Housework Ramble! Adulting is Tough Stuff!

[@leenaparsons5178]

There's something about your voice and the way you speak really firmly but compassionately that sort of perks me up and makes me feel like I can be healthier.

[@annhoughton3090]

All high school seniors should be shown this video. Then it should be revisited every 5 years or so. I'm a lot older than you, Kelly-Ann but I needed to hear this. It's fabulous and I'm going to pass it on. Thanks for sharing your wisdom and insights.

[@lynns4001]

Head in the Clouds - I have heard that all my life! I have been judged harshly and unfairly. I am in my 60's and I am worn out from being judged. Your video ramble was perfect - I needed to hear this. Thank you and Blessed Be.

[@the_frugal_artist]

Yeees! You should get a cookie! That's a form of gratitude for yourself. I cried a bit watching this, but I thank you for sharing your knowledge. It has helped open the door to things that I need to address.

[@earthsky2336]

Kohl Adonis love this, totally agree!!😹😭🌺💕

[@Spudinja]

"Your place is out in the storm." This was very powerful for me and it's something I really need to meditate on. Thank you for your beautiful words and your light. Never stop shining.

[@kelliknackmuhs2546]

Your insights are amazing. This "ramble" caught me at an interesting place in my journey. Finding the strength to speak when you have been told that you are wrong or weak is one of the hardest things to accomplish. And realizing, that others cannot and sometimes WILL NOT see the world, or a situation as you do, even when they love you, is hard. Thanks for the " mental food" today.

[@mckohtz]

I was tested when I was a child for hearing issues because I wouldn't hear my mother calling me. My hearing was perfectly normal. I was away with the fairies, or in the world of my own, my head in the clouds, they said. I am still like this as a 40 something year old mother of teenagers. I need to go to my own world sometimes for my own mental health. Then I can come back and be a better mother. This is a form of self love. This is putting my air mask on, before helping others.

[@abitterwind]

This is EXACTLY what I needed. goddamn divine timing

[@royalwayte]

Same!! :)

[@inkandflame]

Spot on, Kelly. Loved this ramble and listened to a lot of it with my 17yo daughter. :) I bought into the role of trying to be the perfect mom for too many years, homeschooled my kids for ten years, and avoided my life-long dream and passion to write. I finally reached my breaking point, and while I'm still here for my family, I otherwise extracted myself from outside relationships and commitments that didn't serve the real me (mainly, the church). It was so hard to do that but absolutely necessary to thrive. Finding tarot has helped tremendously. I immediately bonded with the Magician and the Wands suit because I'd starved myself of that manifesting energy. I've now written two novels and have a literary agent who will try to sell the second to publishers. I'm finally doing justice to the creative flame the Divine put in me all along. And oh man, I've got those "could do in a day" tasks that have been dogging me for years. Good thoughts. Thanks for all you do!

[@headologythewitch2591]

Your metaphor of "dedication to the theatrical production" was perfection. I think it really speaks to the fact that by going off-script we're often throwing a wrench in others' ability to recite their own lines and play their roles as they've prepared themselves to. As though one of our responsibilities is to provides others their cues. Truly excellent video.

[@TheStitchinWitch]

When you talked about leaving a garden with soft blanket, faery lights, books and hot chocolate and going into a storm with sideways rain to do what you know needs to be done, that is EXACTLY what I feel like when I start on a journey that The Morrigan has set before me. Yes. Sometimes, self-love looks like you are cruising for an emotional bruising.

[@radiantchristina]

yesssss...it is total bullshit that we shouldn't all be praised for every day adulting. It is so hard some times to get it all done - work full time, shop for food , cook all the meals, watch my budget, pay my bills, do the laundry- there are people that get paid to do that all so if i can work full time and still do all the other adult responsibilities AND still make time for some fun and hobbies...people better damn stand up and clap for me- and for others who do the same.

[@Yarrowen]

I love this particular ramble. I have come back and listened to it multiple times. Adulting is SO hard, and I definitaly can't fake it any more, so thank you for sharing some of the hard truths about it.

[@brittanysteffens7239]

Totally love watching! Love what you have to say. I HATE adulting. It's so overwhelming. And no one taught us about it school. Needed to hear this today for sure! Thanks!

[@watcherwriter]

I know this video is from two years ago, but I found it today...because I needed it today! What you said about throwing down the script and refusing to keep reading your lines, even if that makes the people running the theatrical production mad? I am mindblown in the best possible way. Thank you!

[@erytheiamedea6637]

Yes, honestly! You put into words feelings that I've been having for the longest. Being an adult, taking on adult responsibilities, ESPECIALLY when you did not have an adult to show you how to do them, to play at the game of life in the correct ways, all while wasting your life and time and money in schooling institutions that ULTIMATELY taught you nothing is a huge deal! Everyone just expects you to adult and adult well, but in reality it is hard and often a rough road to travel without a proper guide. I remember the first time I payed my loan bill, I felt proud because I did it and I did it on time, I told my mom and she just gave me this annoyed look and brushed it off. People should start to pat themselves on the back, as you said, when they do something or confront something either externally or internally. 3 cheers for adulting! 3 cheers for taking on the mess!

[@TheDaddyVampBabyVampChannel]

And...I had my kids (16 year old son) listen to this as well while he did dishes-because the perspectives you share are motivating and real and he laughed as well! Thank you for making this!

[@leighcarver6826]

Oh woman the goddess is working through you with this one. I am literally in tears right now. Thank you thank you thank you. Blessed be.

[@TheSeaMamba]

I love these housework rambles, nothing like some good old productivity and dicussion time :) I especially like what you said about adulting not being synonomous with letting go of the inner child. Adulting really becomes this area of stress for me because I have so far felt like I had to choose between being this upstanding, flawless adult or satisfying my child self with no middle ground option between them. I am realising now that I can bring the inner child along on my adulting journey instead of completely surpressing them. I agree that it is so important to pat ourselves on the back for those mini victories, particularly if you are someone dealing with mental health troubles. Society does not have to be responsible for giving us the gold star via instagram or FB, we have to give it to ourselves. :)

[@theresaj8356]

It must be fucking amazing to be a personal friend of yours. You're so down to earth, genuine and intelligent in such a relatable way. 👑

[@rosemarybarria509]

Oh yes this is so good! Thank you ❤️❤️❤️ I got judged for not having kids then I had one and get judged more 🤷🏻‍♀️Women get judged for whatever so we have to keep ourselves happy! I have become one “selfish” person since I had my son. I am inspired to be an example for him. I want above all else for him to feel free and authentically him. So that keeps me going. I would never ever want him to be dragging along unhappy. My happiness is my inspiration for him.

[@rosemarybarria509]

And ugh you gave me tears woman!

[@ivythorne4236]

Thank you so much for always presenting such a well rounded perspective on the specific issues you present- as far as things like being discerningly gentle with oneself and one's self love needs, while also guiding oneself to be realistic about "adulting" that needs to be dealt with in the grand self-love scheme. Kick ass, as usual.

[@daphnedelorsca]

This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I fall a bit into both camps-there are some areas of my life where I'm not good at adulting and give myself an incredibly hard time over it, and some areas where I know I can do what I need to do, but am putting it off because of fear. And I know that those areas of my life feed into each other and make each side even more difficult. Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's so helpful to hear what I know I need to hear but from someone who isn't me (and therefore isn't engaged in the guilting that it's so easy to engage in when I'm talking to myself). I hope you're having a lovely weekend!

[@MargaretAnne27]

Praise Goddess!!!! This video is spot on, from the angels and guides, from your mouth to my ear!!! I totally needed this so very much. Thank you!! 💚💚💚

[@LippyWitch]

I was lucky because I chose to attendthe blind school in my area and they taught us independant living skills because we were already short on capabilities bc of our disabilities so I learned things either new things or different ways of doing things better that my fam taught me at the school. I also had a class at public school that was like home ec 2.0 that taught us how towrite checks and managing money, we even went to ikea on a field trip with a money management assignemnt. was oen of the gunnest ones ever did. they need these types of classes more regualrly.

[@jazzmeloove5203]

Hello! I really love this ramble! I wanted to let you know I periodically come back to it as a resource as a reminder that it’s okay to pat myself on the back and to recognize that “adulting” is hard but I am doing the best I can. Thankyouuu for this! I hope you do some more housework rambles soon!

[@Julis_Arkana]

I tend to watch these kitchen rambles twice😁 First time to fall asleep while listening to you and then again in the morning to see everything I’ve missed 😄 Great topic again 🙌🏼

[@raconteusetarot5852]

wow, I didn't realize how much I needed this video today. I'm really happy to hear someone else say that there is nothing wrong with being in my own universe most of the time. Even though I can actually get things done from my "imagination cloud" people always give me shit about being disconnected with reality, thanks for validating my insistence in staying "flighty".

[@milionersi]

And just when I needed it! But even more strange is the fact that I wasn't only one who got exactly what they want when they want it. Or... we all have problem being grownups and dealing with things we have to do. Anyway soooo helpful thank you Kelly Ann Maddox!

[@beanbaghagwag]

I had gotten so good at adulting. My issue was failing to let the young, playful, artistic parts of me out. It wasn't until I began my pagan path that I could let go of the fear of being judged or the fear of being told to act my age. My age and having a wonderful partner in my husband who encourages me to do what makes me happy helps as well. This is a wonderful video.

[@ladyamalthea85]

Here a long time after the video has been posted to say I managed to deal with some long avoided tasks, including one that made me cry and had a different outcome to what I expected. Thank you

[@tamipie]

Watched/listened to this in the a.m. with my daughter while I was doing dishes, and she was talking about her roommates and her financial issues with her boyfriend...she listened to you more than she does me, so thank you for that! now to face my own fears....

[@mixtresskatgranquist9898]

Oh Kelly-ann i watched this 3 times in a row .i have been fully struggling with the adulting . This baught a whole lot of light to my day.

[@ceridwenscauldron2799]

I love these housework rambles..thanks Kelly-Ann, so much xxx

[@dhesyca4471]

I really needed this today. Mental health is getting in my way...thank you for your compassion and help. Love.

[@unaeventisette2]

Soooo much wisdom, honesty, truth and inspiration

[@MedeaJaff]

Divine timing at work.. you mentioned everything that's been swirling round and round in my head.

[@QueenOfShovels]

i adore you and your down to earth, honest understanding, of every day tasks. thank you for this, perfect timing! we all need a Kelly-Ann Maddox in our lives! )O(

[@Xandara]

It's always nice when you're talking about exactly what I need to hear.

[@thadeusmorticaine4762]

This spoke to me so much. Thank you. This is just what I needed. I've been going through some inner difficulties recently. You're a star. Keep shining.

[@curiouskatsayshello4673]

I can not express to the full extent how much I needed to hear all of this. Thank you Kelly for your authenticity and rawness. This is all things I “know” in my head but hearing it out loud by a loving trust worthy person has touched me so deeply. I wish I had a friend like you in my daily to call up or drink a cup of tea with, to open my own proverbial letters with or take that terrifying trip to the dentist (seriously have been neglecting that daunting task as I need a whole new set of teeth from a pregnancy that reeked havoc on my dental health). Yet even alone, I feel empowered by your words and I’m looking forward to seeing the results of their impact after these tears dry of my blubbering face lol. My appreciation for your time and intimacy during this videos knows no bounds. Thank you again. Much much love to you and any one else who is struggling with these gritty issues. Xoxoxo

[@hildisvini_9622]

Listening while doing my hair and makeup for work, always a positive start to the day thankyou Kelly-Ann ! 💜

[@undines3979]

Preach it! Thanks for this, I listened to it at the right moment, I am infinitely grateful.

[@nolarastagoddessroyalty6935]

THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I be been judged so much with my parenting and because I desire to have a playful but healthy relationship with my children! Then iam told iam not good enough. You are so appreciated for your content and videos

[@SunandMoonCalendar]

This is very good. I'm glad someone has stepped up and declared, "Adulting is hard". Housework is hard. Budgeting, parenting, decision-making, work, career, the lot. I feel like I deserve a medal sometimes for what I pull off in a day! Then it's all on again the next day, sigh. This is a reassuring, kind and wise statement.

[@svetlanabarrow6026]

It is called LIFE!!! Wtf??

[@Miss_Lexisaurus]

This is my favourite rambles of yours to-date! You are always so wise but my god did every second of this video hit home! I need you saying "you're going to show yourself that you can do this" to play at random throughout the day! I am the *worst* at putting off basically everything that allows me an opportunity to fail (cos clearly that is the only possible outcome!).

[@leannakekai162]

Thank you, Kelly Ann! There is so much wisdom and encouragement here. Even though this video is almost a year old I come back to it when my adventures in adulting get a bit much and I need a little pick me up.

[@lilpinkbear]

Holy shit! Just got to the bit where you say that you need planning BECAUSE you're not great with consensus reality and that you had to have your ears tested as a kid. I had the exact same thing happen to me! I was often called 'Dolly Daydream' and I could while away hours alone in my room very happily (not much has changed there). I love what you said about self love sometimes doing the tough stuff. I spoke about that in a video last week too. Eating the shit sandwich is sometimes good for you in the long term. Your analogy of breaking out of your cosy cottage into the raging storm is so spot on. Sometimes this is literal for me, when I know I need to walk the dog but I want to stay indoor with my book. My way through it was to buy a really good raincoat so I could handle the rain. It's helped loads!

[@AlineVerheyen]

Thank you soooo much for these very words. From the bottom of my heart.

[@parsimoniouspig]

Thank you so much for this. I've been struggling with this lately and it is very comforting to have these reminders

[@MickieMuellerStudio]

Girl. All of this. Head in the clouds...oh I was shamed for that horribly. And yes, adulting does give me anxiety. I’m working on it, working every day. Thank you so much.

[@elizabethstory3077]

Oh my Goddess! Thank you so much for this video. It spoke to my soul on many different levels. ❤️

[@julieb2398]

Thank you!! I really needed this right now! My to do list is so very long...and adulting is a real struggle! I feel like I have been adulting for about 53 years now. I wanna have my inner child time at 57! Blessings!

[@tarotmumma56]

My overall health and relationships have been sucky lately. I am finding “adulting” extremely difficult. I have two children so it feels like I have to be perfect at this but in reality I don’t have a bloody clue. I literally just want to grab a blanket and my crayons and crawl into a den and be left to my own devices to be me. No pressure to be an adult with these responsibilities and pressures.

[@Letha222]

Super interesting ramble. I like that you use the phrase “Duty Bound”. I’ve been journaling about how the words duty and obedience have fallen out of favor while self-actualization has become a common topic of discussion. I’ve been feeling irritated recently by a lack of clarity. I don’t want to struggle with questions of priorities. I just want to know the right thing to do in any given situation. But of course this struggle is part of the human condition. The push and pull of personal needs and outside obligations actually serves to keep us balanced most of the time. Some of us are more susceptible to breaking. I’ve broken a couple of times. But as bad as it was, I wouldn’t go back and change it if I could.

[@svetlanabarrow6026]

Words Duty and bond very soon will be back in fashion when you would have to sign your freedom off to the neo-feudal society that is coming up! And duty is very manipulative anyway. The only duty you should ever have to yourself.

[@theotakuwitch]

Wow, what a great motivational video!!! I needed this!!! I've shared it with my friends because I know they need to hear this. Thanks for putting it out there. I've had a phobia of the dentist too but I've been trying to take better care of myself so I'm glad I'm not alone.

[@anjibee1]

This was a goddess send! I've just started a new job and I've been struggling back and forth between anxiety and depression all week. It got so bad today that I had to take a day off. Thanks for this video! You really said some things that I needed to hear :)

[@svetlanabarrow6026]

Take a month off and if they will question sue them!

[@AB-xb2ph]

I just had a conversation with my bestie about adulting today : ) I love hearing your opinion on everything and I really enjoyed this. Thank you

[@kelly-annmaddox]

brooke robinson Ooh, we’re in sync! 👌🏻

[@KasiaJustMe]

You're so authentic and inspiring. Thank you! 😊

[@fionacorbett9536]

Thank you for this video it really helped with backing up the self love I'm trying to build after years of struggle! So glad I found your channel. 💚

[@christianberrian2159]

Wow. What a great message. Thank you so much, Kelly. So good to hear someone else say out loud all of the things I think to myself some times. It's also really great to know I'm not the only one who struggles with adulting and I don't mean just you, Kelly, but all of the other people who have left comments. Lol. I did the dentist thing too. I think another issue is most of us are creative people and abstract thinkers which can make it even tougher to deal with the grown up, responsible world, when we would rather look at pictures of Neptune for 3 days. In summary, I can't imagine Creator designed us to do adulting, but I suppose those who designed society did but that's a whole other discussion. thanks again, you made my day.

[@lesafowers8142]

Thank you so much for everything you said and I just love your pure honesty. Here's to being human. Much love and take care. You have really helping me today and that makes it a great day. Love you

[@autumnsomething6931]

Oh my gosh! I feel just the same. This video gave me hope, darling! Thank you!

[@raisinmonster1364]

I just LOVE these ramble videos! And your videos in general

[@dr_davidmd2065]

I watch this every day...Love it.

[@sedefhansoylucafé]

I bought a house in another city 3 years ago, new adventure but it didn't end up as I wished it to be. So I waited waited for nothing for 3 years, reminiscing over my hometown; Izmir, which on the western coast of Turkey and the most modern city in this country. I had been paying morgage and because I bought the house no money was ledt for me, I was so indecisive, on one hand I would have a house, an investment, on the other hand, I could not live my life fully, trying to make ends meet, so I sold the house while we were entering the new year 2018. Now I'm back in my hometown it feels home of course but I'm living on a rent so this kind of horrifies me, will I ever buy a house again...etc. And I'm scared to consume my money, having a car was my dream and I bopught one with the money I got from my house. I'm not sure if taking this risk was right or wrong...What do you think Kelly? Could you make a video on this? Not for me, a general video for everyone about taking risks in life. Thank you so much. I'm looking forward to your response.

[@FabricofTime]

Thank you! This was incredibly timely and exactly what i needed.

[@thehighpriestess8431]

This video is a beautiful gem. Sharing with my friends and acquaintances ! ... And yes, thank you!

[@lucyllm]

Wow, I really needed to hear this and didn't even know it. Thank you, Kelly-Ann.

[@julietholdren9006]

I love all these dream interpretations you mention in this vid!

[@michelledeclue]

YES!! I couldn't agree with you anymore. If anyone says you don't deserve to reward yourself with a cookie, scrapbooking, stickers, having fun or engaging your inner child with whatever feeds your soul & happiness, stop talking to them. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. That vegan omelette sounds amazing, I am totally jealous. Thank you for another amazing ramble. I love that I finished a few dishes & a workout while listening. Blessed be.

[@alexv411]

THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR BEING SEEN AND SPEAKING SO I FEEL MORE COMFORTABLE BEING SEEN AND SPEAKING💓 Thank you for this video so much😊

[@heatherfeather5531]

This. Shit. Right. Here. This is precisely why you are my go to reader/counselor. I fucking love you ‼️🖤‼️

[@sarahkay8436]

I like to play a game, I do the dishes I get to have a clean kitchen and sit outside with tea and pie or something... It's nice, positive reinforcement is a big big thing in my house.

[@morganbrannon8529]

I needed to hear this. Thank you!!!

[@CopicAddictedSara]

This video has been The Bomb!!! I needed to hear all this wonderful, insightful goodness today! I love these Housework Rambles as much as I love your SoundCloud Talks!!! It is nice to be able to get my own work done while enjoy your company!!! Thank You and Much Love!!!

[@dhesyca4471]

I really needed this pep talk... thank you

[@kadinzanga6919]

You have no idea how much I needed this video. I am in the process of taking a year off school, because I've been struggling with my mental heath. And it's difficult not to be hard on myself.

[@kelly-annmaddox]

Kadin Zanga I really hope that the year out gives you the breathing space that you need, honey.

[@dr_davidmd2065]

Simply outstanding.

[@Andrea-es3mu]

Hi KellyAnn! I'm new to your channel ...You r so intelligent and the things that you talk about r so real and so relevant to today's society. I wish ur videos were even longer! I just tune in and go about making dinner and tending to my evening and just listen to u talk!... Keep talking... we're listening and THANK YOU!... Florida Fan .)

[@purplesunflower8242]

Sent out into the world at 16, hadn't idea about where and how to register for an Nation Insurance Number !

[@svetlanabarrow6026]

I guess you don’t need to hear this then unlike some Fiona’s 🤣😂

[@creativecoffee1508]

Thanks for sharing this once again really helpful video.

[@jbates725]

What an excellent video!! And wonderfully thorough and clear, as always. These kitchen rambling videos of yours are my favorite. You surely make some lucky people the most awesome friend!

[@IsidoraSage]

You are an absolute gem! I love your housework videos.

[@Nimue1974]

Totally resonated so much 💖

[@danni8176]

You literally mentioned every fucking thing that givesme anxiety!!! I have to hold all adult shitty fears down to be strong and be a single mum!! It's fucking hard being a grown up!!! Love your videosxXxx

[@svetlanabarrow6026]

It is hard to be a single mum. Wish you luck.

[@BVeronica100]

This was awesome. Thank you!

[@emilyhall7810]

This was lovely to listen to. Thank you so much. Much love and many blessings.

[@cknightley5849]

Thank you 💚

[@tarotmumma56]

I’m only 3 minutes in and my gosh the timing for this is perfect. 👌🏻😃💕

[@tiny-yaga]

this ramble is 🔮💯🔮

[@wolfofcoins]

Thank you so much for this. I listened while painting a picture of a Slavic thunder god :)

[@EcoCurious]

Hey Kelly-Ann, just a note on the bottled water thing: repeatedly re-filling and re-using those types of plastic bottles can cause chemicals from the plastic to leech out into your water. An example of this is BPA (or Bisphenol-A), which some research has suggested can be quite harmful to health if consumed over a long time period. It might be more convenient to purchase a proper re-fillable water bottle which will be BPA free :)

[@sdshadrick]

thanks for this! I really needed that exact advice in this moment.

[@pluckyheroine9482]

At about 38.00 minutes in...You hit the nail on the head. I've had a couple of former friends who had to go when I realized that my friendship with them merely served as an Index by which they measured their success.

[@aryadler8776]

This is splendid. So, so helpful for me right now, you have no idea. Thank you

[@TheDaddyVampBabyVampChannel]

Loved your perspectives-they really took me somewhere-to a place where I laughed because I’ve done the exact same thing myself. Know I should be scheduling family check ups and sorting out other things, but I’d rather shuffle the tarot cards and sip tea and chill with my soulmate because it feels sooooo warm and fuzzy-but I need to get out in the rainstorm and show myself what I’m fucking made of! 🖤

[@michaelwantstotalkwilson6353]

Thank you Kelly-Ann

[@jabmoon3014]

Never in my life have I related to a video so much, I needed to hear this, thank you lol

[@jewelb9433]

Thanks for the amazing video. I will definitely share this one 😍