How I Became More Confident | clothesencounters

[@imjennim]

Happy Thursday, jems! In this video, I sit down and have a chat about confidence. If you'd like to share any tips or life lessons on how YOU became more confident, please write it in the comments! 😊

[@MsNinahhh]

You know what consumes me? The fact that I'm turning 30. I don't know why I find it so scary, but I do.

[@ssilva901]

This tips are really helpful ! I always struggle with being confident and I'm still learning. Thank you :)

[@shannongreen3754]

LittleMissSunshine you should watch 13 going on 30, make 'thirty, flirty and thriving' your mantra 💃🏻

[@RICHELLESHAIRA]

Thank you so much for this video :) I learned a lot from i. I hopefully be confident to do vlogs, videos :) Thanks again. xoxo

[@LelaLondon]

Such a brave and lovely video, Jenn!

[@shannongreen3754]

I never realised that up until a few years ago I walked around looking at the floor and hardly ever looked up because I hated the idea of people looking at me - I thought I would be invisible to people if I stared at the ground. Now that I am older I look around while I walk, put on badass music, and I appreciate nature - focus on the beauty of your surroundings, not other people!

[@imjennim]

I love this tip!!

[@victoriamilloc2474]

Shannon Green +clothesencounters totally!! I used to be so worried about other people that one day I realized I didn't enjoy anything else, now I focus on my surroundings and I like to see how everything changes a little bit everyday, just try to get out of my mind and enjoy the present

[@BBYGELLE]

Her soul is so beautiful

[@MusicalBunny1]

This goes off of what Jenn said but I think what has helped me immensely is realizing that everyone is concerned with themselves-- barely anyone actually cares about what you're doing, or how you look. And for the few that do, that's their problem. What they think shouldn't affect you!

[@imjennim]

SOOOOO TRUE!

[@carliechang]

MusicalBunny1 thank you! That was a helpful reminder

[@tnxole2416]

Another thing that helps to build confidence is to compliment other people, and lifting each other up. Not only does it give a boost of confidence to that person but also makes you feel good about yourself for doing so. And I so agree on what you said about not talking smack. One time, two girls asked me if I could talk crap about someone. I stayed silent, asking myself why in the world was I hanging out with such negative people. Surround yourself with people who are positive and open minded!!! Also I think it is important that whenever you look at yourself in the mirror, focus on the things you actually like about yourself or something you're the least insecure about instead of focusing on your "flaws."

[@jojowo9767]

tnxole as

[@maix139]

Love this!

[@wendycho8544]

tnxole kidsKids

[@mneedham05]

totally agree with the eye contact thing. I trained myself not to look people in the face in probably.... middle school? it helped me a lot walking through the halls at school because I had crazy walking anxiety (if that's a thing lol)

[@FallinxStarz]

Do you really never make eye contact? Of course it depends on the situation but I find that such a weird thing.. If you pass by someone (who is not approaching you in a negative way) you can at least acknowledge they're there by looking at them or saying hi? Maybe it's a difference in culture but I find that a bit rude..

[@mneedham05]

Tessa vo I'm from the US so eye contact is so important, but of course I acknowledge people sometimes. I work at a school and of course I smile and nod at my coworkers. But in crowded places I usually don't make eye contact because it makes me nervous. I guess I'm rude, but it's something that allows me to go out and do stuff, rather than making excuses because I'm scared of getting that anxiety.

[@FallinxStarz]

That does make more sense to me now though, thanks for the explanation!

[@beckwilde]

I started feeling confident when I dropped this boy outta my life, changed my hairstyle to what I wanted and worked out at the gym. Lets go Ladieeees!!! 💪💪💪💪

[@WhateverIsTrue01]

yes girl I support you 👏🏼 👏🏼 👏🏼

[@MissCMcCafferty]

I turned 21 last year and I've just begun to love myself. Time really does make you grow and appreciate yourself a little more 👌💙

[@maryhotmailde]

MissMcCafferty That gave me hope :)

[@LovedHappy]

Along with not judging others, actually complimenting others has increased my confidence. 💖

[@Kayla-ep5gm]

For me as well! It showed me how to appreciate even the little details of someone, be it their personality or looks, and made me notice the little things about myself that I can love.

[@LovedHappy]

Kaya Rist yes Kaya! Exactly! 😊❤ it takes confidence to notice the good in others but I definitely believe by making that effort even when it feels less natural can be a beautiful confidence-builder as well.❤❤ also, I love your name, it's beautiful 😊

[@vangbaoyt]

Great tips, Jen! Dunno how weird this sounds, but it's so aesthetically pleasing to listen to you talk. You're just so eloquent.

[@goodgoldisrare]

Thank you Jenn. I think it's important also to make 'mini' challenges like talking to a stranger, doing something you've never done before. Humans can be very cruel, offensive, and that for free. Yesterday I took the bus to go take care of my pony. On the way back, teenagers began to say that the horse odor was "unbearable" while they even live in the countryside. They strated caughing, laughing nervously, saying they will eat horse meat. I was really uncomfortable, even ignoring them. They abused of the fact that I was the only 'stranger', all alone, and they were in a group. Next time I will sympathize with the driver of the bus. It's the only person they can't "control" and in that kind of cases it is important to make allied friends. So my advise is: ignore negative people, and go talk to the other people: 1. Do not isolate yourself 2. to share you're not alone and 3. don't be affraid to talk to people and eventually make some new friends. And don't forget to be positive, always. This will help to gain more confidence in difficult moments. It took me the hole night to figure out what to do next time lol. I was so relieved and happy, I was realy good about myself, when suddenly it happened to me. It can happen to everybody.

[@jomanasoa3948]

Great advice ! thank you soo much 😊

[@R0CK0Nbaby]

THIS is quality content (like all your other videos). You use your influence to try to help others empower themselves, you are a gift to KZbin and to us. Thank you Jenn, keep on rocking! You'll always have my support :)

[@imjennim]

Aww thank you so much for this comment! Really made me smile. n_n

[@creativecomplexity4]

R0CK0Nbaby I totally agree!! 💕😁

[@khinemcgowan3489]

My husband would never watch any beauty youtubers' videos with me except yours!! :) You are the best!!

[@Tokkiis]

It's refreshing to see a video about motivation and improving self-confidence without it being sponsored, but I even like Jenn's sponsored videos, too... xD

[@sandbysea]

I completely agree!

[@beijoflor]

This video couldnt have come in a more convenient time. I was just starting to feel like shit and i needed that self esteem boost, so thank you Jenn! Your positivity can rlly influence other ppl ❤😊

[@imjennim]

Aww, I'm glad this video could help. I hope your day picks up, love!

[@Salomin21]

I got so emotional watching this video, I don't know why but probably cause I can relate so much to it. Every tips that you said are exactly what I've been trying to apply to my life and they just sort of lived in my head cause I thought it's my own way of coping with things but they actually work on other people too. Just finished college and basically in that place where I don't know where life would take me but you delivered such strong messages and that truly inspire me. Not a lot of people can make inspiring and motivating videos with straightforward messages cause sometimes they're overshadowed by useless talks that's just circling around the topic but you've done it brilliantly. I hope you can continue doing this because you truly are a remarkable person and you may not realise it but many of your videos have helped many people, including myself.

[@dianatkachenko4652]

I don't understand why you are not gaining more subscribers you create such great content and you are so positive. Also, thank you for this video, this really helped me

[@user-rh8sq7up3j]

Diana Luckman Ikr! She deserves more subscribers!

[@maybelleCorpuz808]

Diana Luckman I agree❤️

[@juliakrystal19]

she already has over 2 million, that's a lot!

[@sammier.6125]

Julia S. She deserves more lol 💜

[@bataa200002]

hello. Can we be friends? I am a Mongolian.

[@lunasmoonlight714]

The part about music is SO TRUE! It helped me so much. BTS song Not Today is definitely my new badass song! :)

[@damnjoon2808]

YES

[@imjennim]

It's crazy how one song can change your entire mood!

[@YumiOnline]

I was thinking of the same song! ♥

[@alayssaalayssa]

Lunasmoonlight Army's everywhere man. I love it!

[@lovelyy.rai_xx]

i love that song, feel you on that!

[@jasmindekker6781]

Thank you for talking about driving. I get anxiety and i really hate driving but sometimes it's not an option but a necessity. I don't think any youtuber has really talked about driving and driving tips but I would love it if you talked about your driving experiences an so on.

[@maureene7138]

Jasmin Dekker I used to be so anxious about driving but because i was forced to drive a far distance for work im more comfortable on the road.

[@imjennim]

Just like Maureen, I was forced to get over my fear by driving really long distances for a period of time. Just know that with each drive you do, you are a step closer to feeling more secure on the road.

[@jasmindekker6781]

Thank you so much for using your precious time to answer us, Jenn! I'm going to keep take a screen shot of this and save it for ever. I can't believe Jen answered back, I'm extremely happy now!! :D

[@DollyShi]

I used to be very afraid of driving, now I'm a lot more comfortable and drive everyday. But I still haven't driven on the highway or driven a far distance or road trip, any tips?

[@maureene7138]

Túktā Stay on the right lane for highways if you aren't comfortable. Once you get used to it, you can go to the middle lane. (I still tend to stick to the right lane unless i have to take an exit that is on the left.) Also, as my mom always tells me, don't drive for other. Drive only for yourself. Don't be pressured to go a certain mile just because of other drivers. They can always pass you.

[@vortexofweird]

Wow this video is amazing, Jenn. It is definitely and standout that I will definitely re-watch. Ok, personal story time: When I was in middle school, a couple of friends and I were mugged while walking from school to the subway. It was very scary and the guy made an example out of me by slashing my face with his knife. I'm telling this story because this incident left a huge scar on face. Although I later learned how to use makeup to make it less obvious, it would always show and it is always the first thing people notice about me. Needless to say, my confidence took a hit. I know that most of the subscribers here will have insecurities relating to their appearance as opposed to anything else. In high school, I took a philosophy class where I learned about Shcopenhauer's "Will to live." I won't really go into it but the general idea is that matter, or our physical selves is not what the world is made of. It is 'will' that is the key to life. This always stuck with me because it meant that for humans/people, our hopes, desires, needs, and goals are what make up who we are and encourage us to keep living. This was all just a long-winded way of saying that it's what's on the inside that really counts, lol. I'm sorry this was so long but I guess I felt inspired to write this. P.S. My favorite songs to listen to when I'm down are "September" and "Boogie Wonderland" by Earth, Wind & Fire

[@imjennim]

Wow, thank you for sharing that. I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you especially at such a young age. It's so inspiring to hear how you learned that the key to life is "will." I agree! Thank you for teaching me something new. Also I LOVE SEPTEMBER By Earth, Wind & Fire. Such a tune especially for a Virgo like me. (:

[@user-uu5dc6wr6h]

Was the philosophy class you took IB TOK?

[@vortexofweird]

Nah it was called Metaphysics, Ethics, and Death. It was a private high school so they could teach whatever they wanted.

[@bellab9301]

Hi Jenn! I'm a 18years old deaf girl studying English in UK from Japan, I was so encouraged by your messages all, thankyou for always adding subs(cuz i'm deaf, subtitles make me understand what u'r saying completely!) i Really really really love you and your channel!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@carlaleal636]

I Think that another very important tip is to STOP comparing yourself to other people, because i feel like that's the biggest thing that bring a lot of people down, myself included. Even knowing it's really hard to do we've to.

[@scrapingskies]

#1 is so important! Super guilty of it as an insecure teen. I'm 24 now and disassociating from that kind of talk has made such a positive impact on my life. Thanks for a great video jen 💕

[@damnjoon2808]

Any BTS song makes me feel amazing

[@imjennim]

Which song is your favorite?!

[@ChristineJillian]

bTS - Butterfly is my favorite!

[@aislingwong6686]

The Cypher series (especially Pt. 3 and 4) are amazing songs to play when you're powerwalking down the street!

[@damnjoon2808]

OK this is literally so extra but ANYYYY bts song, in terms of being confident and that tho: - Cypher (part 3 & 4) - 21st Century Girls - Joke (by one of the members Rap Monster) - Agust D (by one of the other members) - 1Verse (by J-Hope, another member lol) - Baepsae/silver spoon - Dope - Ma City - Save Me

[@lunasmoonlight714]

Oh my god. Once Cypher part 3 is on there is no holding back! I jump and dab around like V. :D

[@babelove45]

For me I'm just learning that it is ok to be 20 and single, and that I am not perfect. And that Jesus is my best friend .❤

[@ukurikiakas]

D'ya Francois I've been scrolling through the comments to find one like yours. Thanks! Wish more people would realize the true source of confidence, that is Jesus. When you put your confidence, faith in Jesus, all your anxieties go away. He is my rock.

[@FierceEars]

This resenates with me so much but also hurts reading. I lost my connection to Christ not too long ago and can't seem to get back to Him. I remember when I devoted everything to Him, I was the happiest I had ever been. I don't know what's wrong with me right now.

[@BrokenWishesx3]

This was me too! I felt disconnected from Him for actually a year or so, but I never forgot how happy I had been, and I used that as a drive to help me get back to Him. I can happily say that I've been on the right track for a few months now, and I just hope that I can get back to where I was before, surpass that, and continue to grow in Him! Don't lose sight and you will come back to Him. x

[@babelove45]

FierceEars God is always waiting with open arms never for get that. Just continue to pray and seek him and he will reveal himself to you. I was also like that, but like everything you have to wait and have patience. I will be praying for you. ❤😇👏

[@babelove45]

Ellen Truong You will God is faithful to do it.Just keep trusting in him and he will get you where you need to be.❤

[@faithaymr]

I feel super confident when I'm walking and I smile at someone and they smile back. :)

[@user-rh8sq7up3j]

FilthyHappyFaith That's so sweet of you :)

[@sheilajoy6735]

we're definitely on the same psychological level, Jenn! I used to be so paranoid of people looking at when as well, and avoiding eye contact and faking it until you make it is literally the best advice I took and would give about being more confident.

[@Ella-pr8dh]

its funny because since last year I've been struggling with this "be myself" thing more and its gotten a whole lot better. I gave myself my much desired bangs and just this weekend cut about 4 inches off my hair and I've been buying more of the kind of wardrobe that i want which is very retro and hipsterish influenced, so definitely all the things that Jenn talks about I've already been applying to my life for the past year and they work and have made me feel more at home with myself.

[@LovedHappy]

You've grown so much over the years Jenn, it has been beautiful to watch you, thanks for letting us be a part of your life and journey. 💖 These are all excellent tips.

[@nanaa1764]

Hey Jenn, This is the first time I comment one of your videos, although I've been following your channel almost since the beginning. I just wanted to tell you that one of your quotes rules my life and is the one that gave me confidence over the year, and it is: "To gain confidence, you need to try risky things, get out of your confort zone. It will be uncomfortable at first, but you will unconsciously earn confidence. That's truly the only solution." To this day, I apply it and I tell my friends about it, because without it I don't know if I would have had enough mental energy to survive. So thank you Jenn 💕

[@imjennim]

I absolutely LOVE that quote. Thank you for sharing!

[@amyli7077]

Nana A I needed that today, thank you!

[@nanaa1764]

It's a pleasure to see that it helps everyone ^^

[@FemmeKUltra]

Such a relief to hear someone else had felt like they so desperately wanted to be themselves but didn't know who they were. That's what I am feeling right now. This video was great, thank you, Jenn !

[@Thevietvegan]

I love this, Jen! You're so right, being confident really does start with being comfortable and happy with yourself :) It doesn't happen overnight and it's helped me to realize that we're all insecure about some things, but accepting that we are who we are and accepting others for their quirks and uniqueness makes life a lot more positive

[@immortalsquid3400]

Everytime nowdays when I have difficulties about something I think: "God gave me this challenge. He wants to see if I can make it or not. Everyone has their own challenges, but if you can make it or not that's more important." "If you really want to succeed sometimes you have to fail first." "Don't be jealous about someone. They have fought their way. If not, that's their gift and you have your own. Everyone has their gift. Embrace yours."

[@priivee8256]

am i the only one who was reminded of sailor moon by her hairstyle?? 💞💕💓 ITS SO CUTEEE

[@imjennim]

Yesss! Total Sailormoon vibes.

[@priivee8256]

I LOVE IT!!! you've inspired me to binge watch episodes when i get home 😊

[@priivee8256]

I LOVE IT!!! you've inspired me to binge watch episodes when i get home 😊

[@between1912]

Wow I really needed this ❣️ I just started a youtube channel and am afraid to do my thing. It's hard not to care about views and the opinions of others

[@between1912]

I keep trying to remind myself that in the end, I'm not going to lose anything because some old acquaintance thinks I'm lame and that I won't achieve happiness by letting others dictate how I live my life :D

[@VaneesBabySteps]

Same here! And started my youtube channel too lol!

[@imjennim]

Exactly! You keep doing you! Also your vintage lookbook is filmed and edited SO well!

[@between1912]

clothesencounters omg that means the world to me! thank you so so much ❣️

[@Thewoodlandnest]

me too :)

[@tristanjavier3120]

Jenn you are such a beautiful person, inside and out. I've been a follower of yours since your thrifting days and it's been really cool getting to see you grow into the wonderful being you are today. I hope to one day radiate confidence like you do. 😊 much love x 💕

[@kristyu]

OoooOOooh, yes jenn! That confidence playlist is 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻

[@jiggphany]

krist & yu I watch your videos and they are all so awesome! Didn't know you were subscribed to Jenn as well... 😊

[@thebeautifulgirl4759]

u are heeeeeeerree

[@user-jo1lk7rr4n]

love your hair style 💖💖 can you make a tutorial?

[@imjennim]

Definitely!

[@jamiebyunah]

clothesencounters i wanna know ur hair colorrrrrr

[@99Zoombaful]

she said in other favourites videos that there's not specific name for her hair colour since her friend does her hair

[@jamiebyunah]

99Zoombaful oohhhhh got it thank uuu

[@catalinajocelyn5281]

So beautifully worded Jenn! It's so encouraging and really shows that it takes time and process for someone to get to where he/she is at and that everyone gets through that point if they wanna grow to be a better person! Love you jean xxx

[@imjennim]

Thank you so much! n_n

[@skincarejunkie3787]

Omg K-POP helps me feel confident all the beautiful voices like BTS or EXO or GOT7 😃😃😃

[@sadaharu7967]

Skincare Junkie lol

[@sadidabushra3355]

Skincare Junkie i love Twice

[@imnassa]

I was literally about to say BTS too. When I listen to "Not Today" and all the Cypher songs, I feel pretty damn badass LOLOL

[@Alexa-bi9bp]

SAMEEEEE

[@musingsofajay387]

its okay if you dont like it. I dont.

[@theblueflamingbutterfly]

Sometimes making mistakes that feel right , make you into a bigger person. I graduated a semester late , and failed planty classes in high school. In other people's eyes , I was failing and making mistakes that would mess up my life. But taking the time I needed to graduate and taking life at my own pace made me stronger today. I hadn't failed classes because I was doing " bad things " , I was going through personal issues and wasn't ready to tackle everything on my plate. Now, I'm ready to tackle my future with much more confidence , strength, and make good choices. Just because others don't believe in your choices , doesn't mean you shouldn't.

[@jennalee0621]

I didn't start getting to know myself and feel confident in myself until I started weeding out the unnecessary people in my life and building on the relationships that matter the most to me. I didn't realize how toxic some relationships were in my life until I learn to let go.

[@LiahYoo]

You're so beautiful inside out Jenn! Thanks for reminding other people that there's so much more that adds to life other than just dressing up and putting on that lipstick😌😌😚😘👍🏼

[@ChinoKoe]

Could you make a hair tutorial of this hair do? I love it 😍

[@yeahannah5209]

Thank you for talking about these really important things.I always feel inferiority because of my body stature and my wearing style,my classmates are all looks goegeous,they sometimes judge about me to my face,even they are just joking but i still feel uncomfortable. I want to be myself! Your video always encourage me to do what I want to do,thanks a lot!

[@enexified]

how i became more positive was realizing how everything is dependent on perspective. i can easily make a bad news good news if i choose to see it in a different way, i.e to spot the silver lining. as such, i came up with this mantra for myself: everything happens for a reason and there's always a blessing in disguise. this makes any past mistakes or negative emotions a great turnaround because i don't regret anymore - i just see them as valuable lessons. this came at a point in time when i felt very cynical about life. so i'm grateful. been positive for the past four years already :)

[@yeeelam2837]

trying to do new things can also build up confidence. i've been living in my comfort zone for so long. when there's something challenging to do, i would make excuses and just quit before getting started. now i found that i had lost confidence on myself. but i've decided to be brave and have a try on whatever i want to do!! i'm learning to be confident. thanks for the tips. it's helpful.

[@alinab15]

don't look at other girls and make yourself down, because they have a beautiful body or sth. maybe she looks at you and thinks i want your beautiful hair. you can't see in others peoples head

[@ImBoiledPotatoes]

needed this thank you

[@petitefleur.0112]

alinab15 agree ☺☺

[@xTenshiAi]

i love this

[@tiffanywang7218]

love your sentences, cuz I'm this kind of person, hope I can change, thx in advance.

[@megan4609]

i love ur idea so much.. thank u ❤️ it made me feel happy

[@priivee8256]

this is so great! its amazing seeing big youtubers create content that can help their viewers be comfortable in their own skin...YOU ROCK💞💕💓

[@imjennim]

Aww, you guys have had such an impact on me. I wanna share everything I've learned with you guys to help in anyway.

[@kassandrac5230]

dude I am 23 an have no license because I am terrified of driving but this really helped and is pushing me a little more, THAK YOU!!! I wish you could teach me how to drive lol... ughhhh!!!

[@julialasobras1092]

Kassy Ca I was the same as you a year ago now I drive everywhere! give it a go and you will see how you can do it and get more and more confident :)

[@stacey6835]

So happy to see somebody the same age worried about driving lol! Good luck to you!

[@alexiasalas9087]

Kassy Ca omg I'm 22 and still no license cause I hate driving too! I always worry about the smallest things like traffic and how am I gonna get into the next lane lol I feel so lame for it but I'm so happy I'm not the only one!

[@LeylaHey]

You can do it!

[@nancycastanon2845]

I'm 22 and still refuse to go on freeways because it's scary lol I thought it was only me😭 all my friends got their lisence straight out of high school if not I'm high school

[@pcat2021]

I would definitely say that finding "your people" helps you figure out who you truly are, which helps you build confidence. I'm near the end of my junior year in college, and I am a completely different person than who I was when I was a freshman. You meet so many different types of people in college and they help you uncover your true inner self.

[@taradrienne]

aww thanks for sharing this, jenn! definitely agree with all your points! i'm 26 and i feel like i recently just became more comfortable in my skin. i feel a big part of it is the OG youtubers who i've followed for years who have reminded me that we're all beautiful, imperfections and all, to fill your heart with love instead of hate, and whatever you do to just OWN it, fuck what others will think! (: watching this in the morning definitely brightened up my friday 💗

[@nicolewong5168]

your character is sooo admirable!!

[@imjennim]

Thanks Nicole!

[@karolinaohpanjaitan8758]

You speak english so clearly. And you sound like a native english speaker♥️. Maybe your first languange is english, so lucky

[@sophiango4427]

yeah she was born in america lmao

[@katbautista8440]

Current confidence song is Not Today by BTS. That song would instantly make me want to get out of bed in the early mornings and just kick ass. Love this vid Jenn 💜 You never disappoint 💕

[@maecyjoynavarro7286]

sun-rise Yaaass. The message of that song is really great. BTS army here~

[@maecyjoynavarro7286]

sun-rise Yaaass. The message of that song is really great. BTS army here~

[@chau8719]

sun-rise Also 21st century girs and Cypher part 3&4😆😄😁

[@wondersou]

I think the first advise you gave is the best one. Years ago I had so low self esteem and when I stopped judging other I started to be more positive about myself and also FREE TO DO EVERYTHING I LOVE AND ENJOY without worrying what anyone would think :) great video btw!

[@flourishwithzel]

The way you say it radiates in the number of your subscribers who know and FEEL the sincerity in ALL of your words. it just shows that you are applying these steps because it just shows in you, your success, and your life! You deserve what you have now. It makes you even more beautiful Jenn. I will get this started just like you did. thank you :)

[@vannteyh6548]

I can listen to Jenn talk all day! Jenn you're probably not going to see this, but I just wanna let you know that I feel like a better person watching your videos, you inspire me to be you one day. I hope to meet you in person soon I love you so much keep doing whats you're doing girl.

[@farrah3941]

I'm so scared of driving I've been putting off getting my license for awhile bc driving gives me anxiety and I don't want anything bad to happen. Gonna try and work on it Thanks for the vid!

[@imjennim]

Yes, definitely work on it! Thank you for watching!

[@farrah3941]

clothesencounters 😊💗✨

[@Jerdanchan]

this has nothing to do with confidence but omg jenn your hair looks so cute😍😍

[@abigailjolene]

Five years later and this advice is still relevant and solid! Thank you so much, I needed this. ❤❤

[@chelsea1880]

I always used to care about what people thought of me. So much so that I wasn't myself because I wanted to fit in. It wasn't until college that I stopped planning my whole life around what others might think of me. Any step towards being yourself is a huge confidence booster.

[@beijoflor]

Haha same, i try not to look at people passing by, but sometimes they're ppl i know, and they end up thinking i ignore them 😂

[@imjennim]

Hahah! If they're friends you know, they'll wave and stop you. (:

[@ricahhh_9052]

Am I the only one who observe Jenn's subscribers count? can't wait for you to hit 2M!! 😍 Love this video, Jenn!

[@xovaleriaff]

"We are little bits and pieces of everything we've experienced" ❤❤❤

[@noorianaseri2329]

One thing that I have learned is to except and love yourself for who are and what other people think of you it doesn't matter. At the end of the day what matters the most is that you're happy with yourself and it helped me a lot to become more confident in myself.

[@meredithkoh2128]

I've been judged by a close friend in the past about what I wear or makeup I use or how my brows looked and it got me rly insecure. But thank goodness I didn't do it unto others. And recently I've realised, the more confident I am with myself and the more optimistic, sensitive comments by others DONT get to me. Definitely a process when growing up!! This video is so good!! It's like having a conversation with you. Stay beautiful! Xoxo

[@Madeline96]

My highschool quote was "the limit does not exist" - Cady Heron hahahah

[@WhateverIsTrue01]

honestly this is such a fantastic idea for a video Jenn! I have always noticed what a confident person you are, or at least seem. It's beautiful ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

[@melissaysitall7703]

Loved what you said about not judging others! I used to gossip and think bad thought of others in high school just to bring myself up but knew it felt wrong. It wasn't until college when I figured through Jesus that that shouldn't be life. Now I'm confident in who I am through Christ and God. I might not have it altogether but it really doesn't matter what other's personal opinion of me is only God's. Having that mindset I make sure to respect others for sure but I'm not fixated on this phenomena of what do others think of me :). I'm not sure if you believe in God or not but that's the only true freedom and confidence I could have truly established in my life and would encourage anyone to do so :)

[@april-vang]

Thank you for this. I've been in such a horrible rut and this is what I really needed to hear. Thank you for not just talking the talk, but walking the walk as well. Your confidence radiates out of you in every video. Love you!

[@abbeysnails]

I watched this video so late! I had thought I gained more confidence in myself when I graduated high school, but everyday I question myself. I don't my confidence is where I want it to be. I'm getting tired of comparing myself to other people and start broaden my own horizons and continue to grow. I guess its just one step at a time. This was a very positive video; thank you for sharing this!

[@Em-qt8ks]

I remember having the FIRST song that makes me so confident whenever I listen to it and I was so amazed because it was a first for me haha. I think it was Don't Leave Me from BTS.

[@milkteameli]

thank you, I really needed this :) I just love your mindset and overall outlook in life, and that mindset is one of the reasons why I look up to you so much. stay great, mom

[@nicolekim1031]

i love you jenn!!!

[@imjennim]

Love you too!

[@nicolekim1031]

ahhhhh! i remember a few years ago you replied to my tweets 3 times hahahah thanks for making my day

[@mrsdarinzanyar]

You put it in the perfect words for me! I'm obsessed with trying to figure out who I am. I'm 21, I just graduated and started a job I've always wanted but I feel like I still haven't 'found' myself and that's been really getting me down lately because I was 100% sure that by hitting those milestones, I'd be closer to just feeling comfortable with myself. But I think you're right. I think I need to step back and just take opportunities, do the crazy things I feel like doing and just absorb!

[@yuzufrio]

Something that makes me confident is to invest time and effort in my appearance: just really taking care of my hygiene and skin, spending time playing with make-up and hair, making sure not to put myself down, wearing and experimenting with clothes that make me look and feel good. Also, taking selfies that I like, for my eyes only! HUGE confidence boost!

[@wlovelinda]

Ok. I really need to learn how to do that hairstyle. 😍❤

[@user-tu2uo9db8e]

two songs i listen to that make me feel badass are "My Song 5" by HAIM and "PRBLMS" by 6lack :)

[@user-tu2uo9db8e]

also im obsessing over your hair in this. looooved this video, perfect timing.

[@WhateverIsTrue01]

Ok also I looked at your playlist and it's BASICALLY all my favourite songs... all the ones from Majestic Casual in particular!! You have some badass music taste gf 😍 😍 😍

[@yanahlaurel5140]

What helped me was when I decided to stand my ground and to be brave with the choices I made. It takes alot courage and faith to make a solid decision in your life and to recognise what it is you want. But when you do you learn to have conviction in the choices you make, it gives you a sense of confidence. Take those chances and yes, stretch yourself. Explore explore explore. Make solid decisions and be open to the whatever the outcome Be it good bad.. Either way, they are your results and your gains. They will be a part of you and help you know yourself better. Have conviction and be courages. It's scary but a beautiful thing.

[@amandabeasley7573]

Hi Jenn! Thank you for sharing your tips, and I have to agree that refusing to judge others is one of the biggest things that has made me more confident...Lately I've been focusing on the beauty in everyone, and even if an outfit is not my taste, I don't try to fixate on why I don't like an outfit, I lean towards why I DO like an outfit. It's really broadened my horizons in fashion, and it just makes me feel better knowing that the people around me really don't need to worry about me judging them. I know how hurt I would be if these people were judging me, so why take the time to judge them? All looks people choose to rock are LOOKS, and there's no reason to feel any other way!

[@rurutherussian]

Badmouthing and having an opinion are two different things. Just a reminder.

[@caracarabonitaa]

either ways, if its negative, you should just shut up.. lol cuz ur point is still not relevant in Jenn's case.

[@Isabella-bb3wu]

If your opinion is hurtful to others and doesn't affect you in anyway it is irrelevant and not worth uttering. It just turns you into a prejudiced person, and ultimately affects your own person negatively.

[@alisonlim3300]

I'm watching this video because I have an impromptu speech next week and I'm literally shitting myself lol 😭😭😂

[@f4iry.3m]

Practise as much as you can and I hope you do well! ( I know how you feel I just did a prez yesterday xD)

[@alisonlim3300]

Emily Infiresmaann aweee thank you!

[@vydangduongtruc8818]

"The more you do something, the easier it becomes"

[@honghanguyen7971]

I'm totally an insecure person. I'm shy in public. And I'm at the point of life where I dont even know who I am and what I'm good at, I'm stressed about it a lot. your talk encourages me to trust myself more and really get my ass to do something I want. Thank you so much Jen! You're so inspiring! Go girl.

[@angelhung1222]

This video has been five years. Still feel inspired after watching it. Thank you, Jenn. Also, a great video to practice my English. Luv u!

[@cocoz6620]

go to gym and keep fit will definitely help improve confidence !! One can be confident in a shaped figure !!

[@JesusChrist-ze6hf]

Make a video on how to get rid of crippling depression... bet 99.9% in these comments need it

[@user-zw2fy3ck9i]

???? 제목이 한글로 바꼈다???????!!!!!!!!!

[@leggins93]

I definitely started to become more confident when I stopped competing with others. As women we are taught to constantly compete; for men, careers, or to be the prettiest or skinniest. It's hard! You're constantly putting yourself down to be the best. I've learned to be comfortable with my skin and to embrace my flaws and more importantly to embrace what makes me unique. Also I think having the ability to fully support others with no agenda cultivates a huge amount of self confidence as it means you're helping others and realising that you equally are supported. Just do you and embrace who you are and who those around you are!

[@pinkchucktaylor]

Girl you called me OUT making judging other the very first one! So true. Thank you for that.

[@claridl]

Oh Jenn! You just made me cry, I needed that big sister´s advice. im 20 years old and Im in that moment of my life in which I have sooo many doubts, and fears about the future. I want to thank you for being such an inspirational woman.

[@MiaJamilano]

Loved when you said "We're just bits and pieces of everything we've ever experienced"!! So true!

[@AnimeCountDown]

I started going by the mantra that made college and life a lot easier: Take your work seriously. Take your passions seriously. Take your life seriously. But the second you start taking yourself seriously, you become a joke. It just really got me out of my head and helped me to focus on my actions and my goals instead of worrying so much about myself and temporary negative feelings. I realized that by constantly getting worked up by my insecurities and anxiety, I was being selfish and making situations about me when my teammates and I needed to be focusing on something else. It just really stuck with me. And while my anxiety isn't gone and I still get panic attacks occasionally, I've really learned how to just accept and live with them instead of letting it control how I feel.

[@xamaiijelli]

I'm so happy you mentioned the driving thing. I actually didn't want to watch this video because I was scared to face my insecurities? But after you mentioned the driving thing in your February vlog, it really struck a cord. I would've never known that you had trouble driving. I recently avoided going to an event because of my driving anxiety. And now I'll just keep driving to eventually grow out of it. Tysm! It's good to know I'm not alone with this

[@megg6238]

Sunday Candy is definitely my go-to song when I'm not feeling myself. It instantly boosts my mood and makes me feel all warm n happy inside! Love you Jenn, thank you for such an uplifting and heartfelt advice video

[@annapang3138]

YOU ARE AMAZING! I like you post these kind of video which really helps me a lot. I hate public speaking and writing. It's not like I can't do public speaking, I just can't do a free style speaking. I have to remember every single word I will present in the presentation otherwise I will not know what I'm gonna say. One thing that I know to make yourself more confident is to love yourself. If you don't live yourself, no one does. Thank you Jenn for sharing your experience!

[@laurendomagas]

I love this video! Sometimes, I feel very insecure about putting out work on my KZbin channel or for writing, because I always wonder how people will react to it. But at the end of the day, I have to remind myself that putting out content is for myself. It's to help me grow as a filmmaker and a writer, and nothing else. If I look at it this way, then it helps free up some space in my mind to be creative.

[@patricias.alivio3744]

"it's okay to not know who you are yet, it's just a gradual process" yeah, I realized in rushing to know who you really are, leads you into being who u really are not bc like it's the pressure that's only working on you and it can get really frustrating on some point. ily jenn. make more vids like this pls!

[@KimNoSu]

You're really deserved a LOVE from every human beings in the world. im 10000% agree of those 5 points you mentioned. I'd like to add one more thing for being confident, it is to : Never compare yourself to anyone else in the world. You're not better than anyone else, and no one's better than you.

[@merisoo3051]

"So the next time you're about to bad-mouth someone, or judge someone, just realize that it's a cheap form of conversation or thought.'" Gawd I love this so much. I literally rewound the video so that I could hear you say it again. This is so true. I love your fashion videos Jenn, but I also get super excited when you make these "off-brand" (??) videos. From what I've seen of you through your channel and the videos I've watched, you are a well-rounded person, much like your taste in music. So it is always interesting to hear your take on things.