How I Overcame Failure - For Women Over 40

I have a story about failure to tell you. A story of me “failing” and how it actually changed my life… for the better. Watch my story and my 3 tips that helped me overcome failure in my 40's and 50's.
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[@adriennekinsella7123]

Thank you for these words. One of my biggest fears of failing was finishing college and obtaining my degree. I was EPICALLY bad at math and it paralyzed me for my entire adult life. So, in my early 40’s I set a goal to overcome that fear by hiring tutors and starting back to 3rd grade math problems (not kidding). I enrolled at the local community college and little by little chipped away at courses finally being able to transfer to the university where I earned my bachelor’s degree. I didn’t stop there! I went on and became the first in my family to earn a Masters degree in business at the ripe age of 58! It took a long time but I won’t look back at my life and say I didn’t even try! I had my LH as my cheerleader when times were hard to get through and lots of free time sacrificed to study! Thank you for your inspiring words! ❤️

[@deeray6479]

Wow! Well done Adrienne ... A very inspiring success story 👍.

[@FitnesswithPJ]

WOW Adrienne - you are an inspiration ❤❤❤❤

[@dintexas2095]

I did the same, at age 35 I went back to school! I thought oh I’ll be 40 by the time I graduate. My dad reminded me that I would be 40 one way or the other! I was terrified of the thought of taking calculus at my “advanced” age, because like you I was not particularly fond of math! Anyway, graduated a few months shy of my 40th birthday and then 5 years later my masters degree. It was all worth it as I had a nice 22 year career at a major university and have now been retired for 4 years!

[@lauriebercasio3457]

Thank you so much for telling your story. My husband and I closed our business 3 years ago and we are so thankful now that we lost our business. We were both crying 3 years ago. I went back to school and got my Masters. I am about to teach a CE class on Burnout in 3 hours online. Thank you for your encouragement. I just found you online 3 weeks ago. I love your workouts, I am also 50 and these workouts challenge me but don't hurt me. You are awesome!

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Thank you for sharing for your story Laurie and welcome to the FWPJ channel!!

[@user-mo9jr1ih8l]

Thank you for sharing this ! It got me back up again. I lost my job a few weeks ago, and felt like a complete failure 😢 You always manage to make me feel better about myself. Thank you ❤️

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Sorry to hear that, but you are FAR from a failure. Dust yourself off and keep moving forward babe ❤

[@cdex00]

Fear and procrastination--- worst enemies of success! Something I'm working on. You are a silver lining during this pandemic. Thank you for your videos.

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Thanks so much, Cindy! 🔥💪👏

[@mariaewerth670]

They are not failures when things don’t work out the way you want them to. I always say when one door closes another door opens..... And you are right they are lessons learned. Good luck on your new chapter!! Thank you PJ ❤️

[@FitnesswithPJ]

So true!

[@jeancoody5993]

You must have an awesome coach and therapist. Wonderful results. 💯

[@5benderclb]

"Failure is Learning" thank you for being real and strong. Choosing to be happy and loving on others. Blessings to you!

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Yes! Thank you!

[@kellycrawford8839]

No bloopers! Extra awesome on a video about failing forward! I "failed" at two marriages. Swear to God, I tried hard. And the second divorce about killed me because of losing my well-paying job at the same time, and now I was a single parent to two kids. Then I tried harder. Now I am married to a wonderful man for 10 years this month. Our kids are healthy and happy. You are so right about believing whatever we tell ourselves, so choose your messaging wisely!

[@FitnesswithPJ]

OMG Kelly, I love that line "failing forward". Thank you for sharing your story babe!!

[@angelacordeau4394]

This is a great pep talk, PJ. Failure and I are best friends. I believe, at times, I’m more afraid of succeeding. 😜. But I’m still here, plugging through.

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Hahaha... keep on plugging Angela!!

[@maryjanenewman8887]

Love this PJ ~ Thanks for sharing. And I also appreciate the 'bad hair day' hat 🤯

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Yay! Thank you!

[@user-ei8py6nw3y]

WOW that was an intense share. Thank-you. SO glad you turned both of those around. xo

[@FitnesswithPJ]

💪❤

[@IlmeeMintz]

Choose to be happy. So true.

[@FitnesswithPJ]

👊

[@lindasims7542]

Thank you sooo much PJ for sharing that it’s all going to be okay. Good reminder of the “silver lining”.

[@FitnesswithPJ]

You are so welcome and thanks for watching Linda!

[@nancyburton7439]

Thank you for sharing. One of my coaches say we are not always afraid of failure but also afraid of success. Like OMG it worked now what! LOL knowing we will be ok and figure the next right step that is the key. Then get out there and live! Pursue those dreams. So glad you are online- you were destined to reach so many more people 💚

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Thank you Nancy 😘

[@dieuhoanguyen108]

I'm starting out watching your clip and looking forward to the bloopers. I'm so glad that person in the first story left you so all of us KZbin followers get the opportunity to work out with you. Thank you for sharing your experience with us. Are you seriously having no bloopers!?!? I like the bloopers a little more than the no-bloopers-dance. :)

[@FitnesswithPJ]

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[@teressapreuss8795]

Thank you for being online! LOVE, LOVE your workouts! You've helped me grow stronger and I have more self confidence. I also very much appreciate your personally!

[@FitnesswithPJ]

You're so welcome!

[@jacintabowman9472]

You certainly are an inspiration! Thank you for sharing ❤️.

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Thank you so much!

[@tracyz125]

Thank you so much for sharing PJ! There must have been a lot of pain through all of that, in the pain is where the growth happens!

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Absolutely!! Growth does happen through pain. Love that line Tracy! Thank you!

[@margiegonzalez6576]

Thank you for sharing, for being real

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Always! And thanks for watching Margie!

[@tarastradiotti1114]

Thanks for sharing, great video and life lesson!

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@robinpatterson3809]

It takes guts to talk about personal failures. I have one I’m coping with now and this talk helped. Like the truth about not trying is worse than failure.

[@FitnesswithPJ]

😘

[@kellyj434]

PJ thank you so much for sharing. I can very much relate to your message and trying to get past my fears of failing currently. I have a lot to figure out. I appreciate what you do and so happy that you train online. I enjoy your instruction and curriculum. Thank you!

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Thank you so much, Kelly!

[@dintexas2095]

So much wisdom here ~ so many takeaways from your talk. Thank you for sharing something so personal. I love your mantra ~ I have used that in the past myself. Still do! Change is hard. About ten years ago I applied for and got a job that was a big step up for me. Yay me, right? Well not everyone at the new office was happy about me getting the job. In fact many of my coworkers strived to make me as miserable as possible. I kept saying ~ it’s all going to be okay. And it was, but it took a LOT of patience and biting my tongue. I also sang that song by Gloria Gaynor ~ I Will Survive ~ in the car on my way home! The experience made me a tougher/stronger person! Thanks again for sharing your experience with us!

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Good for you!! It's so important to push ourselves further despite what other people may think or feel. Who needs 'em right?! We're here for each other and if you're not into that, then see ya later! Am I right?! Glad to have this community of amazing women, thanks for being a part of it!! 👏💪🔥

[@_kyomii]

you have no idea how good is the timing for your video in what's happening now in my life! thank you.the sad part, though, is that, next August, I was planning to come to your studio to shake your hand (I'm coming to Vancouver to visit my best friends and I wanted to pass by and say "thank you" in person). I say "thank you" now and keep up the good work!

[@FitnesswithPJ]

You're so welcome! And we can still meet!! I am still living here and am always open to shaking other amazing women's hands. ox

[@DunderMifflin_ThisisPam]

Thank you for sharing your journey with us! I'm sorry for the heartbreak you had to go through. Great job picking up and carrying on! I am currently 45 and feeling like I have failed, but more of a personal, family failure with my teenage son. We have had so much hope recently, he was starting a job with a family business for the summer. But he is struggling enormously with anxiety and cannot seem to get up in the morning or make it to work early enough. It's really hard because my extended family members all blame me for not parenting him well enough. I'm trying to let go. I want to reach out to him but it seems to make everything worse...so here I am. Letting him fail, and wondering how to pick up the pieces. Thanks again for all you are doing!

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Hi Pamela, I'm thinking of you, and I hope you have someone to talk too. ox ❤

[@wendyatkinson4097]

Thank you so much for this video PJ. I love that you are not afraid to be real. I too have had failures and understood, after some time, that they were the best things that could have happened to me. I had a business with a partner who ultimately left me 'holding the bag', I had a man that I loved who cheated on me with one of my employees (a friend) and ended up marrying her. Those were the big ones. Like you I had friends and family who helped me and I sought out support with a therapist. All this is behind me and I have a husband of 29 years and am happy in my home and work life. I will likely fail in the future but I now know that there is gold beyond the pain. Thank you for helping me to love exercise. BTW-you look gorgeous. Loved the hat!

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Thank you Wendy and I miss our in-person together!! Much love ox

[@tereseforan3543]

PJ you look GREAT - You are ROCKING the hat, I'm serious. I really needed to hear your message today because lately I've been letting myself get down about so much uncertainty in the world. You inspired me to do some positive self-talk. Thanks for caring and sharing.

[@FitnesswithPJ]

I'm so glad! And thanks for the compliment!

[@lynnkelley7096]

Thanks for sharing your story. I’ve been enjoying your workouts over the last few weeks and I need to join your page because I’ve already referred several of my friends to you.

[@FitnesswithPJ]

😘

[@baoakley]

What you are desciping are detours that bring you closer to where you are supposed to be. Thanks for sharing and being real. BA xo

[@FitnesswithPJ]

I miss you BA ❤

[@victoriag332]

Very inspiring! Thanks for sharing. This video came at a really good time for me. I graduated from my civil engineering degree at the end of 2019 and then took a bit of time off. Then the pandemic happened and so now I have been unemployed for much longer than I meant to be! The job market is really competitive these days so its hard not to feel like a failure sometimes. Your video was really encouraging. Side note I am the fittest I've been in years (largely thanks to you! ) and so I'm thinking in a way this extra time off has worked out great.

[@FitnesswithPJ]

I love that you found the silver lining in your journey so far... keep smiling Victoria because it will all be okay 😘

[@SunClub2018]

we love you 🧡🧡❤you.re so fit

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Thanks!

[@deeray6479]

What an amazing message! Thank you for sharing, PJ. When I was in my 30's I "knew" my choices and circumstance made me who I was and I remember being so proud of that girl. Something shifted in my 40s and I've spent the past 2 decades (😲) wallowing and longing for what was instead of embracing my "now"; which is in no way horrible, by the way. Finally, at 56, I am ready to step back into myself and embrace all that brought me here. You are in no way a small piece of the "knock on the head" I needed, PJ ... I appreciate you so much 💕.

[@FitnesswithPJ]

You are awesome Dee and a big YES to giving yourself the pat on the back (and hug) that you deserve 😘

[@truthandlove1111]

You have an awesome attitude and outlook! Let's go get it done PJ! Have a great day!

[@FitnesswithPJ]

Thanks so much 😘

[@janekiceniuk1578]

Without going into a long story, this video is exactly what I needed. I'm looking for my support person. My boyfriend kind of is that person in the fact that he doesn't care what I want or need to do, he's there. And he is NOT a talker. And my best friend, who I thought was that person- is not that person. There always has to be a benefit for her effort.(she is a business woman). I might not be wording this the right way, but that's where my feelings are. Thanks for the video

[@FitnesswithPJ]

A big virtual hug to ya Jane ❤

[@kellycrawford8839]

Jane, keep looking for the support you need. It might be a therapist, a social worker, or something a lot less formal like a journal. You are worth the effort to find that for yourself. Hugs

[@deeray6479]

You got this, Jane 🏋️‍♀️

[@faridahmaggs1841]

PJ, this is really inspiring, thank you for this, it's definitely made my day. I think that sometimes it's easy enough to dwell on what went wrong and forgetting to be grateful for what did go right / what's good in one's life resulting in a spiral if negativity. The hard part is breaking out of that vicious circle. l will definitely be sharing this video with family and friends. 😍

[@FitnesswithPJ]

So glad you enjoyed this message Faridah!

[@patpeters3836]

thank you for this, it is like a repeat of my husband and myself. We had a partner and he was skimming the our company. I was told life is made up of baby steps, each step is a test, and even though I get butterflies in my stomach each time it always work out the positive and it is what I tell our kids(not kids) Thank you, love you and stay safe.

[@FitnesswithPJ]

You and I Pat, we are going to keep on kicking ass 🙌