how I feel about having a boy 1 year later... gender disappointment update | sarah brithinee

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Thanks so much for watching today’s video! Last year when I was in my 3rd trimester, I posted a video about my gender disappointment. That video got so much love and so much hate. I thought it was only appropriate to post an update since Theo is now 1. I share how I’m feeling now, if I think I’d have gender disappointment again, and what things I really think helped me.
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[@TheNextTrainToHeaven]

You know what hon? I totally get it! I had gender disappointment too when I found out I was having a boy the first time I was pregnant. I didn't think I could feel a connection like I would with a girl (as my mom and I are very close), and then the worst thing happened. I lost my baby boy at 39 weeks - he was stillborn. Once I gave birth to him and saw him for the first and only time, I fell in love like I never thought was possible. It was then that I realized that my child's gender did NOT matter. And after this misfortune, I went through years of various fertility treatments until I finally got lucky with IVF. And guess what? I could choose between a girl or boy embryo - I chose a boy. So to anyone out there going through gender disappointment, know that it's ok to feel this way. What's not ok is to judge other's feelings and leave hate comments when you don't know their situation. I wish the world was a little kinder sometimes, it would surely bring us closer together. ❤️

[@pien21]

So hardbreaking to lose your son.. but a very sweet comment for all the women who experience whatever they are going through in life and in pregnancy. Being kinder to each other, that is what we all need. Hoping your second little boy is healthy and boy will he be loved!

[@TheNextTrainToHeaven]

@@pien21 Thank you so much for your sweet comment! 🥺 I hope you have a wonderful and blessed day ❤️

[@Twilight24682]

It's not ok to he disappointed not all woman can have babies

[@nybsbfan18]

Sorry for your loss.

[@jennage6748]

​@@Twilight24682 fuck this attitude this kind of comparison is not working and not helpful

[@andyscott6648]

I was raised by a mother with gender disappointment that let me know about it. Don't ever, ever, EVER tell your kid you'd had wished they were the other unless you want a resentful, rebellious child.

[@nicolemourad6558]

Finally some truth here. She is pure evil!

[@MichaelTrujilloJ23]

I was like this with my son I wanted a daughter so bad. 4 years later I’m in love with this kid he loves to sing and has so much love to give ❤️

[@Bella-ke7pr]

I don't think its disappointment, i think it's more like "what am i going to do with a boy?" You love either gender equally.

[@autumnmariewagaman]

Thiiisss. I was worried about this if I had a boy but honestly thought I was having one!

[@danilynn1217]

My husband talks to his mom on the phone almost every single day and I rarely talk to my mom, so you’re right, it depends on the person and the relationship, not the gender.

[@connormanfredini3417]

For me gender matters big time if the baby is not the gender i want then i dont want it

[@Yassmiinn.]

@@connormanfredini3417 lol you're so childish

[@hiddenhand6973]

That sounds like enmeshment or emotional incest...

[@JesusPrinceofPeace]

When I was pregnant with my first I wanted a girl SO bad. When I found out he was a boy I was devastated. I was disgusted with myself because I always wanted to be a mom and just couldn’t wait to have a baby and I couldn’t believe how I felt. I don’t think I realized how bad I wanted a girl until I found out he was a boy. I am such a girly girl I just imagined that I wouldn’t be able to dress up a little girl and that I wouldn’t get to do all those girly things with her. I also am not very close to my mom so I was hoping I could at least have a daughter to be close to…then I had my boy 😍😍😍 oh my goodness I never imagined I would love someone so much. He was the most beautiful baby I had ever laid my eyes on. I learned quickly that it doesn’t matter if it’s a boy or girl, it’s your literal child, you love them with all your heart and that has nothing to do with their gender. I also learned that all babies poop, pee, sleep, smile, etc lol it’s not much different having a boy or girl for the first few years. I also found that there are lots of cute boys clothes out there, you just have to find your style of what you like for a boy. When I got pregnant again I honestly didn’t care what my baby was because I knew no matter the gender that I would be totally obsessed with both my babies. I ended up having another boy. Life has been SO fun with my little guys. I always keep them in a fresh haircut and have fun dressing them cute and fixing their hair. They are 6 and 7 now and still let me pick out their clothes and fix their hair daily. Also, since I’ve been around girl moms I’ve realized that a lot of the things I hoped for was a fairytale. Some little girls will not even keep a bow in their hair 😂 I’m a girl so I can buy myself cute girly things and I get to experience the other side by buying cute things for my boys. I’ve also loved seeing my boys as a mini version of their dad ❤ I have come to have no goals and dreams for my sons. I can’t wait to watch them grow up to be strong good men. I can’t wait to watch them achieve their goals and have their own families one day. I look forward to having daughters in law one day. I have a great relationship with my MIL and my husband is very close to his mom ❤ In all, I’ve realized that I am SO blessed to have my sons. I get to enjoy things that any mom gets to, like going to school events, taking them to fun activities, taking them to the movies, dressing them cute, cuddling with them, playing with them, and watching them grow. Best of all my boys are SO sweet and precious. They think I’m the best/most beautiful/most awesome woman to ever live ❤❤❤❤ they sure have my heart

[@lindamorgan8672]

I wanted kids very badly and wanted a daughter most of all. I pictured her long hair and taking dance and all the girly things. I had 3 boys!!! No girl. My boys love sports. I learned to love sports for them! My boys are all in their early 40s, if you can imagine. I still love them with all my heart and don't regret at all that I never had that girl!!! Thought you might enjoy the long term picture!!!

[@lexuriouslife_24]

Thanks for sharing with us!

[@tequilabumbum4373]

Are you close to your boys in sense that they are telling you secrets and emotional things? Im scare that I would be closer with a girl. I just found out Im having a boy..

[@lindamorgan8672]

I am quite close to Mt boys/men but my middle son has never shared as much with me as my eldest and youngest have. They are so precious to me still!

[@SunRain-ep3hc]

Thank you for sharing. Found out I’m having a boy, first baby, my heart shattered as I am desperate for a daughter.

[@Boukal479]

@@SunRain-ep3hcru a father or mother?

[@daniellerzepka8998]

This was a great video. And I second what someone else commented- it was brave of you to post and discuss this. Your feelings are your feelings. People are often way too unnecessarily negative and critical. Thanks for being open, honest, and real. I appreciate and respect it!

[@blueanimestar101]

You are so sweet and I admire your bravery for posting this!

[@morgan6404]

Also I completely agree creating a nursery that I loved and finding clothes that made me feel good was SO helpful. It made me feel more connected with having a boy. I didn't want "boy boy" clothes. I wanted neutral, modern, stylish clothes and H&M baby boy pulled through! 👏🏻👏🏻

[@marsargoxmiso1695]

I love this! Because when I had my first I was hoping for a girl, and I felt the same way as you did now my little one is 4 and I love him just the same, so I’m so thankful for women like you because we are not alone in these types of feelings

[@MessyReds]

Thank you for sharing, and thank you for deleting the negative comments under your first video. People who never went through it, have no idea how horrible it makes you feel about the whole situation and yourself….

[@jennetchristensen5580]

Thank you for sharing this! I wasn’t disappointed to have a boy, but tbh I was a little disappointed to be pregnant when we found out, because it wasn’t planned. However, after he was born it was the best thing and I felt so connected to him and so much love for him. Pregnancy is such a crazy hormonal roller coaster and I think all of it needs to be normalized. So thank you again!

[@alysiatilllman3821]

I lost my 4 month old daughter to Sids two years ago, I was so sad when I found out I was having a boy last year, but I got over with hopes that the next baby would be a girl . Here i am pregnant again and i just found out he is another boy 😭 I am truly heartbroken. I'm blessed that his genetic test came back normal, but I am so sad. I've been crying all morning . I pray it gets better💙

[@nybsbfan18]

Sorry for your loss.

[@makaylamoody4066]

Did it ever get better?

[@SpiderTheGruffet]

Wtf

[@curlyproductions7104]

Thank you for your honesty and the support you are providing for other women

[@morgan6404]

Thank you for making this video! I appreciate your vulnerability, bravery and for continuing to protect your viewers by deleting the mean comments!! Gender disappointment is so so common and I feel like anyone who doesn't get it hasn't gone through it before. Congrats to them but for the rest of us it's heart breaking! Especially if you are done having kids or had a difficult time getting pregnant/can't get pregnant again! Also I'm having a boy and feel connected to him but there's definitely not as much excitement as I would have been with a girl. I'm SO glad to hear about your experience from being pregnant to giving birth and having that connection increase in an unexpected way! That gives me hope! 🖤🖤

[@saralynnroze01]

My first child was a boy. He’s 22 now and he calls me all the time. We are very close. If you want that bond with your child you just have to build it. Gender doesn’t determine how close you and your children will be.

[@gabibmw]

Thanks for saying this.

[@tequilabumbum4373]

You have a beautiful baby boy 💙 Thank you for the video, I relate so much😊

[@kaitlinwhitley5593]

I’m a twin who always replied with “God help me if I have twins!” … then when we almost certain I was having twins I said “As long as they aren’t identical boys I’ll be okay!” … they are identical boys 😂😂😂 I was disappointed BUT now I can’t imagine it any other way! I love being with “all my boys!” (Their dad, our dog and the twins 🤗)

[@jennifercochran4608]

Just the way he looks at you in your Instagram pics , you can tell he loves his mommy soooo much!!!

[@gidget_]

You are such a great mom. No matter what.

[@lissetsanchez5316]

How amazing you are Sarah. Just know that whether you choose to share that video with Theo or not. It’s how you felt. It’s never a dictation of how good or bad of a mother you are. Feelings change. We are not our emotions. I too struggled with my first being a boy. But, let me tell you 26 years later. I wouldn’t have changed it for anything. By the way. He checks in weekly with him mama! Not all boys stay away. Just as not all girls are close to their moms. 💙

[@AbbyMcGuire23]

I think the biggest takeaway is the importance of figuring out WHY each person would have gender disappointment! I am 13 weeks pregnant, about to get back my gender blood test, and I truly know I will be happy/cry either way! However, I would LOVE to have a little boy. 💙 I realized this came down to my desire to give my dad a grandson he can do the stereotypical grandson/grandpa things with, since my little brother is disabled, my dad didn’t get to experience those stereotypical “throwing the ball outside” type of things with a little boy! Once I realized that, and realized my dad will have an amazing bond with his grandchild regardless, it made me realize how happy I’d be to have either girl or boy. 🥰

[@cicislife1147]

Boy or girl

[@AbbyMcGuire23]

I found out I’m having a BABY BOY! 🥰😭🤍💙🧸

[@cicislife1147]

@@AbbyMcGuire23 congrats mama! I get my blood work done next Tuesday. I have 3 boys and hoping for a girl. Fingers crossed

[@AbbyMcGuire23]

@@cicislife1147 haha aww how exciting! 💙💙 well if you do have a 4th boy just remember what an amazing calling it is to raise young men! 🥰🙏🏻

[@cicislife1147]

@@AbbyMcGuire23 I will keep you updated if I remember lol. Good luck to you mama

[@jamia8609]

I sincerely appreciate your video on gender disappointment. Thank you.

[@dimplez8330]

I’m pregnant now and I pray it’s a boy. I have 3 girls and cried with the last 2 when they told me they were girls. I love my girls to death but I pray to god he blesses me with a healthy baby boy

[@laurenonthecotee8466]

I am the youngest of three girls. As a very young child I was told that I was the last try for a boy. I became the scapegoat and felt hated by my mother as does the middle child. But middle child married and has boy so all is joyful form mom. I'm 57 and mom still says to anyone she meets "I tried 3xs for a boy" as if poor me. So if you feel this way please please please get help. It's no picnic being unwanted by your mother.

[@yimahuguley190]

This was my last try for a baby, and I was hoping for a girl so bad since I already had a son. But when the blood test came back showing male. I cried and cried. And even though I love my 3 month old. I still hate going shopping for his clothes because when I see the girl clothes I feel it all over again.

[@KourttneyL]

My dream is to have a boy in my future. Growing up with sisters has made me not prefer a girl. Eventually I would be okay but my dream outcome is to have a boy. Thanks for speaking out!

[@doroteja9665]

Hi! I watched the other video of yours. a couple of days ago I finally had my 20 weeks scan, first one was cancelled, I ve got really upset, but finally it happened. I did try to find out earlier, but it seemed that there was none helping me, so I just waited. A little prehistory into that, that I did have the best mom in all universes and my biggest fear - losing her, unfortunately happened years ago, when I was quite young. I also had some disappointing relationships that lead to nothing, so I was already saying goodbye to my 20s and accepting the fact that I won’t probably even have family myself. Until I met my kids dad. But again, with a pronounced PCOS pregnancy wasn’t really expected, but it happened. I was shocked for some time, thinking that my mum definitely is sending me a backup family members I was then sure that even if I lost my mum I will be able to recreated this stronger bond and relationship I once had with her, but having a different role now- as mom. I don’t have any more family members and this is also very upsetting and I feel super alone, so I believed that I will be able then create my own family. And bum - 20th weeks scan -it’s a boy! first I laughed and took it as joke, like wow, how in the entire world? I don’t have a trusted man figure in my life, no dad, no brothers I do think that men are pretty much useless and worshiped too much. What a struggle and a paradox knowing that I will be boys mum myself. It looks like there’s not much of the pregnancy left and I now have to deal with these news. I feel so guilty by feeling like this, and I see that there so many women feeling this way it’s sad. I’m glad I found your video, and truly wish that a year after I will have the same mindset. By the way, your son and I share the same name and it means God’s gift ❤☺️

[@missnars87]

I needed to watch this. We have a 4 year old boy and now pregnant with a girl. I’m so so happy she’s healthy in the pregnancy but i so badly wanted a boy for my little boy to be close friends and grow together. I used to be so judgemental of those who experienced this thinking “you’re just lucky to have a kid” meanwhile I’ve struggled for years to have kids, IVf, HG pregnancy the works and I feel it! I feel so bad for being such a judgemental cow, learned my lesson!

[@mariacarolinamartins2851]

My little boy is almost one now. Both me and my husband were disappointed when we found out we were having a boy. I think his family was too. My biggest concern was I didn’t like “boy things”. I was a very girly girl and grew up with 3 sisters, so the I was not very comfortable with the idea if having a boy. One year later and OMG I LOVE HIM SOOOOOOO MUCH and I don’t even imagine having a girl now lol Really! If I were to have a second child I want another boy 💙 He is adorable, very loving and the cutest little dude. I also really like that it’s more practical in terms of clothing and hair care. Turns out I’m not the mom I imagine I would be either. So motherhood is teaching me so much about life’s unpredictability

[@kylissasimmons342]

Your story sounds pretty similar to liens. I just found out I’m having a boy and I’m not angry or anything because I’m so blessed to be carrying my baby and can’t wait to meet him, but when I was alone, I was a little sad. Especially cus my fiancé was starting to lean towards a girl. He also has 2 brothers and a nephew. No sisters, so I know his parents really wanted a granddaughter. In my family, I have an older brother who has a son as well but other than my brother, it’s me and my two sisters. So my mother doesn’t have a granddaughter either. My step father does has kids so he has both grandsons and granddaughter but I thought it would’ve been special not only for me any my partner, but for my mom and his parents to have their first granddaughter. But coming to this video and comments has really helped me relieve my emotions and it’s nice to see people who have felt the same thing

[@lanamber4894]

it won't be the same if you have 3 boys in 3 pregnancies.... I have 3 boys and I'd really love to have a girl...

[@MayISpeak]

@@lanamber4894 I have no kids of my own. My sister has three sons and she cried when she found out that her third child was a son. I love my nephews like they are my own and I love spending time with them. We go to the movies, we travel, visit theme parks like Disney world etc. They are wonderful sons. My sister kind of got over her gender disappointment when she saw how her friends teen daughters would talk to their moms. They say the most hurtful things (her sons would never lol). I think we should see children as unpredictable individuals who just need love, nurturing and guidance. We shouldn’t place any expectations onto them even before birth because we will just be setting ourselves up for disappointment.

[@reply_off]

​@@lanamber4894sounds like you aren't a very good parent. A real parent doesn't care what gender their kids are they would love them all the same

[@lanamber4894]

@@reply_off wrong. My first born is a girl and she passed away since she was only 3 months old and she never had a chance to go home. Just bc i want a girl, doesn't make me a bad parent, I take care of all my kids very good.

[@vanessajanik4623]

I was a little disappointed when I had my 2nd son but it went away quick. I love being a boy mom. Can’t imagine it any other way. My boys & I are very close. But ofcourse they’re teens now & while we’re still close the natural progression of them not wanting to hang w/me is happening. Also my boys are 2 & half yrs apart & they’ve always been close but they go through stages. Right now they’re not super close at 17 & 14 but again the age gap closes at certain points.

[@cherylsuds7882]

I didn’t think I would ever get pregnant. I tried for years, well we ended up having a son 9 years and 2 weeks later. I had been told I was having a girl because of his heartbeat. It got annoying!! So when “ it’s a boy” I was “yes a boy”. I just wanted a baby, he’s all grown now, married and his wife is having trouble conceiving. He doesn’t talk to us without a goodbye “I love you” he goes to the lake and spends a week with his dad golfing. He makes sure he calls, so we know they got home safe, from everywhere. My husband told me one day when our son was a toddler, that if something happened to him. He wouldn’t be able to live without him. He has been the best part of our lives. We have this amazing love. The three of us. Side note: my husband said if I’d had a sixteen yr old daughter, I would have probably put her in the deep freeze. So now I pray that they will be blessed with a child of there own. My sister has 2 daughters, her son came to early and lived 2 days. I am so sorry you went through that. But I do know “you love your son very, very much. 💕🙏🏻

[@LadyCladdagh]

Just found out yesterday that baby #1 is a boy. My husband and I were positive it was a girl! We felt our intuition saying girl, thought we had signs it was a girl… but nope, blood test came back male. It was a shock and I did feel a little disappointed. Today I am settling in to the idea and this video was helpful!

[@Michelle200794]

I'm not even pregnant yet but we've been trying to conceive for the past five months and this has been a huge worry of mine. I want a girl so badly and knowing how I rarely really get over things completely I'm already trying to prepare myself for this scenario... I feel so guilty for being so set on a girl since I think I wouldn't care as much if the circumstances were different. But since I already have a stepson and knowing my fiance has experienced everything with someone else before I just really want things to be different and having a girl would be so beautifully different. I hate how this is just another layer added to the issue itself and I'm really concerned about my reaction and how it is going to taint my fiancé's experience as well

[@jessicakelley0]

I just found out I’m having a boy today…..but honestly I really wanted a girl. I mostly just want a healthy baby, but i can’t help but feel a little disappointed. I do feel guilty about this.

[@Playing_with_a_Purpose]

This brought back so many memories for me. My daughter has a 19 month old son. When we did her gender reveal she had such a shock when she found out she was having a boy. She said she didn’t realize that she thought she was having a girl UNTIL she found out she was having a boy. Like you we have a very special relationship and of course love checking out ALL those adorable girls clothes. Looking back it’s hard to imagine that we both had those feelings now. He is our whole world. On a side note, someone does need to make a boy brand of clothes though 😜

[@BP-bm3il]

hi, i am having a boy too. Me and my mom wanted a girl very much but i have come to realize that the most important thing is to have a healthy baby. But my mom keeps talking about how hard men are to raise. I know she hasnt got bad intentions but it is really bothering me as there is nothing i can do and i dont understand her reaction. I always thought that i had problems to conceive and my mom always wanted to have grandchildren (i am only child), so i guess she should be happy to have one soon. But she keeps me telling me stories about sons that have killed their mothers, rapist, psycopths like if all boys ended up being that way. She has even told me that she had a dream where her grandson harm her. I dont know what to do. I have already talked to her about this but she continues doing this.

[@kellyedelarosa4654]

I'm going to be a Grandma it's a Boy I'm so Disappointed

[@adrianareyes769]

I know this is an old video but I just wanted to say that my husband still calls his mom every morning to talk ❤I’m also a boy mom who had gender disappointment at the beginning of my pregnancy and relate so much to this video!

[@bellla06]

Thank you ❤️

[@miriamspirit]

Thank you for sharing this, I feel gender disappointment is so harsh. I am also suffering from HG - and I think all this sacrifice for a girl that I don't even want? I feel so disconnected to the baby, I am even thinking of not having this baby... I am scared she will become a daddy's girl and my husband will always be on her side, and call me a nasty mother. I feel like boys are attached to mothers and girls to fathers, it's the most common thing we see. It is so hard to share because being a mother there are so many social judgements and expectations.

[@powderandpaint14]

None of that is probably going to be true. Both of you will probably adore your daughter, you and your husband are a team and your daughter is the child. She will probably be close to both of you at different times in life.

[@Dreamcatcher.925]

Shouting from the rooftops thank you for sharing this update and your original video. Ive been sobbing everyday since i found out its a boy. I wanted a girl so bad for so many reasons. I am in such a dark space 😢

[@arginder2291]

Why cant you just do the things you want to do with the baby boy why does it matter what gender it is?

[@Sevitrey]

Thank you for making these videos. I'm a first time father that wanted a girl. I just found out I'm having a boy yesterday.

[@susanf4857]

My first baby was a boy 💙 My husband and I adore that little dude (he's 22 🤣) but seriously I love all my kids.

[@missjessanpessan]

I really thought I’d have a girl. But it’s most likely a boy. I felt so weird 🥺 I didn’t recognise myself. Then when I was over it at about week 22 I found out an old friend was 3 weeks behind me and expecting a girl. And I felt so defeated. Like I wanted to turn back time or stop time. So now I have to get over the gender disappointment again 😳 I thought it was a girl, scans said girl but early blood week 9+6 said boy. I felt so weird when the blood said boy but my feeling, my scans, the theories have said girl.

[@nancyhope-landon9185]

I knew that you would get lots of comments from the gener disappointment video. Bottom line is many people feel the way you felt but they would never admit it. I knew you would feel different after you had the chance to process it all and your son was born. My daughter and son are very different people so the relationship they have with me is very different too. I don't talk to either of my kids(really not kids anymore 27 and soon to be 24) everyday but I do talk with my daughter on the phone more than my son. My son always texts me and only calls if something is wrong or he needs me to help him figure something out. I did think my daughter would be a girly girl but that truly isn't the case. She doesn't care much about hair or clothes . My son on the other hand is very particular about his hair and his clothes. Everything happens the way God plans it.

[@shannonhawk1431]

Hi Sarah! I am a mama to 2 boys. In my first pregnancy, i 1000% wanted a boy and was beyond blessed to have the baby boy i always wanted. In my second pregnancy, i didn't have a preference, but i was sure it was a girl based on the different symptoms. When i found out it was another boy, i asked the nurse, are you sure? She was like yes, are you happy? And i said of course!!! I don't know how to be a boy mom, lol. Now 10 years later and 2 boys...i wouldn't have it any other way. I have 4 neices to do girly things with, both my boys are mama's boys 🤣, and my husband knows it, lol. But if it makes you feel any better, my 40 year old husband still calls his mom regularly and will spend more time with her when she visits than with me. I appreciate the connection he has with her, so it doesn't bother me. I love all your videos and truely admire you for being real with us! Much love from one boy mama to another!

[@shannonhawk1431]

*how to be a girl mom, lol

[@BP-bm3il]

That is sweet Shannon. Many women get very jelaous when their husbands have a strong connection with their moms. A woman should never forget that a mother will always be a mother and wifes can not replace them. I guess having sons makes us realize this better.

[@anneanne5889]

I been thru it 4 times but I love my boys no matter what currently pregnant with out last baby and hoping for a girl but the line of boys it’s a slim chance lol

[@Candace488]

Sarah - I came across your video around this time last year when I was struggling with gender disappointment. I wanted a girl SO badly and was so sure that’s what our genetic test results would confirm. I knew in my heart I was meant to be a girl mom and I was so looking forward to raising a girl and seeing my husband with a daughter. When we got our results back and it said MALE I was shocked. I cried (and I mean absolutely sobbed) for 3 days straight. I was so upset. I felt so guilty for being disappointed, and also so sad that I wasn’t getting my girl. Today my son is 5 months old and I love him with every inch of my being. He is the sweetest and such a joy in our life that I could not imagine him being anyone BUT who he is. What helped me a lot was starting to refer to the baby as “he/him” in conversation. “Oop I felt him kick!” Or “he has hiccups!” I allowed myself to take the time to grieve the daughter that I was not going to have. I had to repaint the picture of my life that I had dreamt of. I had to rearrange what I thought my life was going to look like. But you are so right. Once he was born it was like, you are so perfect and I don’t care that you’re a boy or a girl or a whatever! You and YOU and it’s exactly how it’s supposed to be. I would love to be lucky enough to have a daughter some day. Raising one of each would be a great experience! But now, after having my son, I really don’t care. As long as everyone is healthy and happy, that’s all that matters to me in the long run 😊 So glad your family is doing well! Theo is so stinking cute and he is lucky to have you as his mama! ❤️

[@kylissasimmons342]

I had the same feeling too. I just found out today I’m having a boy and I guess a part of me was slowly starting to feel like it would be a girl but I wouldn’t tell anybody cus I was afraid of being wrong anyways. Also, ever since I was like 17 I picked out a girl name for a future daughter and stuck with it since. I wasn’t surprised I was having a boy but I guess I had a little bit of hope. I always felt that because I wanted a girl so bad that I would end up with a boy lol

[@tequilabumbum4373]

I feel exactly the same way! I just found out today and I feel so sorry that disappointment is there but it is. And right now its impossible for me to imagine I will feel excited about a boy, as horrible as it sounds, I know. Hopefully it will pass soon🙏🏽

[@marybeth1644]

I was afraid that I would have gender disappointment with the birth of my first child. So I refused to find out the gender of my baby. I wanted that love at first sight phenomenon. I don’t suggest that everyone do what I did (this was 25 years ago when gender reveals were not a thing and more people didn’t find out their baby’s gender before birth.

[@johntracy72]

Do you have a son or daughter?

[@amandalynn3176]

My husband is 22 and talks to his mom on the phone for atleast an hour every single day and rarely speaks to his dad so it’s definitely varying by person and not gender

[@dcdx8966]

Boys and girls are both amazing but there’s nothing like a mother and her son. Raising a little warrior who would do anything to defend you is just magic.

[@exploringespadrilles6803]

I feel this same way about my son!! Yes, love it all💕 good video. I agree, one of each, but would be nice to have a brother...eh Idk! Lol

[@lovelymix22]

I had a friend and when I was having my 6TH boy she said you should just be happy he's helping and a lot of women who want kids can't have them and then she got pregnant with her 3rd boy she also has two daughter and she was so upset it was not another girl and it baffles me how she could say that having both sexes to me with so many boys and she's crying about having 3

[@juliechilton59]

mum off 3 my boys are 21 and 24 my daughter 12 and she not girly at all all the visions off hair ties dresses ect nope lol.... think boy or girl all here for a purpose if you have all boys your just ment too be ... ...my boys are more loving ring me ect ...my daughter wow fire cracker ..i love my daughter but wow my boys where easy ... and as adults are so beautiful ..... never be disapointed a baby is a gift ....

[@JonnaAlexandria]

I found out I’m having another boy today…feeling disappointed but I’ll get over it 😩

[@njambi9262]

This is me 5days ago,.. And my man is so irritated about it . 😢

[@Sandeepkaur-uk8ry]

its possible 18 week ultrasound wrong gender

[@janethunter6653]

High and mighty people can shove it. "Atleast it's healthy" does not need to be said. That comment gets a big, fat "DUH" we are human and some of us are not perfect.

[@kellyedelarosa4654]

I Feel Awful in Myself Having 1st Grandchild it's a Boy so I have Distanced Myself from Family am I the Worst Person Ever

[@Boukal479]

I am very disappointed as I had my second daughter i so badly badly wanted a baby boy it’s been a month now i can’t get over disappointed plz someone help me by the way I am dad will I ever get over plz help 🙏🏻

[@powderandpaint14]

Why did you think you wanted a boy? You can do any of the things you imagined doing with a son with a daughter. Get to know your daughter's and find things you enjoy together and bond with them.

[@johntracy72]

Your baby is cute as a button.

[@rochelle-xz8gl]

would you rather your kid have terminal cancer?

[@very7962]

Wait you got a boy? Tf are you disappointed about

[@stutimishra6408]

She initially wanted a girl

[@heatherkrenitsky978]

Maybe you should adopt, then you CAN choose!

[@kenyawheaten2157]

😂😂😂lol you took the words out of my mouth and I think that would be a good idea.😂

[@brianconners8446]

I don't know why parents act like you can choose the gender of your children girl or boy,why not just be thankful and gals that your children are healthy and happy

[@pien21]

So that is not the point. First of all, you ARE thankful for a happy and healthy baby.. second.. you DON’T act like you can choose anything. Because of these kind of comments you feel guilty for feeling gender disappointment. It had nothing to do with loving your child, it has something to do with ourselves. And it helps if people listen to you and help you understand what is behind the feeling of disappointment. So for me, there was a past of abuse that made me be scared of raising a boy. Now that he is in my life, i am only filled with joy. The fear disappeared with his arrival. I know now it was just my past that i still had issues with. Don’t judge anyone, but listen and give them space to figure out what is going on!

[@miriamspirit]

You can experience both, don't assume people who have a preference are not grateful for their baby being healthy, like who wants a sick or mentally ill child to deal with for the rest of their lives?

[@jaysonovo4778]

Idk why anyone has gender disappointment. If they're very young, you can convince the child to change their gender if you hammer new ideas into their conscious. Through my teachings, my 3 year old learned he was not a girl, and that he wants to get the surgery once he's a bit older! It's good to teach them young. If you want one or the other, or neither, just teach them from a young age that they aren't what they think they are, and they need to change or they'll die.

[@tequilabumbum4373]

Wtf

[@teenixxy]

Do you think “convincing” a child to change their gender by “hammering” ideas into them is a healthy thing to do? I feel it could be considered manipulative, instead of allowing them to explore and choose themselves. Also why on earth would they need to “change or die”…? Like you would kill your child if they didn’t change to the gender you wanted? Please tell me I am misinterpreting your statement…

[@Eclipsefam]

So true. Gender is fake anyways, right? Lol