How I stopped taking everything personally and instantly improved my life

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[@anna.lee_jy]

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[@snishan95]

In today's day and age, it is necessary to Master emotions and especially reactions; otherwise, you can get in trouble quite easily. Nice to have another fire master piece from you. Just love your videos, always fire 🔥🔥and true to heart ♥♥.

[@tinyrick6264]

Anna Have you seen the Brett Cooper vid about 4b in Korea? She included some clips from you.

[@rezayaseri2790]

WOW!! what a video. please do more

[@lloydmcneill-xm4oh]

The Fork / Rode microphone returns!

[@gregoryowain2073]

It's genius haha.

[@buzhig]

I didn't notice until I read the comment 😂😂

[@brbapappa]

Why not 🥢?

[@haruo10]

Just enjoy life without over analyzing. Keep smiling. You are beautiful

[@lz738]

This made me cry. I so needed to hear this right now. I'm older than you but I haven't mastered this wisdom yet. I'm in a happy relationship right now but I overanalyze every word he says and then let my imagination run wild catastrophizing and imagining troubles where there are none. I spend so much time in this world where I imagine bad things are going to happen and it's made me develop anxiety disorder. I should make myself watch/listen to this video every couple of weeks until it sinks in and I start to live it.

[@anna.lee_jy]

You can conquer your mind! The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts :)

[@mitzkt1679]

Thank you Anna for sharing. Recognizing that we all have our own paths in life and that those paths can be rough at times can help anyone. I have Lupus and at the age of 33 I had a stroke. I could not walk, speak or even write my own name. I went from being a teacher and mother of three one day to what felt like a helpless kitten. In that situation I could have just wallowed in self pity or get up and work on getting better. Ones outlook can make all the difference.

[@anna.lee_jy]

I'm sorry that happened...but yes focusing on the things you can control now, is the best thing for your mental health! Stay strong

[@michelleprestegard7284]

Excellent advice! You're ahead of the game. Took me 50 years to get where you are. The best revenge is living well💜

[@user-eh1cc4uh5g]

감샤합니다. 지금 저에게 꼭 필요한 메시지들이에요. 힘이납니다. 1. 내가 바꿀 수 있는 것에 집중 2. 중립적인 감정 유지 3. 카르마 4. 아모르파티 5. 성장 사고방식(증명보다는 배우기) 6. 거대한 자연에 겸손, 운동하기 7. 메멘토 모리 8. 지금 누리는 것에 감사하기 9. 자존감,자부심 버리기(렛잇고) 10. 즉시 살고, 현재에 있기 11. 소리지르기x 주장개선(논리,팩트) 12. 역경에 노출 단단해지기 13. 고통, 괴로움, 슬픔 감정에 매몰x

[@laanaa26]

I enjoyed every second of it, I will save it in my favourite so I can go back to it when I'm down. ❤

[@rachelselmenton9398]

The new hair looks fire~! This video came at the right time, thank you so much!

[@tiffanytran7844]

This helped me soooo much Anna, I was going through a slump and remembered I saved this video to watch later. Currently finished and I feel enlightened, thank you so much

[@treasurequest1620]

this was just what i need! thx for making this video. honestly, stoicism skill!!!!

[@lbg2memh5530]

Thanks for the reminder, Anna!

[@theowlhook]

I needed to hear this today, thank you Anna! I love the hair color!!!

[@lauraespi1543]

THANK YOU FOR ALL THE POSITIVE ENERGY. LOVED THIS.

[@AdrainedS]

I believe as everyone gets older with time and life events, they learn it’s more important to focus on what makes you happy and enjoy life. You can’t please everyone and that’s just life. Your content is always great! With time more people will notice and relate. I total agree with you. At the end of the day we end up in the same place. Hopefully more people will change, spread love not hate! The new hair color looks great on you! Enjoy it while it last before August! Looking forward to another great video.

[@Melissathursday]

Ahhh this is brilliant Anna!!! Well done!!! Those quotes in the end there, I mostly have them memorized and written down.

[@user-qt8oi1vj3u]

thank you, anna. really needed to hear this today.

[@BkkParichat]

TY! I needed this pep talk today! Best, most useful video I've watched this year!!**. I will watch this again and again I am sure!

[@mjjloverdg]

Thank you so much for this. I really needed to hear this today 😢😢😢😢😢

[@lsschck]

what an incredible and necessary video!!! thank you for this

[@margpcastbujo]

This video is so helpful! Thank you Anna!

[@edisonlu9070]

Thanks Anna! Really needed this reminder! ❤🧡💛

[@SimplyAnca7]

Thank you, Ana, for reminding me so many good ideas. I also love stoicism, but sometimes I need a reminder. You put everything so clearly and relatable. 💜💜💜

[@bryantowell7770]

Thanks for inspiration girl!

[@Elefanya]

As an ENTJ myself the Law of Attraction/Assumption also helped me a lot, so if something is not working out I will just tell myself that something better will be one the way. That is so calming!!

[@anna.lee_jy]

Exactly! I just say, oh that just wasn't my destiny and move on 👍

[@hannitabeautysison]

Being stoic works to a certain level! I agree and disagree! It’s also not good to be neutral, if that person hurts you, you have to confront that person and not just be like oh well moving on! But I get what you’re saying

[@anna.lee_jy]

I will only confront them if there's something to gain out of it, like if I really care about the relationship with that person. If that's not the case, I'd rather not waste my time/energy and just walk away.

[@farahdormanesh4690]

Looking great and doing great, keep up the good work ❤

[@sba5415]

Thank you Anna, you got it right!

[@wolflionman9379]

This was a very good video. Keep up the great work Anna.

[@arletr5262]

Best video so far. Loved it ❤

[@harriswangsa9440]

Anna, just so you know, even without this video or any other videos that you made for sharing about your thoughts and how you see things in life, I have learned so much from you. I have been going to the gym regularly at least 3x a week, I have been dealing with so many big problems and I overcame it, I always remember about how you always encourage us that workout is for your health and mental health, stop thinking why this happen to me, instead, trying to find the solution. Thank you for being such an inspiration & motivator. I really-really wish one day, I could meet you in Korea and tell you this in person. Keep shining, Anna, almost 300K, so proud!

[@anna.lee_jy]

Amazing!! Keep going 👍

[@slavvalb3933]

Thank you for the encouraging words , Anna !! They say ,live happens just once . Certainly, You want to get the best out of life . Everyone wants to love and be loved , have all comforts in life . It all depends on stoicism and one' s mental ser, that is either go on with life or surrender .

[@carolin3sparrow]

GORGEOUS HAAAIR❤❤

[@phyllistabula7855]

Anna you are a kind old soul and I’m here for it!

[@momo-no7bh]

Amazing video, Anna! Very inspiring, thank you :)

[@fevermagic]

Hello Anna! I watched and left a message in the other video you were referring to and I watched it with my teenager a few days ago. She did not try to watch it at 2x speed and actually laughed at many parts. Yup, it was definitely a lot more interesting and palatable to her than my constant "yapping" (her words). Thank you for this one too; I will find a good time and watch it with her too. (I practise stoicism too and have been trying, with no results, to get her to see the merits in making positive adjustments to her mindset.)

[@smkeong]

Anna new hair is nice ~! look gorgeous !

[@user-hl7zt2eb4x]

It`s so very needed to hear these days! It`s exectly what I have been looking for! Thank you for sharing and being so honest and heartfelt. Love!

[@snotrohmitabc123]

I will certainly be acting on new thinking patterns taught here to build my mental resilience. Thank you Anna!

[@susangassaway8038]

I love this ! Thank you

[@dero1558]

😢😢😢Thank you for having you ! Thank you for existing!❤

[@AriaKSongPrincess]

Sometimes you need to hear things you may have heard here or there in the moment you run into it. This was a great summary of specific, thought provoking and useful points to consider. ♥

[@thecoolintroverttv8381]

Thank you for this Anna

[@RockingMarshall]

Looking so good in your cherry red hair Anna!!! ❤❤❤ Your videos are always great. Really thankful that you share your values, experiences and advice with us. Happy to know you more too. 🙏

[@bruz754]

I am a new subscriber! Your advice helped me greatly. Thank you! You are such a beautiful person; inside and out! ❤

[@ankitagoel9998]

Thank you for uploading these kind of videos.. its really inspirational and I love to hear your advice/ experiences 🤗❤️

[@lj_hookz]

Love this video!

[@kiwiguy1975]

Great video, Anna. And you look great with red hair.

[@iusaaset5864]

Perfect timing 💖

[@minnie1185]

Spot on! I have learnt the same mind set, although still working on perfecting it. I feel people often have to have some sort of life changing experience to really reset their thinking. I know this was true for me. And I feel so much better mentally for it.

[@tinyrick6264]

Excellent video. Unusual wisdom for someone so young. Most take a lifetime

[@federica9769]

Thanks for the video Anna, it was truly helpful and insightful! I hope you will make more content like this in the future ❣

[@pdn007london2]

That’s a great video, not only can you make tea properly you are wise beyond your years.

[@user-tg9se1ws9p]

정말 생각이 깊은 사람이라는게 느껴져요.. 와닿는 영상이였습니당

[@Melod1am.]

Great Video Anna, I totally agree! Only thing I want to add is that emotions are hard to control sometimes. But for example when I feel sad, I try to do something that makes me happy/ is good for me, even though I don't feel like it. I think that helps a lot. Love your content, stay happy and healthy :)

[@ilvskzz]

thank you so much , it’s really helpful as someone who takes offense A LOT. i’ll try to be happier from now on 😊

[@ilvskzz]

the revenge part is so real. i also believe in karma and that Jesus will handle those battles for me. nothing is worse than the wrath of god ❤

[@NesteaRawks]

Love your video, thank you!!

[@TheVallex]

OOOF thank you. I really need to work on a lot of the stuff you said here. I'm bipolar, so i guess i may have an additional challenge compared to a lot of people. I do think i'm resilient, as I've gone through so much and I think that's one of my strengths. I try to stay positive, but i do have still a lot of thing to work on. I'm saving this video in my Faves, and definitely going to watch the one you did a year ago! Thanks Anna for posting :)

[@DaMeLoFeLo]

She spittin on this 1 🔥

[@Han-cj2jp]

Hi Anna, Well said. I used to get really emotional and angry when people criticize me. They seem to be targeting me and constantly picking on me. I just stay away from them. Can’t waste time on these jealous haters.

[@k.k.7493]

Thank you, this video really inspired me 🙏 I rarely leave comments, but while I'm at it: Thanks also for all the other videos that helped me in one way or another. I came to your channel for advice on Korea, but now, months after my travel, I'm still here because the videos on other topics are so interesting and well done as well :D

[@sharaineroberts8537]

Hi Anna, Thanks for this video. I couldn't have said it better. I have been living a stoic life since I was pregnant with my so. He will be 28 in September. It is a challenge some days because we'll people are people. But for the most part 97% of the time I am not bothered by what people say to me. It has made me a better listener. BTW, your summer look is gorgeous. My summer looks is curtain bangs. Lol.

[@D4RK_R0NIN]

We love you Anna.

[@TizzyB23]

This is a great video Anna! Please make more like this. We need to spread more love in this world. I always tell myself and others that we HAVE emotions but they shouldn’t have us. My problem as an INFP is overthinking. I feel like I have to overthink things to make sure I have the best possible outcome in any given situation. But in the end everything works out. Maybe that’s a control mechanism. I will definitely watch this video multiple times.

[@anna.lee_jy]

Ahhh INFPs have it so hard in life I feel like...trying to practice stoicism everyday will definitely help you! Good luck :)

[@emzone8481]

Absolutely spot on in what you said .. I too went through major growth from introvert, hard done by, poor me, screw the world, gods a fake. And now many years later a 360 turn around, following and consciously practicing being, now I'm a very very happy human being. The greatest test was always ego and to get it under control I use to visualise it as a gremlin and tell it that I didn't want it to be part of my life today and to get on my shoulder and not interrupt. I would thank it and tell it to scram. If I was aware that ego popped up again, it was back to the shoulder with you and not come unless I allow you to. For me being present and consciously aware of everything that you spoke about helped in training myself from taking back control from ego. Now when I have my unconscious human moments I have the ability to instantly within 1 minute get out of and over what we have been endowed with as 😊being humans who are finding that we are spirits having a human experience.. and howwww.. I like many of your chats being interested in how we are all so diverse.. Love it..thank you and appreciate the Love and light we all share.

[@helveciog]

You're a beautiful human being.

[@senzekilemngomezulu5238]

Im greatfull for this. Sending happy thoughts

[@annette_164]

Great vlog Anna😊Its wise to never contribute to your own suffering and to safeguard your own peace.

[@michellesantos6706]

This video was not somewhat helpful, it was HUGELY helpful. I do tend toward feeling negative & worrying about what others think of me, but recently I have focused less on that & more on my happiness. This video will help me bridge the gaps in my view on the world. I love the last part about not yelling & improving my argument. You're so right!!!! I'm going to work on that going forward! I love you Anna! Thank you!!!

[@kw9592]

Great video

[@user-cc6tz9zp7u]

지금 제 상황에 너무나 필요한 말들이였어요 덕분에 기분좋게 하루 시작할 수 있을거같아요 감사합니다🩷

[@markigirl2757]

When u talked about ur mom getting cancer it made me think of an ex friend of mine who spend years of complaining and trolling online for years and I found out later she is covered in malignant cancer tumors and basically left social media out of nowhere. I haven’t heard from her since but I hope she’s okay and realized the same things ur talking about

[@CactusJack60]

Once I stopped getting too much into Reddit and tiktok politics, my happiness improved so much. I saw how much hate that one of your videos got on Tiktok how about some radical progressive movement in Korea, it appalled me that people can be so narrow-minded. I will never let people compartmentalize me and speak for my experiences based on their experiences, they literally preach progressivism in reverse.

[@mullen25]

i'm happy you're happy.

[@merinjoekaar2271]

I agree to some extent. It definitely can (and should) be controlled on how you act on certain situations. But it's also important to remember that it's completely valid to feel sadness, frustratsion etc in negative situations. We're human after all.

[@anna.lee_jy]

Feel the emotion but having control over your response, that's what makes you strong!

[@janainamayumi3355]

I try to live pragmatically, but sometimes people interpret my way of thinking as cold. I can only control what is inside me and that already gives me peace.

[@anna.lee_jy]

I get that too! But everyone is entitled to their own opinions :)

[@andrelim5371]

👏🏻👏🏼👏🏽👍🏼🌈🎂🍾♥ So happy to hear that! I like your positivity; one good word is 10x more powerful than words in anger.

[@amymeir2235]

Anna, you are an articulate and an expressive speaker. You need yo get an agent to get you into self-esteem, self-help lecture circuit. It's quite enjoyable to listen to you speak, and it helps that you are knowledgeable 👍👏

[@theofficialpeterkim]

I saw a video clip of you on Brett Cooper recently. Glad your video clip is being spread around.

[@kruemmelmonsterliebtkekse183]

I wanted to say thank you . Your videos liek this really motivate me to work on myself . You (and haha bts) made me change me ego and mindset. From hating sports to git to the gym now 4x a week, i have seen grwta results alteday . Im not there where Iwanna be yet, ut i know by keepingup my gym routine i will rwcah my goal:). Thanks for inspiring me abd pls keep uo thic content .This video is great. Please make more contents like this :) im also trying to pratice stoicism, ofc sometimes its hard, and u fails but since doing it i feel so much more inner peace :). (How did jin from bts say everything's beomes a bad thing if you think abut bad if you think positively about it it will become more positve :)) I love the fork mic btw 😂

[@user-qx4ei7os7h]

안나님은 다른 사람들로부터 칭찬 듣거나 좋은 얘기들을 들으면 어떻게 반응하고 받아들이시는지 궁금해요! 어느 책에서 외부로부터의 비판이나 비난과 마찬가지로 외부의 칭찬에도 크게 흔들리지 말라고 하더라고요(본인으로부터의 인정과 칭찬이 더 중요하다는 의미로). 근데 저는 다른 사람들의 부정적인 의견을 들으면 신경쓰지 않으려고 노력하는데 칭찬을 들으면 기분이 좋고 인정받은 느낌이라 계속 곱씹고 생각하게 되더라고요. 그래서 안나님은 칭찬을 들으면 부정적인 코멘트와 마찬가지로 좋은 얘기들을 들어도 짧게 생각하고 넘기시는 편인지 영상을 보니 갑자기 궁금해져서 댓글 남겨요. 그리고 올려주신 영상들 잘 보고있어요🥰 특히나 안나님의 생각과 경험 그리고 삶의 태도들이 담긴 영상을 보면 거기에 대해 한번 더 생각해보게 되고 긍정적인 영향을 많이 받게 되는 것 같아요. 영상 넘어로도 안나님의 굳건함과 단단함이 느껴져서 나도 저런 건강한 사람이 되고 싶다고 더 노력하게 되는 것 같아요☺️ 앞으로도 안나님의 생각과 의견이 담긴 영상들 계속 올려주세요!

[@sweetrain000]

You are really cool!!

[@skywerk548]

Stoic Anna. :)

[@RJStheFourthAge]

I really don’t know what the rest of your content is like, but I subscribed because of this video. 90% of this video is a description of my life. And I have a channel (for 6 years now) that’s built around the 4 virtues and being heroic. However, you should know that Stoicism has rational flaws that make it ultimately untenable. Try reading Augustine of Hippo’s “De civitate dei” Book 19 section 4 (and there around). He gives a 1600 year old criticism of stoicism, and offers a better solution that is even more logical and rational (and later improved on by Thomas Aquinas (a master of logic that rivals, if not surpasses, Aristotle, the progenitor of logic) in the 1200's.) Also, I like your fork microphone.

[@stephaniex12dol47]

Thank you I’ll take notes. Also I’m an INTJ I can relate to this video in the way I think logically. Any books for recommend for growth mindset

[@Itsfaiza95]

You look beautiful Anna❤❤❤

[@BillyWhaler]

My favorite go-to phone quote: “If the problem can be fixed there is nothing to worry about. If the problem can’t be fixed there is nothing to worry about.” I keep this on repeat when I board sh*tty Boeing planes.

[@arashi7777777]

You look so beautiful!❤

[@angel_core2057]

I like what you said but if I could just add another thing which I think is important, is that yes we should move on and try to not wallow in every emotion or high experience (negative or positive) I also think it’s important to reflect and try your best to gain something even from the shitty parts of life even if it a lesson. That’s why if wallowing is done as a way of self reflection it can be a part of the growth mindset.😊

[@rossbrownemusic3315]

I didn't know Rodes made fork mics 😜good philosophies btw.

[@paulk437]

Other than things in life like school graduations, marriage, birth of your child, or the death of a family member/close friend impacting my emotions for extended periods of time there were two other experiences in life that I wasted too much emotional energy on. They were disappointment and hate. The first one was easy after I realized that human long term memory works tends to recall the good memories with positive emotion and the bad ones just as events, with little or no emotion. The 2nd, Hate (only the kind associated with a visceral reaction) was associated with interacting with other people. I had the good fortune of having two encounters with people that after my initial encounter, associated with an argument, I felt that I hated them. Sometime later during subsequent encounters I got to know the other person and their circumstance, and they got to know me I realized being hateful was ridiculous. After the same experience with the second individual, I had time to reflect and realize that it was crazy to ever feel hate toward another person. I was fortunate enough to have had these two encounters, most people will never have one.

[@sc33h3o3]

When you said neutral, it made me think of "non- attached" from Buddhism

[@anna.lee_jy]

I'm not religious but I relate the most to Buddhism I think!

[@sc33h3o3]

@@anna.lee_jy cool learning from you and always cool to learn about you, you're cool, and so talented!!! (Your Filter cover🔥

[@TrollMeister_]

Anna is in the ‘not dating but riding the CC’ stage of her life.

[@34Dollars]

Anna you are really right about stoicism, I read four books on this subject it has helped alot, I got offered a job eight years ago in Singapore, I read the works of Marcus Aurelius (Roman emperor) it really did help me so much. Is it possible to please request a video about dating a South korean girl or if South korean girls date western men or if you yourself would date a western it would be interesting to hear your genuine opinion. Thank you for this video.

[@4shakti]

Amor fati, I love that!

[@JamesDooney]

Hmmm, I was thinking again about the content of this video. There are a lot of good points here and I have been thinking about something that comes to mind from it. Is Stoicism a starting point or an end result ? If it's an end result, is it something you can prepare for ? Using sport as an example, I think it can be both. Experience can be used to build control n resilience which can then serve as a basis for how we deal with next experience. Kobe Bryant was a great example. He entered the NBA with a bang, won 3 rings, but then faced public humiliation in 2004 n NBA finals losses in 04 n 08. My Celtics Whooped his ass in 08 and you could see it grinded at him. One the loss and two against us. Having experienced victory in 00,01 n 02 he had the experience and know how of what it took to win, and was a part of Team USAs Redeem Team at the 08 Olympics. I feel he used this, particularly against us in 2010, to win his 5th ring. Stoicism can be good for understanding what went before us so we can learn from and hopefully better ourselves.

[@Megan9689]

17:51 so all those home decor items that have "LIVE LAUGH LOVE" on them were truly spittin' facts LOL

[@user-ru5sr2ox7b]

Hello, my family and I are going to visit SK for the first time in about a month and we are all Indians. I was wondering how often foreigners, coloured people especially, would be given racist remarks to or any discrimination, and the intensity of it. I'm quite aware of customs and standards in SK so honestly I'm a bit worried about might happen, like being refused a bus or "side-eyed".

[@_NOBODY_8888]

Thank you so much for making such a valuable video. Also, the new hair colour suits you wonderfully.

[@invinciblefeelings1439]

Facts 🔥🔥🔥