Stop letting people trigger you | How to DETACH and STAY UNBOTHERED when people mistreat you

[@charlottemorabito]

Thank you all sooooo much for being here! What topic would you want to see next!?

[@pllow2980]

I love the last bit!!!! I would love to hear a video about going into detail of letting go of people and things

[@koopi8777]

do you have any licenses or degrees in psychology or anything? no hate just its v gentle putting stuff like this out that attracts very fragile or mentally ill ppl with the like therapuetic clinical words as wellll such as triggering and ruminating

[@ravaiiiii]

Nice video! I'd love to hear more about the law of detachment to be honest

[@p3achdoll]

Your videos have been really helpful. Thank u. Would it be possible to make a video about jealousy / envy about people who are more likable or people who have u wish u have in u - like timelines and goals

[@charlottemorabito]

I do not and I put disclaimers in every description. I aim to be responsible and measured and I think my blurbs introducing myself in each video that essentially say “I’m on my journey. Come along with me” make it clear I’m a layman just discussing what works for me.

[@Nikki-sf6bs]

My therapist told me no one thinks about me more than I do. That clicked in my mind and I started just letting it all go. Loved this video!

[@charlottemorabito]

Love that!

[@michelle-gb9el]

Wow thank you for commenting this. You’ve unlocked something for me

[@thaconqueror777]

222 likes and you’re right!

[@Noname-z2y]

Sometimes they do, if they think someone is on the wrong way, addicted to something, and try to help but they ignore or are incapable of understanding.

[@LorisBenedict]

Unless they're gaslighting you EVERYDAY!!

[@Bobbyfawn]

For people who experience extreme emotional dysregulation- you’re not broken for not being able to logic your feelings away

[@JessAnonymous]

❤❤❤

[@Stephanie.101]

Thank you ❤

[@cammy1349]

Yeah…I clicked on this video but I have a feeling it’s not going to work for my RSD.

[@destinysade4230]

really needed to hear this

[@Shiiiveeers]

this is totally true, but also sometime in the longterm future it is completely possible that you see improvement, everyone's emotional regulation is different but there is hope to become less overwhelmed by your emotions by taking little steps

[@tutu3909]

It’s the presence of that person sometimes triggering.

[@denisebriese6414]

Absolutely 👍 having that issue at work

[@MaleOrderBride]

You are being very juvenile if the presence of someone else bothers you. You need to grow up and act civil

[@exferior]

@@MaleOrderBridespeaking on someone else’s experience like you know what’s going on is funny ASF

[@joannpeura3429]

That's a good sign to analyze why they are triggering. Only after few years of therapy I started noticing that bully‐type persons, who are eager to share their judgement on others triggered me this way. I started realizing that if they want to use me as bucket to dump all their friends secrects and be gleeful on their distresses means that propably they are not trustworthy and are doing the same about you! It was just my intuition warning, but based on lifelong patterns of having to be around bullies just had fucked with my head. And boy did it get better after not having to spend your energy dealing with that person anymore!

[@JessAnonymous]

​@MaleOrderBride Youve never experienced narc abuse and it shows. My body reacts before I logically can tell it not to sometimes

[@shreya7080]

This literally happened today! Told a work friend about something I am doing which will help me level up professionally and their reaction to it was, well lets just say "not encouraging" which made me a little sad but it honestly only took a second to realise that it was them who were being reactive to the situation and whatever they are saying is their opinion based on their life choices and has absolutely nothing to do with me and the choices I am making for my own life

[@mattb1568]

It’s just information about them at the end of the day, you’re right! Keep going!!!

[@AmoreMiu]

An advice I’ve gotten from my mom is to not tell people your big plans until you’ve achieved them. Not everyone around us has the best intentions. Sadly many people put on a facade.

[@blurhapsody1739]

Piece of advice love if you don’t mind. There’s no such thing as a work friend. Sure you might meet someone amazing through your job that you have a genuine connection with but that’s extremely rare. Most people you work with will be friendly in your face to keep peace while at work, but have no issue throwing you under the bus to save their own ass or they may even see you as competition. Never talk to anyone at work about your personal life,especially where career goals are concerned. If you speak about your goals and dreams and someone intentionally discourages you, that’s not your friend.

[@xlovelygi]

So true !!

[@freewithnature]

Have you leveled up yet or is it something that will take more time?! Wishing you well! 😁♥️

[@oyyiinn]

the only authority anyone ever has over us is the authority we give them.

[@no_peace]

No lol, that's not true. There's a fine line and that's not true

[@Aajtakndtv]

Preach this to poor women of Afghanistan

[@Feminspire]

That's a powerful statement. It reminds me that we often give away our power without even realizing it

[@NAjq5db]

such wise words, fr

[@chungleandthebims167]

I fully believe this comment is in relation to the context of this video only. Use your head. ​@@Aajtakndtv

[@seedsofsedition]

I’m new, the algorithm said “hon you need help, watch this” hahahahaha

[@Risgolden]

NO FR!😂

[@Yohannads]

Same!

[@nairagasparetto]

Totally!

[@PapilLaq]

Same lmfao

[@celeste3100]

Same! I'm ruminating on something I did last night towards my brother and I feel awful and dumb. Then this popped up.

[@MadAboutRAE]

I’m only 6 minutes in and I find that when I don’t tell people off like for example after receiving a nasty comment, that’s when I ruminate about it. It’s like a fire in my chest that I need to release.

[@ashsid9650]

I'm in the same boat i need to let it off my chest otherwise i would actually fall sick

[@kennedykeaton11]

@@ashsid9650I’m glad there are ppl who understand this feeling!!! It’s horrible.

[@yasminehmmm6020]

That act is taking the comment personally and feeling the need to defend yourself- character, beliefs, or identity . Essentially giving your time and energy to that person. I try to NOT sit with it, since I know that if so turned off my device and just lived my life, they’re probably doing the same. I am reopening the receiving of their opinion that is just that, words. It also is just the past robbing of the present the more focus it steals. Don’t feed the trolls. Don’t match energy. Ignore since it should be ridiculous they said whatever since they don’t know the true you, and even it’s it family or friends they shouldn’t hold weight on your peace or identity. Seek freedom and detachment, we decide and honor it for ourselves. Triggers make us reactive. Break the cycle by changing the way you react.

[@bellarena_10]

I learned many ways to deal with this feeling as someone who used to be very confrontational. First you think to yourself is it really worth my time and energy to yell at this person or say something back to this person. be realistic, and if the answer is no, then take a deep breath and realize that this person is just projecting onto you and you have nothing to do with what they think. If the answer is yes, then try to do a little trick like “what do you mean by that?” or “what” Acting clueless when someone is being rude to you can embarrass the person being rude to you (basically make them look petty and stupid). If that doesn’t work, you can make a small comment like “oh” or “ok” with a dissatisfied look on your face which can also embarrass them.

[@buttercup86900]

Thanks this will be useful! My jealous sister keeps trying to insult me ​@@bellarena_10

[@mimilovejoy3978]

"The consequence is the boundary.'' Well said.

[@ranc1977]

This works when we have silver spoon in our mouth. When we are poor - we are doomed to be slave and suffer

[@blondeegirl00]

Needed to hear this. I'm tired of crappy friends and ungrateful ppl. Sometimes i hate being an empath and wish Jesus would take me.

[@Lucy-u1d8p]

I can feel you ☺

[@melanieconklin6550]

Hang on blondeegirl ❤ you are not alone in that kind of thinking. However, you didn't come this far only to come this far. 🎉 And neither did I. We overcome our challenges 💪 😊 and journey on.

[@raquelr8775]

Bahaha girl that last part. Relatable much.

[@shirlferguson294]

Hi blondeegirl . Yes I know how it feels to have bad envious friends that don’t support you or take advantage BUT I have learned the art of give n take. I try not to overgive give myself priority. We teach others how to treat us. In the beginning you train yourself to say No I will need to think about it, before you jump in to overgive then get taken advantage of. This made my friends eventually respect me and the ones the ones that didn’t I let go. This is something I have learned as I have gotten older. Stop people pleasing and take care of yourself first. You can help others without letting people use you. 😊

[@SableDevon]

No we need you it’s a gift love stay strong learn to use your gift and take it seriously so you can avoid these type of people. There are good people out there made just for you.❤

[@MissDarlaDeville]

I take everything so personal 😢

[@MissDarlaDeville]

Even what I say and do

[@raidexe]

same

[@alaynarangel4947]

Me too

[@oshenmai611]

this should be played in schools… because I truly feel I was never taught how to properly handle conflict, behaviors, boundaries, any of these.

[@iseemtobelost8265]

If someone insults me. I don’t think it’s unhealthy to get mad. Why shouldn’t we let things bother us? It lets everyone know what our boundaries are. Rumination is another thing. I agree that we shouldn’t ruminate and letting things go is ultimately best, but I see nothing wrong with being bothered by others overstepping my boundaries.

[@leilanikieti3883]

That’s healthy to have emotions, yes. But i don’t personally want to be disregulated or think angry thoughts, so I practice this to stay calmer. Which can help in situations where I need to access calmness quickly and eventually leads to better decision making

[@iseemtobelost8265]

@@leilanikieti3883 that makes sense, as long as you can still assert yourself, there’s no problem.

[@drakehater8345]

of course it’s heathy to have emotions, we’re human! the problem doesn’t lie within the emotions, it’s how you let them affect you. i would really recommend reading the untethered soul. you have to learn to take a backseat and just observe your emotions. of course they’re going to happen, but you have to LET THEM. dont hold them in, dont let it stay with you. if you allow yourself to feel the emotions and then let them pass, thats how you truly reach “unbotheredness”

[@user-yn9mx7xu1r]

I think the point of this video wasn’t about not reacting to people who’ve hurt us. The point is that if someone’s beliefs are contrary to ours and the decisions we make for our lives, it doesn’t mean that our beliefs or decisions are flawed. In other words, we don’t need anyone’s approval to feel good about our own decisions. If my neighbour thinks that a homemaker is not a good wife, it doesn’t mean that their belief bears any truth. So I shouldn’t feel bad about being a homemaker for example.

[@kahid-s6w]

i've came to the point that im either letting it slide or i am saying i dont give a shit about u straight to their face try it it will help:)

[@heirofdisa]

If someone told me I disrespected them while I was having anxiety, I'd feel worse because my behavior is inconsistent with how I want to treat my loved ones. It's a nasty cycle but it's worth working on, friends.

[@rabidpomegranate]

i feel this so much, i struggle immensely to uphold close relationships and friendships especially with the communication aspect, and if i was told this it would make me feel so bad about myself though i don't think i would lash out, i would just internalize it like crazy. i'm also on the spectrum and have adhd, so people in my life close to me know that i don't distance because of them, i just genuinely struggle to have consistent social interactions. like you said, it's worth working on, its good to be aware

[@aliyah390]

yea like i feel like boundaries are important but if the friend had a panic attack they couldn’t really plan around that. if they had the panic attack 30 min before the dinner then there’s really no way they could’ve let u know sooner 😭

[@barrysteakfriessimp_real]

as someone who likely has social anxiety, this would hurt me too. like i'd understand why my friend would be upset if we were in this scenario as to them, they just wasted a bunch of time only for me to suddenly drop it right when they were gonna get ready to go, but to me, i've just been struck with uncontrollable sickening terror of being perceived by everyone around me. to me, that would feel like if i got hit by a car and then was told i was being disrespectful for needing to go to the hospital. it's not the same thing obviously but like... the point i'm making is that it would still feel pretty bad from my perspective as a mentally ill person. there are many ways to help it (like planning the event several days in advance, doing daily check-ins before the event, planning alternatives like other locations or accommodations that can be made, having private events rather than being in public etc.) and it's very important to communicate, but also, unfortunately, nothing's going to stop a sudden and usually unpredictable panic attack from happening. (i even feel like the "it's not my fault" response shown as an example of a bad way to handle this situation is understandable to a certain extent. like it isn't someone's fault if they got hit with anxiety at an inconvenient time, it can and does happen without the person being able to predict it.)

[@amandarecoveryjones8216]

dont listen to this advice

[@amandarecoveryjones8216]

@@aliyah390 as a friend, I would have met them exactly where they were at. I believe this KZbin means so well, I can see that she's smart and logical but she has a long way to go. People who love you, will not make your health an issue. you deserve support too.

[@imagranny]

From a young age, my mother taught me this. Many times I would come to her to complain about people who bothered me and while she would listen to me, in the end, she would say “Don’t pay attention to them. Just focus on your own stuff and what you have going on.” Mental health is also developing that “thicker skin” and emotional intelligence to let small things go. It’s not always easy but it really does help protect my peace. I appreciate the concrete steps you mentioned and breaking down the process - we all need the reminder.

[@francesschaefer]

Yes, this was an excellent summary and I have had a long path to learn these skills or relearn them after having a broken family (of origin) with much stress and turmoil.

[@aisnow5788]

Stupid people trigger me. You give them literal evidence to your point, and they laugh at you and dismiss it. Or, you answer "i don't know, i have to research that and get more knowledge" they become rude and passive aggressive. I just keep to myself now.

[@tiasara5967]

ExACTly.

[@LovetheSource]

People that react like that are engulfed by their ego and unwillingness to see things from other perspectives. A massive percentage of the population are controlled by their ego self, which will always protect itself at all costs. They're not necessarily stupid, just socially conditioned, polarized and insecure, too afraid to challenge their ingrained ideologies.

[@aisnow5788]

@@LovetheSource You're right. I was frustrated when using such an unflattering word.

[@aisnow5788]

@LovetheSource I have my own viewpoints and opinions and hold strongly to them. However, I know to listen and consider other thoughts. Even if at my core I believe I am right, I know I could be wrong or, at the very least, need another layer of understanding. It gets tiring hearing people out but not given the same respect in return.

[@LovetheSource]

@aisnow5788 That's OK! There are many more distasteful words to use when frustrated 😂 These situations become less frustrating when one can empathize with the potential reasons why people behave in these negative, stubborn, and hurtful ways. It almost always has to do with them and their lives, their traumas and pain. I think its human nature to want others to think like themselves, and to retaliate when others don't think like them. To cut other egos down as a means to rise above and preserve, isually by attacking "intelligence" or "lack of education". It takes love, understanding, and patience to walk the middle path and to get back on it when we inevitably stray. We are only human, and we are all flawed 😊 Hope all of this did not come off as too preachy, I'm just an average person with much to learn! Peace be with you!!

[@newleesonlife]

Watching this because my social media presence is growing. Also I work in retail and the customers are a trip!

[@charlottemorabito]

Congrats on your socials! May I recommend my video about being misunderstood? A lot of that insight comes from years on the internet haha

[@jasminesingh1863]

I once had a guy try to insult me by saying , "Do you disappoint all the men in your life like this?" Lol, it made me laugh so hard he wasn't a fan of my reaction. He really thought he did something😂 retail is a trip!

[@Luzbiancaj]

I needed this. I started a new job, and there have been a handful of rude ppl to me. Now, every time I see those ppl, I try to avoid them. But I'm pretty sure they don't care nor remember they were rude to the new girl (me). So I'm faced with the descision of letting it go, feel my feelings and then remembering their rudeness is thier problem not mine or be annoyed and holding onto it, potentially ruining my experience at this new place. Those people are legitimately strangers, why do I even gaf? I don't it just triggers my ppl pleasing tendencies. Because why don't these ppl like me, I want everyone to like me, but that's not logical. Sometimes conflict happens, people dislike you for no reason and you don't have to make it your (my) mission to change thier mind.

[@alexiaalexx111]

You have no idea how much I needed this! I am currently in the hospital for a stomach complication that was caused by stress. I have a difficult relationship with my father and everything that he says in a moment of heat, I take that to heart. Now that it manifested into my physical health I really need to work on myself more and learn how to detach. This video was really helpful, made me rethink how I've responded in the past and convinced me to try another approach. Thank you!

[@avasette]

This girl knows her DBT 😭🙏🏼

[@charlottemorabito]

🤣🤣🤣 I’m gonna tell my therapist about this comment. Sandra’s gonna love it

[@mariaelenabartesaghi6322]

@@charlottemorabito :)

[@sweetandsavage369]

Literally what I was thinking lmao

[@smolson8471]

What's dbt mean??

[@CinnaWhy]

@@smolson8471Dialectical Behavior Therapy. It works

[@haitiqueen0119]

It's taken me many many years and healing to get to the point I'm unbothered after surviving a narcissistic relationship. It's a liberating feeling in the long run.

[@MunaSheriff-r7j]

But the fact that you even got there is hope for people like me to keep going, knowing that there is light at the end of the tunnel. I’m happy for your happiness. 🥺❤️

[@sapodilla25]

Getting bad feedback from work affects me not just emotionally but personally too. Most of the time in my life it's been a boss or supervisor who has ruined my self confidence. I never take my friends' inconsistencies seriously. We're all human. I hate people in authority who think its okay to disrespect and disregard me.

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

I agree

[@payallg]

Couldn't agree more! Been through a hard time for months cause of this, and i had to quit in the end. It was my first job. First is suppose to be always special, heard of it. In my case it's definitely not. Just a bad experience. Ruined my self confidence and i don't trust myself anymore. It's hard to. Scared of what lies ahead, what life has to offer.

[@madihaleigh]

I’m having a huge issue with this at work, people who have slight authority think it’s okay to disrespect and insult me and I’ve kinda reached my breaking point with it. I find myself ruminating about the disrespect and it’s hindering my performance at work as well. I’m trying to keep my emotions in check but it’s definitely hard.

[@MorganLeeModelxo]

I loved this video but as the friend with ptsd, panic attacks, and social anxiety, it has made me flaky. I will get completely ready to see the friend and then my symptoms come on suddenly. Anxiety isn’t something you can plan for 😢

[@Ilovegenshin77]

You could try then to find an alternative such as let them come to your house or perhaps try to calm your symptoms with breathing excerises,meditation or even try to talk to your friend about it, if you don't do it often it's alright, but If you do it could make your friends feel disrespected just try your best to find a solution for it you got this!

[@mml9018]

I have same issue with volunteering at my local community shelter. I'll set days to go. I can make it some of the time.

[@peasofmind9110]

Me too ❤ yeah it was a bit sad to hear for me too, don’t worry though, this is just an example, and we know what it’s like on the other side. I tried to console myself by knowing that I do tell peeps that I would need to meet them somewhere quiet- it took a while to explain & get them to understand but true friends will make allowances for you if they care ❤ If they won’t understand- screw them eh! 😉🤣❤ sending you a hug my fellow anx girl! Love 💕

[@magical571]

i would say listen to yourself, your feelings and signals, maybe it's true that it comes out of nowhere, but as someone who experiences a lot of anxiety and trauma too, sometimes the signals of how much you'll be able to deal with or how little will be required to shut you off are there, and we don't always pay mind to them since our lives go on. Be honest to yourself. if you feel insecure about going out, let them know there's a chance this may happen, and have a plan B. Some people won't understand you and still just resort to being offended: that's on them. but if you communicate, some people will be open to accomodate for your needs.

[@Sjade-n9s]

Asked my ex manager for a reference after literally carrying their company for a year before I resigned ...to get no reply - needed this 🙏🏻TY

[@bellegraves]

Recently someone tried to bully me. I'm 40 by the way lol. Yeah, exactly. I'm the quiet computer nerd IT support girl. They literally bought something on Amazon they thought would be embarassing and had it shipped to my work mailbox. WILD. At first I was like wow... really? I haven't had a single confrontation. I keep to myself. I don't gossip. I barely even socialize. Who the hell did I piss off? But then I decided it was funny because good god how bored must you be? I genuinely don't have time to even think something like that up, let alone execute it. I don't even have time to consider the people around me in that context. I'm a fulltime student on top of being a full time worker and outside of that, I have hobbies. I enjoy being me VERY MUCH. Being a nerd is my favorite thing about me! It means I'm smart, capable, and determined. I don't know who they thought they were bringing down but it wasn't me :) 10 years ago that scenario might have caused me to quit my job. It took a lot of practice to become unaffected, but damn does it feel good once you get there. 🌟

[@saery4523]

Great job! This is exactly what she means when she says it’s about the person not you. This shows how immature that person is, they are not worth the time.

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

I love that you are an IT Nerd!❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉

[@exceptionallyriso]

if I may ask what'd they actually buy to "embarass" you? I'm curious

[@andrewerickson2922]

I agree with the main thrust of this; like it is a respectful and powerful place to be, where you know your own worth to the point that mean people cannot bother you. Like the meme: "In my lane, hydrated, moisturized, unbothered" But also, alone. I think the part that often gets dismissed with this, is that friends are supposed to gas us up. We should feel validated when we are complimented, and we shouldn't feel weak or ashamed when we are hurt by their mean spirited comments. No man is an island.

[@hopegerber4790]

Agree, this was the only part of the topic I didn’t agree with. I’m very feeling person, maybe HSP level, and I need to feel my emotions. I can’t just turn them off and not be hurt by others even for a moment. But maybe this is also a sign of my continuing development

[@CeliaTyree]

HSP is absolutely boggus

[@no_peace]

People aren't supposed to be mean. We get victim blamed for having feelings. There's less criticism for actually being terrible

[@magical571]

i agree with this. i believe it's a two way street. We shouldn't take everything personally or latch on and never letting go of a comment for example. but unless we are aiming to be like a living statue, how others treat us will affect us and that is ok, they also have a responsibility on how to treat others (as do we). I can detach like this. but from experience, it also means engaging in a less genuine or open way. sometimes, if it's something you can't choose or avoid like a workplace, it's the healthiest way. but for more personal relations, no, i don't think it's healthy to be an unbothered island. it is indeed very lonely. I believe the advice on this video for the most part applies well enough for interactions with random people, acquaintances, co workers, etc., but i wouldn't take it word for word on how to approach a best friend, a loved one, etc. It's also advice that is heavily biased towards an un-emotional worldview. wereas i value and appreciate the whole range of human emotions. wether it's me or a close one that is angry for example, i want to understand and ampathize, i don't look to place the burden solely on them to be "unbothered" by something i did for example. But also, by the way the creator described this scenario with a friend, it really doesn't sound like it's aiming towards close relationships either, so i guess it serves it's purpose in that way. i just would keep it as good advice for more distant interctions, because of course if every person on the street can get to you, you are gonna be miserable, but for closer interactions i don't believe it's good advice. it borders on victim blaming honestly.

[@HolisticDramaFree]

The main thrust of this? 💀

[@megan7292]

I have autism and adhd, and I experienced complex trauma in high school that led to me developing severe anxiety, depression, dependent personality disorder, and a rare dissociative disorder that doesn’t have any treatments. I’m now 20 and can’t leave the house alone and am so sensitive that even the thought of a stressful situation will send me into a panic attack. I’ve been in therapy for over 8 years now, medicated on and off over that time, and been in a hospitalization program, and nothing has resonated with me as much as this video. I’ve been consistently let down by mental health professionals and started feeling hopeless. I started this video figuring it would be just another person saying “you’re just a speck in a huge world your problems aren’t a big deal just detach” but you genuinely gave such good advice. I love your use of the texting example, it really helped me understand how to put these tips into use. I subscribed halfway through and I’m so excited to see what other content you have on your channel. Truly, thank you!

[@pixie_kitty_]

Identical situation as you, it's damn tough.

[@whatsupchannel3047]

I am remaining still and quiet when I sense conflict of any kind now, whereas before my stomach would start churning and feel under attack . This is because I have been abused badly in the past , people pleasing mattered more to me than me . Thank you

[@LorisBenedict]

Exactly. My emotions are just as valid as anyone else's. Just because I don't express myself or process emotions the way they do doesn't mean my feelings don't matter.

[@ominouscloud999]

I needed this so bad today, you have no clue. Went home early crying after hours of letting someone constantly trigger and control me. Talked with my bf and he said the same thing you said, this is just a confirmation of my new life choices

[@vivi-ws9yl]

Think of these situations as life trying to challenge you. Whatever they say only holds as much weight as you decide to give it. If you don't react, than it didn't change anything about this world and it's just words that came out of somebody's mouth that became air. Or allow it to have a meaning and use it to grow as a person and not give them the reaction they want. Whatever works best for you

[@AG-hx6qn]

Ok, but a lot of the times actual triggers are not something you are 'letting happen,' as it's a trigger and not completly in your control. I know we can do things to help us through, but O.o I'm confused.

[@missperfectluxury7630]

Girl find better friends idk why people have the need to entertain rude people

[@lisaschmidt8466]

Charlotte, I can’t thank you enough for this video. I was in a funk over a flaky friend for 3 days. I was able to shift out of it immediately after watching this. It’s empowering.

[@charlottemorabito]

Wonderful! Tysm for sharing ♥️ I’m glad it helped!

[@tokidefresa3113]

LET THEM. that has helped me a lot, and aso a phrase from Katt Williams. He said: "These people are not powerful. Satan can´t create anything that includes blessings for his people. Like, you know what is the number one rule of someone who sold their soul to Hollywood? Pretend and act like that never happened. I´m not gonna let you tell me what im gonna be, specially if what you're saying is wrong. I can´t condone wrong. Sorry God don't make mistakes. You don´t get two times to fuck me over"

[@willow3410]

Thank you for popping up in my feed! I have a co worker on my team who’s been lashing out in the office. Recently I set a boundary with him and he responded with “if you want to work in the world of business, you’re going to have to get used to being spoken to in this way. I can be aggressive if I want.” That definitely got under my skin, and I’ve been ruminating. However this is a great reminder to remember it’s not my problem, it’s his. HR is all over him. My job is to stay professional and firm on my boundaries, and let the company address his behaviour. This video was a wake up call to not let him or anyone be a drain on my time or energy. Thank you Charlotte ♥️

[@lmao_sunny]

i have cut people offf for cancelling on me multiple times 😅 thank you for showing me i’m not the the only one who gets this way. and showing me how to navigate these situations/ feelings

[@charlottemorabito]

Canceling while I’m on the train was honestly one of my biggest peeves. I had to work thru it for my sanity 🥴 and many friends became text only friends

[@ValStarling]

I’ve been ignoring my difficult feelings for so long, that it feels like a never ending weight in my body. That’s exactly the level of attention my inner child needs, thank you for explaining so well ❤

[@Blindfold-Me]

I’ve been having panic attacks dealing with an overbearing boss. This video was a must watch, thank you!

[@jordansheets2071]

Thank you for this… I found you at just the right time. I want to be unbothered & stop the ruminating reactivity

[@Idksedona]

i needed this thank you!! im struggling in my relationship with a narcissistic sister in law 🥴 it’s difficult to navigate this relationship because i’d rather never speak to her again, but that’s just not realistic when she’s apart of my family and comes around every so often… like im getting better with removing my energy from my experiences with her but i still get triggered and it’s so frustrating!!

[@coolchameleon21]

that’s how i feel about most of my family, i’d rather never speak to them but it’s not realistic

[@Hamsterdance1995]

I’d love a video on dealing with the feelings of being misunderstood or people assuming negative things about you that aren’t true. For example I have a hard time letting go of people’s perceptions of me even when those people aren’t important to me. Such as friends I have fallen out of touch with who I have heard through the grape vine they consider me a bitch or whatever. I know that realistically that’s not true but I have a hard time because I want to know why they think that about me. I know what most people think of me isn’t important but I can’t seem to stop myself from feeling negatively about it.

[@charlottemorabito]

Oooh that’s a really great suggestion! Thank you!

[@Zin.Monoko]

I struggle with this as well.

[@delicatedream]

plsplsplspls YES im struggling with this the most rn

[@Sitababyy]

I used to care so much about people’s perception of me. I’d over explain myself or try to prove myself until I tried something new. I started proving people right by finding the real selfish and evil bitch in me and sprinkling it only on the people that give me those titles. It’s liberating to tap into all sides of yourself. Once you understand yourself better you’ll stop caring about being misunderstood by useless people.

[@HunterSeth]

I can relate

[@serendiggiity6506]

The law of detachment section actually makes so much sense given my recent failed attempt at getting a guy to commit

[@bananaredpanda]

I needed to hear this, thank you so much. My partner broke up with me recently and I’m realizing how much I let my fulfillment depend on her presence, and how much I dwelled on her and why she would break up with me. Much love ❤️✌️

[@madisonivory9486]

just found your page and confused why you don’t have more subscribers.. your content is amazing!

[@EssieBonney-t7k]

You spoke to me on a spiritual level with this. I feel like my vibes are always good or at least I’m always trying to vibrate at a high frequency, so when someone throws that off, it REALLY bothers my soul lol. Gonna try this!

[@gwen3822]

No words can describe how much i needed this right now

[@elliotconaway7685]

Thankyou for posting this it has helped me realize that the things that I've done in the past are not okay

[@crystalwater505]

I'm 39 and had a friend (36) of over 22 years text me saying he was on Steam. I told him I was busy and I'd probably be on tomorrow and he cut ties. I told him whatever he was going through I'm willing to listen. I'm not going to escalate things or even get mad, I realize he's the one going through something and even people at his job told him he had an attitude and he excuses it by saying "can you blame me for having one"? Yeah. Thanks for this video. When it comes from a long time friend it stings, but random people I don't even really know that make "insults" I just laugh and dismiss them easily at this point in my life. Thanks for this.

[@Soaring_Seajay]

I don’t know why this popped up in my algorithm but I’m glad it did. Thank you for reminding me about shaking and breathwork. Subscribed ❤

[@strawberry_milk2003-ud4zk]

Timing is crazyyy I was just ranting to people about what happened at work today.

[@miwilapapita]

I've trying to set my life for me, not for people. I take things SOOOO seriously that now I've seeing that is hurting my feelings and my days. This video was the slap on the face that I need it. Thank you so so much❤

[@szniok]

As someone with anxiety, I was with you until you said that part about giving you a heads up earlier. This is just not how anxiety works, I dont have it scheduled in my calendar to let others know ahead of time. And if I was in that state of feeling stressed, pacing back and forth and biting my nails, and a friend tried what you suggested, setting a boundary and pointing it out to me in that vulnerable state, I would feel disrespected. I would feel that the hard action of opening up and being vulnerable is being stomped on.

[@charlottemorabito]

You would feel disrespected if your friend clearly and empathetically communicating to you how they are being impacted? You want the space and safety to express yourself but your friend doesn’t get the same courtesy?

[@szniok]

@@charlottemorabito its not the action itself but the timing. I think it is important to set the boundary, but doing so immediately when your friend is on the verge of a panic attack is not the move. I was on both ends of this situation and it just made the anxious person spiral. If you care about someone, you give them space and support first. You cant have a calm, logical conversation about doing better and being more empathetic when someone is not in a rational state of mind.

[@charlottemorabito]

That’s good to know ♥️

[@jessinfinland1618]

Exactly this, anxiety and depression is another ball game

[@allishiaknotts9399]

That’s where I tapped out too. It feels like a lack of empathy to me.

[@nishatnahar431]

Sis I’m not gonna lie, you literally spoke to my soul here 😭🫶🏽

[@kelly-nt3bw]

needed this, it's hard for me being around some people who i used to be friends with but they treated me poorly, but because we attend the same courses i can't just "not be around them and avoid them". i want to maybe not like them, but also not be obsessed over them in this negative way that makes me so triggered. it's sometimes hard when my body reacts on its own with fear and anxiety, but that is also a sign for me that i still need to do some healing on this matter. wishing everyone who goes through simillar stuff the best!

[@christinme1223]

In all of my 30 years of life this is my first KZbin comment. This video is everything I needed. KZbin search - "how to not be so reactive" this video popped up and everything was explained so well. Thank you so much girl. Love your videos!

[@gamewithcoco465]

Just a different perspective on the anxiety situation, that if that was the reason, perhaps bringing it up a few hours later to not make her anxiety worse... cause if my friend told me that in that moment, I would feel even more anxious about future interactions. Also, it's not always predictable, and it's something you live with your whole life, so going out is normal, but sometimes, things don't go the way we want, and its really distressing and can come on very quickly. Also I've found anxiety isn't a I'm struggling in a specific period of time its just something we live with that can fluctuate day to day.

[@asma-tq6qb]

yeah i found her example abit off she doesn't know whats its like to have an anxiety disorder

[@dingdongurwrong7720]

Yeah her example really made me feel weird. I would fucking terrible if a “friend” responded with me cancelling because of anxiety to be like “ok well you need to let me know when you have anxiety ahead of time because now I’ve wasted my time and you’re being disrespectful” like that’s not how anxiety works sis we can’t exactly predict it

[@barrysteakfriessimp_real]

agreed. like pre-planning and communication is absolutely important obviously, i'm not negating that, but just from the perspective of an anxious person, you really can't predict or foresee a panic attack or a hit of anxiety no matter how much you plan for it. it just happens, and it can be completely random at times. i wouldn't blame the friend with anxiety if i were the one planning in this situation (even if it would be frustrating in the moment), and i can see myself in the anxious friend's shoes because i understand what SAD (social anxiety disorder) is like to have. i very likely have it. it's terrifying to physically feel everyone's eyes on you and judging you. i know i'd feel pretty hurt if someone, especially a loved one like a friend, told me i was being disrespectful for something i literally cannot control, even if the situation did result in a loss of time and effort. i'd even so as far as to say the "it's not my fault i have anxiety" response is understandable to an extent cause like... it isn't. panic attacks can just happen, and while that isn't a great response to give (especially if the person receiving it may not get it), it's understandable.

[@mana2ae]

Exactly this. In the case of an event of a friend with anxiety cancelling last minute, I do think that there needs to be a conversation about boundaries and possible solutions, but I actually think it's more harmful to set it in that moment. Like, "Hey, I understand, it sucks that you're having anxiety / Thanks for telling me / Would something else work better? / Let's talk later when you're feeling better," and then set boundaries and talk about solutions when you do talk later and actually confirm they are ok. Being cancelled on last minute still sucks and is disrespectful, but I also think ignoring the fact a friend is having bad anxiety or a panic attack is also disrespectful and unsupportive, too. If there was another medical reason someone cancelled, (nausea, etc.,) I think a lot of people would also wait until they're feeling better to discuss anything, boundaries or otherwise. I don't think there is much difference in the 'friend' who will push you back and ignore you trying to talk to them about being cancelled on last minute and just claim, "I can't help it, it's not my fault," and refuse to even acknowledge that they hurt you, and the 'friend' who in the middle of you having a panic attack, ignores how you are presently feeling and tells you how much your current physical, mental and emotional pain, (caused by a medical condition,) is currently inconveniencing them and how they expect you to fix things so that they feel better in that exact moment.

[@Ilovegenshin77]

But you can't use that as an exuse to your friends and family each time, if it keeps happening often you should try finding solutions like just as she said, they could come over to your house or maybe some breathing excerises and meditations, if your diagnosed professionally and have a therapist you can ask them for solutions too, your friends or family can feel disrespected or let down, they love your company and would love to be able to see you often without of course any distress, this is my ipinion

[@Zaima_xbtsxanime]

Yt is literally stalking me- the fact that I this is reccomended to me NOW

[@mwwkwnwkm]

i really love that you dont cover your grey hairs. theyre so pretty. i cant wait until i get them. i love it

[@charlottemorabito]

Thank you! I think of it as having built in tinsel haha Buddy the Elf would love it

[@JustwaitNwatch-w]

It doesn't look bad either it matches your clothes😁​@@charlottemorabito

[@SnapszDuhh]

As someone with Borderline Personality Disorder I wish it was this easy to stop caring about things. I try not to take things personally but it’s tough.

[@ermmmmnothanks]

Yeah idk that’s what I hate too. I wish I could do everything in this video but I just can’t. I’m on medication, therapy, DBT too. This just doesn’t work for everyone. I’m bipolar and just had to drop out bc of this. I’m one of only five women in my program and the sexism has gone too far. Like, how am I not supposed to just let that roll off my shoulders..?

[@ariverdreaming]

I’ve been challenged by so many triggering relationship situations this year, friends, lovers and family. I have had to learn the hard way to be less reactive but still second guess myself, thank you for this video!

[@eiipyhcaep]

You’re very well spoken for this space. Love the advice.

[@abstergo06]

also there is a HUGE difference between someone triggering you by treating you badly and someone triggering ou by doing something that is objectively okay but that is associated to some trauma you have or to someone you gave you trauma (i'm saying "you" in a general way, i also include myself and everyone else in that "you") and i feel like many people can't tell the difference which ends up in self-sabotaging good relationships or good situations overall and i never see anyone talking about that even though it is so important because in life we're all gonna get triggered one way or another at some point, especially if we have deep serious trauma, and even by good people who treat us right so knowing how to spot the difference is so important and even necessary i'd say to get rid of those triggers and heal these traumas overtime, detachment is good and an improtant tool as well but some take it too far in order to avoid any sort of trigger or uneasy situation which in the end make them completely numb which is even worse on the long run (been there done that) cause we have to accept that healing also requires knowing how to get through difficult and uneasy feeling cause ik it sounds extremely cheesy but a healed life isn't a perfect life that is always positive and untriggering

[@mondo_parallelo69]

Thanks! This seems very helpful and I'll start from now. Being so sensitive and taking things personally has ruined my life, i couldn't live in peace anymore. I know that trying to replace that with your tips might be hard but I'm willing to do it at all costs because is the key to improve the quality of my life, I won't feel drained by other people anymore

[@celinebook]

"Recognize the feeling and release it": this is going to be so helpful. For some reason, I didn't really know what to do with these emotions, and now, I know. Thank you!!!

[@sruD]

Hi This is a very nice work. My experience: I’m living with my aunt who is gas lighting me all the time. I became a failure in my career for the first time, being gullible to all the gas lighting she does. I hope I recover from all that I am going through right now in my life. This video made me feel better little bit today.

[@viktoriarose9055]

5:27 me watching with purple hair 🧍🏻‍♀️

[@GamingTree990]

I’ve been working on this for so long. I really hate feeling like I can’t live my life because my mind is focused on something that hurt me. As a kid, I never received any justice and as an adult that can get messy quickly as I try to make justice for myself when a) I’m not very good at it and b) sometimes I look for justice where no such thing can be found. Picking my battles has been very helpful. Sometimes I just don’t have time for bs and I choose to move on so I can be happy with the many things I have built and deal with other much bigger problems in my life. I’ve really had to decide who I’m going to let be my friend, but also watch and see if someone really does want to be my friend because it’ll be easier than hunting down that desired outcome you spoke of. This video really helped put some of my thoughts into better perspective and assured me that I’m taking the right steps. Thank you!

[@caitlinmoore8740]

I so relate to the justice thing. I think that's why I feel so strongly when I interpret a comment as a criticism (my negative filter is STRONG from childhood trauma). I feel driven to explain why it was so hurtful to me and essentially get the person to apologise and promise to not do it again. I was always told I was in the wrong no matter what as a child so I became a doormat to survive that emotional climate, but I think now my mind is determined to feel that sense of justice I was denied as a child 😅 I can't change being triggered, the CPTSD is strong, but I want to improve how I react to those triggers

[@diamondbrownbb]

As someone who has been flaky and who is trying to set better boundaries this was very helpful in a multitude of ways ❤ thank you for all the time and effort you put into these videos!

[@OpheliaGardener]

The way I have been absolutely binging all of your videos! I love your authenticity and down to earth approach to self-improvement. It truly feels like getting advice from a real friend. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and congrats on all the progress you've made with your channel! Can't wait to see you hit 100k subs and beyond! A topic idea I had (because it's what I'm currently working through) is learning to let go and allowing yourself to move forward. For me it's letting go of a past chapter of my life and old version of myself but this could also be about a person, limiting beliefs, bad habits etc. Letting go can be so tough, well wishes and strength to anyone going through the struggle ❤

[@jenniferflynn6575]

One thing that helped me when feeling angry, is to depersonalize it and see if there is an underlying need in my life that is going unmet. Then I can acknowledge my need and disconnect it from the specific person or circumstance and think about how I can change things to meet that need ❤ it really helped

[@ia62389_]

The way this video helped me more than months of therapy lmaooo ❤

[@Gothdollyqueen]

I’ve been practicing this for years now. I want to live a life so unbothered it bothers people, in which I will direct them to this video 😁 It’s hit or miss, some days are a breeze some not so much. The only person I let bother me is my ex simply because of the trauma I’m still working through. I’m such a strong believer in letting things go. It really does do wonders.

[@koreak007]

Definitely needed this today after work…. Dr told me we should’ve scheduled less patients with me being there, she said “yea we’re fu***d” before the 1st patient even showed up …. We still finished on time lol.

[@katmas9]

Kind of incredible that this video popped up on my recommended. Lately I’ve been struggling more than ever with getting along with my fiancé‘s mom. every negative comment or judgment she makes about me or my family has really been getting under my skin. This has been causing more feelings of resentment and anxiety whenever we have a family get together with her present. I had a somewhat vague idea of what I needed to do to get over these feelings, but your video just help me make a full realization. Thank you.

[@shaniadavila2575]

I have definitely felt bamboozled a time or two. A wounded ego has been the source of a lot of my tension. Thank you so much for this detailed and lovely video and I really loved each example you gave because it made so much sense to me.

[@sylviealexandris6696]

This exact thing about the friend happen to me yesterday. My friend tends to cancel with no notice. Yesterday she just didn’t respond to me. I was disappointed, I felt angry and like my time is t worth respect. She does this because she anxious. Although I totally understand it still feels bad. Now I will find a way to respectfully set a boundary. This is the hard part for me !

[@missperfectluxury7630]

Anxious to message u that she cant go lol sounds like an excuse find better friends

[@Jule1St11]

She's not anxious, she's an asshole

[@1othrocks]

@slvie hi I would try to ask your friend what does she feel anxious about when she's not in a panic stage set of mind? When you make plans is it a new place you wanna go to ? Restaurant or mall somewhere there's a lot of people and noise ? It could be soft anxiety suggest you guys can hang out to watch a movie at your place or just to go to her and watch a movie then if she cancels with no explanation I'll start setting a boundary good luck 😀

[@kaverichawhan7767]

I love this literally helped me soo much as a person who "feels too much"

[@sbg1911]

I dont ruminate so much as tell them exactly what I think. I give that shit right back and dont hold it. We will always get pissed about something. it's ok to be mad and confrontational!

[@meowiestwo]

Yes, it’s a great choice to be confrontational as long as you don’t care about maintaining a healthy relationship with that person

[@ranc1977]

@@meowiestwo ...or until you meet someone who is even more confrontational and criminally insane and then do something criminal.

[@meowiestwo]

@@ranc1977 in the context in the video the person is a friend so presumably you'd know that about them.

[@ranc1977]

@@meowiestwo Friends do not treat each other as trash. Because they are friends. Not enemies.

[@Zin.Monoko]

I agree.

[@Gglee117]

This video was really helpful, Thank you so much girl !! Lately, I've been getting upset and hung up on past and current situations WHILE telling myself I'm not upset :/ The universe really told me to accept and move on😅

[@heirofdisa]

I've been struggling professionally and this has helped yank things back into perspective. I appreciate you so much, thank you!!

[@ordinarybread]

I find asking myself "Will I care about this in five years?" helpful

[@tinybrit3225]

15:40 “if her response is to get mad at you for telling her how you feel about her behaviour, I would start distancing myself from the friendship”. I’m going through this exact thing now, I think I’m ready to let this friendship go

[@ashlaraque4135]

Absolutely let it go.

[@christine02]

agreed

[@carolinaia90]

I dont get It... In this case in particular, wouldnt It be rude to tell her that this behaviour bothers you? Like bish Im having a panick attack, I'm not doing this on purpose...

[@ashlaraque4135]

@@carolinaia90 I have panic attacks and anxiety disorder due to PTSD so no, it’s not an excuse. People aren’t required to sit through you being a crappy friend because you have mental illnesses that are stopping you from being there. People shouldn’t be expected to set themselves on fire, in this case self-respect, In order to appease someone or to be sensitive to someone with any sort of mental disorder or illness. That’s completely unfair and absolutely selfish. Having panic disorder or anxiety disorder is never a reason for people to have to sit through friendships. And I’m saying that again as somebody who has anxiety disorders and is on several medication’s, and who has also lost friends due to this. Depression, anxiety, and panic disorders normally make you a shitty friend unintentionally.

[@tinybrit3225]

@@carolinaia90 well my situation wasn’t quite the same as this particular story. I didn’t want to do something that my friend wanted to do because I was uncomfortable with it her idea (which actually turned out to be something illegal, but she thought it was legal) and I had anxiety about it. She got mad that I had anxiety and didn’t want to participate in her plans. She began yelling at me over the phone and talking down to me which increased my anxiety, I told her I needed to end the call. The following day I tried to make amends and express that her yelling and behaviour upset me, she continued to yell and completely disregarded everything I had just said about how she treated me (which is what my original comment was referring to). We’ve been friends since childhood and I know she had a crappy upbringing with very emotionally unstable parents. So I understand why she acts the way she does. However, over the years I’ve been walking on eggshells because she’s gotten so comfortable raising her tone, yelling at me. She’s also like this towards her husband and her mom. I’ve had enough and have gotten to the point where I don’t want to be around her anymore

[@panicclinic]

I've delt with consistent bs, abuse, neglect, harassment and disrespect for nearly 24 years or so of my life from the start at age 5 until I finally moved in with someone who actually cares about me. It's still so hard to let go and a lot I still need to unlearn because I've been a doormat since forever has driven me insane. I wish I had access to this advice sooner as long term isolation and PTSD has led to so much poor handling of these types of situations.

[@faevoid]

Same here, peace to you

[@spookeymo]

i love it when youtube recommends me videos appropriate to what i just talked about in therapy

[@mannyMegan]

People I live with trigger me on purpose to get my reaction. I see smirks on their faces after I’m triggered because I have a hard time hiding my emotions on my face. The world triggers me because my face gives me away. I want to hide under a blanket sometimes.

[@JessAnonymous]

You may be dealing with narcissists bc who the hell intentionally likes to trigger somebody who isn't bothering them? Some people are just so miserable and uglyn

[@amandarecoveryjones8216]

I'm so sorry. I dont blame you for wanting to hide. If you are old enough to live away from them, please do.

[@sad-gittarius2314]

Hi Charlotte, my name is Miriana and I come from Sicily. I'm practicing English and I work with customers that sometimes become really rude. I found this video on my homepage 😅 and I thought it is perfect timing. So thank you so much

[@hanlore13]

I don't suggest saying something that assumes intent on the other side. "You aren't respecting my time" would turn into "i feel that my time was disrespected".

[@homiekeen23]

Then they just answer "well then that's a you problem"

[@homiekeen23]

@@ROYALRAT123 sometimes you have to (work, school,..) , and they keep coming at you 😂

[@shibu2935]

You and the person who shared this video made my day that was getting worse with every hour. ❤

[@TreeBloom]

I am sorry but if a friend keeps cancelling, I am ending the friendship..I am not trying to hang in there and rescue them from their bad behavior..

[@jerry9679]

same here, dealing w this rn

[@aaryatodoroki]

yup, the same thing happened to me, I kept making plans to hang out with this ex friend of mine, she kept declining and cancelling at the last moment, literal bitch, felt amazing after unfollowing her!

[@LorisBenedict]

This is how to deal with damaged, miserable, narcissistic people ❤

[@amyalexandria444]

Happened last night. Triggered by love is blind UK, lol, but thank you I need this video

[@Stooftie]

As a 15-year-old girl, it's definitely hard to try to keep these things in mind. I really do thank you for making these videos and helping me, and a lot of other people trying to understand their own feelings and how to handle them. It makes me feel a lot more comfortable with myself in a time of extreme uncertainty. I also love the big sister vibe and how your using normal terms lol

[@HillbillyYEEHAA]

Stop letting? Some triggers just happen. I can't control a lot of my flashbacks. I just self isolate now.

[@shatteredscry]

I go through those too: emotional flashbacks. We sometimes interpret triggers subconsciously, so it’s near impossible to spot. Agh! Only thing that helps me is acknowledging that it’s a flashback and not a current moment, and respect it (aka not avoid it). Avoiding it causes me more anxiety, so I dwell quickly on how I’ve learned from it and how to keep myself safe from that happenstance. I’m assuming that’s why you isolated?

[@Urnotwelcomed-x8v]

Stay a victim.

[@ReflectionRF]

@comment right above me Ur not welcomed here

[@rabidpomegranate]

you're valid for feeling this way, and it's good to realize that the flashbacks are trauma and that in the process of healing, we don't initially always have control over it. this video seems to be a bit more focused on people who don't have trauma responses to work through it seems. i relate to you heavily though as i also cannot control a lot of my flashbacks :( best of luck in your healing journey

[@HillbillyYEEHAA]

@shatteredscry yes, I get tactile , auditory and emotional flashbacks. I still don't know what causes some of them. If people say certain phrases, I get angry, sad, feel worthless. Same with smells .

[@MC21114]

I NEVER search for videos like this. I have been easily irritated by people lately and can’t figure out why. This video popped up and in just want to personally thank you for creating this. Resources always appear when we need them most but they wouldn’t exist without people like you so thank you

[@ozbolder]

Congratulations on all the new subscribers. I know I subscribed recently because I found your delivery of information easy to understand and I feel a sense of connection to your personal presentation. You seem very down to earth. It feels like talking to a friend ❤

[@charlottemorabito]

awww that means so much! Sincerely, thank you ❤️ It's wonderful knowing this content is helping others

[@sitingzhao9056]

thank you for this. Randomly clicking on this video expecting to justify me choosing to completely ignore people&things that are triggering, forgetting the fact that those people are mostly likely friends and families. That to find a way to change things for the better instead of abandoning everything is viable.

[@brunoboi8667]

I'd love a video on detachment theory...sounds very intriguing and horribly relevant to my current situation(s) 😂 Wonderful video btw!

[@SherioCheers]

Detaching has made me dissociate and compartmentalize. Do I love my family anymore after this last election? I don't know honestly. They live in a completely different part of my brain now than the part that feels deep emotion.

[@OneHumanJustLikeAnother]

Miscommunication happens often. I lashed out at someone and i regret it so much. Because i understood it wrong

[@Sweet_glory]

Gurl, this video helped so much. The example you gave about the flaky friend literally happens to me. She frequently flakes out on me, giving vague reasons and most of the time not even apologizing for it. It really triggered me so much, and it still does, but the way you explained how to stay unbothered really helped a lot. The whole video is a gem. I like how you gave examples for everything you were explaining it really helps a lot to understand.

[@tulipsvlog3891]

Wow most of the advices u said is exactly what my therapist told me to do

[@Poetic.rectum]

This video seriously helped me, it came when I truly needed it. I struggle with expressing myself in professional situations. I don’t want to have my boundaries crossed but I also want to work without causing ripples and stress in a place I spend 40 hours a week. We recently had a new hotel manager come to the lodge I work at and he lives on site in our suite, he’s very unorganized, he steals housekeeping tips, and he lies/ gossips about current employees to prospective employees. I am struggling with how to handle and manage this change without being too invested. It is all I can think about and it’s consuming me

[@0l0l00l0]

People in reddit needs to hear this

[@dainasaurr]

LOL