Definitely anxious/avoidant attachment here! I’ve even thought about how that effects my relationship with God and if having an anxious/avoidant attachment to God is a thing
@shirkiahbull2 ай бұрын
Yes!! I definitely agree I think it also the way we communicate with God.
@BanronS2 ай бұрын
Youre not the only one bud
@laylascott60962 ай бұрын
Same, and it absolutely does! ‘Fit for the most high” has a free masterclass on it here on KZbin! Very valuable info ❤
@Josephine5252 ай бұрын
11 minutes in and I'm already sighing and feeling down. It's not that Mark is saying anything wrong here, it's just that I'm realising I have a long long way to go. My mother joking that her and I were not as close as she was with my siblings, because we didnt have skin to skin contact when I was born, and my siblings did was... a lot. I laughed at the time, but I'm not now. It's so hard to forgive and move forward. I don't even know HOW to let go. Edit: Just wanted to say thank you very much for all you do Mark. You're a great youtube big bro haha 😊
@Nicole-un5on2 ай бұрын
You are not alone, I feel the same. I know things were done wrong to me and I’ve cried, and I’ve forgiven, and I’ve cried again. But what does this healing even look like? It seems so elusive… HOW does one even feel that or go through that. I’m tired of things in childhood affecting me that I already want to “let go” of. I’m trying, but it still hurts. Sigh.
@FamiljenMazreku2 ай бұрын
You can do it my fellow sister, we can do everything through Christ, no matter how long it takes he will give you peace and joy through it. He is healing you only by knowing that you need it. He did tremendous healing in my life through Marks ministry so do not lose hope sister and be courageous and brave as the Lord says in his word and the most important is the relationship with our Heavenly Father and studying his word ❤
@Josephine5252 ай бұрын
@@FamiljenMazreku thanks for your encouragement 🙏 😊
@Josephine5252 ай бұрын
@Nicole-un5on we're gonna get through this. God will get us through it ❤️
@kristalee25032 ай бұрын
You are not alone, there are so many of us
@Stellaxxm2 ай бұрын
Anxious attachment here! This video has been so helpful. I have often wondered how my attachment style prevents me from connecting to God because I don’t know any other way to be. But I am now unlearning a lot from my childhood and have faith I will one day be securely attached. Thank you for this Mark🙏🏽🙏🏽
@MarvinEngle-he8kq2 ай бұрын
Thank you again for your help in real life situations. I am definitely an anxious avoider. Especially in abandonment. Your videos on God's grace and love have helped tremendously in my healing process. If someone was mad at me (especially my wife) it was my fault and I needed to fix it so their anger would stop and they would accept me again. More and more that is getting less and less. Thank you!!
@Isytrice072 ай бұрын
This video is so need and so on time. I’ve been asking God to help me relate to others differently. Then I come across this video. Mark, my brother from another mother, thank you 🙌🏾. I got work to do. #feelinghopeful
@margaretgrosskreuz86872 ай бұрын
Mark. This was so needed. As my daughter very cruelly reminded me that her need for a man "came from me." I, as you know, am a senior and me (and my adult child) can only go forward. Not backward. I have apologized. Thank you. I too "liked" it just from the title!!
@JL-sl7mq2 ай бұрын
Great video as always! Didn‘t regret liking it before watching it. Thank you Mark
@shirkiahbull2 ай бұрын
Thank you for this Mark. I recently did some research on attachment styles and i relate to “dis-organized attachment” whew now I’m just learning.
@larissashomeinteriors88212 ай бұрын
This message has been so timely, I needed this today. Thank you Mark!
@bcvahsfam2 ай бұрын
I've determined I'm avoidant, maybe disorganized. This was helpful to me.
@GodsGrace7582 ай бұрын
Here's my own proof that what you're saying is true. I'm 66 now when I was a toddler in Brooklyn my sister (18 months older, died young, plagued with mental illness/voices/drugs alcohol) & I were repeatedly sent to a babysitter in the building & my sister was molested. My only memory is the sitter telling me to hold my face down on the coffee table, I'm guessing so I didn't see. Yet it was traumatic for both of us. We were also alone at home in our room ROCKING all the time when small. My earliest memory was mastering picking things up with my hands & at the SAME TIME thinking I would have to make it on MY OWN. You can guess which category I fit into just from that limited info. I have a trail of self destruction behind me & three grown children who I'm starting to realize I've done more damage to than I ever thought. I thought I was okay when I came to Christ years ago, but I now know that I WASN'T, & now God graciously led me to you, the clearest stuff I've ever heard that hits home and rings so true, & I've had tons of therapy for decades. HINT: Therapy was like movie auditions for me or being on the witness stand. I was always admired & given great chances of making it. I was able to fly under the radar without realizing thats what I was doing. No guilt trips. No more false or exaggerated guilt. I'm just saying. One of the few friends I have left ordered the book God loves me & I love myself when I asked her to bc I had no money. I've been reading it & tho I first felt terrified, I"ve been practicing receiving God's love & I guess I'm off to a good start!
@estelleclements55152 ай бұрын
💖🙏
@DeborahGurry2 ай бұрын
@@GodsGrace758 I am excited for you.
@chrissy57052 ай бұрын
Bless your heart honey! Listen you’re GONNA make it! Praying for you and sending much love from your sister in Christ! God‘s got you!❤
@Brigitte_Theriault2 ай бұрын
This helped me and my journey. Just started reading your book on Rejection Mindset. So far it is very enlightening and helping me understand myself better. Thank you Pastor Mark. 🙂
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I really need more of a positive attitude
@jennykirwin32882 ай бұрын
Mark this is so GOOD!! Brings it all together WOW!!!
@hagoswoldegebriel11372 ай бұрын
I have grown in charity organization. There i lived with emotional neglact. This got inmpact when i become full grwon and entered into adult life. I was unequiped in dealing relationship. Starting following ur contentent i am seeing many changes how to deal with myself and people around me. God bless u mark.
@melissahay3284 күн бұрын
For the last while I thought I was avoidant… now I realize I’m disorganized. The back and forth pull. I need you… go away… no wait I need you come back… no wait go away. Oh my gosh that’s me! lol
@brookehawkins57642 ай бұрын
This is so good.
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
It leaves a ached in my heart
@rootedinyah2 ай бұрын
This was great thanks!!
@mrrondon2 ай бұрын
Hey Mark! Do you reckon it'd be a good idea to release your "God loves me and I love myself" book in Spanish too? I'm sure you'd have a huge audience since there's a big Christian community that speaks Spanish. It's been a great help for me so far
@jewishbride50102 ай бұрын
Praise God we do not have to fear or avoid human beings and relationships, instead we can enjoy them better through our healing and connecting with God, thank you so much Lord ❤! I therefore bind one to desire to have a secure attachment style while binding to hell every lack of desire of having a secure attachment style in my life, the lives of my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquitances, opponents, the children I teach and the body of Christ, binding to hell every unequal yoke and common share with anyone lacking a desire for having a secure attachment style, in accordance with this word and provetbs 3:5-6, acts 9:31, genesis 2:24, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah, glory to God ❤!
@kimmymichele122 ай бұрын
Love this, Thank you for sharing!!! Very helpful!
@smokingcrab22902 ай бұрын
My wife is an avoidant. I was never an anxious person until her. I don't think anyone has a particular attachment style. I think it all depends on the dynamic you're in. If my wife connected with me, I would not be anxious. But no matter what I do she's always gonna be avoidant.
@TimMillernapavalleyfilmworks2 ай бұрын
Christian Attachment Coach here! Just want to encourage everyone going through attachment issues. There is no such thing as a perfectly secure person. It’s a spectrum. I identify with disorganized and understand both avoidant and anxious. A secure attachment is recognized by healthy communication. Bless you all and thank you Mark. Feel free to ask any questions:
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
This world hustle and bustle
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I waffle and swing into the two
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I struggle with negative thoughts sometimes
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I always let that fear drive me
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
Sometimes l don't know how to give myself some grace
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I have been in so many situationship
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
Life is hard sometimes
@commontater2 ай бұрын
Nope. No bonding with either parent. Anxious avoidant here.
@BanronS2 ай бұрын
Youre not alone bud
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I do life own my own
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I really should have space 🚀 make room two be myself
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
Sometimes l get lost in unhealthy places l slow down doing that little bit
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
At least am getting my needs met
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
It's hard to face the fear
@gorlami3341Ай бұрын
What do you call it if you show signs of all types of attachment?
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I'm struggling to love sometimes
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
This is the most craziness life l think l ever lived l have been in so much chaos
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
It moves in two heavy fancy
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I'm highly maintenance
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I used to be smoother to easily
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I do get way too lonely sometimes
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I'm trying but am not trying hard enough
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I got an anxious attachment
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I'm so low in spirit
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I see myself in a low way
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I'm a hypercondrac
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I get hurt too easily
@DeborahGurry2 ай бұрын
I am 66 years old and I don't know what a healthy relationship looks like. I was a lousy parent. A lousy wife. I am a miserable Trainwreck.
@shirkiahbull2 ай бұрын
No shame only learning. Don’t be so hard on yourself, each day you wake up is another chance❤
@DeborahGurry2 ай бұрын
Thank you. That's kind of you.
@YazYaz751002 ай бұрын
@@DeborahGurry I'm a 33 year old daughter. My mom died at 60. I wish she was alive for me to tell her what I'm about to tell you. She didn't know how to have a healthy relationship either and caused a lot of damage in my life. Thankfully, my now- 70- year old father has been open to learning about Attachment and as he, myself, and my siblings have all worked hard to heal, there has been incredible change in our lives. My 70 year old dad is changing the legacy of his family now- 70 years into his life. Mother, it wasn't your fault that no one demonstrated to you as a child what a healthy relationship looks like, and that all your adult life you were just trying to manage with the limited tools you had. You did the best you could with what you knew then. Don't you know your kids want to forgive you? Don't you know your kids want to love you? Don't you know the people on this earth who love you want to know who you really are? You're not dead yet, thank God. It's not too late to decide that you want to bring healing into your own life and your kid's lives. Even if they don't receive it, it's not too late to apologize to them (to anyone you've hurt). But I can tell you right now, the most important person you need to apologize to is yourself. Why have you treated yourself like you aren't worth loving? Yeah, yeah, I know "what you've done." But you could forgive someone else for that, right? Why not your self? You are equal to everyone else. Equally worthy of forgiveness and love because of Jesus. Or is His blood not enough? Everyone makes mistakes and has caused harm. You MUST forgive yourself how Jesus does, accept yourself how Jesus does, love yourself how Jesus does, so that you can love others and allow them to love you back. It starts with you. You're 66 and you still have another lifetime on this earth. Why not make it the best years of your life? Why not make the legacy of your family one of healing, redemption, and transformation? You have more power than you know, beloved mother. Your kids may be grown, but they still need you. I believe in your ability to change, daughter, mother, wife, sister. Go ahead- be who you were meant to be. If you're still alive, it's not too late. You can still change everything.
@LydiaTheBusinessWoman2 ай бұрын
It's so easy to listen to something like this and feel condemnation, we're all trying friend. No one's perfect. I'm certainly not.❤
@estelleclements55152 ай бұрын
@@LydiaTheBusinessWoman Absolutely; we have a loving Saviour who cares about us so much despite our struggles. ❤
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I don't think I am ready for a full commitment relationship
@FlorenceLunsford-sk2nj6 күн бұрын
I'm not all that healthy like my adopted daughter is more healthier than I am
@ConnorCampbell-g8b2 ай бұрын
Hey mark I have a question does the Holy Spirit tell us to pray or spread gospel to someone because I saw TikTok’s. And I fear that I am going to get that thought and if I don’t do it I feel guilt. I’m starving the compulsion o. Doing good works but this thought make me feels like if I get the thought from Holy Spirit I have to go back to compulsion pls help I’m young and this has been causeing ,e to ruminate
@vinewoodtalesproductions2 ай бұрын
It's like being pulled into a fake outer darkness, and no one can save you. It feels like "dang, if this is God, then I'm doomed, and no one can save me because who's higher than God?" Literally, when I'm in themes, I can't see months ahead. All I can see is this "theme." Even when I try to mentally picture months ahead, I can't see my family, work, relationships, nothing but that theme. It feels like absolute doom. It seems like it won't stop unless I do it, but even when I do to some degree, it comes back, and the cycle starts over again. Some days, I just lay in my bed, wishing to be an animal of some sort like a bird or ant because then "maybe I wouldn't have to deal with human consciousness and issues. Maybe then I wouldn't have to deal with what comes with having a soul. " It's crazy. If you share my sentiments, then I am so sorry you're going through this. I was about to go to sleep but I just wanted to say this so you wouldn't feel alone. I know how it is to be going through something, and you don't hear back from anyone, and you're just wondering if you're making things up in your head or legit experiencing this. Well, you are. 🙏 Hold on in there, okay? ❤