How I moved out as an Indian girl with strict parents | Adete Dahiya

[@fresaxvaleria9]

I am 26 years old, and my parents are protective & strict. I explained to them that I take responsibility for myself and start a new life & fresh chapter. However, my mom laughed at me for my goals, making me unhappy. She is a judgmental person. I am hard of hearing. You know deaf & hard of hearing people can do everything. I hope to move into my friend's house next year. I have to keep chasing my goals and be a courageous woman.

[@marutsharma886]

The most important thing is for me is "Freedom". ☺️ Keep growing, keep shining 🌟🌟🌟

[@bananakomatsu]

I think we can start a community for all the Indian women who want to runaway from their toxic households I’m planning to move out, once i turn 18 in a year and i want to make friends who’d help each other out in this situation we can support each other financially and morally

[@harshita.peekaboo]

Hii, I love your idea of a small community (bcz it's less spoken about and more more felt) I hope we can talk :)

[@harshita.peekaboo]

@@Jsicuuuuu i m not moving out atleast rn (it'll take some time) but it will happen for sure.....its necessary And I m 18

[@Mohini675]

We all have a goal of moving out. So let's just create a group. We will help each other with tips, encouragement, physical help if in the same city etc. as and when the time comes and help is needed

[@darshikachaukiyal6430]

hi i also just turned 18 last month currently have no plan of moving out due to studies but i do want to be independent real soon

[@bananakomatsu]

@@darshikachaukiyal6430 alright we can discuss ways to gain financial independence too

[@muskaanarora3070]

As someone who lives in Delhi I totally get why you couldn’t just move away for college or jobs. I kinda like you always had the desire to be my own person, live independently and then marry someone when I am ready. I also realised this thing pretty early on, that you don’t just get up and leave Delhi, and the only way I could convince my parents is by moving out of the country as a whole for college. Because if I get admission in Bangalore or someplace they would be like beta just go to DU, and I really would never leave Delhi for any other place in india tbh. But they agreed on letting me leave the country for studies and I feel like this is the only way I can ever prove that I am not a kid to them Edit: well guys I did it! I moved to the uk and my parents have kind of acknowledged the fact that they can keep track of my every move…but living with your parents isn’t bad, I’d you need help or fall I’ll they are always there…one you move out you have to do everything alone

[@amalageorge4300]

This was something that I needed. Could you please do another video on how you managed your expenses when you moved out?

[@AdeteDahiya]

You got it :)

[@Charnikayu]

Hi di I'm almost 18 I wanna move out get a job wanna live in another city my parents are hell abusive I feel depressed about it

[@yuni_yas]

Same here , but instead of parents my brothers is very toxic I can't let them control my life

[@anonymousperson6809]

@@yuni_yas you can talk to me if you want to. i have experienced and gone through all this rather still going through

[@yuni_yas]

@@anonymousperson6809 I just don't know what to do

[@nityatripathi1531]

same but u gotta be very strong and move out

[@coderman4315]

I left my parents after getting financially stable , they abused so much , I lost all my childhood , it was hell for me...can't leave house in India during your childhood due to India's situation, left the country too because can't live with people who think beating kids is fine . I am so happy and peaceful after leaving my parents and India. It was not my mistake to be born in a country full of abusive parents who thinks it's normal. Things are so different abroad and so good.

[@sangeetabanerjee6]

Similar mentality it seems for every Indian parents...its Just that my parents are very loving yet too Overbearing at times and treat us as a 30 yr old kid..I can't go to gym, can't date, cant bring any equipment home due to lack of space!!..its very important to live alone and I have been working since last 11 yrs and earn for my family too and managed my parents to finally move out 😂

[@anushka_2_004]

Being Watching your current videos ... Deciding to watch older ones .... This video is almost matching up with my reality of being independent ..... I absolutely love your content .... My one of the favv content creator ❤️🫶 ....

[@miscellaneousme7233]

Thankyou so much for this video. I was uncomfortable about moving out and opening myself to danger. But your video helped me plan my moving with rationality. It's important to take baby steps and not be rash about this issue.

[@nityatripathi1531]

i am in 12th grade and i really want to move out but my mom loves or ig thinks too much about what will people say. They always say that they will get me married by 22 which is ridiculous i really want to do something and marry someone i love but they think that i should just listen to them and stay quite. they are quite educated and both of them are business person but still they have such a conservative thinking i really want to be by my own. but i used to think i will hurt them or life will hit me so hard because parents are everything but they are just controlling and nagging. but after watching this i have courage and i will really go to college and move out

[@AdeteDahiya]

Hey Nitya…all the best for your journey. Remember while parents usually want what’s best for us, their experience is also only limited to what they’ve seen. If you want to explore, study and grow, you should definitely give it a shot :)

[@Humanitarian185]

I also want to come

[@Humanitarian185]

Where are you from

[@grey698]

my life is same as yours. i want to be alone. alone alone. fricking alone

[@obitouchiha6439]

Move out, anyways. It's your life, not theirs. Their reputation is NOT your burden to bear.

[@Nicole_Riviere]

Well done, and with grace💪

[@obitouchiha6439]

Japanese 32 year old, here. I always reject the collective and choose to live life on my own individual terms. My blood relatives and alot of people around me didn't take kindly to that, especially considering that my parents are religious nuts. I even had to learn martial arts at a very young age, because there were instances where some blind patriot sheep would literally try to physically fight me, because of the old collectivist idea of "if you refuse to conform, then we will force your hand, by any means necessary." I was always told that I'm "selfish" and "entitled" because i reject the notions of "you must abide by the same beliefs as your parents, otherwise, you're SeLfIsH," "you must marry within your own race, otherwise, you're SeLfIsH," "you must have children, otherwise, you're SeLfIsH," "you must let your parents choose your career, otherwise, you're SeLfIsH," "you must take over the family business, otherwise, you're SeLfIsH." At 18, I chose to leave Japan and move to Canada to live on my own. Needless to say, my individualism is not treated with disdain or animosity here, as it is in the East. I have a great paying job that allows me to live on my own and a large circle of friends who accept me. It's great to see more Asians reject the collective and embrace the individual.

[@obitouchiha6439]

Also, another important thing to know, anybody who is 18 or older does NOT need to justify wanting to move out and you do NOT need your parents' permission to move out.

[@AdeteDahiya]

Thanks for sharing this ❤️ had no idea this is how things are. And you’re absolutely right, it’s so great to see Asians reject the toxic collectivist notions

[@TonicforNarcissism]

Love this comment ❤ we are rejecting their notions left and right. It's a journey towards FREEDOM

[@sakshiunfiltered956]

Hey this was great! I loved the background music too!! Please keep more of this adulting stuff coming 💯

[@nishajoshi5651]

Thank you so much dii ❤❤You are doing a great job 😊😊

[@anuragtiwariYT]

You go girl!! 🤗

[@AdeteDahiya]

❤️❤️❤️

[@Lisalove.21]

Loved this!

[@anonymous..512]

Hey iam 18 and gonna be 19 in some months, right now I am college and not doing any job but i really wanted to move out of my home 😢😢

[@AdeteDahiya]

Hey...so moving out involves a lot of financial stress. If you can get a job/gig that can pay you enough to make rent and meet your living expenses (food, bills etc) then only move out. Otherwise get a gig, save up a little and then do it.

[@Mysterygirl02-z5p]

Wow sister 👏. What a brave decision with a good planning. What job you were doing back then. Because even I am planning to move out but I am not getting a good job. 😅

[@AdeteDahiya]

Was working in content marketing with a media company

[@Meeeeeeeee377]

i have a big problem here....i live in Dhaka, Bangladesh. I cant even rent an apartment to live alone....the owners only want families or there are hostels...but even hostels are for students of a university or a college. what should i do now...my family is conservative..they force me to do things i dont even believe and cant tell them that either...our laws are useless for girls..i just found out today that there are no laws about forcing for marriages in our country...i was pretty shocked seeing this..what should i do?

[@mrudulabalachander5940]

Apply for a job/university in another city/country where you can live by yourself? If thats possible?

[@Meeeeeeeee377]

@@mrudulabalachander5940 i am an honors 2nd year student...thinking of applying for masters...thanks for replying☺

[@dishikag3907]

Hello, Adete !! I eagerly want to live seperately from my parents house but the problem is How do I find a well paying job so that I'm financially independent & be able to support myself fully.

[@Humanitarian185]

Hii i know some jobs in Mumbai

[@joyfall777]

Thank you for making this video. But what should I do if my parents are abusive and won't let me leave out the gates and will probably call the police on me to bring me back home?

[@AdeteDahiya]

Sorry to hear about this Joy. Are you over 18 and do you have a source of income?

[@joyfall777]

@@AdeteDahiya yes

[@BissKay]

@@joyfall777 you know, if you're over 18 it's best to just move out. If you want to tell your parents about moving out then only do it after you've moved out (hope you know the reasons) and since you are over 18 even if your parents send police to find you they wouldn't be doing anything as you are an adult capable of looking after yourself, in fact, I think police wouldn't even come to you if your parents tell them your age because an adult moving out of a house is none of anyone's business. So the only thing to care about is money. Get that money and get moving. All the best for you and me (as I'm too getting the hell out of here 😂)

[@AdeteDahiya]

Yes agreed. Because in a situation where you’re facing abuse, there is not much of a choice besides moving out. If you’re legally an adult, your parents cannot call the cops to get you back

[@Imnzwa]

Run away and if you're over 18 they cant call the cops on you coz you're an adult

[@Neha_lifestylejourney]

Background music bhut jyada h

[@neeljitkumar2141]

I dont know how to say this mere parents toh khud mere ko abroad send kr na cha rahe hai per mere ko maan he nahi kr raha hai idk what to say more on this

[@jaylogu5675]

Is your mother a house wife ? It was your mother why do you blame your father ?

[@hazelsunder]

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[@sujatat-hl8nr]

Heyy adetee i m sooo sooo lost and stuck my parents are not sending me out and i mbso stuck at home its so toxic and even my college is here itself i still have 1 yr to finish and its sooo toxic plzz help🙂i cant just cant survive

[@sahfamilyvlog]

Where do you live we both can leave and stay together and work

[@sanjaysanj6688]

Hey same here .. 👋😂☝️