Help Me Cut Ties With My Toxic Mom! | KARAMO

[@smmythcrtr]

Two siblings in the same house can have two entirely different experiences, Jael being 15 when he was born is definitely enough time for her to experience and remember the abuse without the brother seeing or remembering.

[@WhynotParker]

Agree

[@hannibal-elmrs.6275]

THATS A FACT! My siblings are 15 yrs younger then me- they got a calm, patient, soccer mom- I got the stressed out young mom 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Nille0212]

​@@hannibal-elmrs.6275same!!! I'm 18 years older than my sister and I got the Tiger Mom, while she got the cool mom. My sister thinks that I'm lying about certain things that happened to me. She wasn't physically abusive, but she definitely traumatized me emotionally and mentally. I was seen as an extension of her instead of my own person. We are very similar but she's literally cussed me out about my dislike of cheese. FUCKING CHEESE!!! So I get it. It took my grandmother's dying to really bring us together and we're good now. But it was a 30 yr journey to get there.

[@reginabyrd8903]

You can tell that those siblings had a different mom.

[@alexish4542]

Exactly not including the toddler stage which means she was already legally grown by time he could really comprehend anything

[@liftedenergy3693]

The sad part is he will eventually see his mother's true colors and it will make him rethink his whole childhood.

[@joybirdine5273]

Most likely when he starts dating or gets married

[@s_lopez8052]

That boy shouldn't even be speaking because this is between the mom and sister and he has no idea of their relationship when he was born when she was 15

[@liftedenergy3693]

@@s_lopez8052 who silenced you when you were a child?

[@MScoachDANI]

Probably not, she was probably coddle him his WHOLE life

[@NatalieGibson-mo9kl]

Don't mother show color my do

[@brittanyhunter3331]

The son is the golden child, and the daughter is the scapegoat. The daughter has a completely different experience than the son, and the mother is projecting all of the things about herself that she doesn’t want to address in herself. Her mother is trying to control her every move, and keep her under her thumb forever.

[@phyliciataylor7226]

huh? The daughter made poor decisions and the son chose a different path. How is the daughter the scapegoat when was caught in a lie several times and stepped up for grandchildren. It isn't a figment of her imagination, the daughter was not fit to raise her children and the grandmother showed up. She is controlling to stop her daughter from falling again and her having to continuous bare the burdens of her child's mistakes. I will never help somebody again, people put you in their shit, then blame you for helping. The grandma should fully trust her daughter, but if she messes up again, just don't help. Simple enough.

[@t.antoinette2383]

I was just commenting about that. I very much so agree!

[@rnbsteenstar]

That's usually how those things go.

[@Shestheman013]

Typical narricist, they need one to belittle and pin everything on while rasing up another one. She had 15 years of her mother being whoever she was and being raised by a narricist can give you so much trama and that led the daughter to drinkning and other drug use. The son only saw the good version of mom. He got 19 years of good while the sister got dust and gaslighting.

[@Hephzibah_n_beulah]

Perfect example of raising your daughters and loving your sons So many toxic mothers out there projecting their shortcomings on their children ESPECIALLY their daughters

[@dannblair]

so true. i see that happening so much on my mother's side of the family. her sister always favored my cousin (her son) more than her two daughters. to the point where for awhile my cousins stopped talking to each other.

[@spattzliyah2.0]

@@dannblair not always like that but ok

[@Leeleesfiiles]

SOMEBODY SAID IT

[@Davonciaaa_Tv]

Yes this is so true

[@dannblair]

@@spattzliyah2.0 i just said i see that happening in MY family. i never said that it happens to everyone. read the comment before you reply

[@briannataylor2964]

I’m sorry but the brother aggravated me. He saying that he “really doesn’t care” about what his sister is saying is ridiculous. He didn’t see his mother’s abuse to her all he saw was the effects she had from the abuse.

[@glazzeddonut3317]

And that's on enableing gaslighting and resignation... ugh

[@ADayWithChelle]

yea, alot of his opinion and attitude about his sister I believe is due to the mother, sad

[@Jessthebes]

To me it seems like the daughter has a lot of trauma that nobody cares to acknowledge. They only see her “problematic” behaviour but they don’t care about why she’s acting like that

[@Rriellesmommy]

facts i went through a lot of the same things

[@kirascullark5224]

Yeah, trauma from her abusive so called Mother! She should get counseling and cut ties with her.

[@TruthPursuit]

If they didn’t care they wouldn’t be there

[@phyliciarobinson2056]

This is sooooo my life right freaking now 😣

[@jael-mariewade4510]

Thanks I have gone no contact and my older sibling has reached out and agrees my mom has a personality disorder we just can't figure out why she is so delusional but I do love her and I have tried everything to mend things but there is zero accountability and continued lies and accusations. It's a nightmare. Healing one day at a time tho and I have my kids back 😌. God is good.i enjoy seeing all the other opinions of those who are fooled by my moms perfect act. I'm used to that response. She counts on that.

[@keniasharpe1610]

Mama calmed down when she found out her daughter was not on drugs 😂😂😂

[@pixelk8261]

Oh for sureeeeee. Her attitude switched like THAT bc she was proven wrong in front of an audience

[@LovelyyyyyyDove]

Lmao 😂

[@foreverANDalways1106]

@@pixelk8261I think it was more relief that she was wrong and she can’t use that as a reason. She’s parenting in fear. And like Karamo said. She needs to now let go.

[@ADayWithChelle]

but she did not apologize,mor offer any comfort ( hug) when she seen her daughters emotions and tears

[@necee11]

The brother needs to just sit down and hush up. He clearly has no idea what is going on ...hes going off his mother's energy. The ending was the best part Lol Karamo says IT TOOK ME SOME TIME BUT WE GOT TO THE BOTTOM OF THIS SITUATION 🤗🤗🤗 Love me some Karamo!

[@Logantaliaferro]

Litterally because he said he doesn’t have. Relationship with his sister that’s sad

[@pennypillow4445]

the brother doesnt want to be the target of his mother's narcissism. he knows the mum is abusive to his sister but he doesnt care, hes too young to understand but im sure hes aware

[@VONiiE8]

@@pennypillow444519 is not too young to understand abuse.

[@Myshelleallen]

Boy bye! The brother is controlled by his mom . Her mom is full of it and I’m not sorry. I loved this so many people hold my pass against me it’s not fair! Baby girl keep doing you and take care of those babies !!

[@Morrisneuro83]

The mom is a straight narcissist just like my mom...she scapegoats her daughter because she hates herself and hides behind her daughters mistakes to cover her own....Karamo I love you so much for this episode!

[@prettygirltee8]

EXACTLY!!

[@sabrina21clark]

How does she scapegoat her daughter? By having custody of HER kids? How does she hate herself? She looks well, speaks well, isn't on drugs nor Marijuana, never been in rehab and never left her kids to be with a looser. I'm sorry for what happened to you. But not every mother/daughter problem dynamic is gonna be the same as yours. If you can't open up enough to see the difference here or at least see where the real problem is then you're not fully healed and should refrain from commenting on similar issues until you are. I understand a part of healing is relatability but you're only seeing from a narrow view. Prayers for you. 🙏🏾

[@jael-mariewade4510]

Also my mom is the pill popper not me she projects CONSTANTLY. I FEEL BAD FOR HER AND IM NOW NO CONTACT.

[@andrenemurdock8288]

@@jael-mariewade4510 you need to stop trying to play victim while slandering your mother. quit while you are ahead. you are just as toxic. stand up lady because this comment mean you are still sitting down.

[@jael-mariewade4510]

@Andrene Murdock with all due respect I have never said anything untruthful about my mother. You don't know us and you certainly don't know me. I have been on a good path for 2 yrs and my mother still continues to spread lies. Even now recently on my partner as well. My other siblings are now realizing the manipulative behaviors too. It is getting worse. You have never dealt with it so you don't know. I wish you well but please do not judge what you are not capable of understanding. Lying about child abuse is a serious thing and can ruin lives especially when things are made up. Cps did a recent visit with my kids and it came out that SHE is the only one who abuses them and lies on everyone else. WHY? I DONT KNOW AND IT DOESNT MAKE SENSE. She is also keeping my brother from currently going to college she will keep him home and control him as well. ✌️ I don't need you to understand I spoke my truth and I know the facts 💯

[@smustipher]

I LOVE how the mother came out and launched into an attack on the daughter. Kept up with accusation after accusation and denied ANY responsibility for the rift in the relationship. And the brother....a classic son husband. Tells his sister that she's "not a good person". Mom demanding a drug test, claiming that her daughter is "not emotionally present". Guess what, it isn't SAFE to be emotionally present in the presence of an abuser.

[@krystolyncarpio6010]

This!

[@nsenloo2685]

The 19 years old is a mama boy’s who see everything through his mom eyes. We see their relationship is different the way she behaves when she look at him.

[@carolynwhite9975]

I know what it feels like when your parents want let you live down your mistakes, constantly holding your mistakes against you, never seeing the good , the improvements, achievements you have made.

[@jael-mariewade4510]

It's even worse when they try to secretly turn your kids and your lovers against you because of how they feel about you. But live and let live. Life must go on. Doubting yourself 24 7 can only happen if you allow them to change the way you feel about yourself. And we not doing that!!

[@brittanyhunter3331]

In reality, your parents hold you to a higher standard than they held themselves, and 9/10 made the same or worse mistakes themselves. I know mine have, yet they are so punitive and judgmental, and won't acknowledge all of the growth and achievement.

[@kilambuchapula5955]

But we’re all human so you can’t really blame your parents for feeling that way because you’ve been like that. But your parents also need to understand that you’re changing

[@theobserver8]

@@kilambuchapula5955 what exactly do you mean by that?

[@kilambuchapula5955]

@@theobserver8 it’s hard for people to understand that you’re changing when all they have seen is how you were. I’m not saying the mom is write but the has the benefit of doubt

[@melyblazegardens1883]

This is the most genuine talk show host I’ve ever watched. He truly cares for his guest and audience. Karamo heals families and relationship’s and gives his guest the strength and tools they need to cut toxic people from their life.

[@lisapolk9391]

And she is right her brother do not know in the last 15 years he wasn't there.

[@COURTNEYVCK]

Right he needs to sit down, shut up and stay out of it

[@klove7365]

I totally get where the daughter is coming from when she tells her brother you do not know mom like I know her. She like the boy has been brainwashed from his momma. I’m sure the mother treats him way better.

[@jael-mariewade4510]

Im glad some people can see what's going on. Scary shit and I look back and wonder why she do these things to me and then deny it. She would probably deny ever even being on the show🙄

[@klove7365]

@@jael-mariewade4510 so sad I’ve seen these exact same things going on in my family.

[@missluxxe6541]

Frrrr it’s like they were bullying her up there

[@klove7365]

@@missluxxe6541 she needs to just live her life without them.

[@missluxxe6541]

@@klove7365 agreed

[@tashacraig4999]

I love the fact Jael is admitting to her mistakes. Stay focus love ❣️🌹❣️

[@unknownuser7064]

I feel like her mom is ignoring how she feels and how she is trying to do better for herself and her kids

[@jael-mariewade4510]

She has always been like this and it's getting worse. She has made up the abuse accounts as well and I am tired of arguing and trying to prove myself. Me taking back control has caused her to completely lash out and now I'm no contact for my own mental sanity.

[@mahoganyshanae6116]

@@jael-mariewade4510 I been through this as well. I cut my mother and sister out 3 years ago. Go on with your life u can do it

[@torronbrown4107]

My mom does the same

[@britonyabanks]

Hang in there Love. You got this. You’ve done the work. We are so proud of you!!

[@MimiTthatsMe]

It seems as though the mother doesn't want to address what her daughter feels about her.... so she attacks her daughters motherhood

[@camsmith931]

Very insightful observation!

[@krystolyncarpio6010]

Bingo!

[@reddalchemy5970]

I literally stopped talking to my mother after the very last straw that broke my back. She treated me like crap growing up and never really showed any interest in me or showed any love for me at all. She always treated my brother like platinum and there was always a sense of hatred toward me. I felt horrible all the way into my adult years and a few years ago I finally had it. I Haven't spoke to her in at least 6 years, and have no idea if she is still living or not. During the coronovirus outbreak, and me living in Cali at the time, I did not get one single phone call or reach out from her or my family to even see if I was okay. I consider them to be strangers that I lived with and when people ask me about my "family," I say I am an Orphan. I have had such peace since breaking with them and live a nice and quiet life, with no drama at all.

[@mamoonunpretty3439]

Hope you doing Well today

[@tammiross6427]

❤🙏🏾

[@carolinekamya2339]

boy - golden child - daughter - scapegoat - mom - narc big time

[@klove7365]

Facts 👏

[@sandylane5498]

Nailed it!

[@tcrump212IsLmbrJck_t]

Jael is giving "FREE" energy. It's the WHOLENESS for me.

[@tatiunamatthews9145]

SOME PEOPLE TAKE THEIR OWN LIFE AND THEIR CHIDRENS WHEN THEY HAVE MENTAL BREAKDOWNS, This woman is trying and she is healing! Kepp up all your hard work. We all go through depression but brighter days are ahead.

[@7Tiffany]

I just want to say, if you are a parent who is struggling and you feel the need to contact CPS, do it! There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking for support and resources!

[@patricianyandoro5606]

Do they allow you to take back your kids when you are ready

[@davis5218]

I just want to say I definitely agree with your comment and my name is Tiffany Davis also so Hey Girl!

[@7Tiffany]

@@davis5218 Heyyy 💜

[@keepingupwithtristan]

I WISH I HAD THE BALLS.......

[@Prettypaid16]

@@patricianyandoro5606 no it’s gonna take a minute

[@pennypillow4445]

its not actually about the daughter, the mum is projecting everything she hates about HERSELF onto her own daughter. she sees her missed youth, all the nights looking after the daughter. mothers like this are vile, they know how to act in front of people but behind closed doors they are the most abusive

[@1tressaht]

That was exactly my family. It's actually scary. She was 15 when he was born. Of course he has no relationship and had a completely different mother.

[@ClayMastah344]

TOTALLY different parent.

[@ahearttoascend]

Go Jael go! I believe her. I wish nothing but more blessings, more health & healing, more open doors, & more happiness for her and her children. They deserve it!💕

[@FRANKIBABI_]

I believe the daughter and the son is on his mom's side which means he's gonna move how his mom moves because him and his sister don't have a relationship it's like he don't even know her🤦🏾‍♀️

[@sabrina21clark]

The son spoke on he and his sister's absent relationship. He didn't even speak on he and his mother's relationship. He also spoke about having to speak directly to CPS on separate occasions. Y'all see and hear what you want to!

[@FRANKIBABI_]

@@sabrina21clark no what he did was lie on here about CPS, let mee tell you something if CPS come 3 times you better believe some kind of action is gonna take place what he did was take his mother side.

[@sabrina21clark]

@@FRANKIBABI_ not true. It depends on the severity of the case. And if there are family members that will help they will let them take the kids.

[@thatonepersonyouknowtheper1741]

@@sabrina21clark if he talked to cps that much and they still didn’t take her kids then the people calling cps were either lying about the situation or over exaggerating it. It’s super easy to get cps to take action when a mother is actually abusive. Even in cases where mothers aren’t abusive but lack finances they could lose custody. It seems like her mom was making false claims to cps, cps opened a case, talked to family and searched for evidence of abuse, didn’t find any, and closed the case.

[@pixelk8261]

Also with sons of narcissistic mothers, they are often seen as the golden child that cannot do any wrong. The sons (especially little brothers) witness how disobeying the mother can escalate, and they want to avoid that conflict. It's also EASIER for them to avoid that conflict, bc the mom is usually much more lenient with sons - the mom sees her own self hatred in her daughter, so she projects onto her

[@jael-mariewade4510]

I appreciate everyone's feedback. Happy New Year!

[@sareyah_lxnai]

Happy new year!!! I hope everything is well for u and ur family❤

[@makaylahenry79]

You need to listen to your mother because when she’s gone no one is gonna love your kids like her. You may have been hurt in the past but your mother is right!

[@christinalewis3635]

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[@AminaBeans205]

Why did you leave your kids with your mom if you think she’s toxic?

[@anaisjohnson1880]

Happy new years and God will Lead The WAY 🙏😇💪

[@LifeMyAsJoana223]

It’s the fact she call the cps on herself because she was out of control and had nobody else to lean on!! leaving her kids with her mother would be a worst option than leaving them with a stranger!!! That says everything you need to know. Good job on holding yourself accountable! You are strong and beautiful 🌸 you did rehab and got the custody of your kids!!! She is doing more than fine 🌼 mom needs to stop using this narrative to control her. I would quickly move away from her.

[@candy123444]

This Mom said she's never done anything. She lost me right then. I believe the daughter. She stepped up and owned her mess. Her mother owned nothing. What I will give her is that she took her grand kids in. Mine did nothing for my child, so kudos to her for that, but she needs to face her faults.

[@thephoenixrising4614]

The minute the Mother said "I never did anything...."- Lies lady. Lies.

[@jael-mariewade4510]

Zero accountability for anything and never will. I love her but I had to let go and move on. At least now I know she thinks I'm a drug addict liar who abuses her kids. At least I got to hear it straight from her mouth and not other people. Closure was needed.

[@334steven3]

@@jael-mariewade4510 I truly hope you’re at peace now!

[@heathab...._-_]

@@jael-mariewade4510 just hope you don't run off with another man again an drop your kids off with your mom so you can be free

[@poohchi6205]

Where is the lie? She take care of her kids. Y’all sooooo traumatized adults go see a dam therapist and stop blaming your parents

[@thephoenixrising4614]

@@jael-mariewade4510 I'm so happy for you. Healing, growth and closure. We as daughters deserve peace.

[@YOUR-WORD-IS-YOUR-BOND]

I had to cut ties with a few family members... the generational curses, dysfunctional behaviors, toxicity mindset, gossiping lies, and their thoughts of who we are were uncanny... The grandparents said who we are, but once the generational transitioned, the next generation came up with a whole different story... I can't deal with all of that mess!

[@CfrmBr]

Life is too short fa da unnecessary bs tbh

[@zohrabaybay]

The little brother needed to stay in a child’s place.

[@caramelzz38mmines31]

Amen!!!❤

[@SweetUareDesi]

This woman is hella self aware- damn❤. I want a girl friend like her🥇

[@brittbritt6857]

BayBee, you did an awesome job getting both of them to agree to respect each other's space & trust each others headspace

[@terrencehead6213]

Her family is gaslighting her, making her seen crazy, they know exactly what there doing. 😮

[@MissTreStar]

I never understood how people can “cry” without shedding a tear😳 sobbing, sniffling, blinking yet not a tear in sight. Sure comes in handy when you don’t wanna mess your makeup. Glad Karamo was able to get to the bottom of it though.

[@ClayMastah344]

Unsurprised. Treat daughter like shit and gaslight her, treat boy like gold and use him against her, next caller.

[@JillianSmall_ChildofGod]

Wow that son is full of it. He needs to take several seats. The mother is a toxic narcissist who is accusing her daughter of things she herself is guilty of. Unbelievable.

[@angelphilbert1200]

The mother came to fight. Even her clothing shows how she wants to be combative. The brother is still living in the home with the mom. He truly cannot speak about things he knows nothing about. Jael should stay away from her mother. When the mother asked for Jael to do a blood test, she looked disappointed when she passed.

[@Aqua-sm5lf]

She say her mom is toxic but I bet no one else was going to step up to the plate to take care of those kids for her.

[@tracijvanderbilt7552]

Whew chile us 80s baby mannnn our parents did a number on us and will never admit to their faults. I'm 37 and gave up on those conversations with my parents

[@klove7365]

Yes they never will admit there faults ,then want to tell you how to raise your children

[@dendenne4856]

And when you gave up on them, they complain because you never talk to them. This is an endless cycle, since I stopped trying with my mom my life is more peaceful

[@tracijvanderbilt7552]

@@dendenne4856 Mines is peaceful as well. I love my parents from a distance and nothing is wrong with that❤

[@branbranshenanigans1693]

This!!!!! I'm 41 years old and still not entitled to my own opinion.

[@Alien_Super_Star]

This is my mom’s situation. She’s an 80s baby with an abusive mom. My grandmother did apologize, especially when she was on her death bed. But it was too late because my mother still harbored hatred towards her.

[@salemhopson7676]

I get so sick to my stomach watching this, but feel so seen. it's very bittersweet. this is the biggest example i can show of the difference in daughters and sons to their mothers.. And her brother has been an ear to all of his mother's grievances, and he doesn't know anything other than that or before him. it makes me so sick how he's been turned fully against her.

[@1991Meka]

7yrs ago I was very overwhelmed by life. I was MISERABLE at my job, behind on bills, and dealing with my child's unreliable father, all while being pregnant. So I was vulnerable with my only sibling and told her that sometimes I don't want to wake up she told me she was going to call CPS on me. Huh? I didn't say I was going to hurt my kids or myself. I said Iife is getting the best of me and I need a break. How about let me take the kids for a few days. Luckily, God held my hand through the storm and pulled it together.

[@raindrops4284]

The daughter so ready and happy to tell all her business

[@katherineraquelle1930]

I need to be on this show and bring my narc mom on it too 😊😂 lmao ❤

[@victoriaaa4865]

was just tellin my sister we need to bring our dad on here

[@t.antoinette2383]

If the mother is a true narcissist the son could very well be the Golden Child and have been manipulated by the mother to go against his sister.

[@jvmcghee854]

This story hits home now that I am older with my own children, motherhood is hard and no one is perfect- everyone has a past. I like the fact that Jael is standing in her truth and trying to do better. The mom for me has a past too so we don't know the whole story, but you can see that there are scars on both sides and the advice Karamo has given was spot on. In my opinion, cutting ties is never the answer because the trauma & issues will still there. It's all about establishing boundaries in relationships, whether its her mom, brother, her man.... she has to determine what she will and will not tolerate. If its space you need- take it. LOVE IS THE MEDICINE.

[@Brook-ct3kk]

Karami missed the mark! He never questioned the mother’s behavior

[@PrettyColorsDoe]

He realized they’re one in the same and stuck to the facts presented to him

[@jolonda6961]

He always misses the mark! Always!

[@fawn4271]

He often misses the mark, just like with defending the pink sauce lady

[@poohchi6205]

What behavior exactly that her daughter going through something that’s why she does not have her children? Bcuz she spoke about the situation? Bcuz CPS had to speak with the family? All I heard was the mother speaks facts. If you want to say inappropriate or rude that she explaining or answering a question …..oh well it’s fact. I would not bite my tongue. The truth is the truth sugar coat it or hide it for what? To protect the daughter feelings???? Did she consider her mother feelings dropping her kids off

[@teegreen3909]

Yea he is basic

[@kathysneed4020]

I celebrate this young lady for getting to a better place in life. And thanks grandma! I think both ladies have their truths. It’s hard dealing with folks who are on drugs, so grandma had a point. They both will do best by leaving the past in the past.

[@helenburke3499]

Back in 1977, I joined the women's army back here in the uk, to get away from my toxic mother...watching from the south east of England 🇬🇧

[@marierosario2773]

I love that he actually gives great advice

[@yve747]

I really enjoyed KARAMO SHOW..I love how he listens to his guest and how he comes out with the right results..He’s super handsome, so cool, compassionate, soft spoken and, Karamo treats all his guest so nicely and respectful,toward all his guests..Karamo Show is going to be around for a longtime..kudos to Karamo Show keep doing what you doing on your show..It’s helping many people’s..I will be watching all his videos..

[@ThatGirlGiGiNYC]

We need to talk about the toxic relationships that African American women have with their moms…This is not surprising…I know a number of women who have cut their mother's off because of toxicity! Mothers are sometimes jealous of their daughters…but we dont want to talk about that!

[@toombs6287]

Story of my life

[@ThatGirlGiGiNYC]

@@toombs6287 it's so crazy but real!!

[@shay789]

True.Not only African Americans but black mums in general.I am African,and my narc mum treated her sons like golden kids.My narc mum literally brainwash her sons into hating me.I really can't understand what some mums have against their daughters.

[@ThatGirlGiGiNYC]

@@shay789 That is your experience but I have run into soooo many African American women who have TOXIC relationships with their mothers

[@Poptartsthatareplain101]

I love how the host really respected everybody in this episode. That is a good man and a good person.

[@bgipper4109]

There is no shame in making mistakes in your past, owning up to them, and then doing what you need to do to move forward. Mom is toxic, our mothers gave birth to us but that doesn’t make them a amazing mother. There is a difference.

[@quianapreston8513]

Daughter still looking for mother's hugs

[@Kisses2die4]

Sadly it don’t happen often

[@amsay9688]

this video right when I needed it im currently having a headache depressed in my bed.

[@pinkunicorn359]

I’m sorry to hear this but keep going and keep pushing. It’ll get better very soon, I promise 😘❤️

[@jozey555]

SAME LOL

[@terrisilaphoenix3695]

Jael needs to cut ties with her mother period and her brother. Live her own life. Bye mom.

[@CoffeeandCreamBookclub]

I like this show. The host is such a positive light.

[@Matilda-re1wm]

My mother would never even come on something like this. They act innocent but they know fine well what they’ve done. They’re very aware. They do know what they are.

[@sherikaofficial8079]

I think there is so much more left unsaid between both parties , I don't think this is properly resolved

[@jael-mariewade4510]

You're right but half the stuff she had to say about me was the first time I was able to hear it from her mouth to my face so that was good to know she thinks I'm a pathological liar and bad mom. Bc I had only heard those things through other people before. So it let me have closure.

[@wentoshiarichards1690]

@@jael-mariewade4510 I'm glad you and your kids are doing well ❤️‍🩹 You hold the power so this doesn't become a generation issue cut the toxicity out(mom, so called friends, siblings, whomever, and whatever) so ur not dealing with this from your children when they're grown I'll keep you in prayer God Bless you 🙏🏽

[@insydi0us92]

That would take 3 episodes lol

[@dianamosley540]

He played around that mother/ brother jealous envious mean behavior I know I'm a mom with a first born man child that treats me this same way due to my horrible past choices in life😭 Baby the struggle is real 😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@nakuro2686]

Damn kids born in the late 80s and 90s have been severely traumatized! Like damn!

[@veronicawiltshire682]

I am so proud of the daughter, when you can see that you need help and make a decision you are going to get it, that is a big plus, your mother did not even congratulate you on getting this far, she is ready to say all the things you were doing, making it more difficult to more dangerous drugs, You are a beautiful person, hold your head high and do not let your mother pull you down if she was as good a mother as she is trying to say she is, she would have stopped smiling with her lies and hugged you for taking such a huge step to change for you and your children, only God knows what you went through as a child with her, she like she never like you. I am rooting for you so continue on this path, even if you can ease off the marijuana do it also....love that you took that step🙏🙏🙏❤

[@onlythebrave4655]

my mother is a mess too.all ties cuts.

[@TCA4381]

I really love Karamo’s advice

[@georgia1191]

I’m so proud of the daughter and I love KARAMO!! PERIODT

[@trinityrae409]

I thought I loved Steve and Jerry etc and the subtle love yourself advice etc but this man hits different! So much truth in what he speaks.

[@deliciahudson1529]

I feel her.... The grown daughter.

[@alwaysaccurate8725]

This boy is not going to see it until he is grown and she rippes all his girlfriends out his life❤❤❤

[@mayawilkins9365]

as someone who WAS the golden child of a narcissist parent, he will realize everything that his mom was telling him was just to divide and accomplish her own ulterior goals. She wants him on her side to vouch and verify HER perspectives based on “experiences” she’s fed him about his sister. like she said she’s had to live and deal w her mom over a decade before him.

[@groundzero2088]

Younger siblings always have SOOOOO much to say abt trauma that happened before they were there. smh.

[@desiprioleau]

Like sit down and stfu 🙄 He already said he has no relationship with his sister, so what would he know considering that and the age gap? He’s young though

[@groundzero2088]

@@desiprioleau 1. Stfu is crazy to someone you don't know💀 2. You LITERALLY proved my point. They are close, like you said, and there's a large age gap, LIKE YOU SAID, so how would he know anything. Simple: he wouldn't. And therefore he shouldn't be raising his voice at her and borderline gaslighting and invalidating her feelings when he WASN'T THERE.

[@castrolauraand5588]

She's playing in the victim triangle. We all fall in those patterns when our family has been unhealthy, we have been programed to fail in that way. They will fight to keep us acting like that. It's better to separate to truly heal

[@COURTNEYVCK]

Who’s playing the victim triangle? The mom or the daughter?

[@lifeofneacy3891]

@@COURTNEYVCK I would said the mother is

[@lala_la25]

Your show is so good but so short! Please give us longer episodes

[@sueparks-ld4ru]

hes amazing and right the mother was just worried for her and the kids,i hope now they can fix all the problems

[@katherinegruber499]

Reminds me of my mom. I recently cut her off. She played the victim the whole time in group therapy. She was crying about how she helped me so much with my kids and did nothing wrong. She also talks terribly about me to other people and is extremely controlling. My mom told me my sister doesn’t care about me and my kids and is jealous of us. Enough was enough.

[@jael44598]

it’s so crazy to hear someone else have my name😭😍 jael is so uncommon

[@rororidley5829]

I thank the Universe for my mother. ❤

[@mrs.reeves1006]

So, Gmama is SO toxic she abandoned them in her care🤔

[@heathab...._-_]

EXACTLY what I just said

[@oceanbella]

I've seen this plenty of times, with my aunt for example... they would literally treat the grandkids way better than they treat their actual children it's weird..

[@Marina-dl2bg]

@@oceanbella true. My mom was not a good mother but she is my sons favorite person.

[@pariikayy6472]

Yea My Mom Doesn't Love Me . Thats Just How I Feel But She Does For My Children But Me And Her Dont Get Along

[@mrs.reeves1006]

@Parii Kayy do your children feel the same about you? What dysfunctional characteristics have you corrected to prevent a similar relationship between you and yours? Children emulate what they see, hear and experience.

[@mines5033]

Her mom didn't have to care for her kids when she ran off either. They both need help

[@papinaomi7808]

She didnt but she chose to

[@heathab...._-_]

EXACTLY my point, if her mother was so bad why leave them there

[@julianna0404]

@@heathab...._-_ Based off all the things going on in that part of her life, i don't think she had the money for a nanny for 2 years . Lol

[@Sabrewood13]

@@heathab...._-_ she probably didn’t wanna drive off the cliff with them

[@ashwiththebash6905]

Mothers who did wrong by their children tend to look for a second chance through their grandkids

[@ablacksquare]

I was mad confused at first. Karamo hit the nail on the head.

[@jollymollyramram9702]

Her mother is very overbearing - shutting down any attempt from her daughter to address how she feels. Very cold. And the brother, maybe he was nervous, but he came across a bit cocky and may have been fed some lies about his sister to be like this.The daughter seems like a good person I just hope she doesn’t smoke weed in front of her children. That’s unacceptable in my opinion, just as with cigarettes. Always take that outside.

[@vivicasmith5376]

The mom probably takes care of the brother still so he has no choice but to side with the mom

[@toombs6287]

💯💯💯💯

[@klove7365]

Facts

[@Ebony5001]

Pathetic typical anyways

[@SharonPHolliman]

I LOVE HER ATTITUDE FOR LIFE!!!! GOD KNOWS THE REAL TRUTH AND HE WILL AVENGE THE RIGHTEOUS JUSTLY.❤❤❤

[@armenthiagarmon]

The brother was born when she was 15 a really critical age of a young girl who needs and wants the attention of her mother. What may seem trifling to one maybe paramount to another, especially in a child. Girls tend to be more vocal than boys, emotions can be all over the place. I think mom and daughter needs stop judging each other for the past and in their future come up with a workable plan for their future.

[@LachelleDaBarbie]

This definitely hits home for me because as a scapegoat I literally deal with the same damn thing I can not wait until I get out of this situation my mother is definitely a narcissist she does not want me to be independent, she is always in competition with me and displays her jealousy onto me when she see that I am doing good. We cant choose our parents but we can choose peace over toxicity. I feel so bad for this beautiful young lady I hope she cut all ties with her mother and may peace and blessings come to babygirl❤️🙏🏽

[@LachelleDaBarbie]

Jaydon definitely irritates me because the fact that he is trying to make his sister look like the villain when she is the victim is sickening. Ugh like mother like son he definitely acts just like his mother its funny how he thinks just because he is the "golden child" or the "bread winner" that he wont go through the same situation his sister is going through trust me narcissistic mothers are manipulative they like for people to "pick their side" he is falling right into his mothers traps. I went through a similar situation and my brother tried to make it seem as if I was the "bad guy" and now he realizes that our mother is toxic it took him a while to understand where I was coming from.

[@nayilahhassan3064]

That mother is clearly jealous of her daughters happiness because her talking down on her own daughter to tear her down shows how miserable she is and negative, I’m so happy for this young woman for improving herself and she needs to cut her mother and that brother off because their energy is negative and toxic, drop both of them and continue to be amazing and be a good mother✨💜💯

[@angelacleveland75]

Once she admitted to dropping her children off with her mom, she lost all credibility. Your mom was so horrible that you left your offspring with her? Miss me with that BS.

[@angeldiannah8306]

There’s a lot of blame and not a lot of accountability

[@mariacrouch7109]

What matters is now and that what counts and parents aren't perfect they make mistakes they either fix them mistakes or they don't

[@km-yaheard]

The 19 year is judging her as well. The attitude and the lack of empathy is the first thing I saw. Whether he admits it or not, he has been brainwashed to see her in a certain light

[@deliciahudson1529]

By the 4th minute when she described her mom, hits home a little.

[@reginaharrigan7454]

Her mom full of it and her brother seems like a mom's boy good luck with that

[@NickyM_0]

American 'adults' need to get over themselves and GROW UP! I've never heard the word 'trauma' used in any culture like this victim embracing and blaming culture. It is sickening. This generation of adults seem so emotionally immature. Get a back bone for crying out loud. And this TOXIC culture of cutting off your parents is reprehensible.

[@Mrturtle.4]

I believe tht the mom genuinely loves her kids and grandkids, but she has probably been taught some toxic behaviors that she hasn't recognized yet. The same is happening with the son. The mom has painted a bad image of his sister. But overall I think they all have some work that needs to be done

[@_Stiltzkin_]

A bit weird to see how they completely disregarded the abuse part coming from the mother to focus on her perception of her daughter and how she is “forced to back off” now. Not even a mild acknowledgment in the final decision, just past as “her in defensive mode”.

[@angelicmedrano3032]

I'm 10 years older than my only brother. We have the same mom and dad, but a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT set of parents. They did their best with both of us, but 10 years of maturity made a difference

[@diamonddb]

Whew!! She described my mother! Which is why I cut mine off and refuse to look back.

[@bem6344]

My mom so toxic! I'm tired of trying. I feel your pain!!