HOW EXPENSIVE IS DATING A FILIPINA? | Filipino-Foreigner Dating

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@randyschultz4549
@randyschultz4549 2 жыл бұрын
A true Filipino women dont beg for money!!!!I married my wife and she never asked me for money and is the best wife a man could ask for for Filipino family values!!!!!!!
@JD-ox7dl
@JD-ox7dl 2 жыл бұрын
Not beg for money dear, she stated when u meet and greet the family. They throw a big party to meet each of the family members and the extended family and friends of the family , it would be a big feast though it doesn’t happen often. That’s the Filipino way to welcome and entertain a new comer .
@barista301
@barista301 2 жыл бұрын
I agreed with you Randy your filipina wife is a decent woman usually most pinay’s that don’t ask money are the one’s who are independent working girls.
@jimc3672
@jimc3672 2 жыл бұрын
Wow! So they expect $$$$
@randyschultz4549
@randyschultz4549 2 жыл бұрын
@@jimc3672 my wife didn't want any money only wanted me.we have 2kids been married 10years and happy as can be my wife is awesome!!!!!👌👌👌👌👌👌
@phern2389
@phern2389 2 жыл бұрын
The problem is Jen come over and meet a Filipina in bar then are having sex within the 1/2 hour. The man falls in love and when the girl starts gold digging and money grubbing the guys says ALL FILIPINAS ARE BAD ? 🤣 no. You don’t base all Filipinas/Thais on the bar girls
@teacherjohnsadventure9550
@teacherjohnsadventure9550 2 жыл бұрын
I had lived in and out of the Philippines for 8 years now...I have seen this happen to many foreigners including myself when I first started coming to the Philippines...from what I have seen is alot of the Filipinos think foreigners are rich and expect you to spend money on the family unless they are upper class families....they don't realize that we have different cultures and westerners usually only deal with immediate family not extended ones..my advise is always take gifts to mom and dad and something to share with the immediate family..food and alcohol seems to be appreciated if in the province...be polite and get yourself a hotel close to her family.. So you and your Filipina can leave after a few hours..and visit depending upon your schedule.. Enjoy your visit but set your limits ...you do not have to be an ATM for people you will never see again..
@ede7208
@ede7208 2 жыл бұрын
First time I met my Filipina girlfriend who is now my wife of five years she invited me to meet her family and relatives. I got surprised when she had a welcome party for me and had lots of foods and drinks. My girlfriend found out I loved seafoods and had lots of that cooked for me. I wanted to help pay for the foods and drinks but her and her family wouldn't let me since they said I was their guest. They treated me like a king then and they still do today. Many Filipinos want to get things from foreigners but her and her family are givers who are too shy to ask me for help even if they are struggling. I am very happy and willing to help them if I find out they have some problem especially if they have a health problem and need to see a doctor and get medicine. I was very lucky I met her because my previous girlfriends always asking me to buy lots of expensive things and go on expensive trips and expensive restaurants. My wife and her family were happy and excited if I took them to MacDonalds because they were poor and couldn't afford to go there.
@jimc3672
@jimc3672 2 жыл бұрын
That is a respectful family and a good girl.
@lovemyFilipina
@lovemyFilipina 2 жыл бұрын
Wow you really found a good one that's a rare find indeed in the Philippines I also think I found a good one but we're still in the beginning stages and I'm not going to jump the gun that's for sure but so far so good
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
This is how filipinas and Filipino family's are. They don't cheapen the Philippines with demanding u pay for everything. This female in this video was raised by scammers and is a fool and wrong.
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti my fellow citizens lmao I live in the Philippines in cebu
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti this video u should be ashamed putting out this advice. U know better saying this. It is shameful. Makes philipines look bad. Speak for your own family maby huh. Not for filipines. This is shameful behavior. U know this.
@ricksivley7047
@ricksivley7047 2 жыл бұрын
My tradition is that I don't take extended family and their friends and neighbors out to eat and fancy resorts. Men need to start out the relationship the way they wanted to go the rest of their lives because if they start throwing money around in the beginning then it's going to be expected forever. Have the conversation with your Filipina and let her know that you don't mind occasionally doing something for her parents but also let her know that you don't like the idea that anything is expected of you. You want to help the parents or whoever else because you want to and not because you're expected dude to tradition. Two people coming together in a relationship needs to respect each other's cultures and find a happy middle ground.
@MrWaterbugdesign
@MrWaterbugdesign 2 жыл бұрын
Yes this "it's tradition in the Philippines" is a load of crap. There's no such tradition. If anything the opposite is true. A good Filipino family will throw a party for you, feed you until you can't eat any more.
@davidwood3852
@davidwood3852 2 жыл бұрын
I think this is a tradition that started after after during the first the second world war when the army had lots of supplies and the Philippines and it was everybody's job to get as much as I could
@dragonleg8700
@dragonleg8700 2 жыл бұрын
@@MrWaterbugdesign lol, yes, I'm coming to visit, and they throwing a party for your and I got to pay. Sounds crazy
@laceyedwards8581
@laceyedwards8581 2 жыл бұрын
So, if she is dating a Filipino man do they do the same thing make him pay for everything? Lol, I understand a celebration!
@DavidDavid-dp8oz
@DavidDavid-dp8oz 2 жыл бұрын
I wholeheartedly disagree. There's nothing wrong with throwing a decent party, or taking the entire family to a resort. Why won't you? Most of us can afford it easily and isn't it a nice way to get acquainted with the extended family? I think it's a mindset that we have in the US - to penny-pinch when it comes to people who aren't wealthy. Look at our tax code - all the billionaires pay literally no tax while, I think most of us would agree, the rest of us "regular" folks pay fairly high tax. This is a fact and isn't my main point here - my main point is that do you see any of US getting bent out of shape and asking our representatives to correct that? Hell no! But if we ever get the sense that some "poor" guy got a break that we, the "regular" people, don't get - Lord have mercy! We'll raise a din. I think the same mentality is in play here. Spend money after "poor" people? You gotta be kidding! We love to oil the oily back. By the way, I personally have taken the entire extended family of my Filipina to a resort in Batangas for 3 nights: We rented a large transport van, rented two adjacent houses (each has several bedrooms and kitchen), and we had a blast. I am glad that I did it, and no, nobody took that as a sign of my "unlimited wealth" and started asking for help/loan/etc.
@everyonehasadream
@everyonehasadream 2 жыл бұрын
I could have thrown a party for her family for $500 or I could have used the same $500 to create a "Free Library" for her entire village to enjoy for years. Hmmmm????....Which one did I choose??? I chose the Filipina who wanted me to create a library and a future for her people.
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
Wow a 500$ party? Thats one hell of a party. I think most i ever spent was 175$. And that included a 50-60 kilo live pig. Plus Videoke, tuba, and the works. I believe that was my 65th birthday.
@-whackd
@-whackd 2 жыл бұрын
@@eugenel.ferguson3110 You get 120lbs of pork for $175… seems suspicious
@danceswithwolves7115
@danceswithwolves7115 2 жыл бұрын
I am one foreigner that stood tall and educated my wifes family in the school of hard knocks! They learned very quick this ATM is offline!
@Jason.Graham
@Jason.Graham Жыл бұрын
I would love to know more about how it went if you don't mind?
@nathiibex621
@nathiibex621 Жыл бұрын
Good for you man otherwise you be in financial trouble now
@danceswithwolves7115
@danceswithwolves7115 Жыл бұрын
@@nathiibex621 Filipinos perception of foreigners are we are rich. My response to them is "because we are smart with our money" Its worked out well for 10 years!
@gailmaplesden7380
@gailmaplesden7380 2 жыл бұрын
I think what a lot of Filipina fail to understand is that most foreign men are coming to the Philippines to retire. Their on a budget and not all foreign men are rich and I think expectations are way to high . We are generous for the most part but have already been taken advantage of by western women and will move on if they feel they are back in that situation. As you know foreigners can't own property in the Philippines so asking them to buy land and build a house is out of the question unless married and have proper prenuptial agreement. These are facts and hard truths that need to be expressed as we foreigners are coming for a better life in our retirement. Western countries are expensive to live in and the Philippines and other Asian countries offer more affordable living but if a man has to start supporting a Filipinas extended family then there is no point coming. What happens is the foreign men end up moving the Filipina to the other side of the country away from her family and will offer occasional visits but no more than that so to mitigate the constant berage of people with their hand out .
@bobbruce4135
@bobbruce4135 2 жыл бұрын
You realize that older men don't induce romantic love especially in younger ladies. Hot young dudes can get it anywhere and pay nothing because it's love (requires infatuation). So, it's either retirement (possibly cheaper than the West) you're going for. Or, it's about dating which means $$$. These poorer families are using their daughters to bring them money (a part of their culture). Their retirement plan is finding Western sucker(s) to pay the bills. Peace.
@brucesmith9206
@brucesmith9206 2 жыл бұрын
@Myk's Philippine Journey Mike... I just posted - You gotta be kidding. The first time I met my asawa's family in Davao many many years ago, they threw and paid for a party for the two of us. Since then, none of them expected me to pay for them. In fact, most of the time they won't even let me pay my share when I am out with my buddies having a beer. The family and friends treat me as kuya, tito, daddy or grampa depending on their ages. I am not seen as a puti with a wallet. I am family...
@gailmaplesden7380
@gailmaplesden7380 2 жыл бұрын
@@bobbruce4135 that is understandable as there isn't a social safety net there. It's the guys who choose to reside close to or in proximity to the family that get sucked dry . The Philippines is a big place with 7000 plus islands. All though not are inhabitable but still you can put distance away from them and still enjoy your retirement. The two island rule is real and I personally have no intention of living in a rural province when I can afford to live by the ocean in a higher class neighborhood. If she doesn't want to go that is her choice, more fish in the sea .
@gailmaplesden7380
@gailmaplesden7380 2 жыл бұрын
@Myk's Philippine Journey as you know we have been paying whether married or dating for women our entire lives in one way or another so for us older men it's no surprise that younger Filipinas are looking for financially stable men . The power comes from having the knowledge of this and not letting the L word divert divert you from the facts . A marriage is just a contract and they get broken everyday but it's how you write the contract (prenuptial agreement)that matters. I almost got caught in that trap and I set her straight emediatly that what she thought was going to happen wasn't. I was polite but firm and I have no intention of becoming a welfare program.
@bobbruce4135
@bobbruce4135 2 жыл бұрын
@@gailmaplesden7380 Good advice. Since I know it's not love (requires infatuation both ways) and refuse to be told I'm loved (I'm not delusional), I keep it purely transactional which means I refuse marriage (not love based). But, finding a hot holiday GF isn't easy with all the Only$imps sending money for nothing. Even in the pen-pan catalog days, most of the ladies had zero intention of marrying or being romantic with the foreign suckers that visited them, it was all to just ask for money or costly "dating" with their barkadas. Finding and negotiating a holiday romance in a luxury destination isn't easy and what I like doing. I can't tolerate living there full-time (I get nauseated around churches and babies). Any tips? Peace.
@Oh6Torch
@Oh6Torch 2 жыл бұрын
Well, seems crazy to have to foot the bill for the entire family, the extended family, the cousins, any friends they might have, and whoever else might be around. I would even venture to say that in most cultures, the visitor is often extended every courtesy. So, to ANY foreigner, this “tradition” may seem backwards. Thanks for the heads up.
@dr.detroit2877
@dr.detroit2877 2 жыл бұрын
I think boundaries need to be set in any relationship. Good intensions can be interpreted for weakness and stupidity. If you can't be smart about your finances everywhere you travel to, then you will be that foolish foreigner who is broke in their retirement years with nothing to show for their hard work.
@dr.detroit2877
@dr.detroit2877 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti Let me ask you something, Would you live with a foreigner that didn't want any children nor wanted to get married, but was comfortably rich and promised to take care of you and your family? Of course you would have to be attracted to each other.
@andresripoll4963
@andresripoll4963 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti No matter what couple means two people no more, the rest that compose the couple's families (inlaws) have any right on the couple's economy, any help to the inlaws must be voluntary and not expected as an obligation: Why waisting time flirting and playing a game if we can buy what we call love?
@mr.r.5841
@mr.r.5841 2 жыл бұрын
Good point Sir.
@blessedonefrancis8904
@blessedonefrancis8904 2 жыл бұрын
Treating the whole family is nonsense, meeting a foreigner shouldn't be seen as Santa clause coming to town, that can only happen to some men that can't control their situation.
@patrickperry9061
@patrickperry9061 2 жыл бұрын
Paying for a meet and greet meal for the entire family "initially" doesn't sound like a bad thing.... I personally wouldn't have a relationship with a Filipina who expected me to foot the bill every time we visited her family. I also wouldn't have a relationship with a Filipina who expected me to pay a monthly allowance to her family.... My ideal Filipina should have a decent job, and a family who have the means to take care of themselves..... The idea that I can take a goat, 2 chickens, and a handful of Peso in exchange for their daughter is cringe worthy.... Personally I`ve never been the type of person to pay for anyone's respect or affections... Just my humble opinion.
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
They will expect her to share the blessings. I don't mind buying a couple bags of rice, kick in on the electric bill, and pay for grand pa medicine, every month. If ur that cheap maybe the warmth of a Filipino family isn't for u.
@fredjohnson4772
@fredjohnson4772 2 жыл бұрын
@@eugenel.ferguson3110 Or maybe when I arrive in the Philippines in 3 weeks I`ll look for a Filipino with a decent job, and a family who have the means to take care of themselves..... You do you, and I`ll do me... Just sayin'
@LibertyLover5103
@LibertyLover5103 2 жыл бұрын
There are 2 sides to every coin. There are families both in the Province & the Cities that push their daughter's into a relationship with a Foreigner. Many use the potential Foreigner as the Families new ATM machine. Then there are other's that show restraint. It can get really bad with the onslaught of financial support requests. Especially when the family is obvisously living beyond their means. Ie: A family of 5 with a large house in an expensive area plus the fact they have 6 new cars. Plus you must beware of extended family members that expect for you to fork over the money to start a new business venture. Then the family trying to get you to buy land to build a house for your girlfriend so that she will have a place to live. Then you find out the cost of said land is 4 to 6 times the price per square meter than land offered by a Real Estate office not even 200 meters down the street. You must know when to say No and walk away.
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
@@fredjohnson4772 been here 7 years, i love it. And love all my family, well most all of them. Anyway Good luck and god bless. Curious to know where u go. Cause its a whole different world between the big cities and the isolated provinces. Since im not too into the night life i found a small island was the best fit for me. And most of the foreign guys I've met start out on the bigger cities. But eventually move on down to the more sedated life style. Have a good trip, and luck to you my friend. Im lucky i knew the family i got into for awhile. Her Dad Captain of big fishing boat. So pretty much free fish everyday. And are a very simple family. Don't want a big house or cars, etc. But i know some that expect you to give them the world yesterday. I guess I'm lucky in that regard. Have fun.
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
@@LibertyLover5103 exactly right.
@tman0366
@tman0366 Жыл бұрын
My mother is from Philippines. I live in the states and I just recently subscribed to your channel when it popped up on the recommended videos. I love watching your videos.
@justingreen8514
@justingreen8514 2 жыл бұрын
I am sorry: however, my Dad married my Filipina Mom and he said he went to the province where her whole family lives and they did have most of the families and friends to greet & welcomed him and had a party, and never in the 6 times he visited did he pay for what you called "expected to pay for every cent" and he thinks that the only time that he paid was when he volunteered and invited the family for a gathering but not the whole town but just the immediate families! I agree that helping out with the expenses is the right thing to do and you can't generalize your statement as if all Filipinos demand nor expect what you just said in your topic! Just to let you know my Dad was a USAF pilot during the Vietnam war & well off and my Mom was a seamstress and very poor and so is her family. She is dismayed and a little upset because not all Filipinos are with that unacceptable trait!
@justingreen8514
@justingreen8514 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti I understood what you said but many also may mean a lot. How can you quantify the word "many" means not all? Is it 99% or is it 1% of Filipinas that are seeking a soul mate for life? You don't know exactly the number of women or do you?
@oliverfreeman8067
@oliverfreeman8067 2 жыл бұрын
I am married to my Filipino wifey, and I did as a common courtesy take the family out to the Moon Café in Dumaguete, Philippines. It only costs me $22.50 in American money. It was an honor to spend the time with my family. The time together was worth more than the money spent. So, it is also important to understand what priority is most important. I have decided to invest in the future of our family, than to give our wealth away to others. We started 2 businesses, to support the family with jobs and continual income. We believe in the principle of teaching a man/woman how to fish. So that way we can live for a lifetime. Thanks for sharing this principle.
@Nobumblegumforyou
@Nobumblegumforyou 2 жыл бұрын
That's exactly how I want to do it. What kind of businesses are they?
@deviousj5868
@deviousj5868 2 жыл бұрын
Whew I was scared there for a minute. Big baller time!!
@TheK-PopInPublicAuthority
@TheK-PopInPublicAuthority Жыл бұрын
@@Nobumblegumforyou If you need help just thinking of a business- business is not for you.
@Nobumblegumforyou
@Nobumblegumforyou Жыл бұрын
@@TheK-PopInPublicAuthority funny
@richardlane1130
@richardlane1130 2 жыл бұрын
The FLEECING of a Foreigner! Precedence is set once a foreigner boyfriend pay the entire bill. This act will be expect of him in the future events. The family will think of him as Santa Clause. Since we talking about culture, I see the customs are different for a foreigner versus a local national. If you are invited to meet your girlfriends relatives, they are the host ... NOT the other way around. I always ask myself, "Would they do this, whatever it is (i.e. vacation) on their own peso?" The boyfriends needs to set BOUNDRYS and LIMITATIONS. We all have budgets! The family will also pressure the WIFE for money when the HAT is passed around. The only one paying is the HUSBAND. Do NOT be afraid to walkaway if your treated like an ATM.
@lovemyFilipina
@lovemyFilipina 2 жыл бұрын
You're absolutely right I would do an about face and walk away because I would find that very ignorant in my culture the guest doesn't pay for everybody's meal
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
Any respectable Filipino family will not do what this scammer suggested in this video. The opacity to say she expects it is despicable and for her to even put this type of video out dictates the charictor to her upbringing. Screams scammer
@Niceguy54444
@Niceguy54444 2 жыл бұрын
@@mr.firmhand1949 thank you
@Gurkha9
@Gurkha9 2 жыл бұрын
@@mr.firmhand1949 Right on 👍I have been to other developing countries and the poorest will share whatever they have WITHOUT expecting anything from you
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
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@woodspirit98
@woodspirit98 2 жыл бұрын
When I went there I didn't meet the whole family. It takes time to meet a hundred million people. I did meet her uncle who was the retired former head of the police. We sat down and had a nice interrogation.
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
Ha ha ha. Thats great. I've lived here 7 years and i know a good many of her family. And love them all, some more than others for sure.
@lovemyFilipina
@lovemyFilipina 2 жыл бұрын
Okay that's funny right there 🤣😂
@woodspirit98
@woodspirit98 2 жыл бұрын
I passed the test.
@harleyd9180
@harleyd9180 2 жыл бұрын
My advice would always be, start as you mean to continue. Don’t throw lavish money parties for extended family or provide alcohol unless you expect to keep on doing it every time you visit. There will be enough other requests for money and family support in due course without all that as well.
@lovemyFilipina
@lovemyFilipina 2 жыл бұрын
I 100% agree with you do not let any of them take advantage of you you give them an inch they'll want to take a mile
@globalismoblackman
@globalismoblackman 2 жыл бұрын
@@lovemyFilipina Facts 👍
@scottguessit
@scottguessit 9 ай бұрын
I have seen plenty of your videos. Enough to know your great . A good person. Keep going forward
@johnp4000
@johnp4000 2 жыл бұрын
I would disagree with you, what you are describing is a foreigner being scammed. I have have dated numerous Filipinas and know of many married friends, but have never experienced this party requirement. In fact I notice how at parties Filipinos seem to be keen to show you that they don't need your money, and I had to insist of buying something for the parties, even if it was just a few crates of beer! I am sorry but a guy who falls for this 'pay for everything' is on the road to poverty.
@nemelendez
@nemelendez Жыл бұрын
I am going nuts with a Filipina. The whatever you want syndrome. What are your expectations for the future….whatever we can do together. Do you have any plans…we can plan together. Do you have any goals you want to reach…whatever you want. Sheesh, don’t Filipinas have plans for their future, goals? Sheesh, going nuts trying to find out.
@-whackd
@-whackd 2 жыл бұрын
Wow, if a girlfriend surprised me with a bill for 30 people I don't know at a resort or restaurant, she would not be getting another call or text from me. I'd walk out and leave right there. Also, if her father was a beggar and expected money out of me the first time we met, that would cancel my chances of ever starting a family with them.
@JasperinthePhilippines
@JasperinthePhilippines 2 жыл бұрын
If you are an 80 year old man or over 60 and you have no market value besides your wallet, those are correct statements that you made. But if you are a young foreigner, you do not need to go to a woman’s province and pay for 90 people that is actually incorrect information. Disappointed that you are spreading that message.
@clarence0075
@clarence0075 2 жыл бұрын
As a person that dated 4 Filipino I have never heard of this and if I had to do all this when we first met I would of got the hell out of there. I did not even meet the family until the first week just me and her... One girl did try to get me to build her a house 🤣🤣🤣
@freedomofthepress4675
@freedomofthepress4675 2 жыл бұрын
I date and engaged to a wonderful Filipina I met last summer and have visited her twice now and about to make my third trip for Christmas. My first visit I took her and invited her mom on a 8 day 5 star trip to Cebu and happily paid everything. My second trip I stayed with her and her mom at her home and paid for all the food and utilities and happy to do so. Unfortunately her mom apparently didn't think I was doing enough since I wasn't also handing her over pesos in addition to everything else I was doing so she decided to go around town in the province and tell everyone that her daughters Foreigner bf was greedy which was the furthest thing from the truth. I am the least greedy person you would ever meet. Her and her daughter argued about this and her mom continued to call both of us greedy. We decided separate ourselves from the home and travel to give them space for a few days and I felt very uncomfortable. When I left to return back to the States her mom kicked her out of the house along with her four-year-old son with nowhere to go. I love the Philippines and I love the Philippines culture but some of this crap has to change. People should not expect something from other people just because they have more. I am the most giving person but when someone starts expecting something from me just because I have something that is too much. I now support my fiance and while I'm happy to do it it has caused a strain on a relationship all because her mother is a greedy person.
@AutoCrete
@AutoCrete Жыл бұрын
There is a Filipina living with her American husband in the USA and she tells of her family greeting her with 'What did you bring us?' rather than 'How are you?' or 'Good to see you! We missed you!'. She has basically abandoned her family as a result.
@badspasm1
@badspasm1 2 жыл бұрын
I have a problem meeting the whole family first time I go out with a person!! 1. You really don't know the person (most likely) 2. It would be pretty uncomfortable 3. What if the relationship doesn't work out specially if you know it isn't going to work out at the very beginning. Might be some shame put on her cause it didn't work out!!! I guess I would prefer to meet a call center worker at a coffee shop while she is away from her family. Then maybe ask her out for a daytime meal out in public and a stroll on a public beach to get to know the person first!!! I would make it clear that a chaperone really wouldn't be needed cuz we are just gonna get a roadside snack and a little walk on the boardwalk in public view!!! No expectations just a bite to eat and a walk then decide if we wanted to maybe meet up again before we part ways for the day!!! No reason to bring the whole family in the mix for something that may or may not go anywhere after that!!! Just my thought on that one!!!
@kencolvin8613
@kencolvin8613 2 жыл бұрын
You just saved me a lot of typing...exact same sentiment here
@JD-ox7dl
@JD-ox7dl 2 жыл бұрын
Yes that’s a good idea and never meet the family unless it gets serious ,relationship wise.
@nickquest534
@nickquest534 2 жыл бұрын
Most foreigners don't realize that it's more difficult dating of Filipina than any other because not only are you dating the Filipina you dating the family
@colinwoodford1308
@colinwoodford1308 2 жыл бұрын
I think this tradition is also for the family to figure out what kind of a future husband you will be to their daughters, the family members are somewhat trying to study your character on how you go about greeting and respecting the mum, dad and elders too and lastly to see if you are financially stable to provide a comfortable life like food and necessities to your future wife to be. I had a close friend who experience these things with his girlfriend and revealed his experiences when he got there to marry his girlfriend who was basically a nice province girl. He was lucky and had lovely kids after 10 years still being married 👍🏻❤
@michaelg6641
@michaelg6641 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, also dating the family, that it sounds like is grooming you for marriage from the minute you walk in the door, whether you know it or not!
@ldrcoupleinlove910
@ldrcoupleinlove910 2 жыл бұрын
No so sir, it what you make it.
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
Nick your fulla it. U are dating the wrong filipina then. Because a real filipina never puts someone she loves into a financial burden like that. It's wrong and shuned apon if your considered a SPONCER and not a BF. Your not family your a fool. Your being acammed.
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
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@brucesmith9206
@brucesmith9206 2 жыл бұрын
You gotta be kidding. The first time I met my asawa's family in Davao many many years ago, they threw and paid for a party for the two of us. Since then, none of them expected me to pay for them. In fact, most of the time they won't even let me pay my share when I am out with my buddies having a beer. The family and friends treat me as kuya, tito, daddy or grampa depending on their ages. I am not seen as a puti with a wallet. I am family...
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
Bingo
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti funny you generalize and speak for alll of filipines. That is shameful. You should be ashamed. You are a lier and very wrong. So so shameful.
@meowco69
@meowco69 2 жыл бұрын
The takeaway from this video: date yourself a girl who is an orphan
@bj5083
@bj5083 2 жыл бұрын
Hello maganda, nice video. I think the important thing on this subject to remember, is what you also mentioned - communication! Not all foreigners are rich and most certainly shouldn't be taken advantage of. But, I think most will be kind and generous (within reason) if shown respect and given proper communication for any expectations. Having friends and family come along on a first date is not normal for westerners. If a filipina would feel more comfortable having someone with them on a first date, I think this would be okay for any respectable foreigner, but with advance notice. I remember a foreigner vlogger mention he took a filipina on a first date and the whole family showed up without prior notice. To do that to someone is rude and might create an uncomfortable environment. As far as paying for a big party, why not, but within reason. Like I said, not all foreigners are rich, but communication is key!
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
My friend i live very well on SS, 1100 a month. But i live simple life. Have modern apartment in small town. 160$ a month. Includes everything. Unlimited wifi, air con cable tv. Hot running water. But i built for 1500$ a nippa house about 150 yards off the beach. When im bored with one i go to the other. But most people might not like this simple of a life.
@lovemyFilipina
@lovemyFilipina 2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like you should have kept their destination a secret
@sdickinson5234
@sdickinson5234 2 жыл бұрын
If you take a woman on a date to dinner and a movie in a big city in USA it will cost you easily more than $100. Remember for that $100 in the Philippines they will take you to the market where they know the best places to buy all the food ingredients and drinks for the best prices and they will be able to feed 30+ people and have a great time.
@woodspirit98
@woodspirit98 2 жыл бұрын
Again when I went there...her brother in law borrowed a car and he and her sister took us everywhere the whole time so I had no problem paying for meals which were excellent btw. Not pricey but incredible food. It was a great time. I can't remember laughing so much in my whole life. Most of the time we feasted at her family's house. In the province. More food than I'm used to. Her family was surprised as they thought Americans were fussy about food etc. Arrogant etc. Bear in mind they are poor. But instantly when we met it was an instant connection. So much fun, laughter and love...how could anyone not love that. Six years later and I still get text messages from aunts, uncle's and lola's I've never even met yet. They are my family.
@woodspirit98
@woodspirit98 2 жыл бұрын
Many are. I come from a big family. But what you realize is that people around the world are all the same but with different cultures. As long as you respect that you can fit in with people anywhere.
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. Same here. I moved to the province, then met my GF. So know most of her family. Very comfortable.
@williamsaltiel-gracianmph613
@williamsaltiel-gracianmph613 2 жыл бұрын
I never had difficulties with the idea of the occasional small gift at special occasions, but when it becomes a regular expectation there is a problem. When meeting someone new, this can be a good test of honesty if handled properly.
@davidlongley534
@davidlongley534 2 жыл бұрын
These expectations are why most western/phillipino marriages fail I support my family that's my wife and children. Not not extended families cousins etc. A true family gathering all contribute
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
U are judging by American values, doesn't work in other places. Their values more down to earth.
@davidlongley534
@davidlongley534 2 жыл бұрын
@@eugenel.ferguson3110 I'm not American.
@davidlongley534
@davidlongley534 2 жыл бұрын
@@eugenel.ferguson3110 have you been to the Philippines if not you voice an opinion.
@anthonywilson9783
@anthonywilson9783 2 жыл бұрын
I truly understand the reasoning behind the family wanting to meet the foreigner and having a big party gathering. I also believe with the foreigner paying for the event its sets a precedent that the foreigner always pays and that could be a responsibility a foreigner may not want to keep forever.
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
They are mostly poor. 30-40$ goes a long way at gatherings. Chump change to an American. More than a lot of these people make in 5-7 days. The make about 5-6$ a day on the small island i live on. And work damn hard for that.
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
If u pay for the event say fine, every female at the event at the end meets I the room at the end and bends over. Keep it in the family right. Fairs fare. They expect the money u expect the sex. They understand. It's the way. I mean she's saying it plane as day. From granny to neice They all get a peace of the beast.
@sethrolls6408
@sethrolls6408 2 жыл бұрын
Dude people are rwading the comments you cant this week and a simpin this is not how a filipina acts this woman is a liar
@realmercy
@realmercy 2 жыл бұрын
This bullshi*, I have traveled to the provinces three times. The family expected nothing!
@WiscoFisherman93
@WiscoFisherman93 2 жыл бұрын
No way would I be an atm machine for her and her ENTIRE family. Sounds like manipulative exploitation by the Filipina and especially her family. Absolutely ridiculous.
@mr.r.5841
@mr.r.5841 2 жыл бұрын
It's not fair for the poor guy to be "USED" Paying for the WHOLE family when they're barely getting to know each other.
@erickrobles87
@erickrobles87 2 жыл бұрын
I agree this tradition is not real sorry .. with respect . Cause why my Filipina says is not true at all. Big huge turn off for a nice foreigner to come to the Philippines.
@Tingtheordinaryfilipina
@Tingtheordinaryfilipina 2 жыл бұрын
Because a true Filipina never demand how much amount they want its depend on the foreigner
@Moneymakerwithyou
@Moneymakerwithyou 2 жыл бұрын
It means they expect Support
@mrmarcus4123
@mrmarcus4123 2 жыл бұрын
I wouldn't mind going to my girlfriend province to meet her family and feed them like a barbecue or something. We do that here in Texas a lot. However I could never see myself taking the whole family to a resort because that's personal time I need with my lady. LOL
@globalismoblackman
@globalismoblackman 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly taking the entire extended families and barangay to party to "welcome yourself" is a freeloading scam.
@CindysBisvlog
@CindysBisvlog 2 жыл бұрын
I saw foreigner taking the whole brgy ,jeepney is super full .poor guy
@markpurcell1488
@markpurcell1488 2 жыл бұрын
I don't agree with this. It's not about being expected to get your wallet out. I would not want to date you or meet your family. One decides to give out of love; not out of expectation from the family. If you want to live a happy life, you need to learn this.
@meowmeow3405
@meowmeow3405 2 жыл бұрын
Here is what I know when you are to visit a filipino, When a filipino is expecting a visitor, They were the ones who prepares everything and pays for everything.. What this beautiful girl had said on this video about paying everything, "maybe" she got it wrong cause she didn't experienced it herself and she based it from what she had seen from others, what I know of about it is, it was the foreigner who "voluntarily" pays all the bill.. Cause Most of the foreigners who comes here in the philipppines are "more kind" than us filipinos.. We don't force someone to pay what we have consumed for ourselves, unless someone voluntarily does it.... If you're a filipino would you do this kind of thing or is that how you treat a visitor??? Edit: I Consider this video as a "false information" even though what this pretty girl had said on the last minute of this video was on point.. I still consider it as a " false information" because she is talking about a "whole country" without a strong/solid proof of what she's talking about.. Its not only for her but it's for everyone who is using a "country" a subject, to put a "lot" of effort on studying, observing, researching on a certain topic, to avoid spreading false information... False information can destroy everything and a source of conflict.. Just spreading awareness.. No hate...
@meowmeow3405
@meowmeow3405 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti ok! Understood
@jandm667
@jandm667 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti I’m dealing with this now, I’ve had to say no a few times. I appreciate the video. 👍🏻
@norskenorge8808
@norskenorge8808 2 жыл бұрын
As long as the Relationship is in a Balanced Equilibrium. Time with my Filipina Alone would be important to me personally.
@kevink1214
@kevink1214 2 жыл бұрын
Good topic. If she expects her family to go with to all places, she should make him aware that he is obligated to pay for everything before asking the family. Taking the family out once and awhile its ok, but there should also be limitations on who comes with. Once you do that all the time it will become expected.
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
A lot depends on the family, and where u live. A family outing where i am is a day at the beach. (Which we live right on)
@TheChenny73
@TheChenny73 2 жыл бұрын
I think the expectation of Filipinos to the foreigner to pay is not a Filipino thing but a Filipino thing for people with no wealth. Filipinos with wealth do not expect this from a foreigner. In fact Filipinos with wealth are usually paying for everything
@TheChenny73
@TheChenny73 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti Actually, paying for a family meet is not a bad thing. If a Filipino family excepts you, you will gain far more then any money you pay. I can not begin to count how many families welcome me into their home and treat me like a king. I will add for westerners reading here, be careful, sometimes a family will offer to you all the food they have. While you won’t notice there are family members secretly hoping you won’t eat all the food. So be grateful eat a little and make sure everyone else eats.
@Super4754
@Super4754 2 жыл бұрын
I still remember during my first visit to the province to see my ex girlfriend to meet her family, we stayed at her house I gave her a couple of hundred pounds for expenses. I was very surprised how she handled money sparingly. She really kept tabs on how she spent. To me it wasn’t a big deal because I was on holiday but all to her credit I couldn’t fault her on how she handled cash.
@Super4754
@Super4754 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti A bit too smart, and that was her downfall. She thought that because I was in the Uk she could cheat without being caught. But I had the support of my many Filipino friends here in the Uk.
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
You where being simped and she was trying to play ya and scam ya it sounds. When they take a money they are fulla crap. Real true filipinas don't accept or ask for money. If it's true love they and there family pay for u not the other way around. 💯
@CindysBisvlog
@CindysBisvlog 2 жыл бұрын
My husband handed me his vacation money and he is surprised i knew how to handle money ,and now in our marriage im the bank manager when get our salary every month 😅
@dannysherman
@dannysherman 2 жыл бұрын
Paying $500 is ridiculous. I've been there twice and never paid more than $50 for a family meal, and that was for a family of seven. Walk away if you have to pay $500. Run!
@ronboston6529
@ronboston6529 2 жыл бұрын
really enjoy how sincere you are about helping respond to thoughts and questions foreign men need to know. thank you
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
It's false information. Your not a simp, if a filipina acts like this. Tell her to go somewhere eals. Ur being scammed.
@indianagoldsworthy6815
@indianagoldsworthy6815 2 жыл бұрын
That's completely fine,it's better to have that connection with her family and you get to show them all who you are and the love you have for her. ♥️
@lovemyFilipina
@lovemyFilipina 2 жыл бұрын
There is no way I would pay for the entire family friends extended family neighbors and everything else to go out to eat at a restaurant not going to happen and my Filipina wouldn't expect me to do that and as far as loans borrowers not going to happen I've already told my Filipina I will not be her family's ATM nor should I have to be out of my girls five other siblings she is the only one helps her father out with food and money and she doesn't ask me for it
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti funny that is NOT what your video is about nor is it what you where explaining in your video. But boy o boy do u flip flop your answers fast in the comments you scammer
@musicalarchi
@musicalarchi 2 жыл бұрын
@@mr.firmhand1949 Exactly...this vlogger flip flops and contradicts her video. Clearly a gold digger lol
@Jason.Graham
@Jason.Graham Жыл бұрын
@@mr.firmhand1949 What's your problem man? I've seen your other negative comments. If you don't like the content, go somewhere else. No need to be so negative.
@rutgersmarine2065
@rutgersmarine2065 2 жыл бұрын
Ruebeauti you are correct with many of your comments. I wish your video/advice was around the first time I visited the Philippines back in 2015. My first Filipina GF and her family saw me as a walking ATM. Needless to say, I ended that relationship quickly. When I told her that I was spending too much money, she got mad at me and pouted the rest of my visit. The next Filipina I dated was the complete opposite, in fact, she and her family always wanted to pay whenever we went out. Both she and her family are awesome. She and I are still going strong some for years later. If one finds the right Filipina one has found the best woman in the world. Keep posting great videos!!!
@rutgersmarine2065
@rutgersmarine2065 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti Maraming Salamat Rubeauti po!
@phern2389
@phern2389 2 жыл бұрын
Dating a Filipina only cost me 500 peso in makati . I love Filipinas ! One after another 😍
@saysayligano9796
@saysayligano9796 2 жыл бұрын
ANOTHER ONEEEE *DJ KHALED VOICE*
@nickjejeran1065
@nickjejeran1065 2 жыл бұрын
I understand that the big party applies when the Filipina girl brings home a westerner to get to "know each other" with: parents, grandparents, uncles, grandchildren, neighbors, family friends and friends of friends, neighbors' dogs and cats, etc. Are the same expectations asked of a new boyfriend if he is Filipino or in this case they don't want "to know each other" because no $$ so they can live together without the bug party?
@edgarmirth5020
@edgarmirth5020 2 жыл бұрын
My ex-filipina didnt tell me this so when i was visiting her family in the province for the first time, and we were all snacking and drinking beer in local hotel, I didn't realize I was footing the bill the next morning, lol :(
@lovemyFilipina
@lovemyFilipina 2 жыл бұрын
Yeah I can see why she's an ex
@thelittlesthobo9820
@thelittlesthobo9820 2 жыл бұрын
Red flag mate
@bobbruce4135
@bobbruce4135 2 жыл бұрын
One of the common scams they usually do is bringing you to an expensive restaurant. Unknown to you, almost everyone there is a relative. You pay for everyone. They want to see how easy a $ucker you are to fleece in the future. It's never actual romantic love (only hot young dudes can create that) which is the part we often forget. Peace.
@edgarmirth5020
@edgarmirth5020 2 жыл бұрын
@@bobbruce4135 it was like $20 extra dollars, calm down, shes not for me, but shes not a straight up scammer.
@sethrolls6408
@sethrolls6408 2 жыл бұрын
Red flag dont be a simp any filipina asking for this walk away and let her go
@randyspivack6859
@randyspivack6859 2 жыл бұрын
My Filipina partner is a rare breed here. She has never asked me for a single peso! So because of that I take very good care of her. My past relationships with Filipinas were all about money. That's why they're the past.
@Jason.Graham
@Jason.Graham Жыл бұрын
Did it make a difference where you met them? Is there anything to look out for?
@danielupinski7101
@danielupinski7101 2 жыл бұрын
So if you have a Filipino wife, you don't know if her family like you for what kind of person you are, or if they like you because you are an ATM machine for them.
@CindysBisvlog
@CindysBisvlog 2 жыл бұрын
You will know it ,the way they treat you ,,if they treat you like a walking atm then ruuuunnn
@heartoftexan
@heartoftexan 2 жыл бұрын
first visit, i rented a big jeepney took the entire family to the waterpark. for the wedding, i rented out the entire resort, 200 guests, singer, dj, photographers.... in august in a suit, i coudn't even use one of the 5 bedrooms because they were full with people lounging, enjoying the aircon and TV. during the wedding, people filled bags with food during the buffet style dinner. By the time I could even eat, the food was gone. 6 years later and a beautiful little girl, the marriage was over. I felt like a ATM machine.
@randyedler469
@randyedler469 2 жыл бұрын
It cost money to date anywhere in the world . It is not guys responsibility to feed the village . I would have no problem taking Mom and Dad for a nice meal but refuse to be a bank for everyone . I would already expect to pay for my girlfriend for life but NOT neighbors friends or extended family . The only way I would do that , would be on a wedding day maybe . And no , I am not a cheap man . I just will not be used !
@colinwoodford1308
@colinwoodford1308 2 жыл бұрын
I guess the old misconception is all foreigners are rich and are expected to provide for the future wife parents and siblings like food, electricity, water bills or even their schooling needs.A good decent man will provide whatever he can but only to a certain extent when he realised that his kindness is being taken for granted and then decided it’s Sayonara 😢 because it’s not worth it anymore🤭
@davemarshall9925
@davemarshall9925 2 жыл бұрын
100 to 500 usd is fine for a grand party - if the gal is in agreement. in that will come out of HER monthly budget- and if she wants you to send money home to her family that too is fine- if it comes out of her monthly budget for hair, nights out with friends etc
@franktaylor7617
@franktaylor7617 2 жыл бұрын
Normally when the daughter brings home her new boyfriend and potential husband. The family throws the party and everyone pitches in. The family covers the party because the boyfriend didn't invite everyone. This sort of "expectations" can really put off a lot of foreigners. They may feel like an ATM or taken advantage of. Of course the Filipina doesn't see it as a big deal. But in the boyfriend's eyes. He may see it as an ongoing thing forever. What's going to happen when the cash runs out or he needs to return to a normal daily life budget?? What then? Is he kicked to the side?? I'm also curious. Does this apply to any guy she brings home? Or just the foreigners? Me spending a $100 on a meal for several people on vacation isn't a big deal but it is a big deal for a local guy meeting the family. These girls meeting guys that are on their vacation have to realize. He is spending vacation money. That's probably not his daily life money. Most of us save up for a vacation. We spent freely because we budgeted for it. This expectations thing is a little one sided it seems.
@franktaylor7617
@franktaylor7617 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti I understand the custom. Just think it's very one sided. The locals should really try to understand that this custom can push a good man away. It would be the same in the US if the new boyfriend felt as if the girl's family was taking advantage of him. I will be visiting a friend in Nov. We're not romantically involved just close chat buddies. She is a dear friend and I'm comfortable covering the costs of going out for her and her kids. I already explained that I will be on a budget and her other family members are responsible for themselves. "Separate checks please" 😆 I wouldn't voice my opinion on this "make the foreigner pay for everything" situation. It's not my country, I just wouldn't get involved. Similar to a lady having children. One child might be acceptable and not a problem. 8 children can be a deal breaker. Taking responsibility for the entire family, including uncles and aunts and cousins and on and on, might be a deal breaker. Girls that are seriously attracted to foreign guys. Should really think about this custom and maybe change their expectations. Would benefit everyone involved. The guy might even feel better about OFFERING to help or cover some expenses. Just one guy's opinion.
@TheMarciolima1967
@TheMarciolima1967 2 жыл бұрын
@@franktaylor7617 I fully agree with you. Here in Brazil is the same as you say it is in USA. i lived in USA for almos 3 years. One of the differences i could notice was that in US everybdody had his own car, and when we all went out to a restaurant or movies, beach, whatever, everybody used to go on ther own car. In Brazil as not everybody has a car, some go by bus, others by taxi and the one who had a car usually takes friends in the car. But according to this culture habit in Philippines, as you, i can't criticized to a point i will be rude, but for me it doesn't work, i will feel exploited and this feeling will spoiled my relationtship.
@franktaylor7617
@franktaylor7617 2 жыл бұрын
@@TheMarciolima1967 I was in the Philippines about 6 years ago to meet a girl. Typical story. Get her processed and brought her her. It didn't work out. Nevertheless, when I was there. I paid for most everything when we all went on an day trip. Her family covered the first night's dinner. All home cooked, all hand made. It was really nice. They never asked for anything but the new wife certainly did. The family was cool. The new wife wasn't. She was a fish out of water. Her whole world changed and she couldn't deal with it. She also wouldn't go home when the relationship failed. It's a long story. I think the Filipinas have a skewed impression of foreginers. Too much TV and fales rumors filling their heads with the wrong ideas.
@TheMarciolima1967
@TheMarciolima1967 2 жыл бұрын
@@franktaylor7617 I have never been there, but i understand your side of your story, your position. Sadly to hear that!!! i believe and cultures, habits and all are different we may face problems, and bumps along the road, some people i know in my country call it "unven yoke" (translation from google) It can happen from one state to the other in the same country, now imagine from one country to other, western to eatern. It is like a relationship between people of different religion, different ethnicity a big age difference and so on. In fact, it varies from individual to individual, but the social and cultural habits of a group, a commonwealth or a nation that go through generations, may be a rock along the way, an obstacle.
@CindysBisvlog
@CindysBisvlog 2 жыл бұрын
@@franktaylor7617 i dont let my husband take out my fmily or relatives for a dinner its expensive ... Its always depend ,if filipina is genuine or a scammer
@m5dragontechsavvy399
@m5dragontechsavvy399 2 жыл бұрын
Natural story teller..smooth, engaging, proper annunciation when emphasizing key topics. YTube is a great platform for your talents. The expectations of the extended and immediate fam should be understood upfront so no one is left on the wrong side of expectations. After all , Pesos don't grow on trees....
@TropicalIslandBrother
@TropicalIslandBrother 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Rubeauti, My name is Michael. I've watched all of your videos; great content. I think you have a very down to earth channel. I am very much into fitness as well. I find it hard to meet women if I'm not willing to commit to someone before I meet them in person. being in a relationship is not at the top of my list of priorities but I am open to exploring a good healthy relationship if I met the right woman. I have been a single parent for 17 years. What I'm looking for is a trusted friend who will honestly look out for my best interest when I move to the philippines. Someone I can depend on to help me get settled. I want to buy a condo in the city and build a house in the province.
@CindysBisvlog
@CindysBisvlog 2 жыл бұрын
im filipina and also have friend dont this thing ..when my ex foreigner went in the province with me ,i only ask my parents to cook one dish and thats all .. And never ever i allowed that all fmily well go somewhere and my husband will pay its a no no ... I remember one jeepney full of people even on the top is a bit full and there is one foreigner guy .(poor guy )
@outdoorswithbobbymayo5763
@outdoorswithbobbymayo5763 2 жыл бұрын
Not all foreigners can afford to entertain an entire family. I know I couldn’t. I’m a poor foreigner.
@dalibor1510
@dalibor1510 2 жыл бұрын
I can understand to invite the family but friends? That sounds like using someone and it's actually a rude thing to do in many western cultures!
@DrsIrHenkJanJansen
@DrsIrHenkJanJansen 2 жыл бұрын
What you are saying now is absolutely wrong. it is certainly NOT mandatory to invite her family and extended family, if you give information than also do this in a honest way and not let the poor foreigner pay for the entire family that is really bola bola story. I am married for 12 years and lot of my friends are also married with a filipina but none of us had to do this! And, since you marry the girl does not say you marry her family. This sounds to me like gold digging and girls who doing this are using the guy as a walking ATM shame on them!
@WindmillChef
@WindmillChef 2 жыл бұрын
As a European raised American here are my thoughts; I would not at all be opposed to paying for a family party a few times a year and if I married a Philippina I would also agree to giving some financial support to her family each month. My reason would be because we're living in The Philippines and it is tradition and culture to my Philippina wife. When in Rome, do like Romans do. But I would decide on a number, a set amount that I would spend each month and clearly communicate this with my wife and then I would not exceed that amount. This is a control (budget) that I would insist on and I would want my wife and her family to understand that I live my life according to budgets. This understanding would help avoid feuds and it would also help the family in understanding what they can expect and they can see and learn from how foreigners manage money. In western culture this issue is completely different; our culture is that parents have a strong goal to want their children (the next generation) to end up better off than they are themselves, so western parents are willing to spend a lot for their children's education and when their children enter the work force, parents want their children to keep their own salaries to improve their lives. Also understand that some westerners who immigrate or retire in The Philippines are quite wealthy and thus they have wide arrays of options on how to behave, but many foreigners have incomes that are very limited and finite, their income is not going to grow. It may be a lot of money to Philippinos but they come to The Philippines specifically to stretch their money, what they can do with their income. To those people a Philippina wife, girl friend and family that tries to milk this foreigner too much for money can be very (too) stressful. So, as a Philippino getting involved with a westerner, learn and know a little about what the financial status of YOUR westerner is.
@issalelis
@issalelis 2 жыл бұрын
Paul, this is not part of our tradition nor our culture. If your Pinay gf/wife’s family wants to throw a welcome party for you, they have to pay for it if their real intention is to meet and greet you. But what was said here in this video is that the foreigner has to ready his wallet which means he has to pay for everything, for everyone, which is NEVER a Filipino tradition. No. Never. So please be wise and choose carefully for there are lots of Filipina scammers especially here in youtube.
@randyd1922
@randyd1922 2 жыл бұрын
This must be why parents push their girls towards trying to marry foreign men. I personally think it's ridiculous to expect your man to start flipping the bill for all these people. Not happening. It's their tradition...not ours. So much for your Filipina loving you. Your just a debit card for her family.
@issalelis
@issalelis 2 жыл бұрын
It’s never a Filipino tradition Randy. Never a tradition and will never be mandatory.
@gakisuke4875
@gakisuke4875 2 жыл бұрын
Not all flipinas are the same...she is just sharing from her experience...note that
@shaunmckenna1923
@shaunmckenna1923 2 жыл бұрын
Hello and a Happy Easter to you :) Another interesting topic and in most cases I agree with what you are saying , but on the other hand I have had friends that are living or doing long stays and they feel that they are been taken advantage off , every case is different of course. Many people who come on there trip are also on a budget and yes it is much cheaper to come and have a holiday in the Philippines for sure and if you take a family out best to go to a park or a beach resort and have a picnic that really does not cost that much , just don't go so somewhere like Vikings hahahaha . In all the yrs I have been coming only once did I get caught out not only did I have to pay for all the people I was ok for that but what I thought was wrong they ordered a very large take out to me that was taking advantage , but you live and learn. Keep up the great videos enjoy your Easter weekend take care .
@royengstrom4135
@royengstrom4135 2 жыл бұрын
I had a friend , a native of the Philippines, and he went back to marry his girlfriend a Filipina. He literally worked two jobs for 1.5 years, and when he went back, he was expected to pony up for parties, and later a huge expensive wedding with even more than the usual extended family. I gave him a wedding gift of some expensive alcohol that would pass through customs. He came back for a while after the marriage and told me about it.
@zorbadundee2249
@zorbadundee2249 2 жыл бұрын
I would be happy to pay for food at her home but I'm not taking the whole province to a restaurant
@GabrielEddy
@GabrielEddy Жыл бұрын
Throwing *a* party *once* is acceptable. Twice is questionable. Thrice is exploitative.
@samcleaver2716
@samcleaver2716 2 жыл бұрын
I have not done this, but it would be OK within reason. It also depend on how long you have been seeing her.
@nicolaassterenborg2416
@nicolaassterenborg2416 2 жыл бұрын
Hey rubeauti, Just discoverd your channel and its pretty good so ill be 100% watching you more often. Thanks for the good advice and good luck growing your channel.
@alanbarnes4520
@alanbarnes4520 2 жыл бұрын
Here’s a funny story for you. My first visit to the Philippines was 2001. When I met my wife’s parents, I was staying at Duka Bay resort. I invited her parents for lunch the following day and 27 relatives turned up unannounced. I was surprised but I didn’t say anything and they all enjoyed themselves and we had a nice day. It was only later that I realised, that was the only meal they would have that day. Each one of them came to me and thanked me personally for the food and the lovely day. I was humbled by the experience and felt good that we could share it with them. Take care. Have a good day ❤️
@petergregory5537
@petergregory5537 2 жыл бұрын
It was the only meal they had that day? It makes me wonder how many times they ate only one meal a day.
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
Lmao only meal lmao ur a fool. So not true. U got suckered.
@dankriewald4764
@dankriewald4764 2 жыл бұрын
i never been there yet . Watching U Tubers for imformation and differences . Great Job explaining very important point . probably should be at leased be mentioned before you two meet or start Dating . point being every one is still different . Great that you have the traditional Family way Life . Also i perfer the high elevation Same old Story communication First
@saiyan9098
@saiyan9098 2 жыл бұрын
My wallet prepared,lol i dont think so,huge Red Flag there,would say goodbye to her,not her ATM.
@serenityssolace
@serenityssolace 2 жыл бұрын
I just came across your channel and I really like your character and how you explain things in your videos! You gained a new subscriber! Keep up the great work!
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
You like to loose money and simp lol got it
@justintime9720
@justintime9720 2 жыл бұрын
I wonder if that happens also in dating with local guys? if not then don't call it TRADITION, it's just taking advantage of someone more wealthy
@CindysBisvlog
@CindysBisvlog 2 жыл бұрын
Agree its not tradition
@ejtaylor73
@ejtaylor73 2 жыл бұрын
I personally think the 1st date should just be the 2 of you ALONE, so you can actually talk and get to know each other, find out each others expectations. If she's there with her friends, family, the whole barangay she's going to end up talking to all of them instead and the foreigner will be sitting there staring at the wall waiting for the check. If I was "supposed" to be going on a date with a lady and she showed up with other people, I would say enjoy your evening and walk away, I asked HER on a date, NOT any one else. Many foreigners coming there are older and retired, on limited incomes and fixed budgets, and that budget doesn't include having someone else throw a party and expecting him to pay for it. The foreigner should NOT be expected to pay for anything or help out her family financially, he should do those things because he wants to, not because he has to. If the foreigner has been giving money to her family and paying for restaurants and resorts and the relationship doesn't work out, can he expect all the money he spent to be returned? No, and I'm sure most, if not all, wouldn't ask for it either. If the lady is living with the foreigner he is already giving her family money, it may not be him actually giving money directly, but if she eats 2,000 pesos worth of food a week, that's 8,000 pesos a month or 96,000 pesos a year her family is saving by not feeding her, that doesn't include what they save on electricity, her clothes, etc. It may not seem like a big deal to the one that isn't having to give away the money they worked most of their life to EARN, but to just expect someone to give it away because her family decides to throw a party, invite themselves to your date at a restaurant, or invite themselves to a resort is a big deal. It's ONLY like $500, you stop to think that could be about half of the foreigner's budget after paying all his bills? The mind set that "All foreigners are rich" needs to change, they're not, and they may not be able to survive if they keep giving away the money they do have to pay for everything she and her family want to do. It doesn't matter if you THINK it was fine for foreigners to be paying for everything, you need to actually ask them to know if it's ok or not, and judging from some of the comments, it's NOT ok.
@andrewm1829
@andrewm1829 2 жыл бұрын
I cant to visit the Philippines. It seems like such a beautiful country with gorgeous ladies.
@lawrencekenchen2220
@lawrencekenchen2220 2 жыл бұрын
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@patmaweini9280
@patmaweini9280 2 жыл бұрын
5 seconds into the video,and you’re already talking about a whole complete financial package,I ended the video at that point. Fastest way to lose a Guy, any Filipina should be thankful that a foreign guy would be willing to take her out of that impoverished nation and treat her like a queen. And then she wants to scan for the rest of her family? GREED Will get you nowhere. As for the guys reading this I have been speaking to and now engaged To a Filipina for the last 12 years she has yet to ever ask me of a single centavo, Don’t buy into this money hungry Kool-Aid their are good girls out there,don’t mess with the prostitutes which I classify any girl willing to ask for a single penny for any damn reason
@patrickfreeman8257
@patrickfreeman8257 2 жыл бұрын
I have a question that maybe someone else has already asked you. I've heard a lot about Filipinas being with "older" western men. But what is "too old"? In your mind, how much of an age gap is too much?
@TheOriginalRick
@TheOriginalRick 2 жыл бұрын
I've seen age gaps of 40 years or more.
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
I was 60 when i first arrive. My GF 42. She cleaned me out. The girl I'm with now 23. Been with her 5 years. Wasn't looking for a young girl but its what i found. Curiously when i was leaving Washington state, my dr who was a Filipino, which I didn't know that, was from Manila. Told me dont get an older girl they know too many scams, go younger your better off. He was right.
@patrickfreeman8257
@patrickfreeman8257 2 жыл бұрын
@@eugenel.ferguson3110 I guess you don't always have to travel. I met a man in his 80s in Lake Elsinore, CA. His wife and her parents now live with him. His "father-in-law" is 20 years younger than he is.
@lovemyFilipina
@lovemyFilipina 2 жыл бұрын
@@eugenel.ferguson3110 I think they can all be a little scammy if you get the wrong one I've seen scammers and all age brackets be careful out there man it's the wild West LOL I mean East
@calo2006
@calo2006 2 жыл бұрын
This is crazy, why would a young foreigner who is meeting his GF parents throw a big party like you are saying.... maybe the things you saw in the past was an old foreigner with money doing that (which I also seen that). But younger foreigners who work hard to save for a vacation will never throw that kind of money, I met some Filipina parents in the past, and they all knew (I'm guessing they all knew because their daughter told them) my situation that I'm not rich and that I work hard to save money for my vacation every year (the last 14 years). So they never expect anything from me. What I do agree kind of, is if you want to celebrate your gf birthday with her family in a resort you pay for the resort and transportation (Van) and they will pay for the food, the beer will be half-half, but not all will be you paying, will be sharing the expenses, but of course you will pay more (resort and van is more expensive), but this happens once a while, like once or twice a year only. I think in Philippines younger foreigners are more expected to be treated like a normal Filipino bf since their daughter is dating someone closer to her age, but when the age gap is like 15 years or more their expectation is more, because they think if her daughter will put up to her big age gap he suppose to spend money for her, they just see old foreigners like a cash machine. That's when the old foreigner should talk to his gf/wife and tell them that they won't put up with that type of behavior. From my own experience, only once they tried to take advantage of me and I told them I'm not rich, I can not afford that and I explain my situation, and they understood me and they never asked me for money anymore. But like I said most of the time (except that one time) their family never asked me to pay or expect anything from me unless is something that I plan in advance and I told them I will pay.
@jameswiggins7121
@jameswiggins7121 2 жыл бұрын
Interesting topic.....I'm a firm believer in showing respect to the parents so I would prefer to go out with her and just her parents on the first date. In the future once we've solidified our relationship then we could invite the rest of the family for a cookout. I have not been to the Philippines before but I plan to visit this October for two weeks to begin my research on whether or not your country is a good place for me to retire. I liked and subscribed to your channel wish you much success.
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
Have fun. I prefer the provinces. Dont like cities. Ha ha ha you get used to the roosters.
@rolandmueller7218
@rolandmueller7218 Жыл бұрын
When I met my girlfriend in the Philippines, I did meet many people in her family. But, there was no party or family restaurant outing or trip. However, I have heard of a friend of mine being expected to do this with his Filipina girlfriend’s family. I did pay for the food when we went out to to eat and buy food to cook from the farmer’s market. But, I was not asked or expected to sponsor any elaborate parties.
@chrisjacobs3989
@chrisjacobs3989 2 жыл бұрын
If you are involved with any women in any country that has the expectations that you are now an ATM for any and all possible family/relatives/next door neighbors drop her like a the gold digger she is. She doesn’t love you her family doesn’t respect you they are just looking to use your hard earned $ for themselves. I can see there may be times that help is needed for emergencies or to make parents lives easier. Most bloggers have disapproved and told anyone not to do what this video is stating. There are wonderful caring women and families in the Philippines it’s just up to the person to make good choices.
@jefftanasse6958
@jefftanasse6958 2 жыл бұрын
Exactly....this ladie is just perpetuating the problem.. Buy dinner for 20 people...some of whom hate foreigners? No chance
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
Im lucky i had a nippa house on the beach, was here for over a year before i hooked up with a girl from the families i was already friends with. I kick in about 150$ a month in rice, pay electric bill. Medicine for the grandparents. I dont mind at all. Its roughly about the same as i pay for my apartment and all that goes with it. Some times it is a bit much. But mostly i find it money well spent. They work hard for very little. I like helping them. They take care of me, cause i take care of them
@chrisjacobs3989
@chrisjacobs3989 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti you seem like a nice person and I wish you the best on channel. My suggestion is to look at channel phillipena pea as a guide for longevity on KZbin. A tradition is Easter or a special day for someone graduating school and you throw a party. Looking to get $ because you are in a relationship or having the perception that someone is needing to pay to be with you or have sex with you will lead to many bad outcomes. A commodity is something one buys like coke if you seem to be positioning your self like that you will get takers but when they get tired of coke they move on. All men have a degree of dog in them but to what degree is important. Dogs can be loyal, protective, loving and dependable they can also be something that wants to hump every leg they see. How you show yourself on video is what you will attract to you…wish ya the best. By the way you are the only one I have ever posted something about and don’t plan on doing this much. Hopefully my dreams will come true in the Philippines but they will be my dreams.
@Imagesdp
@Imagesdp 2 жыл бұрын
My girlfriend has never asked me for anything. She is the best! She would never have me spend money on her family. Unless I offered. I did date a woman who expected me to pay for the whole family and i let her go. Not a good thing.
@Jason.Graham
@Jason.Graham Жыл бұрын
If you don't mind me asking, did you ever have a conversation or make your views known beforehand, or did it just turn out like this naturally?
@outlawd1
@outlawd1 2 жыл бұрын
Nice video Rubeauty, off subject but sorry to hear about the recent landslides in the Philippines my heart goes out to those affected and who lost loved ones. One man said he doesn't have one Piso he lost everything!
@woodspirit98
@woodspirit98 2 жыл бұрын
Leyte got hit hard. But two whole days of dry weather in a row now. I think that's a record for 2022.
@eugenel.ferguson3110
@eugenel.ferguson3110 2 жыл бұрын
@@woodspirit98 i live on a small island connected to Leyte by bridge, people in the next Barangay (village) got killed, lots of house gone. Not to bad where we were. This time.
@kaikrist
@kaikrist 2 жыл бұрын
To say it is your culture to use someone just because they are foreigners. If you think it is not a big deal, why don't you foot the bill? I think it is disrespectful to have your boyfriend or husband do this. We are not rich because we come from the west. Sorry if I sound harsh.
@stoneagedjp
@stoneagedjp 2 жыл бұрын
Hmm. I don't spend $100 dollars on myself, much less other people. Anyway, men all too frequently think that money makes them loveable. This is a mistake I would like to avoid. I guess if I were dating a Filipina, we would have to have that "talk" 🗣💬
@jaysorensen9480
@jaysorensen9480 2 жыл бұрын
Dating a filipina now. She is the love of my life. Your channel is full of good information. Thank you for what you do as it helps me understand her better and her culture. Many smiles and good thoughts too you.
@RedneckNFilipina
@RedneckNFilipina 2 жыл бұрын
This is true. I just got back from meeting my wife and her family for the first time. Of course I was prepared because of watching videos like yours so I was not surprised about this custom. We had a great time.
@mr.firmhand1949
@mr.firmhand1949 2 жыл бұрын
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@manstarbig
@manstarbig 2 жыл бұрын
Totally agree real relationship is mutual respect and if they keep asking for money it could be 2 main reasons the family pressure making her ask for $$$ or the girl living a lifestyle she cannot afford.. if they expecting you to pay... that's the biggest warning sign... I married a filppina 9 yrs ago still very happy she now with me in Australia and she's the best thing in my life..
@xano2361
@xano2361 2 жыл бұрын
@Rubeauti: Shame on you for spreading the typical Filipino belief that all Foreigners are rich! This is what low educated Filipinos believe, and who foreigners are being educated to look out for. Guys: Before you date a Filipina, learn to ask questions. If she expects you to pay for frivolous things such as a party for everyone under the sun, expect that her entire family is going to treat you like a walking ATM. Be smart, ask a lot of questions, and don't think that all Filipinas are like what Rubeauti is talking about...
@xano2361
@xano2361 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti : Mano po, is a tradition. Harana, Pamamanhikan, and Paninilbihan are all traditions. Stereotypes like all foreigners are rich, or Filipinos asking a foreigner to pay for everything, are NOT traditions. That is simply a minority of people taking advantage of a situation. Putting a “setup boundaries” statement at the end of your video, does NOT justify the bad information you give, or helping to further bad behavior. As I said, you are simply making the good Filipinos look bad. Just because YOU see something happening, doesn’t mean it’s a good thing that’s happening, or that you should help spread it… Now, is it a good idea to go and meet her family, when you’re planning to get married? Absolutely, I definitely recommend it. Is there usually a party / celebration involved? Usually, yes, it’s called the Celebration of Engagement, as part of Pamamanhikan. Do the couple (Or just the Foreigner) pay for it? Absolutely not! The families and friends pay for it, as a present to the couple… Funny how none of this information on “Traditions” was included in your video…
@timsnow2204
@timsnow2204 2 жыл бұрын
Heck with this. That might be their custom but it will never be mine. Set expectations in advance and one of those is no leeches.
@phambang9962
@phambang9962 2 жыл бұрын
sorry darling you would need to be ALOT more pretty for me to make such a investment
@williamandrew9997
@williamandrew9997 2 жыл бұрын
It; not as this woman says, it's a scam, if you are asked to pay these scammers get on a tricycle head out quickly this is a scammer introducing you to a very heavy scam listening to her i quickly wrote this and left
@oldschoolhelp
@oldschoolhelp 2 жыл бұрын
Nice video I have been sending and feeding people over there I share you are so sincere you have a very nice voice Always Remember You Are Not Alone
@oldschoolhelp
@oldschoolhelp 2 жыл бұрын
@@Rubeauti I'll be over there pretty soon I'm going to stay there for a while and rest I'm tired of working
@medgolly7342
@medgolly7342 2 жыл бұрын
Yes thankyou for your honesty and a foreigner expected to pay everything was very much a surprise to me because I wasn’t warned about this before it happened the first next time I had to discuss it with her and tell her I didn’t first understand this different culture and that I couldn’t really afford to this , and if possible on a smaller scale . Thankyou for this vlog your the first to explain what is expected from foreigners in the Philippines when dating and or married to a Filipino lady !
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