Things I Wish I Knew In My 20s

Feeling lost in your 20s? Watch this! Here are some things I wish I could tell my 20-year-old self! Thank you to BetterHelp for sponsoring this video. Get 10% off your first month here: betterhelp.com/jenn
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0:00 - Intro
1:39 - Don't let FOMO get to you
3:18 - Curiosity is a superpower
4:07 - You need to affirm yourself
5:44 - Stop trying to change people
6:53 - Do not apply every piece of unsolicited feedback
9:04 - Sobriety gave me everything alcohol promised me
11:04 - Your 20s will not be the prime of your life
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[@kemilois]

I'm 22, a lesson I learned (still learning) is that "fun" is subjective. "Fun" doesn't have to mean going out to party or drink or you know 'be wild' not that I have any issues with this but I feel society has kinda structured youthful fun to mean ONLY this. Fun can be quiet, fun can mean enjoying calm time with a book. Fun is what YOU make it!

[@maed3266]

I AGREE

[@niveditapandey6083]

Exactly!

[@jmuniz985]

Facts

[@SnsdLoveandGirls]

I love this

[@Hartman186]

This is how I feel about New Years Eve. For years, that holiday was such a drag to me. I always thought, "I should be going hard partying tonight cuz everyone else is! 😭" Not true. I had all those miserable New Years being cozy at home eating cookies. What a waste of time that FOMO was.

[@dikshyamohapatra7798]

When she was talking about how the 20s are not the prime of your life and said, "...life just continuously got better", I smiled like an idiot. What a joyful thing to notice! 💛

[@livelikecactus3732]

me too!

[@gabriellahanna5594]

so true 💛

[@alysia.james.]

the biggest lesson I’ve learned in my 20’s was that if someone wanted to, they would. this was hard to acknowledge but it’s been freeing to accept it! it applies to so many situations and I’ve found it to hold very true.

[@breeah2027]

THAT PART!!!! we hold people to the same standards as ours, but reality is not everybody cares to reciprocate 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@harithaha]

💜 thanks for sharing! so glad you made this realization & it has brought you some peace.

[@roxy2227]

Unless they're in a bad place mentally, also going trough bad moments and are unwillingly isolating themselves from the world and ,by consequence, you.

[@LifeOnWater_]

Wow I needed to read this. Thank you

[@ngocthuongho3785]

ouch

[@AyeshaNoelle]

The biggest lesson I’ve learned in my 20’s was that I need to respect my selfboundaries as much as I respect those from others. Sounds simple, but definitely wasn't easy.

[@indigo_diary]

For sure! That's such a hard but vital lesson

[@LindaThao]

I’m 24 years old and I feel so lost, it’s always reassuring to watch these videos for advice 💞🥺

[@TheeGaoSter]

Oh baby girl, things will get better I promise. As long as your conscience is clear and you are true to yourself, you will never fail.

[@rehalabar123]

Same girl,,, I'm 23 and I still don't know what I'm doing with my life

[@paigekirk1164]

I think we all felt that way at these ages! I'm not too far ahead of you at 27 and about to leave my well paying job to go back to school to pursue my passion! Try and live in the moment as much as possible ♥️♥️

[@merakimimi]

Same ~ I’m 26 and I’m such a mental mess 🥺

[@dreamOutloudM]

Girl I’m 26 and I still don’t know what to do with my life. You’ll be fine as long as you stay true to yourself.

[@Ojuolape]

27, home with my mom, often still uncertain about the future but still trying to live my best life. 💕

[@gruelgurl]

you’re doing great!❤️

[@snsdlover69]

girl doing great 💕

[@sophiachang]

So looking forward to the 30 flirty decade!!!

[@franklinthewoman]

I'll be 30 in a few months and I really resonated with your 20s not being the prime. Society forces this idea upon women that your life ends after 25. I felt so rushed to have a stable career, long-term relationship, etc, and I felt like I'd be ugly and unwanted in every aspect of life after that so-called "peak". But now I'd say I'm a lot more confident in myself as a person and I'm really looking forward to my 30s!

[@feyrie]

Honestly you can’t do squat until you’re in your 30s. 30s is new 20s.

[@shatteredteeth]

@@feyrie im barely 22, but these comments are so refreshing bc i honestly agree. i always felt like the people my age are accomplishing life so quickly: moving out, having kids, graduating school, working a real career, getting married, traveling. i always thought this is what being 20 was about, but honestly being 20 is so young, thats why 40+ year olds look back at us and still view us as kids who have our whole lives still ahead of us. im still feeling lost most days and figuring things out, my path is slower and thats okay, im learning life isn't a competition or a rush to an imaginary finish line. most people i know cant even move out even in their mid 20's due to paying for school, car bills, working part time minimum wage jobs that wont support rent here in cali (its so expensive!)

[@juliekimps]

I’m 20 and the “stop trying to change people” lesson really resonated with me. As an overthinker I tend to always try to understand why someone thinks a certain way. I like to be open and have a conversation about it because “communication is key” (I personally think that understanding is key but that’s another story) but I find it to be very mentally draining now for some reason, so instead of trying to understand why someone acted a certain way or said something that I wouldn’t say, I just leave it as it is.

[@anitaohia]

This 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@sanne3288]

Reading through your comment, I was like "YES this is IT" and then your last sentence hit me so hard. I'm a 27yo overthinker and am always spending all my energy on understanding others and their feelings and actions, and it is truly draining. It is important to make an effort in understanding other people, yes, but you are right: there should be a limit. There needs to be. And it is something I have recently tried to practice, making this boundary clearer for myself and sometimes just leave things as they are - and goodness, does it free up mental and emotional space!

[@elenatanesyan2128]

I’m 24 and currently I’m going through a stage where I want to change some people I love for the better. And it’s mentally so draining when you realize the person doesn’t want to change.

[@youjungjung9649]

Oh my gosh I also have this habit of trying to understand why someone acts a certain way. But maybe leaving it as it is sometimes would free my time and energy up! I love your comment, thanks for sharing it with us! :)

[@jasonng6771]

Man I'm glad I'm not the only one dealing with this. I'm a pretty empathetic person, but ofc some stuff I'm just not going to agree with and I'm learning it's okay to not have to consume those things just for the sake of always trying to understand others. At the same time, any time I consider just walking away a voice in my head also tells me that I'm not "standing up for myself / what I believe in" and I'm like ahh I should engage in this. It's hard to balance

[@robyn8221]

As an older person, I wish I knew that there is no timeline for anyone. You don’t need to get that degree, get married or even buy a house by a certain age. Do things in your own time. Jenn, 30 looks beautiful on you. ❤️

[@wubalubadubdub9315]

entering my 20's in this pandemic has honestly made me feel so lost and helpless at times, this video really helped me realize that they will be better days ahead as long as i keep pushing through!

[@joselynereyes5830]

And the pandemic will end eventually, so take advantage of it the most you can! 💖

[@angeliquephillips7023]

I’m 27 and one of the biggest lessons I have learnt is that the blessing i.e. the job or love or success isn’t as important as the journey of getting them. I had moments where I was angry that I didn’t get certain things at the time I wanted them .. but I realize the true appreciation comes from the right journey and timing.

[@GenevieveHannelius]

I needed to hear this!!! Thank you for being such a light in this world and on this platform Jenn

[@amaliaowl]

Avery??? I used to love Dog with a Blog, my childhood has come full circle

[@fromjkim]

omg I can't believe you watch her too! I love your videos as well Genevieve!!

[@norixdies]

I’m 34 and I agree with everything Jenn said! This video is GOLD 🌟 I was called ridiculous for being excited about the small things and I too wish I would’ve never listened to people’s feedback when they didn’t add value to my life. Thank you Jenn! Well said!!💛💛

[@ima.m.1658]

Same here, I’ve been judged for getting excited about little things and expressing myself freely while we were in public, even though it wasn’t hurting or disrupting anyone else.

[@_SENSORED]

@@ima.m.1658 Same my Dad and Older brother thought i had ADHD or Autism..

[@chloelane493]

I freaking love this! I’ll be 26 in a few weeks and I always have to remind myself that my life is still beginning and no matter how far ahead people seem to be that that’s their journey and I’m just taking a longer path 🙃

[@xfangirlalwayz1566]

I’m also going to be 26 in a couple months and feel pretty behind... need to remind myself about this too 😭

[@SherbertLomon]

Literally same. I’m turning 26 in a month and i feel so behind

[@lizlemerand]

Just turned 26 and same. We got this :-)

[@sofpascher8251]

This video is so reassuring and insightful! I'm 26 and feel so anxious and lost, thank you for sharing your experience and for reminding me that 20s are supposed to be a bit messy and it’s ok to not have everything together.

[@linhngn6585]

I'm 27 and I feel the same. You're not alone, you've got it! ❤️

[@selenared123]

I’m 26 and feel the same way, you’re not alone!

[@jessica23claire]

Jenn, I started following you when I was 16 and you were in your early 20s, so I saw you grow into the wonderful woman you are today. I’m 26 now, and I’m still here and I’m so proud to see how reflective you are, and self aware you are. As a Person In Her 20s I’ve spent a lot of my time in my 20s as a hot mess, but not in the same way you were. I’ve spent a lot of my time worried about taking risks, worried I’m wasting my life, worried I’m running out of time to do everything I love before I keel over and die even though I literally have a whole life ahead of me. I’ve gone through so many ideas of what I wanted to do with my life and now I’m in a “fuck it I have no idea” phase. Existential crisis after existential crisis, mental breakdown after mental breakdown. But one thing I do know: I want to do something that I’m passionate about, and that makes an impact. I want to end my life knowing I’ve made a difference to something. What that is? I don’t know. Is it creative? Systematic? Did I tell someone they’re beautiful today? Who knows?! But right now I’m focussing on myself, getting healthier, mentally and physically. Using lockdown to my advantage. Thank you for your ongoing honestly, Jenn. Thank you for inspiring me for over 10 years.

[@alexboyd1501]

"Why did I get so excited about those mini pizzas?!" Aww Jenn you SHOULD be excited about those little mini pizzas. The small thing make life beautiful! I truly admire your ability to self-reflect and grow throughout life and your endless curiosity. xx

[@raquelconceicao]

main thing about the first 5 years of my 20's was the luring "'you'll never get a job in your field" situation im currently having quite a hard time with :)

[@lovelyghost3980]

this is me but the last five years of my 20s TT

[@raskunchik]

Same here :o

[@Christinnaaaaa]

This is me now 😢

[@sawsan7K]

I'm currently at the “I’m not good enough or worthy in my field” period of my life. I'm 22

[@raquelconceicao]

@@sawsan7K covid really fucked up the job market here - so I've been trying to get a job since march 2020 then went back to school got a post gram WITH COOP and the coop was limited because of covid.. then got a job at the bank THAT I HATE that has nothing to do with my field and currently still looking. im 25.

[@riankagill]

thank u so much !! from someone who was panicking about losing her early 20s to the pandemic xx

[@whaaaat459h]

I’m 25 and this year I keep feeling anxious that half of the best decade of my life has already passed me by. So it was comforting to hear you, as someone who has been through it already, say that the twenties aren’t necessarily the best decade of your life, and that life just keeps going on. You’re like a big sis I need but never had ❤️

[@SadeWatkins]

I’ve always admired your candance on this platform. In more ways then one you’ve been a voice too so many people. I mean that on a deeper level not a general one lol. I don’t know if you realized but while you were speaking there were a lot of testimonies in what you shared. God is definitely with you. May you continue to be Blessed as you are in this new Beautiful Chapter of your life I Pray it brings you an Abundance of Joy, Peace and Good Health. ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🌻🌻🌻

[@rachelauber]

i felt what you felt so much 💜

[@estherlee3780]

Really needed this Jenn! You've been my role model since the early youtube days. Started watching your videos when I was 13 and now im 23. Been feeling so lost lately and definitely agree with all of this

[@LynetteAdkins]

I'm 23 and this was so helpful, especially the one on alcohol! I have the exact same relationship with it and look forward to turning that around😭

[@soogyeong8005]

When I’m looking back my 20’s, I think I was too afraid of what other people’s gonna think and say about me. I was too lack of self confident. I felt like I was living a life for others, couldn’t be true self all the time. I regretted a lot about this. Because as I’ve gotten older, I realized most of people don’t care about you as much as you think and myself is the one who suffer the lost which I shouldn’t have most. So I wish I could tell my 20’s “Don’t care about other’s opinion too much! Try hard to live “real you” as much as you can! Because you’re unique and precious just yourself! And when you ‘re yourself, you’ll draw people who can value you truthfully!

[@MyDirtyDoll]

It was a very comforting video tbh. I'm 26 and I really thought that you have to have your whole figured out before your 30s. Like you have to be educated, have a job, a husband, a house, and ideally, a baby as well. Now as I'm getting older I still feel that pressure (especially because of my family) but I learn to live at my own pace. And if I look back, I think that 20s should be focused on looking for yourself - get to know yourself, develop, learn, grow, seek, try different things etc :) LIVE on your own terms.

[@itsjess1203]

Jenn, i just wanna tell you how helpful this video was. Literally yesterday i had a melt down accompanied by an existencial crisis because I feel so pressured to already be "someone" at 22. Meaning that i already want to have an established career, a good social circle, a perfect relationships with myself, etc. As u mentioned at the beginning of the video, i feel so incredibly behind. So thank u so much for sharing your experience, it helped a lot

[@kadabra4009]

I feel exactly the same at 22 and it doesn't help that my parents are questioning, criticizing and diminishing my efforts to be more independent and adult and accomplished. So, since no one around me is celebrating me, I also have to scold my inner critic and be kind to myself. I think we all need to be kinder to ourselves.

[@emitrajkovska]

You know Cheeki's totally blending in with the coach, when you notice her on minute 10 that she's actually there :D

[@agyness579]

Hahaha I had to go back! She’s like slowly inching her way in 😂❤️

[@AngelaLValenzuela]

I turned 30 this year and I can’t agree with you more. I’m so looking forward to what is in store for me for this next decade.

[@angeliquebenavidez]

As a 27 almost 28 year old! I can say I’m starting to feel significantly better 😂 I know it’s because I’m almost 30! can’t wait till I’m actually 30. Thanks Jen 💓💓💓

[@Rose14143]

I’m 27 almost 28 too and I wish I felt the same way you do . I feel way older than my age and quite behind in lots of things .

[@angeliquebenavidez]

I’m sorry, I hope you feel differently soon. Try to remember that there’s no timeline you should be following, everyones journey is different. With age comes wisdom and that is something we should all be celebrating!

[@blackpandabear]

@@Rose14143 I’m also turning 28 soon and I feel behind on a lot of things. But just as Angelic Benavidez said, everyone has their own timeline, their own pace. Don’t be too hard on yourself 💖

[@Rose14143]

@@blackpandabear thank you much💙 !! I’m really trying on being easy with myself 🙏🏽 .

[@Rose14143]

@@angeliquebenavidez I hope so too, your absolutely right trying my best to carry that mindset 🙏🏽. Thank you appreciate your words .

[@brittany2190]

I’m 26, and I still am feeling so lost. This video helped remind me of the bigger picture, and that it is okay I don’t have my shit together, and that there is still so much more life left to explore. Thank you, mama Jenn 💖

[@Willowoffical]

Am I only one who is waiting for the birth video and been sure the baby is born 🥺

[@tcup90]

Today, I turn 25 years old. Honestly, I can't believe how fast time flew by and yet I feel like I still have a lot to do. But, I'm in college and plan to go to a concert for the first time sometime this year. Good advice especially with affirmations! I still struggle with self confidence (not as much as when I was younger) but could use some work. Thanks Jenn!!

[@berryberrykpop]

Happy birthday!

[@denaleriedunmore8840]

Happy birthday!!!😇

[@tcup90]

@@berryberrykpop Thank you!

[@tcup90]

@@denaleriedunmore8840 Thank you!

[@lalaland71731]

I'm 21, turning 22 this month (woo virgos!) and just graduated from university. I definitely feel lost as I'm living at home and trying to navigate my career. I'm trying my hardest to remember that life is not a competition and I'm trying to enjoy the journey. Listening to you speak about your experiences bring me so much comfort and I admire you so much for it. Thank you for sharing :')

[@SamElle]

thanks for being the older sister I never had!!! I had watched you for years and you have helped me through every stage of my life

[@melinai5944]

everything you said resonated with me in some way, i'm turning 21 in november and i feel like i'm so behind in life compared to my friends and i feel so lost but this was so helpful, thank u so much jenn

[@bellechuang_]

yesss! now firmly in my late twenties, really feel like all of these nuggets of wisdom are true, especially 20s will not be the prime of your life!!! i see my friends (and you, jenn!) in their 30s continuing to thrive and i’m so excited for the growth 😌

[@OasismyParadise]

I love how introspective, reflective, accepting and hopeful Jenn is in giving advice. Very matter of fact, helpful and depressurizing! I'm in my mid 20s and I didn't realise I had the mindset that this decade is supposed to be my peak til I heard her share it. Thanks Jenn! 💕

[@gracechance]

As someone about to start their 20s, you really hit the nail on all the things I’ve been feeling/struggling with!! I’m always so humbled by the fact that we’re all such individual lil humans beans, but at the end of the day having such similar fears/struggles and overall relatable human experiences. Thank you for your words of wisdom, they’ve put my mind at ease 😌😌♥️

[@bro_flovski]

i just recently turned 22, and this honestly resonated with me so much. i have to constantly stop and tell myself that i have so much life ahead, that i have so much time to figure things out and to find people who make me feel happy and loved. i’ve recently started working on affirming myself more (with the help of my therapist 💖) and it’s really impacting my life in a positive way. i’m catching myself when i give in to negative self talk, and switching it around to be more positive and hopeful. i’ve still got work to do, but watching your videos honestly helps me feel more positive and hopeful for the future!

[@maymi5569]

just wanted to say I'm loving the graphics in this video! I'm in my mid 20s right now and I used to be upset that I'm wasting "my prime" because of this pandemic but I'm now grateful for all the time at home/with family it's given me

[@shannonvanduren5703]

I love how candid this was, and admitted that you had "bad" qualities like trying to change people etc. I also love that with brain experience comes confidence, along with learning that confidence is so much more than how you look. If you are confident in your actions, what you look like is such an afterthought because you also don't place appearance as a high value in others.

[@SamFournier]

You’re always delivering words of wisdom Jenn. I do agree that affirmations are life changing, I wish I was practicing them when I was in my 20’s. I’m just so glad I discovered them and that more and more people are talking about mental health❤️

[@joolieshin]

wow…every single one of these points were so spot on for me, and it’s comforting to see that i’m not the only one who feels this way! i’ve been going through a really rough year and needed to hear this right now, so thank you Jenn for posting this. been watching you for years and there’s not a single video you make that i don’t relate to 😭 literally the best big sister/bestie i wish i had 💕

[@krystalqin]

this was so encouraging to watch 🥺 as someone in their 20’s who just moved to a new city, started a new job, and is trying to make new friends I really needed to hear that it’s okay to not have it all figured out - and that my 20’s is the time of my life to explore and really get to know myself and not give intro the pressure of making it “the prime” of my life! thank you for always being a light and inspiration for us all 💖

[@liv_koe]

I turn 21 next month and it is so beautiful to have such guides like you. I never planned to turn 21, and I felt a lot of anxiety, about not having a plan in life. You change that with every video you upload

[@wardahnasir8021]

I’m 22 now and I’ve been following you since I was 12- this video was like a warm hug 💕 twenties feel like such an omnipresent roller coaster but it’s only getting better 🦦

[@leahlukban]

You’re like the big sister I’ve always needed! I’m 25 now, but these past couple of days I’ve been so hard on myself. This is exactly what I needed to hear 🥺

[@emilyyy1203]

i really needed this. coming from a single parent family (lost my mom when I was 13), i look up to you so much, thank you jenn 🤍 also cheeky at the back 🥺🥰

[@jjfrancis57]

Omg I love those throwback photos in your opening clip! 😍 Girl, I have to say, you're striving in your 30s because you took so much away from your 20s. I admire a strong person like you who learns from their experiences instead of regretting them ❤ My biggest lesson is not everything needs to happen in my 20s. I had a difficult time getting back into the school/college mode. Once I graduated in my later 20s I was so proud of myself. It was hard getting there because I felt like I needed to graduate in my early 20s and have an amazing job right away, like everyone else. It was so intimidating being the oldest person amongst teenagers and younger people but I did it. I graduated college and now I've got an amazing job as an engineer 🥰

[@beyonceknowles8414]

thank you so much for posting this jen! im 22 and have been feeling so much anxiety lately since i just started my career but im still finishing my bachelors. thank you!

[@thatstrueblue]

I'm 29 and it's still hard but I love how Jenn explains everything and doesn't beat around the bush

[@natashasalim5739]

I find it so fascinating that whenever you talk about your life in your 20s, I can relate to almost everything you're saying. I'm 22 now and seeing how you can change and grow to be a better version of yourself gives me so much comfort and reassurance that I can do it too. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and advice! I always feel so much better after watching your videos :)

[@carlisimoneg]

I always love Jenn’s content but this video just hit different. Thank you for always being so encouraging and transparent!! We love ya!!

[@shyl6340]

I've been watching your yt videos since I was 15, I'm now 22. Still feeling stuck like my life isn't progressing, but watching this video reassured me. Thanks Jen! You're always the best.

[@clxudixs]

loved ur videos in ur 20’s! i felt like u had ur shit together in every video with the way you carry yourself but watching this video i’m like wow! you’ve always been so honest love that

[@CHUNGSARAHY]

Thanks for such a refreshing sit down chat! Going through a “is it too late to jump into a whole shift in career?” moment and your two cents on your 20s helped put life into a bigger perspective. Also, I’M ALWAYS SO EXCITED FOR HOW YOU EMBRACE NEW STAGES OF YOUR LIFE!! Thanks for helping me love life more 🥰

[@crystelia]

wow, I needed this. I’m 19 turning 20 this october and every month getting closer to my birthday, it’s been like me counting down to my inevitable doom. A million things have been racing my mind. What am I going to do in college? What do I want to become? How will I make myself & my family proud? I have so many passions & curiosity’s but i’m so insecure to try and embark on them, and i’m so afraid I will waste this time away just by being so afraid & feeling so small. But this video gave me a new sense of hope & that it’s okay for it to be sloppy, and it will be okay. I just need to breathe haha

[@maryam8789]

same im turning 20 next week, and i really don’t wanna leave my teens :/ being 20 doesn’t seem so great but this video definitely helped that anxiety

[@niveditapandey6083]

Advance happy birthday Crys!!

[@niveditapandey6083]

@@maryam8789 advance happy birthday mary! Come on, it's not like you are losing your teen it's like you got promoted in the 20's group! Trust me you won't even feel you matured so much mentally, compared to your last birthday 😝😂 it just means you lived that much longer! And that's something worth celebrating!!❤️

[@niveditapandey6083]

Advance happy birthday Crys!!

[@maryam8789]

@@niveditapandey6083 omg thank youuu ;-; to be honest I don't think about it too much but everyone around me keeps reminding me haha. Thanks to this video and the comments I can look at it differently. Maybe turning 20 isn't so bad :)

[@celestely]

I am so emotional watching this. I’m 23, have a year left of college. Going through a really difficult and uncomfortable time in my life. I’m dealing with a pretty bad heartbreak because it’s the first real and healthy relationship I’ve been in. I thought this was it. But life put us in different paths and he doesn’t think a relationship is good for him right now because he has a lot to work on as a man. He said he can’t make someone else happy if he isn’t. We cut ties. So now I’m having to rewire my brain and life to not be codependent, live for myself, put all the love I give to others into myself, and truly know what it’s like to be independent. This journey is so hard.. but I know it’ll be worth it

[@izzatiroslie]

you're so inspirational! i'm in my 20 right now and i'm glad you always make this kind of content, it gives me so much knowledge and advice. love you jenn

[@jess.doing.things]

As a 20 year old who struggles with constantly asking questions and feeling lost, seeking external validation, and feeling pressured and anxious to live the golden age life… this was a much needed video. Thank you so much for your words, Jenn! Been inspired by you since middle school

[@CyndyTangerineyyyy]

Yes to focusing on the responsibilities that we have now! It's always best to focus on ourselves and to continue to improve at our own pace. Life is NOT a competition! Yes to positive self-talk. Self-love is the best kind of love.

[@leipura4214]

Just turned 28 this month and this video is so relatable. Thank you for this, Jenn.

[@rashidua189]

Jenn!! every piece of advice was so insightful and helpful. Like you, i've internalized other people's unsolicited advice and then felt upset that I let them sour my experience. I tend to be loud and enthusiastic as well, which people around me try to temper or make me feel bad about, but seeing you own it makes me feel inclined to do the same and never apologize for myself. You're definitely my kindred soul, I couldn't relate more.

[@maddiehunt9413]

Thank you Jen for reminding me that your 20s are supposed to be a bit messy and it’s ok to not have everything together. I’m 21 and already feel like I’m missing out on loads of experiences and theres also pressure to have a great career and relationship etc. There’s always time for these things. To everyone in their 20s - enjoy these years for what they are and it’ll be ok in the end😊

[@ClassifiedCloset]

love these tips so so much!! honestly loving my 20s a ton (except for the fact that an undetermined amount of it will be spent in lockdown 😀) and I really felt like I've finally started to grow into myself!! But the affirmation aspect is soooooo key. Such a complex process to untangle but I love the idea of writing affirmations about myself daily!! Definitely going to implement that. This video couldn't have come at a more perfect tiime :') 💖

[@nizeny6494]

I really wanted to write this, this video is still saved in my library and i always watch this whenever I feel down , it does really help me . Thank you jenn , I always look up to you .

[@belindang8771]

Thank you for this Jenn - being in my 20s myself it has been a confusing but empowering journey, and your sharing and reflections have always been so helpful!

[@didrieana]

I'm 23 & i've recently been feeling a little lost in terms of what my passions are. Most times, I catch myself thinking about how i'm not doing enough (especially when there are people around me who seems like they have it all figured out). I've lost some good friends along the way too, ones that I thought would be lifelong. I think it unexpectedly left a hole of loneliness in me because somehow, it seems so hard to make new friends at this age where most people have a solid group of friends already, you know? But as I was watching this video, I caught myself smiling a lot! And hearing your words really helped me clear up the fogginess in my head. I finally stopped and told myself, "You know what? It's okay". I know I still have that fear in me, but I believe that things will fall into place, as long as I promise myself to live in the moment. So thank you for this! I've always admired your wisdom & intelligence, besides your creativity & optimism in life. Wishing you nothing but the best with your future endeavours! ❤️

[@strawberrigurl19]

Thank you Jenn for always sharing your enthusiasm with us! I have loved watching your journey of self-discovery throughout the years ❤️

[@ceciliahernandez18]

Omg I love the community you bring together jenn. It’s so positive💜💜💜

[@Tinizebrat]

i love this video! i think my biggest takeaway from this video and something i’m constantly working towards is self affirmation! i want to feel confident and happy in my own skin and be able to get out there and shine! cheers to even more loving years ahead xx

[@zarlene_joyyy]

all I can say is thank for this Jenn. I’m so appreciative for you and this advice that you always give. definitely needed for an almost-mid-20 something 😊🤍

[@RoseyWarm]

This is really great Jenn! I love how you’re being enthusiastically telling us all these points and it hits me right in the heart. I have been struggling to make a daily journal, I’ve read a lot that it will help you to affirm yourself, to remind yourself for a better change, to reflect yourself. But in fact, I guess I’m not that quite organized person it seems hard for me to do that. This video definitely was affirming me to do it again, harder this time! I’m tired of trying to get outsider / external validation. This is the time for a change! Thank you 🤍

[@carolinagrzaa]

ugh i love u and ur energy!!! i’m currently 21 & i’ve been so focused on my healing journey over the past year & i love it! i’m still enjoying life but i have so many plans for myself in the future and sometimes i get overwhelmed and fall back on some of my plans. i’m gonna start my youtube channel again. i would love documenting my everyday.. it’s just so fun

[@lynnekim]

Wow Jenn 🥰❤️ you somehow ALWAYS know what is exactly on my mind. I turned 21 this year and watching your videos have always been so reassuring because it almost feels like I can see see 10 years into the future and how my mentality will change! I’ve been feeling so lost and ungrounded lately, but through this video you helped solidify so many of my fears and worries by saying basically “everything will work out, just be your most authentic self, and you will be okay.” Thank you for sharing such intimate topics and being the best virtual unnie I could hope for. ❤️❤️❤️

[@isa.belle.alison]

she is just so watchable, love you Jenn and whoever is reading this too 😉

[@maiavitale8458]

i’m 23 and physically mentally i feel great so much more confident than when i was a teen, so far i’m loving my 20s way more than my teen years looks like things will be even better in 30s i guess 😃

[@ayeangieee]

one of my favorite qualities about you is your enthusiasm! i love how excited you get about little things like mini pizzas! i'm someone who gets excited over little things but i think it's so important to not let those around you make you feel ashamed for what makes you happy. i love this video & i feel so much more confident to continue living in my 20's and enjoying it to the fullest ☺️

[@aureliamenezes8438]

You're inspirational Jenn. You've helped me alot to understand myself. My life isn't the same since I started watching your videos and taking inspiration from them.

[@susanmcclyde3933]

All of these points are timeless and a powerful foundation for any stage in life. I am dealing with #6 right now so this vid came at the perfect time

[@LYMJ2013]

A close friend once told me I seemed to be faking myself when I got so excited about small things in life(a bag of instant Chinese ramen noodle 🍜at an American grocery store), and I felt offended right away. But I didn’t stand up for myself. As I grow older and entered my 30s, I realized it is a rare quality to be genuinely excited about small pizzas at a party! 🍕I feel reassured after watching your video, Jenn! Thank you!

[@xxJASMiNEE]

Still in my 20’s (26) but I’d say to stop comparing my life to others. Everyone is on their own journey and where I’m at is where I’m supposed to be. Thanks for all of the insight, Jenn!!

[@nae2186]

thank you jen. i’m 23. i feel like i’m going through all the motions right now and i feel like i’m be able to use your bits of advice into my lifestyle

[@jessicarichardson7396]

EVERYTHING I needed to hear!! I'm turning 23 this month and (already) feeling behind. After some reflection and a few helpful resources (like this video 😁) I'm realizing not only how much time I have left in my 20s but why I should focus more on living and loving life not only in my 20s but well after that! ☺️

[@dreameryplease]

I LOVE all these and the insight that it helps bring as I enter my late 20s

[@yejisadiku]

i just found your channel and it's like you just brought me back to OG youtube. this is the authenticity i've been missing. I wish i found you all those years ago but i'm so glad i'm on the journey with you now

[@AkashiaDanielle]

Yes Jenn! I learned this year to just let myself be excited and not let anyone tell me to dim my light. It’s been so liberating!

[@rubya5418]

Hi Jenn! I’m 20 years old. And thank you for these truly maturing and inspirational lessons that I hope I would be able to absorb all of your advices and create a positive mindset for myself! Also! Stay health and wishing you a good luck going into labor!

[@joannawu6913]

I’m anxious about balancing what I want for myself and what my parents want for me.

[@achinghaokip6699]

Thank you so much for this Jenn💗💗 It felt like someone tightly hugged me and is guiding me through this one helluva ride n storms in my 20s

[@KellyGuidance]

I’m getting through my 20s and more and more lately I’ve realized the points you’ve made in this video. I was soooo lost in my early 20s, just chasing something, anything. Slowly I’m becoming more peaceful and going with the flow of life. I loved everything about this message and I think a lot of us can resonate! Thank you Jenn for sharing your experiences, it really does provide hope & comfort. Sending you so much love & light!

[@whatthepato]

Here's a bonus jonus affirmation: you'll always be the older sister everyone's always wanted :) thank you!

[@marccolomayt82094]

this will be forever favorite content by Jenn cuz here I'm now 27 and not gettling lost with it. 💖

[@valm7487]

I'm turning 21 this month and ah I'm so glad I saw this- I was literally just thinking about how being with this one friend I have is tiring. I realized it's because I try to fix her and it's draining that she doesn't change, so when you said the thing about fixing people and "who am I to tell them what to do?" I felt like wow I must be on the right track for realizing this 🥺. Your videos always seem to come up when I need advice or just comforting words, thank you so much 💗

[@jaedyngoh1637]

omg i haven’t watch your videos for a really long time and i immediately clicked when i saw you in my recommendations, thank you for being so bubbly and sharing your happiness with your viewers. you never fail to put a smile on my face when i watch your videos :)

[@blueblu6967]

Jenn, thank you for posting this

[@irmamaulia132]

i love how your contents always a fresh one also a content that inspiring to lots of people, including me. thank you for encouraging us to go to therapy and thank you for sharing your experiences

[@celinekhuu2213]

The consistency!!! of your happiness and contentment throughout your recent videos is unreal! 😘 what a great lesson to learn - by filling yourself with affirmations, others‘ words just become a 🍒 on top!!

[@Liz-gv3yx]

I just want to let you know that the way you spoke about each of these lessons is very relatable and sounds so sincere and true to what you actually went through. I am 31 now and couldnt agree more with these, especially the last one! I have so much good things going on right now but am also looking forward to what lies ahead! Good luck on the next chapter of your life with the little one! ❤️