It's Perry Menopause!

[@ronwaters478]

It's a tribute to your strong marriage that Penn was able to write this skit, since he's so tuned in to what you're experiencing.

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

he wrote it and was almost scared to present it hahaha

[@ronwaters478]

@@holdernessfamilylaughs LOL Kim ! It's really healthy and therapeutic to be able to express what's going on in such a humorous manner. Most folks would hold it in and just struggle thru it.

[@melissamcswain9617]

Absolutely!!❤

[@1_viewer]

Perry was here long long ago. I miss those days. It gets even more fun in your future! “chef’s kiss” indeed! 👩‍🍳

[@GoogleKilledMyWife]

​@@holdernessfamilylaughs I have strong Aryan sperm

[@heidinoggle]

I.FEEL.SEEN!!!!! Perry is so real, and these are great examples. I don't even need to drink alcohol to be awake all night!

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

I want to pretend it's my commitment to my overall health, but really the reason I don't drink is PERRY

[@amandashuman]

Same... alcohol (even one glass! WTF!) gives me either 1) migraine or 2) night sweats --> feeling hungover the next day. And I'm in good shape and healthy! It's cruel. @@holdernessfamilylaughs

[@michelewaters7291]

I can't sleep with or without alcohol......so I'm sure you know which route I choose.....

[@ilovenoodles7483]

​@@holdernessfamilylaughs- praise God for you and just praise Him anyway! I've been sober and haven't had a single drink since '07! Praise God!! I like in one of your older videos how the period came "whenever" time of the month and said "that's just where we are now in life." Now, I can relate. 🤦🏾‍♀️ I had a ghost period for a week straight, and then I thought it was off, then bled for a whole week...and then some!!

[@ilovenoodles7483]

​@@holdernessfamilylaughs- also, thank you!! This is accurate, sad but true. The last minute is too too real.😢 But at least now I know what's wrong with me.

[@lorindav5549]

I have never cried as much in my whole life as I have since Perry decided to camp at my house. Also, if someone sees my brain somewhere, send her back. I miss her, a lot. Like when I try to do simple math, or when I forget a word, mid-sentence. Sigh

[@PlatinumMyst]

Our brains must be on a cruise together or something because YES.

[@michellewells1456]

Absolutely yes

[@melaniering3712]

Look into Bio-identical hormones! Saving me from the symptoms Perry! And saves your health too!

[@644hoopdancer]

These comments are making me feel so validated. The brain fog can be crazy and scary sometimes.

[@samanthajacobs9586]

Yup. Brain 🧠 is sitting on a beach in Hawaii….while I’m stuck in NY. 🫤

[@morganvogt6800]

Thank you so much for doing this video. No one talks about perimenopause or menopause and it's very frustrating to try to figure out what's normal and what's not. I wish more people would address this in any way.

[@missnaomi613]

Another good source of information about this and related issues is Mama Doctor Jones, right here on KZbin. I've learned so much, even about my own body, from her in the last few years... And I'm 52!

[@maryloumilyard1909]

The reason doctors deny its existence is because they don't understand it. Heck, neither do I and I went through it! Anyhow: look at your sugar and flours, and all those starches that turn to sugar. If you can cut those completely out or nearly so, that makes a huge difference in all the symptoms. Find a natural functional Practitioner (preferable experienced female) because they have knowledge not found in common medical limitations.

[@inspiredtosoar3526]

Another funny perimenopause video kzbin.info/www/bejne/oGGwaql8pdJjaNEsi=4st56Og074NTPaqe

[@PuzzlesC4M]

Yes, and this comment has me on the verge of tears because that's a symptom too!

[@MichelleBoule6]

Thank you for putting a comical spin on what is a frustrating time in a female's life. I am so glad we are able to have discussions about it now and be honest with our experiences.

[@roundbrackets]

I know it's a little counter intuitive, but this is the only comedy I've seen about women aging and menopause and it's making me cry. Perry? Who the 🦆 knows. Thank you, well done! ❤

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

thanks for being here. hugs.

[@adriennebrown3025]

I cried too!! Whyyy?? It’s funny!

[@JuanitasGrandaughter]

Perry has been a lodger here for a while! Thanks Penn and Kim you always nail it. ❤

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

Thanks for being here

[@suereed3474]

I will be 70 this year. I reached menopause at 53 (Best year) after suffering 15 years of peri-menopause. Absolute hell. All you ladies have my sympathy.

[@HLBear]

You're inspiring! 😊 She was with me for 8 years, and I'm so glad that's behind me. All the women in my family had hysterectomies, so no one could tell me what to expect. We need to talk about openly about women's health!

[@Lydia--Ann]

I’ve been menopausal ( post) for years and still experiencing peri symptoms. I hope there is an end ! Glad you came full circle ❤

[@suereed3474]

@@Lydia--Ann I hope so too. My peri menopause was so bad for so long that menopause was a relief.

[@cassandrahoods8186]

Thank you

[@alichamchugh1711]

OH MY WORD! The anxiety thing...I very very rarely have I ever struggled with anxiety. Likely because so much has happened to me in my life already and the Lord has seen me through it all... having experienced His deliverance and seeing He is always on time, and trustworthy (1 Thess 5:24 says for He is faithful and absolutely trustworthy...it's so true...even in the pain... So... I connect worry with being 'a waste of time' when the Lord is going to either take me/us out of it or through it or home. Life is SIMPLE that way and that allows for living a 'quiet and peaceable life" the bible talks. BUT...since 'Perry' has shown up on my doorstep I have noticed I have a lump in my throat a lot (not a literal lump, the feeling in my throat that says I need to cry buckets even when I'm not sad...it'll just show up). I will get this all over feeling of dread or like 'is this what happens before a panic attack??, or this crazy worry panic over something that isn't even on the table or is months if not years away! And I'll get really irritated with myself because of this...

[@susansmith3096]

The hot flashes are the worst! Currently sweating my way through a polar vortex! Thanks Perry!! 🤦‍♀️

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

That's so Perry

[@seameology]

Right? One time, I soaked the ENTIRE bed and my husband got up and slept on the couch!

[@LESBIANANDAUTISTIC]

Oh, yes, that too. How could I forget to mention it! The hot flashes are so atrocious!

[@lesliemoiseauthor]

I said, "I have my own weather system."

[@ElizabethEwins-mj9zu]

I remember those hot flashes I hate them! EstroG is great and amber acid as well. I can't do without them.

[@teakay_88]

First let me say this is a fabulous skit on Perry! She brought on a few brutal years of gaining weight (never had a weight issue before) and battling my worse anxiety! Then this last year battling horrible hot flashes, night sweat and the lack of sleep, which I think is the worst!! I decided I was not going to put up with her drama! I completely changed my diet, cutting out sugar, processed foods, hit the gym and started taking over the counter supplements/vitamins. Grateful to say I haven’t seen her around in a while.

[@charitys.3862]

Yep!! Perry showed up here like maybe a year ago here. I'm 43, and I feel this!!😢❤

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

You are not alone!

[@LESBIANANDAUTISTIC]

2016 was the year of meno for me and it's atrocious. I don't remember how many years I had Perry. If it started when I was 40, I had Perry for eight years. I'm 56 and I feel old because of my health problems. Can Kim and Penn do a skit about blood clots, please? BTW I enjoyed the skit about IBS and diverticulosis, another one of my health issues.

[@erinsmith8702]

43 also and in the throes of this. Trying to nail down HRT soon. So much gaslighting out there is ridiculous..”you’re too young”etc..🙄

[@lovejoy71422]

Ha! Too young my period stopped at age 37! Was in perimenopause in my early thirties, possibly late twenties! Oh fun sometimes when you don't know what's going on with your own body! Then going to the doctor at 37 to tell him that my period stopped, they didn't believe me until the blood test came back and said I was postmenopausal!

[@ClarisseRockinThatBow]

I'm 62 and went into early onset menopause at 45. I was on HRT (super low dose) for many years, but went off of them last year. My perspiration issues and insomnia came back, and my GYN told me I was actually experiencing menopause for the SECOND TIME! So much fun. Did the herbal supplements but abandoned them as well. I still get overheated each day under the right circumstances, but it goes away quickly. I never got PMS as a young woman, so I didn't have the mood swings during Menopause Part Deux, either. I love not having my cycle, but the widening of my waist and general body shape change sucks. But my body's inability to regulate my temperature is the worst (and most embarrassing) part of my menopause journey. Keep the faith, Kim! You can get through it - with humorous help from your hubby, Penn!

[@gabrielled9292]

Omg this is so refreshing to see woman being open and honest. Perry is my best friend right now and I have been to my Gyno 2 times this year thinking im crazy. I was told the same thing many woman are told.... welcome to your 40s and maybe you need an anti depressant. WTH... why are woman being prescribed anti depressants for hormonal changes???

[@marlakaine]

We are the same age and I completely relate, esp 100% on the gaslighting. I tried to talk about some concerns a couple years back and all my female gyn had to say was "well, welcome to your 40s!"...then on to next appointment. I feel like the tide is starting to turn on being open about this, and your video will certainly accelerate that process. Thank you!!

[@LESBIANANDAUTISTIC]

I had a doctor who gaslighted me and my Mum in 2008. Mum helped me with my medical issues (since I get overwhelmed by taking care of serious matters alone; it's one of my autistic triggers). Anyway, the doctor gaslit us both. She diagnosed me with diabetes when what it turned out to be was my thyroid. We dropped Dr. Gaslight and found another doctor in the same practice who knew what he was doing. We stuck with him until he retired early, and my current doctor is very honest and doesn't gaslight. And she doesn't dismiss my autistic traits and tell me that I'm overreacting, another thing that Dr. Gaslight did back in 2008. I am glad I have an honest, compassionate doctor. Anyway, Perry was a boulder-size burden for eight years of my life. And meno is Mean-o! Thank you so much for the hilarious videos, Holderness family! I've been enjoying them ever since I discovered them, during COVID lockdown.

[@deewillson2757]

We’re you only in your 40s? My doctor told me I’m too young yet I literally have every symptom.

[@LESBIANANDAUTISTIC]

@@deewillson2757yes, perimenopause does start in the 40's.

[@kynn23]

@@deewillson2757My doctor told me 40 is at the young end of the "normal" range, and is therefore normal.

[@ilovenoodles7483]

So....this, _this_ is what our 40's mean?🤦🏾‍♀️😢

[@ninachand2075]

Penn is the best for writing this and Kim is the best for sharing this, it's not talked about enough. ❤

[@carynsire3578]

OMG!!! ARE YOU ME????? In the first seconds of the skit I was calling my husband to come see this. This is me. No night vision, same weight but nothing fits my body anymore, breaking out on my face, impending sense of doom, can't sleep after half a beer, everything!!! I also have horrible pains everywhere in my body when the weather changes quickly (which happens all the time where I live). My mom told me her and her two sisters started having those pains at perimenopause as well. Oh and when my mom started real menopause, she started having hot flushes every 20-30 minutes, nights and day! AND she still has them at 72 years old if she doesn't take hormones. Anyway, thank you so much for this video and all the comments it prompted. I feel less alone!

[@tiffanylandes2345]

Can't even tell you how ridiculously accurate this is.

[@suzanneochs117]

I became the stay-puff marshmallow lady during Peri. Every morning I saw, thru the tears, my body getting thicker than the day before. My male gyno’s reaction…”just get used to it.” Thanks, Dr. Gaslight.

[@gdr9213]

I hope you changed doctors!

[@michelejames8695]

This series completely validates EVERY moment of my life now. And I thought it was just me going nuts in my "old age" (50). It's like having a funny therapist that tells you you're completely normal.

[@lindaogin3930]

Menopause has been the worst health issue I've ever dealt with... and that includes an emergency appendectomy, five kidney stones, and one natural childbirth. I hope your journey isn't as tough.

[@JanineStoryteller]

I feel you

[@relentlesssloth646]

Same 😩

[@jenniferw1595]

Same 💔

[@shaynaformity1384]

Here's a tip: People who get kidney stones are more likely to get gallstones, which interfere with the ability to metabolize estrogen, so they can increase hot flashes and night sweats. I just did a gall bladder flush and had the best night's sleep in ages!

[@ItsAMbutyoutubechangedmyname]

Perry moved in up about 6 years ago and I’m 46 I came to the conclusion early that it was just to buckle up this since I can’t evict Perry I just decided to embrace it and don’t hide it made it way easier to deal with I’m just so surprised women are not more open about it i even got asked from a lady of I was not feeling ashamed to deal with it so openly and when i said no because we will al deal with it at one point and if i don’t make it tabu it might help one female to also feel empowered to just own it ❤

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

No shame! Perry is real.

[@borntoteachw4028]

Thank you for posting this.

[@jrum7841]

I feel like perimenopause is NOT talked about enough!!! So thank you for bringing more awareness

[@JanineStoryteller]

Amen sista! I work at a grocery store and have spoken about my experience. Older women (40s on up) nod their heads and share their experiences. Some don't have issues and are shocked at how much I go through. We do have a laugh. I've been relieved and surprised they talk about it. The young women (teens/20s) don't seem phased by my openness. My guess is because they are open about their periods. I have noticed some of the young guys listen but from a distance. One young woman said "Welcome to being a woman". Well said. I talk about a little bit about it to my sons. Like the staying up until 2am and flashing all the time.

[@kthompson5270]

Accurate what about the memory issues? My menopause came at 41…..

[@abigailthompson4456]

Ooh! Perry is the reincarnation of Rona! She was so funny (in that dark anxious way).

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

Hah she is a little Rona-y

[@juliescott4473]

Honestly I had never heard of Peri Menopause before your skits and as a woman in my mid 40s, I started to totally see myself in them. So thank you for the education! Not alone!

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

So glad they've helped : )

[@hellokitty3381]

So funny. 😅😅 Can't wait for more Perry episodes. Loved the Rona series too. You and Penn make a great comedy team. 😂😂.

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

You're too kind :)

[@kgalvin7503]

Seriously. God bless you guys for making this video.

[@karlene789]

Perry came to my house when I was in my late 30s. I had no idea. I suffered for a while as my gyno kept throwing birth control pills at me. I felt like I was losing my mind. At 46, I had to have a total hysterectomy and while doing research on that, I discovered that I all of my symptoms were from perimenopause. I wish I would have known. Glad to have all of that behind me. I'm also glad that you know what it is and can get the treatment you need.

[@meanderingsofavengaard7732]

I've been dealing with Perry for about 2-3 years now. She really loves helping me grow a beard and stay awake until the wee hours like in my 20s. The hot flashes only happen on one side of my face at a time. So out of nowhere I will look like someone slapped me hard for about 20 minutes. The overnight sweats for someone who has a low heat tolerance to begin with are their own special hell. I have found eliminating breads and potatoes have reduced it significantly. I miss garlic bread.

[@rachelfrances9441]

Thank you. I'm 41 & the emotional roller-coaster is real! It's like super/constant pms!

[@karlajurgemeyer8043]

Super relatable! My brain fog was terrible and is only just now decreasing. And i had to figure out that i was in perimenopause myself. Insert frustrated comment about medical care in the U.S. here. Thank you so much for shining a light on this.

[@kimberlyreiter3213]

My life EXACTLY right now! Insomnia, crying every time I hear a Taylor Swift song, waking up sweating even in our cold bedroom with a ceiling fan, and my daughter leaves for college in 8 months! Ya, my annual doctor app in March is going be a doozy. Thanks for the timely video 😉

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

whew! Hoping your doctor can take these symptoms seriously.

[@debhadden205]

HRT, the best thing ever! I'm taking micronized progesterone which helps me sleep, a Dotti patch with has estradiol that helps protect my heart, bones, and brain, and eliminated hot flashes and testosterone cream which helps with the anxiety and libido. My doctor took blood tests and takes them regularly to know what amounts to prescribe. Since being on the hormones so many symptoms have gone. I'm in Florida. I see Joanne Keller in Mount Dora. It took me weeks to get in. I pay direct. Worth the wait and every penny. I've lost ten pounds in a month. I'm in menopause. I wish I knew what I do now when I was your age but glad I at least found out now. Next month I'm scheduled to try BioTe pellets.

[@trinaq]

Congratulations on writing and performing this entire skit, Kim and Penn. This was so relatable, despite me only being in my twenties, and not experiencing menopause for at least two more decades!

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

Nooo! Perry is doing an extended stay?

[@NeversurrenderMM66]

My Mom started when she was only 32. Just sayin'.

[@seameology]

VERY extended. I'm 61 and occasionally get a new symptom. Like the dry mouth at night. That was recent. I'm definitely down the hill, though. And I wouldn't go back to the worst five years for anything.

[@sherryg1838]

I’m 64, you never get the fast metabolism back. But my focus is now health with exercise and healthy eating. The anxiety lingers, but I’ve learned how to cope. On the positive, it’s awesome not having a period!

[@TheSouthIsHot]

The symptoms start gradually around 35-ish. Oddly, an increased sex drive is often the FIRST sign that Perry has taken control of your life!

[@marciadarby3]

When Perry came to my house, the symptoms she brought masked that I had developed leukemia because the symptoms were the same. I literally thought I was just welcoming Perry to my house but she slipped in an uninvited horrible guest-make that two guests. Either way, she’s gone now and I’m living with my diagnosis very well. So I win!💕

[@hemaccabe4292]

Kim, really, thanks for sharing. We're all going through this and knowing it's not our unique problem makes it a lot easier to handle. Thank-you.

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

there's a strange comfort knowing we aren't alone.

[@charitys.3862]

​@@holdernessfamilylaughs yeah, guess the old saying is true, Misery loves company 😅

[@Amycakes7]

Thank you for putting these kinds of videos out. We're the same age, and this is sooooo relatable!

[@colleennewman3292]

Me and Perry have been seeing each other for about ten years now with no end in sight. Thanks for the reminder that I'm not alone, and to approach it with humor! Another terrific video!

[@yelliering]

You are my soul sister! Thank you for helping me try to explain to my husband that it’s not just me… it’s all of us! ❤

[@644hoopdancer]

I am reading through these comments with tears in my eyes. I've never felt so validated and seen! I'm 52 and since starting perimenopause, I feel as if my body and mind are hijacked some days. I can't help but think if men suffered from this instead of women , we would have better treatment options by now or better yet something that makes the symptoms completely disappear.

[@christaverduren690]

OH GAWD!!!!!!!! It started at 38, I'm 53 1/3 (I will own that half) I got off the IUD last June and suddenly my skin is sagging and acne like I was 12 again and my hair is weird and my teeth are crumbling in my mouth, I'm just a wreck. I got my numbers back and I am full blown post menopausal but for heaven's sake! I was told by every woman I knew that a year and a day after my last period everything would be like Cinderella POOF and go back to normal! No more hot flashes and wild mood swings and food craving like I was pregnant and heart beating too fast at weird times and never sleeping right again and thinking about food and gaining ten pounds and losing my balance like a drunken sailor, and the brain fog and forgetting words I've spoken since I was 4 and HULK SMASH RAGE QUIT, and my s3x drive going into overdrive w/ a husband who no longer "drives"............ The only thing I don't have is periods, I still have everything else!

[@raynaburford728]

You make me feel not alone!!! Haha me too

[@jenniferbrooks87]

Thanks for sharing that, it gives me hope🎉

[@lisagrilli9962]

Oh I definitely feel you on the horniness and your husband not matching you there! Ugh! It’s like the situation 20 years ago has been inverted, only worse because at least I still showed affection and “put out” even when I was maybe not 100% in the mood at first!

[@robynroper-waskow1469]

100% My life!!!!! 46yo and Perry has been a "squatter" in our home for at least the last 5 years! I can't even get police to haul her out!!!! So relatable! Excellent work. On a side note, 18 months until college?!?!?!?!? Did you mean to say kindergarten??? Wow, they have grown! It isn't as bad as it sounds. We live on the east coast (near DC), and I dropped my first college kiddo in AZ almost 3 years ago now. Sending all kinds of love, hugs, and prayers for the big change to parenting an adult child in college as well as Perry! If you finally manage to evict her, please give us an update (including a detailed report/presentation) on how you did it!!!!! Hahaah

[@danaw2232]

Perry humbles me like no one has! I can't form intelligent sentences, I start crying at random moments, the hot flashes, depression and anxiety!! It started for me more than a decade ago and Perry hasn't left yet. 🤪

[@rachelg3274]

lol! The stay up all night with anxiety and the chef’s kiss made me laugh so hard. And you captured the “other personality camping out in your life” aspect really well!

[@tngal121]

Felt this so much! I am in the throws of Perimenopause now and it sucks!

[@rebeccarobb4121]

After I finally finished perimenopause and reached menopause my doctor asked if I wanted HRT, I looked at her and said,”why didn’t you ask when was a sweaty, crazy, grumpy person? Ask for HRT when it gets bad. And don’t take no for an answer. Also menopause is great. Smooth sailing ⛵️.

[@neihousepianostudio]

This is my life right now! I'm totally going to start saying to my husband it's Perry's fault because I sure don't have any control! 😂

[@kellyamaral1381]

I absolutely love this! So relatable! I showed this to my husband and we’re going to use our “new friend Perry” as a buffer to communicate about the crazy symptoms that I’ve had for the past year so far. This is so awesome that my husband created a rogue, unsavoury character in Balders gate and named her Perry to help him cope with his experience of my symptoms. 😂 Love you guys, keep up the great content.

[@hummingbirdhobo]

Where has this BEEN?! Love love love!❤❤❤

[@DrRealrellim]

Yes on the doctors! Every time I mentioned it one doctor would basically tell me I was too young (..."the average age of menopause is 51..."). Another one, when I asked if we could talk about hot flashes, immediately listed off three different medications and I was like "um, I just wanted to talk about them" and she responded with something along the lines of "if they get bad enough that you want medication, let me know and I'll write you a script." The last health practitioner I saw 4 months before I could officially declare myself done (at which point I was like "I'm not even going to pretend you're going to help"), but when I contacted her a few months later after hitting the official menopause mark for post-menopause related issues, she put me on topical estrogen with oral progesterone for 12 days, but failed to mention that taking progesterone like I had a cycle would likely cause a cycle...and when I called back to inquire about this she said I probably wouldn't bleed much or I could just take it every day (but everyone I know taking it every day was taking half the dose she prescribe me, and I'm a tiny person). Spoiler alert: there was bleeding for a full seven days and I stopped doing all of it because the best part of menopause is not bleeding anymore and have sat here for another three months debating what to do. Seems like I need a new medical practitioner but I don't even know how to find someone who's going to listen.

[@christinae30]

Sad when doctors don't know what "average" implies....

[@reneeisaacs4622]

It is definitely a journey. I am glad you both have a sense of humor about it. You weren’t lying about doctors gaslighting too.

[@rachaeljoachim7222]

For me, Perry has come and gone, now just stuck with menopause....wait, reframing: now i get to be in menopause 😂.....for the rest of my days! And those symptoms from Perry do start to settle, but i did just have a few random pimples lately! Hang in there, Kim! (And be prepared for your menstrual cycle to maybe get a bit wacky!) Take care and thank you both for bringing the laughs, you guys are rock stars!

[@nashherman8281]

You guys always bring a smile to my face!

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

So glad

[@FrisbeeGirl]

Penn writing this for you is so on point and is such a beautiful channeling of ADHD energy. I love it!

[@bekki7117]

So true!!! And why is their an OBGYN on every corner but not a single menopause doctor anywhere to be found?!

[@gabyszabo9615]

I LOVED this! MORE chronicles of PERRY!!!

[@karenandscott9088]

I started perry at 40, what a lovely time, then had a full hysterectomy at 45 and have been dealing with menopause for the last 2 years.(almost 48 years old now). No meds or supplements. I just stand over a floor vent in the summer and my house is a cool 68°F during the winter. My husband and kids have learned to layer up and we have blankets in the living room. Lol. Thank you for this skit, it's so accurate!

[@trudiefreed5887]

Omg, I looked up the ages this starts, and I'm there. That explains alot! Our poor husbands!

[@lauramurray5493]

Really funny video!! I just learned that Kim and I are the same age, 47. My husband is a little older than Penn at 51. No perimenopause here because… I’m 29 weeks pregnant! 🤰🏼 No empty nesting for us. 😊Our sons are 18 and almost 20… and we just hit the reset.👶🏼Couldn’t be happier about our wonderful surprise. 🥰 Thank you for the many laughs!

[@michellenolan6435]

Wow that is an awesome attitude. I'm 52 and thought I was pregnant in November but I was not excited. Our boys are 18, 20 and 23. So happy for you!

[@gribble2979]

Perimenopause is the worst, but after you get through it life is absolutely fantastic.

[@kweenz109]

Thank god!! This comment gives me hope lol

[@outdoorasmr]

Thank you for giving me hope ❤

[@wendyg.2664]

I'm glad to know there's a light at the end of this tunnel. Lol

[@LegoMomNdaughter]

I love how you added that doctors gaslight you. So true

[@megaucoin1439]

Oh boy. Spot on 😂 lately Perry has enjoyed killing me with these night sweats and hot flashes in 45°weather 😅 not to mention the 2pm new nap requirement... It was my husband who noticed Perry before me. I thought I was about to die when he goes "this all seems hormonal, you sure is not menopause" 🥴 yay 🎉

[@maryblakley3590]

Great job! This feels like a Julie Nolke skit in the best of ways.

[@jamaicacornish8931]

Best. I identify with it ALL. Sleepless nights esp when kids are driving g back to school late at night …. But also just on an average night! lol Acne, emotional … Penn you are a genius to be so in tune with your wife! That’s my takeaway from this! You do your research and you know what’s up . Thank you and every married Middle Aged male needs to do better . ❤❤❤❤ to understand we aren’t just “ crazy” throwing a big blanket statement over all that is peri instead of digging deep… reading … being intentional about what may scientifically be going on . And coming along side in a supportive and loving and humorous way . Huge Bravo!!!!!! 😊😊❤

[@sarahditore8837]

I need this today. I just had a major rage meltdown at work . No joke

[@jackiemartin7276]

Thank you for actually talking about this! And in a fun and funny way!

[@erinnstreeter]

Oo, girl. You haven't LIVED until you've almost DIED from prolonged heavy bleeding. What a ride! And that anemia that comes with it and makes you as productive as an inebriated snail? Chef's kiss. Thanks, Peri!

[@nakamakai5553]

Friends, after all the years, this is your best work - I was not LOL, as it's not ultimately a laughing matter, but shaking my head and rolling my eyes the entire time - you SO nailed this one. Major cheers to you for forging a bond that invigorates the acceptance and production of this level of art. All the best, and we hope for more.

[@chrisoulalakkas7935]

You don’t need to understand someone to support them. Even if their words don’t resonate, listen. Even if it’s a song you can’t dance to, let them vibe. We can all be a container for joy for one another, even when our joy looks different.

[@kcoOD]

Cleverly written and well played. You guys are so talented!

[@NeversurrenderMM66]

I started this lovely journey after turning 54. It's been almost 4 years and I still get the occasional hot flash/night sweats. My dr told me since I started menstruating young (9), I would meet Perry at an older age. My Mom met Perry when she was only 32, and had it until about 50/51. She started menstruating at 16. Go figure. Love your skits!

[@raylenepreuss1430]

Doctor gaslighting you is so true. I had a GP, a similar age to me who told me, emphatically tell me that I was not experiencing peri-menopause symptoms because she hadn't. 🤦‍♂️

[@charitys.3862]

Ummm, hope you don't see that dr anymore...

[@jrum7841]

gyno said to take bc pills til menopause to help with the symptoms. Um wouldn’t changing my hormones help lessen symptoms even more? Idk too tired to discuss lol *sigh

[@JanineStoryteller]

😮

[@raylenepreuss1430]

@@charitys.3862 yep, that was my last appointment with her!

[@raylenepreuss1430]

@jrum7841 unbelievable, wasting oxygen trying to talk to some people.

[@cassandrahoods8186]

Love this video. I laughed because it is so true. You and your husband made it so humorous to a very real issue. Thank you, and God bless .

[@aprilchronister9980]

I may be an exception-due to being 46 when my hubby was diagnosed and had emergancy surgery for a huge brain tumor .... stuff was fairly normal till then-reg ole pms. But so much happening so quick .... boom! Tank tops in Dec(35°f outside) ... hot flashes etc. Kids were 18 & 21-so, trying to keep calm and there for their emotions as well as mine and caregiving hubby through sudden immobility .... ya. Rough. I had this itchy rash everywhere for 9 months. Dr & I tried all kinds of meds but nerves are nerves. I hardly noticed or cared when I had my 50th bday-& meno. happened. I recall (Iam 53 now) thinking-um, its been 7 months, wow did my 'time-o-da-month' stop!!? Yup. Its more a mental catch up now. Hubby passed when I was 51 ... so Iam adjusting to the yrs 46-51 time that kind of was a blur of emo's in a much different way. Imma gramma now too-mental shift there, but a blessed one❤. Hang in there gals in the Perry club. You'll get through🙏💪🌸~

[@546people]

This channel is great. Positive attitudes and addressing real life’s problems with a laugh

[@jennifer1424]

Well written! I thought this was entirely from Kim’s brain. Kudos to Penn! Yea, been dealing with Perry for years now and with two teenagers in the house dealing with their own hormones, sometimes we call it reverse puberty. I mean, it’s not far off since after all the hormones wreck everything, we’ll have more in common with young kids than any other age group (early dinner, early bedtime, smaller appetite, etc). Hang in there Kim!

[@dreablake42]

Perry showed up when I was 39, by 42 she developed into complete menopause. Literally, my life was thrown into chaos, the symptoms were unbearable until the HRT Goddess came and blessed me, lol.

[@kirbyourenthusiasm]

Oh my word. This is so relatable! I have always been a sympathetic crier (I see you cry, I’m crying too…even if I don’t know why you are crying) but HOLY SMOKES I cry so much more often these days. Battling wrinkles AND acne are my life as well. I had GREAT skin in high school so this a real bummer for me! I am perpetually cold, so I wouldn’t be sad about a hot flash but I haven’t really had any of those. Definitely can’t see in low light and can’t remember ANYTHING anymore. I blame Eve. If girl would have just listened to God and not the serpent we wouldn’t be in this situation.

[@OboeSteph]

You know what's really fun is when different parts of your body are different extreme temperatures. So, you can have a hot flash and your face is red and sweaty, but your feet still feel like ice cubes. 😂🥵🥶

[@robbymounce5764]

“If there’s Perry in your house, PERRY’S a BI-“ **VIDEO CUTS OFF** Lol! ❤ nice!

[@caitlincunningham8354]

Please! I need more! I think I am starting Perry too. It's the worst, Dr. Gaslighting 😢

[@jennifertiemann6403]

This video is so true! I hope there's more Perry videos! 😃

[@dustedhandssourdough]

Oh my goodness. Penn wrote this??? So impressive. He is dead on with this one. I totally agree with what others are saying that the fact that Penn wrote this shows how in tune he is to you and the marriage. Awesome job. Perry shows up much quicker than you think. I'm only 42, and I didn't think I'd have to deal with any of this until I turn 50. And I don't have kids leaving for college for another 4 years.

[@BuzyMamma]

PERRY IS REAL, been living in my house for a few years now. Soooooo over it. Love this so much! Thank you for shedding more light on something that does not get talked about enough!

[@nancywest1926]

My younger son knew when to grab a bag of frozen peas and give them to me, 😂. This is a riot, thanks for doing this, brilliant.

[@JanineStoryteller]

That's perfect! 😂 My sons know when I'm flashing when I take my sweatshirt off in desperation.

[@OboeSteph]

I bring a clip on fan with me everywhere, and I call it my menopause fan. I got one for a friend who is also being visited by Perry.

[@OboeSteph]

What a sweet son!

[@lauradailey7950]

Wonderfully funny-laughing is a great coping mechanism! What abt the section where Perry causes hot flashes and night sweats? Oh and brain fog…major Perry issue!

[@holdernessfamilylaughs]

There needs to be a Part 2

[@borntoteachw4028]

Laughing is a great coping mechanism & I sorely need it today!

[@louisesouthgate5231]

This is just what I needed..... makes me feel sane! So relatable! 🤪

[@michelewaugh4803]

This is so good! Thank you! ❤❤❤

[@MrsBasia99]

Kim, I am so sorry you’ve reached this time of life but also SO GLAD! What’s the opposite of gaslighting? Validating? Yes please!!! Looking forward to lots more visits from Perry. Might as well laugh!

[@gkennedy2998]

Girl, I had all the classic symptoms and invented a few new ones. The worst is losing control of your mouth. Bite back everything you say. You cannot trust your mouth to say a pleasant remark. FYI: my menopause lasted about 7 years and I still have the additional weight.

[@wegotgame]

Yes! I have zero control of my foul/hateful mouth. I have drenching night sweats and the rest of the time I have uncontrollable chills, bloated, joints hurt…..but it’s the mental aspect/mouthy part has me the most concerned. 😩

[@s-de3gu]

Omg, I love you, both! Thank y’all! I really hope I get to meet you both, sometime. Thanks for your work. I have The “Gift” too, btw 🧬🧠☁️ Perry AND adhd. Yay 🙊 Sincerely, Sandy Williamson Rudiger 🙋🏻‍♀️✝️

[@FocusingOnChrist]

Perry is a new resident at our house. I feel like I’m going crazy! Thank you!

[@eph2vv89only1way]

I remember when I started perimenopause. My oldest kid was 13 and my youngest was 2. It's a whole new adventure when you have a teenager, a 2 year old, 2 other kids, and Perry all living under the same roof.

[@athenlepard2944]

Ugh thank you for this 😂😢 too funny all these crazy Perry times

[@MatthewAHaas]

"The hormones of a teenager without the metabolism. Chef's kiss!" 😆

[@lamieannacosta7746]

I’m laughing with you… but growing up is hard to do… Thanks for making this part of the conversation ❤

[@nancywest1926]

You have no idea how many times I've laughed with this and sent it to friends. Two today. My hubby said I looked like a junkie coming down with my head in the freezer. Thankfully, Perry is gone, still this is a riot.

[@dianeteschner5106]

This is perfect! More scripts of Peri please!

[@andrea-rq1fe]

Perry has started to pop in for visits recently and i just realized what was happening a few months ago when I was wondering why my “pms” symptoms were happening not just when I was pms’ing. Then I remembered I’m getting old

[@nicolerichter-smith2573]

Perry is GREAT!!! Would love to see Perry do a Perry Mason like episode, but with the Law & Order "Dun, Dun".❤❤❤❤ Yes, I can definitely relate.

[@CyberKnight1]

And when Perry shows up, you can say, "Oh there you are, Perry!"

[@kirbyourenthusiasm]

Phineas and Ferb reference! Love it.

[@brittneyl.8494]

I LOVE it! Had it for about three years before I got a new doctor who listened and did a full hormone panel and was to diagnose what I was going through and got me on HRT. Now I finally an starting to feel normal again. Also , my hot flashes are rare . FYI, I am 37… you can start going through it in your mid 30’s and I am one of the LUCKY few where it did.