Fighting Fair: Learning how to Communicate in A Relationship

[@BibleMunch]

When my wife and I were first married, we made the rule to never scream at each other. We also gave each other the freedom to call the other out if our voices get loud. In 13 years of marriage, we've definitely had our share of disagreements, but because of our commitment to the Lord, and each other, we've been able to talk through our differences respectfully. I'm so glad we agreed on how we would "fight" before we ever had any major "fights." God is so good!

[@babsaugs]

Absolutely LOVE your channel. Jesus loves you ❤

[@Candace-M-]

I love when I do the right thing and take an issue to God first, and watch him answer my prayers... my husband does or says something exactly the way I prayed for it ☺ Our Father is so cool! He cares FOR us!

[@jasminemorales5964]

Every time my prayers are answered I’m in pure amazement! I know GODS power and he’s full of care, but every single time it just amazes me!

[@DrTay-zn5re]

I'm in a courtship and sometimes I get so angry for the smallest of things , in the midst of it I know that the argument is more spiritual. we have to learn to fight the true enemy and not each other. I genuinely want to have a gentle and quiet spirit, my future husband deserves it. He's so awesome.

[@RoyalTeaNation]

I definitely agree! I've learned to pray in my courtship.

[@lauragooding6555]

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[@francescaselvaggio1337]

Fight the true enemy and not each other! Preach that

[@missmlb3842]

Laura Gooding 999uu99999999uu999999

[@tshegofatsomolobi4517]

Im single and waiting Heather. But these videos are helping me deal with me before God brings him. Thank you. And i thank God for you

[@SuperAmber1994]

I'm dating my boyfriend of 1 1/2 years and I came across this video! You have saved my relationship. Thank you! 💖💖💖💖💖

[@No1superjuicey]

a kind word turns away wrath

[@Heaven7671]

I think this is really helpful for every kind of relationship, family or otherwise

[@fdoctor79]

Agreed!

[@shatariholmes6063]

Yeah that's true

[@MsJaystar27]

Thank you Jesus for this woman! This was such a truthful message, wow.

[@moonbrat3482]

The Lord officially spoke to me today, Thank you so much.

[@gyongyitoth6528]

To me as well. It is so great!

[@moonbrat3482]

+Gyöngyi Tóth... First i read this in the bible saying the exact same scripture, After i asked the Lord the speak to my heart. .it's good to know and be reminded how loved you are by our Lord and Savior.

[@RoyalTeaNation]

I know I passed my test in my courtship this morning and this video was confirmation! Ive been reading dusty crowns and I love how you used the scripture "a house divided against itself cannot stand." That allowed me to see things totally different... And the Holy Spirit is the BEST Teacher!

[@NaturallyPaige876]

I'm in a courtship and I have been learning to go to God first and leave it there. and you're right. The times I have done that the issue resolved itself and his behaviour changed. Thank you for the reality check and reminder that we aren't fighting each other. we should be fighting together for each other. :)

[@user-kz6hg4zs9k]

Not in a courtship or a marriage but I believe this is a word I needed to hear. Thank you for your timely messages.

[@nontobekomncwabe4976]

I needed this. Single and waiting on the Lord❤️❤️❤️

[@AllAboutAliciaa]

Ugh this was something that I needed to hear. I'm not married but I do have a little brother and we fight constantly. I'm not going to lie sometimes I start it but whenever I try to apply God's word in my life I feel like that's when the enemy attacks. I'm still learning and growing. I don't want to take what I do with my brother into the marriage God will bless me with one day.

[@briannaje5419]

I needed this word.. I am currently dealing with a situation in my relationship where I felt mistreated. I wanted to pop off soooo bad but my spirit man wouldn't let me because recently I've nagged and I didn't want to be a burden to my relationship when I know it is ordained. This word brought peace to me. I don't feel that I was wrong in the situation but I asked for God to show me where I am falling short and it was in the way I wanted to respond. Thank you for your obedience to your ministry Heather.

[@MsKris988]

Wow!!!! So much confirmation. A wonderful man of God and I started getting to know one another over the past few weeks. Something small bothered me and I wanted him to understand where I was coming from, but I didn't badger him about it. I briefly brought it up and then moved on, that very morning he went to church and the Holy Spirit convicted him of his small error. I was astounded at how quickly I saw the Holy Spirit move in his heart once I prayed over it and let it go. Let's truly grow in maturity & watch what the Lord has brought together flourish. Let's move mountains in the Kingdom.....Together!!!! Love you all. Thank you So much Heather for your example and constant obedience. 💕

[@alexisharris758]

Wow God is amazing! The Holy Spirit is truly convicting me.

[@Bdot95]

A friend sent this to me and now I'm mad at her and Heather because now I'm held accountable. Yes Lord 😩🙌🏾

[@biggizmo9843]

Doing my best to fight fair.

[@MsVirginiakid]

This video was so amazing! I'm no longer in a relationship because it became very toxic, but I won't place all the blame on him. I was apart of the problem as well. But since being single I just want to learn to be the best version of myself, not only for me but my future husband and children. Communication is one of my biggest problems but this video really changed my way of thinking and I'm going to actively start working on this!!!! Thank you for this ❤️

[@breshaylabrooks3177]

This is great. The key to a great succeeding relationship is GOD!!! Thanks Heather.

[@MiguelAngel-pv6yc]

Wise woman!! God bless you and your husband!!

[@lovejesus12012]

yes I choose to take it to the Lord first. I choose peace in my marriage and household. Jesus has given me peace and I won't let the devil steal it. God bless you sis Heather

[@Nainarnena]

I really needed to hear this message. Thank you for allowing God to use you in order to speak to me and others.

[@fdoctor79]

Yes, God's peace (shalom) is everything!!!!

[@jlove6771]

Thank you for posting this. Felt like this was speaking to me and needed to hear this. Soon as I saw this video I prayed for my boyfriend and I. Feel like God brought us together no need to tear something down that I once prayed for. As women we must keep our men covered in prayer. Learn so much from you on how to say a modern lady yet respect your man in a relationship.Thank you!!

[@gcode305]

I love this and needed to hear this. Thank you

[@mslashaundap]

Heather, you are a God-send and I am always grateful for your obedience unto God. This message was so on point! I literally put this video on pause at 7:11 and called my husband to communicate some things to him in the way you suggested. The response I got was classic! Continue to walk this journey the way God has called you to-it looks amazing on you and very life changing for that are watching! Thank you so much.

[@swpministry]

This was a GREAT video!! This was definitely something even singles can and should begin to implement into our everyday life now with our family, friends, co-workers, etc. and if the Lord has marriage for us, fighting fair and proper communication won't be a foreign concept! :)

[@lildebWorld]

lol. so true. you must study your partner in order to communicate effectively. It causes more understanding and peace. sometimes it's as simple as your tone...

[@nyahsimonespa]

This is something I need to work on. Thank you!

[@trafficiskey]

Hello! Heather Lindsey, I am glade that I ran across your video and you give some awesome tips even though I am not married yet, but I can use it in every day life as well. Thank you for the tips!!

[@ramsayfamily9950]

This blessed me and bettered my relationship.

[@Kayzel]

Wow, not even 5 minutes in and I’m convicted. Thank you heather for an amazing message. So timely!

[@rachellep537]

TRUTH. Greatest challenge as well as reward is taking everything about your spouse to the Lord! Not sister, best friend, momma, NOT even Him/Her... God will work it out every time! wait and watch.

[@bebetterhalves]

Great video, Heather! Regardless of beliefs, entering into conflicts with kindness and intention, keeping in mind what REALLY matters is the only way to go!

[@Orirojer]

This is simply awesome! Thank you Heather! I pray that the Lord will continue to bless your ministry. You're truly a blessing!

[@diamonte18]

"it ain't about you no more." Love it 😀

[@LexLove_7]

Truly needed to hear this right now. Thank you for being obedient and sharing what God has put on your heart. 💕

[@nunga_reejackie1460]

I AM A FOLLOWER..AND THIS IS MY FAVORITE ONE...JUST WHAT I NEEDED..LIKE I NEED TO GET ON MY FACE AND ASK FOR FORGIVENESS..THANK YOU HEATHER..GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!

[@feliciasjourney]

Thank you Heather. I enjoy both you and your husbands videos. They are very enlightening.

[@TheGracefulGlowup]

I struggle with this so much. Thanks for this video Heather.

[@jeniecer]

Yes, Yes, Yes! Praise God!

[@Naturebae84]

Love this woman.

[@newmank0217]

Welp...this convicted me real good! Thank you!

[@anhonorableindependent9124]

Wow, my God My God. This is some good word. A friend sent this to me and I am so grateful. This is me 200%. Wow.

[@shellyraebeauty7170]

Hey there Heather! I just wanted to Thank you for this video. I needed to hear this. My problem is anger in general. I want to say that my husband is such an Amazing man, and a GOD fearing one at that. He puts up with me, not really nagging and complaining about him, but about almost everything else life throws at me. He is a truck driver and is gone through the week and is only home a couple days a week. I love him with all my heart, but I'm not happy with myself. I love the LORD with all my heart, and pray to HIM about this anger problem I've had for far to long, but it seems as if I can't stop getting angry and depressed. Obviously there's more to the situation, and GOD knows all about it. My husband and I love each other very much, but I know he can't be happy hearing me fuss all the time every time he calls to see how me and our daughter is there's always some kind of problem. I just feel so bad about it and I really have been trying to watch my mouth lately, but it always seems to creep back up on me. Please, if you see this comment, please keep us in your prayers. My husband is such a gentle soul and so loving and caring. He doesn't deserve to have to deal with my mess. GOD Bless ❤🙏❤

[@Carolyn2010able]

I was truly blessed by this! I am single and just hearing this the Holy Spirit was like, you asked my why you wasn't ready, well here is one. And I do have a problem with this. Thanks for this video.

[@tweetybirdgirl07]

Thank you this also helps single girl like me for my future relationships

[@the_mas_life8658]

Im so excited about the pinky promise conference 2016!!!

[@tonyaking8577]

This is so needed at this time in my life. Thank you for being so obedient. I love watching your videos. They are so encouraging!

[@EarthAngel272]

Hello Heather . Thank you so so much for this. I was praying and crying out to God for clarity about some stuff in my marriage and this really helps. I love God and I want to do what is right in every way to please him, but it was a battle for me to submit to my husband because he is not save. and I constantly have to fight the feeling of bitterness and remorse because of past hurt, not wanting to let it go. as if it just happen yesterday. But like the bible saids do every thing as unto God. Thanks again

[@shantev.3581]

This might sound so cliche...but,this message is right on time for me😔

[@catiesteas]

Thank you for this. This message is so encouraging and absolutely eye-opening.

[@blackbooty06]

Thank you so much!!! It was really what I needed to hear.

[@juanaboyer8823]

OMG I NEEDED THIS THANK YOU SOOO MUCH GOD BLESS YOU & YOUR FAMILY...😄😊😀

[@lorraineappiahdanqua]

This really blessed me and a word right on time...thanks heather🙌🏿

[@alexisp6194]

I really needed this. thank you Heather.

[@gratitude5740]

Glad I found your video ...... Thank you !

[@tiffanyjeanna]

thank god for this message!

[@robinsymonebender1549]

Thanks so much I needed this (this morning ) !!!

[@drolllindsay]

4:45! Yes!

[@stacram87]

Thank you so much

[@ApointedNAnointed]

Thank you for your obedience Heather Lindsey. I would love to meet you and sit and talk with you

[@nitseybellefleur8293]

I love your show it's awesome!! We woman are so quick to speak and hard to listen !

[@nitseybellefleur8293]

This vid shows how to fight the good fight instead of fighting against your spouse or your husdband!!!!

[@bigdill9377]

thanks Heather. love you girl.

[@lynnettaarchie2059]

Thanks, I enjoyed the message!

[@mianasheya]

Wooow🔥🔥🔥 Thank you so much.

[@Iamsherie_]

Amen

[@414MrMilwaukee]

Thanks for posting this.

[@thebeautybenz]

I absolutely love this video!

[@roseyeremchuk7641]

Heather I love all the pillows behind you

[@thewakefieldcrew]

Loved this message

[@giftyewere]

thanks heather😥

[@jordandorazio8193]

I love this thank you so much

[@HannahEstherRuth]

Sis, I need this!

[@aprilsmith616]

Wow needed to see this

[@fionassibanda1760]

hi Ms Heather I was kindly asking if you could also add the verses you mention in the description box below in your videos please much love Fiona

[@lanniep8230]

I was about to buy the same shirt at H&M!

[@AndreeaMaierXoXo]

You are so beautiful! Inside and out!

[@legnaocie75]

This is easier when you're in love with God as you are. When this happens , God's love overflows and it's easy to be like Him toward others.

[@1LocWonder]

Loved this!!!!

[@davannisj.donaldson5539]

Thank you!! Love this!

[@shanafife3228]

Thank you

[@kiaramarshall08]

Thank you I needed this

[@tinawill1095]

Love this

[@trafficiskey]

Our nephew married a young lady named: Heather as well.

[@caitlinmier2849]

Heather what camera do you use?

[@tawannahope8277]

This Is Great ❕❕💛💙💚💚💙 Helpful.

[@1LocWonder]

“The beautiful thing about marriage is death, you GET to die to yourself”😍😍😍

[@kaneshamoss765]

❤❤❤❤

[@trippynicole5757]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@TheOriginalLifestyle]

I think you are so funny, cute and real. God bless you sis. Revelation 14:6-9 :) :)

[@amberphillips3073]

Omg i love you!

[@gizellegayle2547]

😊💜

[@zenayesanchez1842]

I am the opposite, I am passive because of fear.

[@RoyalTeaNation]

Take your fear and give it to the Lord. He has not given us the spirit of fear, but if Love, peace , and a sound mind❤️

[@markusemmons6457]

In my life and in my home I don't have problems like that. Everything I do in my home I am absolutely correct and never wrong. I wake up everyday energized and ready to go...Ready to take on my the day. I have maids that keep my place spotless, and they leave by the time I get home. My meals are cooked for me during the day, and the smell from my cock pot when I arrive home is to die for. I live below my means, contribute into my retirement account, and always plan for my future. I have as much time as I need to read, spend time alone, or work on my business. I come and go as I please, take great care of my body, and enjoy my hobbies whenever and with whomever as I please. I get to date a different variety of women (not have sex..But date). If I want something...I buy it...Without asking permission. If I want to go out...I do..Without asking permission. In my house there is no fighting, arguments drama, mind games, or trust issues. Most importantly everything I own is mine..All mine. I never have to wake up and wonder if my partner is happy. It's called living on your own, and being an adult. Yes people can live on their own without marriage. Try it.

[@leah8112]

I wish my partner could be more self aware n not just apologise n do the same shit over and over.

[@crownedmelaninqueen]

Leah star I would just pray for God to show him the error of his ways ! God has sent a woman to minister to me and God showed me my fault in my marriage ; instead of just back biting and talking bad about my husband.

[@djpickleballplayer]

Good advice!! And yes I’m a man, lol

[@yashivuvbolshomdomenakholm8274]

I usually love your videos, but this one has me wondering what if it's the husband who is always nagging and being critical. Because more often than not I've been in relationships with men like this. Please know that it can go both ways. Being with a man who would shout at you, talk you down in public or put hands on you is just as bad. Maybe you could do a video on narcissists and abusers. Because they run rampid in church... And its true women do this, but men do it just as much (if not *more*).