Stop telling people your business.

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Kelly Stamps

Kelly Stamps

Күн бұрын

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@RaymondStone
@RaymondStone 3 жыл бұрын
But Kell-Bell, I just want everyone to know about my rash!
@angiedarnel6861
@angiedarnel6861 3 жыл бұрын
Lol😂
@sandieheron8819
@sandieheron8819 3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@None__1-c4l
@None__1-c4l 3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@goodgirlsguide
@goodgirlsguide 3 жыл бұрын
.. and when corona is over, the ladies you date will need to know and remember that.
@camilleb32
@camilleb32 3 жыл бұрын
*Screaming*!!!.... 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
@Stephanie-hn3yn
@Stephanie-hn3yn 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I think people over share because they’re lonely.
@idrk1507
@idrk1507 3 жыл бұрын
I think you're stalking me
@Insightful_Locs
@Insightful_Locs 3 жыл бұрын
Meeee
@thirstonhowellthebird
@thirstonhowellthebird 3 жыл бұрын
Some overshare because as trauma survivors who endure years of projection, accusations and gaslighting fueled smear campaigns their reality was denied and survivors were accused of lying so it’s really sad how being invalidated causes a person to be desperate for validation and talk fast and overshare desperate to be heard. Once you heal all that stops then you’re left thinking omg wthfk did I say all that for...oh well lol.
@audreymay9378
@audreymay9378 3 жыл бұрын
@@thirstonhowellthebird Yep. Traumatized people over share as a coping mechanism for their trauma.
@audreymay9378
@audreymay9378 3 жыл бұрын
I think people over share because they have a lot they maybe dealing with
@AllSeeingThai
@AllSeeingThai 3 жыл бұрын
“If they don’t know your dreams, then they can’t shoot them down.”
@chanela.7786
@chanela.7786 3 жыл бұрын
This right here👆. Some of the closest people in our lives can be nay sayers and energy drainers which is why it’s best to not reveal your plans but allow your results to speak for you
@leesteal4458
@leesteal4458 3 жыл бұрын
They can't destroy what they don't know exist.
@overeasy_sean251
@overeasy_sean251 3 жыл бұрын
This wisdom is mine now
@amiralions2681
@amiralions2681 3 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@janedoll3237
@janedoll3237 3 жыл бұрын
So true
@gayemarianesfox2405
@gayemarianesfox2405 3 жыл бұрын
“Not everyone wants to see you win” TRUTH
@Jenniferspace
@Jenniferspace 3 жыл бұрын
So true
@amalkardaly1652
@amalkardaly1652 2 жыл бұрын
Very few actually do..
@victoriacrudup3477
@victoriacrudup3477 2 жыл бұрын
So very true there are only a few people in the world who truly want to best for you.
@emmaleo1782
@emmaleo1782 Жыл бұрын
I am an overexplainer, I know I shouldn't...
@louern123
@louern123 Жыл бұрын
so sad
@karisap
@karisap 2 жыл бұрын
I think there's a fine line between vulnerability and oversharing. It's really about right place, right time, right person. Social media is rarely any of those things.
@froggytea3583
@froggytea3583 Жыл бұрын
Could you please explain the difference between the two?
@KellyStamps
@KellyStamps Жыл бұрын
agreed
@8link
@8link Жыл бұрын
@@froggytea3583 vulnerability comes with trust. u share the personal things with people you know and who know you, ie family, friends. its done in the privacy of a home or space with no one but the two of you. the information you plan to share mustve been something you took decisive time to understand and accept before you shared. oversharing would be with anyone, anywhere, and impulsively acted on. telling strangers, coworkers your business out in the open/public spaces would be oversharing.
@riabouchinska
@riabouchinska Жыл бұрын
How about at work… still recovering from the trauma of having an oversharing coworker who was also a loud talker with a confoundingly annoying laugh
@Borboleta1212
@Borboleta1212 Жыл бұрын
Very well said! ❤
@Mayan144
@Mayan144 3 жыл бұрын
Moral of the story: You do not need other people’s validation !
@LilBleachThaGod
@LilBleachThaGod 3 жыл бұрын
Facts
@luckydayzs9296
@luckydayzs9296 3 жыл бұрын
true that! lesson learned..
@MariamaSonko
@MariamaSonko 3 жыл бұрын
Yep
@TriniRoyQuiReyes
@TriniRoyQuiReyes 3 жыл бұрын
Sure true
@Aaliyahglo
@Aaliyahglo 3 жыл бұрын
True
@BrittanyVenti
@BrittanyVenti 3 жыл бұрын
The art of mystery.
@KellyStamps
@KellyStamps 3 жыл бұрын
MAYBE I’M A POTATO IRL AND NOT A HUMAN
@goodgirlsguide
@goodgirlsguide 3 жыл бұрын
Yes - I drive people crazy with my elusiveness
@daisyrowser-grier2161
@daisyrowser-grier2161 3 жыл бұрын
exactly!
@milliebucks6050
@milliebucks6050 3 жыл бұрын
💯💯
@JulianSteve
@JulianSteve 3 жыл бұрын
Definitely. The only things I share are things that benefit everyone to know excluding personal things like my career ideas/plans, family, friends, and money. You have to be careful what you say and do online😭💯
@EmmanuelMotelin
@EmmanuelMotelin 3 жыл бұрын
”Once you’ve lost your privacy, you realize you’ve lost an extremely valuable thing.” - Jodi Rell.
@rayodeluz6759
@rayodeluz6759 3 жыл бұрын
Very true!! There is a saying too, the people is owner of what keep for him/herself. And prisoners of what they say or share.
@Qlivia
@Qlivia 3 жыл бұрын
Ya all lost a whole lot more than your privacy guys. You lost your freedom. visit The White Ro🌹e- Telegram
@crand20033
@crand20033 3 жыл бұрын
I used to visit nude beaches were every one was naked.
@Kamone111
@Kamone111 3 жыл бұрын
Facts
@aphrodieMonkey
@aphrodieMonkey Жыл бұрын
@@crand20033 LOL
@motc8238
@motc8238 2 жыл бұрын
I keep destroying boundaries because I want people to understand me as a person and to hear my feelings, but this gives me a whole different perspective.
@rdsa1
@rdsa1 2 жыл бұрын
beautiful to witness change takings its place, relatable. very happy for u
@xaviermartinez9688
@xaviermartinez9688 Жыл бұрын
we all in this together fr
@lleynem1426
@lleynem1426 Жыл бұрын
The biggest and hardest part in growth as adult IS understanting this : it's not because you keep talking everything about you to a person you like ( or you want as a Friend , or from who you want love) that that one person or group of persons will like and/or understand you, or share their own secrets with you
@KellyStamps
@KellyStamps Жыл бұрын
It's ok we're learning!
@DanniBby
@DanniBby Жыл бұрын
@@lleynem1426 so then what is it that would make someone understand you better? What should you do to create understanding?
@TLS111
@TLS111 3 жыл бұрын
"Talk less. Smile more. Don't let them know what you're against or what you're for."
@moonchild708
@moonchild708 3 жыл бұрын
you can't be serious 😂
@Kattailyst
@Kattailyst 3 жыл бұрын
@@moonchild708 you wanna get ahead
@moonchild708
@moonchild708 3 жыл бұрын
@@Kattailyst yes
@Kattailyst
@Kattailyst 3 жыл бұрын
@@moonchild708 fools who run their mouths off wind up dead
@ayanchs
@ayanchs 3 жыл бұрын
Aye yo yo what time is it
@therealkoolaidandkale
@therealkoolaidandkale 3 жыл бұрын
That old quote, "People want you to do well, but not better than them." Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one not stuck in "the matrix" and I love it here. 🤷🏾‍♀️
@birdinreality8928
@birdinreality8928 3 жыл бұрын
This is a fact lmfao
@ronneaspeights6870
@ronneaspeights6870 3 жыл бұрын
Wym
@CloudTribe
@CloudTribe 3 жыл бұрын
People want to see you do well, but not too well
@dasupahfluffahpengwah5111
@dasupahfluffahpengwah5111 3 жыл бұрын
Envy?
@mickeyrosa7226
@mickeyrosa7226 3 жыл бұрын
@@dasupahfluffahpengwah5111 Exactly! Those are the people you stay away from. It seems some people can't be happy for other people. It's sad really.
@LyricsSavvy
@LyricsSavvy 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes Life is so much better when nobody knows what you're up to
@nauxsi
@nauxsi 3 жыл бұрын
Yup. Just not for the person trying to call you lol
@ttrri_n
@ttrri_n 3 жыл бұрын
Moving in silence is the only way you can be yourself without people feeling like they know you, because they don’t and they don’t deserve to.
@shadowsmith1386
@shadowsmith1386 3 жыл бұрын
Straight facts
@shadowsmith1386
@shadowsmith1386 2 жыл бұрын
@@ttrri_n ikr same with me
@Melly16yr10
@Melly16yr10 3 ай бұрын
Certainly been in my experience so far
@emilyantonia197
@emilyantonia197 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve been guilty of this. I remember oversharing because I felt I could make a more genuine connection because I was being “real.” When I didn’t get the same sharing back I felt embarrassed, I resented people when they weren’t willing to tell me about themselves in the way I did for them. Even though I would feel really uncomfortable and vulnerable when I overshared I felt it was still better than being cold and closed off. This ended up with me completely isolating myself because I couldn’t handle the emotional exertion that came with sharing myself with others. I guess it’s about balance, not feeling that you need to offer every part of yourself or avoid the relationship completely, but taking the time to feel out what is comfortable for you and the person you’re with.
@KellyStamps
@KellyStamps Жыл бұрын
It is indeed about balance!
@autumnshennae0687
@autumnshennae0687 Жыл бұрын
Wow I relate
@Yana-tf1he
@Yana-tf1he Жыл бұрын
I definitely relate to that I am open to tell you anything and beyond since I’m hopeful of hearing it back and discovering new interesting lives and perspectives I think I will continue to share and if the person doesn’t share back I will also not do it, because sharing makes me feel better it makes me excited and it’s exciting hearing others. Of course, there are boundaries like work or total strangers you shouldn’t share to, but overall total privacy seems suffocating and lonely, to me
@MonaAlHmood
@MonaAlHmood Жыл бұрын
I resonate with you and feel you .. we are learning and developing what happened in the past. May not repeat if we take responsibility for being conscious of our decisions.
@TheAleksandrea
@TheAleksandrea Жыл бұрын
I find that sadly people don't want meaningful relationships. Surface talk, lets disguise the weather. It is odd to me to hear people calling everyone a ''friend'' to then discover they have none.
@mallorypark6260
@mallorypark6260 3 жыл бұрын
people can't judge you as hard if they have little to nothing to go off of. it's so freeing
@meguwumi8222
@meguwumi8222 3 жыл бұрын
you're gorgeous wtf
@_AniWatch
@_AniWatch 3 жыл бұрын
@@meguwumi8222 chill out nigga. Down bad.
@meguwumi8222
@meguwumi8222 3 жыл бұрын
@@_AniWatch sushd did i come off as a creepy male? my b j a girl appreciating another
@_AniWatch
@_AniWatch 3 жыл бұрын
@@meguwumi8222 no you came off creepy, Don't care if you're a guy. Like topic at hand has nothing to do with her face. She COULD be a catfish.
@meguwumi8222
@meguwumi8222 3 жыл бұрын
@@_AniWatch oh :( i always see girls complimenting others regardless of topic so i thought it was normal but ig not
@hlubiscorner
@hlubiscorner 3 жыл бұрын
I think journaling our thoughts and feelings at times is better than letting a human know...
@bethennyfrankel2300
@bethennyfrankel2300 3 жыл бұрын
I seldom trust a fellow being with my thoughts.
@hlubiscorner
@hlubiscorner 3 жыл бұрын
@@bethennyfrankel2300 I mean I can totally relate Ana, I think our thoughts can be sacred too. And divulging details of some of this information can be quite detrimental to us as highlighted by Kelly.
@hiimniasha
@hiimniasha 3 жыл бұрын
💯
@ImSimplyAHuman
@ImSimplyAHuman 3 жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏🏻
@NubianQueen8
@NubianQueen8 3 жыл бұрын
Why am I literally picturing Harriet the Spy rn? Lol
@DemandIka
@DemandIka 3 жыл бұрын
I’ve been so guilty of over sharing and I cringe whenever I think about it 😭 I love this video. Keep up the good work babe - Ika
@subconsciousexpress876
@subconsciousexpress876 3 жыл бұрын
Literally cringe at myself
@blackvelvetsings5310
@blackvelvetsings5310 3 жыл бұрын
@@THEDONSTR8Fightah76 and why u care
@fadedsophomore
@fadedsophomore 3 жыл бұрын
Me 2 lmao
@gerdalehis8285
@gerdalehis8285 3 жыл бұрын
@@THEDONSTR8Fightah76 she can be with whoever she wants
@KellyStamps
@KellyStamps 3 жыл бұрын
OMG RED CARPET COMMENT SECTION ONCE AGAIN
@carolineeccel5387
@carolineeccel5387 2 жыл бұрын
I'm naturally a quiet person. People would ask why I'm so quiet so I would try to be more talkative, saying too much like you said. I didn't like myself. Now I'm back to my true self, quiet and I like it. Keeps them guessing. Thank you so much.
@newinvention1977
@newinvention1977 2 жыл бұрын
Same! Quiet and loving it
@carolineeccel5387
@carolineeccel5387 2 жыл бұрын
@@newinvention1977 thank you for your comment. May 2023 be one of joy and discovery for you.
@newinvention1977
@newinvention1977 2 жыл бұрын
@@carolineeccel5387 thank you! I wish the same for you as well.
@ivckrxs118
@ivckrxs118 2 жыл бұрын
honestly i can relate as well. i've always been someone who was kept to myself and never said much but there was a point where i tried to be someone i'm not and now i'm starting to accept myself for who i am and who i always was :)
@carolineeccel5387
@carolineeccel5387 2 жыл бұрын
@@ivckrxs118 a sign of wisdom. Thank you for sharing.
@phazonmichel
@phazonmichel 3 жыл бұрын
There’s a Russian proverb that states “The quieter you go, the farther you get.” Heard it back in college and it always stuck with me. Keep your goals to yourself and you will be happier on the journey.
@ritaaleksandrovna4518
@ritaaleksandrovna4518 3 жыл бұрын
Good one 💯
@wordnodoubt2
@wordnodoubt2 3 жыл бұрын
I do enjoy a bit of Russian proverb, much obliged for sharing 🤜🏾🤛🏾💯
@onetallgirl1369
@onetallgirl1369 3 жыл бұрын
I like that, I’m going to write that down! TFS!
@r.g.36
@r.g.36 3 жыл бұрын
Or another one - "Happiness likes silence."☝🏻👌🏻
@biorastorm7002
@biorastorm7002 3 жыл бұрын
"Тише едешь - дальше будешь". Yes that's a good proverb. Hello from a Russian 👋
@HannahKleidermacher
@HannahKleidermacher 3 жыл бұрын
If you look back on the times you “overshared” to a person and cringe hard, you might just have a problem with vulnerability. Being a naturally private person is fine, but don’t try to convince yourself into becoming private for the sole purpose of avoiding “cringe” or others’ judgement. Knowing yourself and feeling confident enough to share that energy with others may be ultimately more freeing to you. Depends on the person.
@estherchristabella7520
@estherchristabella7520 3 жыл бұрын
This is very true.
@scoob1670
@scoob1670 3 жыл бұрын
facts.
@juheenam2191
@juheenam2191 3 жыл бұрын
This was freeing to me tysm
@somlenprostelea8533
@somlenprostelea8533 3 жыл бұрын
thank you, was searching for this comment
@HannahKleidermacher
@HannahKleidermacher 3 жыл бұрын
@@somlenprostelea8533 haha right? I was too. lowkey see a lot of trauma in this comment section
@Longhairprettynails
@Longhairprettynails 3 жыл бұрын
"Privacy is imperative to my well being" quote of the century 😁
@Hoodnerd911
@Hoodnerd911 3 жыл бұрын
Hey girl 👋🏼 love your videos!
@alessadolan5718
@alessadolan5718 3 жыл бұрын
Long hair pretty nails!! ❤️❤️
@SharonBurc
@SharonBurc 3 жыл бұрын
-Said every Scorpio ever in history lol ♏️
@atlrr8366
@atlrr8366 Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the advice!
@Undermineded-333
@Undermineded-333 Жыл бұрын
I lie don't care who tells it
@harveythecat
@harveythecat Жыл бұрын
Don’t stay quiet but be selective about what you share and with whom
@TheBeautyRebel
@TheBeautyRebel Жыл бұрын
That part .
@BoostedPastime
@BoostedPastime 8 ай бұрын
Yes
@Colesbaby1999
@Colesbaby1999 7 ай бұрын
Nah stay quiet 🤐
@Ryleigh-rui
@Ryleigh-rui 5 ай бұрын
I'd rather stay quiet bc even the closest friends can be a snitch too
@Trish....
@Trish.... 3 жыл бұрын
3 PRO TIPS: 1. NEVER assume that ppl are as kind as you are! 2. Just bc you forgive someone doesn't mean s/he has changed! 3. Ppl will treat you how you ALLOW them to! That last one is what you were referring to re: boundaries. If you tell ppl everything, they then feel entitled to know more, give their 2 cents, or judge you, & I've even had friends act like I MUST overshare bc they did, as if it's an obligation. Keeping your circle small isn't a bad thing, just less complicated, & you can be picky - as you said, we owe no one anything!
@nauxsi
@nauxsi 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes people interpret that as 'we think we're too good for them' ... rather than what it really is "i'm good".
@ttrri_n
@ttrri_n 3 жыл бұрын
I felt so guilty for no reason like people deserved to know everything I did, no they don’t deserve to know or know me. It’s way too much they don’t want you to succeed only I do, my small fam, dog, and god😭
@nickelleraffaelle3529
@nickelleraffaelle3529 2 жыл бұрын
It’s not that it’s an obligation obviously we all have things we are unable to talk about in the moment until we have dealt with it, but many are very nosy and unwilling to disclose anything when it’s a two way street! if you are a very private person but you have an inner circle of close friends expect the same energy back from all your friends.
@frenchgirl5878
@frenchgirl5878 2 жыл бұрын
Love that
@earthwindandfiree
@earthwindandfiree 2 жыл бұрын
@@ttrri_n I feel u 🥲
@asaadrashad7103
@asaadrashad7103 3 жыл бұрын
“In a world where everyone is over exposed, the coolest thing you can do is maintain your mystery”
@imnotsurewhatmyusernamesho1348
@imnotsurewhatmyusernamesho1348 3 жыл бұрын
say it louder for the people in the back!!!👍😂
@JulianSteve
@JulianSteve 3 жыл бұрын
YESSSSSSS‼️Amen to that💯🙌🏾‼️
@fittomakeup9890
@fittomakeup9890 3 жыл бұрын
Amen!!!!!!
@Scarlet-Enchantress
@Scarlet-Enchantress 3 жыл бұрын
I absolutely love this
@Vanett77
@Vanett77 3 жыл бұрын
Moving in silence is hella rewarding. I used to be an oversharer but not anymore and its so liberating
@andretarvok7122
@andretarvok7122 3 жыл бұрын
True, but isn't it kinda ironic that a youtuber who posts videos about her life is telling people to be more private? I think the best way to do this is to go back in time to 1997 when we all just used email and phone numbers and didn't post everything about ourselves on social media.
@lelelew2735
@lelelew2735 3 жыл бұрын
@@andretarvok7122 but we usually dont see her plans or she informs us after it happened so not the same. When you tell people future plans your putting it out there for others to either take this idea or wish negative energy on it.
@kym888
@kym888 3 жыл бұрын
@@andretarvok7122 5:07
@kym888
@kym888 3 жыл бұрын
@@andretarvok7122 Although Kelly is a youtuber and shares some of her life, she does a good job at being private. So nah, it’s not ironic to me’
@TANKTKO
@TANKTKO 3 жыл бұрын
@@andretarvok7122 she is sacrificing herself for the greater good.
@woudgy
@woudgy 2 жыл бұрын
A thing that bothers me a lot is people who overshare their children's lives on social media. Children cannot give informed consent. Reprehensible, tbh.
@peeerlyb.7762
@peeerlyb.7762 Жыл бұрын
I understood that and stopped when my daughter turned 13 and told me “ why are you putting my picture on Facebook” Sometimes parents don’t get it until they get it and until they see the child perspective- So no hate to parents; NO parents wants to harm they children by posting them.
@encahill
@encahill 3 жыл бұрын
When in your 20s you care a lot about what people say/think about you. In your 40s you don't care what anybody says/ thinks about you. But when you're in your 60s you realise nobody ever said or thought about you.
@investedtina
@investedtina 3 жыл бұрын
👏👏💯
@lauras627
@lauras627 3 жыл бұрын
Lol so true
@akiinefaexperiencinglife
@akiinefaexperiencinglife 3 жыл бұрын
I'm in my 20s living my 40s😊
@greyonyx08
@greyonyx08 3 жыл бұрын
Damn. I'm just out of my 20s by a few years but I feel like I'm living in my 60s already. This is a great notion though.
@heckenhunterz6411
@heckenhunterz6411 3 жыл бұрын
Fuck it..
@KhadijaMbowe
@KhadijaMbowe 3 жыл бұрын
We love a queen who understands healthy boundaries!!
@shalmaleejoshi9843
@shalmaleejoshi9843 3 жыл бұрын
Omg I literally watched your video before this lol
@rudograce1884
@rudograce1884 3 жыл бұрын
Hy Kadijaaa Love your channel
@elenapopovic2527
@elenapopovic2527 3 жыл бұрын
My 2 favessss
@Therealvashneyy
@Therealvashneyy 3 жыл бұрын
You guys are both Queens ❤️
@cindyfrempong9352
@cindyfrempong9352 3 жыл бұрын
love yourinsightful vids and character
@Hoodnerd911
@Hoodnerd911 3 жыл бұрын
Someone recently told me “only answer the question you’re asked and don’t give extra details” that sticks with me now because I always used to dig myself a hole.
@saranox7319
@saranox7319 3 жыл бұрын
I did just today. -.-
@Idkrememberwhatiateyesterday
@Idkrememberwhatiateyesterday 3 жыл бұрын
Great advice. Thank you for sharing. 💞
@Eternal32bloom
@Eternal32bloom 3 жыл бұрын
That is really great advice!
@jreli
@jreli 3 жыл бұрын
True that
@jamilgotcher5456
@jamilgotcher5456 3 жыл бұрын
That's exactly what an attorney tells people to do.
@daisy_123_youtube
@daisy_123_youtube 2 жыл бұрын
I learned that from my life. Never share your personal story to people in workplace. They will judge you and gossip about it
@summerisonthursday5239
@summerisonthursday5239 2 жыл бұрын
Also never share with other Mums or neighbours
@muffybobuffy
@muffybobuffy 3 жыл бұрын
As someone with ADHD whose very willing to say any thought at any given time, this was an important video for my character growth
@atlantasfaith7721
@atlantasfaith7721 3 жыл бұрын
Wow I’m glad someone understands
@Sean.Gathew
@Sean.Gathew 3 жыл бұрын
Team ADHD🤟🤟
@janikulan7252
@janikulan7252 3 жыл бұрын
@@paulitamargot When you grow older, you start developing coping mechanisms for ADHD. I was like you too and overshared information, and I had tons of frustration when people stopped respecting and violating my boundaries. Its very difficult, but possible, just get into that spiral where you can get more respect, and attention by being "mysterious".
@Zhiivago
@Zhiivago 3 жыл бұрын
This is me exactly
@viewmodeimages
@viewmodeimages 3 жыл бұрын
I have inattentive ADHD and gave way too much of myself to people for decades. One person even told me I gave too much of myself to people. That didn’t stop him trying to have an affair with me though! People have exploited this until I found out I have ADHD. Being diagnosed was empowering! 😊 I manage my life so much better now and have privacy and boundaries, it really has given me more peace of mind. I will always have ADHD and that little monster in me chanting ‘bored, bored, bored, bored, bored, bored’ 😄 But now I respect my right to privacy even if my ADHD does find that extremely dull 😆
@davidresch390
@davidresch390 3 жыл бұрын
Talk to people like your talking to the police...always say LESS than necessary
@bujitea8522
@bujitea8522 3 жыл бұрын
God bless Robert Greene
@saragarofano9727
@saragarofano9727 3 жыл бұрын
Life shouldn't be being on edge
@quatreunhuit
@quatreunhuit 3 жыл бұрын
you're*
@staceyshine247
@staceyshine247 3 жыл бұрын
If you didn't get busted don't discuss it." LOL
@MusicMAAD
@MusicMAAD 3 жыл бұрын
Omg. Yes.
@simonesquared
@simonesquared 3 жыл бұрын
this called me out
@Michelliellio
@Michelliellio 3 жыл бұрын
My faves colliding. But also thank you for telling your business it helped me in the depths of my break up
@natalie_555
@natalie_555 3 жыл бұрын
@@Michelliellio yesss
@KellyStamps
@KellyStamps 3 жыл бұрын
HULLO
@elizabethbell8872
@elizabethbell8872 3 жыл бұрын
Never too late to change. I def need to work on my privacy
@SparklesNJazz
@SparklesNJazz 3 жыл бұрын
same ......
@Inoufaa
@Inoufaa Жыл бұрын
People don’t care about what happened to you ,but then they can use it against you one day, so just don’t share too much and be careful and make sure have someone to tell them everything because then you wouldn’t need to be Oversharing to anyone
@pinkaddiction13
@pinkaddiction13 11 ай бұрын
ABSOLUTELY
@brookenicole6937
@brookenicole6937 3 жыл бұрын
I’ve had a “friend” get mad at me for not disclosing all the private information on my relationship. But whenever I would share wins that I would have she would be the first to downplay my accomplishments and make it about her. We are not friends anymore lol
@rayjordan8513
@rayjordan8513 3 жыл бұрын
Not a good friend lol
@brookenicole6937
@brookenicole6937 3 жыл бұрын
She also sent me a essay long text about how bad of a friend I am and why my relationship is toxic when she didnt know ANYTHING about it. Mind you my grandmother passed away and I was going through alot and she never checked on me but claims I was a bad friend? The text she sent me was so insane I lowkey wanna share it lmao
@moonchild708
@moonchild708 3 жыл бұрын
@@brookenicole6937 please share 💀 i know it kinda defeats the purpose of this video but i've been through the same thing and find these situations super amusing
@brookenicole6937
@brookenicole6937 3 жыл бұрын
@@moonchild708 im sorry you went through similar things
@OddsTheo
@OddsTheo 3 жыл бұрын
@@brookenicole6937 Damn it sounds like she was projecting, saying your relationship was toxic when she was toxic. I'm glad to hear you got rid of that person, they sound like trash
@KilonovaBurst
@KilonovaBurst 3 жыл бұрын
My Grandma use to always say "If they are telling u other people's business don't trust em to keep yours"
@natalie_555
@natalie_555 3 жыл бұрын
wow that's great advice
@rens0n
@rens0n 3 жыл бұрын
Smart lady
@lohaye3260
@lohaye3260 3 жыл бұрын
True
@ED-ie3et
@ED-ie3et 3 жыл бұрын
THIS
@spaceyjayecy
@spaceyjayecy 3 жыл бұрын
Wise woman she is
@BlackunPhinisheD
@BlackunPhinisheD 3 жыл бұрын
"Privacy is power", but also being mysterious is fun. It creates personality where there once was none.
@deshnamehta5803
@deshnamehta5803 3 жыл бұрын
True. And it rhymed!
@yourfavoritetiktokers4112
@yourfavoritetiktokers4112 3 жыл бұрын
😂 yup
@goodgirlsguide
@goodgirlsguide 3 жыл бұрын
😂😂
@honeylavenderbakery
@honeylavenderbakery 3 жыл бұрын
you are so right, i do not have a personality, i think
@wordnodoubt2
@wordnodoubt2 3 жыл бұрын
DAMN. 🤔
@Notintime2338
@Notintime2338 2 жыл бұрын
This is so true. The more I talk about my problems, the more unsolicited advices I get. And if I share a single weakness of mine, the other person always brings it up and act like that’s the only thing about me... I realized I prefer having conversations about general things (events, views on the world, hobbies) instead of personal life problems
@lolabunny1157
@lolabunny1157 3 жыл бұрын
What kills me is “influencers” or regular people share everything on social media and then the first thing they say is “why y’all in my business” you share everything sweetie which opens a discussion sadly
@courtney9546
@courtney9546 3 жыл бұрын
@@savannah3780 Boundaries are important here. Just because a stranger shared certain things about their relationship to you does not mean they have invited you to further information. You take your tidbit of info and go. This is why privacy becomes important- because people lack boundaries and believe it's crazy to expect limits/ongoing consent to information, just because someone's shared previously.
@miriamhavard7621
@miriamhavard7621 3 жыл бұрын
🙄😑😐
@sometimessnarky1642
@sometimessnarky1642 3 жыл бұрын
Ikr!?! Like a nurse getting a vaccine shot that was created in record time and not tested for the normal amount of time going in front of cameras to "prove to shot is safe" and then fainting on live TV. Then explaining it with a neurological condition that makes people faint when stressed or exposed to blood or injuries. And ten having that nurse *DISAPPEAR* without a trace and never get the second shot on camera to prove that she was actually okay. And then when people ask how she and why the account is dormant the family members freaking out and threatening to sue subscribers for asking about her. Crazy.
@akiinefaexperiencinglife
@akiinefaexperiencinglife 3 жыл бұрын
I unfollow these kind of people
@candiigurl7893
@candiigurl7893 3 жыл бұрын
Pro tip: (if you absolutely *MUST* share the places you visit) never share where you are or are going, only where you've been.
@WhatsTrendingWithTrenton
@WhatsTrendingWithTrenton 3 жыл бұрын
This is 1 I always follow, very important for so many reasons
@tintoesdown8045
@tintoesdown8045 3 жыл бұрын
People can’t ruin what they don’t know 💯
@ilovelife3328
@ilovelife3328 3 жыл бұрын
100%!
@welovemusic8542
@welovemusic8542 3 жыл бұрын
Trueeee💯💯💯
@LeileeBaker805
@LeileeBaker805 3 жыл бұрын
💯facts
@puffinlia2449
@puffinlia2449 Жыл бұрын
I used to be such an oversharer and didn't know how friendships could be kept if they didn't know every detail of your life, but now im working towards less sharing, more connecting😊
@earlofsandwich7884
@earlofsandwich7884 Жыл бұрын
I think most people connect through shared information. Connecting is a good thing but I've always felt there is a better way to do it that share such personal information.
@quinetteadaobiartsofanapos9756
@quinetteadaobiartsofanapos9756 3 жыл бұрын
“Just because you don’t post a picture of it does n’t mean it didn’t happen” Thanks love a private life is a happy life.
@shadowsmith1386
@shadowsmith1386 3 жыл бұрын
Ikr love dis comment
@churrogrl
@churrogrl Жыл бұрын
@HunniRoze
@HunniRoze Жыл бұрын
I am your 1000th like lol I finally got to witness it change.
@shelocsher2396
@shelocsher2396 3 жыл бұрын
I had a coworker say to me, “So what’s tea on your man? You don’t tell us anything about him” ... 🤨😐 And I won’t.
@iamtomeka7971
@iamtomeka7971 3 жыл бұрын
Yes girl! I had to learn this the hard way. My man is MY business 🥰
@hiimniasha
@hiimniasha 3 жыл бұрын
She tried it..
@quasar4472
@quasar4472 3 жыл бұрын
wow that's so nosey! are they bored?
@Polinaparvanova
@Polinaparvanova 3 жыл бұрын
How do you deal with people like that
@HIXHAM
@HIXHAM 3 жыл бұрын
If they don’t know your dreams, they can’t shoot them down. -J Cole
@justanotherisekaiprotagoni7293
@justanotherisekaiprotagoni7293 3 жыл бұрын
Yessuhhhh
@angiedarnel6861
@angiedarnel6861 3 жыл бұрын
Facts😉
@somethingbettercoming
@somethingbettercoming 3 жыл бұрын
So true
@subconsciousexpress876
@subconsciousexpress876 3 жыл бұрын
This is the one
@tropicalmk3519
@tropicalmk3519 3 жыл бұрын
And that’s why he’s my favourite artist.
@makaylabrown7708
@makaylabrown7708 2 жыл бұрын
Don’t give people a stick to beat you with. Tell them your business they just come back and and beat you down with it.
@marymohr2799
@marymohr2799 3 жыл бұрын
I tend to overshare, and when I saw this video I knew I had to watch it. Not only does it make other people uncomfortable, I'll sometimes regret it later.
@andreasam5189
@andreasam5189 3 жыл бұрын
Bro same I overshare😭
@andreasam5189
@andreasam5189 3 жыл бұрын
@Chatsire same ... I get to attached to ppl it’s so. Bad 🤦🏽‍♀️
@5tad
@5tad 3 жыл бұрын
Kelly Stamps - you are talking directly to me. Thank you
@andreasam5189
@andreasam5189 3 жыл бұрын
@@5tad ?
@ryle2814
@ryle2814 3 жыл бұрын
I tend to overshare and then over think about it later
@AmaraAnigbo
@AmaraAnigbo 3 жыл бұрын
“Silence can never be misquoted.” Let 👏🏾 them 👏🏾 know 👏🏾 Kelly!! So important especially in this digital age. Keeping the air of mystery helps you to keep your power.
@dawnworthy6358
@dawnworthy6358 3 жыл бұрын
Silence absolutely can be misquoted.
@PortraitofAsha
@PortraitofAsha 3 жыл бұрын
@@dawnworthy6358 yup. People will just project and make up stuff! My latest video deals with that: Assumption Junction
@vinojan9046
@vinojan9046 3 жыл бұрын
@@dawnworthy6358 at first, this quote seemed to me so cool an just thinked for a few second and came with many many many example where silences can be uses against us and so violently misquoted :(
@dawnworthy6358
@dawnworthy6358 3 жыл бұрын
@@vinojan9046 I know. It sounded good. But, like so many ideas, below the surface of beautiful and comforting words, lies unintended consequences and sometimes, too often in recent years, danger.
@Nemyinspired
@Nemyinspired 3 жыл бұрын
I feel people overshare because they want to be accepted and be seen as real. You are so wise for your age!
@the1337fleet
@the1337fleet Жыл бұрын
I think people need to be MORE real. It we're only doing the routine "how are you? good" type of conversation, you don't get to connect or bond
@mahalaxmisamudrala2249
@mahalaxmisamudrala2249 Жыл бұрын
yeah..i personally overshare because i can't set healthy boundaries,so it ends up being too much.
@Faithandseekerofchrist
@Faithandseekerofchrist Жыл бұрын
​@@the1337fleetunfortunately they don't want to be real and when you are, they get mean girl nasty! You have to pretend like everything is great unless you end up in a hospital or dead unfortunately. Then they want to cry crocodile tears when you're dead when they didn't even try to help you when you were alive. There were many people that died in my life and people that didn't want to help them while they were alive, they were wailing and crying talking about how they'll miss them. But yet refused to lend a helping hand when they were alive!?! That was so messed up on so many levels!
@Barneythedinosaur-kb9vl
@Barneythedinosaur-kb9vl Жыл бұрын
Sometimes I share because I feel I care about my life more than others even though there's no reason for them to care so much I just feel lonely sometimes and unaccepted
@adamccall562
@adamccall562 Жыл бұрын
Yes. When I’ve overshared some people have used those vulnerabilities and even traumatic moments against me. They’ve made it a way to put me down or judge me. Also people have judged me to the point of where they just don’t want to be friends with me anymore. I overshared because I wanted to be understood by everyone but that doesn’t happen.
@ntmn8444
@ntmn8444 Жыл бұрын
True. You think they’re your friends and they’ll listen to you, but they’re actually a holes looking to hurt you. Why? I don’t understand it. I wouldn’t ever hurt someone or judge then based on one thing. Everyone has their good side and their bad sides, but these days, people cut off others based only on the others’ weaknesses. Not right.
@sonjaannenyakerario6624
@sonjaannenyakerario6624 Жыл бұрын
I can totally relate
@Faithandseekerofchrist
@Faithandseekerofchrist Жыл бұрын
​@@ntmn8444I have had that happen to me in the past! The bright side about it is that you know they are not your true friends. You can't control what happened to you with your traumas and if people can solely base you based on your traumas and blame you for it then I really do not need those people in my life. If they are family then gray rock them and only talk about family events and have a chit chat about how everyone is doing and when they ask how you're doing just say you're doing great! Don't overshare anything with them either because I found that they are not really that caring when it comes to your emotional well-being.
@keshiathompson-simplehealt5013
@keshiathompson-simplehealt5013 3 жыл бұрын
Don't give people more than they NEED to know!! SO true, some people, including family don't want to see you win!! Golden advice as always Kelly! If anyone sees this comment, a quote I remember, work in silence and let YOUR success make the noise!
@somethingbettercoming
@somethingbettercoming 3 жыл бұрын
That is a great quote
@sandieheron8819
@sandieheron8819 3 жыл бұрын
Yup!
@keshiathompson-simplehealt5013
@keshiathompson-simplehealt5013 3 жыл бұрын
@@somethingbettercoming Yes it is, and thank you for reading my comment and commenting!
@somethingbettercoming
@somethingbettercoming 3 жыл бұрын
@@keshiathompson-simplehealt5013 you are so welcome
@iamtomeka7971
@iamtomeka7971 3 жыл бұрын
Love this
@None__1-c4l
@None__1-c4l 3 жыл бұрын
People that “don’t like you” watch you WAY more than people who genuinely want you to thrive TROLLS ALWAYS HAVE TIME😌
@KellyStamps
@KellyStamps 3 жыл бұрын
TRUE
@None__1-c4l
@None__1-c4l 3 жыл бұрын
Ok not trying to act “too cool” today Literally ear to ear smile that you even read my comment 😊 Wifey says “hey Kelly”
@2cut32handle
@2cut32handle 3 жыл бұрын
Soooo true, I noticed that some of the people that I'm not even friends with anymore are the first ones that watch my story. Almost as if they have notifications turned on lol.
@tk567
@tk567 3 жыл бұрын
Trueee
@PortraitofAsha
@PortraitofAsha 3 жыл бұрын
Speak on it!
@MzLizJ
@MzLizJ 3 жыл бұрын
"Protect your dreams & Plans as if they were your children"- Me
@ladyserpentine9377
@ladyserpentine9377 3 жыл бұрын
Bingo!
@Anne-pj7vl
@Anne-pj7vl 3 жыл бұрын
😂❤️
@kamed.
@kamed. 3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful illustration!
@Lupita94294
@Lupita94294 3 жыл бұрын
Very wise
@Lov3lychriz
@Lov3lychriz 2 жыл бұрын
Taking that with me. Thank you!
@EastSide-qc5oy
@EastSide-qc5oy 2 жыл бұрын
I used to work with someone who would always ask me and others on Monday what we did over the weekend. A seemingly harmless and normal Monday morning question but there was always this sense that if answered with any kind of detail you’d be mocked for it. It was her “way.” She didn’t think she was doing anything mean-spirited it was just her annoying and immature way of relating to people. When I started withholding details and would leave it at “not much, kinda quiet” it would get turned around into “Ha! You never left your apartment, right?” As if an occasional weekend hibernating and relaxing in your NYC apartment was the worse thing ever. You would think that when we grow up and leave high school and college and become adults in the real world we’d leave a lot of the childish adolescent ways of relating to other people behind but some people make them a way of life. Makes me want to avoid people a lot of the time.
@Boineelomove
@Boineelomove 3 жыл бұрын
My whole view for this year “live a quiet life and do not over exaggerate your place in peoples lives”
@IshaSharma11
@IshaSharma11 3 жыл бұрын
True ✔
@Scarlet-Enchantress
@Scarlet-Enchantress 3 жыл бұрын
YES
@tpmash
@tpmash 3 жыл бұрын
I did over exaggerate my place in peoples lives for a while😌🤨, NOT HEALTHY AT ALL!
@Boineelomove
@Boineelomove 3 жыл бұрын
@@tpmash glad you are DONE unhealthy 🤗
@briblack2307
@briblack2307 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly why I don’t share anything about my son - rarely even his name, not his birthday, no photos of him anywhere online. It’s especially important not to exploit our children’s identities online when they’re too young to decide for themselves.
@hiimniasha
@hiimniasha 3 жыл бұрын
I agree 💯
@PortraitofAsha
@PortraitofAsha 3 жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@rens0n
@rens0n 3 жыл бұрын
True
@lohaye3260
@lohaye3260 3 жыл бұрын
I wish parents were more careful about what they share in regard of their children, you are doing a good job on this, no one outside family needs to know about your child privacy.
@dierdrecole8027
@dierdrecole8027 3 жыл бұрын
Right! Whatever happened to god old fashioned photo albums???
@missyvelasco2959
@missyvelasco2959 3 жыл бұрын
"Do not tell anyone what you're doing unless it's done. outside energy can throw off goals."
@TheNarrator-Richie
@TheNarrator-Richie Жыл бұрын
My goals tend to suffer without outside energy, outside energy tends to help me with my goals, everyone is different.
@stephaniegh8884
@stephaniegh8884 11 ай бұрын
"Nothing bad comes from not telling people your business." I really like how you said that because from now on 2024 I will not tell anyone my business.
@MichelleSudarsono
@MichelleSudarsono 3 жыл бұрын
My friend and her husband (childless) shared their dream child name along with its meaning and reason of choice to their family and the husband's own mother, "stole" it and used that name for her daughter's second child (ie, her second grand-daughter). Words can't explain how hurt and betrayed they are. So, yes. Keep your dreams private. Sometimes, even from your own family.
@ekaputriseptiyani220
@ekaputriseptiyani220 3 жыл бұрын
wow, i don't think of that situation until now. thankyou for sharing, Michelle.
@JudgeJulieLit
@JudgeJulieLit 3 жыл бұрын
If your friend does in future have a daughter, she should name her her "dream child" name anyway. Let the grandmother and aunt deal with their own pilferage of it.
@favour3319
@favour3319 3 жыл бұрын
Happened to me. My friend and I talked about names we'd give to our future children. So happened her mother had a surprise pregnancy. She gave that name to her youngest sister.
@am32074
@am32074 3 жыл бұрын
imagine realizing one day that your name is stolen from your cousin like that's sad
@potterylady44
@potterylady44 3 жыл бұрын
Wow 😒ugh...a mess!
@TrinaFit
@TrinaFit 3 жыл бұрын
Some people like to throw stuff back in your face to after you open up to them about something
@PriestessStellanie
@PriestessStellanie 3 жыл бұрын
That’s true it’s best to keep your personal business to yourself.
@BriW444
@BriW444 3 жыл бұрын
That part.
@priscillabatroni1061
@priscillabatroni1061 3 жыл бұрын
Facts
@KellyStamps
@KellyStamps 3 жыл бұрын
YUP happened to me
@LGnLA
@LGnLA 3 жыл бұрын
💯💯💯💯💯
@Unkuuu
@Unkuuu 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly people who tell relative strangers about things that are intimate to them seem emotionally out of control to me. And it makes me reluctant to open up to them for fear of who/what they’ll tell other people about me.
@iamtomeka7971
@iamtomeka7971 3 жыл бұрын
I think some ppl tell strangers their business for the simple fact that they don’t know them so what does their opinion matter. Ya know? Sometimes strangers are the only ppl you can vent too. Especially if you’re venting about loved ones. But to each their own ❤️
@GLAMAFROMNYC
@GLAMAFROMNYC 3 жыл бұрын
@Unku that’s the wisest thing I have ever heard, they are indeed emotionally out of control
@dumfriesspearhead7398
@dumfriesspearhead7398 3 жыл бұрын
@@iamtomeka7971 Not only do they not know them, they won't have to face them again.
@Unkuuu
@Unkuuu 3 жыл бұрын
@@iamtomeka7971 I hear you but this is why I said “relative strangers”. Pouring your heart out to a receptive stranger on a train who you’ll never see again is different from inundating work acquaintances and Facebook “friends” with the gory details of ones personal life on a semi-regular basis. I have been the receptive stranger to quite a few people but I don’t want to be told deeply personal information about people I don’t really personally know. Or worse, people I have yet to meet but may in the future. It makes the potential friendship or relationship extremely lopsided because I know more about them than they know about me.
@AndrejT-f6g
@AndrejT-f6g Жыл бұрын
It makes sense to tell your goals and ambitions the least amount of people - unless they are same-minded as you. While I agree that it can look like someone needs validation from the others, sometimes it's good to have reality-check with people who are heading same direction as you are. I learned that if I hear viewpoint of someone I look up to, or someone who has my trust, it can add to my perspective, and re-think something
@tigerlillysbookcorner4492
@tigerlillysbookcorner4492 3 жыл бұрын
Can we normalise not using the internet as a diary. Everyone needs to attend stampede university
@gringa23
@gringa23 3 жыл бұрын
And when you do, you wonder why the replies would be negative and rude because you put your TMI all over the internet. Then, the whole day you will be all in your feelings because of those replies. 😤 Please if you have an issue if I was you, I rather talk about it to someone you can trust in person who is mature enough to help you and to give you some helpful advice. It is better to do so rather than bringing it all to the table for the whole world to see. 😌 My old friend used to do this told me what she wrote on Facebook a few years ago. Not a very good idea.
@aminajayy
@aminajayy 3 жыл бұрын
Yes. You can keep it to yourself, but it’s not necessary to share and show publicly. Now everything unfortunately is public: pregnancy announcements, proposals, break ups, grief, vacation trips, etc.
@pumpyourselfup7683
@pumpyourselfup7683 Жыл бұрын
I don't like the idea of someone finding my diary then reading it. I'm the type to cut off people if I notice them taking advantage and hopefully will get back to being less talkative on social media.
@kayleighrasmussen6187
@kayleighrasmussen6187 3 жыл бұрын
Nothing worse than thinking back on the times you overshared. extra cringe
@RubiscoTalks
@RubiscoTalks 3 жыл бұрын
True that.
@DASHBARKS
@DASHBARKS 3 жыл бұрын
AGREED 🤦🏾‍♀️
@Miz_amie
@Miz_amie 3 жыл бұрын
Ughhhh 😭😭😭
@marissamacon2936
@marissamacon2936 3 жыл бұрын
Omg yes 🤢
@astridvig729
@astridvig729 3 жыл бұрын
Yep. That's why I decided to take a little rest for social media the last year, for a month. I highly recommend it.
@taeburkhead9652
@taeburkhead9652 3 жыл бұрын
It's very hard to not share personal information when you're always alone.
@Sunnyd222
@Sunnyd222 3 жыл бұрын
Ageeed!
@deltaradiance9034
@deltaradiance9034 3 жыл бұрын
It's easy if you are Alone with Social Media. But if alone reading or take yourself out is different.
@taeburkhead9652
@taeburkhead9652 3 жыл бұрын
@@deltaradiance9034, Yeah. It's not hard at all when you're in public. I don't like attention, and I know people will throw so many jokes.
@autumnmoore1492
@autumnmoore1492 3 жыл бұрын
You must do better.
@intreoo
@intreoo Жыл бұрын
This video is so relevant in today's society. Every time I post something to social media, it feels like my existence is being tied to how much attention it gets. Even beyond that, it feels like I need validation for any accomplishment I make to be happy rather than just being happy with it on my own. What I really need is to let go of social media, and to a greater extent, desires regarding attention and just truly be myself, but it's hard. Especially in an era where literally everything is online.
@opheliad7452
@opheliad7452 3 жыл бұрын
I use to tell everyone my business til people start judging me and throwing shit back at me. So now I learn to keep my mouth shut. When I feel like talking I just go and get me a journal and write on it and it been helping me.
@highvaluelife4971
@highvaluelife4971 3 жыл бұрын
Period!
@potterylady44
@potterylady44 3 жыл бұрын
Journal😀😀😀😀. I used to do this but stopped!
@galaxylucia1898
@galaxylucia1898 3 жыл бұрын
YES! Journaling can be very therapeutic. I've been doing it since I was about 9-10 yrs old, but it's been a source of comfort especially in the last couple of decades. Glad it's working for you!!
@DaughterOfHelios
@DaughterOfHelios 3 жыл бұрын
I used to till a certain someone read it without my permission violating my privacy and just stomping on my trust.
@mars9399
@mars9399 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah most people don't care, and when you experience an issue their automatic response is, "you're jealous??" They're just there to make fun of you and make you make fun of yourself. Most people don't care about your problems.
@MJandPACthebestever
@MJandPACthebestever 3 жыл бұрын
As an introvert you learn this really quickly in life; meaningless to share things all the time. *WIL IT CHANGE ANYTHING??* NOPE they just talk about it and most likely wil use it against you at some point.
@gaara33373
@gaara33373 3 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY!
@missfefeloves
@missfefeloves 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@G0dismabestfren
@G0dismabestfren 3 жыл бұрын
Learned this the hard way. They definitely use it against you. Some people really are not your friends
@kortney3767
@kortney3767 3 жыл бұрын
i miss being an introverted person. I was always the quiet, speak when spoken to, don’t say too much, type of person. But society forced me to unlearn all of that to be more digestible to others and i resent myself for letting that get to me
@nauxsi
@nauxsi 3 жыл бұрын
@@kortney3767 You're like a toyota prius, hybrid. :)
@avec_ashley
@avec_ashley 3 жыл бұрын
Privacy is essential! Especially in the era of social media
@zen_mindset1
@zen_mindset1 2 жыл бұрын
Yes
@stroudkelly6868
@stroudkelly6868 2 жыл бұрын
"A private life is a peaceful life." Next time some nosey body asks me a question I am going to use your quote 😁
@AmandaFitPanda
@AmandaFitPanda 3 жыл бұрын
My husband told me today his friend came over and said “no offense but you paying X amount of money for this house is ridiculous “ So I asked him how did he know how much we paid?? Clearly my husband told him...there’s so many things I could say regarding the friends current home value or his investments or whatever, but all I could say to my husband was next time keep YOUR mouth shut! Smh...
@KellyStamps
@KellyStamps 3 жыл бұрын
FINE EXAMPLE of why I keep things to myself now. I cannot stand that!
@gringa23
@gringa23 3 жыл бұрын
Keep it in Las Vegas because it’s your business ONLY!!
@samahj8567
@samahj8567 3 жыл бұрын
I think when people are in relationships they don’t feel like they shouldn’t speak to their friends.
@LewisBrain
@LewisBrain 3 жыл бұрын
@@samahj8567 somethings you do with others should not be shared with others. Amanda may have a fantastic sex life with him. But she does not go telling her friends all the details of what she or her husband likes, As this is personal and only husband and wife should know these things.
@jerrilynpapilon9611
@jerrilynpapilon9611 3 жыл бұрын
He sounds like my husband I tell him keep our business our business
@sambarrassed
@sambarrassed 3 жыл бұрын
My mindset is people don’t know what I’m doing until I’m doing it. Ex: People didn’t know I moved states until I was there, traveling until I’m there/back, a new car (no one knows my car unless they’ve seen it) and JOB changes/promotions! Or any other goals I’m working toward. It’s a flex within yourself lol (ofc CLOSE friends know tho)
@sophiayuna
@sophiayuna 3 жыл бұрын
YESSS well said
@iamnatpetite
@iamnatpetite 3 жыл бұрын
Yess so me.
@JulianSteve
@JulianSteve 3 жыл бұрын
I agree with this style of moving in silents until you have the evidence of your successes💯
@denisegorham303
@denisegorham303 3 жыл бұрын
Yessss!! Truths!
@sambarrassed
@sambarrassed 3 жыл бұрын
@@JulianSteve Yess moving in silence!! I couldn’t remember the phrase
@BlancheTecson
@BlancheTecson 3 жыл бұрын
ya honestly the more vocal I became about stuff I always woke up the next morning like ".. did i rlly have to say that tho?". The cringe just aint worth it
@lololol1917
@lololol1917 3 жыл бұрын
Gurl same. Especially when you post a private-ish insta story and wake up thinking: should I even had shared that?
@celestialbunny
@celestialbunny 3 жыл бұрын
i'm literally going through the same thing, or i did a few days ago. but it wasn't that i felt cringey about it, i felt extremely uncomfortable with it.
@TRafael82
@TRafael82 Жыл бұрын
You give people power over you by sharing all your stuff.
@jeninokay
@jeninokay 3 жыл бұрын
“nothing bad comes from not telling people your business” PREACH KELLY
@danceonyourtoes
@danceonyourtoes 3 жыл бұрын
unless you have a narcissistic friend who will manipulate you into feeling bad for not telling them everything so they can use that information for manipulation...
@boopboop9356
@boopboop9356 3 жыл бұрын
@@danceonyourtoes just don’t be friends with them
@JordannGeorge
@JordannGeorge 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, don’t associate with narcissists. Unless you want no peace.
@RuesDay
@RuesDay 3 жыл бұрын
Some people just don't want you to be more succesful or happier than them. Don't share your ideas, dreams or thoughts until it happens. This is the only way of not ruining.
@misguidedpearls7456
@misguidedpearls7456 3 жыл бұрын
Facts
@shaniceb.5129
@shaniceb.5129 3 жыл бұрын
“Tell your plans when it’s done” I agree 100%.
@specialk8927
@specialk8927 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly because they won't have time to pray against it
@kumarpriyanshujha
@kumarpriyanshujha 11 ай бұрын
Still they can do damage in future, better don't tell them at all.
@fennwenn3317
@fennwenn3317 2 жыл бұрын
"Keep your mouth shut if you want to get your dreams done with no judgement." The approach I'm taking to my creative stuff when people with no interest beyond "oooh are you gonna be successful at that? do I know a successful person? or is it going nowhere?" start nosing in on it.
@rouge4855
@rouge4855 3 жыл бұрын
I remember one time all of my coworkers were talking about all their sexual experiences and they noticed I was not chiming in so they began to pry. When I told them I’d prefer not to discuss my “experiences” they seemed offended as if they were entitled to that information. They then inferred I "must be a virgin" and that i "shouldn’t be embarrassed." I’m not uncomfortable with the topic of sex I’d just rather not put personal information out for a room full of paid acquaintances to have an opinion on. I don’t even like to reveal what I ate for lunch when my coworkers ask. Sometimes I’ll just respond with “I just ate some cup noodles” even though I really ate some leftover pizza or something. idk why. Any question just feels intrusive. Lol 🤐😄
@ushagadgil1963
@ushagadgil1963 3 жыл бұрын
Then what should they talk with you? 😅
@mmc1086
@mmc1086 3 жыл бұрын
Fkin right. Don’t trust those hos.
@ladyb3796
@ladyb3796 3 жыл бұрын
They just wanna see if they feel better than you. Especially with lunch. If you eat a salad they’ll secretly dislike you because they don’t have the same discipline.
@Tiff-vi9kx
@Tiff-vi9kx 3 жыл бұрын
“Paid acquaintances” is the BEST definition of those relationships. 🤣🤣
@TST3650
@TST3650 3 жыл бұрын
U should’ve cussed them out
@pikalee3492
@pikalee3492 3 жыл бұрын
As an introvert who is very private I appreciate this. People don't realize that it only takes a little info to find so much data on you. It's really scary just how little info can reveal so much. 👀
@courtney9546
@courtney9546 3 жыл бұрын
As someone who came of age alongside social media's inception, I find the current state of the internet truly bizarre too. Growing up, the message was "hide your identity online at all costs!" And now it's "Verify who you are with real name, photo, and residence so we know you're real!" It did a complete 180. And not really to the safety benefit of anybody aside from like... couchsurfing and airbnb situations.
@BriW444
@BriW444 3 жыл бұрын
Yea it’s true I’m learning how to set healthy boundaries by not telling my business
@Ohh4udumn
@Ohh4udumn 3 жыл бұрын
@@courtney9546 I remember people always enforced being careful about what you put online because of future employers. It seems like that isn't really a concern anymore either.
@shahaelsheavenlycuisine777
@shahaelsheavenlycuisine777 3 жыл бұрын
I can't agree more on this!
@citrinestone6884
@citrinestone6884 3 жыл бұрын
Moving in silence is the key to success. People DONT need to know everything about YOUR business. I swear you’ll notice the difference once you stop doing it 💯
@holysavvy2679
@holysavvy2679 3 жыл бұрын
Facts!!☺️
@designerfitnesswithrachel3922
@designerfitnesswithrachel3922 3 жыл бұрын
Great advice Kelly. Thank you!
@PinoyAznLee
@PinoyAznLee 2 жыл бұрын
I remember sharing all the quarrels I had at home to many of my close friends not realizing (too late) that they could not relate. Now in my late 20s, I've learned to share highlights and never something personal unless the conversation steered towards a vulnerable topic (e.g., death, insecurities, self-harm).
@lovearttherapyalways
@lovearttherapyalways 3 жыл бұрын
There are really sick people out there who want to know everyone's buisiness so yep.. silence is golden... especially around narcissists.
@valerietheawkwardartist
@valerietheawkwardartist 3 жыл бұрын
Especially with narcissists.
@ebonyharris11
@ebonyharris11 3 жыл бұрын
Yep! And no matter what you share with a narcissist, they’ll always find a way to “one-up” you and make it about themselves. It’s so frustrating and discouraging.
@toughsoftieyogi
@toughsoftieyogi 3 жыл бұрын
I did something yesterday and didn't tell my mother about it. She only found out from our neighbor after I successfully finished it. Then she said, "Huh! That was just a one-time thing. You just got lucky. But there's no way you can do that successfully again." Wow. I'm sure glad I kept my mouth shut. Otherwise I would have skipped the entire thing and felt discouraged the whole time.
@rachelarmel7547
@rachelarmel7547 3 жыл бұрын
So sad that your mother can't be happy for you. Mine was the same. Some mother's are jealous of their own daughters. You're wise to keep things to yourself. Who needs that kind of negative energy?
@AABB-ez3ny
@AABB-ez3ny 3 жыл бұрын
Mine was jealous of me when I got into college. She said the job doesn't pay well and all that crap.
@Infintekweyol
@Infintekweyol 3 жыл бұрын
@@rachelarmel7547 you just described my mother and grandmothers rship to a T!
@David-xb5vb
@David-xb5vb 3 жыл бұрын
Never tell your problems to anyone, 80% don’t care and 20% are glad you have them
@sabahshaikh4482
@sabahshaikh4482 3 жыл бұрын
I would say 80%* are glad you have them.. 😪
@galaxylucia1898
@galaxylucia1898 3 жыл бұрын
Great Les Brown quote!!
@maddie8415
@maddie8415 Жыл бұрын
I know I'm late to this party but I just wanted to say how much I love to see someone put this out there. Oversharing has become the norm to a point where we do need to be intentional about protecting our energy and be selective about when we do choose to share. And something we all need to face is that there are people out there who just don't want good things for us...whether those people even realize it or not. Sharing on social media will almost guarantee that one of these people hears your business. A little mystery will not only protect you, but make you a bit more interesting too.
@imshariblades
@imshariblades 3 жыл бұрын
I agree wholeheartedly, I told too many “friends” and family i wanted to start a channel and was told I was too old-22?? Too outspoken or too whatever to be taken seriously. This cost me 2 years of my life and being completely unmotivated to try. Keep your dreams private! People will be ready to critique but never constructively.
@huntergood1208
@huntergood1208 3 жыл бұрын
Too old? You had some haters in your life. Side note- you’re gorgeous!
@sandieheron8819
@sandieheron8819 3 жыл бұрын
And now look at you! Going to subscribe to you.
@TheNinjapancake14
@TheNinjapancake14 3 жыл бұрын
Jefferson starfish has a channel at the age of 107, you can too
@dreamchaser5758
@dreamchaser5758 3 жыл бұрын
I watch one channel where the person said she hadn't shared with her co-workers she has a channel. Everybody don't need to know everything
@somethingbettercoming
@somethingbettercoming 3 жыл бұрын
O no Shari that is unfortunate that you let those negative voices got to you. God's time is the right time and you are going to be successful.
@JanekateFitness
@JanekateFitness 3 жыл бұрын
She’s literally talking to me! Just love how intelligent she is💗 ✨
@mirrorgalaxy6273
@mirrorgalaxy6273 3 жыл бұрын
i’m a fan of your videos btw
@JanekateFitness
@JanekateFitness 3 жыл бұрын
@@mirrorgalaxy6273 thank you love✨🤩🤸🏾‍♀️
@janetsdrawstation
@janetsdrawstation 3 жыл бұрын
Kelly: Hi Janet Me: Hi-
@knowlesdesigns5741
@knowlesdesigns5741 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah i am learning this too late also. This is why i am no longer in school
@AmandySue
@AmandySue 3 жыл бұрын
I had an ex friend ask me how my weekend was. After I shared, I asked her in return. She responded with "don't worry about it". Taking privacy to another level LOL.
@Scarlet-Enchantress
@Scarlet-Enchantress 3 жыл бұрын
People want to know what you’re up to but they don’t want to share what they’re up to. Bullshit
@figueroaaabon
@figueroaaabon Жыл бұрын
I've overshared for most of my life. I grew up in a toxic household and I desperately needed to be heard. I didn't realize until recently that there are certain things about my life that aren't of anyone's concern but me, and telling them to people that didn't need to know them has put me in such a vulnerable situation so many times.
@joannaguillermo219
@joannaguillermo219 3 жыл бұрын
the 3 things to ask yourself before speaking: 1. did it enrich their day? 2. did it add joy to their life? 3. did they actually care? also operate on a Need to Know Basis!
@Mithreniel
@Mithreniel 3 жыл бұрын
I like this approach. It shows empathy to the one you're speaking with.
@galaxylucia1898
@galaxylucia1898 3 жыл бұрын
Thanks! This is something I can use moving forward. Hope you're having a great day!
@kitbina1925
@kitbina1925 3 жыл бұрын
So many people are more jealous of others.. potential success.. so yes it is most definitely alright to keep some things private.. Which is sad because it can be nice to share joy with others 😕😔. But it's ok 😃
@tanukiZoot
@tanukiZoot 3 жыл бұрын
Tense issues
@kyana566
@kyana566 3 жыл бұрын
I recently spoke to my therapist about this and he basically said everything you did. People will try and get into your business, it's okay to set boundaries with those people. This isn't rudeness, it's having respect for yourself.
@ttstith
@ttstith 3 жыл бұрын
“Don’t set yourself up to get your feelings hurt.”
@deemah3602
@deemah3602 3 жыл бұрын
that's a vulnerability issue not an oversharing one. by thinking this way you only isolate yourself
@camadams9149
@camadams9149 2 жыл бұрын
Wise advise. Personally: 1) all my social media is locked down. If you can see stuff, it's because I accepted your friend request. 2) I don't share actionable information. I don't tag people in my photos, I post things AFTER they are complete, and I hide my friends list when possible 3) I use separate usernames & a private social media email address/google phone number to create the accounts. You won't find my accounts if you get my number/email or are friends with me on another platform (my name is not cam hahaha) 4) All public profile pics are group photos or you can't see my face
@StarRoseAngelic
@StarRoseAngelic 3 жыл бұрын
I had a supervisor who would guilt me into oversharing so he could go and gossip to his boss (who really liked me and was impressed with my work). He made me feel like being quiet and introverted meant I wasn't being a "team player" and would expect me to answer really invasive questions. Looking back he was just a manipulative, insecure, weirdo. He probably felt intimidated by me and wanted to lowkey ruin my image. Beware of people like that.
@ED-ie3et
@ED-ie3et 3 жыл бұрын
Yeah similar situation and now since God is good she went somewhere else I have no idea where this supervisor is but I don't care anymore. People like that are so evil. I pray that you continue to be protected and that your career flourishes.
@StarRoseAngelic
@StarRoseAngelic 3 жыл бұрын
@@ED-ie3et Thank you
@stellatheestar
@stellatheestar 3 жыл бұрын
literally people can crush your dreams so easily without even knowing, keeping things to yourself is a blessing sometimes
@PortraitofAsha
@PortraitofAsha 3 жыл бұрын
True
@vyshnavigudivadaofficial
@vyshnavigudivadaofficial Жыл бұрын
"nothing bad comes from not telling people your business"
@RaheemD
@RaheemD 3 жыл бұрын
Speak on it! I keep my goals to myself as much as I can because it really bugs me when people feel the need to palm their insecurities onto my life because they were too scared to achieve their own.
@rossiethomas
@rossiethomas 3 жыл бұрын
This ☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️☝️ is the comment if it isn’t their insecurity it’s them wishing bad, cursing, jinxing your plans
@lennnpg
@lennnpg 3 жыл бұрын
Damn. Facts
@shawnwithachance123
@shawnwithachance123 3 жыл бұрын
Wow this is so important!
@iluvmjjandfam96
@iluvmjjandfam96 3 жыл бұрын
Now THIS is the truth!
@shadowsmith1386
@shadowsmith1386 3 жыл бұрын
@💕 Love&War facts
@rcjacksonbrighton
@rcjacksonbrighton 3 жыл бұрын
Unless you have inCREDIBLY self secure and stable friends, they WILL get jealous of you whether they show it or not. This subtle energy can influence you whether your REALISE it or not. Keep your life to yourself and let the results speak for themselves. You can still be a kind warm and caring person, but there is never any need to over share. Often people feel influenced by others over sharing and feel they should too, but as someone else pointed out in the comments, this is often due to lack of awareness as to how it affects them, or, for validation. Most people run on a loop of insecurity. People who have found wisdom within themselves don’t try to change/effect or prove anything to others. This has been my direct experience at least. Thanks for the awesome video as always Xxx Oh and plus.... it’s stress free. Your life will feel STRESS free once you start simply keeping things to yourself. (In a healthy way) haha x.
@rosauragomezf
@rosauragomezf 3 жыл бұрын
@mickeyrosa7226
@mickeyrosa7226 3 жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@gledell85
@gledell85 3 жыл бұрын
I never knew for the longest time that oversharing was lack of boundaries. No wonder I felt weird after dishing out so much about my life to so called friends. Turns out they were using info to look down upon, talk smack about, and or discourage ideas.
@JoyceyQueen
@JoyceyQueen 2 ай бұрын
“dont set yourself up to get your feelings hurt” soo true
Stop oversharing and embarrassing yourself
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