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@muskokamike127 Жыл бұрын
2:20 "I haven't cuntfronted her yet" lol....did you do that on purpose? hahah
@Perun.Tha.Unvaxxd Жыл бұрын
@@muskokamike127 😂💀
@Force1Com Жыл бұрын
Chris rock
@stevenlechner Жыл бұрын
I don't know if there is any hope for him with her - he needs to ghost - for a long time - and only take her back when/if she has crawled back to him a mile on her knees. Other than that - he needs to bolt on the marriage plans. He needs to make sure she doesn't end up pregnant during all of this.
@weekendwarrior3814 Жыл бұрын
Dude, this is the best thing that ever happened to this guy! This is better than winning the lottery. She just saved him 10 years of marriage, broken heart, not seeing his kids and paying half his income to her for the rest of his life. This is time to celebrate and not be crushed!
@supertruthfortynine Жыл бұрын
Totally agree
@joelafrite7850 Жыл бұрын
Amen.
@tibsyy895 Жыл бұрын
AMEN! 💪🏻👍👌👌
@cesarquintana4596 Жыл бұрын
I’m sorry to tell you boys that unfortunately he most likely still married her.
@kimmorrison91699 ай бұрын
Hes on a fast track to pooh tang galore if he dumps the gold digger now.
@generally_good_guy Жыл бұрын
She told the truth to her friends, but never will with you. You know the correct response.
@csx6910 Жыл бұрын
End it and walk away.
@RealziesCuts Жыл бұрын
💨
@laloaguirre9847 Жыл бұрын
She might beg a little and/or even use sex to convince you if she is really afraid of losing you, dont fall for that...
@joshuamedina7292 Жыл бұрын
From the streets you found her and to the streets she shall return.
@davidd.8256 Жыл бұрын
Another female that has overvalued herself again!! Rejected 😂
@robertm.9633 Жыл бұрын
If he goes through with this wedding, his “fiancé” is absolutely right.
@TheGalacticEmperorOfLabels Жыл бұрын
He will.
@FlutterSwag Жыл бұрын
@@TheGalacticEmperorOfLabels sadly he will, he will put up some resistance but she'll guilt him into it
@stevenmiscisin4892 Жыл бұрын
@@FlutterSwag Man, I totally agree. I just hope we're both wrong.
@jacknjill3000 Жыл бұрын
True and hope he dumps her for good!
@richardhickok3523 Жыл бұрын
Amen
@terrodar19 Жыл бұрын
Cancel that wedding IMMEDIATELY. go your own way man, you’re successful as hell why would you EVER put up with someone who doesn’t idolize you. Enough is enough guys
@soulflame5635 Жыл бұрын
True - demand resp from woman near You. If You dont see real desire - end it - just be honest with yourself. Stay strong Gents
@jeanettecook7903 Жыл бұрын
Things won't get better nor change after wedding bells, run!
@JayB-JayB Жыл бұрын
LEAVE HER! Never depend on the approval from a woman.
@hpmetabolics7558 Жыл бұрын
@Jay B RIGHT ON BROTHA!! .... Get the heck away and keep your dignity!!
@sarahrobertson634 Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, men are biologically wired to depend on approval from women.
@hpmetabolics7558 Жыл бұрын
@@sarahrobertson634 no WE ARE NOT..... Boys are, not men..... that is exclusively a beta male characteristic.... smh
@sarahrobertson634 Жыл бұрын
You can't escape biology. Alpha males still depend on female validation. We decide who breeds and who doesn't. We are the selectors. Men exist to impress us in the hopes that we will breed with them. If you don't like that, take it up with Mother Nature.
@hpmetabolics7558 Жыл бұрын
@@sarahrobertson634 that's the biggest load of feminist bullshit dribble that goes directly AGAINST the facts of anthropology I've ever heard!😆.... you don't initiate the dating or marriage proposal process, WE DO... And non betas ALWAYS ARE PICKING FROM MORE THAN ONE WOMAN.... Men are polygamous everywhere but the west were your feminists b.s. Is tolerated. there's your true anthropology lesson for the day.
@QUguy Жыл бұрын
“You learn a lot about people when they don't get what they want from you.”
@SanketKulkarni10 Жыл бұрын
well said!
@rosariocannistraro3561 Жыл бұрын
Yup! you'll learn how disposable you are to them/they see you as .
@toothbrush51907 ай бұрын
She did him the biggest favor of his life.
@poeticprincee97503 ай бұрын
Exactly! At least he is sure of what he heard!
@DrBilly90210 Жыл бұрын
When someone shows you who they really are..... BELIEVE THEM.
@matthewsilva5598 Жыл бұрын
It's a blessing that the guy overheard that conversation 🙏
@TOCC50 Жыл бұрын
Spill all, no pun
@hanzbrixx Жыл бұрын
"I know she was drinking and maybe she was joking". Married 30+ years. I have NEVER publicly badmouthed my wife. I have never heard of her doing that. We've argued, but never hung each other's dirty laundry in public. My grandma had a saying. "The people you love the most, you tend to talk about the least".
@redpillgermany2162 Жыл бұрын
I am in a similar situation. I never did that, nor did my wife do that to me afaik. Something like that would be as severe as cheating, in my opinion. I know many couples where the woman badmouthes the husband constantly, tough. Sometimes they do it in front of the guy. I do not respect couples like that.
@dinosaurd7295 Жыл бұрын
Hanz hanz hanz hanz.... you're busting my barrzzz here Hanz ;)
@hanzbrixx Жыл бұрын
@@dinosaurd7295 😂😅🤣
@Mrbfgray Жыл бұрын
Guaranteed that "joking around" with her friends was the most honesty he'll ever get from her, yet he seems headed for the grinder anyway, making excuses for himself and her.
@hanzbrixx Жыл бұрын
@@dinosaurd7295 , Ronry and sadree arone.
@paulfortuin7389 Жыл бұрын
If your fiancé thinks joking about how weak her future husband is and you’re ok with that, you’re insane.
@AcidicJO Жыл бұрын
Exactly. My wife has been wildly mad at me and she’s never said something that even comes close to that level of disrespect. Even if she was just joking. It’s a telltale sign that she has little to no respect for you. No one who loves you speaks in that manner about you.
@castiel4746 Жыл бұрын
Just say good bye The relationship will never recover, she will say that she will change bla bla bla, and you will never know if she is still lying or not. Better to be alone that be her second option, and there are way more women in the world, better to keep searching, than setteling for a 304 who doesnt value you and neither respect you. Stop allowing this idiot bimbos to think they are better than you and treat you like the safecard.
@richardhickok3523 Жыл бұрын
Amen
@w4447 Жыл бұрын
as soon as he heard that he should have asked all of them to leave handing her a trash bag full of her crap.
@roblongisland5815 Жыл бұрын
Eject Eject Eject !
@ronvaughan8041 Жыл бұрын
One thing I can guarantee him is that she was not joking. This guy needs to end this and never look back.
@airinschiff814 Жыл бұрын
She was bold enough having that conversation with her friends while he was in the house! RUN…….
@Son-of-Krypton Жыл бұрын
He dodged a bullet…don’t marry her !
@Gizziiusa Жыл бұрын
according to another commenter. he hasnt canceled the wedding, nor had her sign a pre-nup. if he goes thru with it, then he's an idiot and deserves anything coming his way. (which it will most probably will)
@jksinorbit8 ай бұрын
Seriously?? Did he have part of his brain removed previously?
@davidr1620 Жыл бұрын
I found Rich a couple years ago when I was two years into my difficult marriage with a single mom. It was a nightmare, and the divorce was horrible, but I'm happier now. I thought if I came in to save this poor woman from her dumb decisions and financial hardships, she'd love me and adore me, but that's all BS. Women don't work like that. I had had relationships with women in prior years where there was burning desire and it was obvious. My relationship with my ex-wife was different. It was sterile and I always had a feeling that she didn't have a genuine burning desire for me. I was correct. I had that gut feeling and I ignored it and married her anyway. Big mistake. Fellas, listen to your gut. When a woman genuinely wants you, she'll break plans with other people and drive across the city at midnight to see you and blow you. You will be a priority to her. She will advertise to the world that you're hers. She will admire you and respect you. She can tell you and tell herself all day long that she wants you, but if it isn't genuine, you will see by her actions.
@thebesttheworst2277 Жыл бұрын
Facts upon facts. Glad you lived and learned, got out without wasting a whole lifetime.
@cw3728 Жыл бұрын
David, you and I been through the same shit. I married her anyway too, what a waste of time.
@LiftOffLife Жыл бұрын
First mistake = A single Mom 🙄
@launchpadmcquack4971 Жыл бұрын
This is my story too my brother. It’s also what I’ve experienced in dating post-divorce. Truer words have never been spoken.
@Willie_Wahzoo Жыл бұрын
Man, sorry you went through that but glad you're on the other side. Yea, these dirtbags don't want to be "saved," and even if they do, they would NEVER be grateful for it. In fact, they will resent you MORE because you saving them will remind them of the fact that they needed to be saved in the first place, and their egos cannot handle that.
@Nosyblacklight Жыл бұрын
Man should be incredibly thankful he overheard this before the wedding
@tysonclarke012 Жыл бұрын
No argument. Walk out. Don't talk to her. No explanation required son!
@magistrate7009 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for being the father I never had.
@expatwealthasia8702 Жыл бұрын
For this guy, it is a painful shock to hear how his gf feels & thinks about him. But now it is his time to get the hell out. See her harsh words as a blessing in disguise. Run whilst you can brother.
@vink1547 Жыл бұрын
Anyone getting married in this day and age, with all the information that’s available…, deserves every single thing that happens to them!
@allseeingotto2912 Жыл бұрын
Truth !, just over 20 years ago when I stupidly got married there was hardly any education on it .
@francisdashwood1760 Жыл бұрын
I think that very few men are actually aware of all the info available to them. I know a guy right now who's having girlfriend problems, and who's also clueless about the men's red-pill community on KZbin.
@SanketKulkarni10 Жыл бұрын
True!!
@M0viLover Жыл бұрын
@@francisdashwood1760 Yup. I play COD: MW3 MP on-line. I was a little late at lunchtime today, because I was watching a Better Bachelor video ("you can't use logic with a w0man"). I mentioned to friends of mine in the lobby that I was watching RP / MGT0W content on YT .. and no one knew what I was talking about.
@jamesvillegas877 Жыл бұрын
You don't even have to get married now just living together for a few years legally you are considered married.
@csx6910 Жыл бұрын
'Quiet quit'. Take the time to separate your lives financially and as the last act, have police on standby to remove her from the property when she refuses to leave after the breakup.
@Tomczykkkk Жыл бұрын
This is the way. Only thing better would've been to walk away immediately which he didn't have the 🥜 to do. Return the favor of going behind her back with the logistics of the breakup, just as she did with her real emotions towards him.
@steveb8269 Жыл бұрын
This...
@onebridge7231 Жыл бұрын
They are not married yet. I’d be more straightforward and the second those words left her mouth; the next sound she hears is not her friend’s laughter, but me calmly telling them all to get the F*ck out of my house, her included. No screaming or yelling, just a very firm cold response.
@vladnation Жыл бұрын
@@onebridge7231 👏🏻
@rullangaar Жыл бұрын
Preach!
@za4117 Жыл бұрын
Lots of engaged women may wear a ring, but mentally, they are still single. If they get into contact with a guy who they think is a better fit for their life and they dig more than their finance, they will jump ship without any remorse. Unless you are truly are their first choice, they would never pull something like what was described in the video.
@johnfroelich8554 Жыл бұрын
I worked in hospital settings for years. What I heard nurses say about their men...ouch
@marks2506 Жыл бұрын
I always hear about nurses being ruthless
@johnfroelich8554 Жыл бұрын
@@marks2506 date them with caution
@suppaduppa Жыл бұрын
Do tell us some of those shocking tails you've overheard. You cant keep us in suspense like this.
@johnfroelich8554 Жыл бұрын
@@suppaduppa openly confiding to other nurses about each of their men's weaknesses. Physical, mental, financial...shameful
@suppaduppa Жыл бұрын
@@johnfroelich8554 in other words women are the biggest liabilities a man can have? If you cant trust your woman to keep her damn mouth shut, who else are you going to trust.
@Slayavcados Жыл бұрын
So lucky he heard it before the wedding; the Dude is bummed but this is a blessing in disguise! He’ll be rich free and unplugged with a real sight of how the world thinks ; Total blessing
@joeyoung4121 Жыл бұрын
He is Got to Not marry this woman. Or you can just sign a blank check and give it to her.
@ryanreddy5298 Жыл бұрын
LEAVE HER! I cancelled my wedding a little over a year ago. I kept uncovering red flags while engaged. Like Rich said, woman act very well. Never ignore the red flags. Never marry a woman who does not have a burning desire for you or sees you as a beta provider. It will never last, and the relationship only gets worse as the mask falls off.
@francisdashwood1760 Жыл бұрын
What were the red flags?
@josephstevens9888 Жыл бұрын
Good for you... always trust your instincts!
@ryanreddy5298 Жыл бұрын
@@josephstevens9888 That's right! That was my learning lesson from the relationship.
@ryanreddy5298 Жыл бұрын
@@francisdashwood1760 Most of the red flags listed on Rich Cooper's website "20 Red Flags". But I do want to note aside from the red flags the most important thing is she did not have a burning desire. Now most guys unfortunately don't know what that is. And I've only been in 2 relationships in my early 20s that I would say the woman had burning desire. When a woman has a burning desire for you they will break all the rules for you and make your life easy. Burning desire also trumps hypergamy, the most loyal woman are woman who have a burning desire for their man. Remember they will break rules for the alpha but make rules for the beta. A woman needs to enter your frame and make your life easier, not add more problems or take your energy. Last thing I wanted to note is respect is required. Never entertain or accept disrespect. She's either already looking, bored, she's unhappy, she doesn't accept you as being masculine, she's a feminist. Whatever it is never tolerate disrespect.
@josephcorr5636 Жыл бұрын
Don't react, don't confront her in any way whatsoever. Quietly get your shit together (protect your assets) and kick her to the kerb! Anything else gives her the opportunity to do damage.
@ViburaBlanca Жыл бұрын
I read your book Rick. Awesome insight. At 27 the dating pool is infested with horrible women, but if you swim enough you’ll find treasure at the bottom., I’ve learned a lot from your videos. The awesome part is I show your videos to my fiance and she loves your content too. Thanks for all the help.
@Strydum1102 Жыл бұрын
I've had a pretty similar experience. I'm also 27, and I've been spinning plates properly since I was 23 thanks to Rich's advice. I'm currently in an LTR with a great 22 year old girl. The better women with no red flags are out there. It just takes time and work to find them.
@ViburaBlanca Жыл бұрын
@@Strydum1102 congratualtions bro, I wish the best fr because its a struggle finding a real one 😅 when I saw food cooked and house cleaned when I got home I knew she couldnt go anywhere.
@Mrbfgray Жыл бұрын
Always said: "Get her drunk one time." Before any long term considerations, usually very revealing even if in a good way.
@TomNook. Жыл бұрын
Don't get married. All women, including your beloved, can change instantly.
@Mrbfgray Жыл бұрын
@@SteveC484 I guess the only solid reason for guys to get hitched is with a strong prenup to guard against palimony or whatever. I've never quite understood it as anything more than false security.
@jomojojo6603 Жыл бұрын
Don't forget...she's not only thinking of the lifestyle she'll have while married... she's also thinking about her divorce payday.
@panagenesis2695 Жыл бұрын
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." -Maya Angelou
@JimMacintosh Жыл бұрын
Pull the plug and don’t look back my friend. This can never be “fixed”
@richardw3347 Жыл бұрын
True.
@KNDCHV Жыл бұрын
7:30 - ABSOLUTE TRUTH !!!!!!! A girl I was messing around with and who saw we had chemistry told me that. She went in another country, instantly found a boyfriend after me, but before that she suggested that "deal" to me. And at first I agreed as the dumbass I was. Then few days later I said to her: "I don't agree about your promise/suggestion/deal, I am not a replacement or a safe zone". YOU have no idea how mad she was after I said that. She kept pushing and pushing for me to accept it, but after she went in the other country I simply deleted her from everywhere. NEVER BE A SECOND CHOICE, guys. NEVER. You are worth more than you think. And probably more than the other guy she chooses over you.
@ericdoheny9108 Жыл бұрын
In retrospect I heard the same shit around 20 years old CONSTANTLY. “There’s 2 guys and I can’t decide…”
@DJ_Mooseknucks Жыл бұрын
You could have just gone along with it and if she ever came back to you be like Dave Chappelle "gotcha bitxh!"
@rosariocannistraro3561 Жыл бұрын
Never be some chicks personal dildo bro , You'll always just end up getting used and screwed over and if you're in love with her you'll just end up completely crushed .Chicks these days seem to want loyalty and love from you but she gets to have a harem on the side , I told a couple different chicks just go be in an open relationship or whatever and stop lying that you want monogamy and love so much .
@bolavish4321 Жыл бұрын
He’s still gonna marry her.
@TexasLonghornRanch Жыл бұрын
Your best opportunity has already passed. As soon as you heard her talking shit, you should’ve charged out of that room and told her the wedding is off and for her friends to get out.
@camels9654 Жыл бұрын
Nope. When you catch a woman cheating or if she admits she is doesn't love or respect you, don't let her know you know. That gives you a huge advantage when your enemy isn't aware you are on to them. If I was this guy I'd tell her to go have a nice weekend somewhere with her friends because she is just that amazing. If it was my house and she isn't on title, all her stuff would be sitting out front and the locks changed. If it was a rental, I'd have moved out and remove myself from the lease. If we were joint title. If we bought a house together, I'd say the market was about to crash, sell the house and we rent and buy it back cheap.
@montemasterson9588 Жыл бұрын
@@camels9654 Absolutely right, always best to hold your cards close to your chest. Exercising restraint and not letting your emotions take over will bring you the best results. But if the guy doesn't move on from the woman he's a dumb ass.
@rosariocannistraro3561 Жыл бұрын
@camels9654 , Yep! totally wait till she's gone and toss her shit on the lawn .
@JasonTzzz Жыл бұрын
He should have recorded the conversion and laid low. He should cancel the wedding then dump her to the curb.
@bbeaup Жыл бұрын
Crazy how that stomachache saved his life.
@samueljanderson Жыл бұрын
The stars were looking out for this guy for sure. He got LUCKY! If you guys are unsure about your significant other, follow her friends and see how they act and who they interact with.
@dave6279 Жыл бұрын
Well said, the marriage wont end well. IF she knew he was there she wouldnt have said what he said. He shouldnt confront her just walk away as hard as that sounds..if he does confront her she'll manipulate him to not leaving.
@francisdashwood1760 Жыл бұрын
The BEST way to understand women is to overhear their conversations when they think that no one is listening! Women are brutal and raunchy! I would suggest to any man in any type of relationship to eavesdrop on his woman. That's the only way you'll know what your woman is really all about!
@stevedmytrusz8347 Жыл бұрын
I thought the same thing as your first sentence, LOL! 👍
@johnhue8933 Жыл бұрын
He has had his warning , now it is up to him to decide what he does about it.
@FLtreasure Жыл бұрын
My advice to the guy: "Dude, cancel that wedding, IMMEDIATELY. It will spare you from a life of hell, humiliation, degradation, lost time and finances. "
@EduardoSanchez-un2hh Жыл бұрын
If he hadn't felt sick that day, he would be in for decades of pain.
@austinzizzi1142 Жыл бұрын
I’m so jaded at this point I don’t see myself being able to date again
@willwaringrc Жыл бұрын
Many a true word is spoken in jest. Anyone can take a joke, but don't take disrespect disguised as a joke. I've just finished my second time round of your book Rich (through audible) while driving. Honestly, I wish I had your book 20 years ago because I've literally let myself get wrecked several times over from the age of 20. I'm now 40 and just figured it all out.
@Willie_Wahzoo Жыл бұрын
All whamin have to offer is disrespect couched in "jokes." "I speak fluent sarcasm." lol
@peterg76yt Жыл бұрын
"Anyone can take a joke, but don't take disrespect disguised as a joke." I can't add anything to that, I just thought it bore repeating.
@BOG0690 Жыл бұрын
Happens Atleast you didn't go to jail over sum 304 who don't want you
@rawmail102171 Жыл бұрын
Those first 2 sentences are profound!
@karansharma2352 Жыл бұрын
Kind sir, is the audio in Rich sir's original voice or is it some AI or robotic voice?
@TexasLonghornRanch Жыл бұрын
She told the real truth to her friends. If you’re a guy with money, you can easily replace her. Because right now you’re looking at a future divorce. She doesn’t respect you.
@alepho4089 Жыл бұрын
Buddy. RUN AWAY!! RUN FAR AWAY!!
@Irina-xm6mh Жыл бұрын
I married my first choice when I was 25... Just had our third baby last week☺️ I feel really bad for this guy, I'm sure he could upgrade to someone that would actually have respect for him.
@tassosplatis2143 Жыл бұрын
Congratulations on the new baby! Many blessings to you and your family :)
@stevenkoehler6018 Жыл бұрын
While a painful reality, this man overhearing his fiancé on alcohol was an INCREDIBLE blessing. Imagine if he didn’t find this out before it was too late. Move on brother.
@swlc5555 Жыл бұрын
Chris Rock and Bill Burr are great at doing jokes that have a LOT of truth in them.
@Alvin_Vivian Жыл бұрын
Yet those 2 idiots still got married, especially Burr who had shat on marriage so much in the past.
@rosariocannistraro3561 Жыл бұрын
Rock had a great skit years ago about O.J. merking his wife , He said I wouldn't do it but I can understand why lol , I have to go live with my Momma cause you're not " in love" anymore ? You might have to die lol .
@ared18t Жыл бұрын
Most people who say a joke actually mean what they say.
@cbxxb4841 Жыл бұрын
This is a hugely important topic for guys to get. You can hear in the guys letter how he doesn't want to face the truth, the truly sad truth, but better to take the world on from a position of honesty,. That 's what red pill is all about. Well handled topic.
@kimo1stdan8 ай бұрын
When I first started listening to this video I thought Rich said he was either newly wed or married a few years. I was relieved and happy for this guy when I heard the marriage was next April. Priceless lesson learned for free that he’ll never forget. Then I was dismayed he was talking from scarcity and trying to keep her in his life even after what he discovered . I don’t feel bad for him at all or anger towards the beta bucks seeking female . He had a huge blessing of wake up land in his lap. If he went through with this wedding he deserves the fruits of his stupidity.
@seinfan9 Жыл бұрын
Once it's revealed that she doesn't have any respect for you, it's over psychologically for a man. There's no way this guy can continue this relationship and not harbor feelings of contempt.
@driftlesswindsfarm2129 Жыл бұрын
Incredibly lucky. He might not feel like it now, but he will soon see and feel how blessed he was that he overheard this convo.
@soulflame5635 Жыл бұрын
Yeah - she basicly saved him lifetime of problems - in form of her.
@rnt45t1 Жыл бұрын
Yeah, nobody has ever expressed genuine burning desire for me in my entire life.
@LeadLeftLeon Жыл бұрын
If u look halfway decent [7/10, which is achievable for most males with muscles and clothes] and talk to enough girls, u will find some with GBD for you
@Tomczykkkk Жыл бұрын
Yeah, it's not something that's just handed to you. "Do the work".
@Gunsight-One Жыл бұрын
My Highschool girlfriend way back in the day was the only girl that was like that with me. Never experienced that again ever since.
@thebesttheworst2277 Жыл бұрын
It's a great feeling (4 times) but it doesn't last in many everyday ways even if it's there early on or for the first few years - It requires work from both sides.
@rnt45t1 Жыл бұрын
@@LeadLeftLeon I started taking my health seriously a year and a half ago. Quit drinking, eating shit, and started working out. I work out six days a week now. I lost over 70 pounds. I'm in the best shape of my life. I'm bald though, decent beard, but bald. I just wear black t-shirts and jeans. I don't care about "dressing up."
@shawnmorrissey1866 Жыл бұрын
It happened to me. But I can tell you this, they can't keep up the "act" forever. You'll eventually start seeing the holes in her demeanor. Watch her actions, not her words. Eventually, you will begin to see who she really is. .
@francisdashwood1760 Жыл бұрын
What red flags did you see?
@rosariocannistraro3561 Жыл бұрын
Yup! chicks will tell on themselves eventually if you feed them enough rope lol .
@sethpawlik Жыл бұрын
Never let anyone crush you.
@i_am_thebatman Жыл бұрын
Whoever this guys is , he got lucky , that is a blessing he figured it out before the wedding . I’d call that an act of God
@Shozimus Жыл бұрын
Yup. Had that shit with the"we will get togheter if we will not have familys to 40" trap. And I know at least two other guys the same girl told that to. Happily for me stoped the blue pill madness 😅
@gazza1245618 ай бұрын
I heard my girlfriend that was a long distance relationship for 8 years where I would see her twice a month for a weekend to living with me for 2 years . The lies and the bad behaviour started within 6 weeks and the violence towards me started after 16 months . The last straw for me was whilst she was out and partying with her freinds and she was drunk and called me to tell me she was safe and on her way back to her girlfriends place but then forgot to hang up telling strange men that I’m oppressive and dominating, she was also telling him I’ve made her paranoid and stop her from seeing her family . After hearing her saying all these horrible things about me , I split up with her and kicked her out . She is free and has nobody restricting her now .
@villaespesa1 Жыл бұрын
If he marries her after this he is a fool. Move on!
@snakeking992000 Жыл бұрын
I agree - the joke was very serious. I'm glad he overheard, especially before making the ultimate commitment to this woman.
@byronstembridge1727 Жыл бұрын
I practice mind exercises from time to time to think about bad things occurring in my life. Loved ones dying, wife divorcing, fired from a job, losing limb or becoming a paraplegic, bankruptcy, nuclear war. I think about what I would do, how I'd react, and how to prepare emotionally. It's a great mental exercise to accomplish both to think out scenarios, plan ahead, and be grateful for what you have. This scenario can be one of them. What would you do or how would you react to hearing your wife or girlfriend admitting her secret disrespect and using you purely for resources? Look for the signs of true attraction from her. Does she give any? Look at your recent pictures together. Is there space between you both? Is she leaning in close? Does she want to be seen with you? What levels of respect does she show you consistently if any? Don't believe her words, believe her actions and her body language. That's much more telling and harder to act fake for long periods of time especially. And lastly, don't accept mediocrity in your romantic life. Your happiness matters. Don't be afraid to cut her dead weight if you detect it or outright catch her in the act.
@robertdunlap49758 ай бұрын
She "got interested" when his career took off. He thought he was becoming worthy of her. She was never worthy of him.
@tomdrummy4984 Жыл бұрын
Feel bad for the guy, but there’s a saying…………”The worst people teach you the best lessons in life”. Move on, forget about her, and learn from it.
@rosariocannistraro3561 Жыл бұрын
And when people show you who they are the first time BELIEVE THEM .
@Bubbagump871 Жыл бұрын
Everyone that you meet is a teacher, and they'll teach you one of two important lessons - how to BE - or how NOT to BE. Teach the people in your life to be their best.
@jurgenbachmann5920 Жыл бұрын
RESPECT!! Genus burning desire! Is simple detected by RESPECT! A dude with desire from a woman never get disrespected! Never count on love! If she disrespect you ITS OVER!
@colettithekid Жыл бұрын
To be a rich beta guy who gets no respect or desire from his wife sounds like a particularly cruel kind of irony. You’re at work and she’s at home seeking attention and validation online 🤦♂️
@colettithekid Жыл бұрын
@Kingdom House Simping plays a huge role in women and their lack of accountability. Women know there's 3, 4 or a hundred other guys who worship the ground they walk on. So why bother with introspection or self work when philandering about is so much easier and more fun... Until of course, the wall!
@elnegro23 Жыл бұрын
It's like going to the Gym and thinking only being fit will help you get da girlz, in the end of the day it's an equation that is multi factored. A combination of game, wealth, and looks.
@hpmetabolics7558 Жыл бұрын
Right... as a trainer, have had so many "offers" from rich women to "train" them at home.... all wealthy with good husbands that take care of them, just wtf...... I'll pass
@colettithekid Жыл бұрын
@@hpmetabolics7558 spin plates and don’t be a boring nerd. 👍🏻
@unpluggedalphaa Жыл бұрын
Some times ducking other men without you knowing and when asked says " It's nothing to worry about".
@cydoniemiles1535 Жыл бұрын
Poor guy, what an awful thing to hear. He definitely needs to dump her, if only to deprive her of her payday, no matter how much it stings.
@oswaldjameslangston6008 Жыл бұрын
Its a shame how all the nice genuine guys get absolutely ruined and walked all over.
@antonsimmons8519 Жыл бұрын
It's simple, really, to any man who's ever had a woman burn for him. She won't keep you in the friendzone, make you wait or establish rules. When she wants you, she isn't going to be careful about it, and if it's anything less than obvious, it isn't real.
@Mach141 Жыл бұрын
This was the best thing that could have happened. Your free from the lies! Celebrate! Move on immediately. You were headed towards a future of misery.
@Willie_Wahzoo Жыл бұрын
I was once told by a female relative that the guy she was with, whom she would later marry, was like a pet to her. "He's like my pet," she said. She married that man and, more or less, destroyed him. Did you hear what I said? PLEASE listen young men. To find a whamin that is not selfish and wicked to the core is unusual. Don't assume you've found one because "she seems nice" and is pretty to you. A pretty whamin KNOWS she is pretty. You are NOT the first person to find her beauty. That chick in a wheelchair that you think other guys aren't hitting on? She had 10+ dudes try to slide into her DMs this afternoon. Wake up.
@borisdodgingbullets8 ай бұрын
I once married a securities attorney. Things started looking odd within a month after the wedding when she started to appropriate my resources. My spidey senses started tingling and I got out of there. We divorced within 6 months (26 years ago). She has since suckered someone else into marrying her, showering her with resources, and then taking him for half his things (and his children)! This young man saved himself a life of heartache! Congratulations to him! He hit the bullet-dodger’s jackpot! These people are psychopathic parasites and should be avoided at all costs!
@andermendz Жыл бұрын
This is why the "Money test" is necessary, act broke a few times and if you see her interest going down, she was just a gold digger.
@cobimusic Жыл бұрын
Get rid of her immediately
@johnmac333 Жыл бұрын
Put this woman (and her horrible friends) in the rear vision mirror. On that note , If your girlfriend has at least two friends that you can't stand , get out now . Guaranteed their conversations with her flow one way , and she tacitly agrees . Learned that myself the hard way .
@francisdashwood1760 Жыл бұрын
What happened?
@x97s Жыл бұрын
Some men still think they can buy genuine desire... you can't save everyone
@andrewclastic2835 Жыл бұрын
Please don't go through with the wedding, man, just... Please don't.
@powerhunter3832 Жыл бұрын
Get ready to leave that relationship
@tryksta7247 Жыл бұрын
That's painful to hear but honestly it was a blessing in disguise. I hope this guy is strong enough to stay the course and break off the wedding. Once she is confronted rest assured the acting chops will be utilized in full force
@w4447 Жыл бұрын
She showed him who she is. Now LISTEN TO HER!!! He never had a turn. Chalk it up to one thing and one thing only. Repeat after me. I just DODGED a bullet I just DODGED a bullet. And LISTEN to it!
@realbigmanoncampus Жыл бұрын
This person is extremely lucky that he heard his fiance's true inner feeling about him. LEAVE, seriously cancel the wedding and LEAVE. If you marry this woman even after hearing this stuff then you are the architect of your misery and NO ONE can help you. RUN!
@josephstevens9888 Жыл бұрын
"you are the architect of your misery and NO ONE can help you".... what a wise saying. Do you mind if I use it?
@realbigmanoncampus Жыл бұрын
@@josephstevens9888 Go ahead. 👍 Glad you liked it.
@your_royal_highness9 ай бұрын
Poor guy. I know he wants to believe she was kidding. Assume she was joking for a minute (she wasn’t); the level of disrespect in front of her girlfriends would and should be enough.
@VastKnowledge2023 Жыл бұрын
Everything happens for a reason! Maybe the stomach ache helped him from ruining his life with divorce and alimony. So lucky! I would call it off!
@francisdashwood1760 Жыл бұрын
This gives new meaning to the term ''gut feeling''...lol.
@x97s Жыл бұрын
@@francisdashwood1760 Lmao
@Dan-qp1el Жыл бұрын
Run, don't walk....RUN
@vspyryt Жыл бұрын
This guy is lucky he found out before getting trapped in a marriage
@georgeelder8415 Жыл бұрын
In many more cases than us men might imagine.."We serve a purpose."
@brandonkelly3275 Жыл бұрын
There are 2 choices: End it. Or be who she said you are.
@greendragonok Жыл бұрын
Can't find genuine burning desire I've given up I should stop looking
@Willie_Wahzoo Жыл бұрын
Rich, the problem with the "genuine burning desire" jibber-jabber is that IT WILL NOT LAST. Whamin are fickle and capricious. They WILL find someone else, and by definition, a new guy is less boring that the guy she thinks she's "figured out" (note: They never figure you out. They tell themselves they do because it makes them feel wise; they're not. They're presumptuous.).
@Sashiantes Жыл бұрын
Leave her, immediately. Any single second she gets of your time, is wasted. Consider yourself as free and be the King over your time and energy.
@jmt2192 Жыл бұрын
I almost never get drunk but even if I were drunk, I would never joke or speak in such an exploitative way about my husband. This goes beyond your relationship. She seems to be a toxic person.
@francisdashwood1760 Жыл бұрын
I'm curious. What attracted you to the men's red pill community?
@AmandaHugenkiss2915 Жыл бұрын
Depends on how genuine your feelings are. Alcohol is referred to as truth serum and liquid courage for very good reasons.
@pauliusmatiusovas4102 Жыл бұрын
That's it. Leave and never contact again
@darylbrice Жыл бұрын
DO NOT confront her (yet). Prepare your exit, talk to a lawyer if you share property, BE smart. Halt or delay any commitments regarding the wedding. Once you've planned your exit. execute your plan and tell her it's over and your mind is made up. Tears will be exchanged and it will be very hard but STAND YOUR GROUND. Count your lucky stars you overheard her, learn and move your life forward and away from this women.
@jroll5858 Жыл бұрын
That's EXACLTY how to do it. Even though you'll want to confront them you have to move in silence. Get all your "I's" dotted & "T's" crossed behind the scenes & once you're ready make the escape
@sanjaysbhargava27 Жыл бұрын
Perfect, no drama
@paulgilbert2506 Жыл бұрын
This is the best comment on the thread. HOWEVER... I would make some changes. I 100% agree about "exit prep" (including talking to a lawyer) and halting the wedding plans. BUT... when he executes it, HE SHOULD NOT CONFRONT HER DIRECTLY. He should write an unemotional letter saying something like: "Hey... I recently became aware of your true feelings for me. Given what I have learned, I cannot marry you. And honestly, you should not want to marry me. This is an opportunity for you to find someone you truly love. I wish you all the best." Better yet, have the lawyer write it. And then ghost. 100% ghost. There will be a tremendous desire to "confront" her and try to make her feel some measure of guilt. DONT DO IT. One thing I can assure him about the conversation he plans in his head, is that IT WILL NOT GO THE WAY HE THINKS IT WILL. I dont know HOW it will go sideways, but I give my 100% guarantee that it will go sideways. And there is no reason to have the conversation anyways. There is nothing... NOTHING... that can be said that will make it OK to marry her.
@darylbrice Жыл бұрын
@@paulgilbert2506 I like this change, smart.
@aryyahuwilliams7008 Жыл бұрын
their nonsense never ends.
@supersteve8305 Жыл бұрын
If this guy is smart enough to cancel his wedding, her conversation with her girlfriends will save him hundreds of thousands of dollars. She would have a few kids (probably not his), and divorce him and start the alimony and child support lifestyle.
@elijahullmann6231 Жыл бұрын
It’s amazing he got to hear it. Lucky he got to hear and dump her.
@LeadLeftLeon Жыл бұрын
When Rich amends his red or green flags genuine burning desire has to be added. No man should seriously consider any woman unless she has GBD for him regardless of the level he’s currently at
@francisdashwood1760 Жыл бұрын
If that were the standard, very few people would ever get married...lol! Only the top 5% (perhaps less) of men will ever experience a woman's ''burning desire''! I mean, let's face it, most women settle for men who are not even on their top-10 list...lol!
@holdfast7182 Жыл бұрын
What I've learned from dealing with jealous/narcissistic "friends" is that these "jokes" aren't jokes. They're slights intended to make you feel worse about yourself.
@artwha0 Жыл бұрын
Great video Rich. Explained very well. This guy should run.
@MarkSmith-uz4nf Жыл бұрын
Absolutely on the booze and truth!!
@MLBERBERKING1063 Жыл бұрын
another good story
@DaveJuan72 Жыл бұрын
TRUTH IS... YOU MIGHT NEVER BE ANYONES FIRST CHOICE
@Kwanka69 Жыл бұрын
I would further add that in addition to not having a scarcity mindset (meaning you have lots of options when it comes to women), don’t have a thirsty mindset. Control your libido or it will control you. Guys find it more difficult to do this but if you can master this, you can pull some serious Jedi mind tricks when you interact with single women.