HEARTBREAK

[@nataliee9]

"Sometimes we need a heartbreak in order to put a conclusion and things. Otherwise we'll be working on the wrong damn thing forever."

[@AliseL22]

Very well said Margarita. One thing I would love to tell young people is this: When someone is ignoring you (and there is no basis for it and you have tried to reach out), move on, take the queue they're not interested any longer. It might be hard to take, but in the end you will be much happier.

[@harleysresinhouse299]

This happened to me recently 😢 My man took me trying to express my feelings as an attack and now he's been ignoring me for weeks but still snapping God knows who. I know one could say I should trust him but all the mixed signals have me feeling that it's truly over this time and I don't know why I'd want him back after the way he's been treating me as of late 😞 Sucks when they say you're the one and it turns out to be a lie ❤

[@AliseL22]

@@harleysresinhouse299 Sending you love and strength 🌷🦋

[@cierachanae]

I’m going through the exact thing with my now ex. But Margarita’s points are always perfect and helps me so much

[@harleysresinhouse299]

@Alise L Awww thanks back at you as well 🥰♥️

[@brysondill2639]

@@harleysresinhouse299 sending positivity to you for however this turns out for you, I am in no contact with my ex and it is HARD, but my fault. I had times at the beginning where I was not the greatest to her emotionally, I am filled with regret but will not stop trying to be better for myself and for my relationships in life, and deal with my attachment issues. I did break no contact and I think it ruined everything, it's so hard even knowing now I dont need her to be happy, but I want her in my life. I dont want to push her away. love yourself first though

[@coldlogic-gt9kg]

I’m 20 and my bf told me doesn’t feel the same about me. I just stared at him and was about to leave, and he asked me “aren’t you going to ask me why?”… why would I need to know. I looked at him and said “You promised a lot of things but you didn’t even fulfill one of them. And you can’t even look at me saying all this, so what’s the point of me asking you why? Because when you promise things you lie to my face, and build a shitty image of yourself… a man who can’t even keep his words is a coward.” I was leaving and he told me he wanted to give me a hug, and asked me if we can still be friends. I told him to be friends with himself and left. Wtf. And not even 12 hours in and he sent me paragraphs, which I didn’t even read. Like I don’t need explanations, once you left me, means you are dead to me and you never existed.

[@soultealove]

Something similar happened to me. He said that he wanted to take a break but continue talking everyday and i was like "then it's better that we break up and i don't take breaks" he started to panic and asked me for another chance but i was already done. And like you said these type of guys are coward they are not even men if they can't keep their word. I just see some insecure coward boys.

[@Braveh3artGirl]

You deserve the best of the best a man that is husband material, let yourself heal and then date but if you are marriage minded I highly recommend not getting into the boyfriend trap, just date without the titles, if he wants to commit let him propose and you get to choose if you are ready or not or if hes mr right or not ❤ you want a man who will choose you and adore you every single day. Dont settle for less. Write a list of what you want in a man and what you dont want xx

[@michellekatarina17]

Great attitude. Good for you. I think I just learned another lesson from someone younger than me. Thank you¡

[@sallyflanders1608]

You’re 20 and have the wisdom of an alien. I wish I had that kind of fortitude when I was your age! Your words floored me. What strength and centered sense of self where you don’t let any man trip you up!

[@irene4633]

Great reaction

[@getfitwithlaura536]

This comment section is giving me so much comfort knowing that the gut wrenching pain you feel when your heart breaks is universal and applies to all ages and generations. We are united in our ability to feel so deeply and the right people will be so lucky to experience it! Sending love and light to everyone who are hurting and healing. You'll get through it! x

[@taylorfausett177]

Thank you ❤

[@airakhan7979]

Thank u..it really hurts

[@hmmemz1654]

❤️

[@Patternlogic]

This is so true. You can’t truly experience true love or appreciate what you have until you’ve experienced the opposite. I had my heartbroken for the first time at age 31. I truly understood what it means when someone tells you who they are the first time believe them. I fell into the trap of believing in someone’s potential not who they were and that as long as you put in the work you can make love work, it didn’t because it was never meant to work. It hurt but I do believe this was a gift. I don’t think most people who break your heart are bad people but I understand now that people will always do what they think is best for them no matter how much you think you love them or sacrificed for the relationship. Love yourself first, set boundaries, love but don’t expect, watch their actions, and have the courage to walk away. Hard lessons indeed.

[@Afternoon99]

Thank you ❤

[@Jooniper56]

I’m 31 & experienced my first relationship & heartbreak recently. This is so relatable.

[@kolsen5420]

@@Jooniper56 same. its so tough at our age to have to start over when everyone around you is getting married and having babies. but i believe something even better is coming my way.

[@rl4488]

Worst time of my life but forced me to be healthier, learn about my attachments and traumas… it’s sucks it’s all consuming but I promise one day you’ll look back and realize was never the person… was the illusions in your head and feeling triggered and unloved. Love yourself, keep yourself busy learn and elevate - best thing I ever did was keep improving myself till he wasn’t my type anymore

[@karinanikoghos7285]

did you find your love? 😢

[@SS-in1ts]

I hate when people say to stop caring as if humans are robots. Enjoying this video because you said none of that!

[@Acestrup]

26 and just got out of a 6 year relationship, really teaches you the important things in life after a heartbreak but also shows what is important later one, but when you meet the one.. you know, it will never be toxic, just know that🙏🏽

[@Lesaalv]

How are you..

[@Acestrup]

@@Lesaalv Hi Leslie, I’m great! Things got better about a year- year and a half later, I just met someone amazing a month ago and couldn’t be happier! We’re both very independent and compliment each other well! Hope you are doing ok.

[@holakarlapaola]

This is so true. I wasn’t feeling loved in my marriage anymore and I tried and I tried to ask him to do the things I wanted in order to feel loved. And even though I thought on leaving him because he just wants loving me anymore I didn’t have the courage to leave. Until I found out he cheated on me, that’s the thing that shook me and allowed me to have the courage to leave. Great video ❤

[@umchileanywaysso]

Same

[@LauraPaglari]

A long distance, i loved him and didnt want to break up...i lost myself, emotionally, and hard to let go...the pain is hard

[@Jakilyn]

Struggling with Heartbreak right now 😢 sometimes things don't always transpire as we've planned

[@carolynalexander9748]

Not just a video for those in their 20s!! Romantic heartbreak even at age 62 can be devastating, but it can also be a learning experience, pointing one to what they want, need, and DESERVE! Provided we learn from the experience to make the next relationship better, heartbreak can be a gift. I'm still walking through it, but getting closer to the other side, where I believe there is something so much better waiting for me! A quote I came across the other day applies, I think. "If you can love the wrong person that much, just imagine how much you can love the right one." We all have love to give, and the right person will accept it for the gift it is. Praying for all of these commenters who are grieving, and while I wish for you it wasn't happening, It is comforting to know that we are not alone. Thank you, Margarita, for your encouragement through this video (and for the videos on attachment styles - I am learning so much that will benefit me going forward in life and love). You are wise beyond your years.

[@Livelaughlove11111]

Some real gems in this 🙏 I’m 50 and broken hearted, it doesn’t matter what age, we all feel the force of it

[@airakhan7979]

Im 49..n going thru heartbreak. True..the pain is jst the same regardless of age.

[@ceebee2092]

I’m 51… she dumped me 3 weeks before my 51st birthday , then texts me on my B-day, “Happy Birthday, hope you have a good day”…. Wtf…(?)

[@jodie3950]

I could listen to Margarita talk about anything. She is well spoken but her words and voice also somehow empower me and make me feel like I'm talking to an older and wiser sister ❤

[@taylorfausett177]

I agree. Her voice is reassuring as a gentle authority figure that can be trusted.

[@PBandH]

Margarita, I found your channel a couple days ago and I found your video on dismissive-avoidant people in relationships. I have never, in my entire life, cried so hard at a youtube video explaining exactly what lead me to be me. You've completely changed my relationship life in ways you will never see, but just know you've changed people's minds. I will send your videos to anyone I know that's suffering. I'm so pleased I found your channel. My heartbreak is slowly fading away...

[@VeeLondon1449]

♥️

[@jillmariaplatteaux6083]

My whole life is a heart break. I am 43 single, no friends and a pattern of toxic relationships, people excluding me, ghosting, lying,.. I just do not get it. I do my best. I hope my life will change!

[@manasakodical6075]

The very part of you that has written this comment and hopes for a change, will bring about that change.

[@jillmariaplatteaux6083]

​@@manasakodical6075 thank you for your kind empowering words ❤

[@mariaelenabartesaghi6322]

​@Manasa Kodical yes!!

[@cosmic_curves3339]

You are worthy of everything you want❤

[@jillmariaplatteaux6083]

@@cosmic_curves3339 ❤️

[@ChristinaKM]

I’m 56 and it’s much harder now than it has ever been. I literally cannot do it anymore. Yes this will pass but as far as moving on, nope Too many, finished

[@airakhan7979]

Im 49..n going through the same. I hope whn u know u r not alone..makes u feel a bit better. We can overcome this..jst pray n focus on urself.

[@Shishmish6]

I really needed this. I recently got heartbroken and yesterday tried for the last time to mend things with this person and realized they never felt the way they acted they did. And that essentially hurt more than my feelings being unrequited. It's the fact that I feel deceived, especially since I loved this person so much and cared about them. I also love how you mention that everyone is brought here to experience something else. I myself never struggled much with money or some other things, but I do feel like my biggest struggle has been love. So it's very comforting to hear that my purpose here is probably to experience real love, and to go through heartbreak to learn what real love is not 🫶🏻 thank you for this video!

[@kianas1616]

I just want to say you’re not alone in the experience of trying to mend things and realizing they really lied about the love they had for you. I can only imagine we are feeling the same pain at the moment so I just want to send you lots of love and healing. Hopefully it gets easier ❤️

[@Shishmish6]

@@kianas1616 thank you! Sending lots of love to you too 🩷

[@sarahillingworth9257]

I've been there so many times. I always love them more and think they are perfect. They never are!

[@Yahookudi]

Had the exact same experience and the pain is immense. I hope you're healing.

[@vikaphotography]

THIS. I too remember the exact moment in my early 20s when I realized people can look you straight in the eye and lie for selfish motives and self preservation. I was in the middle of testifying and realized how truly evil people could be and how dangerous it could be to assume pure intentions from everyone. I never saw anyone, much less society, the same ever again. I studied everything I could about deception/reading people and it has preemptively saved me a lot of heartache. Amazing job, as always. I always look forward to your content and have adopted your mindset. (I’m one of the OGs from TikTok and literally binged all of your videos lol). It feels so empowering - I can’t thank you enough ❤❤❤

[@HamskiTaco]

46 and going through heartbreak right now and it is so hard. Definitely feeling the pain and many tears and trying to understand. This video has been so helpful. Thank you ❤

[@bronzygurl82]

Been there but I promise you the pain lessens with time☺️

[@deemart7397]

Blessings sister, healing will come in the name of the Lord ❤

[@polkadolt]

Nearly 46 & been royally cheated on, Leanne I sympathise. “If you’re going through hell, KEEP GOING” & we’ll finally reach the light & pastures new… there’ll be people there who want to treat us right & there WILL be mutual attraction with someone for sure. Keep the faith , acknowledge your feelings, stop if it gets too much but then, when you can, push gently on xxxx take care of yourself

[@nannyboo9832]

34 and going through my 2nd heartbreak of the year… it never gets easier. I am so tired of being hurt but I’m trying to stay optimistic and keep going through this pain.

[@georgefrazer2231]

Heart break can also be 'caused' by those who simply 'do not get it'. Friendships 'finish' and 'run their course'. You can 'see' that 'it is over'. May we all be 'given the strength' to 'move on'. Thank you for this video.

[@braskevful5760]

My boyfriend of 3 years dumped me 4 days after my 30 birthday via DISCORD just because i told him we should move in together. Untill that point he made plans, promised me future, all this stuff. Its been a year and i still cant shake of it. It was so rapid, so unexpected and humiliating. I just dont understand how someone can say "I love you" every day for 3 years and then do this. Doesnt help the fact that i lost my mother to cancer when i was 11 years old and my twin brother died 5 years ago. I feel this grief so hard i dont see any future for myself anymore. How you can trust anyone after something like that.

[@Mitchell_Plaid]

Hope you’re doing better now? Hope you’ve gotten to a better place? That’s great worst thing ever

[@braskevful5760]

@@Mitchell_Plaid Im better, im studying and working hard for my success, moved to a beautiful place in the city center in Warsaw. Im single and wont waste my time on a man ever again so I dont follow this channel but thanks for your concern! Bless you kind soul ❤

[@martalost]

That's a great timing for this video, thank you. I'm currently at (what seems to be) the end of a relationship. The guy lost his attraction and I receive very little respect. This is where I draw the line and will have to act on this very soon. It's hard because I thought this is my guy 😔 sending hugs to all in the same situation currently. If you're reading this: we are strong. We will find love. It's out there.

[@taylorfausett177]

Thank you for the encouragement. I'm going through it too♥️

[@emilyr6456]

just very recently went through this.. your gut knows, and never lies. things WILL get better and with time you will become so grateful that it happened the way it did and things will begin aligning again in your life🩷

[@airakhan7979]

thank u dear

[@laramorgenthaler4431]

It just happened to me, he lost his feelings i thought we could make it work. But yesterday he broke up. It's very hard.

[@martalost]

@@laramorgenthaler4431 I'm sorry! Best to leave him alone and focus on yourself. But first, cry :) process it. I recommend one of the recent episodes of Craig's Kenneth podcasts. They talk about breakup. Take care of yourself most of all. You are love, you have the inherent value. But processing these emotions is crucial. After these couple of months I'm doing great and you will, also. Sending warm hugs 🤗

[@Eg-jd9zt]

Just broke up with my dismissive avoidant yesterday. This came just in time

[@astridhanl4861]

You're right.. Biggest part of my pain is that I enjoyed our life together and couldn't wait for our future to unfold. We both wanted to go all the way together and were looking fw to it.. Kids.. Marriage.. Getting old.. Taking care of our parents.. Just getting old together. I grieve that it's gone. It just didn't work out that way. The hardest break up are those where you still live each other but you know, that you're walking different directions

[@Iconicaestheticbychristina]

Oh margarita! You wise young thing! I’m 45 and just went on my dream vacation to Italy with my boyfriend of five years when I found out that he had been cheating on me for several months. And let me tell you his actions were not speaking anything other than love for me, and commitment, thoughtfulness, generosity, kindness… I wasabsolutely blindsided. Along with my family and friends. Needless to say that trip came to a screeching halt as I kicked him out and did my own thing for the remainder of the trip but wow, breaking someone’s heart by being so dishonest is absolutely awful. I don’t wish it upon anybody. Thank you for this video as I will be watching it daily as I go through this heartbreak.

[@addyifs]

omg im going through the same, im 23 and it hurt so bad. but now im so grateful that i randomly found this video. thanks a lot for every one in the comments section too, really comforting to know im not alone.

[@mistrock322]

As someone still healing from a breakup a year ago, and I am in my 40's. It is way harder than any of my breakups from my 20's. Of course all breakups are different and everyone has their own experience. For me, it was a 3 year relationship that I had hoped would be it for me. But, things took a turn for the worse and it became very toxic and damaging. Instead of parting ways peacefully and with love, my ex decided to leave me because I wasn't ready for marriage. It was not a kind or peaceful breakup. A lot of back and forth, which made it even more painful. I have never experienced pain like this before and almost an addiction to her. There could be a trauma bond going on but I would say that therapy is must needed for those going through similar situations. It is a day by day, minute by minute process. You will have good days and bad days. You will feel you've moved on and then something will trip you up. Keep pushing and eventually it will get better.

[@cerenozden3383]

Wounds are bleeding but also healing at the same time. Thank you Margarita. You are like friend that tells the truth.

[@samco63]

Glad I came across this video again. Currently going through a heartbreak in a relationship, I’m still in it, but I was hurt in such a big way by his actions and there’s been no repair, that I realise the relationship is coming to an end 😔. The only worse thing he could do is cheat, and I don’t want to stick around for that. So my heart is currently breaking as I’m making my decision … as well as having so much loss last year, for people and animals I love so much. It feels like I don’t have the strength to go through it all. And then at 37, I feel like I have no hope of meeting a man who I can build the life and love I really want with. But trying to be brave and just walk through it, take it day by day.

[@handypicker]

thank you. im experiencing something like this, early 20s never had lots of people around me and am in a freaking mo town without any friend or family member , everybody faar away. have been using all my money to be able to live in another apartment and go on with my job, acting like nothing happened, but deep down i feel so dissapointed and sad. we had love from first sight , i remember him from past lifes , and he me. i always knew i'll meet him, i felt his presence in my dreams since a very young age. and now its just over , i went away , its complicated... anyways , this video made me tear up , i needed to hear this and i really needed to cry. i dont know why i knew i'll meet him just to loose him but i know i need to consentrate on myself , embrace the loneliness , be in my own loving company.. thank you, your words really touched me ❤😢

[@sarasinc.lifestyle7648]

very comforting. its not useful to force love when it just isn't your path.

[@beautifulinfinity]

I’m in my mid thirties. . I never dated in my early 20s.. so I’m experiencing heartbreak only now. Thank you for this perspective 🥺

[@TheMisssy2]

Talk about shock. Viewing it as a "Human Experience" really helps a lot. Thank you.

[@AZeroSum]

I am a male in my 50s and your messages speak volumes. Even to me. I recently lost a dear friend who died while flying his plane…the news crushed my heart. And even in the fogg of grief, your words are valid and give clarity. 🙏 you for sharing the kindness.

[@JenJan36]

Spot on. Going straight through it and "this is the human experience " is my mantra. And refining understanding of contrast. When love shows up for real, it's going to be epic

[@Zrizzy7]

I'm a 30 year old male and get a lot from your videos for myself, but I also like to hear the perspective from a mature woman; it is so refreshing

[@rachellalthanpuii2618]

Turned 30 just recently and got my heart broken by someone younger. We both have our issues and unresolved childhood traumas. Even though it’s for the best, Tbh I have the urge to break no contact and just fall back again. Some days are so difficult. But watching this video helped alot, hope i can slowly accept it and move on and heal from this.

[@nicoleh8572]

Girl ... I swear your timing is Always on point. These talks are everything!

[@snoozyq9576]

I feel like im going to be swallowed up by sadness. I am hoping this passes soon. Ive been here before but still so hard

[@AlexRocha04]

Such a great video ❤ could honestly do a part 2 with practical strategies post-breakup and how to not blame yourself/ find your self worth again

[@felicityrichards]

I'm finding it harder to feel this about my experience now I'm older, and experiencing heartbreak at the end of a relationship at age 38, as a mother.

[@4elovechishe]

I feel you...same situation

[@spacequeenruby]

"It broke my brain" yesss...there's some heartbreaks that truly tear you up. Not just emotionally

[@sararoberts7206]

Im 41. I was the toxic one and didnt even realize I was the problem until he said he was leaving after 5 years. This is by far the WORST heartbreak Ive gone through in my life. I am in therapy now and working on anxious attachment issues now but its too late. I have guilt, shame, and regret, joining rejection, grief, and abandonment. Its just as hards when you are older, maybe worse, because youve got less time.

[@daniellereynolds9308]

Wow! I recently experienced the worst heartbreak of my life and that exact meme with Jesus and the teddy bear is what keeps coming to mind! Thank you for putting to words what I'm experiencing..I'm 30 and the same veil of innocence vs. deception was lifted for me 😢 living and learning. Please do more on this topic 💜

[@DaintyAbby]

Im 32. Just moved on. 😢😢 i love you

[@daniellereynolds9308]

@@DaintyAbby 💗💗

[@mikepiccolo32]

​@@daniellereynolds9308 Led Zeppelin has a song called Heartbreaker you will love it

[@cierachanae]

@@daniellereynolds9308 I can totally relate. I’m 31 and I’m currently going through heartbreak and it sucks. I’m really trying to believe that it’ll get better. I love how Margarita said the best thing to do is just go directly through it and not around it. It hurts so much but I know one day a switch will click where I get over it. But today is not that day 😭

[@daniellereynolds9308]

@@cierachanae Don't worry girl it slowly gets better. I'm getting close to month 2 and it's way better than those first couple of weeks 💕

[@stargirl-d4k]

literally going through this right now thank you margarita for your wisdom i love you!!

[@neonheaven6065]

Thats very true, it took me almost ten years to recover from the heartbreak that is called ; not fulfilling my life purpose's. It really felt like my identity was stolen and I did not now how to continue on anymore.

[@MandyJRoss]

My heart feels happy to have manifested you M. You are the soul sis we all love and appreciate.♥️✨️🌹

[@alyailithyia]

Maybe make a video on navigating single life and prioritizing yourself after a string of failed relationships/interactions prior? I'd appreciate it.

[@Kaycinee]

Man this video is spot on. The reality and life shift is so real . My bf was my friend first for 6 yrs so it’s been so hard to understand this concept . Especially when they weren’t even shitty 😭

[@anshitasharma6675]

@kxcinee i feel you..... Going through the same... My bf told me yesterday that his family won't agree for our marriage..... Then after what ever i said.. He was quiet he said he has no answers..... He also has been treatimg me very badly since a months... N now i don't even know what to do.... And the fact that he was my friend before all of this for over 10 years

[@EstherThorpe]

Wow the comment about putting people on mute and watching their actions. And having to experience what love is NOT b4 you can manifest what it IS🔥 this entire video is spot on and perfect

[@santisanti8386]

This really shook me to the core. Working on myself so long, but finally the puzzle is falling into place and your insights are tremendously helpful. Thank you. 🙏

[@beafults4283]

Hi Margarita! Firstly thank you for this video it truly impacted my heart in such a way! I’m 23 years old and just found out that the man i loved, was anxiously attached to, and codependent to for 2 years ghosted me for 2 days and saw videos of him taking a girl to breakfast (the diner we went to and where my parents met) yesterday. also found out she has been staying with him this past week. Truly soul crushing, brain boggling, and heartbreaking. I feel it all right now and thank you for your video to give my mind redirection and refresh from trivial and immature actions as well as finding my own strength in this! xoxo

[@AishaJade-g3i]

You mention heartbreak from the perspective of being young, I would love to hear about dealing with heartbreak in your late 20's and early 30's - Unfortunately I have felt both and I must say i have felt.a huge shift in the difference of pain as you get older that I have never been able to fully wrap my head around. I would love to hear your perspective. x

[@Margarita.Nazarenko]

I will make one x

[@yeuruuerueeheue]

what is different?

[@n1icole]

It is my first relationship and it's so hard to let go

[@MilanaMckhann]

I'm going through it right now and your video helped me sooo much. I took a bunch of notes. Your words and your energy and your perspective are very healing and comforting. You are like the wise big sister I never had. Thank you Margarita.

[@pure-pisces9980]

Thankyou & appreciate what u say....but just to clarify... 😢😢😢😢as most of us know....that heartbreak unfortunately can happen at any age not just your 20s...im 55 & feeling the excruciating pain again! 😔

[@peanut8211]

Hi! Could you talk about how to navigate through Heartbreak for people who are older, say in your 30s-40s and feeling discouraged about single hood and being alone after a break up…

[@PS-hi9os]

Humans can be very very cruel. Love this video.

[@ejm922]

brilliant! perfectly true. a narcisist broke my heart. up untill then, i never knew there were humans who can do this- hers was a mental disorder- NPD i never even thought it could exist- now i see more clearly! and i promise, after a broken heart, you will become a more VALUABLE person. that saying became so true! if your broken hearted,now, hold on,you are going to be wanted and in love,next time by a far better man/woman that YOU deserve-it happened to me. bless you! REAL LOVE IS COMING TO YOU!

[@lorimiller7261]

A Beautiful message for us all, at 20 or 50 ❤

[@byBibaz]

As terrible as it is heartbreaks are the things that forced the most growth out of me more than any other thing

[@tinyboxer08]

I love everything you said in this video..I never looked at heartbreak that way before, definitely gave me a new perspective, thank you :) Could you please do a video on how to move on after dealing with an avoidant person? Thanks

[@df4086]

Where were you when I was broken-hearted? I love you so much, you are so good! Thank you for all you do.

[@sayyesbibi]

Please keep up with your mission! You speak light into my brain and heart! What advice would you give to women over 35-40 who still haven't found a significant other, who experienced various heartbreaks (everytime a new one, like a new lesson)? Thank you!

[@anaxo1971]

This is such a great idea.

[@LoveLove-ev1cm]

Listen to your intuition, that gut feeling you get when you look at the person ur considering for marriage, review ur intentions, ask the right questions to your inner GPS, if this person is alligned to you, your gut will tell u in but a few seconds or a minute. Seize that guidance and follow through. You have to be ego-free, free of insecurity and fears whilst you do this. Sounds like the lesson is be in a state of calm, abundance and peace when deciding who to be with. Not from a place of FOMO, ignorance, ego and gain. Let your Yi lead your Xin.

[@sayyesbibi]

@@LoveLove-ev1cm true, I feel the same. I need to trust my inner guidance more because it never failed me. I have tried always to reason too much and put my intuition down. Thank you!

[@brysondill2639]

Thank you for all your content. I know I feel like I am on the opposite end of your items being a 27m, but I am trying to become aware of my trauma and attachment issues and your videos have helped me tremendously over the last couple weeks since my breakup, heartbreak is hard. I will be responsible for my happiness and love I will not let others be in charge of that energy anymore. I was not perfect or always the best to her at times, but I can now accept myself and will give my best effort every day to change. Thank you.

[@Itisrealtalk]

You are so right about people not being what they say they are... very sadly, i judged a book by its cover and later found out about a harsh reality of who they actually are... I anyway accepted them bcoz they gave me an STI ( not a severe one though) and lied about being virgin. Still they kept on lying and I kept on pursuing the relationship bcoz love made me think that they will change, alas, it never happened. Now, they left me bcoz they got angry about certain things I said and called me out for ruining their mental health. It's painful af to hear such allegations when you know that they are gaslighting the whole situation and trying to portray you as a bad person which I'm not. What's more shocking is the fact they just turned 21 and it's such a young age to be able to play such types of mind games and speaking lies to me by looking straight into my eyes. THE AUDACITY! As an explanation, more of like an excuse, they said they lied about being virgin bcoz they didn't want to lose me. I, anyway, still love him and want things to heal for both of us and i'm getting signs from the Universe to move on from them but kinda unable to do it, not that i'm not trying, but it's difficult bcoz at the age of 25, they were my first relationship ever and it's not easy to forget your first love.

[@irinasp3723]

What if I say that person never loved you

[@Itisrealtalk]

@@irinasp3723 it's super painful to watch this comment. I mean he's in his early twenties and still learning so he might have confused his feelings but i don't know why sometimes his "I love You" felt real. I cannot fully blame him bcoz i'm also an anxious attached individual and boy if you break trust of anxiously attached people they are gonna bombard you with lots of different questions each time you perform any sort of activity in your life. So, he felt controlled and kinda suffocated in this relationship.

[@irinasp3723]

@@Itisrealtalk yes sure it's painful.. do you mean the words felt real? Try to cut out the words completely then you see the reality from their actions

[@Itisrealtalk]

@@irinasp3723 Yeah the words and emotions behind them felt real to me. But, as far as actions are concerned then i can without a doubt say that his love wasn't visible in his actions. He himself has said couple of times that his love wasn't visible in actions :(

[@healingpowerofGod]

33 and experiencing the greatest heartbrealk in my life

[@lynnmayorga]

Thank you so much Margarita. I’m 20 years old going through a heartbreak of a 2 yr relationship, he cheated also. I’ve been a mess, so confused and triggered by how someone could lie and betray love that was promised. This video made my heart feel warm for the first time in a while. Your words truly speak out to me, giving me the confidence and knowledge that I can get through this experience.❤️ Love 💕

[@ronda9317]

I loss my marriage and my dreams of growing old together, did not realize he was not in love with me, 2 girls later and i have raised them grown and he has moved on, happy and married. Thanks for your help❤❤

[@hallelujah5506]

Amen!!! Girl, this made me feel the uncomfortable feeling of heartbreak again. It is a grief I am having trouble… with the pain of how a parent justifies her behavior and gaslighting… ❤❤ thank you for pushing me through that uncomfortable feeling. Being so genuine, real, and vulnerable!

[@Paulina-yv7go]

You are so articulate girl! ❤

[@TheSoberCapricorn]

Manifestation, reverse manifestation would be great topics for a video! Thank you so much for your content- absolutely look forward to hearing about your experiences and wisdom 🙏

[@anisasoltani2327]

Love love love your channel. Never stop making videos. You help me soooo much. Can you talk about someone in their mid to late 20s and the pressure of finding your person and the fear of NOT finding your person. It would mean the world to me!

[@deagabicodioguito]

This is probably your best video ❤ thank you

[@fembot521]

I had a beautiful 20 years relationship with a beautiful man who loved me unconditionally. He died of cardiac arrest due to a genetic condition we didn’t know about. Heartbreak can come at any time. I am still heart broken 2 years later trying to rebuild my life.

[@LoveLove-ev1cm]

You have something that most ppl hope and dream for. Those beautiful memories and experiences you must have of the good times 🙏🏾 ❤

[@chrystalnicole9461]

I'm 37 - I have been in many relationships, even engaged at one point - had taken a 3 year break after having been in an abusive situation and thought I finally found 'the one'. He clicked all the boxes but was also deeply enmeshed with his platonic co-parent and was still living together. I thought I could make it work and put myself through so much suffering while the guy had no communication skills and ended up ghosting me until finally I broke up with him. We had fallen deeply in love and he said all the right things to have me creating a future for us in my head. My heart was broken yet again, and this time it was a new kind of pain because I was ready to settle down. I had really thought this one was the right guy that I was so blind to him being unavailable. I have faced this lesson many times with different elements. My codependent tendencies also reared their ugly head. You are right in that these experiences in the end show us what we don't want. No matter how much love you feel for someone, you have to be able to let go and move on when spirit shows something is not aligned.

[@rlg222]

Not only beautiful but smart too good for you

[@loverainodie]

Thanks...sometimes when you chat I hear things friends have said over the years so it resonates as right for me today xxx

[@honeysuckle888]

could you please do a video on insecurity within a relationship, especially insecurities your partner inflicted upon you by constantly talking about his ex or lying and not having kept boundaries with past sneaky links? it would really help to get clarity of mind on the matter because im struggling so much, everytime i watch one of your videos i cry my eyes out and i would appreciate your perspective on it.

[@PlushPenguinPal]

Your videos are so soothing, relaxing, and comforting.

[@rory6759]

My fiancé and I separated after 18 years of being together. I’m absolutely devastated and have no clue where to start healing. I never cried so much. We are hoping for a possible future because of things she needs to work on with her ADHA, but it’s still so painful.

[@kianas1616]

When you said manifesting real love, you also have to bring in what it isn’t… that clicked? Something in me just inherently clicked. Ever since I was younger like literally around the age of 8 I wanted to fall in love and be in love like my life depended on it, and several relationships as I’ve grown up I’ve noticed that they just keep pushing me to love myself more and I’m treated in such a way that, as you said, shows me that human beings are not always who they say they are. I am going to be 25 this year, and although I am dealing with a heartbreak at this moment and mourning a person who really only existed in my mind… I’m not giving up on the possibility that I am now much closer to finding the person who will be it for me.

[@teresacarapeto7490]

Margarita. Wow! You are very special. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the world. This video is a true gift to so many. Tears rolling down my face right now. Sending you so much love and blessings. Hugs Teresa

[@shted224]

As a dude, I appreciate your wisdom in many facets of my life. Thank you

[@mariaelenabartesaghi6322]

How wonderful...another video from you.

[@amiecarter8642]

I’m going through heartbreak right now and the hardest part is that it is because of my own behaviour and anxious attachment style. I have tried to repair it but he doesn’t want to know. Truly heartbroken and lost in knowing I have only myself to blame 😢

[@Restless318]

THANK YOU FOR THIS

[@hypnosem1]

This is such an emotional, mature, strong and inspiring video. I found your channel yesterday - you got me with this one. I am amazed with your approach towards life, and can relate to it heavily. This video gives so much wisdom from the experiences u had, thank you so so much for sharing!

[@lamamma1307]

Thank you for your soulful messages. You’re amazing! Wishing you ☮️ ❤️ 😊

[@misst3116]

I wanna say that I appreciate you and thank you. I wish I would have watched these videos in my 20’s. Everything you said is correct and shifts your perspective of heartbreak. Thank you 🫶🏽

[@justinhannah1023]

As an Aries I am all about action, and my biggest pet peeve is people who are all talk and I'm never afraid to call them out on it and when I give the same advice to people who are heart broken over someone who said all of these things and did another, I tell them see you should pay more attention to their actions not what they are saying 🔥🔥🔥🚒 you're the best marg kitten 💜🔥

[@PabloReviews]

I've been watching English content since I was a child and I really love your channel. It is helping me a lot with the topics you are talking about, but also your vocabulary is amazing, it's super cool to learn new words in every video you upload! Thank you so much for both things. Well, for everything!

[@ivysweeney9413]

Thank you so much. I needed to hear this. I'm 21 & living with my longterm partner and I have made the decision to leave because I deserve better. Nothing is inherently wrong but we keep having the same arguments about domestic workloads and we have stopped having fun. We have the same dreams for the future but I know deep down that I need to move on and chase a love that makes me feel passionate about life again.

[@sarahdobsin6748]

God Bless you for being 21 and getting it! I’m 45 and struggling to let go of the attachment. ❤

[@justinjbolyard]

Could you talk about how to become secure as an insecure attachment style, or maybe anything you know about C-PTSD at all?

[@elliec1321]

Would love to hear a video on how to stop putting people on a pedestal and how to do that to yourself. How to change your negative thoughts about yourself into positive maybe? I did this with my ex and I’m struggling, he broke up with me still loves me but is cold yet I still keep him on the pedestal. Sad to say maybe butI still would like him to come back to me. Thank you for your content it’s so helpful❤❤❤ xxxxxx

[@user-ux6wm3jo9b]

So true. Reminds me of Abraham Hicks. If you know what you don't want, then you can figure out what you do want.

[@btwthblood]

My husband of 36 years passed away unexpectedly in April. My heart is shattered. I'm learning from you so I can date and find another partner. Thank you

[@lisananny8212]

Significantly older than in my 20’s; just journaled about heartbreak today, writing there must still be more for me to learn. Four years later and feelings are still so raw. Am I resisting or does it realistically take this long?😢