Here Is A Critical Mistake That People Who Deal With Narcissist Make

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[@SONAAwareness]

One common mistake narcissist make is underestimating the people they pick to target! They think that nobody will ever be able to see through there bs. That’s why they are appalled, angry, and aggressive when we become stronger, wiser and better!

[@JAZZLlFE]

Narcissists are the demons mentioned in Matthew 12: 43-45: “When an unclean spirit (has been cut off from their supply...you) he goes through dry places, seeking rest, and finds none. Then he says, ‘I will return to my house from which I came (you).’ And when he comes, he finds (you... emotionally free from their insanity) swept and put in order. Then he brings seven other spirits more wicked than himself (and charms his way back in) and they enter and dwell there; and the last state of that person (you )is worse than the first. A narcissists objective is to kill you, steal your joy & to destroy you...Narcissists are demonic spirits.

[@awakeandalive3020]

"Some people are just beautifully-wrapped boxes of shit." This applies to their charm, to their charisma, and to all of the other "attributes" that they pull out of their manipulation tool-boxes.

[@della3793]

For anyone out there that needs to hear this... Keep holding on, it does, with time get better, the pain & trauma lessens, I promise. Heal at your own speed, your own time. You really do got this more than you realize. 💕XxxHUGSxxX💕

[@paulaelectrabrandqvist8795]

The biggest mistake i ever did was letting the narcissist back in after a year of no contact . He came back only to destroy me 100%

[@susmitak311]

The sociopath/covert narc husband was Prince Charming before marriage and became Prince Harming just after marriage.

[@grantderby216]

Once you get on their bad side, there's no turning back. Narcissists are always in survival mode. Thanks for another informative video. God bless.

[@avionnathomas6351]

The charm is what made me look beyond the fact that he wasn't even " my type"...

[@jokristian3651]

They are MASTER MANIPULATORS. My goodness,if I only knew then what I know now.Im still in shock and still trying to recover it's been 11 months.

[@NarcissisticAbuseRehab]

Charm before harm 🔮 It’s the first stage of manipulation 🤹‍♀️ Excellent message on one of the earliest red flags 🚩

[@billhoward532]

One reason narcissists adopt a 'charming' exterior initially on meeting is that if they revealed the disgusting, revolting, foul, shocking, shameful activities they are actually involved in you would projectile vomit rather than want to associate with them.

[@jmv1067]

" A shitshow is a description of an event or situation that takes an unexpected turn and is thrown into chaos. It’s another word for a complete mess. " 👌🎯😅❤❤❤

[@macrod38]

Dealing with a narcissist is like dealing with a traffic light thats always yellow. Its never green so you can just move ahead or never red so you can completely stop,its always should i speed up and try to make it? Should i slow down and be cautious. One thing for sure though,when you're always going through yellow lights sooner or later youre gonna crash

[@bebetorr8649]

My salute to you Mr Quinn. You been the person that has helped me through this journey of healing after dealing with a narcissist for over 20yrs. No contact since 2018. May the lord keep blessing you with all this wisdom that has help so many.💕

[@paratrooper73]

When the mask slipped I actually had to say: who the hell are you mirroring now?! That's not my behaviour! My god, you are the worst actor ever!😂

[@lauradanielle1343]

Tyler Perry’s movie “A Fall from Grace” was a great example of how a Narc charms you at first only to destroy you later. It was hard to watch because it triggered a lot of things for me. They have a technique like no other. Pure predators targeting prey. My ex Narc left in May of 2019 and my life has been so much better without him.

[@QuentinSealy]

I have learned over the years from dealing with these toxic types to trust what the ENERGY says. ENERGY NEVER lies!! What you see isn't what your instincts are telling you. Once you get good at reading a person's energy, it's all downhill for those cluster B types.

[@valariemundy2012]

I remember thinking when he and I first started talking, the calling and texting first thing in the morning (basically paying me so attention I think)... I remember things wow his complements are just way over the top. That was my first red flag 🚩. My body actually picked up on it, but a I ignored it

[@shamariepierce1351]

I hate that I'm a empath. I saw from day one the red flags. But I will say this, I really learn from my ex narc. The second I see or feel that it's not right for me, or he has narcissist actions... I leave them where he stands.

[@NarcSurvivor]

The biggest mistake you can ever make with a narcissist is trusting them to do the right thing.

[@Betternow1974]

Well, I was needy, I felt extremely alone, over the top vulnerable, newly clean off methamphetamine and booze and going through oral cancer treatment. I was in a new town about 1 yr, and I wasnt secure with my supports in Alcoholics Aynonymous. And....I was online searching, dying for someone to validate me and very frankly, save me😫😥 I ignored 3 very or more red flags because...now heres the words. I WAS DESPERATE. That's how he got in and he said everything right.

[@sarahjohnson8514]

This is why I can’t wait for you to do a video on the older narcissist. They become very overt and blurt out all kinds of things that give them away!

[@sophiadilworth885]

They tell on themselves all the time

[@ladyday438]

If you been alone for a while or may be emotionally needy for love then you are ripe pickings for the narcissist. They will play on your needs and use your needs and desires against you. They will pretend to be the one who will fulfill your needs but this is all a big illusion. A narcissist's intent is to butter you up only to burn you for their own selfish needs.

[@marcateyes87]

I just broke up with my narc today it took three days of arguing with him to leave my apartment. I had to play like I was upset to get him to leave he had the nerve to throw the key at me then ask for it back. I said no he then took a knife and the fur coat I bought for Christmas and said if I didn’t give him the key back he will cut up the coat. Well guys the coat is destroyed but I have my peace.

[@girlynerds611]

The charm stops as soon as they know you're not going anywhere!

[@ericking4072]

EVERYTHING YOU SAID IS TRUE&EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED TO ME FOR 15 YEARS.😡😡😡

[@jewelsbarbie]

Mine was a *Master* charmer & future faker ...he knew exactly how to keep me hooked on the line. He would fake chaos- get in minor car accidents, “business deals” falling through and people constantly “f_cking him over”, come down with a “mysterious illness” and he could possibly need surgery (months down the line, and of course he was always fine). He did all this to delay what he promised. The caretaker in me was constantly trying to fix his fake problems, and solve all of his “stress”. It’s crazy to look back and see how he did it. It was so subtle at first (went on for years), then when he amped it up, I didn’t even think it could be all BS until everything was just obviously BS. They don’t usually let u see it until you’re so invested; you can’t imagine just leaving it all behind and accepting you wasted all those years of your life. By that time, you’re also likely suffering from PTSD/CPTSD and losing your mind (brain fog & cognitive dissonance) and health (auto immune disorders, muscle and joint pain, weight loss/gain, severe anxiety, panic attacks, sleep problems etc).

[@peaceofmindofpeace1650]

They act nice at first but some will be bluntly, mean and direct in a rejecting way already after day one or two. It's like injection of xtc and in the other hand they hold the injection with rejection poison. It's subtle but the underlying stabs are there quickly mixed through their charming smile and words. With most of them I feit little stabs from the day of the encounter but it was done in a teasing way. Not a genuine teasing but was bullying and mockery. Narcissists are mocking our human honour and dignity.

[@antoinettegorman8833]

This information on npd should be thought in our school curriculum for our younger generation to help bring this to light to put a stop to destroying youth and bring awareness

[@KimK_AllDay]

I was "awesome, beautiful, stunning" almost on a daily basis. He was soooo lucky to be in my life. Just words to keep the fuel flowing. I can't believe I fell for the BS. The ex narc was malignant, he had all 9 narcissistic traits and practiced witch craft. Always talking about putting a curse on anyone who crossed him. 90 days no contact, no lies, no triangulation, no manipulation, no future faking. I am free💪

[@alexandreledieu1205]

they get into your heart so they can tear your brain apart

[@CopperMoon4747]

"Even a con can be conned." Direct quote from Frank Abagnale, Jr

[@miragepeter8412]

Key words: "NOT Direct". In other words; people who agree with everything you do or say in the beginning watch out! BIG RED FLAG!

[@dmojor8788]

Just remember, anytime a narcissist offers you a hand to shake, the other hand is holding a club behind their back.

[@kendraheard9100]

This reminds me of those old school lifetime movies..with all those men who started off being very charming...turned out to be rapists..muderers..psychopaths..

[@onecent3]

OMG !! You hit the nail on the head. I fell for that "Charm" and paid dearly for doing so...

[@faresalynch4978]

Being in a relationship with a narcissist will iturn your world into a tailspin nothing but chaos misery and hurt get out now!

[@kennypurnell7228]

it took me three years... started out with me thinking it was me... then it went to me trying to figure out what was wrong with her .... to learning about Narcissism itself and just how terrible the disorder is... i thought i would be the first one to manage it and keep my third marriage together... well that was a joke... it got worse.. it got ugly... now she is gone and i feel the aftermath still... thanks to brotha Quinn for making sense of it all.

[@anneneem]

I think they (some of them) genuinely like the things they flatter us about. Bpd do that too. They really feel the admiration they have toward you, but with a switch, depending on the day, the mood, maybe you said something, stared at them wrong, paff! Devaluation. They also feel the opposite of you, with a flick of a second. That's why sometimes when we're being devalued we take the blame on ourselves, we think maybe if we hadn't said or done that thing, it wouldn't have triggered them. But we have to remember that these broken beings also play the same game within their heads about their own self-esteem.

[@stephenwilliams6294]

it takes half the time the whole relationshit lasted, say you have been in a relationshit for 3 years then it will take about 1½ years to fully heal, a little bit longer if your a nice guy and been played by a narcisist then add a ½ year more.. Time will heal you . Stay strong and authentic to your inner child, look after him, remember your feelings are your friends listen to them all of them, then you wont get fooled again..

[@hollychav3078]

100% truth here- i wish I knew this 15 years ago. I suspected 11 years ago but there wasn’t the information out there like there is today. Every video you put out I’m left thinking OMG - he is describing precisely what I went lived

[@onecent3]

OMG, you are so right..I fell for that "charm" and what a mistake that was !!!

[@frisbeeshawn5356]

Yes I could feel the Vibrations and new something wasn't quite right however I played it chill to see more and it got stranger and very immature type of personality self centered. Crocodile tears of sadness. I'm grateful the universe stepped in and ended it.

[@FrankieBones]

Hey guys and girls! Take a minute and like all the comments below this! We are like one big family due to the pain these evil individuals caused us.

[@EagleZtoTheGrave]

Psalm 5:9 There is no faithfulness in their mouth, their inward part is very wickedness, their throat is an open sepulchre, they flatter with their tongue Job 17:5 He that speaks flattery to his friends, even the eyes of his children shall fail

[@sheliaellenburg2451]

Quin, I remember thinking he was to good the prince charming man of my dreams. Remember everyone, if it seems to be too much, to fast It's is ,they are just the devil in disguise. Thank you Quin for all you do for us .❤

[@addydean8631]

This was excellent, in depth and a great reminder!!!! Charm ain't Love. It feels good-at first-but it ain't love. It's the gateway to Hell.

[@omare-4cpl423]

Female narcissist charm as well. They focus and appease the male ego. Not in a normal way but an over the top way.

[@steadypace1262]

I was thinking of those same words "rotten to the core" this morning, before I clicked on to this video.I was thinking of that shiny, delicious looking apple that draws our attention but when we bite into it we get a shock when that first rotten taste in our mouth appears. Through lack of knowledge then about NPD we weren't to know that the narc was a bad apple.They first appear to us with this teasing fake charm and it lures us in.Narcs love a challenge and they like the feeling of a conquest, they are hell bent on trying to prove to themselves that they are stronger that what they really are.They see love and kindness as a weakness and something to exploit in a person and to destroy.The narc is really a weak, vulnerable person who is too scared to confront their emotions and deal with them.The narc would rather confront their targets instead and deal with their emotions this way.It is the easy way out for the narcissist.

[@quietspirit9345]

Many of these Wicked people are walking this earth!

[@goodgracious6364]

Prior to any knowledge of what a narc was, in the beginning, the one I knew was WAY, WAY over the top-- telling me I should have been his "baby mama", telling me it was love at first sight, singing to me over the phone, pulling me to dance with him in the middle of a room, quickly introducing me to all his friends, calling me his "fiancee" for no reason--yes--WAY, WAY over the top--and this man was over 50--with several grandchildren--damn--I should have run the other way!

[@cmsbeth]

Is anyone else out there from the "Leave It To Beaver" era? I believe my covert narcissists were Eddie Haskell! "You look especially lovely today Mrs. Cleaver!" I fell for it...TWICE! Charming bullshit! I am a slow learner; but, I think I have it now. Goodbye Eddie Haskell!

[@David-ki8hq]

The NARC is like The Shadow Man. Of Disney's The 🐸 Frog 👸 Princess Smiling singing charming Ready to cast that evil spell. For YOUR soul

[@Guitana88]

Charm and politeness ..compliance ..damn shame ...its tricky to decipher between the genuine and the con artists...time is key here.

[@FrankieBones]

Her first choice in new supply ruined her life within the first 8 months having her secure the secondary supply right away like the first never happened. Showing up with this person dressed like me at events people seen her with me at for years. This one is so fake it has disaster written all over it. I'm LOL. One day I will tell my story. I learned a lot listening to these videos.

[@RoxyMs567]

Charm key word. All that glitters is not gold. I learned a valuable lesson. I feel like I have grown up. I am glad I am over my denial. I just could not get past the charm. I am grate I am past the charm I am grateful I am completely no contact.

[@CynthiaS45]

Love your teachings on discerning a narcissist and their characteristics. You’re the best on KZbin! I’m healing up from so much damage from narcissists in my family as well as friends and relationships. May God bless you for helping so many.

[@hollyjackson6220]

Everyone gets their own custom narc. The old narc dies after they discard and a new narc is manufactured especially for the new supply.

[@roselinejeremie2912]

It's a trap from the get go!! Weasels at work mines actually looked like one with one eye bigger than d other, lolzzz🐾😌

[@virtuelady01]

No I would not have acknowledged his persuasive comments, mainly because he wasn't even my type, thank God for the coaching to go no contact.

[@heavyjoechipman3594]

If you'll fall for the charm, you'll fall for the scam?! WOW! That my friend, is a huge pearl of wisdom. That one resonated with me. That's one of those i'll carry with me til the end. Thank you for that. Yours was the first channel I started watching a few years ago when I found the narcissism niche on youtube. As well as the many targets, victims, and survivors of these narcissistic abusers of all living things. God bless you and all of your wonderful subscribers.👍

[@aliceroberts1980]

I have watch my N husband he will have this sad look on his face and you can almost get sucked in to feeling sorry for them I catch myself almost buy it that he the victim . I have to say that is spot on everyone that uses charm is trying to con you . Real people don’t act like this. Great video

[@easygoing1571]

Oh My Dear God... Quinn. This is what happened to me. My soul is crying out. He did this. I didn’t know. I believed everything. He was a ‘too good to be true’ man. But He wasn’t a man, he is a beast. He is no longer in my life, physically, but mentally, I struggle, not to be afraid I’d go back, but to pray that God helps me forget, and I’m believing Him for it. God truly Is large, and in charge. He never moves, we do. This is all for a reason that I will someday understand, because I’m the one that made the wrong choice. He was saying no, and I didn’t hear Him. I am listening now. And I’m so very thankful for you Quinn. I was guided to your channel, insights, and education on this. I appreciate you. Thankyou so very much. I’m Very glad you are here....God Bless You Quinn.

[@oldskoolgypsy9204]

Their so absolutely enthusiastic in the beginning, then it feels to me like it turns to hatred! Excellent video longtime fan 🙏🏼💐💕👏

[@quietspirit9345]

Indeed!! I feel sympathy for the new supply... I really do

[@alicea561]

Charm ,sex, love bombing & future faking is the ultimate hook

[@savagemonalisalivingmybest8040]

Satan Jr was very charming, could make me laugh. Until I realized everything with (It) was a joke.

[@Kymmieee]

QUIN ALWAYS COME THRU WITH THE GEMS 🙌🏽💯 IVE BEEN FOLLOWING U FOR YEARS NOW AND SUPPORT EVERYTHING I CAN... U DONT KNOW AND CANT POSSIBLY UNDERSTAND HOW MUCH OF A DIFFERENCE U MADE IN MY LIFE. BLESSINGS TO U FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART ❤

[@hefgot3568]

Truth....I'm dealing with one right now. We have 3kids together and I'm undecided if I should exit the marriage (7years). I'm going through a severe depression at the moment and his silent treatment is making me lose weight. Omg😪

[@quietspirit9345]

It amazes me like the Devil himself how he Fleessssss when u have caught on. This is written!!

[@sheilajohnson1735]

So glad I know the truth, and was able to get out of that situation!! Completely GREATFUL to my heavenly father.

[@tonyagraham5934]

Seduced By A ILLUSION cause They Dnt Exist Thanks Quinn 💝💝

[@KimK_AllDay]

That sick SOB was over the top with the charm.... smh

[@moniquetorres2910]

That would be My Husband Dark .Very Sad Its starts off nice,,,,Like Pounce on empaths only to Destroy. However if he thinks that he has won.....Not So.

[@feliciacarrington681]

This video deserves a million likes" every word he said is how, the narc got me in the first place Charm, thats it....Charm.. Bullshit,Fun,Charm=Motive=Mind Fuckery.

[@cshell2001]

Just superb. Such a powerful video. This topic is spot on. The breakdown sublime. Those charmers! Thank you

[@Spramele]

I gotta say, I agree wholeheartedly with you! But... I’ve learned about myself and what I need to work on that I wasn’t aware of before. And it was very good sex! I’m grateful for the experience and alI that I learned about myself! But, I would never have another one in my life again!!! I know the signs and will stay on guard against entertaining them again. Thank you

[@NA-ux7qr]

This should be taught as the basic principle. The introduction. Thanks again👍

[@harmonymusiqtheoriginalone3517]

Narc free for 3 months I refuse to communicate or look in his direction, even in court. He has stalked and harassed me and I still have not broken no contact. As a matter of fact I will protect myself by any means necessary

[@passionatagreen]

Excellent breakdown of the narco path being a charmer, exploiter, abuser, and destroyer. It happened to me and I remember asking the narco within a few weeks of meeting him if he was a twin because one was nice and the other was mean. The mask was slipping and revealing the true character from the start. That was eleven years ago and I am still recovering from complex PTSD and trauma bonding through counselling 6 months after the final discard. We must listen to your intuition as it never lies. 🙏👏💖

[@angelafalsetta4309]

Thanks again, Quinn for this and for all you do. Very valuable and life-saving info here. Blessings! We are getting clarity with all this with the love-bombing-charming act...and the danger of it as well. Much gratitude. Love that term "Rotten to the Core".

[@janar5802]

oh, man thanks you help me save my poor **s from this evil .. hard to disconnect from him, they seem to have powerful weapons against human souls, they don`t care with who they will cheat you, just to be with who ever to have supplies if you not in present in moment.. so disrespectful..wow I will never ever think that can happened to me ..I was so choosy and careful when went into relationship.. and now what? I can`t get out from such a crazy relationship? He brain wash me so good, I can`t put my self together.

[@whos1st]

You’ve got the practical aspects of a Narc down to a tee.

[@deborahredmond1194]

You are 💯 percent correct.🙏God bless from Scotland ✌

[@ispeakthetruth435]

I agree with the message behind this video completely but how do we know if someone is GENUINELY a good person i.e a codependant, people pleaser or Empath? I personally feel that some people are genuinely kind and can across charming but not in a way that’s destructive to others.

[@patriciaearley4177]

Haha I outsmarted the narcissist.He had me going for 6 month until I figured out what he was about.Thankfully I never met him in person because I felt there was something not right.Nothing he can say effects me and he can't figure out why lol

[@azaleamoon6067]

Narcissists use charm as a a verb not a noun.

[@sportmen812]

The charm is the love bomb they used because it works on the victim.

[@dianegregory7097]

Quinn you always tell it like it is!!! You truly have been my guardian Angel through this journey !!! God Bless You Always !!!!Lots of Love !!! P.S. When will you be touring again in NYC?

[@PerzinDaruwala]

Narcissism, Narcissistic traits & Narcissistic Personality Disorder needs to be taught from middle school - high school. Many young kids lives are going to be saved in future.

[@lanaranger9770]

Most profound message so far. Thank you

[@user-wm4je4ct8y]

They can be totally disarming. They can seem humble, naive, sweet, innocent, open, direct, share intimate details, interested in you. The mask they wear can be the exact opposite of how they really are. They can seem slightly stupid. All the while it's a big well rehearsed act. And it's to take advantage of you in some way. Use you for something.

[@susiep.7372]

Excellent video !! I've listen to it a few times, because it is so,so good !! It makes me realise, that he always was, and forever will be : rotten to the core !! There's nothing to be sad about !! Just a lesson I have learned. Something like this horrible experience will never ever happen to me again !! I know now that those devils exist ! Many thanks to you Quinn !! You are priceless !!

[@beatricehudgins2836]

You are so right, that charming is a mess and some narcs have been doing it for a many years effortlessly.

[@lauradanielle1343]

They can smell desperate and loneliness a mile away

[@vfree4579]

I am still baffled, I basically said after all was said and done was his charm demonic. And now you came out with this video.

[@beautyforashestv5959]

Awesome video. So true. They finesse you and then later manipulate and control you

[@lisaey9774]

Hi, thank you for your show. 21 years and I am a survivor. I have had a few narcissists in my life. I am learning so much. Thank you again. I have so much to share. If you ever want to talk, please get a hold of me,

[@Christine-nh3jg]

I see I watched this two years ago. I am getting more of it now that it is 3 years. Thank you Quinn.