How Did You Know You Were Gay?

[@kklg2011]

"NOT EVERY WOMAN WHO'S NOT FEMININE IS GAY" PREACH 👏👏

[@ellen3626]

my life

[@melissabergendahl4651]

True! And not every feminine woman is straight.

[@dragonmaid1360]

kklg2011 so many double negatives

[@noah.6o4]

kklg2011 wtf NOT EVERY GUY WHO IS FLAMBOYANT IS GAY PREACH👏👏

[@lizziechristian]

I saw this just as she said it

[@theorosef]

before I knew I was gay I just thought I was the World's Most Passionate Ally

[@sofiaflick3541]

Oh my god same! I always was so obsessed over gay ships and stuff but now I am gay so it all works out lol

[@qqperfect5292]

Me too 🙂👍🏾

[@nathinu09]

This was my me my whole high school years, supporting my best friend who is bi and defending her against everyone, right until in college I found myself making out with a hot girl

[@emmabloom1793]

In every tv show I would only ship gay couples and I always wonered why. I guess this mystery has been solved by the fact that I'm gay🙂

[@morganick]

Sameeee Then I just went okay I don't care what gender I like. I am pan.

[@anjelicamendez288]

“Society sexualizing women just made me attracted to them also” me too loll

[@starberrysweetee1495]

Wait is this a gay thing?? Wait a minute

[@blankface.señoritq]

society sexualising men and laughing about it made me mad since men get just as uncomfortable as women :/

[@-ana_banana-2098]

@@blankface.señoritq Don’t do that... we can talk about more than one topic at a time. Don’t say “but men too!” When talking about women issues. We can talk about both

[@blankface.señoritq]

@@-ana_banana-2098 exactly , we can talk about both.

[@zoepieschke9492]

"I don't ever want to die without having sex with a woman" is my life quote now

[@reetupaswan8244]

me too

[@JK-je1vb]

I'm straight so I don't have to have this problem but mad RESPECT to all the people who have to come out

[@alyssac7749]

Thank you!❤

[@henrietjames1645]

Thanks!

[@clairo1342]

Same idk why i'm watching this hahahaha

[@Nikolais_sanity]

Aaaah thats so sweet!💞

[@caitlinbarry4158]

Hi, I'm a lesbian. I've never told that to anyone but DAMNNNN it feels good to just comment that I'm gay bc i live in an anxiety filled bubble everywhere, everyday

[@marinah7295]

Caitlin Barry aw congratulations fellow lesbian i know its freaking HARD...but at least you had the courage to do it here on the public comments of this video and thats really brave of you. It will get better 💪

[@peachica]

it gets better trust me 🙌

[@blueshanks1]

Stfu

[@troymcclure8931]

Caitlin Barry Ok?

[@marinah7295]

why tf are you so mean YOU should stfu

[@icantgetridofthisusernamehelp]

Partially I had always acknowledged that I liked both girls and boys. But I assumed that *_everybody_* did. When I told most of my friends I didn't understand the surprise on their faces. Because I figured everybody was bisexual. . .boy was I wrong!

[@lexi4094]

ꜱᴛᴇᴀᴍɪɴ' ʜᴏᴛ ɢᴀʀʙᴀɢᴇ me

[@mjpink8408]

Whitney D omg same. I realize my sexuality more and more each time...I've kinda thought I was bi but some things have made it more clear to me that I probably am. Like one example, there was some question thing on Instagram and one of the questions of the day said "5 guys you think are hot.." I only thought of 2 guys and it was difficult to think of some other guys that I found attractive. I thought to myself 'I find some guys attractive but I find myself seeing that girls are attractive too..' bc I'd see someone like a female KZbinr and I'd be like "she's so hot omg" (and some guys too). Bc I have found guys attractive before but I'm also seeing that I'm finding girls attractive..

[@MMmm-bg9li]

Rose J. As a straight person, I do acknowledge someone to be beautiful or attractive of my own gender but would I ever want to have anything with them? No.

[@cinesterg6444]

Mary GG mhm true

[@exh-hm2sm]

Robin Colarusso not everyone lol..

[@blegghhh]

how i knew i was gay: after watching a 100 "how do u know ur gay?" videos i was like yeah im probably gay lmao

[@rogerinaisbae9289]

blegghhh literally me 😂

[@martifernandez8]

Same

[@darkrose2199]

blegghhh thats so me... i really should think about it seriously xD

[@slightbirb3204]

"I was just thinking, 'I don't want to die never having had sex with a woman'" omf me

[@ELIZABETHRODRIGUEZ-tq3rg]

Me toooo😂😂

[@TrueCrimeDocumentary000]

fridanotkahlo me

[@mayonaise8970]

fridanotkahlo same

[@nezukodemongirl]

This is literally my thought now and why I clicked on the video LOL

[@tr1667]

Me too🤣🤣

[@blueskies2936]

So I'm pansexual and I'm slyly asking people in the school how they feel about LGBTQ+ while they think I'm straight. I guess you could say I'm a... PAN WITH A PLAN

[@mani4883]

Love that!😂😂

[@drenchedlettuce9121]

I’m pansexual too, I just don’t want to come out. Im too scared.

[@noidea9034]

I’m pansexual 💖💛💙

[@noidea9034]

yobai arts me too

[@crackundbitch3s]

😂😂

[@theavodkado]

Remember the Ashley and Andrew thing

[@ef9143]

The Avodkado I FORGOT ABOUT THAT

[@theavodkado]

E F I remember I was so confused in that Ashley mini-series thing

[@parrisnia72]

The Avodkado Yeah... I miss that

[@RACH1E.]

The Avodkado that was iconic

[@ellacarmel]

The Avodkado I miss it!!!

[@whitneyd6827]

Everything Ella said is my internal dialogue every single day

[@cryptidofthemarshes1680]

Whitney D SAME

[@solangegarnier7473]

Whitney D same omg

[@mjpink8408]

Whitney D omg same. I realize my sexuality more and more each time...I've kinda thought I was bi but some things have made it more clear to me that I probably am. Like one example, there was some question thing on Instagram and one of the questions of the day said "5 guys you think are hot.." I only thought of 2 guys and it was difficult to think of some other guys that I found attractive. I thought to myself 'I find some guys attractive but I find myself seeing that girls are attractive too..' bc I'd see someone like a female KZbinr and I'd be like "she's so hot omg" (and some guys too). Bc I have found guys attractive before but I'm also seeing that I'm finding girls attractive..

[@faux.peaches]

Whitney D Exactly the same

[@taliawilliams7430]

Whitney D pick us at school

[@nikita9693]

ugh rn I am a feminine lesbian crushing on a supposedly "straight" tomboy. DO YOU KNOW HOW FRUSTRATING THIS IS???

[@emmajean3797]

Nikita Michael YEP. RELATABLE

[@teresaohneh7464]

SAME

[@balieymiller8183]

Nikita Michael OMG yes!!!!!

[@panneda8448]

I’m starting to question myself after this video bc I’ve had two huge girl crushes on these two tomboys. I can’t tell if I’m attracted to the gender or that type of personality.

[@ariesfr8070]

YESSSS I TOTALLY DO OMG YES....soo Annoying and they be lookin all good

[@twinklingstarrs5505]

I found out (i wasnt straight) whennnnn I fell in love with my girlfriend ive been dating for almost a year now, (two months until one year)

[@rachellice7316]

Twinklingstarrs congratulations!

[@twinklingstarrs5505]

Rach Ellice c:

[@mal1871]

Twinklingstarrs congratulations for being so brave for coming out and stuff !

[@iiomqmakayla4072]

Same thing happened to me, me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 months, I wish both of you well

[@Ash-ge5uw]

Omg same but it's been 2 months😂

[@irenerodriguez3304]

I grew up in a religious household and I used to pray to God that he would take away the "gayness" from me if it was against his will every single night...it never went away I'm still bisexual af and I'm happy with that fact

[@bcajjasvvjd4183]

If God wanted to make you straight he would have. There's nothing wrong with you.

[@marvinphelps9901]

That was my whole fear coming from such a religious background. People pressuring me to be someone that I wasn't. " Pray the gay away" No one can decide who to be attracted to. It's natural.

[@ItsHollowfied]

I seen crazy stuff on psychedelics, people are gay if someone’s homophobic give em some acid they might find out something they don’t like

[@Ulkamukta]

Aww, honey being gay is normal and totally fine! Why would god just hate someone for their sexuality? Love is beyond gender, religion, sexuality or anything. It is free. We can love whoever we want to. Why would God hate someone just because they love and care for someone? If you love the person wholeheartedly, that's what matters! There's nothing wrong with being gay, I hope every queer person who has a religion realizes that...

[@therealdanfan]

My story is literally Ashly's, down to the secretive watching of The L Word.

[@monkeyliu3]

SAME, it's uncanny

[@sydneyrica1802]

My family knew I watched the L Word and never said anything about it 🤔

[@slenderman-tz6tm]

emma n saaame

[@DiMenaF]

It was on national tv when I was little! So I secretly watched it

[@saint2395]

I still secretly watch The L Word

[@jennyholloway8192]

KZbin doesn't help that much... like I think I'm bi but then I also go through phases of thinking I'm just curious and I'm actually just straight or thinking I'm in denial and I'm actually lesbian 😂😂 idek

[@delormerr]

maybe look into the concept of "compulsory heterosexuality", it could resonate with your experience :)

[@sharvikhot]

Jenny Holloway omg same same

[@megantan8063]

SAME

[@zara.1212]

Jenny Holloway SAME

[@IzzyYacovone]

SAME

[@worldsbiggestholdthegirlfan]

I legit thought I was straight my whole life, then I started playing this app game called Choices and started falling for female characters as well as male. I still have a male preference, but I am pretty sure I am bi. It feels right to say it

[@lactoast477]

iluvharrypotter97 lol, I love Choices! I always go for the female characters.

[@aimeboh3529]

Im bi too. And i have a preference for males aswell!

[@kylib.200]

Eyy me too! I find myself attracted to males more often, but I still do like girls.

[@candacemichelle8345]

That’s great :) it’s ok to like one more than the other. I use to identify as bi but gay felt more fitting, I’m a good 95% female but I experience slight sexual attraction to men, no romantic feelings though so gay just feels right :)

[@alisamcdaniel7005]

I didn't think I was totally straight but then I started liking my best friend which is girl so I told my friends and there friends with her too so they thought I was bi bc I've had crushes on boys before so now I'm bi and I went out with my best friend for a while but then she broke up with me.

[@yourajin6611]

I figured out I was gay when I was bi, I was always attracted to girls way more than guys though. Then I started having experiences with guys that I hated and I tried to immerse myself with girls more to get away from them. Then I realized I barely- or had no romantic feelings towards guys what-so-ever and I was in love with a girl. I realized every time there was a nice girl around I’d gush over them and think they were cute, I’ve never had that experience with a guy.

[@bonepaste_3336]

YouraJin this happened to me as well I realized I was forcing myself into a straight mindset when I’ve never been interested in boys. A lot happier now that I know I like girls only

[@courtneyhartung8290]

I am a tomboy not gay so thank you for recognizing that it is a thing!!!!

[@dunnotck1]

I'm a tom boy and not gay too! Wanna ride mountain bikes, play basketball or go camping??

[@beanhead7632]

I’m a tomboy and I ammmm Gayyyy...... lol yep, u heard me. But that’s true, I know a lot of tomboys who are straight/or just bi/etc. doesn’t necessarily mean ur gay if ur a tomboy !!

[@breeee95]

I'm on youtube too much

[@Gamefan1276]

true

[@helenemierswa8587]

same sis

[@travelingtravelor]

hah same

[@briannagarcia6066]

Yo we got the same name

[@ka3yak]

Brianna Garcia same

[@sisterstina3700]

I'm straight and feel very alone in this comment section.But I'm so happy for everybody who finally found their real self💕

[@XxDreamPoolxX]

Thanks for being straight bc now you can procreate and more gay children can appear lmao

[@yourbasicwhitegirl3435]

Thank you 💕

[@hannahr6328]

Same here sis 😂😂😂

[@darkrat5252]

If only all straights were as accepting as u!!

[@poppyrose1549]

I think am too

[@Panna300]

I’m so confused about my sexuality. I like boys a lot but there’s something about girls that attracts me too.

[@hollyroberts3821]

Maybe you're bi//pan??

[@mani4883]

You may be bisexual or you could be pansexual

[@larasamara4295]

Try to be attracted by personality or something like that. Without thinking about gender. You may get your answer :) if you really like the person, the attraction just comes...

[@yeetermanyeetsyoutothegarb5489]

Yeah same 😕😣

[@partypoison4730]

Your bi curious buddy

[@redlightning9363]

I'm a lesbian I've never told anyone that I know because I'm to scared to :`( But I want come out I'm just way to scared

[@salomewismer6829]

Just get a girlfriend, then you don’t have to tell anyone. That’s what I did

[@blueskilla6]

Kairi Castillo have u come out yet

[@angelinesalinas2433]

Well, I feel you. I don't know how to come out.

[@bonepaste_3336]

I came out to my older sister two days ago because I already knew she was bi, so she accepted me. Still not out to my parents but other than that I’m open about my sexuality to the point where people probably get annoyed by how often I talk about being gay. There are some bi and pan kids at my school that I know (all my LGBT+ friends live across the country RIP) so I’m the lonely lesbian (at least the only out one)

[@kenzbug2365]

Me too. I'm bisexual and I have no idea why I haven't come out since I know a lot of accepting people. I guess I'm just scared of the questions I'll receive.

[@darknesspixie7669]

i now believe that i am gay. i fit all of those criteria. goddamnit. i've been lying to myself my whole life.

[@lytheprettygirl]

darknesspixie 💀😂💀

[@panneda8448]

darknesspixie Actually same. I’ve had two crushes before which I assumed were just girl crushes (actually I’m still not sure what they are) on two tomboys. I can’t tell if I have a tomboy fetish or I’m gay lol

[@theBallisticMystic]

Panned a If one of those crushes is Jen from Ladylike, it doesn't count as gay XD

[@bonepaste_3336]

If I just really realized I’m fully into girls. I went by pan before I realized it was forced heterosexuality and I don’t have any interest in boys and never have. It’s certainly a trip lololol. Sometimes I feel kind of doubtful for no reason, and just uncomfortable despite never having any attraction to boys and finding girls 10/10 👌

[@bonepaste_3336]

It’s a lot easier for me to say I like girls more than calling myself a lesbian for some reason

[@NiniannE]

even I know it was fictional, I was hopping for Ashdrew...

[@ogechiuradu8807]

me 2

[@sad_loner]

NiniannE same

[@NiniannE]

Like I said "I know it was fictional"... To bad people don't understand the difference between fiction and reality. We lost a good sketch because of it, apparently...

[@djpussyfart]

mia s ashly is dating chantel lmao she's gay

[@InimitableVampire12]

NiniannE same

[@emmaelisha1339]

bisexuals are valid. too many ppl in and out of the community give bisexuals a hard time. it might be a title but for me personally I'm proud of it. I'm not gay because I like guys to. I won't ever say I'm gay because being gay and being bisexual is vveerryyy different. don't smush them together to me it takes something away from both parties

[@sojansetly6810]

And I used to ship Andrew and Ashly....

[@maryandchild]

then you have no gaydar.

[@nopenopenopenopenope4101]

is there really such a thing as gaydar :/

[@maryandchild]

a human honestly, not for straight people. but gay people always know their own.

[@roshn.i]

ashly isnt only into women tho

[@moriah28]

*스* she's dating chantel lmfao

[@idiot5214]

Ashly is gayyy? Man I always had this crush on her. Thats just awesome

[@biboba604]

She's bi

[@laorinfilet6579]

Lol I was walking into church and I saw this girl and legit the only thought running through my head was: "Oh, great, I'm gay." 😂 I was nine

[@TheMoonShining]

Guys seriously. Nobody's gonna put up a video explaining how they found out they're straight because that's considered to be the 'default' anyway. You don't 'figure out' - You have the luck to just *be*. Imagine if someone put up a video that says "HOW I FOUND OUT THAT I AM NOT ADOPTED" 😤 Some of you feel so uncomfortable when there's any kind of conversation that isn't specifically about you lmao

[@traviamento4670]

gece 👏👏👏👏👏

[@teeare9472]

gece Indeed, it may sound wrong. But you're lucky if you're straight. Because NO ONE can deny there's still so much hate in the world against being gay. Part of that hate is because a lot of people are religious. Which makes religion a stupid thing in my opinion.

[@siso9292]

Tijn omfg thank you, i hate religion

[@BETTERTHANYOULOLZ]

why are you guys so triggered lol

[@catrinab3118]

I get your point and I agree with it for the most part. I feel like they may be talking about when they actually accepted it. Being bi myself, it took a while to fully accept it or even realise it for me. Because I was attracted to guys, I just assumed that me liking a girl was just because we were best friends. It took until high school for me to realize why I was so much more invested in these relationships with girls then they were. Even after I realized it, it took me years to accept what I am. Like I said, not disagreeing with you at all, you make a really valid point :) just telling you, from personal experience, that I actually did have a realization, even though the attraction was always there

[@TheLittleFangirl]

1:43 for a long time I tried to justify looking at girls walking by in a hetero way and then I started realizing that I did the exact same thing with boys and everything just clicked lol

[@alishanasir3539]

Can you help me get out of the closet SERIOUSLY I HAVE BEEN STUCK HERE FOR 5 DAYS SeNd HeLP

[@mani4883]

Have you escaped yet?

[@point_decascadia]

*I’m in the closet with my grandparents, and I always will be*

[@llosgipontydd]

Five days? Just wait till that turns into five years... it’s very cramped and dark in here :)

[@Champitoinwonderland]

I've been in the closet for 10 years ans I still don't know hot get out of it... Sorry I cannot help you :(

[@m_dawg03]

I like big girls Ettey bitty girls Mississippi girls In the city girl I like the pretty girls With the bow ties Get ya nails did let them blow dry I like a big bush I like a clean slate I don’t discriminate

[@simontarot1667]

*GASP* TIK TOK!

[@_b.h8956]

I love these videos with Ashley and Ella... PLEASE MAKE MORE OF THESE - it helps someone like me help finding themselves, and things I can relate to

[@yelyahfan88x94]

So Ashley is full-gay now? And Ella too? I literally had no idea.

[@fourkurodani9924]

Yelyahfan88 x yeah, thought they both were bi.

[@horselordd]

Yelyahfan88 x did y'all watch the video

[@aaliyahs3332]

ella is dating hannah

[@wutudoingtherebuddy135]

bluu e who the hell us hannah? I completely forgot

[@tunesquicklee]

Hannah Hart. I ship it SO HARD.

[@TheSomeawesome]

Pretty sure most people at Buzzfeed are LGBT+. But there shouldn't be anything wrong with that. They're one media company out of hundreds with this kind of majority, that probably comes from their work environment embracing sexuality, and it's kind of awesome. Time and time again people complain about their "gay" content. Well that's what they do and that's what they are. Don't like their content? There are plenty of other channels to watch and enjoy.

[@ItsAshPerez]

OMG UR MY HERO FOR THIS COMMENT

[@maryandchild]

the thing is, most of their employees are clearly straight, they just hire gay people and foster a workplace where gay people can be out and comfortable, so it seems like "most" to us. but remember the company has hundreds of employees who don't even appear on camera.

[@derekg5563]

I mean, if a person who doesn't like their content feels like saying that they don't, that's up to them. They can watch videos they don't like if they want to. Depends on what they want, and you can't decide that for them. I mean, it seems practical enough to just look for videos that you do like, but then again, humans have ideas that they like to express with people, and telling them to hold it all in seems kind of extreme. If you want to do that, fine, but not everyone is going to choose not to express themselves, whether it's a positive or negative opinion. Everyone has lots of negative opinions; it doesn't make them bad people. It's a normal part of the human experience. We observe what we like, what we don't like, what we want to do in life, what we don't want to do in life, etc.

[@yuu-xi3ou]

ok but honestly ashley is too good for buzzfeed. I think if she left she could have her own channel and it would be popular, like Michelle, Safiya, Gaby and Allison.

[@madi9852]

How I found out I was gay- One summer, me and some of my old class went to a Water park. No, it wasn’t summer school, it was like a reunion because we were starting a new year two weeks later. Anyways, I was swimming in a free pool, with my friend, I will call her E. My Best Friend, A, approached us and looked at me dead in the eye and said “(We will call him C) C wants to know if you will date him.” And in that moment, I was like, I’ve never felt this way about a guy. And I said no, I felt bad but...just no. A few years passed and I was sitting in science class, and about halfway through and I realized I was staring at the most popular girl in school. And I looked away hoping she never saw me, and things crossed my mind, then I thought... “Oh my god I’m gay”

[@SamanthDarling]

It took me a long time to accept my sexuality cause I knew I liked guys and as sad as it sounds, I wasn't sure bisexuality was a real thing. I grew up knowing that being gay was normal but bisexuality wasn't really addressed so I only really knew of it through faint whispers. Even after coming out I doubt myself a lot. I kept thinking "well what if I don't like going down on women? Does that make me straight? How will I know until I do it? That would be awkward"At this point, I can confirm I am a bisexual lady and everybody I've ever met is collectively mumbling "yeah...we already knew"

[@faha8812]

lol but how did they know?

[@faha8812]

Uma Allen Yes, but I only have one for gays. Bisexual is also tricky because in my culture people either expect you to be gay or straight, not bisexual so I don’t know anyone that is one (or they are probably in a closet) and I don’t have any reference to work on.

[@danssaddimple9133]

i think i'm bi at least in the romantic area because i have had crushes on guys and girls. i also have the "what if I don't like going down on women" thought quite often because i think i wouldn't enjoy it that much. but at the same time i'm not really into giving head to guys either so i guess i'm just not into oral :D

[@TheAmandaMAYshow]

I'm not gay but I still check out girls and think their cute

[@sigh.enough.2987]

Then you're gay. You might not be acting on it or even accepting it, but you are gay.

[@Goat.Cheese]

That's cause girls are cute! I think you can be straight as an arrow and still check out people of the same gender. Girls are just nice to look at :)

[@sammy5942]

Books and Skin not necessarily. girls call each other cute all the time and sometimes we could look at someone pretty and think "wow this girls cute" you arent necessarily "not accepting youre gay" thats not really how it works these days

[@sigh.enough.2987]

+Emily If you say so.

[@sigh.enough.2987]

+Sammy Sosa "thats not really how it works these days" What does the era have to do with this? Whether it's 2017 or 1917, one is what one is, and if one is checking out members of the same sex for pleasure, what one is, is gay. Nothing wrong with that, but one should at least be honest with oneself.

[@cjward286]

You know this video just made me think of this but nowadays if you say you're gay or bi or something people will immediately assume it's for attention like rlly do think we want to be bullied or hated like rlly

[@faustadonauskaite5853]

Respect whamen

[@aurorabowman1668]

Fausta Donauskaitė REEEESSSSPPPAAAAAACCCCCTTTT THE WWHWHHWHHHHAAAAAAAMMMMMMMMAAAAAANNN

[@darciestimpson8904]

respect da whamen

[@theresiakreidy5651]

my name Jeff

[@giuliam9645]

Fausta Donauskaitė wAmen

[@richcarp3538]

Thank you 😆

[@anthonysoutavong]

my gay awakening was when i was younger, i watched the Princess Diaries and when Anne Hathaway was having her "princess lessons" i would participate along

[@ohawott6643]

I knew I was bi/gay (I'm more into girls than guys, but I will still date them) when I went on a cruise last summer and I started to feel nervous and then I realized I had a crush on her 😅

[@sagerowe2065]

want to be friends??

[@nishkathe5342]

I still dnt get what's wrong with word bisexual. I do get the whole not labelling thing but still we worked so hard to make bisexual valid in the LGBT community.I worked HARD for that label.People not identifying or calling it too "specific" kinda makes people afraid to identify as bi. Not to mention add to the stigma of what is it like being bisexual is actually like. Whenever a person is not straight and if asked are they bi it's like they just run away from the word like " oh nooooooo I like boys and girls but THAT B WORD MUST NOT BE NAMED"

[@AsdfAsdf-mi6ks]

Nishka The i feel. I cringe at the thought of bi and would rather use queer. But in matter of face I do believe I’m Bi. Idk. Also I don’t want to use it because it feels like this great big commitment to it. I know bisexuality isn’t 50 straight 50 gay, but that’s how some people perceive it... so... I totally get what you’re saying, but I like the label “queer” if I had to use anything.

[@bonepaste_3336]

It’s not about being ashamed or thinking it’s bad, its just that labels can sometimes feel uncomfortable to someone. As for me I’m a lesbian but I’d rather go by just gay, considering to me lesbian makes me feel boxed up and it feels oddly specific. Don’t know why it just doesn’t fit me despite me being completely into girls. It’s more so just the thought of being boxed up and defined I think that’s so unappealing, not the word itself. I have a best friend and ex who calls herself bi but I definitely relate more to not having a specific label no matter what my sexuality was.

[@Esqm]

gay or not. i like these videos, it helps the new generation figure it out. our world is a lot more accepting now but it doesnt mean people still dont struggle thumbs up buzzfeed

[@Alternativebandaid]

OITNB is the new L World ...

[@camillacaporale8416]

hayley will true

[@Amber-oc9ih]

Yep I have a secret Netflix acc to watch oitnb

[@alisdemierda]

hayley will yessss

[@PeepsILoveEllie]

this has been such an online journey for Ashly

[@PotatoKing16]

I'm so grateful for Ella's experience and her vocabulary to explain it! It was especially helpful talking about how society sexualizes women and the confusing mental space of attractIVE vs attractION

[@BrianDWong]

I root for gay couples... but I'm also still rooting for ashdrew

[@koribb27]

Brian Wong same... the struggle is real.

[@sigh.enough.2987]

Let it go. Andrew doesn't even act in Buzzfeed videos anymore, unless one counts making faces as one eats food to be acting.

[@garreraj]

I'm pretty sure Ashly is dating Chantel...

[@kaehume4742]

lol she's dating Chantel so good luck with that

[@bristimc]

Brian Wong I USED TO HARDCORE SHIP ASHDREW BUT IS ASHLY ACTUALLY DATING CHANTEL?!?! IF SO I AM SO HAPPY FOR THEM

[@slauthordraws3363]

Imagine being offended by this lol

[@willows6114]

Sarah-Jean Lindsay Ikr? Like, how is this video offensive 😂

[@Ok-vr8fu]

ikr, like ppl nowadays get offended for literally anything, it's insane lol.

[@sammers3826]

Kate Black Gay is an “umbrella term” if you’re bi, pan, or anything in between, you can ca yourself gay if you wish. -a lesbian

[@boydotheyhavefun]

@@Rae-eu1zb she literally called herself gay. if you experience attraction to the same gender as yourself and feel comfortable using it, i'm pretty sure it's fine.

[@bellaallen371]

Why does everyone judge people by their Sexuality? That doesn't define you. It's ok to be gay or straight etc, just as long as you stay true to yourself and be you! If anyone is worried about people judging them don't be! They should be judging you by your character.

[@spillit5971]

“Hi, I’m lesbian.. I thought you were American.”

[@ArkadianDream]

God i love this video. It makes me so happy that kids or whoever these days have stuff like this on youtube and the internet in general.. it really lets you know that whatever you are is okay and you can just chill out.

[@schinreddy]

Wait they're both not straight? Nothing wrong with that but I feel like working at Buzzfeed makes you embrace your sexuality more

[@waheedakhan6273]

Sometimes I think everyone at Buzzfeed is gay

[@clarrizdaniel2635]

It happens, when you're in an environment who is very accepting you'll start to become more comfortable

[@bubbavazquez]

Idk I feel like it's forced and no one cares if they are gay or not.

[@monroycarolina6907]

Buzzfeed, the gay whisperer

[@Kareragirl]

+bubbavaszquez If no one cares, why are all of you here and commenting? Sexuality is interesting to most people.

[@milicasnow5833]

Ella is so goddamn cute (she's Hannah Hart's gf if you didn't know)

[@fooolsun4917]

And this is why we need representation on the media. Lately people complain, saying that we want to make everything gay, and that it might confuse kids, but they don't think on gay kids, we were so confused and nobody cared! I didn't know that being lesbian was a thing until I had internet. I grew up feeling wrong, broken, confused. I had a lot of ugly experiences that could have been avoided if there was a lesbian character on TV. Not everyone is heterosexual and cisgender. Keep that on mind, please.

[@qqperfect5292]

Astro Bear You’re so right!

[@yoanapeycheva9499]

This is one of my favourite channels you inspire me and it’s great to hear all this good things from thinking people! Thank you!

[@maryjo_p]

It's cool how similar Ella's experience has been to mine. Like I never had crushes on anyone I knew when I was younger, but then as I got older I just slowly started realizing and accepting that I looked at women and men the same way as potential partners. It's also nice to hear other bi people talking about their experiences because you don't see it much, so thanks!

[@halidi3740]

im pretty sure andrew has real girlfriend, can you guys make like a sketch featuring andrew and his girlfriend and ashly smiling watching them and the she moved on with her gay girlfriend? this ashdrew thing makes me uncomfortable

[@folkwhore8322]

halidi What? The dry ashdrew? Yeah, we didn't get a close to the ship. They just abandoned it like wtf

[@oof-rr5nf]

Let it go. I do not think they owe us that. It has been dead and buried for so long. Plus I get, like, shipping real people as a concept but who are we to determine who ends up with who IRL. That is just weird.

[@pinkekartoffel2500]

I'm also always looking on the girls in the streets, even a lot more than on the boys. But that's because i compare myself to them. Thus that make me think about it

[@isaaclooper4260]

You need to quit comparing yourself to people your not gonna be. Just be you.

[@lyndat4602]

pinke kartoffel i check girls all the time now it made me wonder if im bi.. maybe i just havent met the right girl

[@CL-ep3jq]

Culieatumami Why do girls look at each other sexually. I mean you have the same body parts why not look at you assets.

[@edanury.9672]

Same, I’m comparing myself to them and when I realized that i was looking at girls more than I was looking at boys I thought I was bi but now I’m pretty sure I’m not and I was just comparing myself to them😂

[@moonlightbabe7918]

I realized about a month ago that there was this girl in my class who used to be friends with me in 2nd grade but she left me in 3rd grade because I was kind of bratty and rude. I was so devastated and instead of moving on like a normal person for the next 5 years I was crazy about her, I always used the excuse of I just want to be her friends because I don't have any in my class, but who gets so nervous around a girl that they blush and can't speak with them, feel the need to look pretty just for them, and try hard to "be friends" with them like that? It was obvious I was crushing on her but I never realized it until recently lmao 😂 unfortunately she's straight and doesn't even go to my school anymore.

[@villanelle2.0]

Ashly's laugh at 3:32 is so pure and cute ❤❤

[@VivekPatel-ze6jy]

0:48 I'm so lucky to have an LGBTQIA group at school (also adding the A because I have an asexual friend who feels really underrepresented)

[@honeylemon1337]

I didn't know the left girl was gay

[@Amber-zg4zo]

Venecia Tartt She's dating Hannah Hart

[@Custom_Cosmic]

noohlignuj wtffff

[@sofiacosta4054]

The girl on the left is Ella and on the right is Ashley...

[@lkm5377]

The girl on the left is dating a famous youtuber named Hannah Hart. She’s on some of her vids too

[@lesline1601]

yeah she's dating hannah hart, and i didn't know ashly was gay too lmao she's dating chantel 🙉

[@lolzmcgee2363]

For those who didn't know Ella is daring Hannah Hart (MyHarto)

[@Ada-xr6bj]

Why I always forget that KZbin comments are trash

[@jasongracesonofzeus]

Well, I'm bisexual and I know it coz I've felt attracted to boys and girls since a young age. But I've never told anyone about it, because I've always seen heterosexual relationships around me, and when I got to know that being attracted to anyone other than the opposite sex is not normal, I've not tried telling anyone. Except for venting it out on the internet.

[@kate_6436]

YO BUT I DID ALL THESE THINGS 😂 and yet I was STILL like "No they're just girl crushes every girl has girl crushes" NO THEY DONT KATE. THAT WAS A SIGN.

[@jadalynnunger5819]

My dad caught me watching The L Word when I was 10. He and my sister had just got home from the store. My sister said, "Stop watching that! Its about lesbians, it's gay!" My dad told her it was ok because I was a girl and had the same parts Well...

[@cosmix02]

I knew I was gay since I was about 4-ish I had crush on my best friend Paul, he had the warmest hugs. I also had a crush on my best friend Max when I was 7, he was so tall and he had the warmest hugs, he had beautiful hair and he was so content and nice, he would sometimes just tell me to lay my head on his shoulder when I was sad. Because I was teased a lot along with my group of friends. But I could always count on Max in second grade to make me feel better. But sadly it was not meant to be because he moved.

[@anonomus8709]

Ella's gay? Edit: I didn't "assume" anything, I just didn't know.

[@sofiacosta4054]

Lisa Marie yes she's gay and she is with Hannah hart ❤❤

[@marine6271]

I think she said several times she was bi? But in a gay relationship

[@Luenysgo]

NINI from I Hart Food Hannah Hart?

[@jaymii-leekilg0331]

I've never labelled my sexuality. I like girls and I like guys but I don't label myself as bisexual. Because I'm attracted to personality and sense of humour. So I don't go looking to just date a guy and I don't go looking to just date a girl. I believe in if I fall in love with someone it doesn't matter what their gender is and I don't believe I should put a label on my love for someone else. I could fall in love with either gender but I'm not bisexual. I just love who I love. This confuses a lot of people but I just don't believe I should have to put a label on the people I fall in love with. Anyone else like this?

[@swagduckbossface8512]

I love Ashly’s hair! It looks so good on her!

[@Onnethox]

Everyone at buzzfeed gay?

[@jeffdaman6969]

Onnethox That's what I'm saying lol

[@silentazn17]

Onnethox one of the requirements to work there

[@Jemstoness]

Onnethox not Ned

[@waheedakhan6273]

Jemstoness so true he always mentions his wife in every try guys video

[@agnes8158]

wait ned has a wife??

[@FatimataJallohSquidBrains]

Since when were gay and bisexual the same thing?

[@rachelwalsh7050]

gay can be used as an umbrella term for same gender attraction.

[@emmaelisha1339]

Fatimata Jalloh ikr. hell no because that would invalidate bisexual ppl. considering bi ppl already have a hard time in the community (surprising ik) gay shouldn't be the umbrella term. a bisexual person is bisexual not gay they're very different

[@adl1578]

so if I like women and sometimes men, I'm not allowed to say I'm gay? I have to call myself bisexual? Is it wrong for me to call myself gay? I'm not asking in an accusatory way, I'm just unsure

[@FatimataJallohSquidBrains]

AD L If you were to think of it from the opposite end, would a bisexual person also want to call themselves straight because they have opposite sex attractions? I think that answers the question.

[@julydelarue3024]

I like men and women and i openly refer to myself as both gay and bisexual and sometimes pan. I've always heard gay as synonymous to queer or just "not straight" but I can see how some folks of the bisexual/ pan community might have a problem with that.

[@darciestimpson8904]

i love that girls top😍

[@elizabethrushman9083]

Darcie X hey

[@megbeetle7630]

Darcie X same

[@daymarehotline]

*which one*

[@sarahfiersgf2784]

Darcie X same

[@eatscherries]

i read that as i love girls that top

[@samlouise8203]

I’ve just came out to my mum and sister....... I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders

[@mila-eu2nz]

I am only 14 and I am openly bi. I found out when I had a crush on this one guy and he had a girlfriend after some time I realized I had a crush on his gf too! Unfortunately I never got to be in a relationship with any of them. I am so very happy that there are people like me because I was quite bullied for being who I am and after watching videos of this type I got more confident and asked a girl out. Now we’re a happy teen couple❤️

[@sulkychild8597]

I'm trying to figure this one out, I'm not too fussed about it, my sexuality will pop out. It's just annoying wondering if Its like a girl crush or a crush crush? Although I know if I'm not straight it will be bi.

[@rabbitfighter333]

SulkyChild hun, trust me, i was in the same position a year ago. a girl crush-surprise- is a crush crush. theres no need to hurry yourself into labeling, though. just know that sexuality is as fluid as you perceive it.

[@Molly-bw3zn]

lady grinning soul Yeah, when I didn't know that I was, I used to call them 'Friend crushes' because I thought I wanted to be their friend. But I was wrong xD

[@emmab508]

Biromantic asexual here, hello, I realized I was asexual when I fell in love with my best friend, but I didn’t want to do anything with her, I just wanted to love her. Then when it didn’t work out I started thinking about it, and I’ve never had sexual feelings about any person, I’ve never found someone attractive past aesthetics, if their face is attractive I usually want to get to know them but I’ve never wanted to have sex with anyone I thought was cute. Also yes I’ve gone through puberty, I’m a high school senior, almost college freshman

[@kristenisawesome08]

"I have such a friend crush on her"

[@minhchaulai5412]

So I was reading Doraemon and I saw Shizuka in a bath.

[@BillieBottle]

Anyway know who stocks the camouflage tee-shirt? - I love it!

[@idkkk2560]

*iT aInT nO LIe BAbY Bi bI BI!!*

[@lollirosekitten2687]

I'm straight. I'v always known that because I was flirting with my doctor when I was 4 years old Boy was I interesting

[@lytheprettygirl]

Lolli Rose {Kitten} I’m gay but this comment is hilarious

[@alishashiva4934]

Lolli Rose {Kitten} 😂😂

[@awkwarddumbass6949]

Lolli Rose {Kitten} He must've been so uncomfortable oml 😂

[@XxDreamPoolxX]

Ew

[@lavan6298]

The number of likes on this comment is 69 no one can is now allowed to like or unlike this

[@suzannahe.h6596]

How did I know I was gay? I got a huge crush on my best friend. we both made jokes about not being straight so much that we joked around about being in a relationship. that was a difficult time

[@megamaayo1285]

Lady: Im Bi BuzzFeed: How did you know you were gay?

[@howcomeseriously4401]

I couldn't relate to this more than I ever do My friends always talk about male singers and that's me the only one who have a huge crush on female singer I can't let my eyes off them They're so attractive so cute so pretty so adorable I am always obsessed to intelligent / strong / smart / sexy / cute female lead character I thought I just wanted to be like them but now I grow up and already realize that " I LIKE GIRL "

[@rachaelpoulin1997]

I didn't have a lot of signs I was Bi growing up, but one day I just kinda realized I was in love with one of my friends and it all fell into place.

[@ChaseGamesify]

don't call yourself homophobic if you live in a home

[@rubberchicken1219]

Don't call yourself racist when you've never won a race

[@balloons2388]

Chizzy Chase Don't call yourself sexist if you are a virgin.

[@AkiraAlexisSoyra]

Nice!

[@darknesspixie7669]

you don't call yourself ageist if you're not an age ... oh... OH YEAH THAT DOESN'T WORK

[@hermionegranger5046]

You are valid.

[@alex-pj6oy]

Hermione Granger is always right.

[@shysunny6392]

I watched this video hoping to find a better understanding of myself. What I found was a better understanding and appreciation of this channel. Thanks

[@SalterEA]

3:14 -- Yoooo!!! Ella, you're a fool for that one!!! LMAO

[@Robin_Sumi]

I'm bi...... My crush changed her top when I was in the room with her....... That was the most "why you gotta do this to me" Moment

[@mikajoseph623]

I excepted I was gay, I've definitely always gay

[@alixgiggles5329]

Wow. The one about sexualizing women in the media is so me. I still don't know though. I need to just hook up with a girl to figure it out or something lol

[@person6306]

I wasn't sure what I liked. In elementary school I always had crushes on boys. As I grew, I found myself seeking the attention of girls. Didn't ever label myself because I wasn't sure what I was. My mom would always ask because she was always in my business but I knew my mom would support me no matter what. Later I found out she just wanted me to admit I was into girls because I really like Ariana Grande (I don't like her in a sexual way, despite what my mother thinks) I'm still not sure what I am but I just prefer not to have a label. I like who I like, what's between their legs doesn't matter.

[@irisolympia]

Ashly's glasses are so cute and she is so cute 💞💎