How ADHD Can Push People to LIE (ADHD Explained With Doodles)

[@theminiadhdcoach]

Do you often lie to hide your ADHD struggles 👀?

[@Max-uv3eg]

"how are you doing?"

[@Mohammed-i4d5x]

Yes sometimes when I was child I m teen now And I diagnosed ADHD Early when my Age is 7 And that’s to be not big struggle when I was 7 years Ago 😁

[@Nanaa2702]

I lie before even being able to control it. It leaves my mouth so easily that I don't get it

[@silly.sigewinne]

@@Nanaa2702same.. I lie it before getting to think about it.. and then I realise it later on and feel so bad about it

[@ALew789]

Yup. In addition to this, I also noticed that the lack of impulse control AND the sense of urgency can also make lot harder to reign in lying. Brains that are good at chaining come up with stories quickly and when you couple that with reduced impulse control and a sense of urgency/pressures to say something...well it's a bad recipe.

[@tortoiseperson]

I find it very hard to lie because I'm Autistic as well as ADHD.

[@somebodyody]

I have ADHD and autism. I used to lie and then got really worried that I was a pathological liar like my aunt and wrote this long letter to my parents about my concern. So now lying is hard.

[@susanjackson8068]

Thank you so much for this video! I struggle with this too, and it’s comforting to know I’m not alone. I often feel different from everyone else, so this really means a lot.

[@solveigcamire9569]

Wow… that’s so accurate! I’m just beginning to unmask and it’s hard

[@PossumSatyr]

Oh my god. This. This 10000%. I’ve always done this and always obsessed over the fact that I felt like a horrible human being because of it. Thank you so much for this video. This is the first time I’ve ever seen someone else with adhd mention this

[@srob6168]

I've adopted the habit to straight up say the truth. This generally makes people loose confidence in me. Like, I stopped lying to my mom when I skip meals. For a long time, she didn't have to worry about it because I would lie. Now she doesn't trust me to feed myself. It makes me sad, but I don't deserve this trust. But at least I stopped losing weight and my health is getting better. I also get late a lot of timed, and ended up just lying about it and not attending at all. I told the truth, and lost my responsibilities for someone else, I got kinda depressed about it, but at least someone is working it out. Sometimes, i haven't do something I needed for "no reason", I used to lie, saying that I did, so u could have a second chance to actually doing it. But when I tell the truth, I get help to actually do the thing, even if it means bring yelled, keeped awake, get my phone confiscated, y"know, things that I wish I could do to myself. The only thing that bothers me us that I am getting older. I am already 19, I CAN'T live being taken care of, I should be taking care of younger people now. I am very worried about my future, when my mom will not be there anymore to confiscate my phone or hide the sugar. I remember being worried about adulthood since I child. I remember thinking I would rather die than being an adult like this. I don't wanna die. But...

[@jpa7714]

You're certainly not alone in being afraid of getting older and not feeling able to take on the responsibilities normally associated with adulthood. I'm nearly 30 and still haven't gotten to achieve most of the things that most people are somehow expected to do by 18! I agree that it hurts both to lie about how capable you feel, but also to be punished by having people see you as less of an adult if you tell the truth about yourself. Just keep in mind that the societal expectation of "have everything figured out and start your own family by your mid-20s" is hugely unrealistic and out of date for most people. The truth is that these days young adults are meeting those traditional "adulting" milestones later and still need help from their parents/relatives for much longer, because today's world is not an easy one to thrive in even if you aren't struggling with neurodiversity. Getting help to manage your ADHD would be a good first step, but you could also look for counselling or other mental health services to talk about your very understandable fears and anxieties. Nobody out there can actually make it all on their own. Some of us just need a little more help than others.

[@AnnaB.0-0.]

I’m not sure if I have ADHD but this reminds me so much of myself! I always lie about small unimportant things but at the moment it was like a saving reflex or something… great Video 🤗

[@GH0STmonk]

I was doing the same, I actually think mine was because it was easier for my brain to come up with a lie instead of trying to remember the actual fact/memory.

[@AnnaB.0-0.]

@GH0STmonk oh that’s interesting! I get that one. Do you have ADHD?

[@jacmor1167]

I think, at least for myself, lying (especially early in life) was a dopamine boost! it was an immediate response that worked the way i wanted it to, like if I didn't do my homework, lying both was an excuse and delayed the task, which was a perfect dopamine boost! the conditioning that if I lied, I not only avoided getting in trouble, but I also felt relief? this is literally, like, the recipe for a dopamine-deficient brain to avoid discomfort and get a pleasure sensation, even if it ended up only being temporary and with worse consequences later.

[@Fireproofwitchnz]

I lie and mask to keep myself safe.

[@chloestam666]

This is so good. So easy to follow, cute animations, so informative. Amazing work!

[@theminiadhdcoach]

Awwww thank you so much it means a lot 🥹!!

[@kateiry4719]

Me: Roast me based on my past experience ChatGPT:

[@aaronsmith5055]

❤thanks so much! I have been trying to explain this to people for so long

[@Dancestar1981]

Exactly I’m AUDHD too

[@faizazaheer16]

Man, I lie a lot.. I hate it. I wish I could just stop hiding behind lies and open up but I can't...I try but I can't.

[@filusilla]

That’s exactly what I’ve been doing my whole life… specially when I n eeded to find excuses for been late…😔 Also made me feel really bad because I feel very uncomfortable when I lie😢

[@nk-dc5gc]

THANK YOU.

[@johnthebapist8234]

No wonder i end up lying for literally no apparent benefit to my parents

[@oddluck4216]

Great video on a little discussed topic. I like the inclusion of the so-called little white lies that we all tell, like we're fine we're just tired or stuff like that.

[@michelledewitt7591]

Ummmm Definitely NOT!!!!