Hoarders ❤️ Extreme DeClutter Basement Part 11 | Fear of being Alone & Hoarding

[@marijkedeen1756]

I am in awe with your dedication to work on your hoarding issues, and work on it week after week after week, for 4 years now. And still learning new things and insights about yourself. It is very inspiring!

[@nicolechew1029]

I have an afghan my grandma made for me, and I always kept it packed away to keep it safe. After she passed though, I washed it and now keep it in the living room to snuggle with and I love it so much more. She wouldn't have wanted me to hide it away! Great job on this section!! 🦄

[@becca377]

Isn’t it such a sad irony that hoarding was doing the opposite of letting people in; space opening up is allowing others and experiences in! Well done for reflecting, this will be powerful in your recovery!!

[@dianaficsor]

As you said you are not alone, we are all here for you and each other. We are here from all over the world cheering you on. Sending hugs from Hungary 🌎😘

[@jessicabrown6943]

Have you done a “before & now” of when you started the basement compared to now? I’d love to see the progress!! You’re doing amazing!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@allaboutmookie3688]

Watch one of her first hoarded basement tours and then watch her latest one... there you go your own before and after

[@kendrasbeautychannel6318]

You can always be around people, but also can still feel alone

[@kendrasullivan7407]

Its common to have feelings of loneliness when you are nuero divergent (adhd, autism, etc) and specifically when you don't know anyone else like you. Some people consider a symptom but its practically just from the environment. I remember multiple times as a child wanting to go home while sitting in my bedroom. I cant remember all the fancy terms but its something to do with how comfort happens. Someone asks for help expecting solutions but only gets comfort instead or vice versa. The mismatch in our brains makes us think we are only one like us and then we feel alone. Luckily the internet is here now and we find people like us very easily!

[@lizbratcher2919]

I love that others who struggle can see these realistic videos. Most decluttering videos on KZbin and TikTok are these extreme things and that’s not really realistic, especially for someone who has mental health issues. Thanks for sharing a realistic and encouraging journey through this!

[@fianorian]

As someone in her sixties, who has always lived alone, I can understand your fear. I love that you have discovered a whole new family on KZbin too. I don't post vids. but I have posters that I regularly watch, and they have become like family to me. You are one strong lady.

[@summerbaby4600]

I highly, highly recommend the book “Goodbye Things” by Fumio Sasaki. The author dealt more with inferiority issues than anxiety, but he talks about us humans being social animals. We were never meant to be alone, so we try so hard to appeal to the crowd our worth through our possessions. For example, Fumio had lots of books, just so he could be seen as someone intellectual. You have lots of bright, happy, fun, playful things. Maybe growing up, you felt the need to assure your family how happy you were???? Does that play any part in suppressing loneliness? I’m no therapist, so I could be totally off, but I just thought of that book and wanted to recommend it to you😊 You’ve heard the term “the silent to do list”, right? He came up with that☺️ In that book he has many practical decluttering tips too!

[@jeannebowes2898]

I love your happy summer dresses! You have so many people that love you. We are with you.

[@chinadoll6841]

I have been following along since you have been doing your basement. Your honesty is so very encouraging and you are making amazing progress. You have no idea how encouraging you have been to so many of us. Miss Pepper is your very own cheerleader, what a sweetheart she is. Love 💗💗 Grace

[@scholargrrl]

Pepper is flourishing and so happy!!! She seems super excited during declutters! Spending quality time with you and getting empty boxes!!! You are treating her right!

[@megan2176]

That's a major light bulb moment!! I think part of minimalism is clearing the outer world, so we can better deal with our inner world (thoughts, memories, past trauma). Holding on to stuff helps to distract us from dealing with the inner stuff, which is something I hadn't thought about before! Light bulbs going on all over the place! 💡 💡 💡 💡 💡👍🥰😊🤗

[@donnakhammer1449]

You're not the only one who is afraid of being alone ❤

[@bluejay5531]

my dear miss heart, I am going through your videos catching up because I am back to working on my own hoard, yet again...I can relate with the loneliness, maybe with a different twist, I realised one of the many times that I had managed to clear my space, that I felt extremely more lonely, even though I hate my hoard and it gives me great pain, adds to my depression and exhaustion...I am working through these emotions while I let go, it is the most important part of decluttering...Love and Light 💚

[@sassyslsgrl]

Feeling alone and "abandoned" for any reason in childhood can cause that fear of being alone even if you are surrounded by love there can be circumstances that make you feel "alone" in a situation. Thank you for helping all of us feel less alone ❤️

[@barbarap6851]

Excellent progress! We can see the wall behind the next layer! Keep on going...you're right...we are not alone

[@carolynoquinn4573]

I've Never been more proud of you!!! That was a Pivotal piece of the puzzle about why you hoard!!!!!

[@jokebetweenthetrees]

🌈 remember the meaning of the rainbow. You are not alone! Been following you for years now and I am very much in awe. You are doing amazing!

[@MaxinnePal]

You letting go of those Christmas cards is HUGE! You are doing so well in your recovery! ❤️

[@audreylandon2934]

I look forward to your insights. You are helping so many people, you'll never know how much. You are truly a God given blessing.

[@beck1365]

Have you ever explored the concept of kintsugi? It’s the Japanese art of repairing broken things -often ceramics -with silver or gold. The idea is that the repairs actually make something stronger than it was before it broke. I spent much time in therapy trying to “recover” from past trauma, and understanding how my cracks and breaks make me stronger was so meaningful. Actually allows me to be more loving, patient and gentle with myself! Thank you for being open and vulnerable with us on your channel!! You are such a bright light!

[@joygoward5089]

I've bin following you for about 2 years. I cant wait for you to post another post. I'm so proud of how far you have come. Xx

[@ahoardersheart]

Awe!!! Thank you so so much my friend!!! Your encouraging message bringing so much comfort in my heart 🦄💜🙏🏻🌟

[@carrie3206]

I always love your videos! I look forward to them every week! ❤️🌼🌼🌼❤️

[@Darnabymom]

ME, TOO!!!

[@sterterous]

You were so calm and purposeful doing this declutter. It has been lovely to watch you grow in confidence and go from strength to strength. I always appreciate the insights you give us. Well done. You should be proud of your progress. There are a lot of people who take about you. You are not alone.

[@fabienneroure9995]

Sooooo proud of you! This is a major inner reflexion thank you so much for helping others by sharing your story. God bless🌻🍀🌟🌿🌼

[@leahfischer5264]

What a HUGE breakthrough!!! That helps me to..my subconscious belief is that I’m not worthy or acceptable!

[@samwatts3378]

Really proud of you for really diving into the psychological reasons for hoarding ❤️ Facing your fears head on is truly terrifying but a very brave thing to do . You are certainly not alone just look at all your loyal supporters cheering you on . Keep on keeping on 😂❤️

[@suzy1676]

I also appreciate you talking about the greeting cards.

[@monaleencabaron3694]

Miss Heart, I always look forward to your videos!! You are amazing, I’m so proud of you - you’ve come so far! Love from New Zealand ❤️

[@eavening4149]

You're incredible! Look at all that floorspace! Wow! And what a breakthrough! You're not alone, and you're helping us all with your KZbin and insights! You are a warm ray of sunshine! This week, we reset the house for the school year after a busy summer

[@VaraVannerSimpleLiving]

My friend spoke about having a mindset of scarcity rather than abundance, and needing to change that mindset. I have found it very helpful in letting go of things I might otherwise hold onto. Instead of thinking what if I will need an item I am not using in the future; I am thinking I have more than enough items, I dont need the extra I am not using now. Great job!

[@charishurt1768]

I finally figured it out Miss Pepper is your little girl baby she loved her mama follows her every where 💜

[@ahoardersheart]

Awe!!!!! Yesssss, that little Miss Pepper is my baby girl ❤️😻❤️

[@greenserene2676]

I am not crying .... oh my goodness what a sweet comment

[@melanietrester]

Hello from Germany, hi miss heart, meow pepper...... Cats are the best. Love my "tiger" like my kids. Good job, be safe

[@Micheleoneandonly]

AGREED!!

[@eileenlester4342]

💜💜💜💜

[@joannabrochocka-peka2529]

It`s impossible for you to be alone-you have so many friends in your youtube family! Everyone loves you and supports you! Person loved so much cannot be alone!

[@ellenstam-mulder3002]

good job and you are not alone you have so much people that care about you. big hug Ellen

[@nadinewilliamson1037]

Such amazing progress in the basement.

[@pattybranchess6655]

Miss Pepper is do adorable 🥰 I'm so happy for you that you are starting to connect with the deeper realizations about the hoarding. All the blessings ❤️

[@michelledurdin8564]

I feel like you're my soul sister - everything you say resonates with me. Thank you soooo much for being so open and real on your channel.

[@eSusan12]

Wow wow wow. You continue to work so hard. You are showing how small steps make a huge difference!

[@dmoore3887]

I look forward to your basement declutter videos. Your tossy-tossy piles are all adding up and making such a difference!

[@MrsKellyintheMiddle]

I love sewing how far you've come in your decluttering journey! It helps me SO much when I'm feeling those strong emotions to my own things. I just decluttered some notebooks I kept from almost 10 years ago now that I used when I was first teaching. They felt super sentimental to me because I LOVED that group of kiddos and that school district, but I was finally able to see if for what it was... a used notebook with nothing actually sentimental in it. Also, we had a cat JUST like your Pepper girl. Her name was Nala and I miss her every day! So I love seeing your precious kitty! 😍❤️

[@karenstairs8273]

You are doing an amazing job with the basement. More than that you are helping so many people understand Hoarding. Keep up the fabulous work!!

[@Neulanen]

Miss Pepper is such a good support kitty ❤

[@elenaali6931]

I can't believe how far you went through the past 4 years I'm so proud of you

[@shiny-dust]

is pepper ever like, “hey don’t throw that box away! i must sit in it”

[@amara560]

Abandonment doesn't have to be so straightforward. It can be someone abandoning you by passing away. Someone not recognizing your mental or physical needs. Someone withdrawing because of mental health issues. Even you abandoning yourself by not being true to yourself. Being alone and 'outside' of an inner group has sadly been a recurring theme in my life. I found it helps focusing on places where I do belong. Like you do by thinking about your KZbin family here! I hope you can get to the root of it all. You are still making amazing progrese!

[@suzy1676]

Good for you to figure out that deeper root of your attachment to things.❤

[@jackeepea6069]

Good job...great commentary!

[@Andonapansonkey]

The brain works in mysterious ways. The fear of loneliness might even be coded due to something that your teacher or close elderly figure said/did. Even if it was like during a game of hide and seek. You just have to try to identify all if those codes that do not serve you anymore. The subconscious is like a child. Even if you know that something is silly, your subconscious might still try to hold on to it. You are doing so great at identifying those thoughts/fears now. I truly believe that you are ready to tackle more sentimental stuff you keep in your basement 🥹 love your videos💜 can’t wait to watch your progress!

[@moniquefuselier7711]

Such a great job--both in the basement and in the mental work you are doing to get healthier. Hope you have a wonderful weekend.

[@mij6253]

Just for the algorithm. Your videos should be seen by more people.

[@charishurt1768]

You have come so very far so proud of u 💜 keep up the hard work💜🦄

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you so so much my beautiful friend 🦄💜🌟🙏🏻

[@infopubs]

This feels like a breakthrough realization, Ms. Heart! I'm so glad you know you are NOT alone. And I can tell you that I've had some real deep personal epiphanies while lying in bed sick, too! Something about being forced to stay there in bed with only my thoughts can lead to important work, can't it?

[@louisemarieschenk7683]

You've come such a long way! It must be so interesting to identify one of the biggest reasons as to why you hoard. Gaining that kind of insight into yourself can really help your progress.

[@josephdaly2015]

Wow that was very insightful. I definitely attached emotion to an item but I’ve improved (from listening to you) and now will let things go to someone who needs them more than me now. I am very bad with cards from birthdays, Christmas, invitations etc and have them all from when I was a child. I even have our two children’s cards as well 😮🫢 You will never be alone with this channel. We need you as you need us and we are all supporting each other. Another huge pile leaving well done 👏 Miss Pepper is the best and loves checking out all the new spaces. Stay safe and healthy. Mary, Joes wife 🙇‍♀️👍👏🙏💐🐈🦄

[@devonchase2119]

I look forward to your videos all week. They’re the highlight of my day. :)

[@ingmariohman8242]

Your fears of being alone resonated so deaply with me. I've lived through bad periods of depression because of feeling alone. I was well into my 40's before I could actually look into that fear and work through it. I've learned to appriciate being on my own and to be present mind and body when I see family and friends.

[@musictothesoul4life]

I completely understand on so many levels. It takes so much strength to not only declutter, but to also analyze our deep traumas and fears.

[@rosaliev8942]

Okay, so, maybe you've already thought of this, but I noticed it before and now that you mentioned that lonelines is part of the reason you hoard. There are things going out of the house and animals are coming in. First the guineapigs and now miss Pepper, maybe they are a new way of soothing that fear since they keep you company. I hope that made sense.

[@rebeckamattisson5083]

Yay another great decluttering video! I am so proud of you and happy for your opened space. One day you will enjoy it without being nervous about the "emptiness". Lots of love, have a great weekend!

[@pinkroses135]

It's fascinating all the core beliefs or fears we can come up with and all the different ways they manifest

[@pyrobunnymaniac]

I was always surrounded by people too all the time, I did have my dad die when I was young, but I get the abandonment/loneliness fear. Looking back I did a lot of stuff independently when I went to college, but despite that it was only until I was out of a long-term relationship & starting to deal with real depression did I have to confront those feelings of being by myself or lonely. There is a quote "Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self". To find contentment when we do become "alone" w/ourselves is I feel the key to inner peace & is part of having your cup full; when it's anything less you feel that toxic lacking mentality, anxiety, or seeking from others. I feel being able to fill your life with healthy things that bring you joy, self-soothe, and actually celebrating yourself alone is something we don't give ourselves enough of & is part of personal development. W/that said I still feel joy & filled up going on trips with people vs. just myself, but at least if I were to be alone I could find enjoyment and peace w/o feeling alone. Idk why I went on this whole thing, but just wanted to say fear of being lonely is valid no matter if you had all the company in the world. Anyways you're doing great facing your fears & so glad to see your progress and work!

[@susannaknobloch4601]

Thank you for sharing, your consistency is so inspiring!!! 😀👍 I spent the last 3 weeks to declutter my massive paper piles, I have made a lot of progress, working daily at least 30 minutes on decluttering, but the most important thing is that I realized that I am able to be consistent too. So I am much more confident now, that I am able to finish this project. For me consistency is key!

[@jaminxc143]

Pepper is so cute 😍

[@moneystrb22]

Highly recommend the book: adult children of emotionally immature parents - you may not have had issues with your parents but a lot of the emotions you describe are talked about in the book. Also a sense of loneliness is talked about a lot in the book. It was mentioned to me by my therapist when I talked about feeling alone as a child and into adulthood. It normalizes that feeling and explains how to work on the issues surrounding that feeling. Once I realized that feeling wasn’t my fault and I’m not the only one who feels that way, it really improved my life. :)

[@joyindrelie6715]

So great!

[@margiegalaviz7101]

Yay basement videos...❤️❤️❤️ so proud of you Miss Heart...sending much love your way from Texas...❤️❤️❤️

[@carolynoquinn4573]

You're such a sweetie, and SO brave.

[@HolographicCathawk]

You are never alone but specifically you Miss heart will always have tons of supporters you will never meet who love you and want you to succeed. I am one! I hope you can learn to conquer your fear of being alone because you are greatly loved.

[@sherry7x777]

Excellent thoughts and understanding. 💕

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you so so much 🙏🏻🌟🦄💜

[@brg2743]

Getting rid of an old laptop that isn't working. It has died. It is still looking brand new though. It needs to go. For me, it is just hard to let go of past seasons of life. A loved ones belongings, things from when the kids were small, and memories. Been letting go slowly of those things that are not useful and taking up space. Want our house more manageable and ready to move if need be. Decluttering something daily even if it is just paper no longer needed. Little steps, but good progress.

[@Raxx777]

great job- thanks for sharing with others your journey

[@snorlaxjen]

You and me are so similar I have only just started to think deeper about why I collect stuff and it came down to the same things. Security, love, family ❤ it is nice to hear that I’m not alone

[@livingwithME2015]

I love the way to give us your thinking and feelings about your stuff. Thanks for giving the words to how I am feeling and the why I do what I do. ❤

[@crashrn5682]

It would be so special to display the Mikasa silver bowl, keeping it IN the box just like how it looked on your wedding day, on the yellow shelves. Have a little display of your favorite things! It would look great next to those lunch boxes! You are such an incredible person, I've been watching you for years, and I am so proud of you!

[@larissatom6910]

Great idea. Ms Heart could also do that with the afghan.

[@sedwards536]

I've been sent over from Aurikaterinas channel. She is amazing and the comment said that you are too. I've not watched yet but I am looking forward to it. I need to tidy up and walk my boys before I fall down the black hole of your channel😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂

[@catherinebrooks7097]

Have you got any idea when you will be doing your yard sale, your doing amazing ❤️

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you!! Definitely in Fall!!! In the summer most people are away on vacation…plus it’s super hot!!! Lol

[@greenwillow5404]

This was such a great video, Miss Heart! What a fascinating insight that loneliness is at the core of your hoarding. I would imagine being bullied as a child would definitely either deepen or create (depending on the person) that fear. I wonder if even buying certain things ie. stuffed animals, dolls or figurines would be part of that. Would we not want to leave something cute and appealing alone on the shelf? Just blown away by your insight. I never heard anyone point that out before and it seems there is so much truth in that discovery. Bravo for your deeper dive! I've been watching you since your vey first episode and am continually amazed at your progress. I think you'r e wonderful.

[@stephaniereed3248]

I adore Pepper so much. It always makes me so happy to see her.

[@croccatcher]

Look at you go, amazing well done

[@sherry7x777]

Yes, very motivating. 💕🙏 thanks you.

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you so so much my dear friend 🦄💜🌟🙏🏻

[@bethstratton3391]

Ms Heart you are really making progress this year, congratulations. Hopefully you’ll get the centre part cleared out soon because that would make a much bigger area for your children to play whilst they still enjoy their toys. Remember, sooner than you think, they’ll reach their mid-teens and no doubt by then they’ll want a hang out den for watching football or playing computer games with their mates and not a children’s playroom setup.

[@leezasims9959]

More incredible progress....🥳🥳🥳

[@elizabethbrundagemediajour150]

Once again a great declutter video with great advice. Your cat daughter Pepper is a warm fuzzy helper...she wants an empty cardboard box .

[@AriLo-d9g]

I think I was emotionally alone even if not physically alone. And that’s why I struggled with connections to things. Might be similar for you. Emotional loneliness- wanting to have someone near by to empathize with, validate, and sit in the sometimes-scary emotions with us.

[@lauraminny148]

I am so impressed! you are going deeper and deeper discovering your emotions and I love it! 😍

[@GraceOfGuadalupe]

Wow! Excellent progress! I'm the opposite of you - I have claustrophobia! So it's minimalism for me! (the rest of my family however LOVES their stuff! And it gives me anxiety! lol!) I'm also ADD, so less stuff helps me cope with that too!

[@jeankarcher2460]

Wow you are so brave. Facing your inner self can be really hard. You said one word that caught my attention, Barren - maybe the hoarding is your way of dealing with your grief.

[@nancycosgrove4005]

Great progress! You are getting stronger and stronger💕

[@orlyjj]

Do you think you will finish the basement this summer?! I mean finish going through never gone through stuff. I feel like the farther back you get the more of it is tossy tossy. I don't think you kept ANYTHING that time. Good job!

[@rachellskerlec4713]

I think you did a great job. Even though some of these videos is mostly just paper and boxes it's still an important step in your process. Think of how much safer you're making your home by getting rid of all that fire starter! Good job! Have you and hubby talked about why he is a hoarder as well? Does he struggle with the same fears of loneliness from his childhood and that's why he hangs on to so much stuff as well? I like how you talk about blessing another mama with the baby clothes. I think you're right. That stuff does no good sitting in a basement but it could really bless someone else especially when times are as tough as they are now. You are an inspiration. Keep going! I love when you have a new video out. I watch it right away. 😁

[@charishurt1768]

Fantastic job 💜

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you so so much my dear friend 🦄💜🌟🙏🏻

[@northernlassie2755]

Christians are never alone.....God is always with us 🙏💖

[@raggedyann4372]

Thank You❤️🥰

[@o0Theresa0o]

I was wondering if you have been going to therapy and working out this stuff with a professional? You've been doing a lot of great work on the mental health front, and I've been curious if that has been supported by someone. It would be great if you talked about that a bit :)

[@ahoardersheart]

I have a dear friend who is a therapist working with me. She specializes in anxiety but it’s very easy to connect anxiety with hoarding disorder & behaviors 🦄💜🌟🙏🏻

[@RitaDeeDee]

@Trickius I was thinking the same!

[@soffigoff]

I'm feeling the samme of afraid to be alone and I'm afraid of feeling lonely. I know I never was abandon either but my mom locked her self out when I was a baby so the police had to come and break in the door. Because I was in the crib hungry and the stove was one. Otherwise the locksmith hade have to come. So I always thought that was one of the reasons for my afraid of being alone. But mabye I was born with it like you are. I have ADHD ADD and autism and I live in Sweden. Bye the way I love your videos and always watch them as soon as I can. Tanks for being a role model. XOXO

[@shadowmist82]

I wonder if hoarding can be learned? My dad always kept everything and for many years, i have had a hard time throwing or even using things. Im trying to donate more and more each year. I want my house to be easy to live in.

[@lynnielu7852]

I really enjoy your video format. Thanks for sharing.

[@marijamarincic4880]

Love seeing progress you're making ❤️ Sending hugs from Croatia 🇭🇷

[@ahoardersheart]

Thank you so so much my beautiful friend 🇭🇷❤️🙏🏻