Home Birth Q&A ⎮ Name Explanation, Pain Level, Cost, and Regrets

[@sgcombs8112]

I just wanted to share that I had the exact same experience post-birth about how painful the pushing was. The contractions were nothing compared to the pushing. I remember pushing as hard as I could and feeling the excruciating pain take over my whole body. I remember looking at my midwife in the middle of pushing and thinking to myself “I am going to have to have a c-section. There is no way this baby is coming out of me.” I do think it prevented me from being super happy and excited about my baby being born. It was so overwhelming and I remember telling my husband after birth that it was honestly traumatizing. I heard it gets better the next time around because you go into it with experience so you know when you are in transition and don’t second guess yourself. Blessings to you and yours! Congratulations!

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Yes it was a very similar experience. I was shocked how hard and painful pushing was for me. I know every birth is different and some women love the pushing stage, but for this birth that was not my experience 😅

[@TruthBeTold4ever-j1n]

The raw birth video would be great for me. I love truthful birth videos: authentic 😊

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Editing it now and leaving in lots of raw moments for you 😅

[@Shay2020.]

For me too! I'm expecting and it's helpful to see real experiences. Thank u!

[@TruthBeTold4ever-j1n]

@@Kian_Wolfgang 🥰 Ahhhhh, I’m honored, and I look so forward to the video! 🙏🙌🥰 Blessings to your all!!!!

[@TruthBeTold4ever-j1n]

@@Shay2020. Congratulations 🎊🎈 👶

[@hollycrowe6826]

I cried during your whole birth video. It was beautiful! I am 24 weeks and preparing for my own home birth. Sending you all the love!

[@nancydroge7682]

CONGRATULATIONS, Kian! You handled these questions with such peace, wisdom & grace! There is not a pretentious bone in your body! I have not seen a post-birth video as genuine as this & I thank you on behalf of those who watch this hoping to learn from you. Legend Cruz Wolfgang… his name… WOW… you nailed it! He is absolutely beautiful! You have a new & beautiful confidence about you & I am so grateful for what you are teaching those who are watching you! You have the assurance of my earnest prayers for the 4 of you (Handsome included) as you navigate this new life season! Hoping you’ll be patient with yourself! We’re not going anywhere! 💕🧸💕

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Thank you! That’s so sweet of you to say 🥹🤍

[@AngelaShields_]

As a ftm, who is 27 weeks today and planning a home birth, I search for the raw birth videos. If you feel comfortable exposing yourself and your experience, women like me very highly value it! Thanks for considering sharing!

[@SucceedbyForce]

Had to stop everything I was doing to say "CONGRATULATIONS!!!". A beeeaaaautiful child! Wow! After all the trials and tribulations. I literally almost cried looking at the picture in the "Legend" onesy. Praise the Lord! Jesus and the Father are so good to us!

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Aw thank you so much, we are so grateful for our sweet boy!

[@ericadani]

As a doula, I'd be honored if you felt comfortable enough sharing your birth video here. 💛 God bless you and your beautiful family!

[@lizlavoie2630]

Honestly, thank you SO much for sharing about how you didn't experience a euphoric feeling... I understand that every woman's experience is unique is some ways while there are also similarities. I think many women romanticize labor and then there's those of us who don't have babies yet but we're looking for transparency to be prepared rather than having false expectations. Again, thank you!

[@TheYoungCatholics]

Congratulations!!! With my first two labours I screamed like a madwoman. My first I ended up getting the epidural, with my second I didnt have time to get the epidural (whole labour was around 45 minutes!! 20 minutes of REAL labour) and my third labour was unmedicated 12 hours and I laboured quietly. It was an extremely empowering experience. I would suggest reading Ina Mays books and doing lots of breathing prep. Those books really helped me view labour as an amazing thing that you're doing and not something that is just happening to you. My first two births were rather traumatic but my third birth, by the power of God, redeemed the experience. It was beautiful, though still hard. I had no idea that I could labour silently! I even kept telling my husband to go back to sleep so he slept until I was 9cm dilated. Anyways, so proud of you mumma!

[@oliviarowe2296]

Congratulations Kian! I agree that a real, raw, authentic birth video would be super valuable to a lot of us considering our options. Maybe just a trigger warning at the beginning and for any bloody parts

[@oliviarowe2296]

Also just wanted to say that you are amazing for doing what you did!! 🙏

[@tashalynn8205]

I love how real you were with these questions. I had a very long labor and delivery in the hospital. Ended with being put to sleep for a c section. Once I woke I think they asked me if I wanted to see my son and I was like mmm not right now lol. I was so traumatized by it all. It honestly took a while to gain that bond with my son. Postpartum is so crazy. But we are inseparable now. He’s my greatest joy and I adore everything about him! Legend is seriously so cute and I am so happy you and baby are doing well ❤

[@aleishahicks]

I’d love to see it all! Whatever you’re comfortable with sharing I can’t wait to see! May God bless baby Legend and the whole Wolfgang family!! So proud of you, God is good.

[@tahlia4189]

Legend is such a precious gift from God 🤍 Kian and Kyle, I am praying for an abundance of God's favour and blessing upon you in this fresh chapter of your lives. You are such beautiful parents and I am so excited to see you raise this sweet baby!

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

thank you so much!

[@mkayyy1918]

To think i found your channel from your single Diaries series and now you're a whole mother! Congratulations! God is so good!

[@therealsubaekhyang]

i think *praise you in this storm - casting crowns* would've been a good song to listen to 🥰

[@Sydneyspulse]

Yay! I’ve been checking every day for a new video! So happy he’s here and healthy. He’s absolutely precious! Thank you for sharing such an intimate look into your life. Blessings and joy to all three of you!

[@khubbs5660]

I relate to a lot of what you said. We attempted a birth center birth with a midwife but our baby's heart rate started dropping during contractions and I was transferred while in the pushing phase. I was like an animal at that point and purely acting from a feral state of mind. I screamed so much, too. After he was born I just remember thinking and saying "I'm just so glad its over". No high... With that beind said, I'm currently pregnant again and feeling scared but also WAY more prepared for the mental part of birth. I feel like I will try to embrace the animalistic side a bit more this time rather than being so shocked by it. I felt a lot of guilt for my "behavior" during birth but your video made me feel like I'm not the only one to experience birth like this. Thank you. Btw, my son's name is Wolfgang! I think Cruz as a middle name for Legend is very sweet. Congratulations on your beautiful baby.

[@k-rae4328]

Your honesty is refreshing 😊❤ Congratulations on your baby Legend 🩶

[@bsale2024]

Congratulations! Little Legend is such a beautiful blessing. Enjoy every moment with him. ❤️🥰❤️

[@LinaSilva-i8x]

Awww congrats, I think you should post what you feel comfortable posting however I wanna see it all raw and real hahaha

[@julietgendron]

you poor thing! back labor and a sunny side up baby for your first labor 😭 you did so good 🫶🏼 but you will forget don’t worry! i had an unmedicated birth as well 13 months ago and i now look forward to giving birth again one day 🥰

[@allycealexandra]

He is adorable! Beautiful job mama!! Congratulations! I hope you're getting to enjoy all the baby snuggles 🤍 God bless!

[@lexieharrison299]

Major major congrats! You are a warrior momma. I’m 27 weeks pregnant with my second babe! I did an unmedicated birth the first time and promised myself I wouldn’t do that again. 😂 but I love that I was able to have the experience once 💜 Also side note, I had no post birth high either. And I was only in real labor four hours 😅

[@valerie.kelley]

You should make the video how you would like to watch it years down the road! We just all get to be apart of the journey of you sharing life with you 🤍

[@taniadenise5145]

I am so proud of you and what a powerful name! Sending you all love!!! 🕊

[@karenmarsland8036]

Dear Kian & Kyle ~ I just watched your beautiful powerful labour and delivery of baby boy!! What an amazing thing to share ~ thank you for your generosity ~ I watch this from the West Coast of Australia 🇦🇺 🎉 at 11.00 pm August 21st!! I am a 66 year old mum/nanny/daughter/sister/Aunty/cousin/FRIEND- I have 3 sons the youngest is 33 and has lived in the US for 14 years! You guys are wonderful!! God BLESS YOU ALL ~ oh and your DOG!! How gorgeous is he?!! Love him!! ❤xx

[@mpat100]

Blessings and best wishes for baby and parents

[@debraroth2388]

Baby boy is adorable.glad you are doing good and had a safe delivery . Have a great day 😊💞

[@aeliolson3241]

Congratulations! You're amazing and so strong. Glad that you're healing well. Wonderful little family. Share whatever you're comfortable with. It is an extremely vulnerable time for you. You can always add trigger warning right before anything potentially graphic with time stamps so people can choose to skip ahead.

[@SammHall28]

Just wanted to share that "cripple" or "crippled" may not be the best word to use ❤ congrats on baby Legend and I'm glad you're feeling better after such a long labor!

[@ThatOneGirl126]

Crippled isn't a bad word. It means to be unable to walk or move normally. She couldn't walk or move normally after labor.

[@olukiyesimi]

lol i love the way you planned Legend’s name. i get it with seeing how it rolls off the tongue and connects with the last name 😄. so cool, adorable baby! congrats 💗

[@scrubsandjesus]

Thank you for your honesty! would love the realest & rawest with respect to what you want to share publicly of course. One thing that shocked me in this pregnancy (my THIRD) I had no idea spotting was normal & freaked out & went to the er. The real & raw is not talked about often enough & leaves us all in the dark on a lot of details of motherhood/pregnancy. Congratulations! ♥️

[@jstebakova]

I just watched your birth video and I loved it! I'm 37 weeks, 5 days pregnant with my first. Mentally and physically prepping for an unmedicated birth with midwife at a birth house 🤞

[@haleyreinecke7740]

Show as little or much as you feel comfortable! Blood, screams, a lot of us have been through it already I’m sure. We will love whatever you put together. ♥️ Some women are screamers and others aren’t. I definitely was a lot louder than I expected myself to be!

[@Bleigh1584]

I think your should share what ever footage you want to share! I’m here for either! Congratulations!! I have loved watching your Instagram stories and seeing Handsome with you and Legend 🥹

[@SavannahLewie]

Girl I SCREAMED in all my births 😂 I think you should share it all if you’re comfortable with it! Normalize women vocalizing in labor 😅 Do what ya gotta do to get those babies out ladies!!! 🤪 Congrats, Kian!!! 🩷🩷🩷

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Okay glad im not the only one 😂 my throat hurt after from screaming so much during the pushing

[@vanwalden6021]

​@KianTilton my doctor was literally was like you cannot scream.. if you screamed you can't breathe to push! I was screaming sooo loud and he was like HUSH.. I was mad at first.. but once I calmed down.. I was able to push.. and my 2nd baby came out in 5 pushes!

[@sarahsteadman20]

Congratulations! Thank you for your honesty and I cannot wait to see the birth video

[@belovedinjesuschrist]

So grateful you and your baby boy are healthy and healing. I thank the Lord and praise Him!

[@iloveGod1105]

Beautiful!!! I still remember you sharing your miscarriage experiences with us. Thank you for taking us on the ups and downs and showing us the faithfulness of God. Congrats on your rainbow baby!!! 💛💛💛

[@ashleycondict2044]

Yes!!! Put it all in the birth video. Birth is natural and beautiful and perfect and you are a goddess!!!! I would love to see your raw birth story with all the perfect details. Congratulations!!! You’re sweet baby is so precious!🤍

[@chantellejohnston3008]

I'm expecting my 3rd in march. Will be my 3rd freebirth/wild pregnancy. I have a 9 month old and 22 month old. My first was also 36 hours from first contraction! Love the story of Legend's names. Legend Cruz has such beautiful meanings. CONGRATS on little man❣️🥰😍 God is so good!!!

[@nirvanabliss]

Omg you had your baby?! Congratulations!! so happy for you 💗

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Yes! Thank you!

[@sageevers5729]

raw with music I think is a beautiful way to show birth stories

[@PurpleTulip.]

You are amazing!!! You did so good!! Strong to the end . God for sure gave you Devine strength

[@elliejosh4755]

We want the real thing!! Whatever you feel comfortable sharing. I’m currently 24 weeks pregnant with my first baby!

[@loudlittleroar675]

Legend is so handsome! So happy for a safe delivery for you both! God is good!

[@MaryLubben]

Absolutely authentic with the birth video! I love raw and real!

[@kiabai8843]

Congratulations!!!! Congratulations!!! He’s so adorable 🥰 !!!!

[@marydolim4108]

Congratulations!! Thank you for your honesty. After I gave birth I felt so guilty that there was no euphoria for me. I just wanted to sleep.

[@juliacarter1280]

I also had my first homebirth 2 years ago. I had all back labor. Hot water on the lower back took it all away during contrctions. I was in the pool like you but got out and delivered him on the bed. I did t feel grounded enough in the birth pool. I didnt get to experince the high either due to my placenta detaching after the baby came out and put so much pain on my back i couldnt move but it was the best birth experience ever. Had 4 c secruons prior to my natural home birth.

[@jennaadams9744]

Congrats Kian! He is beautiful! I would love if you could share the realistic/raw version of your birth story! 💛

[@a_v_16]

Congrats Kian!! I’m a first time mom and gave birth in January 2023. I could relate to so much of what you shared in this video. I delivered in the hospital (no pain meds) and labored on the toilet. It felt like such a comfortable and safe space. Funny story I actually verbalized wanting to deliver on the toilet, of course I didn’t and looking back I’m so glad I didn’t 😂😂 Excited to watch your birth video. I say keep it real and show it all. All the pain and labor give way to the most beautiful gift God gave us. ❤

[@KianandKyle]

You’re amazing! So proud of you and love you so much! You’re already an amazing mom 😘

[@femininityfaith7920]

Awe you guys!!!! Congratulations!!! He's beautiful and perfect!!! Congratulations on sticking to your plan and sticking the pain out!! What an awesome birth story!!! Congratulations also Kyle!!! You both are going to be amazing parents for the Kingdom!!! Amen!!

[@princessbabyboo]

your hair color and everything about it is STUNNING beautiful mama🤩🤩💗

[@gabl3400]

Loved this video! I would love another Q&A

[@racheloshaksmusic]

You are honestly so amazing for doing it without an epidural, you made it look so possible and easy, especially for your first child. I was amazed, you did so well in the labour video. It looked painful but you pushed through. I thank God the final position helped get the baby out. Legend is a unique and powerful baby name ❤ Congratulations again! You are amazing for delivering the baby! You are so strong, it's inspiring to me. God bless you and your husband and baby.

[@jewelblue8496]

Congratulations! I was thinking about you and praying your birth went smoothly. 🎉❤

[@umajanetonyinyechi3189]

I just had to subscribe to this channel, thank you for sharing.

Congratulations ❤️❤️😘😘😘😘i am 4 months pregnant and planning to give birth with no medication, and please keep the birth video raw and real , but whatever your comfortable with , I feel like I will be screaming too 😭❤️pray for me ❤️❤️ praying for you and your family 🙏🏼

[@2000Dolores]

God please be with your child and her family during this beautiful time with your beautiful blessing of a baby! Thank you father and it is in Jesus name that I pray ...... AMEN! Please let me know when you give birth ❤🎉

[@nourishedheiress]

You did so good!!! I was very impressed with the strength God have you to go through with it!

[@stephanieaguirre6609]

I totally get you about not feeling motivated about my sons arrival! I also had a home birth. But I think it’s because we are first time moms and couldn’t really process that we would have a real live baby after 😂 now knowing my son, and thinking about the next baby, I think I’ll be able to understand and picture it better and be more excited to meet the baby 🤍

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Yes that’s probably so true! I’m sure the second baby you’re more excited because you know the reward that comes

[@colleenrichardson5339]

Legend is SO cute! Congratulations! You look absolutely beautiful! God is good! Can’t wait for your birth video❤

[@MsChristianlady7]

Congratulations and thank you for sharing this most beautiful experience with us....God bless you and your family!

[@Sofik_19]

I have very similar expirience regarding contractions pain. I have had a labor in hospital and did get an epidural, because my contractions were sooooo painful that I have cried over them and almost climb the walls to avoid the pain (I also felt them in my back). But as time for pushing come, my epidural run away completely and I cannot get additional dosage. The pain during pushing was even worse, at one moment I have felt as I was dying. I have pushed for 1 hour and 10 minutes. So when they wantes to motivate me and said that my son had dark hair I just completely do not mind and was not interested in that information. I just wanted the end of the labor, so the pian would stop. So I really understand you. Because of that experience I did not feel true big love to my baby boy for a couple of weeks. But now I just adore him and do not realise my life without my son ❤

[@PeaceBeStill39]

Yay I’ve been looking forward to this! You’re looking amazing mama ❤ praying for your family!

[@jaydas8976]

Congrats Kian, I’m so happy for you and Kyle. Legend is so adorable ❤️

[@debbie6360]

Congratulations and many prayers ❤❤❤

[@isabellaseely6625]

Whatever you feel is best for you to post is what you should post :) I personally want to see the real of it all so I'm not expecting a pure blissful birth like a lot of videos show (not that it's not real). Either way you decide, you can put a trigger warning at the beginning of the video with time stamps of what to skip and also remind viewers of the warning maybe a minute or two before any parts you might consider triggering for viewers. This is your birth story and I think we'll all support how you want to share it or if you want to share it! Much much love to you, Kyle, and baby Legend!!! (Oh and Handsome too🐕)🤍🤍🤍🤍

[@KizNic]

❤😊 you look lovely. Congrats and thanks for the real answers!

[@kiristaberry718]

That's exactly what I sounded like when I gave birth! Thank you for sharing that was beautiful to watch

[@justagrl9486]

I love his name 🩵 beautiful and strong. Congratulations to your family

[@bellavita3097]

So glad you’re doing well and feeling inspired and you have this new baby so exciting love his name I was team Cruise from day one and knowing that it has that meaning how wonderful plus John Legend music is amazing! Ha enjoy this time!

[@rainbow616]

Kian & Kyle, congratulations on the birth of your sweet baby boy! 🥳🧸🪅🎁💕

[@Ariseshinetrust]

Congratulations, he's adorable! 🎉👶🍼

[@Akhile_hope]

I am beyond happy for you. I can't even describe ❤🎉I love your family ❤ May the Lord continue to prosper you and keep you all❤

[@Corinthians--ek4kt]

So Excited about the Birth video......Legend is So Beautiful ❤

[@shelley2he844]

Congratulations to you and Kyle ❤🎉 he's beautiful. May little legend be blessed all the days of his life. 💯❤️😇

[@jennygracefully]

Legend Cruz (of the Cross) Wolfgang, I love it! Congratulations!! 🎉🎈🍾

[@gaara.wifeyy]

Omgosh!! I didn't even know you had your baby. The last video I saw was your gender reveal and then that was it. Baby is here already! Can't wait to catch up on your videos!! Hopefully you both are getting rest and adjusting ok. ❤❤

[@gbmorones]

I feel that you should share what you feel comfortable sharing. Period. Either way thank you for being so vulnerable with your audience.

[@sherbetstraw]

If you feel comfortable with it then I think blood and screams are honestly quite helpful to see because personally I feel like birth is usually very censored. When I gave birth I was shocked at how traumatic and painful it was and I wish people would be more honest about it with me beforehand.

[@germangirl16]

One thing I just want to mention is that Christian Health Ministries is not actually an insurer. I looked into them as well when I wanted to go the home birth route. Congrats on your baby!

[@heather5689]

I saw your instagram post yesterday. And noticed our sons have the same exact birth weight and height! 7 lbs 5oz and 20.5 in long. And my son was sunny side up. Lastly, my sons name starts with an L. And I also had him 2 weeks early! ❤

[@Kian_Wolfgang]

Wow so many similarities! That’s crazy!

[@krupaabrokwaa]

Can we just look at GOD!!! What a testimony this is! You're a WHOLE mum now!!!

[@forest-fairies]

Congratulations! And completely agree with others, I think its good for women to be able to see all kinds of birth experiences (if you're comfy sharing ofc!). I know birth videos help a lot of people tease out what options are right for them!

[@rebeccalawrence5031]

so proud of youuuuu!!!!!!

[@leeabond1214]

Awesome birth video! So glad you shared ❤❤

[@MegaTelenovela]

I can relate with so much that you mentioned about your birth. I gave birth to my baby girl last year in March and it was so bizarre to me when the midwife was telling me you can do this you're so close to meet your girl... I couldn't fathom it the joy and love and bliss that would come after meeting her it grew with time ofcourse but at that very moment I was just focusing getting through each contraction and pain. Even when she came out I was in such relief from the pain. Until the had to push my stomach to help with clearing all the blood out after placenta came out. I still remember I had back labour and the pushing phase but not the intensity anymore I was doubting myself so many times from 8-10 cm was the hardest time I kept saying I can't do it and I need an epidural but the midwife's were so helpful they knew my birth plan and so motivating and my husband was there for me massaging my lower back with each contraction changing with cold compress on my forehead or putting a blanket on me as I got hot and cold every minute. I wouldn't have done it without my husband and midwives 💯!

[@lauragodoy6151]

Love you Kian 🤍 so proud of you!!

[@mahorahensgens9395]

Congrats !!!🤩🤩 I'm so impressed by your strength !! I'd love to experience at home birth one day too but it just freaks me out so much (like the pain level and everything) ! Not sure I'm gonna watch the other video even though I'd like to bc it might scare me even more 😅... Giving birth looks so hard !! Thanks for sharing your experience and thoughts about it ☺ !

[@HaleysHomestead]

Nikki Philippi had a very real birth video and I really enjoyed watching that!

[@djaniquemoore]

Congratulations. I was patiently waiting for your next video 💙

[@evaxmila]

Congratulations to you both on the new addition 🥺❤ i remember when you prayed so hard for this…this baby is going to be so loved

[@monjayne4629]

I also was not motivated to meet my son when i was in labour like i expected to be. I went 9 days over due, ended up being induced and had him within 3 hours. The only motivation i had was to get to the end so i wasnt in pain anymore. ( i was also told by the midwives that i wasnt in labour yet it was just the pain for the prostoglan gel. Till i made then check me because i needed to push and i was 9cm) I think i actually forgot there was a baby at the end of it

[@lexieharrison299]

Ahhh!! Can’t wait to watch!!

[@CSmith-ph1fg]

💞God Bless You, Congratulations!

[@elizabethcablesings]

Good job sticking with your birth!!!!

[@abrown4125]

I didn’t have a post birth high either, my labor was only 5 hours but it was VERY intense. I was throwing up and everything…I was so exhausted I was like great here’s my baby, and handed him off to my sister. I was just trying to get energy to get out of the tub, which took awhile..ugh.

[@Japhiaaa]

Congrats & God bless your family!🥹❤️