How does grief feel?

Tina, Dan, Tasneem and Ella share their experiences of grief. If you’ve been bereaved, you might find that there are some things you can relate to. But you might find that your experience is different - and that’s OK too.
For more support with grief, visit mariecurie.org.uk/support or call the Marie Curie Support Line on 0800 090 2309. Calls are free from landlines and mobile phones. Calls are confidential but may be recorded for quality and training purposes.
This video was published in January 2020. If you have any feedback about it, please email us at [e-mail] or call the Marie Curie Support Line.

[@lechat8533]

7:45 The saying that one`s heart is broken feels very literally when it happens to you. You literally feel your heart breaking into pieces. With hard work, you can try to patch it together piece by piece. Then, when you survive the worst crisis, you still feel that your heart is only "stitched together". Eventually, when you`ve done enough inner work, there comes the time when you feel your heart as a whole organ again. Everybody goes through this process very differently and nobody has the right to lecture you about how long it takes to feel whole again. When it happened to me, I couldn`t believe how real this saying was. It took me 5 years and a whole lot of work to feel that my heart was in its normal one-piece state again.

[@annemiller9445]

Yes. I just wrote this too. It’s perfect.

[@jp-4243]

Oh my goodness I could watch this forever I so relate to EVERYTHING I’ve just watched. Thank you 😊

[@fashunpuss6279]

You can feel it in your heart. My Mum went in for heart surgery one month ago yesterday and died one month ago tomorrow. My heart hurt the whole time and has not stopped hurting since.

[@sullivancullen2589]

pro trick : watch series at flixzone. I've been using them for watching lots of of movies lately.

[@landryayaan5215]

@Sullivan Cullen yup, been watching on Flixzone for since december myself :)

[@Karen-pk3uv]

How does grief feel? It hurts. It causes literal pain. You feel like you are suffocating. Imagine being force-choked. Clawing at your throat trying to get air, but there isn't a physical object or person suffocating you so there isn't a thing you can do. Every signal your brain is firing off is screaming "gotta breathe. Can't breathe. Gotta breathe. Can't breathe" over and over and over. Fear responses kick in, which is why people become violent (fight), run away (flight), collapse (freeze/play dead) or laugh/think your joking (friend).

[@jacquelinestewart3682]

Was very good. Informative. So honest.

[@prs263]

Thank you for making this video, it gives me comfort knowing that my feelings are normal. Last 2017 i lost my mom to diabetes, then 2018 my husband died of a brain aneurysm. After 2.5 years i was able to accept their passing and move on with my life. However, just when everything in my life was falling into place, 2 weeks ago my dad passed away due to covid. So i am going through the grieving process again, and you never really get used to it.

[@annfoster6116]

I just lost my brother and this is exactly what I am feeling!

[@silversurfer4259]

I've lost my mum and nan within the past two months. This has really helped me. Thank you for making it.

[@annemiller9445]

The heart break and not being to be able to breathe - you don’t know it until it hits. Mine hit too at two years after a divorce. I’m cracked.

[@gerardkinsella6034]

Going through it at the moment the last few months it really tuff heart is shattered like a walking zombie going around with a dark cloud over my head it’s real hard trying to cope and the anxiety is unreal great video with people sharing there stories that are in the same boat ❤🙏

[@vladakorneeva1308]

This is so well made, thank you

[@5MinutePsychology]

I once read that grief is like a glove with nowhere to go. How grief feels is a very good question. The thing is that I think there is no one right answer to it. It is such an individual and such a personal experience that everyone can go through it in a different way and in a different pace.

[@yaredtsegayeart4970]

I said the same thing there's no way she should've died at 25.What happened to her is so unlikely eventhough I worry about her a lot.It was so unlikely.Im glad I found this video

[@walkingthroughlife3517]

i can relate to everything in this video, l have been consumed with grief for the past 8 years, it is so hard to let go....thanks

[@adamryan6915]

I tried to commit suicide in November 2020 by stepping off a 45ft bridge and to this day, the emotional side of what happened can sometimes outweigh the physical impacts. Both of my feet shattered into pieces and since then, it feels as if my entire world has flipped upside down. I feel scared, I feel numb, I feel broken inside. The surgeon said that my feet will never be as they were because they were too badly damaged. Dosent stop me wanting them how they were so I guess that's a form of grief and loss because your grieving a part of your body. And these feelings of being "heart-broken", I feel that, it feels like everyone is about a mile away. It feels like your heart has just shattered with sadness and despair. And with an injury, the grief hurts so much of your own body, it hurts so so much.

[@annemiller9445]

I’m glad you’re still here Adam. I had a life altering physical accident as well and I understand you. You’re not alone.

[@lechat8533]

One month ago, I lost both my mom and my dad due to Covid while fighting for my life in the hospital too. They died in different hospitals on the same day at almost the same hour. I am still in shock. I wish I could cry to release at least some of the pain, but I can`t. I know my case is no exception. The people who created this disease in their labs managed to destroy millions of people`s lives and families.

[@tadilatha]

I lost my husband on May 3rd night due to covid, I was not with him to comfort that thought kills me so badly. Not a day passed I didn't cry

[@zeeshaneastchem7387]

I lost my beloved wife in jan 2021 and from there on i had no wish to live any more life is meaningless brooing like movie.

[@blacksheepgirl]

I lost a good friend I knew for about 21 1/2 years. I feel like a brick. 😞

[@aliyaaliya3866]

My relatives decided to destry my life and didnt even told me of it an awful stoty i can not get of still suffering a lot