HOW INFJS CREATE THEIR ULTIMATE REBRAND - INFJ HERMIT MODE GLOW UP SERIES (PART 4)

[@Wenzes]

What goals are you setting for 2024 as an INFJ?

[@raft115]

Blast through the roof 💥💖

[@erik_1953]

Same as 2023.. NOT setting a goal.. But i do have a lot of sinking ship problems..

[@paulachenkonobert3802]

Repair, Heal, and Accept. 2023 was an amazing year where I learned much and experienced more than I thought possible, but there were a few beat downs... I still have to work on not just seeing the potential in others, but see them for who and what they actually are...

[@paulachenkonobert3802]

​@@erik_1953 Don't focus on the water coming in. Just see the one hole in front of you and plug it up. Then plug the next hole that appears in front of you.

[@muma6559]

@@paulachenkonobert3802 lol

[@marydoogan2486]

Seems like an oxymoron, but my new goal is to set fewer goals. I'm working on accepting that I can't do everything I want to do. It hurts, but I need to be more realistic.

[@tamiaj851]

This is such a valid point. Quality over quantity!

[@lanacaine3455]

I can SUPER relate !

[@thisintrovertsheart]

Yes!

[@selfmademillian4093]

Not an oxymoron at all. This actually is the answer. So many books out there stress this very thing.

[@SoulfulAutisticINFJ]

Some say we’re black sheeps, I say we’re lions.

[@ashapriyasridhar7719]

I am consciously tracking externally observable facts as a measure of my progress. This is such a revelation. I was used to simply living in my head all along.

[@kristinapugh4298]

@wenzes This series is seriously a god send. Thank you for breaking this glow up phase into practical, actionable steps that make me feel like it might be possible to start new and meet my highest self!

[@never2late921]

Thank you so much for the gym example it's so me! Now I understand myself and therefore feel more confident to move fwd! 🌱👍🏻👣 And I confirm that being able to explain a goal clearly becomes externally observable. 🎈

[@espressocoffeeshine4346]

For me as an INFJ, I can take the steps toward a goal but it's when I need another persons help, that is when I get stuck. Perhaps it's those social norms that I am aloof too, they seem to be unforgiveable sins that prevent others from wanting to play with me. It's having to make friends that I don't want, to get the help I need. Oddly, if someone helped me, a friendship may develop, and I'm fine with that, but, my order of operation is backwards from the norm! It's me intimidating those when they find out I know the essence and substance of a subject, and they don't, but I ask them about the accidents and obvious points of a subject, because that's what I am aloof too, and they do know those things, and I need help with them, but they are too intimidated to help. It is simply pre-supposed that to know the essence and substance of something, is to know the accidents and obvious points of the subject. But we are wired to bypass the accidents and obvious points. Or, asking about the obvious points is an act contrary to confidence, which causes others to withdraw, because they have been told, or hold the idea, that they need to be friends with, and play with confident people. Then, that's when I'm totally drained! I set goals, I took steps, I stepped out of my comfort zone, and all I have to show for it, is rejection trauma!

[@corporaterobotslave400]

I totally relate to this. I've been in over a dozen bands, and none of them worked out because other members were jealous and / or intimidated by my abilities. We would record an album, and then someone would pull stupid crap to sabotage the band. Somehow I kept attracting wannabes instead of serious musicians. So now I only work alone. It's harder, it takes forever, but I am in control of the direction and take it very seriously, as opposed to those losers who wanted to party like rock stars before they did the work which granted them the title of rock stars. Solo career is where it's at.

[@Scaredycat55]

Thanks for your great perspective and the opportunity that your program offers

[@asylummalinam]

You're literally saving my life! Things are going very bad from time to time, so I really need something to help me. I'm so glad that I found your videos. Thank you very much for what you're doing and please continue❤

[@raft115]

We need you to lead us into great battles 💙✨

[@lisagrimaldi5309]

It sounds so simple I know. I have many hobbies I knit I crochet I paint furniture and give it new life. I always work on my house ect. As a typical INJF I always do these things for other people. So as simple as it sounds because it has not been simple. One of my goals this year is to make this granny square long sweater jacket. I saw it like 10 years ago have seen it many times in that period. I have made 100’s of things sweaters hats gloves afghans. I’m good at it of course I take no credit for it. I always say my grandma and mom were great knitters. So I learned from the best. I have not one afghan hat sweater anything of my own that I made. This year I am making that damn sweater jacket I want for myself!!! Even if it means saying no to someone else’s request?? My husband also wants some of the furniture I paint and repurpose in our own home. But not a guarantee but I will also try to honor his request. But that sweater jacket is mine!!!

[@Luemm3l]

oh god that first minute described me to a t. like finishing school, getting a degree, I felt all people other than ME were way happier, I was like yeah, that's it, time to move on, hours, sometimes just minutes after these things. Like everyone does that, everyone celebrates it, even your own fucking birthday, everyone is going through the roof, I am just sitting here like, well, just happens to be the day I was born, what is so special about it? Or doing something that intimidates you at first, then doing it and only later realizing it wasnt as good as everyone hyped it up to be. whether that is a certain event, carousel in an amusement park, travelling, what have you.

[@RememberTrueStyle]

Thank you Wenzes!

[@Giovanni-o3h]

Good luck

[@TheBlackvelvetsea]

Hello Wenzes, your videos are usually unusual and unique, but this one hit differently with me, I have mild to sever depression (depending on circumstances) and as an INFJ person I find it extremely difficult to get up early in the morning on a certain time every day. I tried everything and nothing worked 100%. So now I do understand what should I do thanks to your video. thank you so much for the hint and help. :)

[@shyamalganguly3598]

Marry X-Mas Wenzes🎉🎉❤❤ My Goal is Home 🏠 by 2023 and twenty twenty four may be late 😂😂!

[@lindateuling7862]

I have an art project that I'd like to work on this upcoming year - and I've taken some baby steps already. But I think it's going to involve a big-time practice of SE - taking action. I haven't set a final date for it yet to be completed because I feel almost overwhelmed at all the angles I'm going to have to know. But probably the first thing to do is just to sit down with pencil and pen in hand, and in addition to producing artwork, also learn more about how to take action steps. It would be nice to be able to accomplish this by the end of 2024, but I'm not going to beat myself up if I don't make it by then. I'm going to work on sticking with it.

[@psputsimply]

I live in South Africa so due to my racial classification (white) and now my age, 57, I am preclude from any jobs I would like and that would stimulate me, fulfill my INFJ requirements. I have tried goals to doing what I love, writing, by publishing on Amazon, LinkedIn, Facebook, own websites, publishing platforms like Patreon and Substack but nothing. So, hermit, hermit and more hermit, learning a lot but to do what with? So goals don't work for me, I'm trapped in a prison cell without doors, windows, even walls from a horrendous marital rationship to an impossible financial position. Seems there are only two options for me, win the lotto and retire, just play all day or the country or world need to collapse so that my input is evaluated solely on merit and contribution, not race and age.

[@eliali6484]

I have a bad experience with such situations where my life is like a pendulum and constantly goes back and forth into two bad options. The last time I spent like this was about a year and a half and after extreme exhaustion I discovered how to get out of it. If someone feels like a hamster in a wheel and is constantly spinning but getting nowhere, the only way to get off the wheel is to step aside. Look around for something different, which may not inspire you particularly, but is a possible way out of the situation. It doesn't have to be the answer to all the questions, you need just to stop the movement to nowhere. So you can rest a little after that and look at new opportunities, and those are probably waiting for you around, but now you can't see them. Allow your world to collapse - apocalypses are very useful because they clear space for a new world. It's painful and everything inside us screams in terror, but the best thing about being an INFJ is that we're like phoenixes - the fire and destruction somehow don't really touch us, then we can get back up and move on with new feathers :) Good luck and I hope I helped!

[@johnkeller5163]

You can always leave SA; you're not a tree! I sadly know too well how badly South Africa has been with rampant corruption, lawlessness, and incompetent mismanagement of a country which has so much abundance of natural resources and human capital. Nevertheless, I am your age and can tell you that frustration without thoughtful actions lead to more misery. Work on yourself to become better and highly valued in your chosen endeavors looking on a worldwide field.

[@andreahunter7281]

I really feel your pain. I've just turned 57, I've been separated from my ex since 2015, my children & I have nothing in common & I have no family. I spent a lifetime fitting into a world that wasn't made for me & paid the price physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually. I spend my days as a hermit because according to society I'm past it & should probably just go away & die somewhere. I have things that interest me but I feel as though I no longer have any dreams to follow. I'm not really sure why I watch this channel, it's probably aimed at younger people. It just feels like my whole life has just been a series of harsh lessons. No matter how hard I've tried to raise myself up there's only so many times you can get back up when you just keep getting pushed down. I sincerely hope you can catch a break & I wish you all the best.

[@jonathanlee8709]

Thank you Wenzes. I like to give my own analysis about setting goals. It does not mean agree or object of your points. The purpose is the same of yours, to make things better for us, especially INFJs. In some way, you are right. However, it is not a complete picture. Some of the conditions, it would not be as ideal about setting goals. I view your way is the western way, so called. It means setting big goals, and people stick to the goal to achieve. Unless we can see all necessary factors and calculate, and the background is stable, the future is more clear. Otherwise it could be more difficult. It is also what I do to approach, but unfortunately, in today world, its not the same way as before 2019, I draw the line. My work is about it, and it is really difficult to make plan. I myself, use another approach, and I do view this could be consistent with what you mention here, but also more progress oriented. Something were quite, opposite. My way is from Japanese philosophical way, "Shu-Ha-Ri" and Taoism. I do set goals, but as evaluate factors, sort out, make plans, do scheduling etc. I put down. Simply put aside the goals. I relax, and focus on tasks, not to worry about success or not, but go with it. It is more mental side, as my mind is free from it, and more natural, without stress. Everyday, or maybe couple days after, i check my schedule, and see how much I have gone through, Not how many ahead. I am not sure you did watch the movie Last Samurai or not, in the movie it states that, "No mind". So you could see the opposite part is about our mind is stick into goal, specific, and "Not stick in the goal. in certain point, let things fall in its place". I wish you could view this as adding, and sort out to make a more complete picture, that I kindly wish we could make this study better, with our efforts.

[@lindagowing4933]

Thank you soul and compassion

[@ocho8172]

Excellent. Thank you, Wenzes!

[@PatrickDeVille-oy6ms]

Thanks for the encouragement!

[@super-intelligentastrology3572]

this is really good, thx

[@AnyaAnnika67]

What you've said completely encapsulates, uncannily so, the oppositional Ni of the ESFP. I'm not sure how this content constitutes going 'deep' when you're conveying sociological inferences that a large proportion of society make unfortunately. You lack motivation to take action as a divergent NiFi ESFP if you developed your convergent SeTe more which is what your implicitly stating this wouldn't be an issue..in saying that given the vast amount of content you produce you're clearly not struggling with your SeTe as the primary seat of the ego. Taking my 'cerebral' quote again from CPT; how you've used this isn't accurate plus you're a limbic being as an Fi authority type...it's about synergistic reformulation of abstract concepts not how you've interpreted it to fit your own archetypical vision. What you've said completely corresponds with Harry's definition of ESFPs in his ebook and yes it is certainly health for an ESFP in order to integrate their Ni to set a future vision for themselves. For the love of God please look at the book or CPT content. NiTi is CONCEPTUAL ABSRACT CEREBAL REFORMULATION it's not theorising about life goals in general to achieve a said goal, you're completely misconstruing NiTi...what you're actually referring to is bringing an idealised notion of yourself into concrete reality with is NiFi divergence (not to be confused with that of the INTJ convergent usage thereof). SMART goals are tangible NiTi is the complete inverse of this.