How I Met My Wife

I'm sorry this story isn't very interesting or as beautiful as you were maybe imagining it would be. During that first year, we both saw other people between dating and not dating and we were bad at communicating and I think we really loved each other even from the very beginning, but it was filled with drama, as many teenage romances are. (we were nineteen...so still teenagers...god that's amazing to think of now...we were NINETEEN!)

[@ninoskasua]

I would love to hear this story from Katherine's point of view.

[@meganjensen8354]

ninoskasua +

[@purplepepper2503]

+

[@iluvearth99]

+

[@nathanielmcduffie6711]

+

[@therawrpie]

+

[@somethingelse9176]

"I was super awkward, and probably not very interesting or useful." my entire freshman year of college.

[@cbjgirl23]

me for most of my life

[@thelordcommander5]

Probably most of all of us who still need to take a more realistic look on those interesting and useful parts of ourselves. Selfacceptance makes us more approachable. You are more lovable than you think and I know you already think that that is a lie. Probably. Also, I still struggle with this, but I found out recently I am more interesting, useful and lovable than I thought myself to be. I'm pretty great. Glad I came for the story and stayed; P.s I wish you love and otherwise, I wish you peace.❤

[@hermaeus_jackson]

"During the times when i wasn't sleeping, you know, no feet away from her. DING DING DING DING." God that cracked me up.

[@jaceyjacobs4013]

***** The state directly below your....wait, you're from Saskatchewan, aren't you?

[@mkd2839]

1 year late, it's manitoba

[@Nicoratboy]

jesusHERCULESchrist is that how sex works? Just DING DING DING?

[@TamannaDas]

@@Nicoratboy Who needs Sexplanations when Hank can explain sex so eloquently in merely 3 words "ding ding ding"?

[@MrGhackney]

Proximity took over. Katherine is laughing.

[@MrGhackney]

Hank, I would just like to know if you liked my comment because that would be pretty cool. Awesome story!

[@i_like_Peanuts]

You are cool Mr ​@@MrGhackney

[@BeingLolaStar]

Hank and Katherine are basically the plot of every cheesy fanfiction. Dorms: check. Sleepovers without sex: check. Proximity taking over: check. On again off again: check. Finally settling down into a seemingly healthy and well balanced relationship: check.

[@ortherner]

lmao

[@emilythompson2869]

So uh... Does no one else think this sounds like a John Green novel?

[@zvign7554]

+Emily Thompson yeah but John doesn't call it smoochie times in his books(I think).

[@mythsnmore8075]

yes

[@corbintate914]

Emily Thompson scoodliepooping

[@sophiaablan2636]

😂

[@daydodog]

Characters too old

[@mustardsfire22]

I'm going to use "proximity took over" as a euphemism for that now. xD

[@michaellurch9472]

Story starts the best way. " I was sleeping maybe 10 feet away from her. Except for the times when I was sleeping no feet away from her.

[@neighbourhoodgal]

+

[@joox1184]

Michael Lurch Dingdingdingding!

[@averywarkentin2668]

+

[@sarahgrin]

My favorite moment is when the tone of his voice changes slightly when he says "Katherine is home!" Melts my heart...!

[@Neonb88]

They're so adorably wholesome. John is as well, but I'll always be more partial to Hank and The Katherine. Much love to y'all and to all of nerdfighteria

[@Kbbrianne]

Aww Hank may not think that this is a cute story, but there's nothing quite as romantic as two lives falling into sink as "proximity takes over". Aww I love that. Sleepovers. Aw. AW.

[@Kbbrianne]

I can't believe I wrote "sink" instead of "sync" that is so embarassing oh gosh.

[@KarateShotokanKid1]

I know! Nothing quite as cute and romantic as two people drowning very close to each other!

[@ramywiles]

QuietFury There's a super insensitive Titanic joke in there somewhere.

[@emilyscloset2648]

@@ramywiles +

[@Neonb88]

Yeah no they are extremely extremely cute together, especially that one where he's like "I like being married to you, you're my favorite person" and then she's just like " yes! Let's keep doing it"

[@lyadmilo]

This video makes me so happy. Because yeah, it's not the most interesting "How I Met My Wife" story ever. It's messy and normal and that gives me hope. Because big swept off your feet and I knew it was meant to be moments don't happen in real life. But real love happens all the time. I was friends with my fiancé for three years before he asked me out. And then I turned him down because I had just gone on a date with this other guy the week before. And then I was with other guy for almost a year, and when we broke up my fiancé didn't want to be a rebound guy so we were just friends for almost another year until he asked me out *again* and I said yes. And then on our first date I had a panic attack and cried in the bathroom for three hours. And told him I wasn't ready for a commitment yet. And ran away (literally). But then I got on the bus to go home and realised I was making a mistake, and called him back to ask for a make-up first date. And now we've been together for four years and are getting married.

[@artwingtonr.4647]

lyadmilo oh wow. that's a lot of ups and downs.

[@sterling-9259]

lyadmilo ALL THE HOPE RIGHT THERE

[@lyadmilo]

AND NOW WE'RE MARRIED

[@sterling-9259]

lyadmilo YAAAAAAAAYYYYYY!!!!!!!!

[@alannar.8701]

lyadmilo AW THIS IS SO CUTE CONGRATS

[@Niniischill]

I can just imagine John watching this going "nope nope nope skipping this part"

[@silkthyme]

made my day

[@mirabisesi8148]

Oh my gosh I can see that

[@sexyscientist]

+

[@matchakat2800]

+

[@hollyray4884]

ohmiiiigahdd I am cracking up. "Except when we were sleeping zero feet from each other...smoochie times... hugs and kisses and laughter and kitty cats...proximity took over." I love Hank's lack of eloquence. Makes my day.

[@libbyh5689]

+

[@matchakat2800]

+

[@biribobili]

It's a great story, Hank, and the best thing about it is that you didn't take nearly 10 years to tell it.

[@zjukamu]

haha How I Met Your Mother joke

[@OptimusPhillip]

Lawyered

[@VincentGuillotine]

he plainly stated that they met 13 years ago

[@Ba5edAF]

ok

[@Darwins_Fink]

Swarnadeep Bhattacharyya i did not understand a single word you wrote. ...please dont answer comments from nearly a year ago, people dont care anymore. don't bother anwering this either

[@marissaamsden5267]

So, what you're saying is you've had an abundance of Katherine? (Ba doom cha)

[@Neha71580]

Marissa Amsden DING DING DING DING!!!

[@chopkins57]

It's always nice to see people acknowledge that there are serious, long-term, loving relationships that begin as casual hookups. I've seen this plenty of times among my friends/in my demographic generally, but the cultural narrative always seems to be that serious romance and casual hooking up are separate, mutually exclusive things. It's good to be reminded that this isn't true.

[@pingwingwi]

Sometimes you just happen to hook up with the right person who then stays in your life for good.

[@lijohnyoutube101]

I think if you read between the lines my guess is it was less of a casual hookup and more of a she was really into him and he was oblivious :)

[@mustardsfire22]

I love the end. "I'm just gonna end this video before it en-"

[@Roenazarrek]

"eventually proximity took over"

[@neighbourhoodgal]

+

[@smileyguy433]

Roenazarrek +

[@isabellabornberg2153]

hahaha omgggg he is so chill. "we only broke up once after that"

[@cubalayabandit5591]

Probably because it wasn't really a big deal looking back on it. Often things like break ups aren't. But they still seem to major at the time.

[@Smileeeeeys]

John should make a similar video like now Like "An open letter to Henry and Alice: How I Met Your Mother" XD

[@libbyh5689]

+

[@saramartins95]

i really like that hank married a katherine... giving john's book and all

[@JohnDoe-nw8yo]

the names were probably inspired from them

[@neighbourhoodgal]

This is the second time I have watched this video. In fact, I accidentally clicked on it this time. I love this story for its realness and simplicity. I think most relationships begin in similar ways. Proximity over a decent length of time is critical. A person needs to have that time and that number of interactions to thoughtfully consider whether they and the other person can and will do the work that a long-term relationship requires. Life is not film.

[@daisies4dae]

*screenshotted*

[@hasanabduqayumov]

And there's a think called an arranged marriage

[@0Masarita0]

This is probably my favourite Hank video, it always lifts my spirits to watch the way he talks about his relationship. It is sweet and funny at the same time and I love how he actually let us know that Katherine is in the background laughing.

[@KatySom]

Still better than How I Met Your Mother series finale.

[@nemeanlyan7918]

"Smoochie times but not datey times"

[@DaleBernardoQueLio]

I have never married but I was privileged to take the role of best man at my sister's wedding. I watched their courtship and was struck by the simplicity of it. It was two people meeting by accident and discovering each other. Their union was inspirational to me because it seemed tranquil and fulfilling. They kept their promises to one another and after eight years they tied the knot. They are an example of how friends can be much more. A concept that I hope more would aspire to. Like you and your wife, this is not a boring story but a sincere and fulfilling one.

[@1LeiaPrincess]

"proximity took over" hahahahaha! :p

[@roselle495]

Wow, John wasn't kidding when he said Hank didn't have any girlfriends in high school. I thought that was just brotherly ribbing :(

[@AnnoyingAsianWitch]

roselle495 I think he had a few? But few being the keyword. Crushes, at least. One of the early Vlogbrother punishments consist him of telling us an embarrassing story with sock puppets.

[@zain4019]

roselle495 what's so bad about not wanting a girlfriend when you're barely past the stage of being a child?

[@aarya1467]

@@zain4019 that makes me feel better about my non-existent highschool romantic life

[@bri585]

Pitty on the souls who never experienced BlockBuster.

[@Raupekaa]

Yeah but my blockbuster that used to go to was shutdown forever after the kicked us out

[@mikelor84]

And that's how it's done. Yes, I'm talking to you, Ted Mosby!!!

[@eviesampson6418]

Exactly!!!!

[@greenwilliams2784]

I love how he used the whole "proximity took over" idea for April and Maya in An Absolutely Remarkable Thing!!! It felt like such a real situation when I first read the book I was wondering if it was how he met someone.

[@SahansTiledBeast]

This reminds me of Marshal and Lily's story from How I Met Your Mother XD

[@user-rd8xg2um4w]

Hank. You did not just end a video mid sentence. There is an unwritten contract between Vlogger and viewer and ending your video mid sentence violates that contract!!!

[@hopefulbeacon]

TFIOS reference! :D

[@user-rd8xg2um4w]

Iva Grebenar Yup! Finally, someone got it!

[@libbyh5689]

:) !!!!!!!!!

[@Pining_for_the_fjords]

You look more like 25 than 32 in this, which is a good thing.

[@AsAKaite]

This story was so refreshing, actually. It's awesome to know that good things can happen from nonmagical, sometimes complicated things.

[@simsamsammie]

I dread the day that people will not even know what Blockbuster is at all…

[@HeathenBenny]

"...when I wasn't sleep in no feet away from her...DING DING DING DING!" I just died.

[@apartrobin8881]

I’m from a decade in the future and I really appreciate Hank explaining Blockbuster. I know what it is, but here is to this video being around for another decade and this explanation being necessary 🥂

[@true515]

NOTHING cuter than a nerd in love. adorable!

[@rachelfox421]

I love how the books in the back are color coded

[@jesshuish2844]

ik really satisfying, right?

[@blackbirdie8169]

First thought, before I even began watching this, was: wait, How I Met My Wife, in 3:05 minutes? Dude, they actually managed to shoot nine seasons about the same subject in a series with almost the same title.

[@firepheonix1584]

I never get tired of Hank telling how he met his wife cuz it's a sweet story

[@francinesmith1889]

Watching this (among many other videos) from the future is amazing. Thank you Past Hank.

[@isismolina3]

Your story is romantic in its own way. You guys look like you have a happy marriage and that's all that matters. That all those little events led you here.

[@ZappyCatPrime]

This is an incredibly realistic story and a HUGE relief. Thanks, Hank, for being nonmagical.

[@TheAalexiis]

It's actually a great story! :) I can see what a great relationship you two have and it's nice to actually hear that it was not all good from the very beginning, it feels "normal"

[@KingaZajacNNR]

You know Hank, you say it's not that big of a story, but I really like this video and watch it everytime I need something to not make me more sad or angry. So you can never know what ppl will find interesting and worth spend time watching.

[@AnnoyingAsianWitch]

This is gonna be "How I Met Your Mother" soon... ;)

[@ToqTheWise]

++++++++++++++++!!!

[@anushkahazra7180]

ik

[@AnnoyingAsianWitch]

I forgot I made this comment! XD

[@planetlexicon]

This wasn't uninteresting at all, Hank. I enjoyed watching this.

[@elixorvideos]

"But then eventually proximity took over" that is the greatest line ever

[@GraceRox16]

I'm glad that you and your wife fought and had things that you've worked out. I've recently felt like all i've been hearing about are super perfect relationships that never had problems. Glad i'm not the only one who has had ups and downs in a long term relationship, and that it can work out. :)

[@shainajoseph5040]

I WAS THINKING ABOUT HOW MUCH I WANTED YOU TO DO THIS TODAY AND THEN YOU BLOODY DID IT!!!

[@smilewithlove23]

Laughed so hard that I cried watching this. Love that it isn't a simple, perfect stereotypical romance and your presentation of it was fabulous.

[@123melly321]

oh I love to hear such personal stories about you!! *.* so sweet!

[@jeannesnodgrass8073]

I love stories of how couples met! Every story is simple but the details are so unique.

[@cjspurg]

A+ Video. I love VEDA because people just tell little life stories or talk about personal stuff (no time for extensive research/scripting). Hope Hank does some form of it this year. :)

[@bobhurren7381]

We only broke up like ONE time after that!

[@jacobschmidt]

Sometimes dyslexia just gives you gems and reading the title as "How I Wet My Wife" was definitely one of them

[@thelordcommander5]

😂

[@GloomytoGreen]

I actually love that this is your story of how you guys came to be as you are now. It shatters the intimidating illusion that your real life heros somehow live lives that might belong in movies rather than reality, and I don't think that that illusion is very healthy. So thank you for sharing!

[@laurenkoranda8708]

Did Hank just pull An Imperial Affliction?

[@michaellurch9472]

How dare you demean such an amazing story. Hank your story sounds like one of your brothers books, you and him should totally write a memoir together

[@franloiacono9306]

The Green Boys: And the Sainted (Somewhat just as eccentric) Women Who Love Us Yes. I like this. Good.

[@bookwyrm18]

I love the way your face lit up when you realized Catherine was home. ♡

[@alsmiled]

This pleases me. Greatly. My parents met during a play, and it's all gooey and romantic, and I HATE gooey and romantic, so hearing a story where two people just kinda chilled out and eventually fell in love is awesome. Thank you, Hank! Fantastic, as always.

[@Kitty666EmoGoth]

I just realized that you organized your books by color. Rainbow color. So awesome

[@SelexaSykes]

A video fully dedicated to the most lucky woman in the world.Bless you guys.

[@brettsmith3095]

A much better love story than twilight.

[@davidbowlby8587]

Thanks for sharing. Always fun to hear new stories. The closed cap was getting the words all wrong though....

[@HelloKittyFreak96]

i honestly love that your vlogs are short (:

[@noxagh]

"there was a lot of smooching" its aight Hank you don't gotta be awkward anymore you're married to her.

[@rustysheckleferg8380]

i remember that physical place you call the "block buster".

[@deboragrenzel5201]

WHAT DO YOU MEAN THIS ISN'T INTERESTING??? This is soooooo lovely!! John should write a book about this!!!! (I'm not joking, I swear!! I finished the video thinking "oooooooownnnn!!!")

[@TheKayleighEmber]

This is really cute and it gives me hope :3 It's good to hear that people can have weird on and off relationships and have it work out in the end, that makes me really happy.

[@agentrikamcgee]

This video might as well be re-titled "To Orin: How I Met Your Mother"...

[@user-pz9jb2hw1p]

Poor Orin if he ever watches this,

[@modroncollider]

Hank, thank you for this video. This was a nice reminder that it's better to have a great relationship than a great story.

[@keirarush9505]

...Your books are color coordinated. I aspire to be as coordinated. Oh! And your love story is adorable!

[@EmmyRae1885]

Is your bookshelf color coordinated?

[@akanksha8311]

so m not the only one who noticed that !!

[@goldfishdoc1999]

damnn.. they are together for 21-22 yrs.... wow🔥🔥

[@MANJYOMETHUNDER111]

I came to this video stressed about an exam I'm writing this morning. Now the story has mellowed me out.

[@AaronFowkes]

This video greatly made me smile. It really spoke to a whole bunch of things happening in my life right now that are making me feel anxious and sad, and I just want to say thank you for it. This made me feel a lot happier. Thanks Hank. :)

[@mashroom2927]

His videos are like a time capsule

[@user-uu5dc6wr6h]

I don't know why but this story was so cute and it made me laugh/smile XD

[@Zineeta]

That's awesome. Reminds me of how I got together with my husband. Though we tied the knot sooner. Love your wording in this :)

[@MrAlisterH]

That was actually a really cute story. Very sweet. I'm glad you talked about how you two fought, because real relationships aren't all sunshine and kittens all the time, some people really don't realize that.

[@iluvdorx11]

Such a cute story!!

[@victoriaquinn7730]

lol it died after u said "I'm just gonna end the video before it..."

[@littlestbroccoli]

I love this so much. Thanks for being honest about difficulties,. It's so easy to feel like the only couple having issues, even though that's obviously not true. Also can you guys review more bad houses please

[@IrisGlowingBlue]

Hank you and Katherine are both adorable. I really like when people make videos react to sounds that aren't immediately obvious, it's like they have a spideysense.

[@nadaqueocultar]

This is a lovely story, Hank. And now you're going to have a baby sooooon! ♥

[@user-pz9jb2hw1p]

I still can't watch this video without giggling like a child. The cutest couple on KZbin 💝💝💝

[@archechme]

I'm so glad I subscribed, I love your videos, Hank!

[@ruththedinosaur]

I have been waiting for this story for years

[@bn2142]

"Proximity took over." Translation: "I got some booty."

[@zabbygrl]

That was SO ROMANTIC!! Haha I loved it. 😊😊

[@Kittkatzi]

I actually find it really encouraging to know that there are other couples who fight lots and had issues etc but managed to get through them and marry and end up happily ever after...

[@ewoodley82]

No relationship is ever "perfect" but it is perfect for the two people who are in the relationship. Seeing this and seeing how you two are fairly recently brings a smile to my face.

[@kylievandiver7437]

I hope to have a marriage like theirs one day.

[@meredithskinner9387]

I like this story because it's real. It's not made up or fake magical. It's beautiful.

[@alisonTindosphere]

This is actually very cute and funny, I'm glad you took the time to tell the story :)

[@JCNeko89]

You two are still FREAKING awesome. It's a totally realistic and rather cool story, even if it's not "beautiful" or "interesting". I'm sure to you and her, it had it's beautiful and interesting moments, and that's all that matters!! :D