GENDER DISAPPOINTMENT | My Experience + What Helped Me | Sarah Brithinee

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Thanks so much for watching today’s video! Today I’m sharing a very real and vulnerable video with you talking all about my experience with gender disappointment. It’s a very real thing that we should normalize. I hope this video helps even one of you going through something similar! If you enjoyed this video, please give it a thumbs up and don’t forget to subscribe! xoxo, Sarah
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[@jenfiles437]

From a Mom of 3 boys I think you are going to be so so so surprised how much little boys love their Mommy! It is truly a bond like no other. I come from a family of ALL girls so I understand wanting a daughter. However with my 3 boys my heart is so full and there is no doubt we are just as close as I am with my Mom. My oldest is 21 and in the Navy. He still calls me 28473 times a day lol!!! 💙

[@SarahBrithinee]

Oh my gosh I love that! I hope this little guy still calls me all the time when he's 21! That's the cutest thing ever 🤍 I'm really excited to be a boy mom now and am so relieved I was able to get through the disappointment before he got here.

[@jpichet6999]

Sounds like the son that called “28473 times a day” might have some severe and unhealthy attachment. That’s not something to be proud about.

[@Nina-fi1tx]

@@jpichet6999 sounds like unhealthy attachment from both sides… but who are we to judge as we don’t know anyones situation. It does sound a bit strange

[@KateBerry]

I love this, just found out I’m pregnant with my 3rd boy, this comment made me tear up xxx

[@erikaw8042]

Gender disappointment isn't child disappointment ❤️

[@teddy-8408]

I just found out I’m having a girl yesterday and I wanted a boy in the worst way and it felt like my dreams got shattered. Everyone is making me feel guilty about it because I wasn’t jumping for joy. I obviously want a healthy and happy baby. But I’m in the middle of trying to wrap my head around this

[@kellyv4595]

Wanna trade? XD

[@halimakimathi4189]

I'm having a son, and because I hate my dad, was raped and was raised with 5 sisters. I desperately wanted a girl. I'm not sure if I want to abort... but i do know I wanted a daughter-_-

[@nooberbutter]

@@halimakimathi4189 if it's any comfort, your son won't have anything to do with your father and his evil character. He will be your perfect little baby and I'm sure you'll love him the most in the world. Plus you may have a daughter later in your life if you are planning to have more kids❤

[@halimakimathi4189]

@Elisabet Vainionpää your absolutely right! Thank you so much, that was much needed healing right their 😇🥰 ty♡

[@IamaproudChristian22]

@@halimakimathi4189 Don't abort just based on gender. Killing a baby just because it's a boy is not the answer. Your son will probably be beautiful and sweet if you raise him with love. Jesus is coming back. Have faith in Him alone to be saved. Believe Jesus died for your sins and rose again then repent if you seek salvation.

[@MeaganNoelleP]

I just had my first boy 2 weeks ago. I really had a hard time wrapping my head around a boy after our gender reveal. Now that he is here... I can’t imagine life without my little boy

[@SarahBrithinee]

That's so incredible! I already can't imagine not having this little guy and he's not even here yet so I know it'll be multiplied once he's in my arms 🤍 Congrats on your little one!

[@andrew91dawg]

I have four boys. I can 100% understand where you are coming from. I have cried every single time that I found out. All I have to say.... is anyone who shames you for wanting one gender or another... hasn’t genuinely felt those feelings of gender disappointment. I felt like I was grieving the loss of a child that didn’t exist. I promise you that it does get EASIER but it doesn’t seem like it at the time...

[@SarahBrithinee]

Thank you so much for this! It's definitely something that seems really hard to understand unless you've experienced it. I can't wait to meet this little one and I know he's perfect for me so I'm sure those feelings will multiply when he's here!

[@noelsangel20]

I am getting my „4th“ boy as well and I am so devestated! The dream of a daughter has finally come to an end 😥

[@kalalily87]

For me it’s never gotten easier and he is a year old. I love my son beyond measure, he means everything to me and I’m so grateful for him but I’m still upset and sad about not having a girl🤷🏼‍♀️ It pops up every now and then and I feel like crying. There are things I know I’ll never get to do.

[@luckyreddy360]

I have four girls and want a son

[@oceandweller2314]

you are so pathetic.

[@genevievermore7930]

I’m 24 weeks and we waited a long while to find out. We didn’t get to have our anatomy ultrasound until 21 weeks and then we waited a week and a half to have a gender reveal party that I sorta didn’t want in the first place (but the idea grew on me). Everyone we knew showed up and it turns out I’m having a boy, so I had to fake happy for the whole rest of the party and then through dinner with my boyfriend’s family where they were all talking about how excited they all are and how they “knew it” and wanted a boy the whole time. I bawled my eyes out the whole ride home alone and have struggled since. My boyfriend wanted a boy but was ambivalent either way, and he’s been wonderful and kind about my feelings, but I just cannot help myself. A lot of women I know are pregnant right now and all but one are having girls and I can’t help but feel that childish “that’s so unfair” feeling that they all get to have what I wanted. I guess I need to figure out the root cause of my sadness so I can work through it, but it’s been difficult for sure. I live in a very small apartment, so it’s not like I can “plan a nursery to get excited” either.

[@blueladybug4767]

I love that you shared this. Mom's are always shamed on having a gender preference but men are always encouraged to want boys, sadly some men get shamed for wanting girls but that's another story. Thank you for sharing.

[@SarahBrithinee]

So true. It's so interesting how that works. I think we all need to normalize our feelings around everything and give everyone the space to grieve, feel safe, and be accepting even if we don't understand.

[@green_hedger_68]

Absolutely opposite.

[@user-yu4tm7ue1k]

Men are not encouraged to want boys.

[@joyt.3982]

I relate to this so much. I sobbed when I found out my second child was a boy. After two difficult pregnancies, I knew we were done. I have always been so close to my mother & wanted a relationship like that. As a silver lining, it has made me so much closer to my mother-in-law. She also two sons, so I have a new appreciation for what it means to be a good daughter-in-law.

[@SarahBrithinee]

Aww that's amazing that you've bonded with her in a different way! Who knows, maybe you'll have amazing daughters-in-law one day too!

[@blackglitter1474]

Everyone in the family has male and female babies. I would be really happy to have 2 boys but I already know that the people around us are going to make us feel inferior. I already have a friend hoping I get a girl just like her. Girls are very popular in the family. The adult female are very nasty too so I know what's coming my way...

[@hollygrail2964]

I’m going through that today as well. I have a 3 year old boy and i was just told I’m having another boy and i can’t stop crying, i wish they were tears of joy but sadly they are tears of disappointment. I wanted a girl so bad. I’m 38 and i don’t know if will get pregnant again. I was hoping for a girl so bad…. I’m just so sad…. And i even feel sad about feeling sad because i know I should be grateful for having a healthy baby…. It’s just disappointing 😔

[@joyt.3982]

@@hollygrail2964 Mom guilt is real. I don’t know if you’re a believer or not, but I firmly believe God gives us exactly what we are supposed to have. I love my boys & have come to the realization that there’s no chance I could be closer to a girl than I am to my boys. My boys are now 18 & 20, dating girls I adore, & still Mama’s boys. Allow yourself to grieve, but know that everything works out as it should. I’m praying for you.

[@hollygrail2964]

@@joyt.3982 wow Thank you, thank you! I really needed your words of wisdom! You speak so beautiful of having two boys it gives me joy and hope! I am a believer and I thank God for everything, for my healthy boy, for your kind words and prayers 🙏 From the bottom of my heart, I thank you and I pray fro the well being of you and your family! ❤️ Blessings ✨✨✨

[@amandaporterme]

Your honesty is very refreshing! Thank you for being open and creating an open space for other moms to not feel shame what they may be feeling, but are too afraid to share.

[@SarahBrithinee]

That's exactly why I shared. It's important to let people feel their feelings without feeling ashamed of them. If my experience can help someone else have some hope then awesome. I'm just happy to be on the other side of this now and am SO excited to meet my little guy 🤍

[@heidim-w1750]

My son is 31 and my best friend - I never imagined that would happen. I promise you, one day you will absolutely love saying the words "my son".

[@Esh486]

Your son and your future kids are so blessed to have an honest and open mama, who will teach them how important it is to talk about ALL their feelings and that all feelings are valid.

[@SarahBrithinee]

Thank you so so much for saying that 🤍 Some of the comments have made me question if I should've posted this video, but I think it's an important topic and if my experience can help someone else going through it then it was worth it.

[@jenn0128]

@@SarahBrithinee don't question it. You did what you did for a reason and there's nothing wrong with that! Your feelings are valid and real, and like you said these are things that aren't ever talked about it so you never know who you are reaching!

[@Esh486]

@@SarahBrithinee I am not a mom yet, hopefully I'll get to be (pray for me), but as an empath I feel like I get you. You are raw and real, and it's so refreshing when it seems like so many people only want to talk about butterflies and rainbows. People go through a lot of emotions, and I'm sure many people feel exactly like you, it's just not talked about enough.

[@oliviasittauer5366]

Thank you for sharing! We did an early at home gender test at 8 weeks and it said girl and I was over the moon for the exact reasons you said. We named her, bought her clothes, and I was so connected to her. We had our 20 week ultrasound this week and found out we’re actually having a boy. I’m completely devastated and grieving the loss of my daughter. I appreciate you sharing this because I do have a lot of guilt for being so upset. I relate to a lot of the worries you mentioned so it’s nice to feel validated that someone else understands. I know it’ll change over time and I’ll fall in love with this little boy soon.

[@shanashumate977]

Thank for you for sharing. You are helping other mama's feel less alone. ❤ I had a son first, and he is such a mama's boy. He has been since the minute he was born. We have such a close relationship and I wouldn't change it for the world. I had my daughter almost 9 years later.

[@SarahBrithinee]

Aww that's amazing 🤍 I hope this little one is a mama's boy too! I'm going to soak in allll the cuddles he'll give me!

[@lorihill4411]

I totally felt this! My first is a boy, and I wanted a girl so bad, mostly due to the name we picked out and what that meant to me. It was hard, bc I had personal friends go through infertility and I felt terrible for feeling terrible. The first time I laid eyes on my beautiful boy, I fell so in love that I never thought twice about wanting a girl. I did go on to have his sister 4 years later. ❤️ I love the older brother protection and relationship they have. It’s perfect 😍

[@lorihill4411]

Also just wait til the first time he picks a flower and says “here mommy” your heart is going to MELT ☺️

[@SarahBrithinee]

Oh my gosh that is the sweetest thing ever. I can't wait for moments like those. You're totally valid in your feelings. Everyone struggles with something and it's not a competition. Some people struggle with fertility, pregnancy depression/anxiety, gender disappointment, PP depression, etc. They can't be compared to each other because every person's journey is different 🤍

[@johntracy72]

You got your baby girl after all. Awesome.

[@watermelongal5512]

Thank you so much for being so open and honest with us. Coming from a culture that highly value boys, my culture believes you're the luckiest person. I've taken care of my nephew from the time he was born till now and he's the sweetest little boy. Whichever gender my future baby is going to be I don't know but I think the best thing to think is that you will love your baby. I am so glad you're understanding so much. Thank you so much for reassuring everyone that they are not alone.

[@SarahBrithinee]

I do know this little one is perfect for me so I am the luckiest person! That's amazing that you care for your nephew and he's so sweet 🤍

[@ReneeBachmann]

I think it's so awesome that you're willing to be honest! There should be no negativity around honesty. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised. My relationship with my SWEET 3 sons and my "tomboy" daughter is amazing! I wouldn't change a thing!

[@SarahBrithinee]

That's amazing! Everyone has said that as soon as you hold your baby those feelings go away, but I'm happy mine went away before he's here 💗 Now I just can't wait to meet him and get to know him!

[@carolynmareck5112]

I never felt that way with my three boys, but having been a labor nurse for 30+ years, I know some parents do...it’s okay, we’re all different...but boys dearly love their mamas, and I can’t imagine you’ll be disappointed once you have him in your arms! ❤️

[@SarahBrithinee]

I'm already on the other side of the disappointment and cannot wait to meet him so I'm sure that will multiply once he's here 🤍

[@amandabraasch3271]

You are such a brave, beautiful soul to have the guts to talk about this on the internet. I enjoyed hearing your story. Congratulations on your sweet boy. 💙

[@SarahBrithinee]

Thank you so so much 🤍 I'm relieved to be on the other side of it and just can't wait to get this little guy into my arms now 🤍

[@livieperfetto7280]

I’m so glad you shared your story , this really really helped me . I’m in tears right now because sometimes I feel so overwhelmed with this. I appreciate you posting this ❤

[@shirs89]

Exactly! You can feel disappointed and also an deep bond towards your future baby. You are amazing for addressing how you overcome wanting a girl.

[@SarahBrithinee]

Thank you so much 🤍 And yes, there can be multiple feelings at the same time that seem opposite. It's totally normal.

[@lec530]

I love so much that you are talking about such important struggles with pregnancy. This is so real!! I have 2 kids, and we didn’t find out gender with either until birth. Our first was a girl, so I was hoping for a boy the second time because I knew my husband wanted a boy, I had always imagined having one of each, and I was scared my husband would want to try for a third and I wanted to be done after 2. So as soon as she was born I was felt disappointment and panic. NOW I wouldn’t change it for anything. I think it’s just what you said - you have this initial idea about something and when it goes differently than you “planned” (for us over planners....) you do have a grieving process. But it’s grieving the “plan” you had rather than being ungrateful for what you have! You are amazing! ❤️

[@SarahBrithinee]

Thanks girl! You're absolutely right. We all deserve the space to grieve in our own ways. I'm thankful that I know this little one is perfect for me. If we're able to have another one than who knows what they will be. Right now, I'm ok being a boy mom & plan to be attached at the hip with this little guy!

[@geraldine645]

I think it's important to talk about something like this because I'm sure so many people have felt the same but just never wanted to say it out loud for fear that they'd be judged or just be dismissed

[@SarahBrithinee]

Absolutely. These topics need a space and if my experience helps someone else then that's wonderful. I just am so happy to be on the other side of it and can't wait to meet my little guy 🤍

[@slim_stinaxoxo8226]

Just found out I’m having another boy. & the sadness is overwhelming. I’m glad I’m not alone in the guilty feeling.

[@caracorson2709]

Thank you for such an open and well said video!! I had twin boys 18 years ago. When I found out they were both boys I was disappointed and felt totally out of my element. I thought of how active boys are and all the noise!! But people told me how much boys love and are bonded with their mothers and that made me feel better. And I have found that to be true!! Now these big boys over 6 feet tall always hug me and just love their mother.

[@sharonfantastic17]

I'm so glad you shared your honesty on this subject. There's so many women who deny having gender disappointment and it's so refreshing to see someone on KZbin validate their feelings. My first baby was a girl. My second baby was a boy. I wanted a second girl so bad! I have a close relationship with my twin sister, and so I'm thinking that's why I had gender disappointment--(because I wanted my daughter to experience what it's like to have a sister just like me). I cried a few times and actually got depressed, and then I began to feel bad and ashamed for having those feelings. I was nervous that my baby inside could sense my sadness and disappointment! My son is now 4 years old, and we have a closer relationship than I do with my daughter who is 6. I just feel like I can connect with him more. I'm not saying that this will be a similar situation for you, but I just wanted to share that my situation turned from a negative into a positive--(and hopefully yours will too!). My son will always be my Squishy Squish.

[@marlajames2376]

Thank you for sharing this Sarah. Sending you big, big hugs. My first pregnancy I wanted a girl so badly. My 2 boys are about your age now. I am honestly so thankful for unanswered prayers. There really is a special kind of love between a mom and a son. I hope you find that to be true. My sweet boys are my whole heart. Since I never had a girl, I am not able to compare how that relationship would be like but honestly I think you will love being a boy mom. 💙

[@SarahBrithinee]

I think I'm going to love it too. Everyone tells me how much boys love their moms so I'm really counting on it. I'm also just relieved to be on the other side of these feelings and am so excited to meet my little guy 🤍

[@lizfinn2334]

you are going to be such an incredible mom & i can't wait to watch you on your journey! :)

[@daphnemooney6602]

I always thought I wanted a girl, God gifted me with two wonderful boys and I have never missed having a girl. My second pregnancy was so different I thought for sure I was having a girl,we did not find out ahead of time so I was pretty surprised when HE was born, surprised but not disappointed. Being a boy mom is awesome! You will see when he arrives it really doesn’t matter their gender, you will just love them so much.

[@rushainec2477]

❤️❤️❤️

[@sarahharvey266]

I love how honest you are! Thanks for being so raw and open💙

[@schenleymarino1358]

I love that you shared this! So happy that you worked through it and got some help from those who love you most. I'm older than you so I think it's okay to say that I'm proud of you! ;) You're going to be an amazing mama!!!

[@SarahBrithinee]

Aww thank you so so much 🤍

[@TuNenalinda08]

Hi Sarah, I am currently going through this. I already have a daughter and it was really hard to raise her as a single mom at that time. I have dreamed of having a boy since I was younger. I am now on my second trimester and I just found out this past Friday that I am having another girl. I could not stop crying, I was in my room feeling depress for 2 days being angry at God and feeling like I was a horrible person for feeling this way. My husband could not understand why I was feeling this way specially because is his first child which it made me feel worse about myself. I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing your heart and your testimony. I knew I needed help to get through this and God placed you in this hard time of my life. It may sound selfish but I truly just feel a sense of relief knowing that is normal to go through gender disappointment and that I am not alone and most importantly to know that it is possible to get through this and love my child like they should be loved. Thank you and Godbless you!

[@iulia3616]

I am in exactly situation but with girl#4...i always wanted to be a boy mama,so i.m still in shock,i can.t believe this is happen to me

[@caffeinatednaf1962]

I understand. Currently going through this right now. It’s okay to feel this way

[@green_hedger_68]

Same.

[@reneemundy1972]

This is not something I dealt with BUT I am sure that it happens more than people talk about. Even though I didn't experience this, I am so super supportive of women sharing honestly the struggles so others don't feel alone. Thanks for sharing!

[@SarahBrithinee]

I think it happens more often than we know too. Thank you for being so open minded and giving everyone the space and respect to have their feelings. It's important and people like you can help other women who feel ashamed feel safe to open up about their struggles.

[@nicolehughes5373]

I have no babies. Have no plans to have any babies anytime soon. But this was absolutely beautiful. I’m so happy for you. Thanks for using your platform to talk about something that doesn’t get enough attention.

[@roxannebudd1978]

So happy to hear you working through all this and finding in loving the baby you are having. I had a boy in 01 and he is turning 20 on April 6th. We love each other dearly, he was all about mommy when he was young and then connected with dad, so we both had a good connection and now we have Avery loving young man. Just show him live and you will receive it back. 🧡blessing to you and you husband and this new little bundle of joy!

[@SarahBrithinee]

That's amazing 🤍 I'm so excited to meet our little guy and get to know him!

[@allisongoorman]

I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. I am not planning to have children for a few years but I have these same feelings and I can’t imagine how much harder it will be once I am actually pregnant! I know you’ve mentioned being afraid of birth too and I feel the same way. I am grateful for your videos!

[@SarahBrithinee]

I'm so glad you've liked my videos. I think it's important to share my journey so that it'll hopefully help someone who is or will go through the same thing. We're all valid in our feelings and these are important topics that aren't talked about enough.

[@lambibi414]

You are going to be such a great mom. Acknowledging how your are feeling is your first step and you took it. Honest will always win. I was blessed with a boy first and a girl 17 months later. I’ve always said our son is so easy compared. Children are so different and your relationship is going to be fabulous just because you’re honey on how you feel now. Congratulations to you!

[@SarahBrithinee]

Thank you so so much for saying that 🤍 I'm so glad I'm on the other side of this now and cannot wait to have him in my arms 🤍

[@freespiral]

Thank you for sharing. I have been too scared to show how disappointed I am over finding out that I'm having (another) boy because "as long as baby is healthy" and "there are many couples who struggle to conceive" etc. I'm working through it and I think part of why I wanted a girl so very badly is because I wanted to name her after my grandmother. I believe dealing with my grandmother's passing and finding another way to honour her will resolve the disappointment for me. I am also apprehensive of having to raise two boys because it feels like double the trouble but I feel chosen to be their mom and believe I wouldn't have been given these boys if I weren't capable of raising them.

[@vilmachristine]

Another rare but HONEST video. Thank you for sharing and Congratulations!!

[@zeeeefineass1930]

I just love hearing / seeing people have good relationships with their mom because I never had that .. but ❤️

[@bee3027]

Love your honesty!!

[@positivesamantics3018]

I’m so proud to be your subscriber! I love your vulnerability. I love how you processed this all ♥️👶

[@SarahBrithinee]

Oh my gosh, you're are the sweetest ever for saying that 💗 I'm trying really hard to let my journey help as many people as possible!

[@caitiecatcreates]

I just found out that I'm having a boy from gender testing. I never thought of myself as a boy mom and I had all these plans for a girl. I feel so crushed. Thank you for this video. I needed this. I'm calling to get into a therapist tomorrow so I can navigate this and overcome it so I can give the love my baby boy deserves.

[@emilye.8779]

Thank you for sharing. I’m on the opposite end. I just found out I’m having a girl when i really wanted a boy so badly. Feeling that disappointment and shame. I hope you’re doing well.

[@Srajuanita88]

Thanks for this video! I go through the same, I got the news today and it crushed me completely

[@lindamorgan8672]

I was always a girly girl. Not a tomboy bone in my body and I pictured my daughters and all the cutsie girl things. So, I ended up have 3 sons. I'm so lucky because I have the best and closest relationships with them. I could never ask for anything to be different. It all works out for the best!!

[@SarahBrithinee]

Absolutely! I know this little guy is perfect for me and I'm so relieved to be on the other side of these feelings 🤍 Now I'm just really anxious to meet him haha

[@KyleEvra]

"Cutesy"

[@blackglitter1474]

Totally agree. The relationship doesn't depend on the gender at all. Really at the end of the day when we start that parenting journey, it should be unconditional is what I think. I am naturally open to any gender. For the girly things I have nieces to spoil. However, its the nastiness of the people around me. They make you feel inferior if you dont have one of each.

[@tracyparker4587]

Thank you for your bravery in your honesty. I have only one child, and was told prior to conceiving that I would only be able to have one successful pregnancy because of a severe heart condition. I remember, even though it was over 20 years ago, how desperately I desired to have a daughter. I remember telling people that I wanted a healthy girl, not just a healthy baby. I had lost all communication and any relationship with my family after being placed in foster care my junior year of high school; and although that relationship was never healed, I felt that I needed to have the chance of experiencing a mother/daughter bond that had been irrevocably broken. God blessed me with a daughter, who now is my best friend (other than my husband), and I am forever grateful. I will be praying for continued peace and excitement as you prepare for your precious baby’s arrival; and also, that you will be given the daughter you so immensely desire. You are a blessing, Sarah.

[@SarahBrithinee]

Oh my gosh. 1. I'm so so glad you were able to have a healthy baby and got the girl you had hoped for. It sounds like you've overcome a lot and have a ton to be proud of. It's incredible that she's become your bestie. I'm sure it's a bond that you both treasure! Maybe we'll have a daughter in our future, maybe not. I'm just excited to meet this little one and feel so happy that I'm finally on the other side of the disappointment 💗

[@hannahwinters6736]

Thank you for this. I am 12 weeks pregnant, and I’ve been emotional since we found out. I am scared to be a mom and worried about my ability to be a good one. I was excited to find out the gender and was hoping for a girl simply because I thought it would make transitioning to motherhood easier and would make me a little more excited…and I am so so close with my mom too. But I just found out today that I’m having a boy and have been so emotional and even more nervous all day. This gives me hope it’ll get better. Of course having a healthy baby is the number one thing but that doesn’t erase the other complicated thoughts. Thank you 💙💙

[@vaishaaliramalingam5020]

You are a saviour. Am here not for me but for my husband. He s having difficulties accepting a girl because of past traumas in his family. Thanks. Thanks a lot for this

[@bougiebaby985]

I really needed this video 🥺 thank you for being honest and open. I didn’t realize this was a thing but I cried so much and still crying my feelings are very crushed although I don’t mean to feel this way I just do. But this video helped me feel a little better.

[@corinneM0818]

This is such a sweet and honest video Sarah.🧸. I had a boy first and of course fell in loved with him. I wished for a girl next and got my girl. Fast forward 20+ years and while I love both my children equally, I have a closer relationship with my son. Go figure.💁🏼‍♀️ Many blessings in your journey.

[@yeshalloween]

Thank you very much for sharing. I just found out yesterday that I’m having my 3rd boy. I feel horrible but I’m devastated. I’m 39 so I’m done having children. I longed for the daughter that I was certain God would send. My little girl who will never, ever be. It’s not against the baby boy. I will love him with all my heart. I’m just mourning closing the door forever on the girl I’ll never have.

[@GinaBS]

thanks for sharing this

[@kylissasimmons342]

I’m sorry to hear that. I’m currently 17 weeks and just found out I’m having a boy as well. It’s hard for my fiancé and I as well cus we did want a girl too. I know that can be hard hearing it’s a girl and then next appt it’s actually not. I know that was probably a roller coaster emotions. And I’m sorry you had to deal with judgement from your family

[@GinaBS]

@@kylissasimmons342 Hi! Thanks for your nice words. Yes, I needed time to process it, thankfully my husband has been an Angel the whole time. Now our boy is 10 months old and we love him to the moon and back. He's amazing 😊 You get over gender disappontment at one point, every parent needs their own time and space.

[@johntracy72]

Was the baby a boy or girl? I knew someone who's friend was told 4 times during her first pregnancy that she was having a girl and imagine her surprise when the baby was born and it was a boy instead.

[@Allie-lk2bv]

Gender disappointment is so real… I just pound out I’m about to have my 3rd boy yesterday… and it feels like I just keep being let down. I always visioned myself having a daughter to bond with and now it just feels like that will never happen for me… idk maybe I’ll try for another. I love the boys I already have and I wouldn’t want to change anything about them. This time I just really thought this would be the one and that I would be done having babies… but I’m honestly just so determined to have a girl… next time I’m thinking of doing IVF just to kinda ensure that I finally get a girl… expensive but sounds worth it.

[@trishamsutton]

Your feelings are 1000% valid. People don't like hard truths. They like sugarcoated lies.

[@crystaldawn3477]

When I found out our first was a boy I was ok with it because I wanted one of each and just “knew” the second one would be a girl. I cried like a baby at the ultrasound for our second son. My mom and I are so close and I have no sisters. I had always dreamed of having that kind of relationship with a daughter. I felt so ashamed for crying but couldn’t hold back the tears. That sweet baby is now 19 and the light of my life! 💙

[@tequilabumbum4373]

Are you close to him? In a way that he is calling you often and that you are able to have heartfelt conversations with him? I think this is the part that I fear the most… i just found out Im having a boy

[@ginnyburley9552]

I very, very much wanted a boy with my first two pregnancies. The first baby (and in those days gender wasn’t generally revealed before the birth, so I didn’t know for any of my three pregnancies) was a girl and I was very happy. When my second daughter was born, I was secretly heartbroken. I couldn’t tell anyone because I felt it was wrong. I really had to address my feelings alone over time, and over time I realized that having 2 little girls was just what needed to bring out my femininity. When my son was born it truly didn’t matter. I enjoyed having a boy too and have always felt very blessed with what the universe provided for me. Good for you to address this issue!!

[@SarahBrithinee]

I'm so sorry you felt like you weren't able to express your feelings. That's exactly why I made this video. We need the space to feel our feelings! I know I'm going to love this little guy so so much because I already do 🤍 and I'm so relieved to be on the other side of these feelings!

[@88thisiscrap]

I hope that one day if I ever become a mom I am as open and honest with my feelings as you are ❤️

[@sheap3871]

I just got the news I’m having a girl. I have twin girls and this one was is my last. I wanted a boy we had his name picked out for years. I’m very distraught. I’m happy she is healthy but I’m soo sad! I’m so emotional right now.

[@lissetsanchez5316]

Sarah I wish I could come across the screen and hug you. No judgement here! I was upset when I found out I was having a boy. However, he is now 25 and I can tell you honestly I am so glad we were blessed with a son first. We are extremely close and he currently is serving in the Army. He is deployed and so proud of him and the man he has become! 💙 Being honest about how you feel and speaking on those feelings is BEST. Feelings do not dictate who you are!!! Remember that!

[@SarahBrithinee]

Thanks Lisset 🤍 I'm excited to look back in 25 years and be so so proud of the little man that I've raised too. I know he's perfect for me and I'm so relieved to be on the other side of these feeligns 🤍

[@lissetsanchez5316]

@@SarahBrithinee ☺️💙

[@everrmoree]

Thanks for sharing so openly Sarah!!! This is something I always worried may happen to me if I’m lucky enough to get pregnant. So nice to hear that I’m not alone! 🙌🏻👏🏻 love how authentic you’ve been on this journey! ❤️

[@SarahBrithinee]

It's definitely something that I think a lot more people deal with than we realize. Even if you do end up dealing with it, there's hope & happiness on the other side of it!

[@ajda1313]

Thank you for this video! Very helpful!

[@gidget_]

I'm so happy that you are making these videos. This is also a hard subject that you are bravely talking about. Many parents have a preference and are just scared to admit it. I'm happy you are excited now and have a name. I just can't put it all into words. You are a beautiful person inside and out. Your honest and real. 💜💜

[@tornflyer]

This is beautifully honest and I love how you talk about your mom. I feel the same about mine. ❤️ I had a son last June. Over here in Belgium we also find out the gender very early and I've always had this image of having a boy first and a girl second. I'm quite afraid for gender dissapointment whenever I get pregnant again, because of these expectations. I am afraid in advance of mourning me not having a daughter. On the other hand I can't imagine loving someone else as much as I love my son. Although he's only 9 months old, I feel very connected to him. Phisically he looks like his dad, but his habits and energy remind me a lot about myself. He looks at me like I am the most beautiful person in the world, which warms my heart and I love being "needed". I am sure you'll have the same experience and you'll love him more than anything. 💙 Good luck and all the best to you!

[@SarahBrithinee]

Thank you so much 🤍 I'm relieved to be over the disappointment, but it's certainly a real feeling. I cannot wait to meet him and hopefully be his favorite human 🤍

[@juliespady8467]

I totally understand how you feel. I have not been thru this but your video was very honest and helped me to understand...no judgement from me.

[@SarahBrithinee]

Thank you so much. I can imagine how hard it would be to understand if it's not something you've experienced. I appreciate you watching with an open mind and really taking the time to understand -- that says a lot about you 💗

[@juliespady8467]

@@SarahBrithinee thanks. I found your channel accidentally about a year ago. I enjoy your reviews on stuff and then I was excited when you got pg. I wish you a healthy rest of your pregnancy and can’t wait to see baby.

[@StrawberryMoon_0o0]

This video was so helpful and therapeutic for me. Thank you

[@OB9913]

I myself have never experiences this yet and was quick to judge others for the disappointment. I appreciate your transparency and insight. I failed to realize the depth of the matter.

[@SarahBrithinee]

I think it’s easy to think it’s all for superficial reasons, but there are usually much more deeply rooted reasons behind it. I appreciate you being open minded & being able to see another side of it 🤍 This is how we all become more supportive of our communities by learning!

[@karenellsworth4683]

Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽 I felt the same way when I found out I was having my 3rd boy and picking a name has been difficult since I was set on a girl name.

[@TheBreebavolyar]

Thankyou for making this video I’m going through this right now

[@LianneStileman]

Thank you so much for sharing this! X

[@kmmc1112]

My son is such a blessing to me but daughter is a 180. She rarely calls or texts. She knows we would like videos of our grandkids and we rarely get them. When her grandparents were at home in hospice she came once for about a half hour for her grandfather and not once for her grandmother who did so so much for her and spent a fortune on her for golf. She will never be there for us… No doubt in my mind. We spent tens of thousands on her and made sure she has no college debt. I get a birthday call and a gift maybe 2 wks later. My son is a gift from God. Boys are Blessings!

[@radbrad1133]

Thank you for posting this 🩵

[@alexandramotsetdelices6138]

Thank you so much for being open and sincere like this. I'm pregnant with my first and quite disappointed of not having a girl. I also have the best relationship with my mom and 2 sisters and I've just no idea what raising a boy will be like. I just hope we find things to share because I'm so very girly.

[@lindaballerina100]

Thanks for sharing! Also going through th same thing and wondering how you're feeling now one year later?

[@alexandramotsetdelices6138]

@@lindaballerina100 I'm sorry. But I got my mind wrapped around having a boy a few weeks later and when he was born I directly fell in love 💕 He is such a calm and sweet baby. He loves books just like I do and it's a pure joy to see him grow. I still hope to have a girl at some point of course but I'm not so lost anymore :) I hope you will also be able to experience this !

[@cailinpenberthy445]

Your honesty and vulnerability is sooo refreshing! I appreciated the explanation for cultivating the relationship you want with those in your life! 💛 Thank you for sharing these hard details with us, it makes your true fans love you even more!

[@SarahBrithinee]

Aww thank you 💗 And yes, cultivating the relationships we want is so important. It's a lesson in life we all need whether that's with our kids, parents, partner, friends, co-workers, etc.!

[@Candace488]

Thank you for sharing this. I am going through the exact same thing right now. We just found out at 12 weeks that our baby is a boy. I was SO sure it was going to be a girl and all our family and friends thought it was going to be a girl. My heart is absolutely broken right now. But watching people talk about gender disappointment and that it gets easier to adjust to this new reality, gives me so much hope and makes me feel a lot better. I keep telling myself that for now, I am allowed to feel these feelings and mourn the baby girl that I have always dreamed of.

[@SarahBrithinee]

You are absolutely allowed to feel how you feel. Theo is now 7 weeks old & I will tell you that there’s no way on this earth I’d rather have any girl over him. He’s the best thing to ever happen to me & I love him more then I ever knew was possible. It’s easier to say that on the other side than feel it/believe it when you’re going through the disappointment, but when that little boy is placed in your arms you will be so thankful it’s him 🤍

[@tequilabumbum4373]

Im feeling exactly the same and grieving the little girl i thought I will have 😞 It feels like it will not get better. Did you feel better eventually? Im sure you did, I would just like to hear a honest answer 🙏🏽❤️

[@Candace488]

@@tequilabumbum4373 I’m so sorry your feeling this way. I know the guilt makes it even tougher. But yes, I did start to feel better eventually! I had a hard time connecting with my baby throughout my entire pregnancy. It felt very foreign and I never really felt that maternal instinct kick in. Even after my son was born, it took me a few weeks to really feel connected to him (I had kind of a traumatic birth/delivery so I’m sure that also contributed to the delayed connection). But while I was pregnant, I found that referring to the baby as “him/he/his” made it seem more real. Buying clothes, picking out a name, decorating his nursery… all those things made me feel better about having a boy. It sounds silly, but I truly believe now that you get the kids that you’re SUPPOSED to have. It’s ok to feel sad and disappointed right now. Grieve the life you pictured with that little girl. But get ready to live the best life with your boy! It’s so much better than I ever imagined it could be ❤️

[@tequilabumbum4373]

@@Candace488 thank you so much for your reply, it gives me so much hope! I actually feel a little better already, you are right, those things seem silly but they do help, like picking out a name and going shopping. Just trying to imagine a new dream, with a lil boy in it❤️ Im wishing you and your family all the best 🙏🏽

[@crystalcastaneda1016]

Thank you for being brave enough to share your experience about such a common but taboo topic! I will find out the gender of my third child next week, but have some anxiety about it since everyone is expecting a girl (since my two children I have already are both boys). It has me leaning towards one gender than the other because of the pressure 😬 your video has help me think more about the root of my anxiety and sorting through it now before I find out the gender for-sure. Well, congrats on you baby boy! My boys are the sparkle of my eye and they love momma more than anyone else on the planet! 🤗❤ you will love it!

[@heddy51]

As someone who determines gender for a living I can tell you that many couples experience the same feelings. I have soooooo many stories, some funny, some maddening, and some heartbreaking. E very one wants a healthy baby, but we are human and we have these feelings . In all honesty I had to find out with my first because I knew I would be disappointed with a certain gender...my deep rooted reasons are my own, but they were real to me. This is one of the reasons s I feel so strongly about helping people find out gender and even seeing their babies anytime before birth so they have that jump start to falling in love and bonding. Sorry, here I am writing a paragraph and I could say so much more, but it is something near and dear to me. Just remeber... at least he's handsome;)

[@SarahBrithinee]

Yes, absolutely 🤍 You provide such an incredible gift to families! I'm relieved to be on the other side of this now and just can't wait to meet my little cutie. Being able to see him and hear his heartbeat and watch him move around really does provide such a different type of bond while they're in there 🤍

[@kalalily87]

That’s awesome! Hopefully you are kind and understanding. My ultrasound tech was horrible, she was just down right mean.

[@chiefswife1212]

I get it, I was so happy when I knew it was a boy not a girl! Only had 1 child, and did not want a girl, everyone thought I was nuts when I was so visibly happy I cried!! We want what we want:)

[@Mackenzie88]

Why did you not want a girl is because she like men more than you

[@MzEpiqBeatz]

@@Mackenzie88 How are you trying to be a smart ass and insult someone with such a nonsensical statement 🙄 GTFOH

[@sydneyallen4543]

This is spot on why I feel this way!!!!

[@bliathao8204]

Thank you so much for sharing. I grew up in a big family, 5 brothers and 3 sisters. I love the fact that my brothers have brothers and my sisters and I have each other as well. Currently I have 2 girls and 1 boy, I am 12 weeks pregnant with my fourth. I did the sneak peek gender prediction and found out that baby #4 is a girl. Im going through gender disappointment bc I really really wanted my son to have that brother bond. I almost feel like I'm failing him in a way. I'm working through this and hope that I get over the disappointment by my 3rd trimester like you.

[@kayleewilson1157]

Thank you for this video! I’m 13 weeks and am having a baby boy. This is our 1st pregnancy and I also come from a family of all girls so I assumed I would have a girl. I’ve always been a girly girl so I knew I’d have no idea what to do with a boy. This video really helped so much! Thank you xoxo

[@tequilabumbum4373]

Are you feeling a bit better now? I just found out too, 13 weeks today, and I fear that this feeling will stay for a long time:///

[@lindsayann9856]

I remember being sad getting a boy for my first... he is the SWEETEST momma’s boy 🥰 for my second I was hoping for another boy but got a girl! THANK YOU for being so open and honest about everything... it’s not always rainbows and butterflies. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@SarahBrithinee]

It absolutely isn't & I think that's ok. I wish it was more normal to have true feelings out there. That's amazing that you have a sweet little mama's boy 💗 I know this little one is perfect for me and now I just can't wait to meet him!

[@AG-wh6jw]

Weird you got it all twisted

[@nonyabizness956]

I haven't even gotten pregnant yet lol but I'm watching this because I actually have the EXACT same reason for wanting a girl as you described in your video. I want to do all the things for a daughter that my mom did for me as a child and I know that I could do most of those things with a son as well but some deep part of me feels like it just won't be the same and I need to work on that preferably before I get pregnant and find out I'm having a boy or something, I just want to be in the right mindset before I even start, my baby deserves better whoever they are.

[@trucyvu8710]

thank you, this really helps me right now :)

[@BetseyArvai]

Little boys are the best! They love their mommies so so much!!

[@anthonyalbertini4097]

True

[@samaralittell-daniels8091]

Me realizing my gender disappointment stems from my abandonment issues from my bio mother and wanted to give a daughter what baby me didn’t have 😭😭😭😭 Realizing I can do that for my son too ❤

[@nikkifabila7845]

Thank you for being so honest we are going through fertility treatments and I don’t want to be but I’ll be so sad if it isn’t. A girl since I have a boy I needed this

[@susifigueroa4308]

I hope and I pray to god every single day that my baby #3 is a girl since i already have 2 boys. If its a boy, i have no idea how im going to feel. I am making myself believe this baby is a girl 😢 I even have imagined how i Would react if i find out its a girl. I want a daughter to watch my husband be a girl dad. I want a daughter so i can love her the way i wasnt loved. I want a daughter so i can buy her barbies and pink clothes. My heart just YEARNS for a little girl. Please oh please lord make baby #3 a girl for me 🥺

[@tiffanyvaughan]

Your feelings are so valid and I believe a lot of women go through these feelings upon finding out the gender of their babies. I was disappointed when I found out my first child was a boy, and I felt ashamed to admit it until I heard other moms express simile feelings. Today, I have 2 boys and now a baby girl, and I love each of them dearly, and am thankful for each of their unique personalities ;) I also matched my boys as long as I could, and funny enough, even though my oldest is 5, he will ask to match me from time to time ☺️ You’re going to be a wonderful mom to this baby boy!!

[@SarahBrithinee]

Thank you so much 🤍 That's awesome that your 5 year old still wants to match. I hope mine wants to too haha. I ll take whatever amount of time I can get for us to match though!

[@shannonhawk1431]

Boy mom here and i 100% agree that boys love their mama's. My youngest is 4 and he is always my little shopping buddy. He also loves to play with my shoes and be by my side all of the time.

[@SarahBrithinee]

Oh my gosh that's adorable! This little guy has no idea what he's in for because since I work from home he's going to be my sidekick! 🤍

[@kimm9113]

Thank you for sharing! I have a son and we are very very close. I know it’s hard but you will get threw. One day at a time.

[@SarahBrithinee]

I'm already feeling over the disappointment which I'm so grateful for. Now I'm just getting really anxious to meet this little man 🤍

[@Lara-tm5nz]

You are so brave for speaking about this :-)

[@kimberlygilson701]

I have two older sisters and mostly girl cousins. I have a 9 year son and my sisters only have boys as well. I found out I was pregnant this past May. My fiancé has three girls with his past relationship. EVERYONE kept saying “it has to be a girl”. I too felt I was having a girl. I just found out yesterday another boy. I was so saddened and feel terrible for feeling this way. I just always imagined myself with a daughter. I’m getting older and this baby is probably going to be my last. It’s nice to know so many women go through these feelings. I know I will love this baby dearly, just as I love my 9 year old Thank you for this video. It has helped me tremendously.

[@shulamisleder568]

I have 2 sons and another boy on the way. Thank you so much for coming out and discussing the dark side of gender disappointment. I found out a month ago and I've cried almost every night. But the getting to the real reason is the only way to sort out these feelings. I wanted a girl so badly because of 3 things. 1. I wanted my daughter to live a better version of life than what I had. I really wanted her to have a better education and a loving family which I never had. I went to a public school with terrible test scores and really didn't learn much nor did my parents do any involvement in my childhood. My mother was a depressed woman who slept 16 hours a day and watched soap operas and only got up to warm tv dinners. So in my mind if I had a daughter I could put her in the best school and have a big loving functional family. 2. I am *still to this day* terrified of my future daughter in law. All the effort of giving birth, raising the boy, and sacrificing myself for my sons just to hand over my sons to the daughter in law. And the fear of not knowing if I will be able to still have a normal relationship with my son after the wedding let alone be able to talk to them. 3. I wanted the experience of raising a daughter and to not die never knowing what a daughter is like

[@kalalily87]

I have many of the same fears as you. I’m sad that I will possibly be the mother in law, so many people out there hate their in-laws. I’m on this mother site and their are so many posts about how they hate their mother in laws and don’t want them around their baby and how their baby doesn’t like their mother in law. It doesn’t leave much hope for the future. I know even if you have a girl you might not have the relationship you want with them but I feel the chances of being wanted or needed later down the road are greater if you have a girl. I think this is why I still have never gotten over being disappointed. I’m not sure how you move past the disappointment when you know the odds are against you.

[@hollygrail2964]

These are my exact thoughts! Second pregnancy with a boy and I’m terrified

[@tequilabumbum4373]

@@kalalily87 did your disappointment eventually go away?

[@kalalily87]

@@tequilabumbum4373 I love my son more than anything and I am very close to him. He just turned 2 a few months back and he is everything to me. As far a gender disappointment goes it has never went away completely there will be times where I see or hear something and it triggers it and I get sad and a bit angry. What triggers my gender disappointment the most is anything mother in law/ daughter in law related, gender stereotypes that are boy related, thinking about the future and how I won’t get to have a mother daughter relationship like I have with my mother, being a paternal grandmother (in my mind they are like second class citizens, the maternal grandmother is the one that gets to see the grandchildren the most and be close to them) I know that’s not always true but that’s what I have in my head. I don’t think it ever will really go completely away, maybe it would lessen if I get to have a daughter in the future but as of now it still raises its nasty head from time to time. That’s why when people say, (oh, you will feel differently after you see your baby,) I wish they would say that, Yes of course I love my baby more than anything but it doesn’t take away the gender disappointment, maybe it does for some but I don’t think I’m the only one out there still having gender disappointment after their child is born. I really think it should be brought to light that gender disappointment can linger, so others know they are not alone. Hopefully this is helpful for someone still struggling to know they are not alone.

[@tequilabumbum4373]

@@kalalily87 thank you so much, I appreciate your honesty🙏🏽❤️❤️ I think too that I will never stop wishing for a lil girl, but all we can do is wait, pray and enjoy in the meantime!

[@aprilcarney558]

I want to give you some comfort. I’m a 50 year old mom of two sons, 19 and 15. I too have such a close relationship with my mom...we talk everyday and she’s always been my everything. When I found out my second child was another boy.. I cried and cried. I thought for sure I would have a girl. Well, needless to say it’s been the best thing ever. My sons and I are so close, probably closer than mother daughter relationship. I love it. I love being a boy mom. Boys love their mommas. They play sports, fart, stink, talk about their privates, but trust me it’s all hilarious. They are the best. I promise you won’t think twice. Praying for you through this time. Yes it’s very normal!!!

[@SarahBrithinee]

Oh my gosh that's so amazing! I hope this little guy wants to be as close to me as I want to be to him. I cannot wait to meet him and have him in my arms 🤍

[@shannoncarswell9036]

You will be surprised. Nothing like a mommas boy...💙💙💙

[@SarahBrithinee]

That's what I keep hearing and I cannot wait for it 🤍

[@laurenseise1490]

I have 2 boys. Best, ever. No drama in our home - and they’re best buds.

[@jbake2021]

@@laurenseise1490 really? Cause boys don't have any drama or emotions? Get real. You weren't blessed with a daughter so I guess you'll never know the love between a mother and her daughter.

[@yms6892]

@@jbake2021 Why are you so mad with her saying no drama? She loves her boys and you need to be rude...

[@jbake2021]

@@yms6892 that's not being rude. That's trying to change the stereotype that girls are harder, more drama, and less than than boys.

[@melissajames]

This is so helpful thank you ❤

[@laurenwillhoit4793]

I have a boy. I wanted a girl so bad. I will tell you I would not trade my boy for any girls in the world. He is the sweetest loving kid ever mama boy for sure. I promise you he will be the light of your life. Prayers for your delivery

[@jormunganfan]

I waited until birth to find out the gender. It was a boy and I was CRUSHED. I grew up in a female heavy family, my mum was a single mum, and I only have a sister. He's 6 in a few months, and I still feel disappointed that he's a boy. I really have a resentment towards the opposite sex, and I find that affects my relationship my son. I also feel like I need to push him away since he'll probably want to go to his father when he's old enough to choose. I'm going to have another baby, and fingers crossed it's a girl. My friend has 2 daughters and K resent them all the time. Another friend has a boy and a girl and I feel so jealous that they gpt a girl after the boy. I am wracked with anxiety that the next one for me will be another boy. At least this time there will be no other parent to compete with.

[@CaraMarieDabney]

I am so glad you posted this, I thought I was the only one. I too have a sister and have the very best relationship with her. I just found out I am pregnant (4 weeks) and I am very nervous to find out the gender. I have always wanted a little girl and now that I am pregnant, the reality of not having a little girl scares me. It is not the idea of having a boy that is worry-some, it is just be imagining my life without the daughter I have always imagined. It sounds silly, but I just saw some recent videos of these two little boys that have the SWEETEST relationship and it really opened my heart up to having a son. I saw how sweet they can be and don’t feel as much fear about this. But thank you so much for standing in the gap and offering such great wisdom!

[@Luna_44.]

Did you have a girl or a boy?

[@CaraMarieDabney]

@@Luna_44. I have a two month old little girl now 💓 I am thrilled and I absolutely love her to death, but I will say going back and reading this comment now makes me sad for past me. Because the love you have when your child is born is OVERWHELMING. And it is a completely new, different kind of love that your mind can’t comprehend. So it wouldn’t matter if the baby was boy, girl, purple, blue, yellow. Because your child is the most beautiful wonderful thing in this life. It’s a blessing.

[@Luna_44.]

@@CaraMarieDabneyOMG CONGRATS!!!🥳💖 I hope your daughter has a happy and healthy life💕💕💕

[@miaand12]

Thanks for being open and honest - it’s a relief to hear someone else speak the thoughts that are going through my head just now. This is my first pregnancy and I found out yesterday I was having a boy - to say it was a shock was a bit of an understatement! I have always been very close to my Mum so have had a picture in my head from day 1 of a little girl. I feel it’s a grief for the image I had in my head - not that it’s a boy. That’s what I’m telling myself anyway! I hope in time the excitement and joy will overtake any sadness :)

[@tequilabumbum4373]

Did you feel better eventually?

[@miaand12]

@@tequilabumbum4373 I did. Took a few weeks to get used to the idea but eventually it didn’t bother me at all and I just felt excitement to meet him. I now have a healthy, happy 7 month old boy and he’s just awesome. 🤩

[@tequilabumbum4373]

@@miaand12 im so happy for you 🤗🤗 I know I will feel better too deep down, its just hard to get used to the idea right now ☺️ all the besst to you and your baby!

[@miaand12]

@@tequilabumbum4373 I have no doubt 😉 all the best!

[@denisefonda2815]

Sarah, my children are grown and I was pregnant back when you couldn’t find out the gender ahead of time. Our first child was a son, which was odd for me because I was 10 years older then my sister and it was just her, me and my Mom. So a boy was a learning experience. Four years later, while pregnant with our second child, we were convinced it would be a girl. Well, it was a boy and believe it or not, I don’t know why, but I was relieved. I won’t lie, I would have liked a daughter, but it didn’t happen. I have a wonderful relationship with my sons and I have a wonderful daughter-in-law. I can also tell you that there has never been any comparison to the feelings that I felt when I held my sons the first time. I am sure that you and Adam will have a beautiful little boy. And it goes without saying, the clothes for both genders are so much cuter now then when my children were babies. Take care, stay healthy and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy😊

[@whereisleigh]

This video took a lot of courage to make! I was surprised to see the title because I’ve never heard of this. But I do understand it! I never knew the gender of my boys until birth! It’s kind of funny because the delivery nurses were all shocked when I asked what the gender was.....especially for the one born in the car! 😂 And I wanted to add.... YES THIS BOY IS GOING TO BE OBSESSED WITH HIS MOM! It’s the best!

[@SarahBrithinee]

Hahaha I can't imagine waiting to find out! I cannot wait for him to be my sidekick 🤍