How a Cheater Thinks | Kevin Gates Helpline

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On today’s episode - getting over your ex, supporting your partner in prison, and how to spot red flags.
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[@breakdownbyben]

That first one - Kevin spoke nothing but facts. Don't get into another relationship, if you not over your Ex

[@devonwebster7995]

Lol idk man he said keep trying on shoes 😂

[@nawal10]

Yup. People need to slow down from relationships and jumping from 1 to another. Take time to discover yourself more and reflect.

[@stephaniemitchell991]

Over it

[@mcleo9935]

Breakdown true /allow yourself to heal

[@mcleo9935]

@@nawal10 love yourself first /and heal

[@Orbit_Revolver]

Kevin Gates needs to start his own podcast.

[@kenishahammond3935]

Period!

[@liquidparallax2034]

Seriously....FR tho. I'd watch it on tha regular

[@littlenickydiablo8543]

This IS his own podcast. 💯

[@YodaDerrell]

Agreed

[@ceedott_prod]

Stg lol id tap in everyday

[@SweetUniverse]

My dad always cheated on my mother. He was a "serial cheater." My mother was beautiful - movie star beautiful, but she was s/ assaulted when she was a teenager. From some of the things she said to me, she didn't want to see a therapist about it or deal with how she felt about men. My dad didn't want to go to couples counseling, either. That's a recipe for disaster. I think he wanted something better, but he loved my mother, too & wouldn't divorce her. There really seemed to be no solution to their problem except counseling & my mother wouldn't go.

[@dropelaves]

Those are many levels of fucked up. I'm sorry about that, must have been hard on you too. Wish you all the best

[@nawal10]

He wanted better? Sounds like your mom was already top notch. Perhaps he felt he's not good enough for her. He slept around with lesser women to compensate. Not lesser as fewer but lesser than your mom in value.

[@realSimoneCherie]

I hope this is your adult self speaking because i'd be a shame if you had this much insight as a child. I really think parents f kids up when they share their marital problems w/ kids. Kids should be preotected from that. I was a teenager before I put pieces together, my parents sheltered me from their addiction, infidelity and flaws, generally. I think the reason I'm a confident adult is because as a kid while my self-image was forming, I believed I was from a functional home, and I was just as normal as anyone else.

[@lulanana9008]

Sounds like he was a narcissistic abuser who gaslit your poor mother and convinced you to believe she was the problem. Did you not realize in this whole thing you didnt once say she did anything wrong yet pointed out your dad was a serial cheater? Should be a wake up call . Your mother deserves that much.

[@piratediaries572]

“The one that you THINK got away” Was a good bar. Helped me a lot with that one line.

[@SexyxSeds]

Wow I usually hate this kinda stuff but the energy and respect given by these two gentlemen is honestly great to see, legit chill vibes and very entertaining to watch/listen to, keep it up

[@iBalloonsAndMore]

Haha, same! :D

[@iPhone-rg1of]

What stuff?

[@B78p1neus]

"keep trying on shoes and youll find a pair that fit" bruh thank you for that. needed to hear that today

[@s0ulstar762]

We need a hour long episode

[@mobetta99]

"you thought she was the one that got away, what you had was a beautiful distraction!" that hit different..

[@gl3913]

I have learned that when it comes to cheating, whether it is the man or a woman who is the cheater, that they are doing it not because their spouse or romantic partner is lacking in the relation ship in any way, the person who is the cheater is the one who is lacking in the relationship. And the truth is that the cheater will never find what they are looking for as long as they continue to chase a fantasy instead of facing the reality of their lives.

[@fahqgoogle5941]

Good breakdown. Described my ex completely and i always wondered why she cheated on me cuz everything was perfect.. those ppl can never ever change imo

[@BuckingHorse-Bull]

it can both. Cheating doesn't happen from only one side of the relationship

[@gl3913]

@@BuckingHorse-Bull In some relationships, cheating does occur from both sides of the relationship. However, that situation does not happen in every relationship where cheating takes place either. No good comes from cheatingwhether one partner is doing it or both are doing it. And, a new relationship that is born from a situation of cheating has a very high chance of not only being unstable, but failing within six months from the start of the situation.

[@BuckingHorse-Bull]

@@gl3913 it would be simpler to date and not rush into a relationship. It's the girl's prerogative anyway to offer a relationship

[@gl3913]

Since it takes 2 to tango, it is not just the girl's pregroative to get the relationship going. It takes 2 to get things started and it takes 2 to keep things going in the relationship going. Think what you want for I will never see things the way that you do involving relationships and cheating ever.

[@jessef4028]

This dude is literally an amateur psychologist with the right lingo to reach so many who aren't going to otherwise talk about their problems. Beautiful thing. This will blow up!

[@MadamPocketz]

🎯🎯

[@scottblack7182]

As someone who has the experience to say it. No, absolutely not. He has the verbal and psychoanalytical prowess of a hot dog. You people need to actually read the DSM because if this sounds smart to you i dont wanna know what you think of stupid 😑.

[@Anomicchaos]

He got a masters in psychology many years ago

[@mcleo9935]

Jesse remember he has a masters degree in Psychology

[@scottblack7182]

@@mcleo9935 Say it enough times and it might make him sound smart 😂. You little ones and your celebrity obsessions lol.

[@phillyspecial1393]

Never been a fan of kgs music but I love how this video was so positive and enlightening with out even mentioning those words. Like it was thru actions. Plus the production is crazy good 👍

[@AshLoRo]

Its done in his house i think.

[@jeffwoods4222]

Go listen to Dangerous by Gates

[@blueoak5262]

Why can't people just be single if they don't find relationships suitable?

[@marmadukescarlet7791]

For some, the chicanery is part of the thrill.

[@andrewjones575]

Many people are berated for being single.

[@extremepsyche3135]

Dating and marriage is good for the economy.

[@howwitty]

It's less economical when people refuse to share some amenities. BUT to maintain an acceptable level of demand for said amenities, the efficiency is limited to a dyad. Otherwise people would be sharing too much (and not using enough).

[@giob5221]

Ratio

[@vladimirpia148]

This was genuinely on the mark.. A beautiful distraction from my regular.. Divine intervention Thank you

[@empressellis3004]

It’s EMPRESS!!! Thanx Gates for the Advice and the compliments it REALLY helped me and my relationship and you were right about Everything you said to me.

[@wandaharp6462]

You a lucky lady, Kevin Gates gave you a Awesome Compliment...

[@empressellis3004]

@@wandaharp6462 Thank you, Gates Always gives great advice. The crazy part is production cut out so much of the conversation that I wish ppl had the opportunity to hear. The compliments he gave me were based off of other things I expressed in regard to how I operate in my relationship. But, he was Awesome♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@shawngordon3993]

Simple things

[@khalilahd.]

Some of this advice is wild 😭

[@thatmandj593]

I love these I’m glad I clicked to see if there was another video and this one was great !

[@sheilamarie5525]

I could relate to every question. Especially holding someone down on a bid ×s TWO who's very toxic from being hurt one time who pushes people away when his feelings get involved. When he was out he was trying on MANY per of shoes to avoid committing with the mother of his children and having the family and love he never had growing up. I didn't understand why he would keep as you say savatage somthing that he claims he wanted so much. So many times I wanted to just give up trying to help him but God wouldn't let me. So pretty everything you spoke about is him all in one! BLESSINGS TO YOU for sharing your knowledge and helping these people gain some clarity including me!

[@cassandraturman6308]

My cigars be doing me the same way, people are sleeping on cigars. They are truth 🤣❤️🤣❤️🤣❤️

[@teenicki9738]

What’s your favorite cigar?

[@rachelcarson7119]

-Joan Baez (1958-, Planet Earth) “Sometimes I think that it is enough to say that if we don't sit down and shut up once in a while we'll lose our minds even earlier than we had expected. Noise is an imposition on sanity, and we live in very noisy times.”

[@ashleyscaife7519]

Yooooo!!! What’s up Gates, So I’ve always related to your music when you drop something dope but, it would only last for a season and it kind of fade with that season because as you know life is in a constant state of changing. But Man this knew evolution Gates I’ve been listening to you and Dreka all year and I mean really like hungry to know more about you guys testimony and strength. Last week I can remember standing talking to myself like, I want to ask y’all so many questions about the strength it takes to go through ups and downs, highs and lows yet, still making a decision to stay solid no matter what. So today I’m listing your quotes and BOOM!! There you were talking calls from people and giving them the best advice that folks pay millions of dollars for when all they have to to is associate themselves with folk that hold them accountable. I believe what your doing is going to create some forces to stop generational curses. I want to call in to ask a question about my current situation with my fiancé and this this struggle we’ve been on. Is there a such thing as being to loyal and forgiving to someone to the point they start having an expectation or knowingness that your not going anywhere. Do you think that’s enabling someone and giving them the knife to stab you with? Why do women like me and your wife have to go through great pain and betrayal before men realize we solid and heaven sent. What made you finally see your wife 😅for what she already seen and made her mind up about when it came to her family and life with you?

[@devideomeneer]

THANK YOU VICE FOR BRINGING THIS BACK

[@KevinSmith-xt8xr]

Absence makes the heart grow fonder is an old truism that works. Limit your availability and make sure that when you meet it is quality time or a memorable occurrence. The rest will take care of itself. Hopefully, you are busy enough with your own projects to avoid endless hangouts.I'll say this-a part of the reason why a lot of us struggle so much in relationships is because of the "idgaf who hurt you" mentality that far too many of us have. As much as we don't, we should. Both men and women should. Lord, have mercy. Apathy is gonna be the death of intimacy for a lot of folks out here

[@nawal10]

Absence can also make the person lose interest or meet someone better. Some people take this absence thing too far lol

[@fefemyluv]

These Kevin Gates/Boobie segments are underrated content!

[@asmaaahmed6142]

I hate it when people say "you young, you got a whole life a head of you"

[@frogery]

its true though.

[@lulanana9008]

I know hes not very smart at all actually. Cheaters cheat because they are narcissists. People with empathy dont cheat on those they actually care about.

[@Pr3ttiNubianQueen]

"Protecting your energy is not a crime" Thank you for that Kevin! I really needed to hear that 🙏

[@louisianacookingwithkay]

I love when one drops. I be waiting for it. 💙💙⚜️🥾⚜️

[@chrismitchell9338]

That's a good girl. 4 years is an eternity. Truth on 4 hours.

[@katiejensen5547]

This needs to be a whole podcast

[@cassandraturman6308]

Thank you for your wise mind, I m older than you , but I can say for a young man I wish men in their fifty could have that mindset. I m so appreciate and grateful and loyal to your mind and soul.❤️❤️❤️❤️🤴🏿

[@solomonevans7637]

Definitely calling this helpline REAL soon!!!

[@stirgy4312]

Always Love. No matter what. If you think you're going to get through this life emotionally unscathed, then you're just fooling yourself.

[@aimeemarieholloway7029]

On Christina, those thoughts are going to be there and I'm sure he has people putting things in his mind as well.theres nothing you can do or say to change that. All you can do is remind yourself he's locked up and his mind is going to run,he has nothing to do but that, honestly. You are a good woman and just be patient. At the end of the day after seeing you're still coming to see him,calling,and writing,he's going to stop and think why she doing all this for,when there's plenty of men out there whos free,damn she must really love me. 💚🍀

[@lulanana9008]

No, he does not care and she needs to move on with life and enjoy it. Stop making excuses for scumbags.

[@ModernHorrorGaming]

been rockin with gates since 2013, never would have I thought he'd be on vice in 2022 lmaoo love it

[@ragangrasso2201]

I love how Kevin says YES LORD! 🥰

[@laurensnow8960]

Yassss lawd

[@chelseamarks7418]

it’s a long walk back for new orleans while i’m georgia 😂😂😂😂😂

[@lulanana9008]

All i heard in this vid was people giving excuses for abuse and neglect. 😑

[@englishforya]

Happiness is having people around yourself, that you wish you had met earlier...I wish you happiness.

[@fahqgoogle5941]

I wish i met them earlier only so they could snake earlier snd be "removed"

[@jonm-gq5fg]

"I'm ready to listen"

[@hiddentruth4874]

I hope they make another episode because this show is great!!!!!!

[@shantetladyshantet495]

Love conversations

[@frankrizzo5155]

Got lefty cooking them phone lines up!!! Good content. Glad to see KG giving some "keys" out! Pretty cool

[@ania5038]

I think cheaters are just people who have been deeply hurt in their lives and they try to solve it by treating new partners like band-aids when that wound can't be fixed by a band-aid... That's why I can't see myself ever leaving my one and only love because it would hurt too much to remember everything we had.

[@ROCKBOY7TH]

Yh u deffo cheat

[@supraguy4694]

Cheaters are losers who can't handle being monogamous but are also too insecure for poly relationships.

[@jeffwoods4222]

Its not that deep. Only thing better than a Good woman is a New woman!! 💯

[@kourtney7881]

@@jeffwoods4222 as a woman who is a “cheater” I’d have to agree with you. The thrill of something new will always feel better than what you are used to.

[@PXRTYPXN444]

Then they need to not have kids that will be affected in the process of there bs

[@tracyedwards8526]

I need this full episode ASAP

[@realtalk6195]

It's a series, he's got more eps.

[@aquarislov79]

That restraining order still validddddd🤣🤣🤣🤣🙏🏾🤍& great response too this question 🙏🏾⭐️

[@dolooutlaw2749]

This mad authentic 🤙🏾

[@jessejamez707]

You had a beautiful distraction 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ElChiefoNetwork]

Keep these vids coming! 💪💯

[@keabetsoe1998]

Kevin really the big brother we all wish we had

[@andrewjones575]

I've never wanted a brother who has a history of gang activity who still praises that lifestyle.

[@yoshi3294]

@@andrewjones575 yet people like you look up to Al capone or watch Michael franseze...the hypocrisy

[@andrewjones575]

@Jalil Muhammad My comment is relevant & honest. I wouldn't want such a person in my life, let alone in my family.

[@andrewjones575]

@@yoshi3294 Watching crime documentaries, films etc. doesn't mean that I'm pro-gang.

[@brokinglet5483]

“How a cheater thinks” Talks circles for 15 seconds about it on a 11 min video. Click bait

[@TheCybervoyeur]

7:14 "she too real to know she real" FACTS. That woman was awesome.

[@KB-ok1en]

This is amazing!

[@chozen1ocho426]

“Hard for” tell’em Gates💯💯

[@KeithJacksonII]

man y’all are finna have to start dropping some Director’s Cuts man. extended videos!

[@beautifulluna9670]

Your man doing time, pray for him. Everyday. Send a kite from time to time. Keep it real don't sugar coat nothing. If they care they going feel like it's their job to sugar coat and protect you from the reality of what happens behind them walls. Also, know they may or may not have other pen pals. Decide which lane you want to ride in. If you fall back or he makes that boundary and don't want to interfere with your life on the outside then be a good friend. Still pray for him.

[@breezyncj]

I've loved these two episodes I've seen of these two but does this show happen somewhere else regularly?

[@jimidavis6044]

You always in clutch. Just yea you know

[@DivaDivine88]

Did the first caller - if he miss her why not call her and DO BETTER.. obviously he WASN'T THE ONLY ONE HURT.. so let him go.. bc he was fucking up and he can knew it! Why not tell him to go apologize and DO BETTER.. This is what's wrong with black men these days is that they never encouraging other BM to do better and take accountability.. instead they blame the other person and move on bringing their toxic ways rt along with them to the next woman.. if the girl was doing everything the man was doing he would leave her too, TF!

[@DivaDivine88]

Second caller - Bish you dumb putting your life on hold for ninja who didn't have enough sense to stay FREE.. you young - do you and don't wait for no one! He probably talking to multiple women while he in there and will bounce on you or use you until he comes up and can get the girl who wouldn't deal with a Jailbirdand has more confidence in herself.. mark my words - he not worth it! If you really need to help him, have him write you out a letter stat g he will pay you back for every dime you spent on him while I there.. or have him give you his social so you can claim him on your taxes BC HE IS A DEPENDANT! If he not willing to pay you back and put it on paper, then you will already know his intentions. I would only send him money to call YOU, not for Commissary.. you need to have boundaries bc whatever landed him it jail it wasn't no boundaries for that!

[@yaraanderson2661]

I love the last advice the most it actually helps

[@djundaworld]

“A beautiful distraction “

[@LA-cm9uo]

This is so wholesome

[@sherikataylor5497]

I love you and your advice u give your peple

[@linkdeoriginale1168]

Interesting!

[@goldenshower5113]

u guys be spitting facts

[@Crystalthehighpriestess]

Love it

[@liltoot02]

This is beautiful

[@lovelylayla4978]

Her: You Ready to help me? Kevin: I'm ready to listen..... 💯😂🤣

[@lulanana9008]

Right cuz he dont help anybody with his nonsense fake therapy lol.

[@bahari40]

Great video as always! Greetings from Mumbai , France 🇧🇷

[@Kenabukanyo]

The last one hit me in the feels because personally, while i wasn't looking for hookers or escorts, watched porn and that ruined the whatever feelings i had before they even materialized. :/

[@operator0017]

😎💭👍🏽Yessah, good guys doing good.

[@Slong970]

Also very amazing to see these best friends do something like this!! Gates n Boobie need to continue this Hot Line.

[@joannajenkins1648]

Kevin you are deep and knowledgeable, your BLESSED.

[@mikebel74]

Damn. You guys should be making millions. What deep insight into the human condition. Wisdom beyond your years.

[@alexbernal5600]

Kevin gates is the realest one out there. No filter on what he has to say cause its all truth!

[@jordanblue8948]

Name one thing he said that was the truth...

[@Wyndu777]

These men are very smart and WISE!

[@altagraciasanchez6576]

i'm whom the Best rapvideo

[@takishaedwards273]

I love the vulnerability Kevin displayed in this episode!

[@takishaedwards273]

@Hshxb Dhehs what? Where did you hear that?

[@chrisbroadbridge7742]

@@takishaedwards273 he was smashing his cousin.... Grandmother told him after the fact 3 months in.

[@chelseyconn2010]

Your such a great man! ❤

[@louisianacookingwithkay]

9:24 You talk about this a lot Gates. You've mentioned several times how things got better when you were able to be honest about everything. So I know you're telling what God loves, tha truth!! 💯🤞🏾💯 I love it! 🤗

[@JussLikeButta]

Gates has a quote or lyrics for anything🐐

[@dellis4320]

Yeah. I caught that 😂😂😂💯

[@MellowHawgnthaGame]

Dropping that landing gear in something 😂😂😂. Aye, I'm here for this. Yeahhh

[@Ravenwoods]

Thank goodness for subtitles, except the subtitles don’t make sense

[@rogdow5497]

I’d watch these dudes again. Lol. Some wisdom there.

[@adventurousloner]

"Protecting your image is not a crime." 👍🔥👏😎

[@_a_8814]

OG in da house

[@laurensnow8960]

I love the way kevin speaks

[@classy137]

The level of ignorance and lack of accountability is screaming. Instead of telling this young man this is a lesson in treating people properly in the next relationship. They pretty much told him, he is young and will find better. That her rejection of him was his blessing to find better. Wow idiots

[@christopheredwards2900]

Was the number to call I gotta get something off my chest

[@dustintyndall7827]

Bro greatful to the lord for y’all

[@AZilla520]

Why they like the last one's mindset? All she asked was how do I avoid? 😆 Did I miss something 🤭🤔🤔🤔

[@evelynwalton3343]

🤣🤣🤡🤡

[@jaleelvelasquez9972]

@Kevin gateswith all the respect to the og, you the best men, respect!

[@mandazhubbz]

Facts 100...

[@napoleonprince]

I love this.

[@patrickquinn5939]

Damn. That first caller

[@loricheeks3907]

Enjoying this show. True Kevin Gates fan!!! Remember him when he came to Chattanooga!

[@roderickbullard9565]

this Cigar .... Got me High den a bit...

[@wallacedavis3110]

Shout out to Imp from Durham nc

[@paulwalker8434]

How a cheater thinks? Same way murder thinks... Boring.

[@linkdutch9400]

Just started watching 👀 😌 😎 Kool vibe alway laughing 😃 every time Kevin gate chats is seriously funny 😁 response 😄 but be right ✅️ 👌 on

[@Realist13]

Usually Kevin is ignoring but this show is real nice. There is a lovely person within him🤣

[@lulanana9008]

What?

[@dasdeke]

Man dropping straight knowledge.

[@jordanblue8948]

No hes not lol

[@bridaw8557]

Hey Vice. A good story would be on Mad in the UK (like mad in America) and the psychiatry/ psychology social justice revolution. It’s just getting started. With recent societal upheaval a crisis is brewing the magnitude of we haven’t seen yet.