your pretty momma! Enjoy this time for it too shall pass 🧡🍂

[@cruisingwithjen]

Moving in with my parents (really any family) after being out of their house was SO hard.... I moved out as soon as I could because I couldn't handle not having control of my own life. Hang in there!

[@TruthinMind]

Hello Selena - You will get through this and the healing needed will come as you allow yourself to figure out a routine and take time at least once a week to just relax; go outside; and really think. Do you plan to buy a car once your home purchase is settled? God Bless you!!

[@Jennrenee1983]

I’m 40 and moved back home to help my mom and cause of medical issues of my own that cause me to almost pass out when flared up. Since my boyfriend is on the road so much he agreed it would be best for me to stay with my mom cause of medical. We are working on moving to another state next year. I lived in apartments for years before moving back home. I’m ready to have own place again. As my mom tells me be patient and things will fall into place when it’s meant too.

[@cynthiah4866]

Selena do not let others make you doubt your decision to move back home. You would be surprised at how few people have a deep family connection so of course they could not understand why you would want to do this but I totally get it. However I also understand needing your own space. 😊 I am confused on one topic though…I thought you already purchased your new home? In this video you made it seem like you were still looking?

[@MyAnimeDomination]

living with parents is smart, allows budgeting more and saving/investing more, a year or 3 of saving will shave off so much money towards mortgage

[@CharN47]

Admire your strength, I could never go back. I need my own space, even if it's an Airbnb or a hotel.

[@Nana-eg2uv]

I left home when I was 20 for school and 3 states/10 years later I am finally getting my PhD and I'm moving back home after. There are better job opportunities for me in other states but I miss my family and grew up close to not just my immediate family but my uncle/aunts and cousins as well. I feel like I've been away for long enough and don't want to miss family events or watch them get older from far away anymore.

[@bsandra84819]

❤❤❤❤

[@joselinreyes96]

Girl I feel you! I ended up moving into my in laws house a year before we got married (bc of the pandemic) and while I'm happy to be out of my own parents home and healing from that trauma, it feels like im just waiting in limbo. The market where I live is sooooo super competitive and it wasn't until recently my husband and I landed good stable jobs. We also don't have anything saved so its been rough. Im so thankful my in laws haven't forced us to pay so we try here and there but its such a weird stage in life. We're torn with the idea of finally having money so should we travel and enjoy that aspect while we're still young? Or should we start saving for our own place? To buy? to rent? Then to top if off its a multi-family home so we have 3 "families" under one roof, my in laws, my husbands aunts family, and us. Theres always opinions going around and unsolicited advice which i dont feel comfortable saying anything bc obviously 1. Not my house, and 2. Ive known them since i was 14 and feel like im treated like a kid still even though im not. AND THE CLEANLINESS ASPECT YOU MENTIONED!!! My husband and I hate having to maintain communal spaces when no one else does. Makes it feel like its not worth going through all the work. Tbh most of the time i spend in our room to avoid contact which makes me feel fucked up and guilty but i can only handle so many personalities in a day. But one day at a time, and this is only temporary is what i remind myself of❤️‍🩹

[@Ivi27]

It's great that you already bought your new house, so you're 1 foot out the door!!!🙏🏼🥳🎉😉🏡🏠

[@richellemaezolina9660]

I don’t know why some cultures are finding it hard to live with their parents Im 30 and I’m living with parents and im having a good time living with them so far im saving a lot no rent and no utilities just spending for my own food and my dogs😄 Hope you’re healing well❤ and enjoy your time together with your family

[@SelenaTrevino]

In my culture its normal to live at home til you get married, I've talked about it before. But it doesn't change how I feel and that's ok too.

[@ihama99]

Sorry to say. Another reason there may be tension is your moving in with your BF into your parents home. I dont think any parent wants that... best to find your own space ASAP

[@SelenaTrevino]

Nope, that’s not why, I can assure you. But I don’t have to explain myself, so think as you wish.

[@ihama99]

@@SelenaTrevino I didn't ask for an explanation.. Just an opinion. Simple.

[@d__dollxo]

Love your videos! Thank you for sharing you life and being so open with us. On a serious note: where is your white crop tee from? So cute

[@andrear6566]

I havent had my car for a couple of months and having to borrow or ask my parents for rides 😩😩😭😭😭 it makes me feel like a burden or like im back in high school! So i feel you on that a little. But it has been a good exercise for me to accept help so i guess theres some benefit to it

[@kalebrosetaylor]

You are so beautiful. I mean from head to toe, drop, dead, GORGEOUS 🖤🖤🖤

[@marichuytv1130]

Gurrllll…. Some of us WISH we had the privilege of moving in with our parents/in-laws…. None of them are stable enough for us to do so. My husband && i just bought our own home a year ago. We own several cars/trucks.. we have 3 kids, one being a 1 yr old… life is rough tho.. sometimes we NEED family. Unfortunately, we don’t have the same privilege as you. So take advantage of it. We’re only getting older. Love you girly. One day I’ll start vlogging my experience. I love life tho. I love God. I love my family. ❤️

[@SelenaTrevino]

I feel that 🫶🏽 thanks for sharing!

[@chianeperry2464]

I’m currently living with people (I should be able to call them parents) who kinda sort of hate me (their actions say it). And I’ve been trying to leave, both my sisters and I, but this market/economy. Like we literally can’t afford to go anywhere and I know they are aware of this but they don’t care.

[@KotryJack]

The booty slap from your bf 😂 omg so relatable 😂

[@Billy33753]

Happy September

[@SelenaTrevino]

Happy September, Billy!!

[@tatumejarvis]

I’m 28 and moving back home tomorrow 😩 I don’t want to but I’m in your situation and really want a house!

[@MDWJS]

your insecurities are just that, and very valid. Everyone is into aesthetics and that is fine. Your parents are living their lives and because you have certain aesthetics and you are on KZbin, again your insecurities. I'm sure that most people that follow do not live in an all-white pristine house. I have a cleaner and 2 kids when that woman comes twice a week - she is my goddess if you come to my house a couple of days after she's left it's horrid. if you are my friend and are bothered, you do not have to come over. Once you move in with your parents after you have been out of the house for a while it's a lot but again like you said you are grateful. Good luck on your journey and what other people choose to think about you is none of your business. live your life. I am sure that you are far from perfect and that is perfectly normal. I hope you accept this in the vain it was intended.

[@SelenaTrevino]

That’s fair, it’s def not my insecurities though! Like I mentioned in the video, it is not my house. It’s not my house to share. And regardless about how I feel about the aesthetic, just bc I’ve opened myself up to criticism, does not mean I want to open up my family and their home and their entire lives up for the world to see and critique. Regardless, there are always people who criticize, and I’d rather the critiques be towards me than open that up to my entire family.

[@MDWJS]

@@SelenaTrevino I was hoping you would not see the comment as a criticism. It's the way you emphasized the aesthetics part. you are an amazing young woman - I am 45 and hold and a professional and have been where you are. I'm sorry that you took it as criticism. keep doing you.

[@thenonsky8746]

Love you Selena

[@Lucie.28]

Girl the way you folded clothes 😩😩😩

[@SelenaTrevino]

I just roll everything up ok 😭 I’d prefer to just hang everything tbh. But nothing I roll stays wrinkled I swear. It’s all cotton or leggings. Also I’m not good at multi tasking, when I tried to cool and talk on the phone, I burned myself, and talking while folding clothes was also hard 🫠

[@kbwatson12]

I’m so confused, I totally thought you lived with your boyfriend in DC, but I just got to the part where you said you lived 100% by yourself. And maybe I haven’t gotten there yet, but is he living at your parents’ house with you? Are y’all buying the house together?

[@SelenaTrevino]

Watch my recent house hunting vlogs and you’ll hear all the updates!! 🤎

[@SelenaTrevino]

There’s also an FAQ saved on my Instagram bc I get this question a ton and I’ve responded many times, but saved it there for y’all to reference.

[@kbwatson12]

@@SelenaTrevino awesome! I watched most of them, but must have FF’d through that part. 😁

[@SelenaTrevino]

@@kbwatson12 no worries, I just don’t want to give half an explanation so I just leave it at that 🤍

[@kbwatson12]

@@SelenaTrevino I know this season is hard, but it’s so amazing the sacrifices you’re making for your future! It took me a long time (I’m 40 now) to get my finances in order and that gave me the resources to have a baby on my own. Doing big things on your own is scary and comes with lots of second guessing, but Future Selena will be so thankful!

[@Y_Alexandra]

We find out identity in CHRIST . If he gives you peace in your decisions that’s all that matters. 😊

[@stacksondeck970]

Can you work for the government remotely?

[@nayjavu]

She still has her job. She making herself a victim for no reason

[@elizabeththompson1525]

When will your house be ready?

[@mothernature5237]

While u r home u can save more money to buy a house

[@nayjavu]

That was her whole point of moving home. She's acting like something traumatic sent her there .

[@mothernature5237]

why would she lie to the entire world and pretend that something happened that sent her home. Based on what are you claiming that about her? @@nayjavu But with respect to you, I think its cruel to make assumptions about her while watching her video without any evidences.

[@shairalopez9029]

Something about you mentioning the “cleanliness” of your parents home just doesn’t sit right with me…almost making it seem like they aren’t as clean as you would like them to be. That’s just not a nice thing to bring up.

[@primrosed2338]

I took it as it is cluttered and unmatching which is common among immigrant parents. Not uncleanliness at all. My parents still have phone books 🤦‍♀️ a lot of knick knacks.

[@SelenaTrevino]

Yes this is exactly it!! Thank you. It’s very common with immigrant households and not a bad thing at all, I was just saying it’s not my house and we have different aesthetics essentially.

[@shairalopez9029]

@@primrosed2338 I see, so she used the wrong word?

[@TheLeaveTaking]

​@@primrosed2338why is it common among immigrant parents? That's very intriguing!

[@turtle.lover.2644]

Girl I love u and your videos but I got anxiety watching u fold ur clothes😂😂😂 I was thinking of the wrinkles…. But I love ur videos lol

[@kamrankamran8863]

Weish to have a wife like you? I am 33years old alone and single boys? My education graduate? My life with out wife living a life? My life is missing life partner? My life is need a woman accepted me my life as a husband? My life is need a woman accepted me my life as a life partner? My life is need a woman as a wife? My life is need a woman as a couple living a life? You are accepted me my life as a life partner? I am thankful to you full of life? You are any question about my alone life? I am reply to you?❤❤❤❤🌹🌹🌹🌹🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@AlieshiaTV]

Is your boyfriend in Oregon too?

[@SelenaTrevino]

👍🏽

[@chickolat]

it sounds like you are more worried about what some random strangers will think about your parents home than accepting your parents as they are.

[@SelenaTrevino]

Not at all. Like I mentioned in the video, it is not my house. It’s not my house to share. And regardless about how I feel about the aesthetic, just bc I’ve opened myself up to criticism, does not mean I want to open up my family and their home and their entire lives up for the world to see and critique. Regardless, there are always people who criticize, and I’d rather the critiques be towards me than open that up to my entire family.

[@nayjavu]

Probably not popular, but I'm going to give my perspective from all I have viewed. I feel this is not one of the things to victimize or make a thing. You are so young and before your VERY short time in your own apartment you had roommates. You weren't living alone for years. You truly did not live alone long enough to be making this a thing. You didn't move home because you lost your job, got demoted with a paycut, or failed at a new business or got sick. You moved there temporarily while you house hunt with a loan budget moat people right dream of. This is giving so ungrateful and entitled and then you consistently bring up your mental health so that what? Nobody criticizes you and it disarms people that might now want to join your pity party? You don't know what it's like to feel like you don't have time to make your dreams come true because you're too old, or to not have any family to go stay with until things align, or having to leave your relationship in your last home state because they couldn't or wouldn't come with you. To have no parents alive anymore. To have no friends to help get you through your changes of life. Your level of stress and issue to some degree is truly disappointing when people are out here with NOTHING. salaries that don't afford them the ability to budget a $400k+ home, or a family or so many years in front of them. I struggle with my mental health daily and its really challenging and conflicting to want the best for you, when you make everything a struggle as it's convenient for you. I really hope you figure everything out but please consider your audience.

[@SelenaTrevino]

I'm sorry what you've gone through/are going through us hard. It's ok if your reality is different from mine and vice versa. I accept that as a first gen college graduate, someone who now works in content creation, I do hold privilege. However, I won't try to explain myself, my traumas, but I will say, my feelings are 1000% valid regardless of what you or anyone else is going through. I also want to add that you do not know my previous traumas, times of struggles and adversity Ive gone through to get to where I am… and I should not, and will not, explain all of that to you simply for you to empathize with me. I hope you have a better day, take care of yourself.

[@celestemaarie]

Moved back with my parents in February with my fiance and our doggo, to save money for our wedding, after living on our own for 3 years. It is not for the weak however a blessing lol. Been struggling still to find a solid routine and suffer from my own emotional triggers, but shout out to everyone doing their best. 🤍

[@SelenaTrevino]

Yesss, def not for the weak! But blessed nonetheless 🫶🏽

[@keeleyday8542]

❤❤❤