How I learned to stop being an ANXIOUS girly

[@asiah797]

I rarely hear anyone say that anxiety can be a sign. That’s a very interesting way of looking at it .

[@creative45630]

It’s an idea from Carl Jung - anxiety is a message from the unconscious

[@aromatyzowanysmak]

So good to hear that!

[@DominiqueFrancon]

I would like to add giving up caffeine as a way to reduce anxiety. I was a serious caffeine addict. When I got breast cancer a few years ago, my mind was racing constantly and disasterizing . I could not relax at all. I gave up caffeine in an attempt to calm my anxiety since I was already going through a very stressful event. It made a huge difference in my anxiety. My mind stopped racing and I was able to rationally think without the caffeine coursing through my veins. That one change has helped me tremendously.

[@anonymousbee]

Lol

[@saandyy900]

Did you change to decaff coffee or just quit everything?

[@DominiqueFrancon]

@@saandyy900 yes, I switched to decaf. I only quit caffeine and by doing that, I gained control over my appetite. Caffeine made me jittery, which made me want to eat. Not being jittery, I didn’t want to snack all the time and I lost weight. I’ve read that you have to be healthy to lose weight, not the other way around. Turned out to be true.

[@sadiaarman363]

Your anxiety is not always a bad thing. Sometimes it is a sign. When you have your intuitive hit but you don't listen right away, it can manifest as this low level anxiety that doesnt go away until you fix the problem. Do not focus on the anxiety. Focus on the good things around you. Focus on the wonderful qualities you have. Focus on growth. On solving the problem. Sometimes your anxiety is the result of a pattern your brain learned in the past. Don' t identify as an anxious person. See your anxiety as something that will pass. Anxiety can spiral. In order not to go there, go to a happier thought on the neurological scale.

[@erinforest3779]

The part about the emotional scale made me think of the Hicks book Ask and it is Given. Changed my life! Love that too

[@melodyhristova4278]

ugh i’m halfway through the video and i just wanna say one big THANK YOU. I am following your channel for some time now and especially lately i’m just watching at least one of your videos a day. Like a mantra, like an affirmation or a reminder. It just helps so much to hear all of these advices. I notice i’m more calm while i speak, i don’t rush to finish my sentence, i just feel more grounded while speaking to people and this automatically makes me feel less anxious. Like reallyyyy thank you so much for making these videos, they actually DO help a lot and remind me that i’m not alone or crazy for noticing these behaviours and habits i don’t like and wanting to change them so i can live life more freely and truly.

[@rapunzel346]

I just wanted to say that you and your channel have been lifechanging for me as a young 22 year old woman with anxiety, hormonal imbalances (hence intense menstrual cycles), confusing relationships with men, etc. I finally feel like I am normal and learning to understand and embrace my feminine side more and more in a world that doesn’t understand that. Thank you for what you do and I am here, watching your videos and learning from you 💗

[@JillzGuerin]

Aw this comment made me so happy. Thank you so much for watching and supporting me!! 😘😘

[@bmsharma3824]

There is a saying that goes along the lines of: Accepting things is a way of finding peace. Just reminded me of this 😊

[@JillzGuerin]

Yesss love 💙

[@shaunalouie]

you explained this in a way i feel everyone can relate and i'm appreciative of that. thank you for being you and bringing clarity into this life and sharing these intimate moments💕

[@JillzGuerin]

Aww 🥰🥰❤️

[@klaradobesova7339]

Your videos are saving my life. Finding your channel was my blessing

[@JillzGuerin]

Aww happy to hear that ❤️

[@filippersson5256]

Yeah, it's amazing! 🙏🏼

[@Aliciae411]

I recently found it helpful to say to myself that I’m feeling anxious not that I have anxiety or I’m an anxious person. I say to myself in my head that I’m feeling anxious BUT I am safe, the people around me are safe etc

[@sarah.marco888]

Really love this ❤ my anxiety was telling me that I was definitely in the wrong job. It went away as soon as I resigned. Now I have an offer from an actual company and position that I'm excited about 😊

[@BrittniePorter-rn8ps]

This is definitely one of my favorite videos of yours! The way you approach this topic feels relatable and the advice easy to grasp. Thank you for the advice here!

[@thelottieingham]

You don’t know how much I needed to hear this today. Thank you 🙏🏼💕

[@elizabethkelly5255]

thank u jillz for this video! i’ve always perceived myself as an anxious person and suffered many panic attacks since high school, and slowly through the years learned to manage my anxiety and realized my anxiety is there to help protect me from things, but i’m ready to move on from that because ur so right, i do not have to be an anxious person! and it is time to change the way i view anxiety, love you!!

[@carleighmiller542]

I am so glad I stumbled on your videos!! I am from Tennessee also! Thank you so much for your amazing advice!

[@ayaya64]

So well explained! I think it is very solid advice and I agree sometimes you can't fix it.

[@alycebagnath464]

This video is exactly what i needed. I was just thinking to myself, i am not going to let my anxiety and emotions rule me so much anymore, and your vid popped up ! Perfect divine timing as always ✨️

[@OdeaTserendorj-l2o]

Jillz, you became the mentor I needed so bad! Keep up and THANK YOU!

[@JillzGuerin]

Aww you’re so welcome!! 😘😘

[@meep_1111]

Can’t believe I feel like a anxious depressed overthinking girly 😢 working on it 💕

[@GloriaStanley95]

I love that you brought up things like exercise, painting, drawing, or things like that as being a “release” because they really are and I think that if I can think of those activities more that way instead of exercise for example sometimes being like a chore, it will really motivate me to do them more often because I’ll be thinking of how much better I feel after I do them and have that release. We do all need an outlet like that on a daily basis.

[@katherinekozlik4087]

This top looks so good on you Jillz, the color really makes your eyes pop! Also, can really relate to your story about anxiety causing you to feel like you couldn't eat/being nauseous all the time. I dropped from 135 to 109 in 3 months and any time anyone was asking what kind of diet I was on, I told them "anxiety" :( Here's to self betterment!!! Thanks for all your positivity.

[@nesrinvural3800]

My long term ex partner (broke up 4 months ago) is posting about his new gf and I felt weak for a moment but I just accepted it, let it slide and felt better. I trust time and I trust that better things are awaiting me

[@AvivaSingsOut]

"anxiety free cam" you're adorable - love it!

[@orion9294]

i am so glad to have found your channel, it resonates so much with me...I am still in highschool and it really helped to have more detachment on my feelings honestly so thank you so much

[@CarlGallo-fm3ky]

I hope men are watching your videos! Because I know they have been helping me tremendously!

[@Bonitabellla]

I love your videos! You give really good points and solutions. With anxious thoughts, for me its like I already know what’s the right way of thinking, but it’s hard to let myself think and believe these positive thoughts because of the “what if’s.” However you hit the nail right on the head with your points about being present and simply thinking about the next positive thought rather than forcing yourself to be happy!

[@antoniyaradulova1990]

Girl, I’ve been following your channel for the past week and I literally had the same journey as you! I’m going through therapy and everything you’re saying resonates so much! You’re amazing, thank you so much for making these videos! 🙏❤️

[@Billy33753]

I agree with your approach on anxiety . I’ve been trying to live in the present

[@orianaarbelaez6171]

Your videos always come to me at the right time ❤

[@jessb4035]

I need these as a podcast 😊

[@carolm.d.6967]

Me too!!! 🤩

[@xteresax2546]

omg, your videos help so so much! I am very greatful for it!! Thank you so much, Jillz!

[@japanesedrosera]

Great advices, most of mentioned techniques work for me too!

[@inspiredshelf]

I loved this video! So many amazing reminders as well as new ways of looking at things! I especially love the f*ck it approach 😂 I hardly ever swear either so just the thought of this made me smile - definitely think it'll help. Thank you for this video ❤️

[@JillzGuerin]

Haha glad that approach resonated with you! It makes me laugh 😊

[@imperfectly_megan]

This video helped me so much. I know now that my anxiety is a signal about my relationship. We have kids though so I hope the anxiety will improve if our relationship can improve. I learned from your other videos to stop mothering him and to embrace my feminine energy and help him embrace his masculine energy. Hope that helps. Also I like how exercise is a release for me too but sometimes that's not an option. You made me realise that I can use piano as a release everyday. I realised that I don't actually have to know how to play it and I could just make up a sad song (for example) to help release sadness. Then I could learn more later (It doesn't have to be a GOOD song lol just something to help me).

[@harriet_louise]

Your channel is exactly what I've been looking for for a long time now, ty

[@dayvancowgirl]

Your channel has been super helpful for me as I've come to realize that it's time to shed the old version of myself. The super anxious person that's chronically ill and lacks self worth and confidence. I've been slowly working on it for some time now but I found this channel at the exact time I needed it. I have appreciated every single.video. I have watched from you and I am so excited to watch more. I would be curious to pick your brain on how to not be afraid of good things and happiness. I tend to find the joy and appreciation in almost everything lately and have been building myself up but boy, oh boy....is it scary to accept. I question if all the good stuff is reality. And perhaps it's uncomfortable to believe or accept because I don't feel fully worthy yet. Any thoughts would be appreciated because I really like how you think about things with your wealth of knowledge and wisdom. Take care - sending you love and warmth. Wishing you all the best in your endeavors! ❤️

[@JillzGuerin]

Hi! Thank you!! I'm sorry I just saw this. I have a video called "the thermostat theory" and I think it will be really helpful for this concept! You have to learn to keep pushing your capacity for "goodness" in your life and teach yourself that you are safe with more ease. It usually happens slow and steady ❤

[@tamara7156]

Thank you so much ❤ I will save it up to rewatch in times of need

[@violetwhiskers]

Great set of points to consider. When you have a meaningful quote or saying (like the last bit about change it or change the way you view it), it would be nice if you put that text onscreen and pause 2-3 seconds to let that sink in before rushing on to the next sentence. I love how concise your videos are and not overly fluffed as some YT's are, but it hit me after you had moved on how powerful that sentence was. Love your content and wish you the best!

[@kiiro5989]

Love it how you have put the pieces of this topic together with keys to unlock the way we look and feel in those circumstances. If there is anything I will take from it is your advice on thinking of next best feeling - I can already see the difference in controlling not only anxiety but my mood swings too. Much love and great appreciation of your work here

[@Valerieinlovewithfashion]

This is a great video that I believe will help so many people with their anxiety. Thank you!

[@PinkOpal90]

Your content means the world to me! Thank you so much for making this video. I will employ the techniques you described in thus video. I saw your video post last night but I waited until today to watch it on my lunch break so I won't be distracted and can fully take it in! ❤️

[@AR-ic4hu]

Thanks for your efforts. Loved it!

[@Reiliferei]

So well said. I am familiar with the emotional scale so that helps. I often forget to use it. This was so helpful Thank you.

[@inmy20_s]

Perfect timing.. just started watching u yesterday.. i never even watch contents about anxiety bcz never understood what it was n anything but am having anxiety attacks first time in my life.. don't even want to watch any KZbin content rn but.. i needed u.. ( i don't write this typ of comments it feels so creepy i know) but i had too..💞 may be this is something I need

[@JillzGuerin]

I hope the video was helpful!!💙💙

[@ayt1702]

Thanks for this video, I really felt bad and down today and needed a portion of „jillz“ and I instantly feel better after watching ❤

[@JillzGuerin]

Aw I’m glad you’re feeling better 😘

[@Get_your_clarity]

Thank you. It’s insightful. I feel like some of your tips I already implement to my life. However I need to remind it every day about it :) greetings from Poland ❤

[@yvonne-transitioning]

Such a relevant topic. I have a difficult dealing with real or perceived problems. I internalize everything. I will take your tips and put them into action. Thanx Yvonne

[@ajohonly3721]

Love the hair volume Jillz ❤️🙏🏿. Great video as always.

[@JillzGuerin]

Haha thank you!!🩷

[@АнастасияГончарова-б8ч]

Thank youz dear Jillz! It is everytine joy for me to hear the great thoughts from you! Appreciate your work!

[@JillzGuerin]

You’re so welcome! Thank you for supporting me 😘😘

[@sadoqatalisherova1478]

Love you Jillz you are an incredible person. Your videos like a fresh air for me) Highly appreciate your valuable advices f

[@tracykanana2029]

I'm loving this vlog because I journaled about similar thing today. Looking into my thoughts and trying to be present in my day to day etc.

[@JillzGuerin]

💕💕💕

[@aombaapitchaya2592]

Thank for this contents Jillz❤

[@livelovedaydream]

I like your videos. Its kinda like hanging out with a friend girl talk

[@bashairalhidri5955]

Thank you! Such a great video ❤

[@thatprettyclam]

Love all your videos and advice💗 this video couldn’t have come at a better time :)

[@chRizma]

Thank you for this video, it came at the right time 🙌🏽

[@lovey9605]

I needed this so much, thank you

[@sophiaisabelle027]

Thanks for this video. Keep up the good work as always.

[@JillzGuerin]

Thank you! 💕

[@riberobru]

Hi Jillz! Thank you very much for this video. I love your content and it has helped me a lot in connecting with my feminine energy. You do a fantastic job!! As you mentioned in this video about healing traumas, would you mind sharing some books you recommend on the topic?

[@tarinideviyoga]

Great podcast ❤

[@NicolineXD]

"Delusional cam" 😂 loved that.

[@Elif-kg1cj]

This woman so attractive and pretty omg

[@gladysmi]

i love that approach hehe 💗

[@JillzGuerin]

💕💕

[@culturedancer]

I've heard it's better to use "the" rather than "my" before whatever dis-ease you're talking about. Keeps you from identifying with having it and detaching from it, so you can let it go.

[@rainywildflower]

That color is so lovely on you by the way!! Do you know what your color season is by chance?

[@sarahruns262]

I think she’s a warm spring!

[@Karollavine]

Love your voice

[@valentinav.1992]

I like the dancing part 🌊! I have always liked doing it occasionally but haven't thought to incorporate it in my routine and use it as a tension release. How do you practice it? I feel like if I start remind myself it can be like forcing and will ruin it..

[@crismosconi4832]

I looove your videos!! and wow , from your personality I wonder if you have your moon or some other influential planets in Pisces. You are such a strong Pisces archetype

[@JillzGuerin]

Thank you!! And I’m actually a cancer! 🥰

[@crismosconi4832]

@@JillzGuerin yes i know you are a cancer sun, you said that in an another video ! That s why i said archetype. Pisces is everything intangible and you mentioned dancing, music , painting , letting go ( loss, dissolution ) ...... I think it could be your moon ( mother ) because of what you said happened. If the Pisces archetypes is used on low manifestation mode it goes to its opposite which is Virgo that at low manifestation is anxiety . But i don t know you enough so i could be completely wrong. Loads of love !!! I am binge watching your videos !!! So glad i found you :)

[@salogiorgadze1810]

Thank you for this video🌟

[@JillzGuerin]

You’re so welcome!!🥰

[@lenik8911]

I'm an anxious girly too. You can only manage anxiety cant stop it. Anxiety comes from the unconscious and is anger aimed outward externalised while depression is anger oriented inward toward the self.

[@raquelcordivari1372]

The perceived trauma example of the grocery store literally happened to me to a tee!!! I feel so validated rn lol!

[@lucyinthesky7923]

Great advice :)

[@JillzGuerin]

Glad you liked it!🥰

[@ra4798]

also i feel tht journalling helps too

[@imadina31]

So usefull ! ❤️

[@JillzGuerin]

💜💜

[@kimfamilyadventures2301]

The fuck it solution saved me in a lot of situations 😂

[@iaf4454]

Ohhh jillz you are speaking about me. 😢😢 i want to find my true partner and have a meaningful relantionship and build a family however i am so stressed and anxious 😢 because of this. I really want that with all my heart but no success at all. it seems imposible right now. I think you are so right, i will train my mind to think in that way. Wish me luck

[@inmy20_s]

Going through same situation..

[@christinakarolyi9173]

Thanks!!

[@SCIFIVAMPIRE]

very helpful

[@ayeshaskittyasmr]

Thank you❤

[@TheCrystallineLeoness]

You are _not_ your mind. You said "take a step back, get out of yourself for a minute and act as a third person", and it's paramount that people start to discover that they are not their minds at all, rather we are the totality of this vibrational existence in awareness of the thoughts, feelings, physicality and biology. The mind is simply an instrument designed to help us navigate and excel in this world. Your mind will keep on running with or without you. The thoughts will keep recreating themselves and running in loops forever if you let it. Stepping your attention out of the mind is the biggest first step to evolving and refining your experience here as a human. Women were gifted with brilliant minds and emotionally intelligent networks because of our spiritual ability to intuitively feel and discern everything around us. That feminine design can so easily get out of whack if we are not present. Presence, openness, and stillness is key.

[@sulusu4812]

Echkart Tolle

[@mavoolumma]

Thank you so much for this, is there a way I can reach you personally? I'm a mess at the moment, I need a hug 😢😢

[@raoniyati]

Amazing ❤

[@JillzGuerin]

😘😘

[@mumijevi]

How do you release trauma from your body? My whole body feels like a wooden plank, especially in my hip area. Would prefer not to go into detail but a lifetime of bullying and horrible self esteem, cutting myself etc. has left my body completely frozen. I literally can NOT dance. Not even completely alone, I've tried a thousand things but the second I try to move my hips or anything, I'll freeze and start to cry. Obviously I can't be feminine while having this issue. Even my boyfriend pointed out how I'm as stiff as a board when he tried to jokingly waltz with me. (it's a very healthy relationship, he was joking, I am the issue in our relationship, not him)

[@chRizma]

I'm like this with singing sometimes! I feel like I want to sing and cry it out but it feels weird, I need to be alone and in the right space to do it. I started releasing some things with journaling and EFT (There are a lot of EFT tapping videos online you can follow along with, you can search eft and whatever thing you want help with). Doing that for some time helped me eventually feel comfortable enough to work with a somatic experiencing therapist. There's also other therapies like the therapy Jillz mentioned. Fascia work releases trauma as it loosens the bound up tissue. There are honestly so many resources for releasing trauma these days, if you research online or read some books about it you'll likely come across some modalities that resonate with you!

[@mumijevi]

@@chRizma I'll look into the tapping thing. I don't have any such therapy or anything similar available to me where I live. What about the fascia therapy, is there something on KZbin that you'd recommend?

[@creative45630]

Hi, look up a video on KZbin about Besel van der Kolk describing 6 ways to heal from trauma - he goes into how things like yoga and performing arts can help.

[@sulusu4812]

Listen to Janina Fischer. Look into somatic therapy.

[@sihembouaoud8226]

Unfortunately I feel all the day and every day anxious because of my routine with my three kids I am just giving up and feeling hopeless

[@rainywildflower]

What advice do you have for anxiety related to PMDD and/or anxious attachment ?

[@orion9294]

I also find you really graceful in the way you move and express yourself it's really beautiful you iradiate delicateness

[@jazmineseverino1363]

Yeah. Fuck it. 🥰

[@athraa3083]

How do we gain our self-confidence?

[@creative45630]

Trust and believe your feelings over and over. Your self-trust and confidence will gradually grow. It’s about putting down fresh neural pathways over and over to create new patterns.

[@sulusu4812]

Listen to Eckhart Tolle

[@anitahendricks]

🌟

[@Fatima-6666-i4i]

❤❤❤❤

[@JillzGuerin]

💕💕💕

[@user-mj6qr2ky9d]

Where did u find ur partner? 😊

[@sulusu4812]

Through the butler

[@vikingvitality]

Delusional cam 😂

[@zoethepsychic]

Saying things like you "healed you anxiety" only perpetuates the stigma around mental health. As an advocate for mental health I think it's important not spread messages like that. Because anxiety isn't something you can fix. It's like when people say they cure their depression with some life hacks. Anxiety is nothing to be ashamed of and it's a real mental illness for Many of us. We can work on ourselves and manage the symptoms. And change our habits but those with a anxiety disorder know very well that it never fully goes away and it's something that must be treated. However this video has been extremely helpful when it comes to managing my anxiety. Some of the steps have helped a lot. Thank you for sharing your experience. ❤

[@clareheartymariemeguillo]

Do you have a podcast?🥲 i would want to listen to you everyday

[@lulululu4444]

That color looks BEAUTIFUL on you🩵 btw I had (still have) the same reaction to wrong situations/people

[@josephineduran9622]

❤❤❤