Hobbies that are RED FLAGS

Hobbies that are RED FLAGS | r/askreddit | ask reddit thread "Whats a hobby someone can have that is an immediate red flag?" pretty spicy stuff
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[@Cuestar]

for the anime figurines, I'm specifically asking about people who have lewd ones on display! other anime figurines are acceptable...for now

[@higanbanamarie669]

I am an grown adult woman. If I want my lewd Fox girls and 1/4 bunny girls on display, I'll have them on display. My friends don't care, I pay my taxes. It's my adult hobby. If kids come over to my house I put a cover on the case. Can it be called weird. Yeah of course. But what hobby isn't weird? If it's a figure of a grown woman or man, I don't see why you can't enjoy them. Though I agree that Figures from like Eromanga sensei, or Shiro from No game no life are fucking cringe.

[@doa797]

for the figurines help me with loneliness and having depression seeing them smile help make me happy its just a small thing that helps

[@sunnyandthechlo]

I was about to comment that I know some pretty cool people who collect figurines. And even anime figures wouldn't red flag me, as long as they aren't lollies in lewd poses. I do think it's a bit weird to have posters of naked anime chicks on full display but eh, not a red flag.

[@akamestoff]

Ok good cause I was looking at my dbz figures like oh no

[@fxtchmetheirsoulz]

i await for the sweet gift of death every single passing day

[@melkhiordarkfell4354]

In Ireland splashing someone by driving through a puddle is illegal and you can lose your licence from it. Even if it is an accident, it is proof you were driving without paying attention to the road and to pedestrians.

[@grantmctaggart9942]

Considering the weather there I’d think it would be illegal to not do that /:

[@sourgummiescureyourpain4555]

Gotta find out whether that's a thing in Germany as well. And if it isn't, we need to make it happen asap.

[@Chelaxim]

The pop psychology one is spot on. People have been using words like narcissist, sociopath and gas lighting like they were going out of style for the past few years.

[@Daziesandconfuzed]

Yes yes and yes.

[@pollypockets508]

What if they're actually a psychiatrist? Sorry. My boyfriend is a therapist. He doesn't diagnose people except that I'm always begging him to. Online people. Not irl people.

[@charliedeegan1598]

I saw someone us "trauma bonding" as some cute couples cliche as if it isn't a gd abuse tactic. The internet just flanderises everything.

[@Nerobyrne]

That's exactly what a gaslighting, narcissistic sociopath would say 🤔 (Yes this is a joke)

[@MA-vy8cu]

I feel like people with personal issues themselves have trouble separating therapy and diagnoses with just random stuff said by just pedestrians, people can still use the words associated with mental health work, its you who seems to have a problem with assuming what people mean. Most people just use them like any other words, there are crazies like actual narcissist who turn the accusations around like a friggin party trick, but most of the time i see completely normal discourse interrupted by these types reflections and assumptions. You cant change how people speak and find patterns, but you can choose to be less hypersensitive about them.

[@slashbash1347]

Most of these aren't hobbies; just destructive habits. To me, having a hobby has always involved building something. Cooking, painting, writing, carpentry, etc. Hell, sports build your physique and reading builds your mind. Building a collection counts too.

[@Cuestar]

sorry this video is 5% red flags 95% unhinged cuestar rant

[@luvely1062]

I'm only 5% in the video!!!!

[@lpc9929]

I'm am infertile.

[@pollypockets508]

I love cuestar rants

[@leeharding9349]

That’s what makes this video urs! Most of us watch u for the commentary bc we like it. We enjoy it cue dw

[@octosmocto8119]

We love cuestar rants 🙏

[@amandaheasley426]

As a true crime listener, you're 1000% right. Both the disrespectful channels and the people who consume it as entertainment.

[@fashiharz8584]

I remember when Angelika oles (spelling?) contacted THE MOTHER OF A MURDER VICTIM to talk about a KZbin drama that Gabbie Hannah started. That's just .. wtf.... The "drama" was that Gabbie complimented the murder victim's fashionable clothes. And other drama channels just jumped on that.

[@amandaheasley426]

@@fashiharz8584 WHAT omg. That's just... absolutely fucking beyond reasonable. I can't begin to understand that thought process

[@bored88888888]

Same. Last Podcast on the Left is about as far as I can go, but even then it rubs me the wrong way sometimes. At least they TRY to reign in the jokes every so often to remember how godawful the events were. Anything more casual than that just grosses me out

[@amandaheasley426]

@There's Nothing Like a Game last podcast on the left pisses me off, I really tried to like them back in the day but I had to stop watching cause it crossed lines too many times for me. So now I'm a big fan of people like Kendall Rae, she does a ton of outreach for victims and their families and is ALWAYS super respectful and sincere.

[@sluttymctits4496]

I don't want to turn this into a witch hunt, but I think That Chapter is among the worst. From an entertainment standpoint, he's got it down; he makes jokes and quips and it can be fun. But when you think about it, he is so insanely disrespectful to everyone he talks about. The murderers, that's one thing. But he insults the victims, calling them names like "loser" or "wimp" or "not the sharpest tool in the shed" and cracking jokes about people's traumatic lives and the decisions that led them to their demise. I definitely prefer Danielle Kirsty or Coffeehouse Crime -- they show respect for everyone while still telling an engaging story. Even Mr. Ballen, who's a divisive figure in the true crime community, is a respectful yet entertaining storyteller who is incredibly charitable, donating money/proceeds to various victims charities.

[@hannahwhite7227]

This is just from personal experience, but people who have no hobbies. I grew up around people in my family and those they interacted with who only focused on work (just the typical 9-5 kind of work), and maybe the occasional drunken night out at the bar or staying inside binge watching television. Beyond that they literally did nothing else. Talking to them is like talking to wet cardboard. There’s nothing interesting about them and all they do is complain about work or talk about work drama. I’m not bashing anyone who enjoys those things and is genuinely interested in them, but there’s a massive difference between being interesting while doing something that you enjoy and doing something out of boredom or to pass the time. People who have hobbies are at least neat to talk to since they’re passionate about it.

[@pearlwhite1799]

I was kinda sad about the "red flag hobby" of adopting too many animals, because I myself have 9 dogs and a cat. But then I remembered that I basically run a small animal shelter and take great care of all my rescues, while some people take animals in just to neglect them. It sucks when people just adopt or buy animals they won't take care of

[@Georg3e]

You're doing good work dude! I hope those animals are happy that you're in their lives

[@lilymulligan8180]

Regarding armchair psychology. Have we all forgotten how trendy it was to have an eating disorder on Tumblr back in the day, and how much that messed with an entire generation of girls? Let's destigmatize getting treatment, and have greater compassion for people who struggle, but WITHOUT romanticizing and glamorizing mental illness, using our illnesses as excuses for shitty behavior, or identifying with our illnesses as a personality trait 🙄 I do appreciate that we're talking more about mental health collectively as a society, cuz frankly, we need it. But it's a double edged sword. Well-meaning people often misuse clinical terms, which makes them lose all meaning... Meanwhile, not-well-meaning people drop these terms to make themselves seem self aware or enlightened, when really, they're just being manipulative. Not to mention the danger of associating a specific symptom with only one disorder. For example, difficulty focusing is not exclusive to ADHD, despite what TikTok says - it shows up in almost every mental disorder (as well as many physical illnesses)! In my case, all of the info floating around out there about ADHD, had me thinking that I had it cuz I related to a lot of what people talked about. (Although, to be fair, I thought I had it ever since I found out what it was back in high school, well before TikTok and Instagram....) But nope, turns out it's actually OCD. All of my ADHD-like symptoms were secondary to my underlying anxiety disorder. And this is why we go see trained professionals, folks! A lot of the ADHD tips out there have definitely been helpful for me, and there's nothing wrong with that - if it works, it works. But ultimately the OCD treatment is what's made the most impact in my life and well-being. If you're treating the wrong thing, you might see *some* progress, but probably not to the level you want.

[@MooMoo69556]

Sounds like…people need to get over their “mental illness” and just deal with it. Mental illness for the most part isn’t real. We’re just too pampered as a society and find problems.

[@worldcomicsreview354]

Even on Tripod, Geocities and Grrlpages et al back in the day, there was a bunch of people called "pro-ana", who thought anorexia was a good idea to lose weight.

[@anerdyrat]

I don't know if these count as family vlogging channels, but I've seen tik-tokers and KZbinrs talk about how they deal with their kids problems through gentle parenting, to teach others how to do it. They never show the children's faces or say their names (Unelss the child is old enough to consent to it), I think that's the only way that someone can do family blogging where it's morally correct and not damaging to the child.

[@SomeNameWithGambitInIt]

I feel that's more of a parenting advice channel. Family vlogging is filming everything your kids do and exposing it to people on the internet.

[@anerdyrat]

@@SomeNameWithGambitInIt yeah I guess you have a point

[@fanime1]

Yes! There's one channel I love to watch that does that and I don't even want kids. I just genuinely love the way she raises her kids and she doesn't show their faces.

[@lostinspace466]

In regards to guys DMing random models- I’ve seen sooo many of these creeps, the sad part is that most of the time, the “models” are clearly catfish scammers, yet they talk to them, ignoring all clear-as-day red flags, just like they would try to pick up a girl in a bar. A lot of them are like in their 60s too so that’s pretty cringe.

[@enfieldlammergeier]

I am interested in taxidermy and many people treat that as a red flag which is understandable, however I still have a bitter taste in my mouth every time a person cuts contact with me because of it. I do feel empathy, I do a lot of work to help animals and people in need, never had as much of a thought about hurting someone, yet some people view me as a monster just because of my hobby. I started telling people I am doing taxidermy outright and my life has improved drastically because if you bring that up in the first conversation, those who don’t approve can move on with their life without getting hurt by separation. I am now surrounded by those who approve of my hobbies and even help me out sometimes :)

[@DrNaz]

No hobbies === major red flag

[@alphawolf927]

1:23 i went down a weird rabbithole one time doing this. A woman bumped into my car in a parking lot and we exchanged information.(nothing ever came of it since it was just some rubber from her tire that i could just rub off my bumper and some small paint chips) Then out of pure curiosity i guess? I did a google search and within an hour i had found where she lives from her facebook, that she had kids, what other vehicles she and her husband drove and where she works because her cell number came up on a busness website. It actually scared me to see what kind of stuff people just put on the internet and never even think twice about it, and what someone who actually wanted to cause harm could find so easily. Scary. Shit. Made me delete some stuff off my social medias and get rid of an old facebook account.

[@amahlaka]

Only way to protect against OSINT, is having a good OPSEC

[@raccoon.pies.]

My family tried to pressure me into getting a Facebook in highschool (I was new to social media and knew nothing about anything) and when I checked it out I saw you could add like your work experience, your highschool, your home town, and all of your family members and I was like why is this so normalized? I ended up deleting it cause I realized my family just wanted to spy on me

[@NPC-rq6vn]

"My roommate would drive on rainy days so that he can splash pedestrians." What was he, Elliot Rodger?

[@supertimerip]

Childrens beauty pageants should be outlawed tbh.

[@lalywindland5764]

They attract pedos and teach kids that the way they look and entertain the public is the most important thing in life.... really sad !

[@Toby-Draven]

Agreed, children's beauty pageants are terrible

[@RaspBerryPies]

The mental health one bothers me so much! I’ve had it happen online and in person multiple times. The worse one was when I was told by a classmate I have ADHD because I set an alarm to remind me to do my laundry and take my medication…. I’ve told people what disorders I do have and they’re just like “Oh well those symptoms are similar to (insert whatever mental health issue here) so it could actually be that instead!” I just also hate their whole attitude about it to. Same classmate was sitting next to me talking about how they just *know* someone they go to church with has Autism and was like “Honey trust me I have it so I can tell you have it. Don’t worry in a few weeks she’ll realize it.” Like dude someone knows their health better than you do! Like I get suggesting looking into something if you’re a friend or family but to a random person? Also to say it with such certainty! The audacity.

[@waffel3605]

The pet adoption thing is something my mother definitely has trouble with to the point where our house and and extra room is filled with dogs and dedicated to dogs with her always having 5+ dogs around her at a time (with way more in other rooms). The people that live here absolutely hate it especially when they’re everywhere all the time and she treats them all like her own children more so than her own kids and even tells us that her dogs treat her better than her children when all she’s focused on is dogs all of the time ever since I was born. it gets frustrating when she’s less focused on her children and is sucked into dog social media groups and won’t acknowledge I’m even talking to her.

[@Sergio-nb4hj]

That's the responsibility that comes with having 5+ dogs. In that sense she's doing a good job, but yeah she should have considered her relationship with you before bringing them in.

[@scritoph3368]

Well, dogs are kinda like babies but they never stop unconditionally loving you, or develop their own opinions! Really though, sorry about the shitty mom.

[@sunnyandthechlo]

My mother in law had 20 dogs when I first met her. But she also had 5 acres of land and treated them all very well. All except two were small. They all seemed healthy and loved so I had no problem with it, not that I would ever advise getting that many. After they all passed she didn't get any more and just has a cat.

[@iaintookthatbb6599]

Dogs are like having little children. Moms love that stage in their child’s life. Sometimes they like it a little too much. But at least she cares for them. What luck those dogs have ❤

[@Not_William]

Just wanted to hop in the replies and say (because no one else has really said it with much force, or has made excuses for your mom) that that's absolutely awful, for you and everyone else forced to live in that environment, and likely those dogs (the sheer number and density just seems to spell bad living conditions and little individual attention). It's awful your mom's that neglectful towards you, and I'm so sorry you have to deal with that and all those animals on top of it. My house feels full with just two cats, I can't even imagine the stimulus overload that probably comes from living with so many dogs. I hope something about your situation can change soon, and I wish you the best in staying sane untill then.

[@psixi2668]

I still remember the day I was on call with a friend of mine, talking about a different friend's struggles, and she turns to me with, "Hey, so... she probably has echoism, right?" So obviously I go "what???" because the hell is that supposed to be? and she turns to ME, ME the psychology student, ME who is actually studying this stuff, and goes: "Tsk tsk tsk, oh Psixi... do I really need to go talk to your professors? Have you not been learning anything at those courses of yours?" Anyway after condescending a bit about my studying habits, she sent me a link and I swear I saw red when I realized it was something related to the whole narcissism pop-psychology bull. She also had one class on psychology and then proudly proclaimed that she just "instinctively" diagnoses anyone she meets, like "tee-hee, I guess I just can't help it!" So all in all, yeah, pop psychology is kinda sore spot for me. If I hear the words "myers-brigg" my left eye twitches.

[@worldcomicsreview354]

Seems more like "our neighbour's a mechanic, he'll fix your car for free!" My dad actually overheard that once. FUNNILY ENOUGH, it suddenly turned out he was away for a week. Just like that!

[@joban4963]

I collected alcohol bottles for a while because I lived with a narcissistic father who I couldn't show any hint of any sort of vulnerability to, which included taking bottles to the recycling bin. The sound of bottles going into the bin would cause him to burst out of his office, charge through the house, then spend 10 minutes trying to convince me that I had deliberately made as much noise as possible just to piss him off.

[@caffe1n8ed]

Damn, I’m sorry about that. Hope things are better now!

[@PinkyJujubean]

I'm obsessed with dolls to the point where they have taken over my apartment like an infestation. That's gotta be a red flag

[@KerriB]

Not me immediately curious if I have red flag hobbies despite my only hobbies being video games, writing, and reading 😂

[@pollypockets508]

Those are great hobbies

[@medioc4rt]

I clicked so fast even though I draw for a hobby which is extremely normal 🤡

[@bored88888888]

I paint Warhammer so there's no recovering for me

[@sunnyandthechlo]

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Jk those are my favorite hobbies too!

[@Nerobyrne]

Oh yeah that's a ton of red flags lmao

[@Msis03]

Hi! Anime figure collector chiming in :D Granted most of my figures are based on fantasy games like Fire Emblem, so cool character design and high quality sculpts that I display around my entertainment system in my living room and other's based off of original illustrations; they're 3D displays of art. You can have too much of course, and I sell figures that I fall out of love with, so I'm never drowning in them. The lewd figures are one's I personally stay away from as I would definitely need to hide those away from visitors and that's just a waste personally. NSFW dedicated figure companies though do have some of the best quality control funny enough. My main red flag for collectors are Loli lewd figures, definitely the worst in the community.

[@Tzedakah263]

About the armchair psychology comment: I 100% agree. When I was a teacher, there would always be a handful of students who thought they were so knowledgeable about the human condition and would "diagnose" people they didn't like with conditions they didn't have. These teens were usually oblivious to their issues and projected those toxic traits onto others. No, Greighson (pronounced: "Todd"), Mary isn't bipolar; you just don't like her. It's amazing the conclusion these students drew with only 1 semester of intro to psych.

[@Psilo-gn1sx]

I'm glad true crime was mentioned. I wasn't a fan of it in the first place, but if you ever stumble across a story that actually happened to you, it hits different. A dude I hung out with in high school randomly violently murdered a mother and attacked her young daughter, then a decade later I see his face on a youtube thumbnail in my feed. A friend of mine was murdered a month ago, and I'm not looking forward to stumbling upon whatever leech feels like using her tragedy for cheap views.

[@fimbles4211]

3:54 my mum turns empty gin bottles into lights, not necessarily her bottles but often ones people give to her for crafts projects

[@fizzypigeon2571]

i am not an alcoholic and collect important bottles of alcohol. they serve as a memory (or lack thereof) of the good times me and my friends had. and the bottles i collect are the ornate glass ones, not random beer bottles. they look nice where i have them, not trashy.

[@deedumdim]

"as someone who had a small gambling issue in the past" cue, losing $32 to a gumball machine collecting all the Lil' Homies doesn't count as gambling

[@IzzyMarrie]

4:53 I've been working at a gas station for a few weeks now, and it's insane to me how many people throw away hundreds gambling. We sell powerball and scratch offs, but I've noticed it's the scratch offs that attract the most with addictive personalities. We have one guy who no matter how much you try to discourage him from buying more will legit spend over a thousand per week on average, and we do cut him off all the time. I'd love to just not sell him any at all, but 1) we're not obligated to and 2) it's really not our responsibility. Still, it kills me. Basically, he's a small business owner who'll spend anything he wins on more tickets if it's not just going to reduce what he'll owe us (he gets the tickets and scratches them before paying). Most I saw him pay in a single day was $300, and he'd have bought more but my manager cut him off.

[@elise.2436]

an example of an influencer that has an excessive amount of animals and actually does it right is lee asher, his intention in all the animals he cares for is specifically to give them wonderful and fulfilled lives and it’s truly so wholesome to see how free and happy those puppos are out in nature and the bond he has with them

[@Nindeer]

There's this father who makes short tiktoks with his dog and his very young daughter, where he just has so sweet conversations with them. The thing is, he NEVER films the child's face and usually focuses the content on his dog and I think that's awesome of him.

[@otex5155]

Smoking weed. Just ur whole existence when you ask them and their answer is always, “idk think Imma just smoke.”

[@Daziesandconfuzed]

Yeah. I mean, I think weed as a whole is a cool hobby but purely just SMOKING weed or consuming weed as a hobby is yikes. (Things like it’s compounds, how it affects the brain and body, growing, etc.. “Weed science” is pretty cool and hella complex.)

[@scritoph3368]

It’s not addictive, says the guy with a psychological dependency

[@codygames5415]

I don’t know. I just smoke.

[@esmin2400]

the one exception to this is for medical reasons imo

[@Toby-Draven]

Does smoking weed even count as a hobby?

[@Promthanius]

I’m 33 and I collect wine bottles. Only the living labels ones though and specifically their Walking Dead special editions ones

[@madducks9391]

As a gamer, gamers. The sweaty ones who take shit way to seriously

[@joshhooke8834]

Great video as always Cue. I’ve been watching you for years and years now and I still always get excited whenever you upload. Love your voice and love hearing your takes on things

[@cubonefan3]

Red flag hobbies: gun collecting, going clubbing every weekend, and dog breeding.

[@seadragonfruit]

I do wish taxidermy wasn’t so demonized as a hobby, I feel like I’ve met some of the nicest people through it lmao

[@Wolfgoddess56]

I feel that it's kind of creepy. I get when you have an animal that there is abundance of and it's for science. Or you just really would like to have a non live one of that animal in your home. Personally just the soulless eyes at times freak me out and I love animals, so I could never think to skin them and stuff them and set glass eyes in their sockets. But to each their own as long as it's not harmful to you or the planet.

[@rickwrites2612]

I think taxidermy was just seen as macabre but Jeff Dahmer kinda ruined it.

[@esmin2400]

*ethical* taxidermy is cool and harmless

[@Toby-Draven]

I mean...as long as it's not human taxidermy then I think ethical taxidermy is fine and isn't hurting anyone, like I said now if it was human taxidermy then that's when it becomes a problem

[@Eraiyna]

Nothing wrong with getting something you're supposedly not able to afford. Unless it's impacting your finances negatively and you are in a relationship, no issue. Maybe they collect second hand rolexes at steep discounts or something.

[@mikkelbagterp8074]

Also especially rolex is a great investment. Even right now during a recession I can sell mine easily for 10-15% more then I gave for it. At one point I could sell it for 40% more.

[@sunnyandthechlo]

Or they get something as gifts from a wealthy friend/family member. I think the problem is when they are CONSTANTLY buying these things, to the point where they can't get things they need and end up asking for money constantly.

[@rickwrites2612]

Like he said, it's just a red flag for financial incompetence/irresponsibility. I think the idea of red flags is the person is dangerous hidden psycho/bad person tho and having poor financial decisions doesn't make you a bad person unless you're exploiting your spouse or something. It just makes you not ideal to marry.

[@BloodiedDoomguy]

This kind of reminds me of those "reddit, what things do you associate with a manchild?" threads. And I can best summarize those as "people who have an aversion to all social interaction demonstrate their lack of social understanding". Some of them get it right, others are just kind of.. yeah. Thanks for sharing at least.

[@AsterixCodix]

In defence of Warhammer, it's kinda 3 hobbies rolled into one. If it's not for you, it's not for you. Yes, it's stupidly expensive; personally, I only buy a kit or 2 every 3/4 months when I know I can afford it. If they're sinking money into it to the extent that they can't really survive? That, is a red flag

[@cumbrap]

How do people even watch hours upon hours of true crime content? Even the most interesting unsolved cases at most make for 45 minutes of engaging content. I dunno how people can stomach a 12 hour documentary series about Barbara Ann stabbing her husband in the butthole on their family vacation.

[@pixaphy]

I mean, at least personally I'm incredibly interested in the actual interrogation and discovery process. I'm not referring to the documentary series in this case as much as I am the actual interrogation footage and courtroom proceedings. My family has a history in the judicial system and I personally have a strong interest in criminal psychology (And frankly also non-harmful but just bizarre psychology in general, I'm a case of it myself, it's interesting to see what different kinds of weird bring to the table). Though I used to binge that kind of footage non-stop it started fucking with my mood so I at least mix it with other much less depressing and horrifying content. if you get past pop psychology and get into proper real psychology it is... Well certainly not for everyone but too fascinating for me to pass up.

[@Toby-Draven]

Oh crap what up digby, haven't seen you in awhile

[@FortTheMighty]

sober 18 months and finally tossed all my gin bottles a couple months back lmao. u just gotta do it

[@slashbash1347]

4:00 I kept a vodka bottle because it was shaped like an alien head.

[@WaterDrinkingHydroDragon]

My hobbies mostly involve drawing, writing stories, baking and playing video games, but here I am listening to this to see if any of my hobbies are red flags

[@imtiredandfull]

Same lol.

[@worldcomicsreview354]

The comics I draw will absolutely be red flags when people read them. And once I'm done the "British Genshiken but it's also a BL and they swear all the time" I'm going to do something even worse... straightforward adventure stories with no swearing or excessive violence!

[@dragonetafireball]

There was a pet tuber who was so infamous the fans got a spreadsheet just to keep track of what pets they suspected she killed or gave away

[@helixxia9320]

is she blonde and starts with L

[@Toby-Draven]

Do you remember what her name was?

[@spongebobonmolly]

its okay u can say taylor nicole dean

[@diogoc1541]

The one saying that liking Warhammer is a red flag got me fucked up bro, tf did we do lmao

[@SomeGuy71700]

As someone in the doll customizing hobby, most people don't really understand the appeal and just see it as a waste of money rather than investing in a passion. That or they find it cringy, childish or weird. Or maybe all of the above.

[@diogoc1541]

@@SomeGuy71700 me personally, I'm not into the physical game, I'm just interested in the design and lore of the Warhammer universe, but i do have a few friends who buy and paint their own figures, and i never saw it as anything other than an expensive but productive hobby

[@T.han.atosXIII]

I think its a red flag mainly when the warhammer fans *unironically* agree with the ideologies of the different character groups. From what I understand, warhammer heavily leans into the "everyone is a bad guy" gimmick. Its one thing to roleplay as villians in a game, but its another thing to try and emulate these behaviors in the real world. Correct me if I'm wrong tho, I'm not expert lol

[@diogoc1541]

@@T.han.atosXIII Oh yea that much is true, every faction in warhammer is ridiculously villanous with exceptions so miniscule they might as well not even exist. That being said, if you do see a warhammer fan "agreeing" with a factions ideologies, 9.9/10 times they're just being edgy for the sake of edgy comedy, so there's that atleast lol

[@metademetra]

I think this applies to most of the nerd culture hobbies, but I don't consider it much of a red flag unless a) that's the only thing they talk about, b) they're gatekeeping to the point of bullying (a thing my SO suffered from as a child. By ADULTS.), c) they're idolizing a character that is an awful person in-universe (think Joker fans), or d) they're spending so much money on it that they can't afford necessities. The context of how the fan interacts with the culture and the outside world is extremely important.

[@ItsYaBoiV]

Rather than anime figures, I'd actually say those waifu body pillows. I met a dude once who overall seemed super normal, but his bed was COVERED in those waifu pillows. Like so many that it made a mountain!

[@worldcomicsreview354]

When it was hot once I rolled up my quilt like one of those body pillows. It was SUPER comfortable. But, you know, you can buy them with plain cases.

[@Eraiyna]

I think the anime figurines sort of depend. If they are all just, yeah, hentai figures, then I suppose if you're not into hentai that's fine. It doesn't inherently mean someone is an evil person. They just...like things you aren't into. And they might even be fine with being alone. An example of someone not being into something most people consider normal is someone who dislikes kissing; they just think it's super weird and uncomfortable squishing faces with someone, let alone disliking anything mouth related. I completely understand if you have favorite anime though and love collecting figurines; for instance having Guts from Berserk, Motoko from Ghost in the Shell. Both characters being extremely idealized versions of male and female bodies, but having generally well received and praised animes. Even having an Asuka or Rei from Evangeleon isn't necessarily red flag territory. A lot of people love Evangeleon and it is widely considered an excellent anime, even with some of it's cringier and darker and disturbing moments.

[@frfx2470]

Not necessarily a red flag, just weird, even in the example you mentioned

[@Sam_Lite]

I think the only thing that stuck out to me was the OP mentioning sexy "jailbait" figurines. If the figures are of appropriately ages characters, cool. But if some of them aren't, I'd be looking at the collector sideways. "Loli" content is just something I feel can't be excused.

[@esmin2400]

I have some SFW anime figurines from stuff I hyperfixate on! It hurts to hear people shun large collections because most of the time, it’s just autistic people enjoying something harmlessly

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

your are fine, I haven't even graduated from projectile launchers yet.

[@Eraiyna]

I think alcohol bottles are fine if they are nice bottles and labels.

[@captainblacksand8484]

I've made vases and candles out of some of the more unique wine bottles I've had

[@355scaper]

Anything that revolves around social media and being on it 24/7

[@karleybrown8965]

I am a fan of true crime but I agree that many true crime channels are not respectful. The loss of human life is not entertainment and should be covered in a way that doesn’t offend the loved ones of the victims.

[@metademetra]

The second they start talking about weed, crypto/NFTs/"passive income," or alpha male mindsets, I'm out.

[@Chipswitch22]

Or if they ever utter the non-word, "grindset"

[@esmin2400]

straight facts

[@metademetra]

@I took a shit in Jesus's mouth. However, Just no online self-help gurus that you need to pay for. They're all cringey, and they're all scams.

[@Toby-Draven]

Yep same, I don't give a crap about any of those so whenever someone brings one of those topics up I just completely tune my brain out

[@worldcomicsreview354]

"Passive income" doesn't sound so bad... but not from drug dealing or things that are scams and not even real.

[@daa5865]

11:22 though not as extreme like this, but a friend of mine has argued with my partner multiple times that our relationship isn't toxic, but can become toxic because we're not doing things right like communicating or meeting up - the way she does it with her boyfriend. They see each other almost every day, which my partner and I can't do and I've discussed with another friend that she just doesn't understand that relationships are different from person to person.

[@sonicandshadowsjunction]

"What hobby is a red flag?" Most commenters: *proceeds to name dubiously criminal behavior* My brothers in christ, they asked for hobbies 😂 a good portion of these are either really bizarre pastimes, actually illegal, or just straight up random.

[@WM_1310]

Basically, most of these just boils down to "Red flag if ..."

[@extremelyhappysimmer]

The weird doing my makeup while talking about true crime is so disgusting.

[@VampiraVonGhoulscout]

People who play games for 8+ hours every single day and ignore their responsibilities like cleaning, relationships, etc. Nothing worse than feeling like a neglected side piece while they're married to Apex Legends.

[@DecayShig]

People who collect those unborn dolls.. Not ones who do it for mental health reasons (my mums neighbour who's very unwell, she does believe it can breathe but it's the only thing that is keeping her from unaliving after her care system failed her) But the ones who collect them like China Dolls.. Both scare me but the Unborn Doll ones some go so far as to use real baby formula, put their care above their real children and I've had people shush me for talking.. Around a doll. Seeing people with rooms FULL of them, makes me believe they are secretly a serial killer and no one can change my mind.

[@davidlisteresq]

For me, looking at women, its anyone who is into Crystal healing, or horoscopes and other nonsense like that. Never met a woman into those who isnt mental.

[@lalywindland5764]

I'm a woman and I agree with you. Liking crystals because they are pretty or reading the horoscope once in a while is one thing, but being obsessed with it is a sign of mental health issues. And it's not only women, my father was like that, too....

[@esmin2400]

there’s nothing wrong with this on a healthy scale, as with practically every interest. Crystal healing is bogus via science but can give people massive improvement via placebo effect and soothe anxiety disorders. Horoscopes are okay to consume as fun but not when you put all of your personality down to being a Libra or whatever. It’s also not just a girl thing. I have met horoscope obsessed men.

[@worldcomicsreview354]

​@@esmin2400 1970's comics for girls in Britain used to be mostly made by men. I read this interview where they said they hoped nobody beleived the horoscopes because they "just made them up in the pub". You know, unlike the 'real' ones...

[@dolst]

Me over here with several empty alcohol bottles packed up... 😬 But I'm going to make lights out of them and try to sell them, so... 😁 Surf Wisely.

[@Robbity]

0:59 But they must be WHAT?!?!??!!!!!

[@CHLOCHLOLP]

i feel like arguing with people online can actually quicken your wit and help you come up with funnier responses for real life interactions. i feel like thats been my experience. it can only cause you anguish if you take it seriously, but if you have fun with it, it becomes more of like a thought experiment. Considering it an actual hobby of urs is a bit weird but if you use social media it can be pretty hard to avoid. its really tempting to respond to crazy comments and see how they will react, especially if you know you can lead them into a punchline with it.

[@yogsothoth8389]

Every time I run into the true crime mukbangs part of me dies inside. And I’m not really even all that interested in the true crime genre.

[@jadeharley7190]

Fun fact! The type of reward system that gambling employs, random interval rewards, is the reward system that is the hardest to make extinct once someone is used to it. This is because, well you don’t ever know when you’re gonna get a reward. So there’s a very good reason most people become addicted

[@SillyEwe]

Engaging in anti-fandom and kink-shaming activities. It's dumb and disruptive. Not to mention that it can cause a lot of harm. A big example of this is when an anti bombed a Chicago furry convention with a chlorine gas bomb. 19 attendees has to be hospitalized.

[@worldcomicsreview354]

Was it definitely an "attack"? I saw a rumour that somebody asked for advice on 4chan (first mistake) and actually followed it (second mistake). It's 4chan, OF COURSE they're going to tell you a recipe for chlorine gas / to microwave your phone / to flush a live grenade

[@magdajabonska537]

As a person who has a problem with arguing with people on the internet, you're spot on about it, it's a waste of time I've decided the day before yesterday that now I'm going to try to stop and ask myself "what I'm trying to find" BEFORE going into ANY comment section

[@SpookiBooBee]

I worked with a guy who would message random IG models all the time and would constantly get suckered in to those spam messages from "hot women". However his went further as we worked at a restaurant that did delivery and on one occasion he copied a woman's phone number to text her (obv without her consent) and another HE WENT TO HER HOUSE AND KNOCKED ON THE DOOR LIKE IT WAS NORMAL. Needless to say I have never spoken to him since I left and the fact he wasn't fired immediately is beyond me.

[@silvanalucas6403]

Mukbang also sounds like a hobby that would be a red flag

[@hannekevonk6866]

Another one: keeping (small) animals (particularly mice or rats) just for the purpose of breeding. Like letting them make babies as much and as often as the critters are capable of, just so that maybe you get a rare (expensive) color like in video games, or maybe even just because you enjoy watching them go at it. And then just give the ones you don't want to the local pet store for reptile food. It's cruel to the animals and can say a lot about the person's morals or lack thereof. I met someone who did that, allegedly as a way to cope with the loss of a mutual friend of ours. He deliberately put the male and female mice together even though his wife told him not to since they had like 25 already. He told her it just relaxed him to watch them (going at it, which might I add is kind of a violent process with mice). He also showed some other behaviors towards the mice that gave me red flags (made them swim in water deep enough that they could only just keep their noses and eyes above the surface while touching their toes to the bottom, enjoyed holding them between thumb and index finger just firmly enough that they couldn't get out and watching them struggle). He also had a tendency to turn everything into a sexual joke. He ended up coercing the heavily grieving boyfriend of our mutual recently deceased friend to sleep with him and assaulted me trying to do the same with me

[@honeybee1492]

Drinking in bars more than once a week

[@silvanalucas6403]

Armchairs therapy that is the worst. Manipulative people use armchair therapy to make somebody act the way they want to. No kidding I tried to break up with somebody. They basically use that line about breaking up with somebody before they can . It didn't apply in the situation I wanted to break up with him because he was getting too clingy pushing things too fast and he also made made fun of me in my own house because I wanted to sing a song by an artist that he didn't think was good. Ironically armchair therapy is the reason I most likely need counseling now screw people who do this.

[@silvanalucas6403]

Collecting serial killer memorabilia such as paintings or other items. I don't know if this other thing counts as a hobby but the recent events of people being obsessed with Jeffrey Dahmer because of the new Netflix series that's also a red flag. I think people are thoroughly unaware or just don't care about the fact that these are not fictional characters like Jeff the killer or joker these are real people who ruined real people's lives in irreversible ways it's not a cork not to be scared of serial killers it's just kind of sick

[@Jenna2k]

Ya kids beauty pageants are gross.

[@someanon1984]

Serial killer fandom is a HUGE red flag.

[@spongebobonmolly]

i never understood the fascination with serial killers bc 100% of the time their motives are literally just “i hate women/minorities”

[@theEDMdragon]

3:50 lol I feel called out, though it’s mostly cans I collect. I like their colorful designs.

[@jakerockznoodles]

While I find myself interested in certain True Crime cases, particularly ones that hit close to home, I find the way many channels cover it utterly deplorable and disrespectful. I think often a measure for me is how they discuss the victims. If they gloss over them or just treat them as a prop to discuss what the perpetrator did in gory detail, that's a no from me.

[@MrcreepyZero]

I like arguing with people in comment sections, sometimes it helps with my English writhing skills, and I don't really mind what other people say online or care if they agree with me. I always find other people's arguments interesting and try to understand where their beliefs come from. but I never understand keyboard warriors getting emotional or personal about these kinds of disagreements.

[@AllHaleResale]

I'm from Vegas, living in Ohio. Went for a visit to my aunt and uncle in Vegas for my 23rd birthday. They got us a hotel room for my friends, and I. As we were walking to said room, my aunt stops at a "KENO" game. We all watch her WIN 25,000$. then, she spun again. And again. And again.....then called my uncle for more money to gamble with because she didn't pull the ticket, she just let it ride..he gave her money, their relationship is an entire red flag of feeding into each other's wild crap.

[@hagakure8398]

Women who are obsessed with astrology is a giant red flag.

[@j.washington8961]

That one guys roommate sounds like he's a grumpy old man cartoon character. How is that guy real

[@alexthibodeau979]

Can you do more 13 second horror or just horror shorts in general? I loved that video and would love to see more content like that!

[@GoldenMermaid]

I "collect" my empty alcohol bottles bc I bought a glass cutting set and I wanna use it but I keep procrastinating it lol

[@bridgetbenson6291]

The last one yes. I have bipolar and everytime something awful happens people want to throw around the bipolar label.

[@esmin2400]

Every day I get angrier and angrier at people minimising mental illness and bastardising its name. Calling skinny people anorexic, throwing around ‘triggered’ and especially to mock PTSD victims, calling their mood or the weather bipolar, throwing around suicide as if it’s just a casual thing. It’s so apathetic. I’m sorry you also deal with this

[@lilianalamelas1518]

Not lewd anime statue collector here! I’m a 21 year old girl but I love collecting statues of my favorite anime characters. Mostly sailor moon and hatsune Miku. Im not saying it started intentionally but it did start by just going to anime conventions since I was young and now working at GameStop it kinda snowballed from there. Now my room is just neatly displaying a bunch of statues but I would like to eventually make a whole room dedicated to my gaming/ collection stuff and have my room be separate. It is overwhelming waking up surrounding by so much lol.

[@lilianalamelas1518]

A lot of the people I see walk into my store that collect “waifus” can be really weird and seem to be a little disconnected from reality and sometimes can be unnerving and straight up gross but there are some guys who are just generally nice cool people. I feel like comes with every community where one stereotype can just completely give a bad name to anime statue collectors.

[@Scrinwaipwr]

4:10 Animals suck when they're new. They're anxious in an unfamiliar environment and don't behave well. Animals are best when you've had them a while, when they've learned to follow their training and they've bonded with you (meaning you also know them better and you love them more.)

[@Scrinwaipwr]

That first one is one of the reddest flags of all time.

[@NoBodyCaresShauuun]

The taxidermy hits different when I had a bf who did this and told me three years into the relationship after he picked. Up. Roadkill. On. Our. Walk. Home. There was a bucket of hydrogen peroxide in his garage the WHOLE family knew about, and apparently a suitcase of roadkill bones in his closet. Yes, he was my first bf, yes it was a mistake, yes I did leave him soon after that. I wish the “impromptu taxidermy” was the worst of him, but NOPE. 👌🏻✌🏻

[@pollypockets508]

I'm really awful with money. But I blow it on trips and games and funding small theater productions.

[@EpreTroll]

Being invested in sport particularly soccer is a heavy red flag

[@rikuxsoraxroxas]

I don’t think having lewd figures is bad, but having lewd figures of characters that are clearly child like is 100% a red flag.

[@IDidMyBest]

Scrolling looking for the animie figure guy...

[@TheNomNomasaurus]

My dad's cousin is one of those guys who use their real, personal account to comment on model's pictures. He had a hard life and is kind of stunted as a result, but otherwise normal. Cracks me up every time, because he does it on Facebook where it occasionally shows your friends your recent comments

[@BloopTheNoop]

As a Warhammer player, I can confirm I’m constantly broke

[@elizabethlovett4318]

For the family vlogging there's also the issue that it exposes the children to online predators. But otherwise, I find everything on this list to be potentially alarming to pretty creepy 'hobbies', though others sped passed 'red flag' zone and crashed top speed into the brick wall of '100% OBVIOUSLY evil/disgusting/illegal'.

[@SkeleGem]

I consider Warhammer more of a yellow flag, and not cause of the money stuff. Either you’re going to get someone who’s a really fun nerd that knows everything about the setting as well as how to get creative with the models, as well as being sweet, insightful, and understanding of it’s subtext… or you’ll get someone who’s a little TOO interested in the Crusades for ALL the wrong reasons. Edit: and to partially defend the anime figures thing (and I mean only partially), I think it’s A-Ok if said figures are just basically Grown-up Toys. Neat statues of characters in action scenes, cool figurines that are basically grown-up toys, little poseable figures like Nendoroid to display on shelves, that sort of thing. They’re fun to fidget with and can help bring out that little kid in all of us. It’s expensive sure, but I say go for it if you’re having fun and can financially afford it. Now the ones that look like they’re barely covering the chick’s boobs and have no poseability whatsoever? Yeah no, that stuff’s weird and gross. What do you get from it? Something ‘sexy’ to look at? Just google some porn like any reasonable person, don’t buy a $200 statue just for some mediocre tiddy that’s stiffer than your own… ya know. Anime porn statues give off the same vibe as those Ahegao hoodies, where they’re trying to wear their porn addiction as a badge of honor or something.

[@medioc4rt]

People who are into “gore” content, not true crime specifically but shit like car crashes and workplace deaths by machines and whatnot .. I gave it a try (channels which talk about it not show it explicitly) when I wasn’t doing that great mentally, and yeah, if you consume that on a regular basis I’d think you’re a bittt weird

[@Toby-Draven]

*Cough*. plagued moth *cough*.

[@medioc4rt]

@@Toby-Draven Imagine knowing him IRL and stumbling across his channel one day, like he’s most likely a chill dude but I’d RUN

[@Toby-Draven]

@@medioc4rt Y'know what's even funnier? He has kids, honestly I would've never thought that he has kids, cus you know his content is all about gore and other gross crap, and him looking like jonathan davis from korn

[@krazycats564]

Oops. I'm collecting empty glass bottles currents and decorating them. They come out pretty cute. I don't think it's a red flag?

[@katies4521]

If you are the type of person that wants to keep adopting animals but can’t afford them or don’t have the time, please please foster the animals instead through a licensed rescue. I’ve been in that place and I’ve enjoyed fostering instead of continuing to adopt. It helps everyone 😊

[@katiehardwick2084]

How on earth is warhammar a red flag ? if they don't spend a large amount of money on it then its a totally chill thing to enjoy

[@kaylad1847]

My husband is deeply into Warhammer and DOTA 😂😂 But then, I have my own hobbies I'm kinda surprised didn't make the red flag list, so it seem to be working out just fine.

[@MintyDreams]

Nothing wrong with ttrpgs at all, tell him to keep having fun!