How a Man Sabotages His Life

#masculinity #selfimprovement #selfdevelopment
A behavior is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems in daily life and interferes with long-standing goals. The most common self-sabotaging behaviors include procrastination, self-medication with drugs or alcohol, comfort eating, and forms of self-injury. People aren't always aware that they are sabotaging themselves, and connecting a behavior to self-defeating consequences is no guarantee that a person will disengage from it. Still, it is possible to overcome almost any form of self-sabotage. Behavioral therapies can aid in interrupting ingrained patterns of thought and action while strengthening deliberation and self-regulation. Motivational therapies can also help reconnect people with their goals and values. Self-sabotaging behavior refers to intentional action (or inaction) that undermines people's progress and prevents them from accomplishing their goals. Self-sabotage occurs when people hinder their own success.
While it seems surprising, some people undermine their own good intentions and long-term goals. When people take these destructive steps, their harmful behavior can negatively impact nearly every part of their lives including their relationships and career.
There are many reasons why a person might act in a way that proves damaging to his or her own well-being. Self-sabotage often serves as a coping mechanism that people use to deal with stressful situations and past traumas. Unfortunately, it typically makes problems worse and limits a person's ability to successfully move forward in a healthy way
Some individuals, of course, spend much of their lives struggling with powerful cravings for food, drink, gambling, or other temptations that come at a painful cost to their health or relationships. But the forces that lead to self-sabotage can also be more subtle, such as an accumulation of dysfunctional and distorted beliefs that lead people to underestimate their capabilities, suppress their feelings, or lash out at those around them.

[@martiniliev2236]

Above a year has passed since I committed to turn my life into something better and worthwhile while at the same time chasing the career path I chose for myself. Watching videos like this always reminds me that my fear of stagnation will always be greater than the fear of failure. Moving forward is all that matters as long as we live in this world. Thank you for reminding us of this in your videos regularly Mr Forged

[@Forged88]

My pleasure mate. Get after it

[@True38]

So True. Going through this right now as we speak. It's not easy being a man, knowing you're damned if you do and damned if you don't.

[@CrunchyFinn]

Nearing 30. Stagnant no matter how hard I actually try. Even on the days where my brain chemistry actually numbs me to embarrassment and disappointment in which I blaze through. But nothing truly comes of it. I'm currently blazing through my savings just to feel some sort of short term pleasure...

[@captnrobvious47]

Self-discipline or, at the very least, self-awareness is what it all comes down to. Now, my problem with hitting the gym and cooking the right food recently is the same mentality as reaching for the remote from the couch, but it's too far away or sitting in traffic vs actually driving. To make matters worse, my apartment complex has a free 24hr gym, so I don't really have any excuse, but I still don't wanna hike down three stories and walk across the property or sit and wait for the meat to thaw. Lol So what I've started doing is buying my own gym equipment to keep in my apartment. I know this mentality of attempting to make things more convenient can't be applied to everything, but it is a method most ADHDers use on everything since we all have the attention span of rodents. We leave little reminders everywhere, or we keep the object in question out in the open and not tucked away in some shelf or cupboard. That's not to say we can't power through situations as such. We just need to perseve it as either urgent or annoying. This, however, causes a lot of clutter both physically and mentally, and we only shut down or self sabotage when we overwhelm ourselves with said conveniences because they can eventually become inconvenient. The tough part is recognizing when we need to start regulating our behavior again like I do now. I need to start cooking my own food again instead of spending more and more money on unhealthy fast food, which has been impacting my physical and cognitive performance lately. Again, it usually begins with being self-aware enough to say "alright, time to go work again."

[@joaoalegria7578]

Beautifully said, as an "ADHDer" I can confirm, I have the weights behind my chair, so they are always in sight, and any urgent task I put post its sticked to stuff I can't miss. But I kinda disagree a bit, I think we are self-aware, maybe too much sometimes, we know the things we need to do, the challenge is doing them, consistently.

[@jaxteller2061]

I have the same thing man, failed my study and probably have to drop out, luckily I finished a different study before it so I got a nice backup but its a shame that I put: alcohol, women, weed and alot of harddrugs before finishing my second college study and staying fit etc. If I did it balanced I would have had 4 amazing and fruitful years but thats not possible, now I just gotta show it in my workfield and work extra hard to proof myself.

[@ChiefWoad]

Thank you for sharing.

[@MadaraUchiha-ly8wr]

I don't think I have a problem with procrastination. This would leave me to argue that, some plans or goals would need some strategic patients. I argue further more that failure can also occur because of rushing the process too quickly, risking unnecessary damage beyond repair.

[@gloomysketch2145]

this is what i needed to hear (truth) Mr Forged thank you

[@reckszkingzactivitiesrkat.4134]

9/10 guys world wide love to self sabotage themselves on a regular basis & those that keep on doing such things repeatedly deserve no coaching , no help & nobody to pay them no mind because they are going nowhere forever more time 🤷🏾‍♂️✅

[@Forged88]

Only if they manage to finally decide to help themselves. Because if they don't want to do it themselves, not even god can convince them to

[@reckszkingzactivitiesrkat.4134]

@@Forged88 It’s rare that they even do that my brother 😆👏🏾, I’ve learned long ago that most people just love to choose to lose forever. Their shelf life expires quickly but for women it’s even faster so if you don’t get it right near the start of your life & form these decent habits early then yeah your pretty much finished going forward ✅. Much respect , keep up the channel ✊🏾.

[@Martyn_Wolf]

@@reckszkingzactivitiesrkat.4134 Regarding habits you can change them even at an older age due to neuralplasticity. Will it take longer yes! Will it require more paticents yes! Can it be done yes. Having a defeatist mindset about habits won't make them easier to break if your habits are shit. It's not the habits that are the main reason we do them, it's our attachments and the reason why we see a new to do them that's the main issue. Let's say you don't smoke or drink - why because you don't see a need for it. Same applies with habits, if we see a need to keep doing them, we will. Until that need is transformed into a different reason or we choose to abandon that need for why we want to do it we can't change/break the habit. Your environment is a powerful tool as well in this.

[@iammagicdonron3014]

Sounds like yall are bunch of fake superficial people to me….if you abandon a friend for any reason then don’t bring yo fake ass back fuck off forever….real ones never give up on your people even when they give up on themselves….and I stand on that

[@DavidNefelimSlayer]

Freud had his sex. Nietzche and Rand had egoism, Marx and Smith had wealth, Jung the subconscious, but Frank Herbert got it right. I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.

[@ImuriTheHahn]

I never imagined I'd find my inner power through dune, but by the time I'd put down 'Children of Dune', I was unable to ignore the work I needed to put in so that I could become the best version of myself.

[@Enigma_408]

What’s the soundtrack to this video ?

[@Forged88]

Wasting Away by Jon Bjork

[@TopDawgJozi]

We end up losing the process of creativity with our apprenticeship and lose self awareness .

[@sujatayadav7910]

Make videos on humor

[@thesfnb.5786]

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[@malone4735]

W Vid 🫡💯