helmet-haired oaf goes to elegance school

[@TaraMooknee]

Hey folks! Just want to add: (this only applies to a tiny minority of you) any comments making fun of her appearance or anything personal will be deleted. I have no issues with Anna as a person and if being elegant makes her happy then that's great! This is a friendly roast (mostly aimed at myself tbh) and she is more than welcome to roast my oafishness in return 🤪 PS. Just because I'm roasting someone doesn't mean I dislike them, think they're problematic or am trying to "call them out". Honestly, I just thought some of the stuff she said was funny and thought I could make some good jokes about it - so I made a video. It's not that deep.

[@hueypautonoman]

Are you also giving her permission to roast the cow?

[@TaraMooknee]

NEVER

[@mowganashwey]

❤️

[@do.re.mi.2713]

tara i think you need to pin this, it is way down in the comments

[@MagisterialVoyager]

“It’s not that deep.” Say it louder for people in the back, Tara. 🤣

[@hedipan]

Fun fact about screaming: I live in Uppsala in Sweden, in a neighbourhood that consists mostly of uni-students. Here, it is socially accepted to go out on your balcony and scream on the top of your lungs every evening at 10pm. It’s called ”Flogsta vrålet” and is more popular during exam season 😌

[@workinonchangin]

Oh my god I looked it up and it is real

[@igasudrom8642]

My uni has an organized event just for this. Every exam season, people can gather on the grass at a certain time and date and all scream together. oh and there's a separate event during the same season where people run around in their underwear and scream

[@LookAroundMore]

Mentally, I live in Uppsala! 😂

[@LookAroundMore]

@@igasudrom8642 What Uni is that?!

[@thurman-merman]

I LOVE THIS

[@hannahco8513]

When she whipped out the toilet paper I was totally expecting her to say “elegant ladies only use a bidet”

[@koirasikin]

Same 💀💀

[@devinv4935]

Ok yes I was waiting for her to say something like "EleGAnT LadIeS dOn'T S H I T, I've never even USED toiled paper." However, since you mentioned bidets, I feel it is my responsibility to add that YOU SHOUKD TOTALLY USE A BIDET IF YOU CAN THEY'RE VERY SANITARY AND EXCELLENT 👍🏻👍🏻 There are bidet attachments for regular toilets and you can of course just do a "manual" bidet as it were (every middle eastern household I've ever been to has this toilet watering can thing so you can clean up) then just wash your hands real good as you should be doing anyways lol

[@kierannish]

well she does act like her shit/fart doesn't smell, so that was all of our expectations...

[@valerio70043]

If a person uses a bidet without cleaning themselves using toilet paper before, they deserve to be banned from any civilized society. Trust me, I'm italian and that's how bidet is used.

[@devinv4935]

@@valerio70043 Not everyone has separate bidets Valerio, some of us HeAthEnS have bidet attachments on their toilets or use a lota or have outhouses or shit in a regular non-italian hole in the ground.

[@reiinon]

being raised in a poc (hispanic) family, shouting at each other from across the house and aggressive body language is practically an art form.

[@joy0953]

If that's part of your culture that's fine. In one of her videos, she said that you shouldn't wear lots of jewelry but if it's part of your culture, that's okay

[@dtown_demon]

@aphrodisia As a Hispanic girl with Italian heritage, I confirm lol

[@amugglewatchingmugglething6585]

Heeeelll yeah, I'm algerian (north africa), and I 100% agree with this message, honestly I find it really beautiful how similar our cultures are in spite of how far away we are

[@RowanWarren78]

Irish here, and same.😆

[@illusionist1244]

@@amugglewatchingmugglething6585 you are similar because you both come from ignorant uneducated countries. kind, smart, atleast educated people do not use agressive body language because that is disrespectful. being ignorant and rude is not fancy and is not a culture

[@DeadLkeMe]

*5 Signs That Tell You're Not Upper Class* Tara: "My bank account?" I laughed outwardly while crying internally.

[@lesbiangoddess290]

Mood. Poor people unite

[@nessyness5447]

Well, technically you can be upper class( by belonging to an aristocrat family) and still being broke.

[@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access]

@@nessyness5447 How cheerfully depressing?

[@nessyness5447]

@@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access i know, and is actually the case for a good part of people with aristocratic titles. They have the title but not the money.

[@Robstafarian]

@@lesbiangoddess290 Solidarity through lack of liquidity!

[@TheSleepyGrove]

“I still haven’t learned how to be classy lady”, she says with a very classy accent

[@JP-br4mx]

its interesting how classy usually mean European etiquettes or behaviors such as describing English accent as classy

[@batappreciation9661]

@@JP-br4mx it’s also unfortunate how southern accents are usually regarded as less classy/ less sophisticated.

[@kideatspaper3618]

@@JP-br4mx yeah i guess i don’t know bc i’m an american but she has a bit of a classy accent right? there are english accents that don’t sound classy

[@OpqHMg]

@True Intelligence "true intelligence" 😂😂😂😂

[@Jane-oz7pp]

@True Intelligence I bet you have a glass cabinet full of anime dolls.

[@sareeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee]

'do not have violent body gestures' me, an italian: 👁️👄👁️

[@renferal5290]

Indeed LOL

[@editingcow4630]

Hi, Tara, dear! Thank you for taking the brunt on this video. I promise I'll be well rested and ready to appear in the next video. I hope your viewers enjoyed the script, though! Cheers!

[@theodwra2153]

OMG THIS IS BOT A DRILL

[@theodwra2153]

THIS IS GER SJAOSOSJSJSKD

[@professionalvictimandcerti8828]

Big fan of your work🐄❤️

[@---nobody---]

OMG! It's actually you! I've been waiting so patiently to see you!

[@renee1961]

🐄🐄🐄🐄

[@NecrozmaJade]

Placing two fingers between the garment and the body is how I make sure my cat's collar isn't too tight. Pertinent.

[@justaname999]

Happy to hear your cat is elegant!

[@mariak1785]

😆😆

[@_sharkgarden]

It's also how I see if the bridle is tight enough when I tack up a horse-

[@setablaze1802]

Same for dogs. Basically all pets are elegant. And that of course lends itself to them all being good lil puppers, kitties, and horses.

[@ArtisticlyAlexis]

It's also how you check to see if car seats aren't too tight or loose. Does that make babies & toddlers elegant too? I really want to save my kid the embarrassment of being inelegant.

[@SquishyCow]

She says elegant ladies don't try too hard while every aspect of her life just oozes with her effort. I think it's important to acknowledge that it's impossible to be elegant at ALL times. Does she have a video on elegant childbirth tips? Honestly wouldn't be shocked if she did. We're human. Let us be human. Audrey Hepburn was IMMENSELY elegant but you can find wonderful pictures of her being casual and wearing casual clothes

[@nbe1951]

She wasn't born with it; she decided to achieve it, and that takes effort and that is to be commended. She achieved her goal!

[@bluester7177]

@@nbe1951 And she seems miserable doing it.

[@Baby_ghost__b]

@@bluester7177 Are you talking about Audrey? (I don't want to be rude)

[@monbub]

@@bluester7177 literally where does she look miserable

[@nosseibagacem9014]

Audrey's casual clothes were designed especielly for her by givenchy and valentino , it's not that average after all

[@ogliara6473]

She didn't mention that you can't be an elegant lady and also desperate for other women. Fellow lesbians, we are still in the game

[@sseraphim2818]

🎉 One for the lesbians

[@wizardsamboltoni]

MY THOUGHT EXACTLY FGHJKJHGHJ

[@prettygurlrockx]

🤭😂🤣

[@lclane5256]

The lesbians are winning today :)

[@jennabunny7840]

Absolutely, Sailor Neptune is the most elegant lesbian I have ever seen

[@markdotinc8371]

"How to cosplay a rich person", brought to you by Anna Bey

[@eeEEee7991]

Basically. She gives me the impression of a 'new money person who desperately wants to be accepted by the upper class'.

[@katherinemorelle7115]

@@eeEEee7991 exactly. It’s not so much how to be elegant and affluent, but more how to be a trophy wife to a new money businessman. She’d never be accepted by the actual aristocratic set. Especially not the older ones- obvious plastic surgery is pretty tacky.

[@xxBlueCinnamonxx]

@@eeEEee7991 She’s basically said that but worded more “elegantly” LOL

[@nessyness5447]

@@katherinemorelle7115 and no matter how her fans defend her, she actually speaks and acts like she considers anyone who is not "elegant" to be less worthy as a person.

[@skyclaw]

My first thought was that affluence doesn’t mean elegance-it literally just means ‘having money’.

[@xtremegaymer]

As a wise character (Morticia Addams) once said: "You have married Fester, you have destroyed his spirit, you have taken him from us. All that I could forgive. But Debbie... pastels?”

[@miguelcruz2941]

Anna Bey's family actually has ran the School of Affluence since Ancient Greek times, teaching great minds such as Plato and Aristotle ,and inspiring Diogenes' ideas about the rich.Her family's legacy is immortalized in the Renaissance fresco "The School of Affluence"(1509-1509) painted by non other than Raphael Ninja Turtle.

[@raspberry765]

It’s true, I was the fresco.

[@screamingbanshee1282]

How far her family has come, yes forgetting there is a greek godess who hates men and loves hunting

[@ArealMrsSmith]

I honestly don’t get the appeal of affluence EXCEPT for the ability to be able to truly explicitly GIVING A F- about what other people think about what you look like, if you’re “cool”, etc. I mean, the money obviously means not being weighed down by the constant stress of not having enough for everything you need, let alone want, but there is a point where that comfort can be achieved and you still aren’t “affluent”. Affluent means you have arrived, you are set for life, and you can CHEKC TF OUT of these games. Its also works a lot like confidence- its a mindset you either have or you don’t. It can’t be taught or bought and when you try to fake it, its PAINFULLY obvious to everyone who had it for real. Its why we have the term “new money”. Because you need money to be affluent, but money doesn’t make you affluent. And women like this SCREAM “I have been groomed as a trophy for the worst of the patriarchy since childhood, brainwashed into thinking it makes me special, and it had worked. Anyway, we MUST get together if you ever find yourself near my village- you are familiar with Stepford, yes?” 🤖

[@SD-zz4ov]

its tru i was plato

[@ipermaga4618]

"Diogenes' ideas about the rich" like that you're allowed and should spit inside their homes? 😂😂

[@skyclaw]

“We’re not desperate for men.” All lesbians are elegant. QED.

[@LazyDwobbit]

Lesbians are the MOST elegant.

[@FabalociousDee]

BOOM.

[@iknowthatyouregayfireflies9992]

Yassssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss! Go lesbians, go!

[@lclane5256]

All hail the elegant lesbians :) 🙌💖💯

[@dianaatlas5791]

As a bi math major, I'm adding this axiom of "lesbians are everything" to my proofs arsenal.

[@katyadade1041]

Anna is likely Russian, so it's important to know: after the fall of the USSR, women were obsessed with Russian royals of the past, as the monarchy was no longer considered evil. The 19th-century upper class was aggressively glamourized in 1990s-2000s Russia. Our moms told us to behave like LADIES as opposed to proletary or village women. So no wonder she speaks about this seemingly upper-class style so seriously.

[@softlifesarah]

shes finnish and swedish but maybe the russian thing comes from her finnish side. i lived in switzerland for a few years growing up and went to international school with some extremely rich people in zurich and a lot of people with immense wealth think and behave exactly like anna. anna currently lives in geneva. switzerland = breeding ground for "elites" (also extremely expensive country). i also believe anna attended finishing school in switzerland. her channel is about being aspirational.

[@somebody-br2hm]

@@softlifesarah yeah, but it's not aspiring to become the best version of yourself ( to an extent coz its only materialistic/ physical and shallow ) FOR YOURSELF but for another man in order to manipulate him into .....you know.....paying for your food and beige skirts Is that really aspirational to you???

[@katyadade1041]

@@softlifesarah Interesting, because she has a distinct Russian accent. Some Russian people go to get higher education in Finland. I guess there are a lot of Russian communities there.

[@softlifesarah]

@@somebody-br2hm no being the best version of yourself has nothing to do w attracting a super rich man. Anna attaches that to her message… her audience is hetero cis women and let’s be honest most of us want partnership and regardless of what “feminism” may make you think u want/Don’t want, most of us want families of some sort. I’ve noticed loser men like feminist Self-sufficient women bc they’re easier to mooch off of. Their attitude is “I don’t need a man”…Why not attract someone who can actually provide for you as opposed to to you being a mule for the entirety of your adulthood? My main issue w Anna is that she is obsessed w being skinny and not everyone is going to want a super rich guy. I’m not into the “I’m an aristocrat” attitude. But being the best (and most elegant) version of yourself to attract the best mate is not a bad thing. Men who act like men like women who act like women.

[@zurzakne-etra7069]

@@softlifesarah oh such a good point! I believe Kim Jong un and his siblings schooled there. The women around him tend to be very feminine and presentable when you think about it...

[@nae0912]

"'10 things elegant ladies never do.' They never look at their phone on the toilet?" Oh ive already failed-

[@l.e.2154]

in this very moment :(

[@idontknow-tj5vo]

i thought it was the bad posture and that feels pretty homophobic to me🙄‼ /hj

[@magnum_cx8805]

Fuck

[@lesbiangoddess290]

Same. I do it all the time

[@notneal3793]

Like, as if someone is watching you on the darn toilet

[@cupidbeaux6251]

An elegant lady is never desperate or rushed but also calculates everything but also can't look like she's trying too hard. She never dresses casually and also she does not wear anything skin tight, think "Pant suit" when you think of an elegant lady. She also never yells during sex because it's not ladylike to orgasm. Thank you Miss Affluence for your wisdom I can't wait to be a rude boy for life.

[@catcat2607]

To be fair I assume she means calculates everything to stay in control. What she was saying about atheleisure makes sense as it is more of a sporty brand image, and and doesn't suit a public situation. She is talking about having loud sex. I hope you do t think it rude when your grandma has loud sex when you're in the bedroom over. Why does everyone think she is applying her things to ALL WOMEN. Her whole thing is an elegant lady brand and take ot or leave it. I know its not my brand and I don't care for it to be but she has good insights on rudeness, ettiquite, and confidence. Yall are dramatic

[@EA-rt3pi]

@@catcat2607 you’re allowed to like her content and others are allowed to dislike it. You’re the one being dramatic trying to silence people for a mere difference in opinion

[@melisacaceres8740]

I've seen some of her videos trying to figure out appropiate fashion because i'm a law student and i wanted to prepare myself to give a good impression in the future. In one she said "a trained eye will tell your pantyhose are cheap" and i thought: bye boo. One thing is being polite and appropiate and other is being hyper vigilent of everyone's opinion.

[@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access]

God I’m sorry but the no yelling for the O part just makes me *shudder* I thrive off of positive reinforcement. So if I get my singer to hit the power notes, I’m gonna repeat what’s been done to bring about that sweet sweet tune.

[@laurenw.3656]

@@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access 😂😂😂 hahaha that was beautifully written

[@believe.receive]

I don't mind Anna actually. Sometimes I watch her videos out of interest but her tips are too much effort lol. She definitely knows her audience though and puts a lot of thought into her videos. This was so funny though, especially since I also do not meet the criteria of elegance.

[@Sarah.g.carter]

Same here haha I find my own ways of adding pieces of what she says to my life. Things like posture and dining have been really nice to just make me feel more confident. I also hate graphic tees on myself so watching her for ideas on how to be more feminine around my house was really helpful. Still wearing leggings to the store and I wear jeans and a t shirt but I just put more thought into how I’m styling them and the message I’m sending to others about myself. This video though has absolutely voiced plenty of my thoughts hahaha

[@lavishlovergirl]

Saaame

[@ApequH]

I'm curious, has she ever spoken about plastic surgery?

[@austins.2495]

@@ApequH her face says it all... very loudly.

[@BlancaEstella4837]

@@austins.2495 Not really actually, i thought the same, but she showed photos of herself younger, she only made a nose job, and it's actually a subtle job !

[@thestylegig]

I literally choked on my coffee when you sang “classy, bougie, affluent.” It’s all up in my nose now. Thanks. 💀

[@TaraMooknee]

You're welcome!!

[@lesbiangoddess290]

Pfffft.

[@cheeseontoast3434]

that's not very elegant

[@keren6858]

@@TaraMooknee icon

[@digi9ten]

Tara's remix caught me off guard! 🤣

[@lainierehn5202]

Any time a creator uses the term “thought leader” unironically, I know we’re about to dive into a metaphorical dumpster fire inferno.

[@ddjsoyenby]

"thought leader" me: this is a cult isn't it.

[@wendyallen9089]

same last time I heard that was before a youtube video "DO YOU WANNA LEARN HOW TO MAKE MONEY AT HOME RIGHT FROM YOUR PHONE"

[@runalong9919]

Inferno is frozen, but yeah 🤓

[@charliemayne2981]

Orwell’s Thought Police

[@nellgwyn2723]

Every time a British person says birthday suit I imagine that people have fun special suits they wear on their birthdays and get excited. Then I realise that it just means nudity and feel disappointed. I would like festive birthday suits everyone keeps to signal it's their birthday. Edit: what, people are not doing ^^ anymore? That was the one smiley thing I liked. Meh. Second Edit: Commenting on the chicken picture "Hmmm, affluent" Tara, you are killing me. Delightful! More affluent chickens please!

[@IHaveNoMouth]

I didn't think "birthday suit" was solely British? Idk, I'm Canadian and I hear that term all the time.

[@seanmatthewking]

@@IHaveNoMouth It's said universally in America too. Definitely not exclusive to British.

[@piau1798]

I really thought birthday suit meant a fun colourful and comfy onesie that had cake and confetti and balloons all over it. I’m a bit disappointed right now 😟😂

[@lucyingram8203]

airports are like the MOST appropriate place to wear literally anything you want!? if the man across from me is drinking a beer and eating a $20 bag of chips at 4am I think I should be allowed to wear sweatpants

[@helloworld5256]

$20 for a bag of chips?!?!?

[@lucyingram8203]

@@helloworld5256 u ever buy a bag of chips from an airport??? $20 might be a bit of an exaggeration but it's no kidding around $7-8 dollars for a single-serving-size bag of chips

[@lucyingram8203]

at least in U.S. airports but I assume that's how it is in most airports around the globe

[@helloworld5256]

Just a slight correction: $7-8 for a bag of air😂

[@chisomo8088]

@@lucyingram8203 in my country food and snacks sold at the airport are so expensive so I definitely agree with you

[@Jaque1872]

School of Affluence sounds like a young adult novel series that never got a film adaption during the early 2010's.

[@jamarsh09]

Giving me dystopian novels vibes. Kinda like a worse selection

[@hope1037-t1x]

There's the School for Good and Evil where all the kids in the school for Good are snobby, rich, and pretty. It's a YA series whose movie adaptation is coming out this year or next... "Helmet haired oaf" is even an accurate description of one of the main characters.

[@lesbiangoddess290]

@@hope1037-t1x my friend was obsessed with that series. It's really good

[@hope1037-t1x]

@@lesbiangoddess290 I agree! Both my sister and I are fans of the series and we're excited to watch the movie adaptation when it comes out.

[@mothturtle7897]

I was thinking more like a drag house from ball culture.

[@estellasalmi9409]

Personally I find Anna's thinking towards men, society and marriage very Russian, which is understandable in the light of her Russian mother. Anna's real name is Aija Räty and though she grew up in Sweden, her Russian mother is from Estonia and her father, who left the family early, is Finnish. It's rather interesting how Anna seem to have internalized typical Russian thinking this strongly and totally rejected the Swedish and nordic consensus of gendar equality and personal financial independence.

[@Analysis_Paralysis]

Scandinavian women still live in patriarchy. Let's not glorify Scandinavian countries... They might be slightly less patriarchal than North America, but they're still pretty conservative.

[@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access]

“A lady doesn’t make loud noises during intimate moments” Hey HEY *HEY* some of us *thrive* off of such positive reinforcement!

[@ashleycook6025]

Ikr?

[@beadoumet]

Aaaooouuuuuu

[@charcoal8]

Exactly, what's more important, enjoying the moment, or your neighbours approval.

[@yatsumura7]

She also didn’t think through that some people are into pain games, but maybe such things are not lady enough, I don’t know

[@user-dq1jl4pb9d]

If she's never made a video about how to be classy in the bedroom I'm going to be so disappointed

[@maybe8029]

In general I think the elegant lady thing is dumb but also like tshirts can totally be elegant. A white tshirt with some great jeans and jewelry can look so classic and elevated while being effortless

[@fruitygarlic3601]

Agreed. And our clAsSy friend wears one in one of the videos, so what's the message?

[@batappreciation9661]

@@fruitygarlic3601 exactly

[@thatasiangirl0_039]

It's dumb or it's different? Her content is elegant fashion. I bet you havent called someone that makes videos about the kind of fashion that you like dumb, since you agree.

[@hlywrd]

Agree one of my go to date outfits was a nice pair of jeans, cute white shirt, and a blazer

[@maybe8029]

@@thatasiangirl0_039 hey sorry if it came off rude, I just meant the general pressure on women to be “elegant” not her specific videos or fashion. Just my opinion tho!

[@ChiKk116]

"How to torture yourself with internalized misogyny" but *fancy*

[@aditi1729]

This isn’t bull tbh. There’s more to understand about this topic but most people aren’t willing to even listen.

[@FolkloreLove310]

this comment is coming for my throat stg

[@staceykersting705]

Isn't what this whole channel's about?

[@sabrina1380m]

At this point, a woman expressing herself differently from your typical western feminist suffers from internalized misogyny, who ironically still struggle to comprehend themselves too

[@staceykersting705]

@@sabrina1380m BAM!!!

[@saraangel6696]

There is some “good” advice she has mentioned in the past, but most of it is just generally common sense. Wear clean clothes, keep them in good condition, chew with your mouth closed. I mean, we dont need a “school of affluence” for that.

[@sailorspills3025]

Also the fabrics and styles she recommends :) I like Ana, even though I don’t agree with everything she says

[@Forestfreud]

Yeah, a school for manners and a school for “affluence” are different things. I’ve known some stupid rich people who are ridiculously gauche.

[@alyssapinon9670]

I’m glad you mentioned this! She has some genuinely good advice but sometimes it gets drowned out by the judgmental way she goes about it

[@takestwo8331]

Honestly I agree with you. The thing is in a formal work context some of her advice is not wrong

[@HosCreates]

some people arent taught those common sense things.

[@music_YT2023]

A lounging outfit for my slovenly chip eating in the living room, quick change into another lounging outfit for oozing across the daybed to read hot gossips and a third for galumphing down the hallway - like a lady. All set for bougie elegance and affluence.

[@---nobody---]

Ahaha🤣🤣 Galumphing. The words you used to describe actions are perfect.

[@Ashaliyeva]

“Slovenly” “Oozing” “Galumphing” Solid gold. 🤣🤣🤣

[@Minsi40]

What? The intimacy thing had me rolling. Having passion is a bad thing? And this is coming from a virgin.

[@staceykersting705]

She's a virgin? OMG...that explains a LOT!

[@alyssarae7501]

@@staceykersting705 i think she’s referring to herself not anna

[@prairieN]

As not a virgin, I affirm that passion and being able to scream makes it better for all parties involved Except the neighbours Good sound insulation is very classy

[@lyndaody7208]

It makes people around feel awkward actually. My neighbors don't check whether we can hear their scream or not and it's not funny.

[@weenis6697]

these are just those "how to be an alpha male" videos ✨for her✨

[@candycrows262]

This is so accurate

[@MagisterialVoyager]

This comment sent me, bye!!! 😭✌️✨

[@beebaritter4952]

Truth!

[@LazyDwobbit]

So true omg

[@AamuAurora]

I don't know I see a struggle for being dignified in world where women is disrespected. Everyone copes as they can, I don't see a desire to dominate others

[@mirroredhour]

I can't stop thinking about that one sailor moon episode where usagi attends this school about how to be a lady and absolutely fails at everything and it doesn't matter if she doesn't "act like a princess." She already is a princess.

[@SoularSlothesk]

Truly iconic~ ✨🌙✨

[@destinyh3717]

🌠💖🎴

[@mjsky3755]

Yesss that oneee

[@Robstafarian]

Ditto

[@mirroredhour]

@@mjsky3755 your jolyne icon pic is excellent 👏

[@ameliafailla635]

"spare MY community YOUR negative energy and move onto another video" was so passive aggressive

[@marasxhino]

God forbid I want to be comfortable on my 8+hr flight lmaoo

[@---nobody---]

Or in your own house, that's so peasnt like!

[@zephrii9528]

Comfort is for peasants. Every classy bougie affluent lady knows that in order to be truly elegant, one must have a stick shoved up their ass at all times.

[@crownagex5687]

@@zephrii9528 you must also not complain about your uncomfortableness. you must take pride in it, and make sure to *shame* others who do act comfortable, & forc- I mean *suggest* them to become elegant.

[@crownagex5687]

@@cedar4539 but no one said that being elegant was a bad thing (at least in this comment section).it's just not worth their time.

[@crownagex5687]

@@cedar4539 aight

[@ghostrobots]

"spare my community your negative energy" what a nice way of saying "don't call me out on the things i say"

[@Justifycope]

Spot on 🤣

[@frankie9772]

There is nothing to call out . She is just celebrating femininity and elegance. If you don’t want to be elegant you don’t have to follow her advice. Probably the nicest elegance channel I know.

[@prairieN]

Tbh, this is the kind of emotional subterfuge I need to learn. I would say something more like, disagree with my points but be kind about it or you will be blocked because this is my space and I don’t want people being mean to feel superior And people who are subtlety mean to feel superior do not like it being pointed out

[@daisy3869]

@@frankie9772 Just depends. Most of us are past the point of defining femininity in one way because it's a made-up concept. Not everyone is held back by ideas from the past that no longer serve us, and the people who are usually try to force that on everyone else. It doesn't seem like Anna does that, though! So she's cool.

[@deestupi]

Like a cult leader

[@mayo3995]

The school sounds expensive, I guess I'll never be able to become a classy, bougie, affluent lady.... **sigh** :(

[@mariavg12]

Depends of your incomes, I payed in three parts. with the actual crisis on my country I could consider expensive but when I payed It was not expensive at all.

[@TheSleepyGrove]

It also sounds sooooo boring. Her face displays no emotions and it makes me sad

[@thatasiangirl0_039]

Affluent means expensive. Those kind of videos basically tells you that if you have no money, don't bother watching.

[@Jane-oz7pp]

@@mariavg12 Wow, thanks for the obvious statement about how expenses work

[@damndanim]

In my country there's a career on a public university about that, so I guess this wouldn't be expensive here lol

[@tgin7100]

I literally snorted like a pig when she said "screaming like a pig is not okay during iNtiMAtE mOMeNtS"

[@cheeseontoast3434]

same

[@MagisterialVoyager]

Mood.

[@LazyDwobbit]

Oh that's a relief. I only neigh challengingly during intimate moments.

[@DarlingMissDarling]

@@LazyDwobbit 😹😹😹😹 NOT "CHALLENGINGLY"! dead. I'm fully dead. 10/10!

[@mercedesk511]

@@LazyDwobbit BAHAHAHAHA YOU'RE A GENIUS

[@bellalysewinchester]

She never said jorts were out of the question, so at least I can salvage that part of my wardrobe on my quest to be the classiest lady of them all

[@mewenschat1223]

"Don't wear these clothes, they're not elegant" "Do film your finishing school classes in a roadside Hilton"

[@lavender8703]

dude in the third video showed she was literally wearing a tshirt like what

[@MajaBiana]

@@lavender8703 She also said not to wear tight clothes and in the clip just before or so she wore an extremely tight blouse...

[@sisuguillam5109]

@@amapola9202 you do describe it quite well. True upperclass ladies erbracht a bit of wear and tear - and are (at least in Britain) quite loud. You know why? Because they can do as they want and not give a fig what people say.

[@isabellaellaellaeheheh]

Anna Bey: “10 things elegant ladies never do: 1. They never look at their phone on the toilet.” Me, watching this on my phone whilst using the loo: oh....alright 👁👄👁

[@seanmatthewking]

An elegant lady thinks only of her excrement when on the toilet. Shame on you.

[@jules2291]

🤭😊 - guilty as charged .

[@ultravioletpisces3666]

I don't get this one... if you are on the toilet, you are all alone. So who cares??

[@beraudmusic]

Anna- Never wear gym clothes when flying Also Anna- Shows a bunch of photos of ladies in gym clothes at the airport looking elegant AF

[@lr1749]

“I’m happy in my oaf ways” never related to a statement more

[@forestteal7616]

I have a silky chicken named Darjeeling she is all black and beautiful. But she is distrustful of me because I tried to bond with her by letting her be in the house with pants on and she hated the pants

[@TaraMooknee]

...I have so many questions

[@upsetbaguette]

Hey Aaron, if a chicken wore pants...how

[@vanityyyyy]

what a non-classy chicken 😒 Only pigeons don’t wear pants.

[@forestteal7616]

@@vanityyyyy how dare you, Darjeeling is simply elegant beyond clothing. Her naked form is not to be misappropriated by human constrictions

[@sorryhush2327]

@@forestteal7616 Hey Aaron why did the chicken cross the road? To get away from your pants

[@jurgnobs1308]

it's so weird to me how she actually chose pretty damn great looking photos of the stuff she's talking against. i mean you can't say she's picking the worst of the worst pictures to make a point. she took photos of very well styled, very attractive women in yoga pants.

[@honeyandlavender_]

*“We’re not desperate for men”* She literally has videos on how to find rich men, her psychoanalyzing rich guys, the different types of rich men, where to find them, the type of women they’re into, why they always cheat on their old wives with young skinny girls....

[@farahb6833]

No waaayyy 😂😂😂😂

[@Sonicsis]

I mean if that's the life you wanna live more power to you. I could never live that lifestyle.

[@honeyandlavender_]

@@farahb6833 I saw her videos like 2 years ago or so and she has an entire playlist dedicated to finding rich guys and the type of women they’re into 💀💀 She has also been with several of them too.

[@honeyandlavender_]

@@Sonicsis Yeah, I’m all about that and helping others who want to learn more or get into it, but not exactly forcing others to live the same lifestyle that you live or lie about certain things to your audience when clearly you’re *into* that thing you’re lying about... Does that make sense lol?

[@farahb6833]

@@honeyandlavender_ my God, your comment made my day 😂😂😂 I can't help but picture showing pics of white rich guys in shorts and saying, "this is Jason he is rich and thinks women can hold their period in," 😂😂😂

[@cactuscallie5090]

"My taking-a-dump outfit." THAT sentence made me laugh so damn hard that I woke my bf (I'm watching this video in bed at 2am 🤭).

[@riotgrrrl8807]

Is her life the counterpart to the life of men who constantly have to protect their manliness and therefore can never have fun or relax, not even when they're alone?

[@LazyDwobbit]

Yes.

[@83croissant]

Gender is a performance that we are constantly doing for the voyeur in our minds

[@riotgrrrl8807]

@@83croissant Right, but some of it is genuinely comfortable, and other stuff is more forced.

[@DreamPainter54]

@@83croissant I'm SCREAMING this is the best thing I've ever read

[@majestysol7100]

@@83croissant aha a person of culture I see. 👀

[@Cerezaa]

You should talk more about pretty privilege and the dangers of giving predators platforms. There are many examples of this. Waaaay more than they should be.

[@ddjsoyenby]

truth.

[@Ead2410]

Could you name a few examples please?

[@Cerezaa]

@@Ead2410 Well almost everyone on tik tok actually! I believe Tony is going to appear on that Netflix show coming up. Not confirmed though. He still has a platform despite everything! Zoe Laverne still has a platform and she has videos of her making out with a 13 year old. This isn’t 100% pretty privilege but it falls into the predatory circle of creators.

[@yulianadereychuk360]

@@Ead2410 netflix show "cuties"

[@Ead2410]

@@Cerezaa doesnt tik tok have policies against such people being on their platform? Im not aware since I dont use tiktok

[@sage6185]

You know I read a comment on one of her videos......that a father watched her videos so as to raise his daughters THE RIGHT WAY.....I was like bruh noo don't do that......

[@itsalwayshalloweenexceptwh5118]

I've known a few very rich (old money) people in my life. Yes, they buy expensive high quality things that last for a long time but my image of real rich people has become the image of a woman in her 40's wearing good leather boots she's had for 20 years, jeans, a fair isle sweater with holes in it worn over a cotton shirt, messy hair in a low ponytail, as she gardens and potters around and visits the neighbors to give them some of the pheasants they shot recently. For special events they dress really classy and know all of the etiquette and who is who at the event and what everyone's relationship is to each other. It's like the high society ladies keep a list of who is currently getting along and who isn't. These people aren't snobby (at least not to your face) and have the good manners to make you feel at ease. It's also like they're so rich they can afford to look "unkempt" but in a very specific way that tells you they've got money.

[@joy0953]

Ooh sounds cool

[@segamai]

You are just so impressed with them because people are still completely brainwashed by the outward style of old money richies into believing that they are the “good” kind of rich. There is no such thing. All this sounds like is just more class worship.

[@itsalwayshalloweenexceptwh5118]

@@segamai I'm not portraying the idea of "the bad rich people who are new money" and "the good rich people who are old money". I don't think we can label people like that and put them into boxes.

[@RowanWarren78]

We call that look, "arrogantly shabby".

[@itsalwayshalloweenexceptwh5118]

@@RowanWarren78 That's perfectly. It suits the frayed edge of the luxury brand knit sweater perfectly.

[@91Vault]

those "plane" outfits aren't even "slacker clothes" they are clearly put together with intent (well matched, "well fitted"* ) and to evoke a certain style.

[@ThexDynastxQueen]

Yeah those girls looked good as they were clearly posing for photos not simply going on a tiring flight like most people in comfort clothes.

[@igasudrom8642]

and who the hell is really concerned with looking "classy" on a flight?! We're all gonna look like shit at the end of a long-haul flight, that's just how it is

[@miriamhavard7621]

@@igasudrom8642 it used to be the norm, for generations, from the 1930's clear through part of the 1970's, to be "appropriately dressed" when boarding, being a passenger on, and disembarking from their planes. It was just a given.🌺

[@igasudrom8642]

@@miriamhavard7621 ohhhh yeah that is very true, thanks for reminding me

[@raven_moonshine39]

@@miriamhavard7621 Though, some of it had to do with the fact that they had an "appropriate dress" for everything in those eras, and some of it was the fact that flying was a luxury then and marketed as such. Not to mention, they weren't packing nearly as many people into planes as they do now and the whole process was infinitely more laxed, so I'm sure dressing comfortably wasn't at the forefront of their minds the way it would be while, say, going on a road trip.

[@spamacc1873]

“Don’t show any sign of pleasure during intimacy” LMAO OKAY MAAM

[@LL-gq5wz]

Lol she didn't say that, she said don't be so loud that your neighbours hear.

[@bks6000]

@@LL-gq5wz And they'll be jealous!

[@danielarejas7118]

She didn't say that at all.

[@sleepy.thehuman]

@@LL-gq5wz you’re being intimate??? make as much noise as you want, these standards are ridiculous.

[@LL-gq5wz]

@@sleepy.thehuman key word: intimate. I don't want my neighbours to hear me having sex, and I don't want to hear them either 🤢

[@honeyandlavender_]

1:19 How can you sleep at night without feeling embarrassed after writing about yourself in third person.....

[@tacticalmisandrist]

Oof I had to do this for artist statements in college

[@honeyandlavender_]

@@tacticalmisandrist lmfao I had to write a letter in uni about myself in third person and it’s just so fucking weird to me 🥴

[@nicolegoose567]

You kinda have to to get places and it also helps for manifestations. People who do this usually have their shit together and don’t let their ego get in the way of communication & growth “pains.” Or they could have an big ego if they toot their own horn a lot lol

[@Jane-oz7pp]

@@nicolegoose567 So people who do this usually don't have overinflated egos, except when they do? So what you're saying is "people do this." This is some astrology grade vagary.

[@ninavinterova9875]

@@Jane-oz7pp honestly babe it was probably written by her marketing team

[@CatBarefield]

The classism. The fakeness. The contradictions. The condescension. Damn. What a load of nonesense. Imagine being that pressed about what others think about you

[@daninoa9650]

Honestly! Personally I value elegance and I don't find the majority of the attitudes she teaches or the message she spreads very elegant at all. Audrey Hepburn broke so many of Anna's supposed rules and is still considered by many to be one of the most elegant women. I believe genuine kindness is also something that ties directly into elegance. Anyone of any class and social status CAN be elegant (and if that isn't their priority then that's also alright) but she seems so contrived and snobbish to me. As a lesbian, I also don't like the way a lot of her videos seem to carry the message of "be elegant for men" which is completely nonsensical.

[@nessyness5447]

And this are some of her tame videos. She started to appear in my recommendations one day, for no reason, and i watched a few out of curiosity.. she has one on how to never pay in a date because you already made the effort of looking pretty for the guy so he should pay.

[@frumtheground]

She's vary condescending about women who do differently than her and I'd say that's not very classy either. I bet it's exhausting never being yourself for the sake of money.

[@SM-yz4hi]

@Dani Noa you bringing up the example of audrey hepburn really explained what i was thinking! i think another example is princess diana. she wore clothes that were scandalous by royal standards, was very emotionally expressive and strong willed, and broke a ton of royal tradition. She absolutely fits none of anna’s rules, but she’s regarded as an elegant lady because of her genuine, unwavering kindness and consideration for people- even the ones “below” her- which is a trait that her and Hepburn share. I think cultivating that trait is a key ingredient in elegance

[@daninoa9650]

@@SM-yz4hi Absolutely! There's a quote by Diana Vreeland "The only real elegance is in the mind, if you've got that, the rest really comes from it."

[@EbonyPenmarks]

I think her channel would be much better if her etiquette skills were more practical. Like, some people need to WORK. Not all of us can marry a billionaire.

[@barboralitvanova5111]

Not all of us want to…

[@vaishnavishingne3729]

Yes! That'd also expand her viewer base

[@realSimoneCherie]

But that’s the entire point of the channel - mating. Women who are already affluent have no reason to do any of these things.

[@EbonyPenmarks]

@@realSimoneCherie . I mean, if some women do want hypergamy, all power to them, but it's kinda silly to believe that any of those women would exhibit the same air of women born into old money. It's also impossible for a large portion of her viewers to be successful in marrying a millionaire. The elegance and etiquette content is just better off being elegance and etiquette content.

[@mothmaiden]

I am pretty sure most billionaires don't care about this sort of thing, either. 🤔

[@delphinedelphinedelphine]

I have bougie-like family in France and I have to say, most of these 'rules' are actual rules that people from this social class follow. I have never seen my mother in wrinkled clothes, she owns 0 tshirts, nothing with cartoon prints... My grandmother would always scold me for saying, "what/quoi?" instead of "excuse me?/je vous demande pardon?" or not saying Mrs/Mr when speaking to people... Basically, they follow most of these rules and they consider these 'basic education'. I'm not going to defend these rules and say these are the only way to live. They are old-fashioned and some of them reek of misogyny (although men are also expected to be 'well groomed'). That being said, these are indeed some of the unspoken social rules of 'old money' and it is totally someone's choice whether to follow them or not. Something else that she doesn't mention in the video is that, no matter how much you follow those rules, 'old money', much like in The Great Gatsby, will likely forever remember your humble origins and look down on you, regardless of your present fame or success. My bougie family has said things such as 'this person is from X but at least they're educated,' meaning that "at least" this person knows about these social rules, despite not being from a rich family. I think they also come off as quite weird in a society that is trying to break social class habits. In the US, such rules look absurd to the everyday person because the social distance between social classes is much less great. In the UK or France, these still exists to some degree. There are still even debutante balls where girls will learn these and other 'elegant' behaviors. This would actually be really interesting to dive into-- is there a connection between gender equality and debutante balls in various countries? Once again, this is no way a defense of these behaviors. If Anna what's her name can profit off of making social observations, then that's her choice and her life. She didn't create these rules but she sure is trying to perpetuate them because that's her brand. And it's of course your right to judge and comment on them as well. Have a nice day :)

[@nellgwyn2723]

In a way I agree, much of it are things that are useful if you want to survive in such a world while maintaining the social approval. And at times they help make a favourable impression, if I ever am in a position to need to kiss up to some old-money snobs, like in some jobs one must, her videos will be a gold mine. However considering the restrictive ideals coming with that, regarding gender, lifestyle, self expression and so on, I believe it's not really healthy for these to be spread as gospel to an elegant life as if this was aspirational. I get it, quite a lot of it (fashion rules, basic manners) I like following myself at times but the clear classist implications, the negation of individuality and the heavily gendered standards just aren't something I could ever consider an appealing way of life. So, what I am trying to say is yes, useful advice to survive in that old money world for a bit - but unless you're being paid for it it's a lot of effort to put into things that mainly spread harmful values. Take piano lessons instead, learn to paint, read classic literature - those old money families often turn equally impressed to real skill and might even permit for a shred of individuality for someone they consider an artist.

[@nickb1156]

@@nellgwyn2723 I think the spread of these rules online is a form of "democratization" of elegance. Now everyone can be elegant, regardless of their social class. Elegance is no longer a form of etiquette exclusive to rich people, but rather an "aesthetic" or lifestyle tips which anyone interested can follow. And as for the "restrictive ideals" you mention, I don't see any problem with it. Being hyper-feminine/masculine is just as valid as being genderfluid as far as expression goes. And what do you mean by "self expression"? Couldn't the adherence to this lifestyle be considered a form of self expression (since it's completely optional)?

[@livics610]

These rules make me mad and I come from a "good" family Fck class

[@austins.2495]

What you're referring to here is the actual genuine definition. The stuff Anna Bey spews is a bastardized American version, solely meant for women to appear higher value in order to bag a rich man who will pay for their extravagant lifestyle. So it's not really the same

[@DonnaDoveWinters]

In the US, this still 100% exists in the upper-class of the American south. Especially among former slave-holding families

[@CagedLeo]

Somehow Tara manages to be that one cool girl I’m always looking up to while simultaneously acting like my quirky step-grandma. The dichotomy between those two is striking, yet Tara is effortlessly both lol it’s as impressive as it is wholesome.

[@alexgreen1559]

How old do you think she is???

[@CagedLeo]

@True Intelligence Contrary to your username, it would seem that you don’t quite understand the premise of a comment section on a social media platform. But more importantly, who said I’m a woman? ;)

[@CagedLeo]

@@alexgreen1559 Clearly young enough to outlive me yet old enough to be my mother’s mother. So maybe 47?

[@Duck-mn8xp]

I don’t like my step-grandma, so Tara will be my new one

[@lavacaqueri5454]

@@CagedLeo Wtf? I'm pretty sure Tara is in her 20's

[@nadiadima9449]

Ironically, this was an elegant roast :D . I am an Anna fan and I enjoyed this.

[@christinemoxam9392]

I love reading about etiquette, manners, elegance, etc. and this woman is not teaching people how to be "sophisticated and elegant" she's teaching you how to be a snob and being very condescending while she does it. No one can be elegant always, don't let her fool you. You're allowed to wear leggings and scream during intimacy and no one can take that right away from you!

[@eeEEee7991]

You just wrote word by word what i was thinking.

[@eatyourcereal6577]

today you woke up and of all languages chose to speak FACTS‼️

[@krrr.4902]

This is a 100% accurate assertion. Many of us can out-snob her without even trying: - Her neighbors can actually hear her screams? What kind of sHaCK is she living in?! - Poor girl doesn't know about custom fit couture tshirts for lounging, sad. - Very *rude* of her to not disclose the finishing schools SHE went to... I'll guess the reasons why she hasn't. Anybody can be a judgemental assh0!e, but being a boring android has NEVER been a synonym for "classy" or "elegant". People can learn table manners and convenient clothe fitting in other much more congruent, amicable and useful youtube videos without suffering through condescending remarks. What this blonde lady said are mostly baseless opinions and it bothers me way too much how cute but outdated practices are perverted into this pop culture "boss babe" nonsense.

[@zs9710]

All of this 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 all of these femininity channels work my last nerve because they all promote elegance and classiness but in the same breath, they judge and belittle women who don’t fit their narrow standard of femininity and respectability. It’s the hypocrisy for me. Over it 😂

[@KomandorNells]

What people rarely realize is that savoir-vivre and etiquette is very often an art of being refined and polite in a way where you make others feel comfortable and open with you. And there wasn't a single video where I've felt comfortable watching Anna.

[@SabrinaRina]

I live alone. I'll do what I want until someone else splits my rent. Toilet paper is soft enough for my nether region, it's fine for my nose and saves on waist of boxes and such for tissues. **makes aggressive gestures in my bedroom alone**

[@chelseahollis4423]

You took the words right outta my mouth. Until I get a roommate or get married, like let me be man. I've got better things to do then look/act elegant

[@SabrinaRina]

@@chelseahollis4423 Maybe if you're in the Hamptons or trying to impress someone like that, what's it even do? There's self care and then self shame. I put more effort when I'm at work (when we're open to the public). But the "inappropriate at home" part is too much. If I meet someone I care if they care and they do care, I'll reevaluate... maybe... not likely. I have to really care, but then they shouldn't. So there.

[@shadowthespikythingy]

I suspect that's actually a false economy and you'd get better bang for your buck if you got dedicated tissues instead of just bulk buying bogroll, but I certainly don't think it's something worthy of moralistic condemnation

[@thePribs]

Yess

[@sushifooshy4418]

How to pay to conform to patriarchal standards at the complete expense of your identity and will to live

[@CB-dy1he]

Honestly, this type of elegance culture is mostly aimed at the 'upper class' to use as another way of judging each other by. Because when you already consider yourself at the top of the pyramid, you'll want to further narrow that highest point of the tip as much as you can to put yourself into it. Basically, just a competition of how elitist you can be.

[@prairieN]

Yup, aimed at people who want to feel upper class and don’t Makes me happy to be working class and being judged on the quality of my cuss words

[@daninoa9650]

The one thing I learned from Anna years ago is that removing the pits from dates, filling them with peanut butter and freezing them is an absolutely delicious and healthy alternative to snickers.

[@katherinemorelle7115]

That is actually a useful tip! That sounds really nice.

[@rubyiskira8939]

@@katherinemorelle7115 omg yes, i forgot about it! Thank you for this comment, i gotta buy dates

[@chelseahollis4423]

That sounds really delicious actually

[@Anarchivist343]

She took that idea from us hippie vegans who I'm sure she wouldn't like. lol

[@daninoa9650]

@@Anarchivist343 she marketed them as a 17 calorie weight loss dessert (at the end of the video, she cut every date into four or five pieces 😂)

[@musicneutral233]

Elegant ladies are not desperate to bag a banker and don't feel the need to put down people for money.

[@solarmoth4628]

During my limited interactions with rich/affluent people, I’ve never seen any of them follow all of these rules lol. Also fun fact rich people are 100% the messiest, inelegant drunks and once you’re in their space no one will follow these rules.

[@VintageLydia]

It's definitely an image to project more than a way to act 24/7

[@nadjak3410]

She's not just about rich people, she wants the elegant lifestyle which is not restricted to wealthy circles per se.

[@latronqui]

@Dani and David oh, you haven't met my abuela.

[@quixoticedward9806]

"Leggings aren't elegant" Ballerinas: Is this really the hill you want to die on??

[@MagisterialVoyager]

😩👌✨

[@anupreetiboro1352]

It's funny because she herself did ballet 😂

[@suides4810]

But they dont wear leggins?

[@youngdilf1011]

@@suides4810 tights and leggings are only a socks length apart 🤷🏻

[@racheljones2084]

@@suides4810 I agree

[@PaginasLetea]

I love how Tara is in a white-walled bedroom just like the affluent lady in the first video. It looks like they're in the same place and the elegant boujee affluent lady is just waiting in the corner waiting for Tara to finish to start giving her advices

[@anabltc]

AHAHAHAHAH true now I can't unsee it

[@MagisterialVoyager]

🤣 Underrated comment.

[@atree4487]

bruh, t-shirts aren't appropriate for house-wear? I'd love to see her react to everyone at my university - people go to class in onesies and shark and duck costumes

[@justaname999]

Well, no wonder you're all like 20 and haven't nailed down a rich husband yet ;-)

[@atree4487]

@@justaname999 Fair, but we all know everyone here is for the Mrs and Mr degree lol

[@CH-pe4gv]

Anna has never been to university, she is almost forty and just got married, she is a loser who does not value education at all.

[@se-lene]

T shirts aren't appropriate to wear if you are trying to look like a wannabe affluent person 😎 if not then you're fine wear whatever makes you comfortable

[@nellgwyn2723]

@@se-lene also total bs of course, there are plenty of very rich people comfortably wearing T-shirts day in and out. Or slipping into it the moment they get out of their work suit. It's almost as if such people fetishizing antiquated norms were trying to keep up a strange sort of social dress distinction between classes that has been melting away.

[@ApotheosiZ]

I like to pretend that Tara is actually from the Mid West (like Kentucky or something) and she's just doing a UK accent.

[@TigerwomanXsweden]

Is it just me or are elegant and "pretty" clothes usually so uncomfortable and make you feel cold?

[@JohnDoe-xc5kn]

It’s also really hard to keep them wrinkle free once you actually do normal stuff while wearing it. It’s a pain in the ass and just not worth my energy.

[@princessloveheartglitter]

I like wearing the stereotypical elegant and "pretty clothes". It depends on the material the clothes are made of, but yes. A lot of these clothes are made of thin or scratchy material

[@MaresBarres]

I have the opposite problem. They make me feel warm, and I'm a sweaty gal.

[@SoVidushi]

I'm actually obsessed with her videos even if i have no plans to bag a rich guy, I like her personality and find her confidence in her beliefs to be fascinating. And she isn't as close minded as the other feminity channels and she's pretty nice and I can respect that.

[@miriamhavard7621]

I enjoy her videos about cheap men. It's the truth! 🤷

[@kellynaz9256]

Shes very classist.

[@SoVidushi]

@@kellynaz9256 how? Liking money? Yeah i guess u can say that. She doesn't judge people for their backgrounds tho so I don't consider her to be classist. She just makes it clear she doesn't want to date men who cannot take care of her financial needs.

[@kellynaz9256]

@@SoVidushi men aren't atms

[@SoVidushi]

@@kellynaz9256 never said that. It's up to them whether they want to pay their girl's bills or nah and it's up to the girl if she's comfortable with that.

[@awdatzya]

I was always told that when you are a lady, automatically everything you do is lady-like, even wearing leggings with t-shirt and screaming in intimate situation. You define what's elegant, elegance doesn't define you

[@marte1376]

of course you do but come on, why we all have to know your sex business? keep it natural babe

[@gingerluigiwithnomoustache7411]

@@marte1376 what?

[@marte1376]

@@gingerluigiwithnomoustache7411 you know how to read right?

[@awdatzya]

@@marte1376 I don't think you responded to the right comment

[@gingerluigiwithnomoustache7411]

@@marte1376 I know how to read, I just don’t know what to make of your comment

[@stephanie.kilgast]

Me wearing leggings and not giving a damn about not being elegant. Comfort. It's all about comfort.

[@staceykersting705]

If u are comfortable thru and thru, u can really smile. A genuine smile is TRUE elegance...warm and inviting. Does anyone actually prefer to be uncomfortable? Life's to short for that. In my experience, kindness will take u anywhere.

[@joy0953]

I mean she doesn't force you to be elegant

[@frankie9772]

Well, Anna’s channel doesn’t force you to be elegant. It’s just a style choice. So I agree. Confort with a bic C.

[@rafaeterna1081]

a question, does you jeans has pockets in it?

[@generalsynch6519]

@@joy0953 the commenter never said that 😑

[@isabellabrianna5946]

i nearly died of laughter when she went “Oh fuck that isn’t elegant enough!” 😂

[@EmmaStephens1995]

lol you need classy, bougie, affluent shirts

[@poclgbtanddisabledlivesmat2254]

"They dont go on their phone on the toilet" Me right now: 🤡🤠

[@basiltime1659]

If I fail her school do i finally get my official nonbinary gender?

[@basiltime1659]

@mulberry I mean I drink my respecting women juice so I think that counts

[@IvoirePunk]

@mulberry I'm pretty sure failing the male version is just not being able to sit through a Joe Rogan podcast

[@froggykimmy]

When I look at ladies like this I'm like. Are you happy? Is your life fullfilled?? Are you having fun?? Are you okay!?!?

[@youparejo]

Like Blink twice if you need help lmao

[@LazyDwobbit]

Fun isn't elegant :(

[@marte1376]

@@LazyDwobbit who says that? of course it is, it's just about how you carry yourself, your manners, your voice, your clothing, your VIBE. All people ALL time will find a way to judge you, being or not being in upper class. Have fun baby

[@justaname999]

@@marte1376 I think it was sarcasm

[@jayl0v3ly]

@@marte1376 but what if her fun includes screaming during sex and wearing T-Shirts? 😩 apparently it’s not elegant

[@donnamaria3059]

The real joke here is that a ton of wealthy people don’t bother to care about any of the things she’s listing.... they don’t have to care. They’re rich 😂😂😂

[@isham4706]

Clearly you’ve never encountered actual wealthy people, they do care very much.

[@AnastasiaAisling]

Yeah, imagine queen Letizia of Spain or Duchess if Cambridge not bothering these rules, because they're "rich".

[@samanthagupta]

Literally not true😂

[@donnamaria3059]

@@isham4706 I actually have… I went to a school where I was surrounded by wealthy kids & wealthy parents. Perhaps some do care , usually new money that needs to leave an impression. But a lot of the richest people you will ever meet you would never pick out on the street as “wealthy.” A lot of times they actually use the appearance of not caring as a sort of disguise that hides their wealth from people.

[@nbe1951]

Poor manners etcetera cover all socio-economic strata. The finer points of etiquette may not be useful to those of lower financial position. Elegance is an attitude, a way of presenting yourself to the world. This also has nothing to do with money.

[@luv-z4x]

I died with the chicken with a hair tie. Then I died again with her ‘child’. Too cute.

[@oliviaalves3559]

@True Intelligence You mean *content. True intelligence is proofreading before posting.

[@sam-dy2ho]

@True Intelligence and apparently men don't have common sense. I'm not even a woman, i'm nonbinary.

[@wiiseeyou]

How to be an affluent and elegant lady: 1. Always look down upon and shame lades that don't follow your weird rules. 2. Follow weird and arbitrary rules. 3. Suppress any sexual or "intimate" feelings. 4. Be straight. Only men are allowed to be gay.

[@MissCaraMint]

You'd think it would be: 1. Always be kind and gracious to people regardless of their social status. 2. Set standards for yourself, and hold yourself accountable. (like honouring your core values) 3. Respect other peoples sexual boundaries. 4. Be true to your own sexual and romantic identity. but I guess that must be some other list. Hmm when I find out who I think I'll ask if I can join them instead.

[@catcat2607]

@M M no she doesn't. She promotes an ELEGANT brand and teaches women how to carry themselves that way if they see fit. I disagree with her on a lot of things but she really pushes her crowd to improve themselves and doesn't put down women who don't fit into the brand of "elegant". She doesn't think you have to be elegant to live ita just an option.

[@atomic66]

She's a see ya next Tuesday

[@SM-yz4hi]

@M M it was fine until she said “if you’re eAsiLy oFfeNdEd this isn’t for you”. She could’ve said “I’m going to rag on certain clothes in this video. There’s nothing wrong with wearing them, of course, but this video is for people who wish to cultivate a certain style”. Instead of refusing to take responsibility for hurting people’s feelings, it reminds them that her video is just her opinion, her style isn’t for everyone and that’s ok. it’s hard to explain the nuance of it but her original statement implies that she’s telling “hard truths”, not that she’s just expressing a _subjective opinion._ also the obsession with looking rich is kinda weird

[@Caroline-vz4by]

I am so sorry, but literally all of your points are not right. She clarified every point to make sure people would not have the wrong idea (for example, she said many time that she is a strong supporter of the LGBTQ community). Please do not state false information without researching furthermore.

[@VyvienneEaux]

I actually find her information helpful because I'm so estranged from society that I now need help understanding how I'm going to be judged by "professionals" so I can make myself a more attractive candidate for opportunities. In my free time, I dress like a steam-cyberpunk dark wizard. There's nothing like being draped in layers of thick, loose, black fabric.

[@chiarah8525]

Me realising the Swiss school I attended used to be a finishing school... sad to announce I’m not a classy lady

[@couch_philosoph3325]

I'm swiss and i didn't even know this is a thing 😂😂 normal school was already enough of a nightmare

[@verybarebones]

But youre a rich one and, at the end of the day, that's all what matters.

[@chiarah8525]

@@couch_philosoph3325 haha yea.. I mean it’s obviously not one anymore but it was in the 1950s haha

[@chiarah8525]

@@verybarebones dunno about that one but I’m for sure privileged haha

[@TheEmbessyNetwork]

So, you can't wear animal prints at home. You can't wear cartoon prints at home. You can't wear T shirts at home. You can't wear yoga pants at home. So, are you just gonna be naked at home?! Cause I have roommates but I wanna be affluent....

[@MagpieGhost]

Elegant ladies probably don't have roommates 😏

[@bks6000]

She was wearing a shirt that looked very much like a T-shirt in part of the video.

[@aneta16822]

Hahahhaha 🤣 good one

[@leleste5465]

I think you can wear those at home and I think what she want you to wear at home is 1) lounge wear ( which is absolutely comfortable) 2) sleepwear

[@adagalant5413]

You wear matching sets of casmere or linen or even cotton. With pandemic fast fashion shops started to sell matching homewear sets that are of cotton or viscose

[@ilikechococookies342]

Now that I’ve finished the video and seen all the times Anna says something and then almost immediately contradicts herself, maybe her whole channel is ACTUALLY a genius subtle deconstruction of the arbitrary and impossible standards of patriarchal femininity, leading her viewers to eventually realise that this stereotypical image of elegance is an unattainable fiction designed to maintain the kyriarchy Or maybe Anna Bey has a whole lot of internalised misogyny and classism and instead of working through that she’s decided to try and profit off it, idk Either way someone telling me preemptively not to take offense at what they’re about to say before they say something super judgemental is a big ole’ red flag

[@tokkia1384]

*The elegant Cow* There is no creature of more grace Than the humble cow Moving slowly through the days Heeding only what is now. Humming slowly to herself A song of all that rushes by. No care has she of what shall be Or what has come to pass. To her the worries of the world Are smaller than a mustard seed Hidden in the grass. ...

[@ashleycook6025]

🤯 Bravo. I love it 💗

[@jasminebambury5841]

💛

[@leleste5465]

Hiding in the grass Is a lion 😕 The cow died The end

[@NenaColada]

Couldn't help but notice that classy home girl was wearing a t-shirt in her video. Suspish.

[@staceyg798]

I peeped that too! Sis cant even take her own advice smh

[@acmulhern]

My thoughts exactly. If you ask me, hypocrisy isn't very classy.

[@audeliatrahan4354]

it's a top, not a tshirt. She has adressed that on instagram and explained the difference :)

[@depressedcockroach4045]

@@audeliatrahan4354 if it looks like a shirt it's unclassy, since being classy is literally mostly about presence

[@sseraphim2818]

Pish posh....an elegant lady can elevate anything she wears without looking out of place. How dare you question that?

[@absolute-creature]

We saw what NOT to do, and what NOT to wear, but i still clueless to what to do and wear, i need MORE

[@justcallmeteacup4711]

"The birthday suit is not ladylike" Lol omg this was gold 😂 I used to be really into pursuing an elegant, classy, feminine lifestyle and while some of these principles really did improve my confidence, attitude, and goals for the better, a lot of it just made me stressed. I began to feel like nothing I was doing was good enough and was overly critical of my behavior, even in the comfort of my own home. I've learned to be all these things without torturing myself in the process

[@genderlessmonster4284]

Tara it's midnight here in europe 😰

[@Daye04]

Yeah. Some of us need to sleep. How can we sleep when there exists an unwatched Tara video? 😕

[@Lovelyduck10]

😥 Its 11:06pm where i am

[@yana33612]

it’s 11PM in the uk 😭

[@leashydt]

10am in NZ 😅

[@marte4808]

@@yana33612 same time zone✨

[@anaborja9724]

When she cut off at a T-shirt is only appropriate while taking a sh- I DIED omg I blame you Tara for the coffee and smoke up my nose, just letting you know lol

[@hermionestranger4964]

I forgot to mention this, but freaking I Love Lucy in the 1950's already made fun of "charm schools", and these "schools" HAVE NOT CHANGED A BIT SINCE THEN lmao

[@---nobody---]

I'm embarrassed by how long it took me to realize that the "o-a-f" in the title was the word oaf and not an acronym for something. 😅

[@elbowsbuns1896]

Oaf actually does stand for something! elegOnt clAssy afFluent

[@ThrottleKitty]

I watched this in a really elegant fancy turtleneck ... and a matching short skirt and rainbow colored thigh-high stockings. She didn't TECHNICALLY call out anything I have on, but I have feeling she'd object still! lol

[@allyrat]

hot tip for anyone who's still wearing yoga pants for comfort, you gotta go to wherever grandmas near you shop and get some of those baggy wide leg grandma pants. they're the comfiest thing ive ever worn and they always have massive pockets. they come in lots of cute grandma patterns and colours like pastels and flower prints too not that yoga pants are bad to wear out, but grandma pants are just way more comfy and also pockets

[@sonorasgirl]

Yeeeees…I converted to 70s style wide leg pants in my teens and in my 30s I still wear them and have NEVER. LOOKED. BACK. Or at my thighs to check for rashes. You don’t get em in Grandma pants.

[@anaerobic]

I literally inherited and had hemmed my grandmother's pants. I'm an icon now.

[@sarahtaylor4264]

My dream is to find those ridiculously wide leg pants that look like a skirt. It's challenging as a short, not quite plus size broke person actively avoiding fast fashion.

[@MagisterialVoyager]

Interestingly enough, some of my yoga pants do have pockets! 😂 It's very handy for various reasons.

[@stack-of-all-trades6689]

Ma'am using the word "minutiae" in a sentence is the most elegant thing I've ever witnessed

[@Tenebris_sidere]

Anna has an accent like she's from Poland 🤔 I am questioning myself "God why all of these mothers of glamour and patriarchy lovers live in my country"

[@goldenbird1030]

She is Swedish, actually.

[@spiritualgyal8742]

She’s Swedish but her mom is Russian. I’m not sure if her dad is Russian too or not

[@adamsmith7058]

@@spiritualgyal8742 Suspected she was some sort of Scandi. Someone, who apes the mores of the upper class the way she does, must hate the way her society turned out. Lol.

[@microsoftpainenthusiast8096]

@@tanyamoretz That’s what I thought too, that accent is unbeatable 😂 My 0.33 seconds long Google search said that she is originally from Estonia 🇪🇪 (which also leaves a chance that her parents spoke russian).

[@microsoftpainenthusiast8096]

@@spiritualgyal8742 her father is Finnish, as my super quick search tells me, but back then (in the late 80s - early 90s some Finnish people spoke russian too, so it may explain her accent).

[@Caio0_057]

"Elegant Ladies are not desperate for men" "And now please watch the 5 billion videos I made about how to spot and appeal to rich men"

[@natashataylor4090]

PLEAAASSEEE💀literally all I could think of

[@marte1376]

at least you can get better options hahahaha

[@berryyrreb1946]

So it makes her desperate ?

[@Caio0_057]

@@berryyrreb1946 I don't know if it would necessarily make her desperate, but I am using HER WORDS here. She said that elegant ladies are not desperate for men, which means that she must think that "less elegant" ladies are desperate for men. If she didn't think that, she wouldn't have mentioned it. Therefore she is making a distinction between wanting to appeal to men (which she really wants elegant ladies to do) and being "desperate" for men. I don't think that distinction is valid as it is inherently subjective and based on sexist stereotypes, so I decided to call her out on it.

[@sannouchka1]

Ahahhahahaha so true

[@Paroex]

Me, a Swedish person, within the first 2 seconds of Anna speaking: "Oh this woman is Swedish as all heck". Proceeds to look it up. She sure is. That has been my contribution of the day. Great video!

[@vulpesvelox617]

Oh gosh really? I was sure she was Russian because of her thick Russian accent. Shame on me, because I’m Russian tho and I couldn’t recognize my own accent 😀

[@ancali]

@@vulpesvelox617 me too! I could have sworn she was Russian from her accent. ...The more you know...

[@Paroex]

@@vulpesvelox617 It's weird because to me, personally, she sounds 100% Swedish. She was born and raised in Sweden (and was apparently a participant on the Swedish version of Love Island/Paradise Hotel), which would explain her accent. However, you're not entirely off-track. Apparently she has some Russian/Estonian/Finnish heritage on one of her parents' side (her last name was originally the Finnish-sounding Räty). That being said, it shouldn't (I'm not saying it 100% doesn't) affect her accent seeing as how she was born and raised in a Swedish-speaking household. But maybe you sniffed out something miniscule that isn't apparent to my Swedish ears. Simply that you're more adept at picking up on the Russian influence and I'm more adept at picking up on the Swedish, so we get different impressions from the same accent based on where we're from. :-)

[@racatiwood]

@@vulpesvelox617 IIRC, she was born in Estonia and grew up in Sweden, so maybe she speaks both Russian & Swedish at home?

[@danai4117]

Hmm I don't know, my slav-o-meter is ringing like crazy🤔