How I struggled with cleaning routines and created my own || A long Chit Chat ||

[@vanessaward2348]

I've struggled with this my entire life. I'm 56 years old! Like you, when I was younger, whenever I came home from school, the house was already clean...including my room. I was always told to go "outside...get out of the way!" Same in the kitchen..."get out of my way!" When I got married, my husband taught me how to cook the simplest of meals, do laundry, clean...I know what you mean about not seeing the "results" of my cleaning. It's so frustrating! My husband was laid off, so he's been helping me tremendously to "make it a habit" and not procrastinating. I'm struggling, though. Thanks for sharing! It's good to know that I'm not alone in my struggles! Watching your videos always makes me want to get up and get to work. You've helped me so much!

[@ashlinielson2578]

US Home Economics didn’t teach about how to organize, cleaning and manage a house. It was introduction to cooking & a sewing machine that’s it. Every thing I learned was from the chores I had starting at 4 years old. By the time I was 8.5 years my mom had a heat attack & I had 3 young brothers the youngest special needs. Dad worked 2 or 3 shift as a Deputy Sheriff & unreachable when at work. Mom survived but the next 9 years were touch & go. I was in charge of when mom had a heart scare in between school & my nanny company & managing 1/2+ housework. I worked so hard helping with cleaning & laundry & cooking & canning & minding children. Once I had the dinner dishes done & floors swept them I could start on my homework. This is how most of us learned house keeping is at our mothers side with grandma & aunts adding/ sharing how they do things. 💜

[@danielleb5630]

I can honestly say that this is the healthiest and happiest you have seemed since i started watching you years ago. It must feel so good. Well done Sophia!

[@mygreatchallenge]

Thank you. It s been a long but well worth journey

[@annieb0507]

The best way to keep the house clean is to delegate. No matter how young or old, everyone can be responsible for something 😂

[@jdawg414]

It’s hard when your spouse has major adhd. Takes him literally hours to do the dishes and there’s always dishes he seems to not even see. Don’t get me wrong, it’s still his task but when I actually want the entire kitchen truly cleaned I have to do it myself. 🤦‍♀️

[@MicheleL-ve6bm]

Perhaps do the pre wash work for him. Gather all the dishes up, wipe the countertops. Then it doesn’t matter if it takes him hours to do the dishes…..at least he won’t miss any. I have a sister that will take hours in a room and it’s still not clean…..all bc she’s not ever chosen to learn the pick up, dust and floors routine.

[@flipsforfun6116]

The house has never looked better. You look wonderful your family looks healthy and happy. You are reaping the rewards of your great challenge and that’s the goal. Good for you Sophia and continued success in this great thing called life ❤️

[@dianarhodes4671]

I was truly impressed by the amount of work that you were doing for so long. I could not imagine keeping up the schedule that you were working. I am so relieved that you have discovered a lifestyle that makes you happy. Great news!

[@lucyplesskaya]

30 minutes vs. 3-4 hours for the first floor cleaning is a great result of your decluttering efforts and perseverance! Congratulations! Your new routine is doing wonders 🎉🎉🎉

[@sarahsoderberg4741]

First of all, I’m noticing how calm and confident you are in talking about your routine. It helps support the fact that this is truly working! I’m looking forward to the series, and how I can implement it in my own life! Thank you! ❤

[@cgd1125]

You have honestly changed my life. I'm not being over dramatic it's the truth. I've tried different cleaning routines since watching your videos and got something from each one. The biggest thing that has helped has been your decluttering series. It helps so much to have less stuff to keep things clean. I think I've used a little of different routines to help me figure out what works for me. I work Mon..Tues..and Wed. On Thursday I clean the mudroom, dining room, kitchen and bathroom top to bottom. On Friday I do the living room, den and bedrooms. Friday is an easy day. This leaves me with the weekend to do things I want and go out and come home to a clean house. I do laundry when I get home from work and catch up on Thursday and Fridays. I use to spend all my days off doing something and never feeling like everything was really clean. My son just bought a house and my husband is planning on retiring next year. I'm sure that will result in some changes. I'll have a LOT less laundry and less around the house when my son moves so more free time. Thank you for all you do to help us. Can't wait for gardening videos. Hoping this is a much better year than last.

[@patkern185]

I think the big lesson here is each of us need to tailor our routines based on our lifestyle and responsibilities. I noticed many of the commentators here noted different methods that work for them. Experimentation and defining priorities will help create the routine that works for each of us. Thanks, Sophia, for sharing yours. I've watched your for several years and i know how you have struggled. I'm so glad you developed a routine that works for you! That has been your great challenge. XO ❤️

[@sallycroft2191]

There would be mountains of laundry. I tried every cleaning program and finally did what worked for me. Decluttering the house was biggest impact. Now I am in the process of maintaining it. Many resets during the years. Have always loved your openness and honesty that has helped me in the process.

[@patriciacerwin6266]

I love how honest and vulnerable you are, and each of us struggle trying to meet expectations that are unrealistic. I'm in my 70s and recently retired. My whole life I struggled with clutter and shuddered if someone came to visit. My bucket list includes having a clean decluttered house that would allow me to enjoy my home and not feel guilty. I am so proud of all the steps you have taken to achieve the life you want. I too found fly lady and all the other channels giving us advice. I quickly learned they are just suggestions and for some they work and for others they don't. We have to do exactly as you did, take the knowledge and create a routine that works for us. As the minimal mom channel says, how much inventory do we want to manage. Some people can handle a lot of stuff, most cannot. Eliminating what we don't want to clean or manage gives us more time to manage what we care for. So, I will continue to declutter so I don't have to manage a lot and then I can develope my own cleaning routine also. You are quite amazing with all you do and as they say, you have come a long way, baby! 15:47

[@connieverbeck1110]

Sophie, you are incredible!! Thank you for sharing!!

[@angelacimmino1102]

To listen to an hour of your testimony of how you went from point A to point B was amazing! You have inspired so many people. You have a sparkle in your eye this year that is so refreshing. I am an organized person, and I hate clutter. My life was living in a very large house, married, three active children, working full time, served on the City Council and volunteered in many organizations. My life was hectic, but I loved it. It is one thing to get organized, but the secret is to stay organized. Enjoy your channel! ❤

[@squarepenny6946]

Thanks! Very useful! I adjusted your plan to fit our house. Then realized half of my days I'm dealing with an ongoing illness, so it's either just do what I can in each area, or do it on a day when I'm well.

[@pamelakeyser5965]

You were the first youtube channel I started watching while I was in college years ago. I am proud of you. I think many women who work outside the home have to focus the majority of their energy on that. I dont have an average type of job either. The type of cleaning routines on the market just dont fit. I am even thinking about bi weekly help, so I can just maintain and still have time to live. Dont let what others say get you. Probably if they were doing those things they are calling you out on, they are not doing in their own homes. Live is funny these days. People feel entitled and lack healthy boundaries with many things these days. Cheers to you.

[@Jillyflower7]

Congratulations Sophia! It’s wonderful that you have been able to find a routine that fits you, which a lot of people never manage to do! I have really enjoyed your declutter the house video’s. And your house looks marvellous! Xx

[@loiscampbell3510]

You continually blow me away, Sophia! I truly mean that. This just might be your best (most popular) video thus far. This hour with you just flew by. Your routine makes perfect sense for people like me. I'm so happy for you. I'm already looking forward to your next couple of weeks worth of videos. I adore you and wish I could give you a big hug. You work so hard to bring us useful and pertinent content we can enjoy. The complainers just need to get a life. ttfn

[@ginatheng9506]

Thank you. You motivate me Sophia.

[@donnahayes6658]

Love your explanation of how you developed your cleaning routines. This should inspire others to feel free to adapt their own routines. Thank you for all you do💗

[@traceycallard7193]

Hi Sophia! I am so happy you feel so proud of yourself 😍. You should be … I find people who judge others do not do anything to progress in their lives. You, my lovely lady work so hard, you deserve all your successes 🇬🇧

[@Debbie.4263]

Sophia I can see how much more relaxed you feel to find routines that work for you. This works for you, and you are doing a great job. Ignore naysayers. If some people have time to sit , watch, and judge, they could find a more productive use of their time. You take on a lot and do a great job. I hope your family appreciates all you do for them.

[@southernlight6]

I enjoyed the heck out of this video. You are so hard on yourself. You are busier than 2 women wrapped in one. You have every right to be proud of yourself.

[@tonpap]

Congrats Sofia! Your cleaning routine makes sense for your own household. It's not easy to put ourselves and OUR needs first. We always seem to try to do things like the others which leads only to frustration and a sense of unworthiness. I'm so glad for you!

[@nancylanderson8012]

The people who criticize the way you do or don't do things would be critical no matter what you did or didn't do. They like to judge and criticize. I wonder how much they do or don't do. Sometimes the people with the dirtiest houses are the loudest with criticism. Don't explain to them. You'll never quiet them. They are unhappy people who like being critical. For some reason it makes them feel like authorities. Ugh. They are really annoying.

[@malcolmblazier4119]

OMG Sophia what an amazing indepth video, having watched your video for a number of years, I've seen the changes in you from 2 years ago, back then I noticed your heart wasn't in it. I dreaded the thought of you giving up U tube, BUT l would of understood if you did, the amount of work you do, is astronomical. I'm a 62 year old woman, I work full time as a picker and packer for a major postal firm, regularly handle 8kg plus parcels, Monday to Friday, my house is tiny compared to yours, and I struggle to maintain my home, like you I've followed the Fly lady routine, which didn't work for me, I've found a manageable routine that makes my life better, and as for the nasty comments from people saying you haven't done this or what about that, need to get a life and live in the real world. You do an amazing, awesome job, 👍👍👍👍👍🌼🌼🌼

[@isabellerininger6249]

It’s great you found what works for you 👍 All the other methods you’ve tried helped build a database of options in your experience file-it’s great you have pulled from it all and created what works. I love it! I think it’s key for us all-what you’re saying is an important lesson for us all to adapt things to our lifestyle.Great video! (Please keep your FlyLady videos in the channel-I love them and use them😉👍)

[@ashlinielson2578]

I love that comment “ the cleaning routine needs to follow your schedule “ 🙌 because your schedule will NEVER follow your cleaning schedule! 💜😂

[@scorpion-starseed6615]

Great video! I can’t wait for your cleaning routines coming soon. It Bothers me when people upset you and people still need to learn influencers aren’t asking for anyones advice, negative opinions, nosey questions, to be judged/criticized or inputs on how to raise her children! You may think your helping but you are not! Words hurt! Sophia is the hardest working person and so inspirational and I thank you Sophia for sharing your greatest challenges with me. For the ones who hasn’t learned if you don’t have anything nice to say then don’t say anything at all, look within..to be kind is free but gives back so much especially in todays world. Let’s lift each other up. Peace and love 🥰

[@Dolly9261]

I took Home Ec in school. We only did sewing and cooking. I still don't have a routine and I'm 61. I just do things as needed, but I'd really like to have one of sorts. People who complain should walk a mile in someone else's shoes first.

[@bethward7429]

I found your channel about six months ago. I have watched so many episodes and I just love you!!! You are an amazing woman.

[@angelabuckingham6244]

I’ve watched you a long time and find you so inspiring. I’m happy that you found a system that works for you. You keep doing what is good for you!

[@CRebecca1944]

Honestly I will give you a double thumbs up. I have truly admired you and your determination for years. 👍👍

[@safepethaven]

I am in my early seventies and grew up several places in the USA but mostly in rural Illinois; Home Ec was offered in our local h.s. but I thought it was absurd because I learned at home, from the best, my mom. I am still appalled at what is not taught at home before launching young adults out to the wotld to supposedly be able to function on their own, and likely why there are so many adults still living in their childhood homes for many reasons. I was also taught some basic maintenance and repairs as a child, from my father and mother as well even though we lived more years in small apartments until we could afford to buy a house. I have never regretted self-sufficiency since leaving home at 17, as we never had money to hire everything done by someone else.

[@rforrandom5559]

Don’t listen to those judges people. You doing great and this is very helpful to me.

[@jennyjenkins877]

I had a stay-at-home mom who did all the cooking and cleaning for our family so I didn't learn those skills, plus I lack some Executive Functioning skills. I didn't learn about EF until I was in my mid-40s and it really opened my eyes that I wasn't lazy; I just had to learn strategies to work on the areas that I struggled with, mainly Task Initiation and Time Management. I'm 48 now and recently created a whole cleaning schedule document but I'm a perfectionist with a fear of failure so I never even gave it a try. The only thing that is currently working for me is habit stacking, meaning I do a cleaning task after I do something that I already do as part of my daily routine. I get all my daily basics done that way. Here are some examples: After I wake up and use the washroom, I go back and make the bed. After eating breakfast, I catch up on the dishes. While my tea is steeping, I wipe down the counters and stovetop. When I use the washroom again, I do my bathroom chore for that weekday, taking weekends off. Apart from that, I freestyle it and just clean in tiny spurts where needed. I'm really looking forward to this series to see if it's something that could work for me!

[@juliebrooke6099]

What you’re doing now seems to be working for you. Your house is looking lovely. I do think you need to rope in Scott and the boys more though. It really shouldn’t be all down to you. For anyone out there who wants a simplified version of the Fly Lady system I recommend Diane in Denmark and also The Secret Slob who started with Diane’s videos and altered the system to suit herself. Everyone’s situation is different so you always have to adapt other people’s suggestions.

[@NormalnotNormal1234]

Sophia....you keep hitting that nail right on the head.... You are so right!! No ones life style is the same and yes everyones routine will be different. Several years ago I was into Martial Arts, Softball, Volleyball, Bowling and Golfing, so I spent a lot of time doing the things I loved as oppose to shining up my house, don't get me wrong I still cleaned my home but not to deep. Now life is a little slower for me because I am trying to make sure I can still walk when I'm older, so I don't do Martial Arts anymore although I still do some of the exercises once in awhile, I do not play softball anymore although I get tempted to play because I love it. I stopped bowling because I lost interest but still bowl for fun with family or friends. I stopped Volleyball but I am still Golfing and I enjoy it. Life is to short to spend it on worrying about cleaning the top of the door frame 🤨, it's about being happy and enjoying time with family and special friends or watching you Sophia!!! Can't wait to see the upcoming videos. Thank you for sharing all you do. Gracias...

[@chrisfarina4957]

AMEN! Your statement that the routines were not "adaptable" is so true! My life is still crazy /busy at 61 & so your story really hits home! Love how honest & transparent you are! God Bless!!!

[@Poketfullofvintage]

Amazing when we do us.. no matter what how and why… we do us we grow and move forward… I don’t need flylady, or any other cleaning program / routine or yours Sophia.. “ I see dishes, I do dishes, I see mess I clean mess… so when I just do what I need to do. I’m fine… it’s all about doing “your part” in your own life.. be it home, family , work, hobbies… just do you.. you’re your own biggest competition.. your today is better then your yesterday … great going Sophia when you do you!…you do good!… … 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@MsArtistwannabe]

Wow! Loved the performance. Also, you work fast. Looks great.

[@MsArtistwannabe]

I’m in awe of all you do and do well. Thank you for sharing so much.

[@angelar5145]

Loved the chit chat!! It's easy to see that you feel very accomplished. And that's a great feeling! Hugs! 💕

[@tomsdotter3228]

Thank you for your tips, advice and inspiration. I struggle, too!

[@virginiabartlett7749]

Sophia you are so gifted. Your bedroom proves it. Totally eye popping! Cozy, segmented into areas that makes one not want to leave. Roomy and open. You outdid yourself, or exposed your genious. Thank you for sharing. I love you.

[@ucfhillcollege8296]

Six years ago I bought a new to me house. The former one had 15 fixtures, 4 bedrooms, 3000 plus sq feet. And it was just me. 3/4 of the house I never used. New house is under 980 sq ft with two bedrooms and 1 bath. It takes me 45 minutes to clean entire bath, dust, vac, and mop… and sweep the front porch. Smaller has worked for me. I have more time for hobbies, travel, and entertaining.

[@susanniesen9721]

I wish I could downsize. I am happy for you.

[@pambrackemyer4356]

Happy for you!👏🏻👏🏻 Taking care of yourself is the first step,you are not able to care for others or things if you are not healthy and happy. All other things will follow when you are well.😘❤️

[@vickylongcrier2376]

I am totally impressed by your struggle and ability to overcome. I have been watching you since almost the beginning. I along with you tried so many routines and always felt that I was the problem. I have come to the same conclusions you have. I have since retired partly due to health reasons and all my children have moved into their own homes and can’t believe how much time I have now! Time was nearly all my issues. I find that I am still keeping the routine that fits me and designed by me. I spend my “extra time” now on things I never could do before (Quilting, reading, gardening). Life is too short to spend all my time cleaning! You look so much happier and healthier and I am on the road to achieve the same in regards to my health. Love your videos and really appreciate the time you take to do this!!!

[@judystahlman1620]

Looking forward to your new series. I love your videos ...❤❤

[@judystahlman1620]

Ps I've been watching you for years and you lookso much healthier and happier you have become more beautiful than ever.

[@nancybrower8608]

Proud of you. You seem that you are more relaxed. Keep up the good work. Can't wait to see your routine in action.❤

[@MicheleL-ve6bm]

My parents worked 2 jobs for so many years. No ONE understood their struggle but them. So Sophia, you are a miracle! I just beat you to know that. You simply are!!😊

[@larriveeify]

I am glad that you found routine.

[@michellewanner3921]

I love that blouse on you! I avoid Home Ec in high school, my college roommate taught me how to do laundry and about cleaning (what to use and what needs to be cleaned). As a kid I was responsible for dusting the house, cleaning my room and dishes.

[@cindymoore9380]

So happy you found your routine looking forward to seeing it.ive followed you for several years i struggle with maintaining also .

[@tomsdotter3228]

Sounds like a good plan! Please don't be hard on yourself. You have two jobs, a family, pets, interests..phew!

[@shelleyk2639]

Proud of you, I also struggled with flylady, etc. you have given me a lot to think about it. Looking forward to watching your cleaning routine

[@whatsmamacookin4us]

Oh Sophia I’m so proud of you as well. I can tell it’s really working out for you. And life changing for you. You have been one of my favorite KZbinr since the beginning of your channel, cleaning out your frige. ❤

[@raquelcruz3874]

I’m happy you found a routine that works for you. I still have my routine of dusting first week of the month .❤️👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@donnawiseman9311]

That’s great that you found what the system that works for you. Back when you was doing fly-lady, I joined in and I loved it! It worked for me with our 2,600 square feet of house. But then I became disabled, we sold our house and downsized to 1200 square feet to keep clean. I found that my routine didn’t work anymore. As a matter of fact, I decluttered my fly-lady journal last week. You have given me a wonderful idea that I need to come up with my own plan. Thank you so much! I have enjoyed this video and look forward to seeing your cleaning videos the next two weeks!!

[@badvegan]

When it gets bad and I clean, it's like a project rather than drudgery. Cleaning something that looks clean doesn't give that same hit as going from sloppy to tidy! I've been where you are, never learning to clean or follow routines, and I've struggled my entire life to figure out what works for me. I finally realized I needed to focus on improvement and doing the best I can, but I do have a schedule, and I use timers. It's still more satisfying to clean a big mess than maintain, so I'll always struggle with that. Nothing gets so messed up now that I can't fix it in ten or fifteen minutes, a half an hour at most, which is a great feeling too. I really enjoyed this video, Sophia. I'm looking forward to seeing your upcoming videos.

[@joanneentwistle7653]

Take heart, you have company! I didn't learn routines growing up. I came home and everything was miraculously washed and cleaned. I really needed this, because I have tried everything and still struggle at 53.

[@rachelvidal1053]

I do a modified FlyLady (FL) too. Your weekly routine is a modified WeeklyHomeBlessing, that FL does on Monday. Although your routine is more thorough. FL does floors & dusts in the high-traffic areas, while you do complete tasks. If I had a multi-story home, I would do the WHB by floor too.

[@silver_csmith]

Excited!! Looking forward to watching 👏🏻🥰 Also….you are one BUSY a lady!!! Kudos to you!! ❤️

[@kathleenhilde9657]

Makes a lot of sense to me. I think I going to sit down and come up with a plan!

[@antoinettehaskie3584]

Hi All I can say is “ You have come along way Lady” 😊 I have watched your videos for awhile now and I can see all the hard work you have put into finding what works for “you” & the family. Proud of you and the growth in your life. May you continue to walk in Peace and Joy in life’s journey. ❤😊👏🏽🙏

[@amandamarshall3676]

This routine sounds very manageable and effective. I can’t wait to see your videos!

[@pequenalulu6290]

You are so real and so inspiring. Thank you Sofia😊

[@joanstrzelec4302]

I am so glad for you that you found something that works for you. I know your struggles. The thing that concerns me is I didn’t hear any me time in your schedule. You are doing so much I am afraid of burnout and we will loose you. I wished I had half your energy. Don’t forget to put some time in your schedule for yourself. ❤️

[@raundar2886]

I loved this video so much. This is such a good way to create a personalized routine. My first task is to grasp hold of the declutter bug thats been buzzing me for awhile. Then do basic organizing that makes since. While doing that stuff I will be making notes on my schedule and lists of tasks that make sense together for starters. Then I am going to give this a try. Thanks for always sharing openly and honestly I think you inspire more people than you know.

[@MelindaLee]

Sophia, thank you for proving to myself that I'm not all that crazy or lazy! lol I tried so many cleaning systems and they really didn't take. I started with Konmari after my husband of 30+ years died. He was almost a hoarder and I had too many things to go through. It took me nearly 2 years but I did my best and then I realized I was almost a hoarder as well because I only cleaned out like 50% of the things in my house. So I had to sit down and realize that half of these things were my junk or things I didn't need. Again, this was the time I went over the many cleaning routine systems I found on YT. I tried and after a week or two, I failed. I felt like a failure but then I realized if I pulled one or two things from these systems and made them my own, then it was so much better and made the system my own. Bless you Sophia and your family.

[@bambicrosby120]

Woman, you are freaking awesome hardly anyone i know could keep; up the pace of your life. thank you for sharing.

[@judithham1815]

You know life changes all the time and so does my cleaning routine. I do what I can when I can. I don't stress myself over it. I used to be "Mrs. Clean" not so much anymore, it drove me crazy. You are a better housekeeper than I. Good for you!!

[@twylasmom]

I am totally with you on the fly lady system. I felt like I was cleaning something that no one even saw, like a door frame. But when I would look at the dirty wall that my dog likes to lay against, I felt torn about cleaning it. Because after all fly lady doesn't mention this type of cleaning! I have struggled the most since I have started working from home. I really need to just make a routine and just stick to it. When I worked outside of the home. I had one day to my housework and I just did it. It may have taken me all day, but I knew I had to do it. Now though I feel so guilty because I am home seeing all this stuff that needs done. My work is only about 4 hours a day, so I could have lots of time to do a routine, its just finding one that I WILL STICK TO is the problem.

[@bluegrassgirl2972]

I enjoy watching you just be you. When I saw you clean your kitchen, some years back, I thought, you just have too much, but hey, it is your's. Everyone has a different family, home, routine, etc so one size does not fit in cleaning, etc. My stuff would push a minimalist over the edge! When I worked 12hr shifts plus an hour each way, homeschooling etc my routine was very different. Life thankfully moves on and I am retired. Just keep showing up to whatever task.❤

[@ruthvanseeters6824]

You are amazing. Thanks for the talk on how you got to here! Have watched you for years now. The Best!

[@cynthialindsley5117]

When I first discovered social media/KZbin and saw the fly lady I thought I had found a better way to clean- my house has always been very neat and tidy but I thought - someone came up with a better method. Well it only took about 30 minutes of reading the schedule and I knew this was not for me. Like you said it has to fit our life style. My routine fit my life style. What I found interesting was the number of young women who didn't know how to clean and thank goodness they found the fly lady to give them guidance. I feel this series your doing is an excellent guide for those who struggle, your telling them " fit your life style". I was lucky my mom worked and taught me how to be a homemaker so when she got home from work it was easier on her busy week, because we had a farm and there was lots that needed to be done when my parents got home in the evening.

[@emmasflying9017]

Hi Sophia,you should be proud of yourself! I am proud of you,of the progress you made 🙂 i was watching into your eyes all the time and I could see the change,i could see all the feelings....this was a very emotional video for me,when you said you are proud of yourself i wished i could be there with you and give you a big hug,really 🥲 i think there's a lot you didn't adress but it's ok ❤ i'm doing something like yours routine but I think that we came out with it because all the others routines that didn't work so we just adjust them 🙂 i send you a big hug from Italy ❤😘😘🤗

[@brendacurtis7188]

I'm so proud of you for figuring out what works for you ❤😊

[@annieb8380]

This sounds SO efficient and logical! What a great fit for your super busy lifestyle😊

[@irenek2k20]

You make cleaning & everything you do so easy & pleasant. Thank you for sharing the behind the housework. I will try some ideas. Thanks.

[@meeraramlochan3523]

Sophia, I have a full time job and a home to maintain and I too have struggled and am still doing so. I cannot wait to see this routine. Your faithful Viewer. Take care.

[@laurelldockall2399]

I never followed a specific routine. mom and dad worked and I was expected to help. I had 3 kids 4 and under and 3:nursing jobs. I just cleaned everyday. I worked nights and cleaned when I got home every night till about 2 am. I had a partner who did not help. . I had no hobbies etc but I leaned to keep it all clean as the eldest daughter with 4 brothers. I loved things clean but hate clutter but I have clutter now as a depressed retiree however and need to declutter. It was an emotional coping mechanism after my Dad passed. I went on a shopping therapy journey. My house is clean but I have collections. It’s cluttered now. I feel like I burnt myself out whenI was younger. Wish I was more relaxed back in the day. You inspire me Sophia. ❤️

[@trixier6505]

I understand. Clutter is depressing.

[@sarahconner8287]

Happy things are going well for you 😊💜

[@antoinettemontoya2471]

You look amazing as always !!! ❤thank you for your videos ... have a great day !💐

[@mamap3948]

Thank you Sophia for sharing with us your honesty and not at all holding back. I really respect you for that. You are such an inspiration more than what you think. In reality no one can judge no one because no one is perfect. Love your ideas and your hard work. Keep up with your great channel l just love it! God bless you and your family.🥰❤️😘

[@simplyfreedom171]

I'm so happy you found what works for you! I stay at home and even I can't keep up with some of the routines out there. I do something similar, just a little more relaxed. Way to go, Sophia!

[@marieannponcher9767]

I understand Sophia my mother did everything for me when I was growing up too

[@denisecarter5117]

Are you teaching your sons because they need to know how also. I didn’t with my son and his wife didn’t appreciate it. He could do his laundry but often didn’t.

[@celiapritchard1292]

Thank you Sofia for your honesty. I have really enjoyed this video. Keep going! I've been on your youtube channel for years and you have really made great progress. You are an inspiration. jWell done and keep going.

[@juliebrooke6099]

I loved hearing about your younger days in Paris. I wonder if I ever saw you in Galleries Lafayette because I visited Paris several times around then and would usually have a browse in there.

[@moonglow7710]

You, GO, Sophia!

[@donnaw1306]

You are doing a wonderful job. I am glad you have found a routine that works for you. It is hard as a working mom, to do everything that needs done around the house on top of the shopping and running around. You barely have a moment to chill at the end of the day. Not everyone can understand that. Both of my kids are now adults, but before that I literally started doing some housework in the mornings before I dropped them at school and went to work. We had so many nights of activities that it was not feasible and then the weekends were always booked up. My goal was to at least get dishes put in the dishwasher or hand wash. Then wipe my counters down. If I had any other time, then I would try to declutter the "hotspots" or vacuum. Anything was better than nothing. It is also surprising how much you can actually do in 10-15 minutes. It made me feel good to have 1 or 2 items off of my list for the evenings. I hope you have a wonderful weekend!

[@letoiledusud6725]

I think I understand your struggle. It's quite easy to have successful and satisfying routines if your day is focused on household maintenance. But if you have a full time job you literally are short of time. When you come back home you' re knackered . .. I 'm saying this because me too I struggled coping with household chores as a working girl and a real slob. 😂😂 I was a slob who liked cleaning and upkeeping a clean home. I think I have come up with a less stressful customized system that works for me at last!😂😂

[@rutheis]

Great video Sophia! We are alot alike in our cleaning (or non cleaning lol) history. I wasn't taught to clean or cook or do household finances. I had been checking out the Flylady (again) and get so overwhelmed that I don't do more than shine my sink!🤪 I am so happy you have been able to come up with your own system that feels natural for you and works with your busy schedule. You have done such amazing decluttering, so it makes sense that all the dots are connecting for you.

[@susanw9630]

That was fascinating to listen to, you work so hard, I hope you have time in the midst of all this to spend in your "happy place" sewing and quilting.

[@barbarababak2697]

Be yourself. Stop trying to do what others do. Have your family help with tasks.

[@katharinedodson9330]

I am saying this in all love and sincerity. You are giving yourself too much work. Do you HAVE to do 3 KZbin and 2 Patreon videos every week? NO! You gave yourself that on top of working full time. Most youtibers doing what you do have quit their full time jobs to do youtube as their full time business. Im scared for you. Too much work, not enough sleep or rest. Please simplify. Sounds like you dont even have 8 hrs to sleep. You look wonderful lately though - hair, clothing, weight. You look beautiful.

[@kathyhegert4152]

Sounds like a great plan!

[@estrellapadilla9343]

Really liked your chit chat video. I totally relate to you and I definitely pull my hair out of frustration 😅. Congratulations Sophie now you have defeated the big challenge of keeping the house. ❤

[@melanies4065]

I relate so much to this! I was never taught how to clean either. As a child shoving everything under my bed was acceptable. I remember when you were using fly lady, that's when I discovered your channel, fly lady didn't work for me either. It's been a long process for me too and I can just barely keep my house maintained. The rooms that are the easiest have been partially decluttered, there is a lot more work I have to do but I am getting there! Thank you for this chat it's nice to know I'm not the only one where someone else's way/routine didn't work for them.

[@carriebelcher8644]

In the past I solved this problem by having a cleaning lady. I’m a perfectionist and could never get the house done “right”. No more! I’m trying to do it and not worry about it being perfect.