How To Reignite A Man's Attraction (Even If He's Pulled Away!)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

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[@arlenagreene1048]

What if he thinks am over reacting when we go out and he's staring at other woman long enough for eye contact .and feels I shouldn't say anything because he says that's the way he is and he wants someone to understand him .

[@cheririch4816]

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[@thatjamericankidd6637]

I ended up telling him I didn’t like not hearing from everyday (we’re an 1hr half away distance) so I broke it off due to him pulling away...I miss him

[@AmandaClaytonCCA]

I just realized he’s not the only man in the world. I’m a great catch ✨ I will be ok!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, absolutely!

[@Lovin..kindness]

Amanda, I feel the same !!! 🦋

[@reneemorris7197]

I agree, the best thing I can be is authentic. If the person is not ready or not that into me, it's OK. I will survive. And wish him the best of everything in life. There are many facets of Love, one is to let go and let live.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I love what you said here Renee, thanks for sharing!

[@Femininelovevibes]

He went distance this weekend. Usually when it involves his kids and all that drama. I spent my weekend cleaning my house ( looks amazing) and even though I cried once. I immediately decided to have a busy weekend to help me go through things .

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I'm glad you're keeping your focus on yourself, that will help a lot!

[@saradyer9124]

I like learning that - men need time to process deep emotions. I met a man recently who was super keen. We're mature in our sixties. After our second meeting, he flipped a bit. I heard through the grapevine that he was 'blown away' by both my stunning looks (obviously that's subjective not a statement of myself) and who I am and what I've done in life. He described me as being 'on par', which was how I described him to my friends. He hasn't disappeared, but he said he was 'keen' to do lunch, but then hasn't acted upon my invitation. I like him a lot, so am trying to sit on my hands so to speak. I never learned how to navigate relationships, so am extremely grateful for the wisdom you and your guests are generously imparting. Thanks and love Sara 🌹

[@rosecoleman9090]

I will always love ❤️ myself before a man!!!!

[@terrydillon1427]

I love how you look in this video, Helena. Your sweater set, the coloring and soft lamp-lighting, are perfect. You glow! It is so fun to listen to you talk about femininity and peaceful contentment, with your beautiful friend. Thank you for this calming reassurance to put our energy where it belongs, on our own life, our particular interests, without another care in the world.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Terry! I’m glad you enjoyed it! ❤️

[@glazedconfused]

The person chasing their dog down the beach is a GENIUS analogy!! So true 👏🏼

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞 Here’s a link to my latest video with Adrienne if anyone would like to check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bKnQpJqFmNCiepY

[@nathalie5238]

Thanks to your video’s Helena and Adrienne I learned about vulnerability! I also thought vulnerability was weak and so scary! Vulnerability in fact is just showing your emotions, positive and negative, meaning telling the guy whatever we feel. For me I realized that I disconnected with my own feelings, so was not able to connect with men! Now I start to reconnect with my feelings... next step being able to express them and voice them! I am already able to cry when on my own, next step not locking those emotions in front of people As you say, your vulnerability will connect with the right man ❤️ If he then accuses you to be drama, he is not yours. So still little agenda 🙈 hope I will be able to reconnect with the man I am dating and is pulling away right now 🥰 If not, I will be happy that Thanks to my short connection with him, I started to reconnect with myself, the love story of my life ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I love what you said here, Nathalie! This video should be helpful if you haven't seen it yet: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZ6WXpSlgL2dq80

[@mslissa5793]

It's so funny. In other relationships I had always wanted space for myself and now I have found someone who feels the same. No control just appreciation. We should all value time to ourselves really

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience and insights here, Ms Lissa! 💕

[@kimgordon3695]

We went thru a disconnect & I redirected my energy towards Our Nest. I took baby steps daily to be the Feminine complement. While Planting seeds along the Way & still honoring My goals. Igniting the Early passion & being Open to Him returning to our #LifeWork 💝

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Kim!

[@nicolehowse1221]

The 2 of you should write a book together..would be an instant bestseller!

[@AdrienneEverheart]

That’s so sweet Thank you for the kind words!

[@dellchica2373]

Open your heart and be vulnerable. Vulnerability is the honest part of who you are. How do you feel?? Connect to him deeply.

[@nicolehowse1221]

2 very intelligent...positive and uplifting ladies...great video...excellent advice...that is exactly what I try to do...step back...relax and just do my own thing...concentrate on my interests!! I am always honest and authentic..but sometimes scared to be completely vulnerable..for fear of the man thinking I am complaining! Bravo ladies...thanks for this video!! : ) Subscribed to Adrienne's channel now as well!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much! 💕

[@saradyer9124]

I enjoyed learning about my masculine energy. That's precisely what I do. Oh thank you for your pearls of wisdom.

[@soundofroz6835]

And if he doesn;t, what do you want with that guy, right? Best rhetorical question eva

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes!! 💕

[@cynthianegz4053]

I was seeing a guy long distance who runs 2 businesses, however, I felt like I was always the one reaching out...and then became anxious about that...despite that he was talking about the next time we were going to see each other. We were supposed to talk this morning, I sent him a text with no response, so I shut it down in a kind and respectful way. Looking back, that may have been wrong, but sometimes the distance is that he's not into you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here Cynthia, I know many women can relate.

[@dainetteirizarry39]

Hi! i’m married for 4yrs now and things have been soooo tough lately this video is helping me to realize a better me will help attract better people if my husband decides to leave its wont be okay for a while but i will be okay

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so glad this was helpful for you, Dainette! ❤️

[@alysons1142]

I found out he was talking to 5 different women then found out he was still engaged to his ex so much for giving him space

[@ericabassi7728]

Yes there does seem to be an epidemic of horrible men out there. But they're not all like him. Take heart, don't give up on love. Go and listen to the song "I believe in a thing called love' . That will cheer you up.

[@Greg_Chase]

**Remember though** A lot of guys aren't emotional and cutting off contact with his current fling is not a big deal. Another thing, if you're limiting your selection to a guy with a lot of the right things in place, he has other 'options'. Worst thing you can do with that kind of guy is expecting commitment long-term. Most men want variety during late teens through 20s. Libido starts dropping in the 30s so the roaming aspect usually drops. . . .

[@vhayashi7369]

I think we have to be careful about saying we feel lonely or scared or jealous Because that can come across as neediness and that turns them off.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

In my experience, it's all about where you're coming from when you express yourself. It's also a good idea to make sure you're expressing positive emotions too so it's not always negative.

[@awoman6204]

2 beautiful ladies inside and out!! Such good info here!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much!

[@ForeclosureOutreach]

I wish I had this program earlier as well! thank you so much for these videos!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Tracy, I’m glad they’ve been helpful! 💕

[@angelapotts2749]

Super helpful! Thank you!❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜 These videos I recorded with Adrienne might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jHbOq2CFiLt3mNE, kzbin.info/www/bejne/b3zbgmSQZZySjs0 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/fqnLmq2hp7mkmLc.

[@DeliciaTrini]

I absolutely loved this video! Thanks Ladies!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad you enjoyed it! ❤️

[@djw3707]

Thank you. You two are such a breath of fresh air!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@minidocstv3339]

They really are, and actually helping lift my energy 💕😄

[@p9nstyle]

appreciative of this objective advice....thank you for this

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@tanziha]

Hey Helena, The first part of the video you two explains how it's necessary to give the men space. Let him come back and pursue you. For the reattraction part : how do I let him have space and still communicate my vulnerability? How can we reattract when he's distant(no communication) as we'd need to be able to talk for us to communicate our vulnerability? Seems a bit comnfusing. Is this something we do ONCE(if) he comes back? Explain to him how we have been feeling while he was being distant? Wouldn't that make us seem needy?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This video should help clarify this for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jHbOq2CFiLt3mNE

[@eufrxcinebuilds9872]

What if you work on the same office with him? I’ve tried to ovoid the cafeteria, the coffee and water break room, and I even take a new route to the restroom so I don’t accidentally run into him.

[@DoeintheThicket]

How do you share vulnerability about a man’s behavior if his energy isn’t coming toward you? Wouldn’t that be pushing him more away?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

It depends on the situation, but yes oftentimes it would. I'd take your focus OFF of him until his energy is coming back towards you again. This video might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p4WnpXmXmctkapI

[@DoeintheThicket]

Helena Hart You’re so sweet. Thank you. I hope your community continues to grow and grow. You help so many people.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You're welcome!

[@shubhanjalipathak551]

Great video. Helena looks so pretty. Lipstick colour suits on Adrienne a lot :)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you!

[@heatherhall1727]

Helena and Adrienne : I truly learn so much from both of you! Thank you for sharing these insights! How do we strike a balance between being vulnerable / authentic and respecting a breakup decision during a breakup? When you talk to him during the breakup, should you be very composed and tell him you feel sad but respect his/ your decision (mutual breakup decision) and wish him the best? Or say all of that and actually allow your tears to slip out? It's hard to hold it all together during a breakup.

[@heatherhall1727]

**I'm trying to combine the advice in this video about being vulnerable and Adrienne's advice in another video about what to say during breakup : "I respect your decision and trust you know what's best for you."

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Heather! In my opinion you can be BOTH at the same time (authentic/vulnerable and respectful of his decision). ❤️

[@johnlothrop5568]

Thanks for the perspective. I pulled away. There is a high mutual attraction. She told me before she went out of town that she is self centered, doesn't like to hang out and likes to stay home alone. I didn't say anything. I just kept silent and used this period to completely remove myself from her life. Been over two weeks. Gave her what she wanted. Be careful what you sayladies..this is no game we both lost..

[@dellchica2373]

Awwwww.....maybe she was testing you to know how you felt .....no one wants to own up to their feelings....

[@johnlothrop5568]

Somebody else has her feelings now. Oh well.

[@dellchica2373]

@@johnlothrop5568 well thats too sad and i say this because maybe she thought you were not sufficiently interested. I say this because it has happened to me when i think the man is not as interested in me.

[@johnlothrop5568]

@@dellchica2373 No she knew I liked her. She actually pursued and approached me. She wanted to get together. We both are busy I gave her my number twice and told her to when she is free let me know. ...never did. Slowly over time I slipped away. There are plenty of women who are more than happy to take me off her hands.

[@dellchica2373]

@@johnlothrop5568 wow oh ok

[@eveallusion]

In my case I met a guy. We were talking (hadn’t even gone on a 1st date) and suddenly he pulled away. He ended up telling me he met someone else...

[@dellchica2373]

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[@eveallusion]

Dell Chica exactly! 😂

[@gatinati9518]

Have I ruined something good by already reacting vs responding? Is there any saving grace in using this videos advice... now?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Adrianna, it really depends on the situation, but I’ve found that most relationships can be turned around if he’s truly the right man for you.

[@pinkpops8575]

Never too late, things turn around. They can. And hope they will for you if he's right for you.

[@sacredrebel4119]

How can you be vulnerable if he has pulled away that there is no longer any communication? We had broken up and then gotten back into contact frequently then he pulled away and I did all the things you shouldn't. How do I get back on track?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This video should be helpful for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2LRg4eujdxshsk

[@ashelywhite6106]

What if the man says you don’t have to always talk about your feelings?

[@patriciabrown8660]

So what if I have already pursued him by over texting and over calling. Is there still hope to correct this.???

[@MatessaNicole]

Yes

[@pinkpops8575]

Yes.

[@melodymiller5365]

Just sit back let him miss you make 1st attempt to reach you Don't chase he dog your the cat Let him chase you...

[@pureeraco.9177]

This is soooo helpful, thank you so much!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! This video should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jHbOq2CFiLt3mNE

[@reneedodson9878]

What happens if we had a fight? I have given him space 2 days so far. I was upset with him because he was told by the police to not drive his car as it was out of registration and his license had expired but he decided to still drive. I told him i was very unhappy with his actions and since then we haven't spoken!. He does have ptsd atm which is why I'm not sure what to do?. Thank you ladies. Love your work so much. Xo

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Renee, if he has PTSD this video might help give you some insight: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mGjIpHtrgdd-kKM

[@christinemullaly2581]

Helena, my boyfriend and I live together and I have been such a pushover and unable to stand up for my boundaries due to my anxiety. Can i turn this around 10 months in and living together? Ive done so much for him as far as driving him around, making the house a home and taking care of his daughter. I feel taken sooo for granted. Any advice?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Christine, these videos should be helpful for you situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/j5XZo3SHhL9obMk, kzbin.info/www/bejne/nZi3i3SAj9NkhKs and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qaCzg3ifr91moM0.

[@Occupied_South]

God help me, I am so guilty of some of this.....thank you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome!

[@ginger96963]

Amazing

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Amanda! 💕

[@yoga_gayatrii]

Does this apply too when we are in 2 different countries? Like long distance relationship?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, this could apply to a long distance relationship.

[@sacredrebel4119]

what if you did everything you shouldn't when he pulled away, how do you turn it around?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This video should be helpful for that situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2LRg4eujdxshsk

[@brit6669]

How do you balance intensities or passions with the receptive and passive side of your nature? I seem to concoct awkward situations rather than connection.

[@noemijoan6119]

Helena your‘re so wonderful!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Noemi! ❤️

[@roxiroxi7960]

What If he pulls away because other women caught his attention and he wants to try with someone else, but still he's unsure about You? I have to mention that he is very socially active, knows and charms a lot of women. Is he a real player?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I don't know the details of your situation, but I would never want to try to "hold on" to a man who wanted to be with someone else. You deserve a man who wants to be with YOU and only you!

[@roxiroxi7960]

Helena Hart thank You for your answer. This is what i was thinking too, but i just wanted to know what is in the mind of this kind of men, why do they like to create confusion. Maybe they are narcissists who like the game too much.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

It could really be anything, but the important part is staying strong in your boundaries and what YOU want for yourself.

[@PrinceRockyCat]

So what' if its the beginning of the relationship? Like 2 weeks In?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

If it's only been two weeks and the man is pulling away, that's a sign that he's not that interested or not going to be "in it" for the long haul. If he truly is just busy these tools can work to draw him back towards you, although I would take your focus off of him for now and make yourself available to men who ARE pursuing you.

[@PrinceRockyCat]

@@HelenaHartCoaching u know he rushed it and asked me to get off of dating apps.. he did also.so sad.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This is very common unfortunately - that's why I always say you can't really tell what a guy is going to do until after about three months in, and it's best to take it slow at first until he shows you with his consistent ACTIONS over time that he's serious and wants to move things forward.

[@simrankaur2112]

what to to when he is complaining that u r not intrested

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You want to make sure that you're warm, open and receptive when he makes any move to pursue you. Other than that, if you are interested you can always ask him what it is he needs or would like and see what he says.

[@janinecousins6299]

He is 31!

[@preetird8385]

It's really beautiful to watch your videos Helena. And I actually feel very relaxed and grounded when I watch these. So my question is will he really come back if he's completely pulled away like more than a month now. I had always practiced leaning back and he pulled away like a couple of times and again came back, but this time I am not sure. As he was not ready for a relationship I asked him to walk away and think for himself what he wants. He said he will talk about that later but then never showed up. Even if once he noticed me having fun on social media he never made a move towards me, that kinda hurt me a little. But I'm keeping calm with myself by watching your videos, even if I got anxious sometimes. So what is your advice for me?? Anything would be really helpful.. Thank you so much🙂

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! The best way to get his energy coming back towards you if he’s the right man for you - or create the space for an even better man to show up who’s not going to keep pulling away - is to open up your energy to other men who ARE available and ready for the kind of relationship you want. Men do often come back around, but typically only after you TRULY move on and create the space for him to go through whatever he needs to go through on his own right now. This video should be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2LRg4eujdxshsk

[@preetird8385]

Helena Hart Thanks Alot Helena 😊 And I'm really happy to get that advice from you 😍. And trust me it's always lovely to listen to you teach us things and listen to your voice alone. Keep doing these amazing stuff 👏 love from me 💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️

[@juliegilmore3923]

I was in a year relationship where he has pulled away before, where I gave him space and then everything went well. He then starting questioning us, and that he doesn't have enough time for a relationship. He said many times how he loves me, but his actions are saying something completely different. Even though he is very busy with 3 kids and his job, he took up running where now he will go out of town for races. He is NOT cheating, but has now put this ahead of me in relation to importance (over me). I ended the relationship 2 weeks ago. He has not contacted me. I am devastated and heartbroken, but felt I did the right thing. Any advice?? Thank you, I joined so I can follow you and listen to your great advice.

[@Krystal_Clear]

Hi Julie. Curious how did things end up since this last post?

[@andrealewis3757]

He was interested in someone else

[@janinenieves6069]

Helena do u travel and do seminars state to state i live here on long Island new york and i would be interested just to have more information .

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Janine! I don't at the moment but that's something I'll keep in mind. The best way to stay up to date on what I have going on (including future events) is to sign up for my newsletter here: helenahartcoaching.com/

[@aldinaatic9360]

nice video 💜💖💚

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💖

[@mandihall1986]

Top about this topic in space and not chase. But with like me meatier and divorced 20yrs. We divorced last year and we have been seeing ea other since June. How do I give him the space he needs, to see if he trusts us, I don’t want to be needy pls help.

[@heidiellis9207]

love you two! you are speaking my language. Question: I want to get more soft yet assertive enough to speak my terms and conditions without feeling demanding. I am dating a few different men now with no real front runner. My pattern is a date or two then the disappear or stay infrequent friends,,, they May reapper but I think I'm trying to be one of the guys because I kind of am.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Heidi! This video with Adrienne and I might be helpful in terms of softening into your feminine energy to help men see you in a romantic way, not just as a friend (we'd love to hear your thoughts on it!): kzbin.info/www/bejne/g6q0o2qaZ7OGmaM

[@hunny585]

wat u said at 10.38 is spot on!!!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks Hina! 💕

[@toldaker2147]

Does this ring true after a first date when he asked you for a second date? And you notice he hasn’t responded to your text but he’s on the dating site off and on?

[@aliciafourdyce5001]

What about 4 years and then says needs some time but he also has adhd and anxiety been gone for 5 days said he was bringing the key on sat but didnt till wed but called me 3 times on weds asking about whats wring with my dryer also said he was taken a nao and that hes goin to come bye later to see about the dryer

[@KiKi-te9yd]

Damn. Been there, failed that test 😒

[@izabelakonwinskaterapiareg1410]

In the initial stage of potential mutual interest arising I got triggered by my unresolved issues (attachment trauma) and pushed him away by acting out my frustration, being impatient and needy, basically letting him know (even if just by the tone of my voice) that he is useless and not stepping up to my expectations! :( Although I apologised (explaining that I was going through a tough time, not being myself and lied that it had nothing to do with him) and started to lean back, two months have now passed and the guy (with whom I work) has remained totally shut down. Sometimes I feel a slight change for the better but then he takes a step back again. Is there any way of turning around such a situation? Making him feel safe again and coming towards me? I am trying to lean back, give him space, focus on myself and body sensations etc but basically my question is: do you think that sometimes this kind of shut-down is just simply irreversible no matter what the woman does?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

It really depends on the situation, but this video should be helpful for you: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o2LRg4eujdxshsk

[@susanabaci2800]

But what if he does this every month???

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

If he pulls away every month, that would be a huge red flag to me.

[@simrankaur2112]

realy useful 😍helena u r so beautiful

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Aww thank you!! 💖