How Dementia Caregivers Can Feel Better in 2025

[@DementiaCareblazers]

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[@sandi21515]

Caregiving. It is SO difficult. I'm starting year 5 as the sole and only caregiver (live-in, 5 yrs, 24/7) for a family member while the rest of the family goes to baseball games, dances, cruises, and the like. I keep having to tell myself to find myself and my joy in things I love- my interests, my hobbies. I keep trying to keep myself together as I drown in isolation, boredom, and fatigue. Dr. Natalie, your videos & advice have helped me survive and I thank you.

[@factsoverfiction7826]

"Pray like it's all up to God; Act like it's all up to you." 🌿 This saying has helped me.

[@Itsgloriasway]

Yesssssss also set a plan for how you want your life to look for your loved ones and for yourself & work really hard at finding the answer to whatever you write. The answers is out there, you just have to ask the right questions. I have a mother that has dementia. I had to put her in a home for a little while, and I worked with her social worker, set a goal and put things in perspective. I then brought her back home. Things has been much better. She sleeps better than me and you now. She has a life set up where she is as independent as possible, she has her time around her peers and I have my time. A great plan with medication to keep her calm we’re able live a happy normal life now. She’s right you can’t low-key sit and wait for your love one to die so that you can live. You have to find your peace and how you gonna work this thing out now? You’re no good to yourself or them in that state of mind. I found my peace in the videos I made with my mom. It help me laugh and not cry. I swear looking back at some of the things we go through is really funny. It can be very hilarious. If you can step back from the picture and look at yourself you realise the things they do is not that bad. I agree, none of us are gonna make it out of here alive. This body isn’t designed to last forever. All we all have is right now. you may not have dementia but we can die tomorrow. They may have dementia and can live for the next 20 years so, we have to focus on right now. Be happy in the moment. Feeling sorry for them and throwing pity parties is only gonna make them feel worse. If we choose to just live life with them as if nothing is wrong without the constant reminders, life will be so much better. If They wanna drive. Get a driving school and let them drive . get in the backseat and just be goofy. Have a great time and get up tomorrow and find another goal to crush. Yessss let 2025 be our greatest caregiving yr. I plan to run through the airport with my mom in a wheelchair. with us with comfy hoodies on. get on a plane and go somewhere and just explore the city and eat great food.

[@idealartistsf7956]

... Im going to focus on what really matters here ... Well said 🏆

[@KSt-nv8eb]

I just found your channel. We are beginning this care-journey with another couple. The four of us are going to be caring for our friend whose father is very elderly and whose son is autistic. Our friend is just 61 years old, and literally has no one else to help him. It's a scary time, and I'm trying to learn what to do. I've just subscribed. Thank you for providing this informational help.

[@jenniferwatson7118]

Thanks for all your videos in 2024. Wishing you a better year ahead for 2025. Take care.

[@ginatartaglia236]

Thank you SO much for this insightful video. I've never heard of those terms and as you were explaining it I found myself pigeonholing myself into the external category but I'm not I live my life by faith in a better future for all of us , so I'm * internal* - whew! Im going to view the links you included as well. Sending hugs to YOU too for a beautiful 2025❤❤

[@grahamday1582]

This woman 👩 talks sence but you can only do your best 👌 👍

[@csillaczako1582]

I wouldn't believe a moment 2025 would be the best for caregiving. It's all about marketing here. What hopes? It's all about giving up caregivers' lives, no future perspective, no possibility for planning anything until caregiving. Great future.

[@beverlygarcia6475]

I have been a caretaker for almost 6 years it's been very very difficult for me there are so many things I want to do places I want to go but my husband do not want to leave the house he's been diagnosed with dementia vascular dementia for almost 6 years I believe my son is in the military and he wants us to come visit him my husband don't even want to leave the house so it's pretty much the me to be here he was asked by the nurses that come to visit him at home for his physicals and stuff about home Care he declined home care so that means that it's me that is the caretaker my husband is way older than myself I am much younger than he is this is becoming draining I don't even have a life sometimes I will get out to just get some breathing air and then back home I go I would like to get out and kind of do some things. But he has older children that lives in the same place that we live but I don't get any type of support to help from them at all.

[@margaretsprinkle405]

Sweetheart take control. It’s no longer his decision when it’s affecting your mental health. You need to get away so you can clear your head. I know I’m in your shoes except it’s my mom. But we don’t have dementia (not yet) but depression does set in and guilt. The guilt kills me. Let’s do it. 🙏 for you.

[@beverlygarcia6475]

@@margaretsprinkle405 yeah I know but the thing about it is my husband is able to do some things for himself it's just his memory his short-term memory can't remember stores or sometime he has problems with money I have to handle that it's just that he has always been the person that controlled everything and he doesn't want to let go and he could be very difficult. When my mother was alive she was the one that had to talk him into giving me his keys to his truck which he gave it to me but he gave it to me so generously. That one day I went to take care of some business and he's good at staying at home cuz he just sits in a recliner or you know do this stuff around the house he doesn't want her off or nothing like that but the thing about it is he gave me those keys so easily and when I went up to Walmart which is not far from our house I parked the car and I looked up and I said isn't that my husband's truck LOL he had driven himself up to Walmart and he had an extra key that's why he was so nice to give me those keys when I asked for it because he had a spare LOLthat's what my mom what's living she is now passed on but after he was diagnosed with dementia they told me that it was going to be a struggle and that things were going to become difficult for me a lot of these doctors and nurses they listened to him because they feel that he's able to decide what he want that he's not that far gone. I did get his grandson which I went to visit my daughter when she had her baby I had his grandson promised that he was going to check in on him and see what he wanted and need it but when I got back I asked my husband to his grandson come by and check on him he said no so his family is not dependable at all my son was a big help until he went into the military and now he's stationed in Virginia.

[@eandsm4620]

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[@csillaczako1582]

Our lives IT IS on HOLD. Nothing to do about it. No possibility to plan for future for myself, I'm ni sprung chicken, gave up having relationships, gave up my wish to move to a city close by to have better Healthcare for myself if I'll needed, but NO, my mom doesn't want to leave her house in frikkin small village where there's nothing, also the house is in bad shape... anyway NO course will help!

[@eandsm4620]

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[@annullman4305]

I am not a caregiver and live far away from my relative. But she calls me every day and says her stuff which varies little and I need some help in being patient with her. I seem to fail over and over again and my only idea so far is to just not take her calls. I honestly could use some help with this. Thank you.

[@rhondasingley7211]

I would like to try to get Out in public More than I do! I Believe I'm Able to do More I'm Just afraid 😞 going out alone is scary.

[@IsakSmith-cu4ys]

Sakkie from SA TOE have norml as posble happy days

[@cyndykated1083]

My folks in their 80s..he is very easy to talk to…takes advice..she fights help and is stubborn 😣

[@nighthawk_predator1877]

LOL Not possible. I'm hurtling towards the abyss all the while my loved one is oblivious to all of it.

[@margaretsprinkle405]

Spot on. Well said. Now my new motto. Thank you.

[@eandsm4620]

She's extended an invitation to us, to change our thinking. 🙏

[@sineaden.8232]

Agreed. I say “ the avalanche is coming.” Always strive to find humor in life .

[@Itsgloriasway]

That’s so not true. Sometimes we tend to think that they don’t understand or know what’s going on. I always test my mom abilities by asking her questions and making it mandatory that she responds and interact. Some people think that I’m being annoying but no it is keeping her mind going. They can talk. I realise they can do certain things but if you don’t push them to do it they’re not gonna do it. they tend to seem like their to weak. This is why I constantly pushed my mom to keep her mind strengthen as long as possible. After 10yrs. she’s still walking and help cooking. Always evaluate your loved ones abilities by challenging them. you’ll be surprised .

[@Itsgloriasway]

she gave great info. It do work.

[@csillaczako1582]

You can name it whatever you want, external focus control or depression, but when the loved our doesn't want to move to a better place, doesn't care what will happen to the child who gave up their lives to caregiving how happy can one be. Oh come on....

[@Scotty-Z70]

what is the difference between Flying Squirrel and Tanooki Mario?

[@Scotty-Z70]

what did the fox say?