ENNEAGRAM TYPES 4, 6, 8 | The Reactive Style Group | Enneagram Harmonic Triad

[@Maja-sv9we]

One of my parents is in this triad so this video really helped me undersrand how they think. That's something I often struggle with because we usually react to everything so differently! (I'm a 2 and they're a 4.) Usually, they will want to hold onto the emotion and work through it thoroughly, whilst I prefer to push it aside and move on with life (usually not my own life - I'm a two so I'm taking care of others' lives instead 😂).

[@enneagramandcoaching]

I LOVE that it helped you understand you parent! Yes!! Thanks for sharing!

[@billgreen7519]

Great stuff!! 2:42 type 4 3:22 type 6 3:54 type 8

[@enneagramandcoaching]

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[@thegrowingtree1331]

I express my longterm pain and struggling through my tattoos and they’re very creative usually. When I’ve got a bad day I listen to melancholic music a lot and I feel sorry for myself

[@Yarbro45]

Hillary, I’ve been following your channel for a few months… and I want to say I just love your videos. They are fun and encouraging. More than that, I feel that you are fun and encouraging. You seem so personable. I wish I could meet you in real life! You’re doing a great job at creating the videos. The edits, graphics, and organization of your script is on point. All that to say, you are doing a great job and I want you to feel encouraged! -Yar Brodau, a type 6!

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Yar Thank you for this sweet comment! It truly made my night! You definitely made me feel encouraged! ❤️❤️❤️ and I have seen your comments! Thanks for being authentic and sharing your journey!

[@bradfordwicker702]

Great video Hilary!! ^^ I've heard about the harmonic triads before but never to this extent. On the surface, when I hear the names for all three harmonic triads, I relate the most to the Logical/Competency Style and Reactive Style. When you delve deeper into the topic, I start to clearly see how I differ from the Reactive Style. As a 1w2 sp/sx, when things don't go my way, I can have a strong emotional reactions but I typically don't like expressing these feelings. I'd rather funnel that intensity towards fixing the problem and more importantly preventing it from happening again. If I vent about something, it's usually to express how someone did something wrong or so I can get advice to avoid future disappointment. This video has encouraged me though to be a little more outwardly expressive.

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Yes! Love this great insight.

[@bradfordwicker702]

@@enneagramandcoaching Thanks! I look forward to your next couple videos as well. :D

[@francesca.pellegrino]

I often get mistyped as a 1, because I actively try to repress my anger. However, it’s because I have learned that when I get angry, it’s because someone else has control over me, and I don’t want anyone to know they have that power. So, when it comes out, it catches a lot of people off guard. I have scared 8s who are angrier than me.

[@dianana7371]

Are you a SP 4 perhaps?

[@francesca.pellegrino]

@@dianana7371 no. My apologies, should have been clear. I’m definitely an 8.

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Yes! That can happen!

[@dianana7371]

@@francesca.pellegrino oh yeah still I can relate as a SP/SX 4. Keeping that frustration bottled up until it explodes so bad that my social 8 boyfriend gets a bit scared. not proud of those outbursts, at least they happen very rarely. Mostly when my values are dismissed, or when someone tries to control me. "I'm a 4, i need to express myself the way i want, don't tell me what to do." I need to work on this one haha

[@francesca.pellegrino]

@@dianana7371 yes, it happens. I’m an SX/SO 8, and the SO helps me mask and/or redirect my anger at something when it is socially unacceptable to unleash my anger. But when it all gets to be too much, that all falls away and I just am who I am. It’s funny how looking at things through these lenses helps people to see how similar behaviors come from completely different motivations. Some of my best friends growing up are 4s, and this makes sense both as to why we were such good friends, and, in some cases, why our breakups were so explosive and irreparable.

[@AMoniqueOcampo]

Even though I'm Type 4, I always feel drawn to Type 6s and I wrote a character in my novel who's a Type 8. I guess this partially explains why.

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Yes this can explain some of that!

[@ecaldwell9]

I’m an 8.

[@aprildoucette1160]

Hey hey! It's April! I have you on a few of my accounts now. I'm looking forward to this video! I almost feel like I'm going to think, "Ouch" lol

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Yay! Thank you!

[@lorrielee885]

I will admit this is something about the enneagram I had never heard of. Wow! So BOTH of my kids are in the reactive style group (4 and 8)....why am I not surprised?

[@enneagramandcoaching]

LOL! 😂

[@lorrielee885]

@@enneagramandcoaching and when another person commenting said something about parents...BOTH of my parents are/were in this group too! (6 & 8)

[@ericacamp7353]

Interesting reading this. I’d love for you to do a series on workplace reactions or mention it a little more. Being a reactive type I have a hard time with expressing too much and then shutting down. If I am disappointed I shut down. If I’m angry you can see it and hear it.

[@enneagramandcoaching]

That’s a great idea. 😃

[@The.HereAfter]

Funny how I have enneagram 4 bestfriend, enneagram 6 older sister and enneagram 8 father xD ~

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Wow! So cool!

[@conradkotze4615]

Thanks for your work :). What I would like to know is what is the difference between the Stances and the Conflict Coping Styles as some present it as the same thing?

[@jmsl910]

is it the triad top three scores?

[@michellipirespereira8603]

Great job! 😘😘👏👏

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Thank you! 😃

[@michellipirespereira8603]

@@lawofseven1465, Yes 🇧🇷💙💚💛

[@MatthewEaton]

Welp, time to go to get the leash. You have just addressed the Cerberus of my internal everything and now they are barking. My 8 is the GSD of the group. Very bitey, much lard shark. No touchie, just lookie. My 6 is the Husky. Ugh. Just... No. The fence is not a representation of the oppression inherent in the system. It is there to... Nope, there he goes again... My 4 is the derpy chihuahua mix with no teeth and a lolling tongue. Dumb as a bag of hammers, but still thinks it is the *_BIG DAWG_* of the yard. Do you know how tired I am of having to walk these wings and dominant positions? All the time, _I am emotional, I matter, I belong, blah, blah, blah._ Here, a bone and a ball. This is all you need mathematically to be happy. The data proves it. Just... Just stop hopping over the fence... Just don't.

[@enneagramandcoaching]

LOL. I didn’t even think about it but you being a 5-you do use all types in this group. How did you get so self aware? You know yourself better than anyone I know. Thanks for always bringing the fun and witt to my video comments section! I’ll just be over here waiting to read the book you write someday 😅

[@MatthewEaton]

@@enneagramandcoaching Trust me, when you have all of these wings doing things illogically and making things worse, you have no choice but to stare it in the face and beg to get them to stop. Actually, it reminds me of the old wolf mix my father's friend once had in my youth. It was strong enough to get out of chain leashes and when it escaped, they hid everyone in the house and gave them guns to defend themselves from the dog until its master could calm him down. THAT is probably more fitting of an 8. It was like a bad movie where they said to kill the kids if the dog got in the house first since they didn't want us to suffer. That was when I was 8. No wonder I had a healthy fear of all pets in my youth. Thanks for sparking that interesting memory. I appreciate it!

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Oh my gosh! Yeah, I’d have a fear of my pets too.

[@CourageToLiveTrue]

Coping w loss and disappointment

[@CourageToLiveTrue]

Powerful display of emotions for reactive 468

[@CourageToLiveTrue]

Withdraw but seeks rescuer to be seen

[@CourageToLiveTrue]

Strong opinions and trust issues

[@The.HereAfter]

6:14 I literally just said bye Hillary lol ,thank you so much~

[@enneagramandcoaching]

LOL! Love this!!!

[@bradfordwicker702]

By the way Hilary, I noticed on this video in both the description and the chapter sections that the Type 6 and Type 8 sections are listed as "Type 5" and "Type 6" respectively. They might need to be fixed. I'm sorry to maybe annoy you with this, but I wanted to point it out just to be helpful. :)

[@enneagramandcoaching]

Bradford thank you!!!! I fixed them. My 1 wing failed me 😂 I really appreciate you! Thanks for letting me know.

[@bradfordwicker702]

@@enneagramandcoaching Of course! Happy to help. ^^

[@matgay]

I am 684 tritype.

[@katkat4223]

So my tritype is 468 with a 6 core... this is going to be interesting xD

[@adriannegarza8164]

Me too!

[@aprildoucette1160]

Definitely! Haha...

[@enneagramandcoaching]

😂😂😂

[@aprildoucette1160]

@@enneagramandcoaching this was me all of last week! lol

[@MerBlack]

ding to an interview with Dr. Rhenn Cherry, a Biblical Counselor who wrote his PhD dissertation on the Enneagram, approximately 139 doctoral-level mental health professionals, with an average of 26 years experience, participated in a peer reviewed study in 2015 which found the Enneagram placing 2nd to last place on the first round of testing and last on the 2nd round… out of 36 protocols. The Enneagram is not a valid scientific tool pertaining to Personality, even if marketed as such.

[@enneagramandcoaching]

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