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[@Hellomountains10111]

STOP GIVING EXPLANATIONS IN 2020! I feel like as women we are often told we need to make everyone comfortable and fill awkward situations with nice words. I’m working on this now and taking back my power with SILENCE. Thank you for sharing!

[@katteresa6174]

YES. 🦋✌🏼

[@luciaambrose1232]

I feel like a lot of us feel the same way. Personally, I’m working on this too. Sometimes it can get hard since it’s a habit that we were taught very young. I wish you the best on your journey. Life is going to be amazingly great once we realize it’s not our job to make anyone feel comfortable.

[@CandaceStevens]

💯💯💯 YES!

[@holisticpirate05]

PREACH GIRL ❣️

[@courtney9546]

@Ickalocka boobooday no one said it was. It's just a sexism thing that mostly happens to women. Men are not stereotyped as "more maternal" "naturally comforting" or "instinctively nurturing" the way women are and that's just a simple fact. So when women "fail" to fulfill those expectations, they are punished.

[@pollymat991]

"it's not your job to make people realize that they're morons" Quote of the week!

[@allysonidk8920]

wish i heard this while i was with my ex LMAO

[@i-never-look-at-replies-lol]

It's not my job because I do it for free

[@hurricaneb2579]

🤣great quote

[@emeraldcollier178]

YESSS!!! I was coming to the comments to see if anyone else picked up on this gem

[@MadhavsIshita]

i was laughing for straight 5 minutes XD

[@MrsMuniaa]

The fact that I wasn’t even questioning her holding a spatula this entire video

[@keynonburns4921]

Shhhhh, the spatula is the real instrument she uses to remain unbothered

[@sharondalewis1620]

Ah, you are on your way! Lol

[@becklee94]

Didn't even notice til I read this comment lmao

[@jaquim6383]

me too 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Kayyllaa_t]

I didn’t even notice until I read your comment 😭😂

[@theguyintheback4714]

Kinda reminds me of stoicism. You can’t control the world but you can control how you react to it...

[@rivergirl4061]

I was literally going to comment this but you beat me to it

[@ajl2232]

But very stressful.

[@fool4343]

@@ajl2232 in its essence it shouldn't be stressful cause you shouldn't worry about things that are inevitable

[@kinggoldie7744]

I love the stoics good people.

[@lilym1797]

That's what I was thinking

[@adhyak2652]

Never attach your happiness to a person, you'll never be happy that way.

[@Afr0chick101]

Woah thank you for that 😅

[@yall955]

Unless that person is yourself of course 💙💙💙

[@joydanleigh7711]

Exactly be blessed everyone

[@minfires7572]

@@yall955 yES PREACh

[@yall955]

@@minfires7572 Thx lol

[@jilly6765]

*"You don't need to be the loudest person in the room to come across as the smartest"* This is officially my life's new mantra

[@KhadijaHussein]

Me too

[@excellentimage1]

100% 🎯🎯🎯

[@heydesiree]

I love that!!! 😍

[@chanleakhanathon]

this was such a good quote. it's only the people who think they're the smartest that are the loudest lol

[@xo_kryptoknight4147]

So true! My parents would always say "the emptiest drums make the loudest noise"

[@shelby8682]

“It’s not your job to make people realize that they are morons” this quote made me subscribe

[@Ana-xq3yr]

I need this in my life. Thank you

[@campkira]

you still need that morons to get shit done for you...

[@BlossomCherry00]

I'm actually putting this sentence on a shirt

[@Ana-xq3yr]

@@campkira true, what if they are everywhere around you 😩

[@Sebastian-xp9eb]

What if those people verbally and physically harass you?

[@user-eq5yo7rn5v]

shes so confident in herself that I didn't even realize she was holding a spatula the whole video. because she held it with confidence. lmfaooo I want that kind of confidence.

[@revertedrf978]

Lacey Carter maybe until she read the comments

[@ahnrho]

First thing that stood out, tbh.

[@lalights6]

you want spatula holding confidence, lol

[@cartooncottage2024]

Oh, she knew. She just didn't care.

[@kendrawilliams198]

My confidence and self esteem is getting better.

[@LyKaNu]

"it's not your job to make people realize that they are morons"- goddess kelly stamps

[@lkeke35]

This! You need to realize that someone out there is gonna take care of that for you...

[@lanafer2747]

i feel like we all are mildly annoyed at humanity

[@lovemae7540]

right like we can launch a goddamn rocket into space yet we can’t figure out how to just be considerate and accepting of eachother 😔 smh

[@antoniatropf6168]

Not humanity but people and society

[@C.U.N.Tahiti]

Mildly?

[@c.s.9505]

C.U.N.Tahiti my thoughts exactly. I’m extremely annoyed with humanity.

[@raniareyes4397]

Lana Marie deeply.

[@OliveMyanmarVlog]

How this queen remains unbothered- 1. shutting off social media 2. not expecting so much out of people 3. living to please yourself 4. talking less

[@zohashahid30984]

Thanku so much❤

[@OliveMyanmarVlog]

❤️

[@carolinechikerema7756]

That's me and it bothers others so much but do i care no . I have one life and imma live it the way i want

[@al3xskng854]

Legit me, only media I have now is tik tok lmao. I’m so unbothered with life. Anything could get in my way but I couldn’t care less lmfaoo😭😭

[@highvaluelife4971]

Yass!

[@amanda.._..]

*Me still caring about an embarrassing incident that happened when I was 7: 👁👄👁*

[@tiarakirana7426]

So relatable

[@PeridotCentichannel]

Relatee

[@lanadelslayyonce4457]

I been doing that since this coronavirus and I’m not graceful so I have a lot of memories 🥴😑

[@sullfleur]

YESS! like i'm a bothered kween 😩

[@ease4993]

Same! I wish there's a delete button for the memories.

[@paintedbysketchysi2978]

Idk why introverts are made to feel like they are less human or something. You hit the nail of the head tbh, just be yourself, thats always enough.

[@kaybourgeois3774]

Spill

[@dc9067]

Like 70% of the population is introverted...? But ok

[@bunnygutz7884]

@@dc9067 idk if that’s true really, but as someone who used to be incredibly socially anxious, a teacher would literally say that being shy will get you no where in life! so yeah ppl are really mean to introverts

[@zetaforever4953]

@@bunnygutz7884 there's a difference between shyness and introversion, though. I've met shy extroverts and very socially skilled introverts. It is true that being very shy can be a problem in certain areas of life, especially if you combine that shyness with a fear of confrontation (as I did). Introversion and extroversion are a whole different thing. Those just depend on whether you derive energy from being alone or being around people. It's got nothing to do with your level of social skill.

[@nessie968]

@@zetaforever4953 but introverts *are* looked down at.

[@rafiqrashad392]

Learn to be OK with not invited, included or considered.

[@cherrellbovain9138]

How about when you're truly ok with it but people make a deal of it and then you're indirectly feeling not included when that wasn't your initial feeling...??

[@SaturatedInLoveTarot]

@@cherrellbovain9138 if you truly dgaf, nothing anyone says can make you feel no type of way! 💅🏽

[@smilee2566]

@@cherrellbovain9138 confront them, if they don't budge cut them off.

[@MS-ly4mx]

This is the hardest thing, especially when you invite, include and consider everyone. But it needs to be done.

[@user-kz8bt1os1i]

This is so hard tho

[@no_fairytales9704]

“Do not waste your time trying to convince people that you’re right. They’ve already made up their mind about you.” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🖤

[@randomstreetcat7428]

Easy to say, hard to put in practice =(

[@raerae-e4b]

THIS!!!

[@Joseph3391399]

That is so scary, seeing people everyday treating me as less than them...is terrifying to me

[@myaliyadawson6400]

Wendy Yang stay strong cut everybody off and level up😤

[@reaper3204]

Amen

[@PiaAmorin]

“You don’t have to be the loudest person in the room to come across as the smartest” YES!

[@frances5432]

ok i love that line

[@etien_ne]

My life’s mantra 💁‍♀️✨

[@jo-dt4fc]

wHY DO YOU ASSUME YOU RE THE SMARTEST IN THE ROOM

[@sushidevil4244]

holy shit that's been my problem, i'm so insecure I gotta prove myself somewhere somehow. especially when i'm drunk lol

[@FinasJourney]

Absolutely yes

[@emmalucygordon3594]

If you can’t actively change a situation, do not put your energy into it. Put your energy into things you can actively change

[@davemwangi05]

You mean like the new world order? or the Great Reset? LOL

[@soniamo4139]

@@davemwangi05 No, she means our social situations, immediate surroundings and circumstances. Self care!

[@davemwangi05]

@@soniamo4139 can we change the great reset? Or we should just let it go, and not bother to put our energy into it?

[@nathanboyer7739]

She wants pasta! This is how she fulfills her desire for her pasta-coitus or something. Her verbatim not mine.

[@Lealea883]

@@nathanboyer7739 she was joking

[@ft.jackjimmy7282]

My advice? Realize that you’re not famous enough for people to be constantly thinking about you or judging you, you start caring way less and actually get more confident with yourself.

[@natie331]

I need this

[@HazyFelix]

Just get smart, rich,help out your friends(people who you feel are worthy) and don't give a shit about anything else

[@khadijah9604]

"You'd care alot less about what people think about you when you realise how seldom they do"

[@sup8668]

Феликс Хазарский, tell me how does one just get smart

[@divy668]

Thanks David So

[@itsthequeenfatima]

“I have my master’s degree in dissociation”...if that ain’t my forever mood then I don’t know what is! Keeps me level headed!

[@gianmarcorusso1713]

Me too.

[@matthaughton]

Literally a forever mood

[@excellentimage1]

🎯🎯🎯

[@pollymat991]

this comment --- I am glad it was made ^_^

[@foodgasm81]

I literally laughed. Keep at it girl!

[@jadejones5206]

“Talk less and strangers are less likely to give their unsolicited advice”

[@a.h.5555]

Yeah I learned to do this with overbearing classmates as well. Not giving anyone anything to work with. Made my days easier.

[@spikey0034]

@@a.h.5555 I agree, you're generally left alone. However, people still notice you and will probably gossip behind your back, but I don't lose any sleep over it.

[@krosis2774]

Read that right as she said it lol

[@popeyespizza330]

👏👏 Amen

[@rebeccasharpe879]

@@spikey0034 I decided that i am ok with people gossiping behind my back, that means they are wasting their time, it's not productive. I want to use my time in a more productive way.

[@doctorwholover1012]

Something I try to remember is "sometimes, people aren't out to get you, they are just making the best choice for them out of the options available at the time" like there are definitely times when people act to directly piss you off/attack you, but a lot of the time, people aren't out to get you bc they're too busy thinking about themselves and their decisions etc. If you take 5 mins to ask yourself; "is this directed at me, or is this an unintended consequence of a choice made w/no thought about me?" U get into a lot less drama lol

[@itszbebabaybee]

I like this! I tend to take things personal so I’ll ask myself this more often lol

[@doctorwholover1012]

@Polaris Star interesting point, but I have no idea how it's relevant lol 😅

[@kizzyvlogs3048]

🙌🙏👍🏼🙋‍♀️

[@jikuclt7172]

thank you for this!!!

[@freyaallan3267]

please run for president. kelly stamps is a politician’s name don’t deny fate kelly

[@babyje9]

TRUE

[@chillfactory9000]

Yes, Kelly should run for 2020.

[@suga-dn8to]

A strangely convincing comment

[@hannahebrown320]

IT REALLY IS AND HER VOICE SOUNDS LIKE IT WOULD SPEAK FOR SOME BOMB ASS LEGISLATION

[@aedc17]

On the thumbnail I literally read "Stop overthinking" "Stop caring" "Stop living" oops

[@asrhomme4211]

I died 💀

[@agustina4339]

LMAOOO

[@peace5576]

Saame

[@redlightgreenlightswag9338]

Same I had to go back and reread. I was like "I guess I'll just die then"

[@DanaeLirael]

Same lmaoo

[@checkmattee222]

2 power tips to being an unbothered queen/king: Only speaking when necessary, not dwelling in what doesn't concern you.

[@neotyppe4469]

Yo i have a story about that. So i was having a therapist right? Because i wanted a diagnosis for some medical issue i had. So i talked to her for a while but after a short while i realised she was kinda bad at her job so i put on my polite quietness thing and you know what happened? She completely ignored the issue i had and diagnosed me with some sort of avoidant personality disorder just cause i was distant to her because she annoyed me. So yeah that makes sense because i am totally not the exact opposite. So yeah apparently you need to be your most extroverted self to therapist otherwise they'll diagnose personality traits as a disorder.

[@inesdreedy]

Xiahoud assalamu 3alaykom, is that from a hadith or in the quran? :)

[@odoimia]

I love your username, are you Somali?

[@jenniferslocks7981]

Yessss ✌🌻

[@jenniferslocks7981]

@@neotyppe4469 That's so shitty! ✌🌻 Hope you finally got good help 💜

[@krissyleigh8885]

I deleted my social media around May, this was after my ex broke up with me. I didn't want to be seen anywhere, stalked, looked at haha I just wanted to fall off the face of the earth. I did just that :) Those people who hurt me and betrayed will see me and hear about me one day. I am loving the quiet life without social media. I am in the process of finding myself, not pleasing anybody anymore and standing in my power. so glad I FOUND YOUR CHANNEL YOU ARE FUCKING AWESOME! I am going to start to take your advice, I am pushing myself to be outgoing/extrovert again because I miss that me but at the same time I know that I do not really have much to say to people. :)

[@loren4347]

Omg, literally same! We got this! 💪🏾 👑

[@krissyleigh8885]

It has been quite a journey but going off social media has helped me so much! Hope you are doing well and hell yeah we do got this! :D

[@smaytaganya1446]

@@krissyleigh8885 I officially deleted Instagram yesterday after months of on & off "relationship" with it...and I already feel so much better! It's truly feels like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. It's crazy to realize how addicted I was to social media but I'm finally starting to focus on myself and personal growth...good luck to all of us on our personal journeys. 🙌🏾❤

[@KellyStamps]

THANK YOU KRISSY

[@HellomynameisSani]

Same! It’s refreshing not having to see what the world is trying to keep up with.

[@crystalliveslife]

“Stop expecting so much out of people” this is gold

[@GS-xg4nz]

"I am what I am, and I do what I do. I accept everything and I expect nothing. And life is so much easier that way". Anthony Hopkins. A motto for Ataraxia.

[@vamperkillzshy]

No it's not

[@KellyStamps]

Easier said than done!

[@crystalliveslife]

Kelly Stamps true😢 I’ll get there someday with practice...maybe

[@juliemills2032]

@@crystalliveslife Don't say maybe. Believe it

[@amymoondarling4019]

“Masters degree in dissociating, even during sex” I am ... also,

[@lisaw6219]

I subscribed after that comment...

[@NickiHorn78]

“It’s not your job to make people realize that they are morons” I think I’m going to get that put on a T-shirt 🤣🤣🤣

[@datgrllRITZA]

😭😭😭 DO IT 👏🏾👏🏾

[@journey6498]

I'd buy that tbh

[@frances5432]

i like that too TT

[@ElainaWilliams994]

I love it!

[@fabanvi]

the 4 t i p s are: 1. shutting off social media 2. lowering expectations of other people 3. living to please yourself and only yourself 4. talking less

[@jjp4now]

"If you took black people as seriously as you took your little selfies, we wouldn't be in this predicament. Sis was so shook, she shanked" This got me over the edge XD.... GENIUS

[@datgrllRITZA]

😭😭😭😭 HER READS BE LYFEEEEE 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@sairaailia8691]

@JamminJazzie Productions Sorry I'm slow 😂 Please explain. So I know what selfie's are. But does she want us to take our selfie's seriously, or people around us?

[@jjp4now]

Saira Ailia I think what she was trying to say is that people who take selfies usually take great care in taking them, whether they take multiple, look for the best lighting, angle, etc. to get the best shot. Overall, there are some people who take selfies more serious than others and honestly, I take selfies keeping all those things in mind. Black people aren’t treated well in the USA to put it mildly but if people took them as seriously as they take their selfies, then there wouldn’t be this problem. I don’t speak for her but I think she wants people to care for black people at least as much as people care for how they take selfies. The part that got me was the sis was so shook, she shanked part bc that was a hilarious play on words.

[@user-hq5wx2zx8j]

@abc defg you're watching someone who's black rn?

[@ma-yi]

@abc defg uhhh 😐 why not

[@kenyatah907]

I really don’t like humans and this...was what I needed.

[@AkAk-zs8ml]

Kenyatah Austin but you are a human...

[@worstusernameintheworld9871]

Kenyatah Austin guess you're a plant then?

[@JungkookBestBoy1]

I dont like you too :>

[@khushigill8651]

so edgy and cool

[@khushigill8651]

@googlesucks ok anything for you babes 😚😉❤

[@KellyStamps]

Update: Wow this got a lot of views y'all better subscribe and join the stampede. *If I knew this many people would watch I would've brushed my hair a lil bit.*

[@Senseirey]

Kelly Stamps your awesome 💛⚡️

[@MelitaRichardson]

I love you girl. Haven’t watched the whole video (cuz it went like 45 seconds ago lol) But you’re so worthy of all the love your getting you’re encouraging so many to become creators and sharing the hope the black community needs! I’m so proud to have found your work! And I also did the same two weeks ago. I deleted all the apps off my phone 2 weeks ago. And I’m so thankful for the focus I have. Yes! Great work!

[@KellyStamps]

@@MelitaRichardson whew girl I forgot how to function without constantly checking instagram and citizen, how sad. I feel like a new person!

[@HeeyaMehta]

Love your content kelly!!

[@EricaJoyArts]

All of your videos deserve all the ads!😁👍❤

[@j444mes]

“don’t you think that it’s boring how people talk? let em’ talk.” -Lorde

[@jinymwah]

@Ummm same

[@kirklurkpu4470]

@Ummm it just means to leave people who always give meaningless chatters. Let them talk and just do what you gotta do. 🤩

[@anushaheed1346]

😂😂😂😂

[@nini-ic7is]

I've been practicing this for almost 2 years now, and I honestly couldn't care less about anything; I go to college I listen to my music and have few friends no boyfriend no social media no bullshit just a peaceful simple life.

[@jj4891]

Queeeeen!! or Kinggggg!!

[@eval3509]

I strive for this

[@oooceanman]

@@eval3509 same, let's reach that level of tranquillity

[@peaches4240]

THIS. this is it

[@angelstarfire]

How please?

[@kyliebroome7690]

talk less. smile more. don’t let them know what you’re against or what you’re for. 😉

[@wherethequietbeingsgo]

spot on mr. burr

[@carolinemcadam4312]

you can't be serious

[@rachaelmaritim1653]

Are you Aaron Burr, sir?

[@kyliebroome7690]

Rachael Maritim that depends. who’s asking ¿

[@rachaelmaritim1653]

@@kyliebroome7690 Oh, sure, sir. I'm Alexander Hamilton, I'm at your service, sir

[@rotemyan8935]

"I have my masters degree in dissociating" yeah

[@Deelitee]

I laughed for a good while with that!! 😆😆😆

[@cdp1253]

eyyyy samehere

[@jabbedcrab]

If I had your attitude, girl, I could’ve conquered the world by now.

[@cynthiaisako]

Same !!! Instantly subbed.

[@uriapark8848]

you put my exact thoughts into words

[@jabbedcrab]

Omar Abdi Abdulla that is very true!

[@misomoon]

"It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinions than our own." - Marcus Aurelius

[@msdeenatural_3]

True

[@leeknow1005]

“It’s harder loving yourself then loving others.” -BTS “Don’t be trapped in someone else’s dream” -Min Yoongi “Never mind it’s not easy but engrave it on your chest if you feel like your going to crash then accelerate more you idiot” -Min Yoongi “There is beauty in everything it’s just not everyone sees it.” -Park Jimin Some of my favourite quotes ever.

[@perrysoda1430]

Stoicism 😌

[@I.Am.Beezus]

That’s called narcissism right there :/

[@leilanidru7506]

Beatrice Divina .....or a healthy sense of self esteem😂

[@muzzled_canary782]

“I have my masters degree in disassociation” lemme tell you I hit subscribe

[@yasminahakim30]

Me too!!!...As soon as she said that I hit subscribe 🤣💯🤣

[@DarlingRenaissance]

Lmaoooo

[@GoddessVibesVonnie]

THAT’S WHEN I HIT SUBSCRIBE 😭😭😭

[@PKcrash]

Same. I thought i was the only person who was unbothered at this point

[@irises3724]

Same

[@meganelizabeth9387]

The key to happiness is not trying to please everyone, not trying to make everyone understand you. Not everyone likes peanut butter. Not everyone is going to understand you. Don't waste energy on things / people that don't serve you. Kelly I love your content. It's REAL. Keep it up girl, you rock!

[@davemwangi05]

I wanna serve you. will you waste energy on me?

[@dosesandmimoses]

That sounds antisocial… but more power to you

[@tortison]

As an introvert who often doesn't talk if I feel there's nothing worth saying, it was great to hear you validate talking less and to stop thinking about making others happy by changing and forcing myself to try to be extroverted. It's painful to try to talk to others a lot of the time, so why should I care if they think I should be talking?

[@WolfOfTheWillowKmm]

yes!! Really made me realize how silly it is to force extroversion.

[@decisis9461]

But is it bad that I want to force myself to be an extrovert because when I’m extroverted I feel excited and when I’m quite I don’t feel so good but at the same time talking does feel draining, I like talking to ppl who are just as excited and interested in the convo as me.

[@keamashita8906]

I’m an introvert and recently i decided to go out to my first party and everyone started talking about how much i have changed and how i am now a “clout chaser”💔but i just wanted to get out of my comfort zone. I feel so embarrassed and i regret going out because everyone’s talking about me and i can’t stop overthinking. I should have not went to that party and my life would been easier...any advice?

[@clearbleuskya5556]

Kea Mashita Get new friends. Those people aren’t worth your time. And don’t try to be something you’re not. People can sense it and take it the wrong way.

[@strawberrydaurto3366]

Anaya same, I feel the same, like I like when I push myself a lil and talk to people and have fun but it’s soo hard and I get so anxious when I’m alone in class and have no one to talk to all I think about is having now one and every one thinks I’m a loser or loner whatever it might be, I want to be social but it’s hard:( I try each year and I get a little better but it’s still hard like I’ve said lol.. I do want to have my alone time aswell but that’s when I’m home or something but when I’m in social places like school I don’t want to be alone. I have this vision for myself to be a unbothered badass and lives life to be happy and feel good, I don’t want to feel stuck all the time anymore. Sometimes I can’t get words out and I feel like I might be looked down upon cause I’m quiet sometimes, I want to be the part of the day when people talk to me they feel better not worse. I dunno but I can go on and on about this vision so I hope I can stop being so shy sometimes. Also a step I’m gonna make is my fashion and I’m pretty lowkey about my fashion but in reality I love to style outfits and dress up so I might do that more. (I heard dressing up helps build your character, for awhile it’s like u wear a costume but then it becomes u) I hope dressing up helps me become more bold in my social actions aswell! Anyways this is my little story..

[@emilycrowley6948]

Staying off social media has significantly improved my mental health. I was constantly on social media watching the violence that's going on. I wanted to be informed about what people were going through, but it got to a point where it was unhealthy. It's important to staying informed, but constantly watching violence isn't it.

[@uniquelyshellz]

I completely agree with you, I notice the same thing, that by being on social media and witnessing all these violent protesting going on it brings out these negative energy and thoughts , especially I suffer from mild anxiety, so I decided to get off social media except on youtube because I can control what I watch..only God can get us through this.

[@ChicStrands]

Me too!!!! I had to get off of Instagram and Facebook!! Omg!!!! What a choice I made for my mental health🙏🏽

[@missrelaxed3872]

I did the same too sis, I was done with social media because I wanted my mental health to be better

[@shelbywolf2016]

If you think watching it is unhealthy, you should try and experiencing it. Interesting how the black girls and the white girls are taking the same approach.

[@Mangocakegurl]

Shelby Wolf I get where you’re coming from. But I just don’t think it’s the best route to tell people what feels to me to essentially be, “oh your mental health is bad? Well black girls’ are worse right now so shut up and keep up.” Yes, a lot of white people are now becoming aware of the immense amount of trauma and pain we have as black women. Yes, us black women have been carrying this immense weight for all our lives. But white women who are just now realizing it and becoming aware and educating themselves (or those who were aware anyway but couldn’t make big changes on their own) are just getting their feet in and it’s hard. It’s really, really hard to enter this kind of awareness and stay hyperalert when you aren’t used to it. We’re all people. I think if white people are a little overwhelmed by this, it’s okay to let em take a break. As long as they remain committed and willing to continue to fight for justice, I don’t see an issue. Hell, I should probably take a break from all this mess too.

[@MELTEDBUHTTER]

I’m not even wondering why she’s holding a spatula. It just seems right.

[@drivethruae503]

we truly are her target audience

[@ahnrho]

Fly swatting.

[@red_vibe9984]

Ikr

[@kriches6203]

I love u for that comment.... ❤❤❤

[@kriches6203]

:)

[@ceezaw67]

I got rid of social media. Got sick of peoples pointless crazy egotistical approval needing comments

[@Petra20121]

Samee

[@TheKonga88]

But you are here.. LMMFAO 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🙌🙌😸🐣

[@colz5203]

@@TheKonga88 KZbin isn’t really classed as a social media though, he obviously means like Instagram, Facebook, Twitter so on

[@Teo-eu9cn]

@@colz5203 ( a little rant about social media, sorry ) idk, but twitter makes me feel WAY better than instagram or facebook. When i open facebook or instagram i have the feeling of fear that im gonna regret it, and im always right. But on the other side, when i open twitter, i just see what I want to see, nobody there even responds to my comments ( strangely) which is even better because nobody will ,,criticize,, my opinion or expressions. And i always find people who i relate to there. Idk, but twitter and youtube make me happier than ever .. maybe its because i dont go on twitter often, but still.. i like the atmosphere there while the atmosphere ESPECIALLY in insta is making me kinda cry before even opening that app because of the trauma i bear from that app.

[@eyexha]

@@Teo-eu9cn omg you put it in words! ive been wondering why i don't like instagram these past couple of months and you just spoke my mind. im gonna take a sc of this comment to show anyone who asks for an explanation haha. thank you so much! appreciate it.

[@ayare5465]

KZbin is like the only one that doesn’t ruin my life

[@mimim.1835]

u (mostly) get to choose what u see i love youtube for that

[@atheera6]

It's for this reason I only kept youtube to connect with the world after deleting Twitter/Instagram.

[@KaleratoMahuma]

ayare honestly

[@ITSLIZZ111]

samee

[@1dlce1]

Atheer ALmajrashi Me too! 😂

[@JuanPabloSebastian19]

Kelly Stamps is the type of person to be asked to give a talk on how to be rich, famous and successful at the university she dropped out of lol.

[@KellyStamps]

I actually gave a lecture (per request from an old professor) on how I make money on instagram before I started youtube. Most students were falling asleep and didn't care. 😂 Now he said I can give a influencer money making crash course on zoom to his class in fall!

[@JuanPabloSebastian19]

@@KellyStamps LMAO, you go, girl!!!💯💯💯 good luck with your course! You'll do great!🔝🔝

[@MiauxCatterie]

@@KellyStamps you're my money making guru

[@ShelbySteele23]

@@KellyStamps Im shocked that they weren't interested considering the new generation seems to be all about working for themselves or making money online. Im a middle school teacher and i actually had a student put KZbinr on his career interest inventory lol

[@TrulyHaja]

Shelby Steele right lol

[@babychubs15]

Her dry humor just kidnapped me out of nowhere...took me to a remote location....undressed me of my dignity and forced me to click the subscribe button....🤣😂

[@melho.martinez761]

SAME.

[@Janicemar1]

Oh my goodness your comment is GOLD 😂😂😂😂😂

[@KellyStamps]

Oh my goodness

[@dc9067]

Oh wow

[@moralesclara]

Same, girl! Same.

[@luzp8790]

Since i deleted my insta account, i feel so much better, 'cause we live in a world of constant comparison with others (at least in industrial countries), which is lethal. Just find yourself and be yourself!

[@aliyah7340]

No desire to go back onto it! Being fully present is amazing! It’s so easy and effortless to not even think about going back onto it!

[@moamoaoz]

I uninstalled social medias for 4 months now, feels so much better guys.

[@krowkid26]

My phone broke 2 weeks ago and to be honest i feel amazing without it, not planning on replacing it, i feel happier.

[@taehyungloever]

Tina Belcher but your using a phone right now? lmao

[@milkymamio9285]

@@taehyungloever maybe they're using their computer? lol

[@DontCryEJ]

@@milkymamio9285 maybe... They're telepathic.. :0

[@maria1606]

What social medias?

[@SamirahxAnisa]

I wish everyone was unbothered. The world would be a better place.

[@darthvader6916]

Mirrah B oh honey i can only dream

[@misscleo378]

I’m 40 and I’m still struggling to find a happy medium. I expect people to act and react the way I would. Those people who I think have done wrong aren’t losing sleep over their actions, but I am...it’s not worth it.

[@lynnly1388]

If everyone was unbothered then I don’t think anyone would really care for each other

[@therosarylady]

Amen!

[@tofupowda]

nah actually. i love being stoic but if everyone was like that, the world wouldn’t function.

[@TheBlackCinephile]

It’s actually so annoying how brands now want to be inclusive, just for the sake of looking good or not getting “canceled”. It’s super performative, and I’ve definitely seen through these shallow behaviors. It shouldn’t take a national crisis for your brand to show some racial-inclusivity!!

[@veronicataylor9831]

Yes thank you!! It’s like on the one hand it’s great that there’s so much awareness now but like ... the police killing black people is not new. But now suddenly it’s “trendy” to be outraged. Where was the outrage after any of the other tons of killings ...

[@EyeGlassTrainofMind]

Exactly. It should be the time that they do things without advertising it, but they don't know how to do anything unless they turn it into a pr advantage. In a way it is a kind of progress but at the same time, you know that it's only that they're serving the temporary master of immediate profit: i.e., look at how Pride Parades have become advertising campaigns. I am wary of anyone who switches opinion immediately in a way that highlights themselves. Instead of admitting complicity and giving an assurance that they will do more, many brands put up a veiled public favour request all about them in a symbol that has as much depth as the frame of a 2-D square.

[@nadineslimane122]

Ya because if they do they get shamed obviously looking to avoid that

[@AcademicAshley]

You’re right, it shouldn’t. It is difficult to shake off a lifetime of learning something one way, but it shouldn’t be that way in the first place. The world really sucks 😞

[@EyeGlassTrainofMind]

@@nadineslimane122 there's a huge difference between getting cancelled/shamed and admitting fault but committing legitimately to a cause. The problem is that these brands aren't even admitting past fault but instead are acting as if they were always with black people which is just b.s. Is it still bad if they apoligize due to public pressure, yes, but it is worse to pretend to not be racist via an ad campaign when 40+ years of recent history state otherwise. That's the issue.

[@windycitytransplant1284]

If Daria the cartoon character was a real person, she'd be Kelly Stamps. We just LOVE her so much!

[@marisolbella]

From MTV hahaha

[@adeanafyoung]

I swear I always think this when watching her videos

[@Peuteiit0oze]

The last advice is so true : talking less. I feel that too, as an introverted person, I used to think that I should be more extroverted, and sometimes I did became more extroverted. But idk actually being extroverted is like giving the opportunity for people to ask or even take without asking your time. And you may not even notice it. It's actually good to be ourselves and set healthy boundaries, talking to people if we want to, and don't if we don't want to.

[@jasminab3908]

I tried doing the extroverted thing and talk a lot more, even when I didn´t feel like it. I did this because I hated the fact that people would tell me how quiet and shy I am all the time. But I get the ´´u don´t talk a lot´´ comments to this day and I now just realized maybe I should stop caring about what other people think and just do what makes me happy.

[@mischa6127]

I went through all that too. Not an extroverted person but forced myself to be extroverted and more because others said I should be... I should step out of my comfort zone, stretched myself. I get that, but I just was not myself and at the end of the day, it was forced and I have to say, quite draining for me. Not my happiest moments and so, still made for some awkward interactions with others. Didn't make them gravitate to me any more than when I was being my introverted self🤷. Oh well, I'll keep trying but for the most part, gotta stay true...

[@choco5470]

I feel the same way, i feel like i am too introverted 😂 but say for example, my friends get into a fight, should i talk up and defend if they are right or should i just stay quiet?

[@choco5470]

@@Neesha242 yea im talking about verbal accusations, they arent ones to get into fights but one time some older girls started acting big and i felt bad for not saying anything back to them and defending my friends - hopefully i can become as unbothered as kelly

[@silentstormshadow2755]

"Being psychologically abused by a parent and getting bullied for having a roller backpack will do that" How you describe me so accurately So glad this was in my recommended

[@beamarie8041]

so glad she touched on that. I'm kinda known for being "unbothered" or "not really giving a shit about anyone" in a good and bad way. I recognize and cut toxic people out so fast my friends can't even process it LOL. Then, when they ask, I always say "I have a PhD in mentally abusive gaslighting parents and psychologically toxic men. I have a finite amount of bullshit I'm going to take in life and that shit is not one of them." Lol sorry for this virtue signaling kind of comment but it was cathartic so why not.

[@brithewomannequin]

This is gonna sound so stupid but I never even CONSIDERED just being myself on youtube or in life. I thought that you were supposed to try to fit in. That doesn't work though, people can always tell when you're faking.

[@Laura-fc6hi]

not always

[@azoocola1064]

It's okay sister. We learn when we learn, not before then. Step 5 NEVER judge yourself!

[@khaoulaelotmani7063]

It's not even about other people. It's about you, first and foremost! You can fake it and no one would know but then would you be happy and fulfilled? If you are only being/doing things cause you wanna fit it and be accepted (which is a normal thing to want) then you'd be missing out on your own gifts and self expression.

[@sweetspice9120]

I am d opposite actually. I never thought i could be anything other than myself. Just never crossed my mind to act.

[@asiyarifaa4884]

Briana Alisa I think that too

[@jonathanqos7472]

I read the thumbnail as: "Stop Overthinking, Stop Caring, Stop Living"

[@planetmotherfuckers]

Those are the words to follow lmao

[@iwillsmithyou7633]

Truer words have never been spoken

[@kateri7404]

s t o p l i v i n g

[@StoneColdFox17]

😂😂😂

[@chinyere7297]

“Sis was so shook she was shanked” I’m using this now💀😭

[@lyricthomas8671]

Yes ma'am

[@normalpeople012]

don't say that in England please. They will seriously SHANK u :|

[@sofiaguerrero0969]

The bangs, the black Mary Janes with low heel, the denim... I love this French looking outfit.

[@KellyStamps]

*I was goin for a lil French look because I have an online quarantine husband based in Paris. I want his baguette once the travel ban lifts*

[@mangojuice1596]

@@KellyStamps lol what

[@gissellepalmaa]

" talking less" YES I LIVE BY THAT E.V.E.R.Y.D.A.Y. work in silence, grind in silence 👏🏽

[@KellyStamps]

I really want to be sharing *everything* too. I only tell my best friend my business now!

[@checkmattee222]

Also smile in silence.😊

[@euphoriasantana7483]

“Black, sassy, and skinny” 😂 Girl, I cannot with you! You’re hilarious! 💯❤️

[@aliiigxrl1587]

"not even brunettes... they don't like y'all either." LOL you're so right about those influencer pages, THE WORST.

[@totallyanonymousbish9599]

"I have a master's degree in dissociating" I'm DEAD😂😂😂

[@alliestarkweather]

she is so beautiful and poise. I love her personality, her jaw structure, her face, her hair and her style. her whole aura. why haven't I seen her before??? I barely stumbled upon this page through this video and I'm so glad I did.

[@KellyStamps]

Thank you ❤️

[@SkullsAndSugar]

Same!

[@StAyWeIrD95]

I just found her today!8/26/20 😹

[@2BBALANCEDANDLEVELED]

StAy WeIrD95 08/30/2020 ❤️😭

[@lucydaneila9332]

9/5/20 😁

[@PottersParadise]

She’s so amazing to be so young!!! It took me til my late 20’s to have this kind of strong attitude. She is very intuitive and smart.

[@JamesVSCinema]

Honestly YES. I don’t want people to feel as if they HAVE to be saving the world by going out everyday on the front lines. The best thing people can do is to self heal and fight the mental battles every single day. You do that by not giving up, but knowing when to self reflect instead of reacting! Trust me, as a black man and as a good person, I have to self heal in order to win these battles. Always stay unbothered and thriving. 🙏🏽

[@KellyStamps]

Agreed. I will spend me time keeping sane and continuing my online protest as an underrated creator soon to be a household name.

[@JamesVSCinema]

Kelly Stamps *puts in job description* AGREED!

[@shelbywolf2016]

You want to know why black people are getting murdered in the street by cops in full view of the public without a care in the world from police? Read these comments. Shameful.

[@gabbyomega]

"Staying sane, unbothered and productive" THATS LITERALLY ALL I NEED

[@Ifesplace]

Even the Bible says a fool when silent, seems like a wise person. Talk less 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@khloecarver]

Amen🙏🏽

[@almondcroissonttt4852]

I was reading about this! It’s in the Proverbs. I love it

[@tayja3521]

@@almondcroissonttt4852 I was just reading that too!! Omg are we...connected 😗💞🧚‍♀️✌🦋

[@almondcroissonttt4852]

wthxh.tayjaa yeahhh sis!! 😂

[@souluvr]

I just read this today 😳

[@BukkieOsho]

“What am I going to eat for pasta later” honestly same

[@AmberOutLoud]

Literally me. 🤣

[@gingers2555]

She looks like the therapist who is tryna make you the best person you can be, and I'm here for it..

[@omyy254]

Me living in a toxic household that causes all this anxiety and overthinking and not knowing how to get out of here watching this👁👄👁

[@samri_thebutterfly3599]

Same!! Hope things get better for all of us going through this

[@mariethasilvesta2745]

YOU GOT THISSSS PERIODTTTT

[@valdusoswald7130]

Keep yourself happy in your own space (privately)

[@samri_thebutterfly3599]

Valdus Oswald why privately?

[@mrh9722]

Heyy you've got this! I finally moved out. It takes time but you can do it too!!💕💕

[@mystuff8579]

The art of being effortlessly entertaining.

[@kungfukaninchen4277]

One thing my mum said to me, in one of the most difficult times in my life, was : "It only matters as much as you make it matter" And i love that. Have to remind myself that quite often when i get overwhelmed. But this is honestly life changing.

[@greytab7027]

I had a breakdown this morning because I felt drained from socialising and giving too much of myself plus constantly thinking about what everyone thinks of me. I'm DONE with this feeling. I've felt everything you've said in this video and I needed to see this video pop up.

[@eval3509]

Proud of you and I’m also trying to do the same ❤️

[@firesign4297]

🙏🙏🙏💛 You might want to check out on You Tube...These Channels.. 1. R.C. Blakes Jr. 2. Sheraseven1 They Both...HELP🙏🙏 But in Different Ways 😊😊👍🏾👍🏾✌

[@mindyaownbuisness1206]

"If you expect everybody to be at your standard of life, to appreciate and value and prioritize the same things as you, you are looking at a life full of disappointments " -Kelly Stamps Thank you, I needed to hear this. Specially today.

[@hurricaneb2579]

I love that she said her black face alone all over KZbin is a protest in itself😎finally a subtle but loud way to protest🙋🏽‍♀️

[@KellyStamps]

My friend said black existence is a resistance lmao. The truth. I had people DM'ing me saying I must hate black people for not making a video dedicated to bashing cops and discussing the murder. These are the same people who say I am not black enough, like y'all better leave me alone! 😂

[@JamiFfrenchParker]

Kelly Stamps would love to see your next video touch on that a tad bit more. I’ve felt a lot of things in the last 3 weeks and haven’t really spoken on it. Your sentiments in this comment (and other comments on this/YOUR video) are the first to really put it al together in a way that resonated well.

[@JamiFfrenchParker]

R.K.C what’s your problem? I’m saying I agree with some of what she expressed and would love to see her expand on it more because I related to it. Your comment that she is black and always will be implies that I’m not? You sound like you’re trying to defend Kelly from a yt person telling her what to do. I’m a lighter complexion, yes, but also black, as society reminds me on a regular basis. So please let me relate to another black woman in peace and stop trying to cause issues in the comments.

[@hurricaneb2579]

@@KellyStamps just wow! I guess you can't win 🤷🏾‍♀️ apparently!

[@mrs.unbothered1182]

i love her personality, i can tell she’s independent 😌

[@Quantum36911]

I'm 52 and she is who I want to be when I grow up!! Those Mary Janes are everything.

[@Falak8-c9s]

Lol

[@hungergirl1012]

when u grow up?

[@Quantum36911]

@@hungergirl1012 Meaning she has learned, mastered and embodied lessons I am still struggling with.

[@claudiajennings]

"Do not waste your time trying to convince people that you're right, they've already made their mind up about you, use that energy somewhere else" I needed to hear this

[@zaara3273]

When she said - "I was fighting morons in the comment section." I FELT THAT ...

[@irises3724]

Same

[@smaytaganya1446]

Samee girl😩

[@XGuessX5]

Same

[@리시나몬]

The fact that we might be each other’s morons

[@smaytaganya1446]

@@리시나몬 But there's always one side that's right...

[@ravon]

I LOVE YOU HAHAHA

[@mikey-zl1zf]

Ouiiiiii

[@muaowa]

This comment is solely for the purpose of engaging the youtube algorithm.

[@KellyStamps]

thank you Awae

[@muaowa]

@@KellyStamps Thanks for the algorithm lesson!

[@mariahwisdom-peters6919]

Getting onboard that

[@forest-ot3if]

ight we doing that now

[@d.s_alan]

Let me get behind this

[@itsharrybailey]

I’ve been overthinking a lot in quarantine especially about my youtube channel and i’ve been constantly comparing myself to others and its been making me really anxious and sad recently. So i’ve tried unfollowing people i compare myself too and cutting back my usage of social media and i would highly recommend to everyone who is in the same position!

[@jeenah2219]

Don’t worry too much you have 7k subscribers, i only have 100 🤣😂 feel better now.

[@jozyannie]

@@jeenah2219 nice

[@ivorylee6823]

I hope that the changes you've made helps you feel better Harry Bailey.

[@noorah_Abdalla]

Tell me about it, you Will be fine. I'm patiently waiting for mine to grow as I binge Kelly's videos and make two videos per week😂 unborthered that it has less than 100🤣 views. Learning from the Best lol...

[@KellyStamps]

This is the best I've felt in a while! I'm actually reading again

[@rickyg.3111]

"It's not your job to make people realize that they're morons" Whew. Kelly out here giving us a devotional today.

Amen.

[@Angell_Lee]

P E R I O D!

[@craftymusiclistener]

I just wanna say thank you. I’m having a bad period in my depression and this is so encouraging.

[@lauraemily1421]

"do not waste your time trying to convince people you're right, because they've already made up their mind about you." so true! Kelly ily youtube queen 👑

[@olerhatesyou]

“And we’re both black, sassy, and skinny” LUV THAT FOR YOU BOTH... I am also black, sassy, and.... trying to achieve that skinny part😂😌😌

[@KellyStamps]

hahaha I'm skinTy because of genetics, I'm sure you're lovely the way you are

[@olerhatesyou]

@@KellyStamps thank you! ilysm!!!

[@zarceo410]

Whatchu talking bout? You a skinny legend queen✨💅🏼

[@olerhatesyou]

@@zarceo410 aww thankyou so muchhh!!!

[@AtiyaWalcott]

“ARE WE POKÉMON!?” Kelly gets me. Like this if you are another proudly black Kelly fan 🥺💞

[@graciekerr3137]

🤟🏾

[@HypaXLink]

She got a like from me just off referencing Mudkip lol

[@matthaughton]

🙋🏾‍♂️🙇🏾‍♂️

[@aliyaplummer]

🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️🙋🏾‍♀️

[@brynnharrison9078]

“It’s not your job to make people realize that they are morons” really hit home for me Lmfaoo also kelly is so damn stoic

[@annr.3038]

I’ve been feeling a lot of anxiety this week due to both racism and sexual assault cases being main topics on social media (being a black girl it is not fun lol) and found your video, thank you for making me feel better, I felt my stress melt away watching you :)

[@vlazarus124]

Hey ur beautiful xx Don't let dick heads Bother u stay happy and do what u want Enjoy...

[@sheenachante]

I’m mixed but this is facts for me as well. 🖤

[@Lilyjem39]

Same. I hope good for all of us

[@jaykongo3636]

"Quick we need a black girl 😂" some of these people are shocking!

[@tesla4473]

This would be funny if it wasn't for real. All I see are people using this battle to earn money, followers ecc... It became a kind of tik tok trend, making everything seem so superficial. Many people are just vultures ready to feed on others' "disgrace"

[@jean-ox4gv]

me: didn't know her until today kelly: i have a masters degree in disassociation me: i already stan

[@additheteencook]

I needed to be reminded of this! I keep getting my feelings hurt by people not living up to my expectations..

[@minyooooooongi]

"you should feel things if you don't you're a sociopath" Sociopaths watching: 👁️👄👁️

[@Darth_Bateman]

She watches Hellsing Abridged.

[@agustdz-w9b]

hey yoongi 👁️👄👁️

[@huddyshoodie8246]

Your pfp of yoongi 👀

[@avrcee]

👁👅👁

[@Multistan-y8y]

ARMYY💜

[@Ashleybmakingvideos]

“You don’t need to be the loudest person in the room to come across as the smartest” *say it louder for the people in the back* 😂

[@asmrmania5895]

“The Art of Being Unbothered” by Kelly needs to be published.

[@highvaluelife4971]

💯

[@TheArtOfMetalsmithing]

I watched it twice. Now I'm pulling out my notebook to watch it again, this time taking notes. I mean, highlithters and all.

[@feminenby]

so glad I came across this, as a black introvert that doesn’t enjoy working a 9-5, I feel more affirmative about making a living as a creative, I’m destined to be successful, thank you Kelly 💖

[@xKerilynn]

And you will succeed ✨

[@Hamppariranskis]

You got this!

[@smaytaganya1446]

Good luck! 🙏🏾❤

[@luciaambrose1232]

You will succeed. I wish you the best!

[@KellyStamps]

*hullo* my pleasure

[@CkaysLife]

Me: “Why is she waving around a spatula” It took me almost the entire video to realize that you don’t have your baton thingy 😂

[@adderon]

She's low key serving us

[@RaheemD]

The fact I didn't even question it until I saw your comment...

[@edencompanyfilms]

LOL

[@KellyStamps]

I needed another object for my lecture style video 😂

[@vserrano2103]

I’m just realizing it’s a spatula at almost 7 minutes in of watching 😂🥴

[@clarissang2876]

Talk less, smile more, don't let them know what you're against and what you're for

[@mandygolden1699]

Exactly

[@L3ased]

You forgot to scream Burr

[@kaylarodrigues7892]

You can't be serious

[@nikosv8166]

"are we pokemon" hahaahaha, Stamps you have the BEST one liners

[@nathanboyer7739]

If we Pokemon I would be Corsola. Pink and pretty. Fragile but now and again I reflect things back.