Holding onto anger after narcissistic abuse

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@beauthentic7493 4 ай бұрын

I love where you're walking, super nice❤

@LindaStokes-ff2kv 4 ай бұрын

I had left the toxic environment with my dad and aunt and unfortunately I had to come back to it :( Now I'm dealing with it all over again.. :( I want to be away from it for good and start healing. I'm dealing with the frustration, heartache , anger of having to come back to this crap because of financial reasons. :(

@Kathleen-bk1rk 4 ай бұрын

I just happened to read ur comment and it was like I was reading my journal.. also totally related to financial. I totally relate to the utter frustration and anger. I'm just so burnt out after 3 plus yrs of this insanity that I'm about to do something drastic

@LindaStokes-ff2kv 4 ай бұрын

@@Kathleen-bk1rk the harder I try to get out of this situation the worse it gets to finally be able to break free from it. So frustrating.. :(

@Yishai377 4 ай бұрын

I honestly wish I had some type of wisdom to pass on to help you deal with this. All I can think of is to practice the Gray Rock method.

@LindaStokes-ff2kv 4 ай бұрын

@@Yishai377 thank you. I am trying to avoid them at all times. I try not to talk to them unless it's just necessary. Only one or two words given on my part... I just hope that my financial situation improves very soon.. :(

@Yishai377 4 ай бұрын

@@LindaStokes-ff2kv In the name of Jesus, you'll be fine. Do not let them invoke an emotional response from you. That is their fuel.

@katrinanoel4110 4 ай бұрын

Right on time Kevin! I needed this! Thank you❤.

@Yishai377 4 ай бұрын

Sometimes I don't know who I'm more angry with. My ex narc or myself for putting up with it for so long.

@mercedesmoreno3607 4 ай бұрын

Yea. Me too.

@Us-eq5ok 4 ай бұрын

And still missing them after knowing why we left over and over. So frustrating

@Steve197201 4 ай бұрын

What a beautiful location! Where is that, Kevin?

@arianasha 4 ай бұрын

Kevin this is absolutely TRUE ! Brilliant..

@privateprivate8366 4 ай бұрын

There is ALWAYS a way to be angry with narcissists. I’m the type of person, who can be angry with a person, for what I think they potentially might do. But, I was angry, for the decades wasted, not understanding I was probably being abused, insidiously, by my covert mother. I was angry for what she might be capable, if I were even more empathetic. I was angry about why she likely wanted to have happen to me, which was not just death, but a miserable one. I was angry with what caused her to be that way. I was angry because, although I never returned, I knew the possibility of me doing so. I was angry to discover that most people thought she had the right to be abusive to her daughters. I was angry because me sister also felt she had that right. I was angry because of likely lost opportunities, concerning love, career and health.

@BR-cd2cl 4 ай бұрын

Always brilliant! Thank you Kevin! Love where you’re walking.

@beth3535 4 ай бұрын

Agree. The anger, for me anyway, turned to resolve. The latter prevented me from engaging, showing anger, taking the bait, and worse. Character assignation with just about anyone he could reach…the schools, the kids parents, friends I had introduced him to, professional services…the works. Once we were finally physically separated and divorced, he played the kids for years. But the surprise and reactive anger wasn’t there; I mostly recognized a new low and thanked the lord that I was free of it.

@reverentalexanderchezeley-6367 4 ай бұрын

You wouldn't be human if you didn't have them. God gets angry at evil, we're made in His image, so should we get angry at evil. Thanks Kevin.

@Senoritagata-nu5te 4 ай бұрын

This makes sense now but there is something deeper. Gods judgement. I am afraid of not forgiving because I will be judged for dying in my sin of unforgiveness

@reverentalexanderchezeley-6367 4 ай бұрын

@@Senoritagata-nu5te Dear Seno. My apologies for the late reply, I trust your well. No Christian can die in the "sin of unforgiveness." Christ has paid the penalty of all of humanity's sins in thought, word and deed on the Cross. All of God the Father's judgement of humanity was laid upon Jesus on that Cross. He bore our sins in His holy body so that we don't pay for them after we die. Such is the deep deep love of Jesus. Their all paid for by Christ who loved us and died for us. May I suggest you ask the Lord to soften your heart and help you to forgive. He loves to help His children. Your forgiving them for your mental well being, peace of mind see, and the dissolving of any bitterness and resentment you may or may not have. Though these things are understandable, bitterness and resentment rot our souls. Forgiveness is about you be emotionaly free, not them who hurt you, they couldn't give a damn whether you forgive them or not. Hope that helps my fear friend. I'll be praying for you. Kind regards. God bless you. Reverend Alexander B. Eley BA Honours Degree Theology. Wales, Great Britain.

@pyewacket7883 4 ай бұрын

Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.

@suesipp2575 4 ай бұрын

I love it~~ your focus is where you belong

@lydiabergmann4521 4 ай бұрын

What a nice place to have a place to have a relaxing walk! Reminds me to the example of Jesus taking his deciples on a walk through the fields teaching them. This lesson is really for a deeper understanding giving us a key to leave the prison we may be in. The new freedom is like a walk on a lake.💦 God bless🙏💛

@MichaelKorsaknov-eh8gd 4 ай бұрын

Thank you my friend ❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

@casideedaun1041 4 ай бұрын

Oh i needed to hear this so so bad. I want him to pay me back. Im homeless to get away.

@suesipp2575 4 ай бұрын

such a great insight~~ so cool!! YEs!!

@lisazidlick1650 4 ай бұрын

Excellent! A home run! Back to the trough for the last time and it feels Great! ❤❤❤

@crazycats535 4 ай бұрын

This is the coolest video 🎉

@EdithCasines 4 ай бұрын

What if that person is your daughter??

@nedina0926 4 ай бұрын

Or your son !

@Stoic_Horo 4 ай бұрын

Build a community around you join a bowling club garden club computer club and church to build a group of good people about you and re-wire your child together. Remember to say no to them to help them grow. I know it's a bit like tough love but you can support them as they run through thier emotional response. Keep people about you when ever your child visits your home.

@saluma1447 4 ай бұрын

Hi Kevin, where are u recording at?

@BIGKUDOS 4 ай бұрын

This video is so elevating and I can certainly resonate thank you for the share and caring of others❣️

@larshesthaven5828 4 ай бұрын

The turning point for me was the narcs smear campains, the lies, rage, back stapping, paranoia and my daughters enormous stupidity, ignorance and inhumanity... I stayed with the narc mother for extra one year to be with my daughter and hoped I could take my daughter with me ...infortunately I was not allowed to take my daughter with me in order to save her life from being mentally, physically and spiritually abused by the narc mothers sickness. My daughter is 10.000 km away from me in a country where the whole system is rotten and corruptive, and they have no clue what narcissism is. And besides they dont care to find out what a narc monster can come up with hurting an innocent child with severe mental narc abuse...its a criminal act ...you are right about anger etc. Two times I got so angry that it came to my mind killing the narc mother and do it with no regret to save me and my daughter. When that anger feeling turned up it was the cups overflow and I decided to go home to my own country to heal my wounds. The narc mother still has her poisonous claws glued onto my daughters body, mind, brain, heart, soul and spirit. When I talk with my daughter face to face I can now see her joy, laughter and light disappering...its heartbreaking

@larshesthaven5828 4 ай бұрын

The narc mothers stupudity and ignorance it should be

@TheHelenhunter 4 ай бұрын

It's definitely criminal.

@TheHelenhunter 4 ай бұрын

If I wouldn't be angry that would mean that I agree.

@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142 4 ай бұрын

Kevin I just want peace ☮️ at last , they are totally crazy , and I can’t get him out ! In Belgium 🇧🇪there 3:59 is no law against narcissistic people ! I hate no one , I just want out ……! 4:57

@Birdie-m8o 4 ай бұрын

I need counseling/support here, if I can get it. Don't want to go to Frontier Health or any other counseling dirty that I know I can't trust for help & answers

@Birdie-m8o 4 ай бұрын

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