HOMESCHOOLING OR MAINSTREAM SCHOOL? | What DECISION Have We Made?

[@mairimacleod9486]

Children with Autism thrive on routine. They can also be inherently difficult to teach because they want to do everything their way which unfortunately doesn’t always work. Also be very careful of social isolation. Joseph is already socially isolated, he has no friends, no play dates, attends no clubs, all he knows is his family. When I realised my son had autism at 2 years old I did my utmost to take him to clubs and events with other children his own age, we went to swimming classes, soft play and all sorts of classes because social isolation is a huge problem for those with Autism. What about Toby? He has really struggled with school. I really wish you all the best. Xx

[@lgj.twin.2468]

I had a little thought about Toby aswell.

[@carodean27]

I hope they meet up with homeschool clubs and get to socialise with other children too 😢

[@WelshGirl-d5x]

Hi I just got back from my hoildays and I agree with you I am learning to be a teacher with children with special needs I work part time in a special school and with children who are autistic they do need a routine I hope the best for Joseph and for his future

[@4884nat]

I see your points but it really is dependent on each individual child. My oldest is 17!now and Autistic. He has never been bothered about socialising at all, he is very happy with his own company and things for so much easier for him and m myself when I accepted that. He now has a small group of friends who are amazing and he very much spends time with them when he when he wants to and enjoys his own company outside of that. He is lovely and polite to others when interacting in shops or other public places. My daughter in the other hand who is also autistic is very different and craves friendship but struggles to keep friendships going due to her autistic traits. So we make effort to work on her social skills, have play dates and groups etc but equally she finds it very exhausting so we listen to her and accommodate that. her needs. Socialisation with autistic children is very hard and tricky to navigate, forcing them to do all the play dates, groups and school is t always the right way and we should respect that.

[@cherrypie8796]

Agree in part about your decision, but you will need to have set times for learning in a setting eg your dining room or somewhere where there is a setting which gives the idea this is learning time. Plus all the equipment to set up a schoolroom setting. A tablet is not the ideal learning tool. As helpful as they are books are important, screen time should be limited for all children. Good luck with your choices.

[@elizabethwittig3930]

All day is learning time at home just doesnt look like school.

[@PennyLane64]

@@cherrypie8796 awww do you home school? Maybe you could help with ideas 💡

[@naturalsimpleliving]

We live in the States and have been homeschooling for 25 years (we have 11 children). We love it! Sending love from Wisconsin!❤️

[@tiggybeth2042]

I have maybe missed it on the video but I don’t understand why you decided not to let Florence go to Nursery . I understand your decision about Joseph xx

[@PennyLane64]

I think because its not compulsory xx👩🏻‍🦰

[@janechestney4425]

Nursery is so good for little ones. They socialise with others their own age and learn through play.

[@Ohhhlalalala]

It would be interesting to see how you as parents are going to be teaching Joseph to read and write. I have a similar aged son and he has come on so much in the past year at school, his teacher is fantastic. Will you take him to home educated activities outside of the home to socialise as that’s also another big part of schooling?

[@lilnikkit]

​@@Ohhhlalalala i home ed, children age 1, 3, 5 & 13. Regarding reading and writing there are alot of resources online for pointers, we basically do the same as schools, use Phonics, Phonetic sounds, letter tracing, repetitive learning so you practice a small amount of letters and numbers at a time, schools generally start with Satp. But we chose to start with their names, read lots of books, lots of wipe clean books, whiteboards, alphabet videos such as miss rachel are brilliant and my 1 year old can recognise A and will say Ah when he sees A. As for socialising home ed opens tons of potential for socialising as you don't have a time limit, park, softplay, swimming, shopping, football etc possibilities are endless and every opportunity is a learning and social opportunity. My children are so sociable they make friends everywhere they go without trying and it's amazing to see how imaginative and free they are to play without limits.

[@kellyclark578]

I home schooled my 10 year old from the age of 3 to 7 as her school could not meet her medical needs as they should have, i learned her to read, write, spell, do her maths etc not a problem she had one to one so learnt very fast, she is now at junior school and is thriving.

[@lilnikkit]

@@gillfriend6990 not everyone's first language is English. This is why it's important to be kind.

[@VictoriaOConnor111]

What a fun introduction to the vlog from the kiddos! This is building real confidence in them. Well done 👍🏼 As for your decision regarding Joseph and the others, keep listening to your instincts as parents. You are both so passionate about the welfare of your children, of your family. That is so refreshing and inspiring. To see how strong and supportive you are as a couple is amazing. As long as you keep communicating and listening to each other, your family will continue to feel the safety and love that’s already there in abundance. Ben, great videography of the beach scene with the children. Those kiddos sitting on the bench just giggling and laughing is something that can’t be bought or replaced. As always, thank you for sharing with all of us ❤

[@ayela562]

Unfortunately we’re seeing the same things in our socialized healthcare and education systems here in Canada. We feel there is a large push to run these things into the ground so that we welcome privatization. It’s a disgrace and it’s all about money. And it leaves hard working professionals and the patrons of these systems struggling to keep up with an underfunded and chaotic environment. I fully support home school and know without a doubt it can be done thoughtfully and with great care for the individual. Bravo… you aren’t afraid to ask questions and advocate for your children, you will make mistakes, and you will find solutions. I wish you all the best.

[@carolaustin3785]

Ben and Zoe, I see you have made your minds up about Joseph being home educated, as is your right. The main problem I see is the isolation from his peers. I realise he's got lots of siblings, as we did in our large family when we were growing up, but getting to know other kids was fascinating and fun and got us away from the family for a time. Has Eva thought of studying for the Baccalaureate? I've known people who received a wonderful education through this. I must say, we in Australia were always told that Scotland had one of the best education systems in the world, so I'm really disappointed that perhaps standards have fallen. My grandsons are receiving an amazing education at our local state primary school, academically, artistically and socially; this school is in an average sort of area, not a posh suburb, and we and their parents are so impressed! All the very best with educating the two little ones, and I hope it works out happily!

[@WelshGirl-d5x]

Welsh schools go out the way to help any strugling children I needed help with math now look were I am traning to be a special teacher

[@dawne65]

School is an education system, you are going to be home educating, this is a totally different thing. Enjoy and stop thinking of it as schooling and call it education at home. Every parents educate, some full-time. I have so many friends who home educate, there are many home education groups, join a local one. Be confident and enjoy xxxx

[@tracey.c]

Erin did an amazing job at the start of the vlog! Well done Erin! 💜 As a long time supporter, I wish Joseph the best with his learning 💙 and you are best equipped to make the decision which is best for Joseph where he is happy and supported. Joseph was excited when he saw friends from the school session outside the swimming pool complex. Perhaps he would thrive in an activity where he can make friends and further develop other skills. Joseph is a sweet boy, and I wish him every happiness 💙

[@JJ-ur7rs]

I think as long as the children have plenty of opportunity to socialise with other children around the homeschooling ...that would be my worry if I took my children out of school. All the best to you xxxx

[@elizabethgordon340]

Wow!!! You did it!! The decision to home educate was huge for us too, with many heart felt days of talking together. We actually did it several times. One was late starting school, so was almost six years old. The next was withdrawn after a few weeks of year 4, in England, then returning to a new school in year five and starting secondary school in year 7 and then finally withdrawn after two weeks of year 8 for good. It was the restrictive environment didn't work for a person with high functioning autistic traits. It has always felt like the best decision we ever made and feels organic and right. Learning goes on all the time for our whole lives a when we are allowed to follow our interests.

[@peggybegin8241]

Wishing you all the best. Glad that you're open to sending Joseph to school, if and when you feel he's ready or wants to go. You will do a marvelous job and I'm sure he'll thrive at home. God bless you.❤🙏🏻

[@SusanLang-et9rt]

Think it’s shame ,not trying school…as he may have thrived,but now won’t know,but I’m sure you know best….just doesn’t have any wee friends…anyway hope all goes well with everything.

[@aragorn7968]

You are the only ones who truly know your children and how best to provide for them. Sending happy thoughts as you move forward.

[@lorrainemortimer6106]

Hi Ben & Zoe- for what it is worth the decison you have made is the right one - my grandson was labelled "a naughty boy" at school because he would not conform to certain things - we as a family requested many many times a test for ADHD but because addition benefits are awarded once a diagnoses has been confirmed GP's/Teachers /authorities all are suspicious of any new requests also the waiting list in my area for the relevant tests is 2 yrs - The system is all wrong & we know our grandson has problems at school/home etc but we are having to pay for a private consultation in order to address his condition

[@sarahpreston1478]

Don't forget in this day and age writing with a pen/pencil is not needed much. My disabled daughter struggles to write so communicates a lot via text, email etc. She also finds talking about anything other than what her interests are, really difficult but, can communicate, age appropriate, via the keyboard. Hopefully he should get a vineland test which will tell you what age he is at for listening, talking back to you and written words etc, I found it really helpful. I always did the ten minute rule so no matter what we were doing we give it ten mins and stop and give her time to decompress. Any sensory overload needs time to calm down, in time Joseph will know what he needs to do to calm down and feel ok again. My daughter has to be on her own for an hour or so and chunters to herself a lot, lol. It calms her. The other good idea is doing a daily routine in pictures. So he can see what is happening visually oh and don't think you need to be doing sit down learning until he is happy to do it. Just roll with it and enjoy it. xx

[@natalielong7804]

You are one of the loveliest down to earth family’s and your children are so very lucky to have you as parents as you are to have them. Love watching your vlogs. Keep being you. Love Nat 😊x

[@Kale659]

Been watching for a while now, and see how well all your children interact at home. These are 100% the right decisions: until you get a formal diagnosis for Joseph, there’s absolutely no resources available to him. So why put him through hell….and baby girl is fine at home….you do what’s right for you and yours! ❤❤

[@gillhann244]

Guys you do whats best for joseph, my son struggled all through school and every day I would worry about him. Now he's a grown man and still to this day talks about how much he hated school and the effect it had on him. You do what's best for your son . As long as he's happy that's all that matters. My son now has a fantastic job and is happy.

[@PennyLane64]

Totally relate to this xx👩🏻‍🦰

[@catherinetreanor6441]

It is quite clear to me that Joseph is a very intelligent child, so Mam & Dad are already doing a wonderful job! You know what is best for your children and tough decisions will always have to be made. We wish you all the luck in the world ❤❤❤

[@emmasiveter5681]

I took my daughter out of school and never regretted it! And she’s gone on to become a very successful person ❤

[@normadvelez80]

You as parents know your kids. You can't go wrong because one benefit of several kids is that you really can't spoil them. They will all thrive and you give them room to thrive. None will be lazy or not team players. They've learned to cooperate for the greater good. You will work it out focusing on being kind, considerate, and they will be independent and themselves. It's not cookie cutter, but it works. You will have up and down days. You will take deep breaths or meditate, or what takes you into your essence, at times. Best Regards. You are all thriving regardless❤❤ ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@bluefirekin-aria]

I'm an adult who is on the spectrum, and I found school (both primary school and high school) unbearable because of my autism. Unless the school system caters for children on the spectrum, the schooling system can be very, very traumatic for those of us with Autism. You know Joseph best, and you know what he needs. Keep in mind too, that very often kids with ASD are gifted. He will excel under your loving care.

[@saraboyle6959]

You are absolutely doing the right thing. I home educate our two youngest who have additional needs and not a day goes past where I regret taking them away from the system. In fact I regret ever putting any of my children through it but, as you said, you live and learn.

[@Hayley0412]

I completely agree and understand your decision, we all want what is best for our children! My eldest son is extremely intelligent he went through primary school and high school with fantastic grades, he went through university with fantastic results, my youngest is autistic and was diagnosed at age five he didn’t do well at school. The schools here have very small amount of children so he went to extra lessons to learn social skills and many other groups, he was constantly petrified, tearful, and so so upset everyday, the teachers were amazing! He started having panic attacks, depression and was carrying a sick bowl for the journey to school and would often cry and scream for me, it was horrendous, we gave it a very good try but I couldn’t stand to see my son going through emotions he didn’t understand ! CAMHS was great he had to start medication because he tried to hang himself in the garden with the rope from the swing set, he was eight years old, he also believed he could fly so jumping out of windows was also a really dangerous situation, we put locks on every window, he now know he can’t fly! I home schooled him and I got my beautiful boy back. We did study maths, English, science but we also learned sign language and Italian, i was amazed how quickly he grasped it. He is now twenty four he wrote his first book at fourteen and has since written two other books! The museum’s are free for children in wales so we went to study all the museums that were relevant to the history lessons we were covering! We also went on a two day holiday to Tenby, we had so much fun, we have always had a fantastic bond and we still do now he lives at home and I am not sure when he will move out and I always tell him that one day he will be ready and I will be there encouraging and helping him on the next stage of his life, I would love to get him a trained dog but the waiting time is very very long! I am so glad and happy that you have made this decision and I know you will be a fantastic teacher because you are a fantastic mother! ❤❤❤

[@Allie-Eliza]

Joseph looks like he has been thriving in recent times. I know we don’t see the most difficult moments, but he looks happy and is well-supported at home. He's a lucky boy to have a big family who clearly adore him, and who he can play with. I think you've made the right decision. And as you said, it can be reviewed at a later stage if his needs change. You're doing a wonderful job. He's a great little boy.

[@Karen-Rattle]

I think you are doing what you feel is right for your children. And that is what is important. My daughter is autistic and struggled through school and people kept giving me advice, with good intention, to stop protecting her or to let her just put up with things. Which I did and it almost broke her. As parents of neuro divergent children no one has any idea of how you adapt so many things in everyday life to ensure they just get through the day okay. I wish i was in a position to consider at home schooling. It is the right choice for many children and no the cop out society can lead us to believe x well done and keep with your conviction

[@valc2313]

Interesting to hear people mention social isolation when there are 14 people in the household. KZbin has also made a difference, Joseph is always interested and able to talk on camera. Always things happening for him at home. He will thrive with the people he knows best. Things aren't set in stone.

[@Andreaod73]

People outside his own household !!

[@jillhussey4623]

You dont need to justify your decision to anyone. Good on yous for making the correct decisions for your family x

[@EmilyKeene-i3q]

You are caring parents, I have had 2 son’s diagnosed ASD and with both had a 3 years to get them diagnosed and now my daughter has been on a waiting list for over year now for a assessment and a month before the summer holidays I chose to homeschool her because I tried for 2 years at secondary school it got so bad that she was self harming. She has been in such a better place now she hasn’t got the stress of being around lots of people all day. I’m so happy with home educating , and it’s not because I don’t want her to go it’s because she can’t cope. She is one of my 6 children and two of my children have degrees so it does work for some people x

[@shelleykaufman1550]

I left my position as a teacher in a primary school 20 years ago to homeschool my own children. I have zero regrets about that. I loved it and so did my children. I even homeschooled a friend's child. You are your child's first and best advocate and you must do what is best for them. Find other homeschooling families online so you can share ideas with them. There is so much support out there. Great job Ben and Zoe!

[@PinkLemonade2020]

@shelleykaufman1550 You were qualified to do it, though, that's the difference

[@woozul1]

@Madam-Arcati2013 you don't have to be a teacher or ex teacher to homeschool your child, it's all online now, how do you think kids got on during pandemic, how do you think children who stay to far from a school gets educated, and I'm sure ben and Zoe are not daft that they don't understand what it all entails. This has not been a over night decision on there part they have Been speaking about it on and off for a very long time, they know there child's limits to things , and I'm sure Joseph Is not that isolated, you don't know what he has in his life as to outside activities, we as viewers only get a snap shot into there lives we not there 24/7, and with such a large family he will never be alone and is always learning new things every day from his other siblings

[@juanitawalker4836]

I think your both doing a great thing here for your children. Home schooling is the best way for some kids. Joseph will do great at home with ya both. I have children with problems and kids just like Joseph (My Kid's & Grandkids). You're both doing a great job with all of your kids and what is best for each one of them. They are your children and you both know what is best for them... Love ya both and love how you're raising your children. They will all do great in life with the guidance and teaching for both of you. 💖💖💖

[@aidenalamo6262]

I would do homeschooling of any child of mine (if I were a parent), if I were highly skilled in time management, organizational etc to accomplish school work online through an online school. My child would probably have a volunteer IEP (Interpersonal Educational Plan) with their teachers because their needs won't get met with thirty students in a classroom with one teacher and a paraeducator.

[@Victoria-i8i]

Good evening Sullivan Family, There is a vlog I watch on you tube other than your channel. Its called Life of the Baldwins, really great family, they too are doing the same for their youngest daughter. As Shelley Kaufman pointed out reach out to other homeschooling families. Kayleigh Baldwin will be homeschooling her daughter Sienna. Maybe reach out to her for ideas. I love watching your vlogs as well as hers. My kids have a little cousin whom is autistic and some days she has good days and other days she has her moments. We try to adjust to her needs and well being. However you go about educating your children is your choice. I feel its great that you allow them to decide weather its better to educate from home or school. All in all best of luck in their future endeavors. Erin did a wonderful job with the introduction. Erin, Leah, Joseph, Agnes and Baby Florence did a great job. It was great to hear from each one what they loved best about their summer. Have a great week and hope they enjoy their new school this week.

[@juliethompson9196]

💯 think that you have made the right decision with Joseph I agree with you Zoe the system is broken and for those children with additional needs it is woefully inadequate. Big thumbs up from me ❤👍

[@clairehewick798]

I totally stand by ur decision too home school Joseph but what I don’t understand is why ur keeping little Florence out of nursery when the time is upon u 😢 I have watched ur vlogs for many years and where I realised Joseph had additional needs I don’t see that in Flo she seems like a bright clever smart little girl who will flourish in nursery good luck on home schooling education for ur boy I really hope he settles into a good place and learns at his own pace without meltdowns 😭😭 my nephew is 14 and he is autistic but my sister fought the school and he has a one too one teaching assistant and that started aged 7 he didn’t go school before then but now he loves it he’s in mainstream school as well he gets taxis too and from school for him and a couple other kids on the spectrum he don’t do exams in the halls with other kids his age he goes too a special room within the school he’s now going into year 10 in September his final 2 years of school and he wants to be a vet when he leaves a teaching assistant with 1:1 with him as really helped but my nephew is also deaf and wears aids so he finds it a little more challenging good luck Ben and Zoe xx

[@PennyLane64]

Nursery isnt compulsive, when my lad started reception only half the kids had been nursery xx👩🏻‍🦰

[@woozul1]

I'm glad you both have come to a decision, if its best for him and yourself then that's OK, with a grandson who is autistic and non verbal it's hard to get anywhere with tests and the systems, in the meanwhile it's the child in question that's not getting any benefits or help and it's not fair at all, so while Joseph is fit healthy and is thriving within the family environment I don't see what the problem is, and why as parents should you make your child distressed and upset everyday because of the system that don't work for kids that needs additional needs, kids life and society has changed so much since years ago when we and our children went to school, so it needs up dating seriously

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

It really does 🥰

[@violethirst7498]

If he struggling with holding the pencil you need to strenghten his grip and the best way to do this is playdough. If he likes the texture. We do it everyday with my lo and his grip has improved so much. I belive is an essicanal pre writing skill. Hope it helps 😊.

[@LorraineSowiak]

I know a few families that do home schooling and there children are thriving. I know you will make great teachers for your children. Hugs 👋 🫂 and love ❤️

[@amyschneidhorst1384]

I had the opportunity to substitute in special needs settings and often felt out of my depth and grateful for the licensed, seasoned teachers who had worked with the students throughout the year and had techniques at their finger tips...And even then often there was no answer other than to wait it out. You are doing so well, your love care and attention is apparent.

[@janicewoolum4374]

They need way smaller classes than they have. ❤

[@sandrachapman1977]

I hope this homeschooling is a personal choice and not an excuse for youtube content.

[@vivstevens9525]

I believe that you have made the right decision. I have watched a friend’s child flourish since she has been homeschooled.

[@afoster2629]

You know your babies. Learning is everywhere, not just a room with only their age peers.

[@rebeccatetley4539]

You are amazibg parents and you know your ckilren. Joseph had come on so much since I started following you. School didn't do me any favours so understand compketely. One size doesn't fit all. Sending hugs. Love you all. ❤❤❤

[@lesleyrowdon9829]

Well done to you both,you are so doing the right thing. You do what is the right thing for dear little Joseph. X

[@tracy-oz4vw]

actually you have both made the right decision. the schools have changed. when my children were at school it was great and mine left with great education and have gone onto be successful. but my friend whos children are small and suffer with medical stuff the schools cant cope. people will say your both wrong and children need schooling but i dont agree your his mum and dad and you both know what is right for them. stay strong and im sure you have faith in what you do xx

[@rachelsimpson1149]

You and Zoe both know Joseph better than anyone and know what the right decision is for Joseph ❤️❤️ ignore everyone else who thinks they know better xxx

[@janicerichardson4878]

You know him best, respect for being brave.

[@karinhritz9381]

You absolutely do whatever is best for your children. I was a special education teacher in the US. My students thrived with routine. If there was going to be a change I would start with reminders etc first thing in the morning. You might want to use a picture schedule to help with change. For instance, put individual pictures on magnets so you can change up the sequence. Examples: breakfast, dressing, bath etc.

[@WelshGirl-d5x]

Hi am training to be a special needs teacher it's very hard but I love it

[@janetdwyer1867]

I glad with your decision with Joseph. My son tried to school with his autism it didn’t work,the teacher got in trouble for pitching his cheeks.i was mad.i home school it work. When he has a meltdown I as his mother knows how to hold him to stop it.ben and Zoe you are amazing ❤

[@deirdredoherty2645]

Totally agree with you both. Ben you nailed the point about routine. Its vital. Home school will be more work for you bpth but you will have a happier child. Your his parents. Do whats best. All the best.

[@denisetrigg4216]

You're doing the best thing for him. That's all that matters . You're navigating a new word through his eyes .I feel for you .sending you and your family lots of love ❤️

[@Homeschooling_mum]

Welcome to the homeschool world!! It's crazy but fun! X

[@carlaaitken9424]

This may assist Joseph in communication. Look up PECS Does PECS lead to speech? The research, specifically including gold-standard Randomized Control Trial (RCT) studies, shows not only the effectiveness of the PECS protocol for communication development, but also socially-significant gains in related areas such as speech development.

[@claireharris3131]

Thanks for sharing your video - for being so honest and real :- . Good luck to the kiddies for their new school.

[@16CENTS561]

You do whatever is best for each your children!❤❤❤ I've walked in those shoe's, some kids in school some homescuat different times fo various reasons. Look for support within your homeschool community. Every child has different needs at different times

[@meganstewart9062]

My son is 11 now and he has autism and it took 3 years to get him in a special educational school. Mainstream schools 9 × out of 10 can not cope with sen kids full stop and the it's a broken system but at the end of the day us a parents have to make the choice for the child and the family and I love watching your chanel keep positive and it will all work out let's hope fingers crossed good luck.

[@peggymcaliney210]

Hi Zoe An Ben I watch a few UK KZbin family’s An none of their kids go to school they are all home schooled . Here in Australia parents get paid to home school their kids they get a payment at the beginning of the year love from Sydney Australia 🇦🇺 xxx

[@francisraffle2948]

You are both great parents when my son was at school the first school he was jn he is left handed and he told me years after the teacher put him jn the corridor to do his lessons cos he was left handed so j moved him to a new school cos he was 8 and had a reading age of 5 at the new school he came on going to a special teacher for reading and writing he soon caught up with his class mates I laughed he said when he was leaving juniors to go high school he didn't want to change schools .he's a man now with 3 grown up kids .I think your doing the right thing with Joseph he's got his routine and is learning all the time .oh cookery at our high school is ons big joke they have 2 lessons to bake to prepare snd bake many a time when the youngest grandson came home he sajd what jve made needs going jn the oven to finish off cooking he used to take say a packet of roll out pastry and a tin of fruit to make a pie I went to school in the mid 60s to senior school and we had all afternoon to bake and every week we had to say take flour jn and butter castor sugar and jam to make a sandwich cake and money in to buy the eggs and then do writing and get the recipe for the week after .so I see where you are both coming from how are kids going to learn to cook with ready made ingredients. I was always with my mum baking shopping washing and mum taught me to bake and to cook I made a full meal for the family when I was 11 cos mum worked til 12 on a Saturday she used to dish the dinner out when she got home about 25 past 12 and my brother or one of them made a pot of tea and poured mum a cuppa out when she was coming up the path love to you all ❤xxxx ❤fran❤❤❤

[@janicewoolum4374]

Well done, kids, amazing into the vlog today. Seems like they all pretty much enjoyed the same places and activities ❤. For next year, I wish you all the best to be able to take a week or so vacation to see someplace new or to your home town.😊 Best decision at this time for Joseph. I know the younger kids learn a lot from the older sisters and brothers as well. Everything will come together once you both have your school schedule at home for Jojo. Team Sullivan Schooling.

[@gemmanicholson6102]

For Joseph’s writting you get special grippers to put on the bottom of pencils to help his hold the pencil. My daughter was the same she has autism but now she is an amazing artist and her drawings are mind blowing x

[@lenasullivan1134]

Well done on deciding what’s best for Joseph and not listening to other people. I have a 11 year old who is autistic. 😊

[@JANSFAMBAM7]

I completely understand Zoe & Ben. My Godson have Autism an you have to do what is best for your son! You are great Parents

[@colleentownrow9675]

Oreo making his appearance and the children doing the intro. I think you both have made the right decision on Joseph and also little Flo. Take care all from Norfolk

[@lgj.twin.2468]

I think that is the best decision right now for him. I think tou learn more anyway from the oitdoors and being with family.The only thing i would suggest is maybe a club or something like were he goes on a certain day maybe with the other kids.

[@Jessie_Jenkins]

Parent's know their children better than anyone and you are the primary responsible adults in their lives and the decision to home school rests entirely with the parents. I know nothing about home schooling but wish you all the best in it.

[@jaynepreston1737]

You two are amazing I think you will do an amazing job home schooling x

[@wesleemoore7463]

He Learns Things Threw you all My Grandson 14 School said can't do anymore in early He Reads now Draws Does Computer Readss Never Give Up The Hole Family helps and it's a Pleasure he's a Genius in my Eyes Loving Kind a Blessing Many things he complains about doing at he's age but he Figures it out and it's done Parents Comunication and it's constant is a Wonderful thing oh my I could go on my Grandson is amazing Human ❤

[@daniellagolebiowska4414]

Loved the children started the vlog off 🫶🏻 Pros 🌟 The live was great as always 🥰 Florence was very vocal bless her 💖 Her speech is so clear 😮 Well done to you both Zoe and Ben 💖💙 I know it’s not a easy decision to make at all 😔 You are making the best decision for Joseph 🩵 His progression is amazing 🤩 You don’t want him to go back but to thrive 😍 Your fantastic parenting it’s a reflection on how well your children are doing 👏 The education system has really changed 🤦🏻‍♀️ I work in eduction so I know 😔 It’s not easy at all. I have a son with individual needs and I’m going through the process for a ehcp. It’s very draining and emotional 🥹 Us as parents try our best to meet their individual needs and support them. I’ve learnt giving them time and patience is key 👍 Proud of you both 💖💙 My son keeps it together at school which is called ‘masking’. He gets home and that’s it, explosion of emotions and very tired 😢 Always here for support 🫶🏻 Ahh bless Florence 😂 “Mummy, what’s happened, it broken, coming it broken”. That is just the cutest 💖 Yummy sweets 🍬 perfect at the beach 🏖️ The sea 🌊 looks amazing 🤩 So tranquil and relaxing 🫶🏻 Thank you for sharing 😘

[@karenentwistle6635]

Wow don't know watch twin was doing asking she was brilliant, same Angus just wanted to take over this is in a nice way maybe just have a word with her , would have liked it to carry on more , she was really good at asking children what they liked about there holiday , she was so grown up , bless Jo Jo , just got a little mixed up and how to explain things , same you came out , 👍👊😘x

[@dianekeep2688]

You know your children better than anybody else so I think you must do what you think is best for your children xx your children are wonderful and very loving and caring which are vital attributes for us all ❤ I think you have made the right decision for now xx

[@Just-a-normal-human-2014]

Best decision you'll ever make. Totally agree with all that you say about the current education system. I also home educate. I had recent contact with my local authority home education team by way of a home visit. Even they were on board with my opinion of the current system. My son's are diagnosed with autism and definitely to not fit into the 'one box fits all' way of learning. Just to add the best advice and support you will receive is from other parents who get it. Many professionals have done all the studies but nothing can give you more knowledge than living this life day in day out. Since our day of diagnosis we have not had any more interaction with the paediatrician. In fact her words to us as we left her room with a handful of leaflets was 'im basically throwing you out to the lions now. Everything is a fight and it all falls on you". She was saying it as it is and totally speaking the truth. We are their parents and will always be their biggest advocates. Happy home edding guys x

[@ann-mariesadler8812]

Do you know what. I think that is the best decision for them. I really believe they will get so much more out of learning at home. There is one thing I've realised as my children now aged 24 and 21 is that school learning is not necessarily life learning and how to apply it daily. Maths, for one example, is not necessarily taught about how to deal with everyday money management etc. xx

[@emmatrainor2471]

great decision. wish I had home educated my three kids, two have autism.school was a disaster for all three of them.also no support after autism diagnosis.however you are the parents so you know your kids better than any expert! just go with the flow,dont stress about what others think.

[@andreagreer6744]

Good for you. You're very brave but you know what your children need. I concidered it when my girls were younger but it was'nt common. I hope everything goes well for you. Xx

[@Cornishwildflower28]

Well done for making the decision. We took my son out last year due to lack of support for his needs , he is autistic and adhd. I have no plans to send my daughter either unless she wants to or shows she’s ready. ❤

[@lh3003]

Parents know their child's needs the best. I have home educated my children from the beginning and we feel so blessed. I would suggest with Joseph at his age short lessons of reading and math. Then the rest just explore nature, read well written books and talk about what you have learnt.

[@inaconway7144]

Great vlog Zoe and Ben. Great decision, your children your decision, no one know Joseph as you do and at the end of the day Joseph needs to be comfortable and not feel stressed on a daily basis. I think he is amazing little boy and he will learn from ye all. Love to all the beautiful Sullivans.

[@jannellepietila134]

It's the same in Canada

[@roseiames3931]

Hello Ben Zoe , all I can say is your great parents , and you know your children the best , your decisions our your only , lovley vlog thank you for sharing ❤

[@elaineanderson7960]

As you say . ..you know Joseph best. And if Flo wants school or you think she needs it you can decide then.I think she is looking at being quite smart already lol ❤

[@tracyd3022]

Hi guys, at the end of the day it’s totally your decision if Joseph goes to school just now and only you know, as his parents, when and if he will be ready. Thankfully there are options these days. Ben quite rightly has said many times, children can learn so much from being outdoors, exploring and learning about nature. Hope you enjoy the last few days of the summer holidays ❤

[@WelshLady-j9n]

am training to be a special teacher it takes 4 years

[@nancycunningham6303]

My daughter is 30 on Saturday, she still has not been diagnosed. She is 100% autistic but they would never diagnose her because she also has severe and complex learning difficulties, she is non verbal and uses makaton. She needs helps toileting/showering etc and will always need 24hr care

[@Grannyof7]

Have to say that I agree with your decision not to send Joseph to school. My 11 year old granddaughter is autistic, (newly diagnosed after waiting for one year), and most of her outbursts start when they are going out the door to go to school. I think that no-one knows their kids better than their parents and you would only worry yourself sick, hoping that Joseph is ok and settling. As a mum/gran I can see how sensitive Joseph is and he clearly loves being with his mum and dad and siblings, because they understand him, a class room with around 30 pupils is imho not the place for him to be. He needs to be with those who know and love him. He comes first, not the school. My grandaughter starts secondary school this week and we are all a bit concerned as how she is going to be. Just a wee quick note to add that I took my son and daughter out of secondary a lot earlier than I should have but bullies are not dealt with so I dealt with the problem by taking my kids out of the school. Both my older two grandkids were taken out of the very same school for the same reasons all those years apart..so some things never change! I hope that Toby and the girls get on well in their new school but I think that Toby might be your next child to be home schooled, only because we know he wasn't happy so maybe the move will be the making of him, I hope he gets on ok xxMy youngest 3 grandsons will go to nursery but will be home schooled..xx

[@louiseheald9480]

HI SULLIVAN i agree with you ben and zoe i think you made the right discusion homeschooling joseph he will learn more at home then at school you both say it they go to school or not dont listen to others end of the day they are your children you just want what best for them every thing on your vlog agree with well i look forward in seeing more videos

[@elizabethwittig3930]

Well done mum and dad, dont make the child fit the system find what fits the child. He will learn from you and his siblings by living life.

[@PennyLane64]

Well worded xx👩🏻‍🦰

[@DiBirch-s2w]

You and Ben make decisions for your children no one else need add comments. You know your childrens needs no one else can understand. My daughter s having same problem atm with her 6 Yr old son no seems to want to help her no ones listening no resources or wait month s for appointments and get no where horrendous worse like you said since covid. BLESS YOU ALL ❤❤❤❤

[@PennyLane64]

Bless you xx any nasty comments are being removed, i agree no one knows their kids aswell as Ben and Zoe xx👩🏻‍🦰

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

Aww thank you so much 🥰

[@tinaquarrell7779]

It’s your decision nobody else’s I home educated my youngest for 2 years if I had known about it before then, I would of home educated all my six children, with home ed you can be as flexible as you like, unlike school, I agree with you about not all children are academic and would thrive better if they weren’t in school, also the system is definitely broken x

[@lauramawhinney5321]

Well done guys it’s a big decision to make ! You know your children best . Maybe in the future if yous get more help within the system maybe he could attend a special needs school . I was in the same position with my son had to fight for a year to get him into a special school he’s now with 5 other kids so it’s nice and small and he can cope with that and he loves it . Good luck guys you will do fab ❤

[@dianehackett4197]

Oh Zoe n Ben I’m so so pleased that Joseph isn’t going to school, you have both tort him so much over the years n he has changed so much ❤ I believe if he went to school I believe it would bring him back to how he was a few years ago. Well done the sulivans for standing up for your family😊❤😊 I hope this comment comes accross as positive from me to you all ❤

[@sharronbunney355]

he will befit from being at home as he will have 1to1 with both of you for a lot of thing love your family you do them proud xx

[@carlaaitken9424]

Absolutely you know your children best and have to make those decisions that best suits your children. Autism is Josephs super power. He looks at the world differently. He learns at a different rate. When children are in school that live with autism. It can certainly put him in a box and those ideas of how people see him.can follow him negatively, follow him all his life. Joseph is a blessing to this world. I have worked with children and adults that live with autism. I say he lives wirh autism rather than he suffers from autism as then it implies there is something "wrong" with people who live wirh autism. It is hard at times for him to express his emotions and feelings into words. So, he has those hard days he shuts down . I wanted to tell you. People who live with autism do say tbat certain smells or textures of clothes can make their skin crawl . Often 100 cotton clothes can help assist in not being agitated. Also, food dyes can really affect children. Such as in coke there is carmel that makes children react emotionally to certain foods. It is like a allergic reaction sort to speak. So, spirte or seven up can be a better option. Also, children that live with autism can havd compouding issues such as depression etc. Joseph is very smart and dont let anyone tell you differently. He juat sees the world different and communicates differently and had challenges. I know with sime children one can make up a communication board or in the frisge and if he is having a hard time expressing himself he can use words or facial expressions and give that picture or word that he is feeling. It is called PECS it may assist him in communication. People must remember it is hard to be in his body at times when he canmot exoress himself like others. Akso, if you can predict for him and say if he is doing an activity. Say when the bell rings it is time go to bed. This might assist Josheph on being warned there will be a change of activity

[@PennyLane64]

Great ideas 👏👏xx👩🏻‍🦰

[@1braiden]

Good for you,i have just deregistered my 11 year old in july,. I sent him to primary school from age 4-11 so 6 years, i'm still on the list for him to be assessed for autism and adhd,he has always struggled and sen always said to me he is fine no problems there were and everyone else could see it but not them,he improved so much during lockdown from then on i thought about it more,he then went back to school but went back to struggling, never liked school kept himself to himself would always say he didn't want to go(i then decided that him leaving primary was best for him), he now asks when can he start home ed as he now wants to learn, he is happier in himself now that school pressure is off him and maybe somewhere down the line he may go back but i don't think he will and that's ok its what best for him now it just took me time to figure out that i could do this for my son.

[@Legonia26]

You should follow what's best for your children. People who have a negative opinion, should not say anything as it has got nothing to do with them. My grandson is autistic and I don't even know what the future will be like for him. I am a teacher btw and if parents want to home school, then good on you. ❤

[@TheSullivanFamilyScotland]

Aww thank you 🥰

[@sheilatooker3010]

❤ absolutely lov3 watching you and your beautiful family 🎉❤❤❤❤

[@Catologs]

Your Summer has been so much like our Winter so far we have just about matched in temperature wind and rain. August is normally Victor Harbour and Goolwa coldest month.

[@janechestney4425]

Have home school children got to take GCSE or Scottish equivalent when they reach 16? I was led to believe they have to but may be wrong. If you home school are there regulations/curriculum you have to follow? I am curious about this if anyone can answer? Ok with little ones but wouldn’t fancy trying to teach teenagers maths or science my worst subjects at school!

[@debraeskins2039]

Wished you'd have the chats to us on screen without the washing machine going in the back ground , totally agree with you on school system for students who struggle within main stream

[@living_for_the_holidays4110]

Personally if you home school from the start then it’s a commitment till 16 years old. As someone who was homeschooled and introduced to school later on it was the hardest thing ever. It never works in my opinion.

[@dawnysdennumber10]

Education should fit the child. Not the child to fit the education. As parents, you know best x